How to find a provider man?

[@cherrellefrye2002]

“You don’t have arms you don’t have legs, you are just a stump” 😂😂😂 I hollered

[@nicoleowens2318]

That part had me cracking up, I'm still laughing just reading your comment. "A stump" omg 😂

[@jasminp9707]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@vanessakilvin285]

Wow...? That's a point of view...

[@Vickiluv]

Wahaha 😂😂😂

[@melbaelba5706]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I CANNOT 😂😂😂😂😂

[@tinacherry2295]

My mother never gave me advice and she was an awful role model but she did give me this one gem ( after i was married to an idiot) She said - sit back and watch him, watch how he treats ppl, treats his friends, his mother, those close to him" And that kind of advice can be applied to any situation -romantic or work.

[@lyndseygolden7546]

Then how the hell do you get away from him

[@n0426]

A man will treat you exactly how he treats his mother sisters and aunts. Just watch !!!

[@liorasitelman1856]

My ex husband was an excellent son, friend, brother, and employer. He was an absolute downright terrible husband to me.

[@n0426]

@@liorasitelman1856 oh. So sorry to hear that! He definitely didn’t love you.

[@marquinarawlings]

My ex was a mama’s boy and loved his aunt and cousins, but he was not a good boyfriend or father to our kids. Still, it’s a good rule of thumb to see how a man treats the people around him.

[@latiam]

As a heavy-flow girlie, out here buying these expensive a** overnight disposable period underwear, I approve this message!!🤗😘

[@suselperez2409]

wtf 😆 ever heard of TMI?’

[@ThatGirlMoi]

@@suselperez2409oh please 🙄

[@latiam]

If this is a genuine response, you need more help than the internet can provide. Please move along. Thank you.

[@svirgo1224]

@@suselperez2409how tf is this TMI? this is a ladies channel, get real and grow up 🥴

[@pilarq7886]

TODAY ASAP seek Independant healthfood store that sells vitamins /supplements that CLEAN YOUR LIVER. (#2) Google name of heavy menstrual, I can't remember (3) library book HEALTHY HEALING by Linda Rector Page - turn book sideways - Look in back of book for your CONDITION, all you need to know will be there. This needs to be addressed - it leads to more future problems Go to library for Book

[@shannonbest7055]

I freaking love this guy! 😀 I really do. I am married actually, but I love listening to his voice and demeanor.. He is hilarious. 🙃 He's the girlfriend I never had! 🤗❤

[@thecurator2626]

Same here. Also married but love hearing Anwar speak and sharing with my dating age daughter.

[@BigMommaTruckn]

Right..like where has he been all my life. I’m 45 now😂, but I’m loving learning all of these lessons.

[@sp4rkle81]

@@BigMommaTrucknsame here, 43 and going on a second date tomorrow with his advice 🤞🏽

[@callmechichi1711]

Not a stump 😩😩😩🤣🤣🤣. I approve this message.

[@carinatkins6669]

As a single mother this cat comes with a kitten and allowing my man to provide was hard at first… but now I LOVE princess treatment.😊

[@vcastro7990]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@MissBrookeHelene]

I’m a whole f’n damsel in distress😆

[@vernita0216]

Same... PLEASE come and help me 😂😂😂😂!

[@eternalabundance39]

I am learning to be. Please share tips on this!

[@n0426]

@@eternalabundance39just be LAZY. ;)

[@eternalabundance39]

@@n0426 thank you I love that. Growing was called lazy like it was a bad thing 😆

[@n0426]

@@eternalabundance39 they are just jealous. 😉

[@RoseGoddessRealm]

Can you finally write a book, please? Lol You and I had a consultation about two years ago, and I respect you for not taking me on as a client because you appropriately assessed that I wasn’t ready. 😂 But no one had ever told me I was emotionally unavailable before-that was a real breakthrough and great material for shadow work. This video made me think back to that moment. I want your version of Why Men Love Bitches on steroids! With love💕

[@EpicEvolutions-q3l]

I'm going to keep coming back to this. This advice is a gem!

[@eternalabundance39]

Agree

[@kitanna33]

This is great advice and I sure have been putting this into practice for about a year. Not even dating right now but any man who offers help I'm like yes please! Haha no more refusing, I let them do their thing and graciously accept it and tell them how much I appreciate it. I also have asked for help more often from the men around me. I've learned men who are providers like to feel needed. So it tells a lot how a man responds when you ask for his help.

[@Ahsiek81]

Being a single mother and doing mostly everything myself..it's hard to get out of my masculine energy but I'm slowly working on it.

[@OO-be3jz]

This! I also want to teach my daughter but I have to learn first

[@techariahkilpatrick4486]

Same here!!! I’m just use to doing everything myself 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@OO-be3jz]

@@techariahkilpatrick4486 🫂

[@Warriorwoman9802]

Shout out to the single mothers in our masculinity 🙌🏾♥️🙏🏾! It’s a learning process and I’m learning how to release and become a stump 😂😂😂

[@jones2277]

i don't understand why anyone, least of all a single mom, turns down help from anyone. i would only turn it down if i wasn't interested

[@Roni-Ron]

I do this all the time I stop saying I got it and I say yes please thank you

[@marquinarawlings]

I need some more practice with this. I’m a single mom, and the only man I really have to deal with is my kids’ father, who did little to help me whether we were together or not. So I did everything myself. Except now, I’m embracing my feminine energy. He’s attracted to that, but I don’t want him back. He had a lot of control over me before, but I got my freedom back and set boundaries. He’s trying to do some things for me now. Sometimes I say, Thank you, and other times I say, I got it.

[@autsept7116]

Unfortunately, I was assaulted once and almost twice, letting a man help me in my twenties. I am now more aware of my intuition and in touch with my core. Still, it is not my first instinct to let a man help me. At least not the first time. Therefore, I see how he responds to the word no. Don't feel sorry or sad about me and my experience, it is more common than you think. We are not boss babes for no reason. Get therapy for your trauma. It can transform your choices and your life.

[@amanip1778]

I’m a STUMP! Yes!!!!!🙌🏾

[@n0426]

Lol. 😝

[@tinacherry2295]

"Deligating" can be seen as being a boss. A productive boss. If we just change the wording to "helping" or the ugly word a lot dont seem to like "partner". These words can take the ease/burden off our shoulders and allow us to relax. Omit the word "feminine" instead use helper/partner. You don't have to be "feminine" to have someone help you. There's too much weight and confusion on the word "feminine" Not all men will become a provider simply because he's a man or in his so called masculine- it's in his personality, how he was brought up.

[@firstnamelastname-ve9gj]

I love this! more on this please

[@amcopeland1310]

The confidence to be a stump. 😊

[@rensii-e8b]

It’s brilliant

[@theorderofthebees7308]

😂😂

[@nicoleowens2318]

😂

[@BigMommaTruckn]

🙋🏽‍♀️lol I’m so her😂

[@rickimcfarland2269]

I got me one and I am just a pretty petite stump at this point. I totally understand why it was a challenge for me to find one because I was always always always in my masculine up until now ❤

[@eternalabundance39]

@@rickimcfarland2269 what helped you get out of your masculine?

[@CrystalWilliamsoncoach]

I was a heavy flow girlie whose now in menopause SO GRATEFUL FOR MENOPAUSE!!!

[@Tomisinshalewa]

Congratulations to you then ma'am 😂🤝

[@MIP54321]

Hysterectomy here! Best thing I ever did for myself. ❤🎉

[@irismargot92]

Dying for a provider but I’m always doing everything for myself. I never rely on anyone or want to bother anyone. I’d rather take the work on myself. Lord, help me.

[@SunflowerOfTheEast]

I’ve healed a lot but watching this bought up some residual hurt from my last relationship/entire life. I don’t trust people to do things for me, to help me etc. It’s been an ongoing theme in my life.

[@FreedomUninterrupted]

I don't want to find a provider man. I want to find a man that naturally protects. It's easy to provide a "provider." There's a lot of men who are willing to provide for you, but they also plan to exploit you. I run into plenty of guys that call themselves wanting to provide for me, but it's at a cost of turning me into a wife slave. I just want to be with a guy that cares about my well being in more than just a financial way.

[@gcovington9396]

There is a line between Help and Manipulation. Too many people cross that line.

[@zenejohnson8995]

First of your skin is MARVELOUS!! And thank you fairy God brother for the advice....im a stump in my feminine energy.......❤ i dont got anything!!! Im just a stump....

[@amycurtis535]

When I ask for help, people say NO😢. What to do then?

[@kimberlyp.p]

You probably expect them to say no. I always expect help before I ask and naturally they help.

[@marizess3841]

Start asking other people, and center the ones who center you. It's not our job to make people help us, it's our job to choose the ones who helps.

[@eternalabundance39]

​@@kimberlyp.pthat's awesome I'm adopting that mentality ❤

[@tiaferguson8848]

There is a difference between asking for help and allowing people to help. Do what you can. The right person will recognize when and where you need help and will make themselves available.

[@mirabella2154]

😂

[@jbfontes1331]

You shouldn't be doing anything for anyone!!! 👑👑👑👑👑👑👑 It took me many of my 66 years to learn this! 💥💥💥💥💥

[@applecinnamon2112]

I am screaming bc you are spitting straight facts hunny 🫖 🍵😮‍💨😌😌😌😌👸🏽🥳🥳🥳

[@ml07]

So true, I’ve been doing this here and there and it’s hard but it gets the ball rolling.. best advice around.

[@pettyandfunny9474]

go to Home Depot I swear it’s like Mac for ladies if I’m lying I’m flying 😂😂😂😂😂

[@chrisharris2367]

Lowes too lol

[@ba8501]

I put the stump thing into practice yesterday. I was at a store and instead of doing the shopping myself, I ordered online and let them shop for me (at the same store) and sat and had a nice lunch instead. I never do that. It felt great. 😂😂😂

[@khartoniapratt2792]

I have good girlfriends who are married to these Men 👩🏿‍❤️‍👨🏼🇮🇱. They do not lift a finger. They are married to these for years.

[@eternalabundance39]

So awesome

[@MissBrookeHelene]

I only attract these men, it’s the keeping them… i think i wears em out Friend😔

[@careottjuice]

Have you battled your dark self yet .

[@n0426]

You aren’t responsible for keeping them lol. When you respect their freedom you are so detached of them. And they don’t feel your desperation. And they start to actually want to devote themselves freely to you. I know it’s crazy! But you can’t force anyone to do anything. You won’t like that if a guy does it either!

[@DenniesJourney]

Listen… I’m getting so good at this 😂😂😂 don’t worry, I’ll be a stump

[@dv52528]

Right timing . Thank you ❤

[@BrownSugaReal]

I don’t trust no other human being to place my well-being in their hands because of human behavior. Trust and believe you traded in one job for another-eating shit is your new occupation. Believe that😂

[@tippytoeluv]

Yesss teach me how to be a stump😩😂

[@BREASHONTELL]

I don’t got nothing I’m just a stump 😂😂😂😂

[@electriclady3691]

👏🏾💯 On point 🎯

[@jones2277]

it's always the men you're not interested in offering help, and it's rarely ever the help you actually need. even if it's the help you need, it's not done right 😐

[@foofyflutie87]

You say ask for help as if there’s someone to ask 😅 also I know this is something for me to heal from, but whenever I ask someone for something I feel like they then have power over me

[@nicoleowens2318]

That probably comes from somebody close to you (likely, your parents or other caregivers) holding things over your head, probably since you were small. Things that should automatically be given in a relationship, like attention, love, time, advice, help when you needed it, etc.. you were probably guilt-tripped or just felt guilty for needing things, and then it was probably used against you at emotionally charged times. That's the feeling I get when I read your comment. Things weren't given to you with kindness and selflessness, maybe you come from a cutthroat family, or had a cutthroat family member?

[@foofyflutie87]

@@nicoleowens2318 💯 It was my mom

[@marquinarawlings]

I used to feel the same way, but I’m healing from it. It’s so much better once those people realize that you’ve gotten stronger and they have no choice but to respect your boundaries. It takes time to heal, especially when you don’t know who to trust, but it’s worth doing the inner work.

[@lisamcg9116]

I'd never be one of those weak women! Be independent ladies!

[@KT-sv6jx]

A Relationship Is A Partnership. A Relationship Is Teamwork. One Day You Might Need Help, It Would Be Nice To Have Someone Help You, Assist You, Someone That Genuinely Cares For Your Well Being And You Also Care For Theirs. Otherwise You Will Be Old And Alone Waiting For Your PAID Caretaker To Help You

[@katherinebraxton5068]

There's nothing wrong with being a wise woman.When you're getting the man to help you,you're in Schrude Queen mode. No tea no shade. Men are natural hunters/providers. Let him be a man.

[@n0426]

@@katherinebraxton5068”queen mode” yes. Weak women aren’t even made for this.

[@n0426]

It isn’t weakness when you know your boundaries and limits and how to deal with people. Being weak is actually putting yourself in a corner scared of the world. When you can be a queen in full control of it.

[@vcastro7990]

I am a certified stump now

[@Tammy_wit_a_y]

Can you do this feminine journey if you have a heartache but you have a scar on your face?

[@Designingladies]

Yes, its hard but letting others do for you is hard. But im sick and as i watched this he asked 🤧 what did I need. Okay message received ❤

[@goddesst5405]

A stump!!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@Me-xoxoz]

Thank you ,that’s were l am as a solo mom. Because am the plan A to Z l have to provider for myself.

[@Oivia2024]

I had no idea who sang that “Monica, Monica , Monica, Oh Monica” song Mrs. Easter kept singing, but she sang it so much I had to google it. Never heard it before, but it is a bop and now I have issues with all Monica’s 😂

[@Rrrrrrrrrrrr001]

No attitude when you don't like how it gets done. I am just a friend, a female friend, not your man so if you ask me for practice accept how I handle it or don't ask me again. Just saying, as a friend letting my friend practice on me.

[@serenity-ot8jm]

When I ask for help they refuse to help me

[@MissBrookeHelene]

You shouldnt have to ask, state your needs they should naturally fill them. If not, move on.

[@eternalabundance39]

Keep asking as many as you can would suggest

[@NamasteInYourLane]

Who are they? If it's your boyfriend/husband it may be time to let him go b

[@serenity-ot8jm]

A man proposed me when I asked for help one month I was jobless he said he doesn't have where I know for sure he dose I let him go then I asked various men who were interested me they wanted something in return I felt so lonely and cheep why dose this happens some times I ask 30 dh they refuse because I won't give them in return why is that

[@n0426]

The planet is full of men. Keep rotating around!!

[@OO-be3jz]

Question: What if you meet a man while lifting weights at the gym? How do you suddenly become a stump?😊

[@vernita0216]

Thank you.

[@n0426]

Yess!! CEO babes 👩🏻‍💼💜

[@arankagionetti2098]

Why you want to be provided?? This is crazy!

[@sharnicemccord640]

Definitely gonna do this! It’s my time

[@reneemattier5883]

A STUMP?! 😆!

[@erinfleming4201]

This is true ❤

[@AlisonAllisontalks]

Brilliant

[@rensii-e8b]

Same thing I just said

[@eternalabundance39]

Agree

[@darlingnicki6923]

How do you avoid coming off as needy? Something I feel like I'm asking for help too much.

[@n0426]

If he isn’t officially yours you can keep dealing with other people.

[@marie-ed6hl]

Yes more on this please

[@barrywellnessexpress8229]

Don't bother too much your professional and social circles to things for you, know to balance the favors yo are asking, the feminine aura will push your admirers to do things without your words saying it

[@lyndseygolden7546]

More stump homework videos. I’m way too self sufficient and it bites me in the ass.

[@mora_007]

Im lazy..or tired....so thats just too appealing..im one of those who can do it all and did for one who wasnt worth it..... so im going past stump..im lettuce..im just laying there...help meh!😂

[@Aprilluvsfood]

😄😄 Got it!

[@FernGray]

Approved !

[@seecthomas9796]

Yass! Be a stump 😂

[@dawnanderson5611]

It’s so hard because I hate the thought of someone saying I did blah blah for you. B+*%$ please I got this uggggh HELPPPPPP

[@BenziitOfemme]

❤❤❤❤😂😂

[@sarahpineapple92]

Except all the men as far as the eye can see are weak mamas boys who want the woman to do everything for them. Women would love to receive but if no one is giving you anything there’s nothing to receive.

[@NamasteInYourLane]

Is it all men or is it black men? The white and Hispanic men I come across like helping. Some black men like helping too. Especially the older ones.

[@traditionallyuniquedesigns6531]

This is why I stress to date with purpose EARLY. You can’t play around until you are almost 40 because then they won’t want you or expect you to go half because it’s a privilege that someone wants you. The good men raised with fathers get married EARLY. Think about it. How many two parent household men do you know are still bachelors at 40?

[@rensii-e8b]

You have to hold your “stump” energy. Do not do anything. Lay down on the floor if you have to. I know exactly what you mean. I noticed it happens to me a lot at work, especially from (only from) this one, goofy looser in his feminine. It’s weird because it’s like he low key tries to force me into my masculine. In the real world, I would NEVER associate myself with such a creature, but it’s a little different at work because of proximity.

[@eternalabundance39]

​@@traditionallyuniquedesigns6531 I read of women getting providers in their 70s. I believe anything is possible.

[@cleovernebaptiste2747]

I've learn something

[@eternalabundance39]

Me too

[@sapnapandey5922]

❤

[@KellyForever333]

I NEED HELP 😅

[@beverlystatum7312]

💜

[@Dina-zf8ft]

Provider men don't play video games.

[@ShantezTolbut]

lies

[@Heather-fx7sr]

Aspiring to be a stump??? 😞

[@BREASHONTELL]

Hell yea 😂

[@eternalabundance39]

I just tried this and asked a male neighbor to get me some bus passes. Will keep playing with this. Thanks Any good links and or resources to work on the inner child?

[@eternalabundance39]

Thanks for the advice the neighbor gave me bus passes and groceries too! Glad I asked for the help!!❤

[@emmapaynter9893]

Why are people looking for a provider? Literally 2024 make your own money this is ridiculous.

[@Crgb777]

Idk I am a business owner and I am used to leading everything and making my own money but I'm learning to take a different approach when it comes to men. To sit back and let them do for me. I used to be the type who always felt the need to offer to pay for myself. But it's become attractive to me, the men who are willing to invest themselves in me, to me it shows their interest and I've learned to no longer entertain the clowns who want my time or intimacy while investing literally nothing into me. I'd stay away from those men. But I had to learn these feminine traits to weed them out.

[@eternalabundance39]

​@@Crgb777i think it literally feels good to be provided for also

[@mukaniwatkins2598]

Even when women make their own money they have the right to want a provider.

[@careottjuice]

Yah why do people still date we have to do everything ourselves anyway

[@n0426]

The more you develop as a woman and you garner valuable feminine traits. You know that men are in need of your feminine energy. And they love to feel masculine around you. This is the fun way of life. A woman can’t handle everything all the time!! It’s about balance. And your body needs to rest or it will get sick.

[@Brix33333]

lol I’m literally just a stump 🪵