Do I think you can date while being celibate?

[@ipeefreely9865]

Every black girl and teenager needs this valuable message.

[@LovelyJordy]

Grown women need this message chile!!!

[@n0426]

@@LovelyJordyseriously. They are pumping kids like it’s fast and furious.

[@NetSunJin]

Absolutely!

[@n9315]

This is a hard truth a lot of black women and women in general need to hear. I'd also like to add that some will talk about how they want a celibate woman... until they actually get one. Then they get mad because you won't sleep with them when that's the whole point of celibacy. Do not let a man guilt trip you into going against your values.

[@Crystal_curls85]

Yes. Stay strong ladies

[@sistersrefuge]

Like he said that’s how many de stress. They cannot help themselves, much less us. Like saying you’ll stop relaxing to help someone else relax. Not gonna happen. Getting their rocks off leads to a boulder landing on us.

[@LovelyJordy]

This has happened to me many times. They love the idea of it until you hold them to it too!

[@renaewright9683]

Omg ..just listening to this makes me want to run.single for over 10 yrs and happy.didnt know it was even possible.

[@livinginpeace0205]

Truth!

[@Empress_Yaffa]

Never tell a male this abstinent or celibate. Just wait them out. They always dismiss themselves

[@alexispeterson4439]

This part! Keep our moves to ourselves is the best strategy

[@AVibeCalledYes]

THIS. When you tell them, you become a challenge, a woman they have to break down

[@Thrivegrl24]

Factssssssssssssssssssss

[@sis.dlightfull8040]

All of this right here. I've had two phases in my life where I was abstinent. Both were by choice, and for three years, both times. My energy was just off, and weird so I decided to put the lid on the cookie jar. It was so worth it.

[@nikkinonames5265]

I agree and said the same thing. Been almost 10 yrs and not one man so far I've spoken to, I'm interested in!

[@Quebonitoeslobonito123]

And ENERGY is real! If he’s stressed, he’s passing that onto you.

[@GK222_]

True. What he's doing really is energy dumping

[@vITALEmpress]

Boom!!!

[@LoveGuruBlaire]

This!

[@swedmerson90]

YESSSSS OMG YESSSSSS!! When I was married to my ex husband he have the nastiest attitude and would come home from work so upset and angry and then want to dump that inside of me and I felt horrible to the point of throwing up afterwards and then he's walking around happy on cloud nine now. I felt like a literal DUMPSTERRR

[@thepragmatist]

Agree.

[@movingforward789]

Sex is expensive… it’s worth our lives… 😢

[@ravenshelton1638]

Message received “-an appreciative black woman”

[@who_knowsidk996]

IKR

[@BetterLoveMovement]

I keep trying to tell these "modern day women" this!!! Why won't they LISTEN??? Sex is downright DANGEROUS for women. WE get pregnant. WE have a higher rate of getting an STD. WE get the heartbreak. Be even MORE selective than you are NOW! Ask yourself THIS; if sleeping with this man gave me herpes, would I STILL do it??? Seriously, ask yourself that question every single time!!😑😑

[@lcdesigns6145]

Let’s call it what it is. Clearly with all the germs and pregnancy, there’s no “sleeping” happening.

[@ohanaohana8844]

Sex is dangerous for BLACK WOMEN. Let's be clear. There is a reason why you NEVER see white women being portrayed in those HIV meds commercials.

[@wheeltolive1117]

You came to deliver with this clip! Statistics. Facts. Receipts. And insurance policies!

[@allhailthequeen906]

😂😂😂😂 insurance policies? I'm dead 😅😅😅

[@sistersrefuge]

He Is Saving lives here. Praying this goes viral! That’s why I love listening to him! He delivered! Wow! He Knows, he knows …& lets us Know, reminds us why we need to act accordingly. ❤

[@Cristenajenkens]

Chile…

[@earthangel8399]

It's tough to date while celibate... you will be surrounded by temptation... and men who desperately want to break down your walls.... so you have to be strong.... alot of them will hate your decision.. but that's their issue not yours

[@katiaantonova6949]

Thanks for the support!! 💜💜 It'll be worth it though

[@NaiSays]

Men are going to hate it, because you’re telling them no, but personally that’s what I wanted to see to begin with. If I told a guy I was celibate and he makes jokes or says slick stuff, that’s an automatic DQ. As far as difficulty?TBH, it’s seemed easier to me. But that’s probably because I’m more demisexual than anything else. I have a strong libido in general, but I’m not tempted in the least until I’m emotionally invested. Most of these men disqualify themselves over the phone before they even get a date, and the ones that get a date usually don’t last but one anyway.

[@TheBlackMadonnaPhD]

This was a WHOLE WORD ANWAR!!!!!!!!!😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@Crystal_curls85]

Ain’t it tho 🤯

[@LovelyJordy]

This needs to go VIRAL! As an abstinent woman this is the message black women need!

[@MarchingFt]

This is the older, caring, responsible brother every woman deserves

[@ba8501]

I am celibate and have peace. Lol

[@dezinechic]

I just don't find it important nor desire it. the mere thought of doing it with any americant/americon mahale🤢🤮.

[@wagderlinroman1432]

Amen to that!!💜

[@AVibeCalledYes]

Same here. And the longer you're celibate, the easier it becomes

[@dezinechic]

@@ba8501 very same and don't crave it. I find it so weird and so "trying to hard" with ppl acting like it's SO important and not being able to go without it.

[@ba8501]

​@@dezinechicTrue. I channel that energy into other productive pursuits. It is no big deal. I think people are hypersexualised these days

[@Love11904]

That includes time, affection and attention Your energy is gift

[@sapphira5323]

This gave me chills. 💯❤️

[@Goddess_Infinity]

Same 😢😢😢

[@JumpWatsonYT]

He is 100% right

[@AVibeCalledYes]

Amen to all of this. I don't even tell them I'm celibate. I just don't have sex with them. If they leave or disappear, oh well not my problem, not for me 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@donatapowell8143]

😆 Exactly!

[@tinyking11]

💯😅 Right. Never tell them bc they will take it as a challenge then when they get the 🐱 they will leave you.

[@Sunflower-e7k]

Yes lol

[@GK222_]

Celibacy should come with being single. Men don't understand celibacy. Stay single ❤. Thank you for this video 🙏

[@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l]

Men understand celibacy when women don't give them the time of day in the bedroom , while being single. Women have that power. Amen

[@celeste7469]

Yes!! I’d only add no kids until married at least 2 years AND you have a joint bank account with high 5 figures optimal 6 in it, a home (or a place in a nice area good school comfortable to grow in) and an insurance policy listing you as the beneficiary. The quality of your life AND your kids lives depend on it.

[@marleyhill34]

All of this, that's why I never had kids with my ex-husband, he was financially irresponsible and abusive and I only found out when I got sick and couldnt' work. He couldn't run the household finances on his own and neither would he sit down with me and work out a budget.

[@destinyschild5768]

I don’t want to have children until I have a comfortable life set up for myself. I’m not trying to be broke with kids and a husband

[@tapinwithtiffany538]

Do I want to give this man a million dollars & he hasn't minimally given me his last name? It's a NO for me.

[@dch1421]

Yes. It's a HARD NO.

[@acd1168]

Plenty of other women will happily sleep with him. Let them

[@msharper6281]

YES!!!!!!

[@cutielocks08]

Anwar is speaking facts regarding marraige. I was abstinent for several years before getting married to my now ex-husband. I got pregnant at the 6 month mark with my first child then a year later got pregnant agaih. By the time, my second child was here, his mask fell off and the marriage was in trouble. We were at 4 1/2 years when we separated. Our kids were 3 and 18 months at the time.

[@marleyhill34]

Yup my marriage was the same at falling apart at the 2 year mark and we were together for 7.5 years but I still didn't trust him to impregnate me. Something in my gut told me that neither of us were ready to be parents or co-parents or single parents. Whether it was God, Jesus or the holy Spirity. Whenever he was mean, unsupportive, selfish, neglectful or irresponsible...all I could think was how our potential children would suffer. I suffered in my childhood and I never ever wanted to bring a child into this world to suffer the way I did.

[@AlisonAllisontalks]

I just love how you have all kinds of statistics on the tip of your tongue

[@vITALEmpress]

Anwar does not play!!

[@tinyking11]

That was my favorite part! He’s so witty & intelligent. 🔥🙌🏽😩

[@Sunflowers_journey]

I’ve been abstinent for 3 years and I tried dating. I recently gave up because I really want to enjoy my peace. You have to be careful because some men will see it as a challenge and they won’t respect that boundary. I’m embracing my singlehood and it feels amazing not having a man try to see how far he can go. I don’t have to have my guard up.☺️

[@meeeeepmooooop]

Your love for Black women has me almost in tears...the example comparisons of Black birthing mortality rates really drives it home. Thank you so much for loving us so dearly, Anwar ❤️❤️ We love you back, so much.

[@lindalubanga]

Thank you Anwar. Casual sex is so common now that if you dont sleep with the hot moneyed guy you went on a date with, people are quick to shame you. For a man to access me that way he must pay the price of commitment and consistent show of character and values.

[@ReasonablySpeaking9808]

Then let the shame persist! Oh well. Keep those cookies in the cookie jar.

[@LeLeB37]

You're looking out for black women. It is appreciated! Many black men can't say the same.

[@SunflowerOfTheEast]

Anwar is such an Ally to women!!! You really have to set your boundaries and stick to them. If a man won’t accept you being celibate that means he doesn’t see your worth. Stop acting like you’re married to these men and doing marriage activities before marriage if your goal is to get married. What Anwar is saying is what we need to teach little girls. If the majority of women held these high standards for themselves, these men would step up and raise their vibrations because they don’t want to be single.

[@SoStasiaa9193]

WOW!!!! Our Fairy GodBother NEVER misses! This was the confirmation I didn't know I needed, I'll continue holding on to my million dollars baby! And yes, we definitely need a full video on this, please & thank you. 🙌🏾❤

[@allhailthequeen906]

FACTS‼️

[@joemariedeguzman9204]

I love that he told something about STDs.

[@Ms_AlexisBee]

Im glad you made this video. More women need to realize this. Before I become celibate, Im glad all the men I dated and dealt with used condoms. Apparently thats not a common thing anymore and ot blows my mind how it isn't. Your sexual health is very important to your overall wellbeing.

[@jdiscovered6686]

Stay celibate,single, and childless🙁 This is want, to erase us. BE INTENTIONAL Ladies!!!!

[@sis.dlightfull8040]

This was a much needed topic to discuss. Those HIV stats ain't no joke. Half of all the new HIV cases in the U.S.A are unfortunately, 🤎🖤 women between the ages of 18 - 26 yrs of age.

[@VanessaWilson-n6b]

Celibacy and abstinence are not the same, folks!

[@NikkiLifeInBloom]

Right! People get it mixed up all the time

[@poetrygirl5309]

​@@NikkiLifeInBloomcan you explain the difference between celibacy and abstinence please? Thank you

[@NikkiLifeInBloom]

@ Hey, of course, love. Celibacy is a conscious, long-term, or lifelong vow to abstain from sexual activity, often for spiritual or personal reasons. Abstinence, on the other hand, is choosing not to engage in sexual activity for a certain period, which could be for health, situational, or other reasons. The key distinction is intent-celibacy is typically lifelong, while abstinence is more temporary or seasonal. Hope that helps ❤️

[@poetrygirl5309]

@NikkiLifeInBloom thank you 🙏🏾

[@LunazulBaraka]

You are so right but let's given some grace

[@focuzed1st]

This Message REALLY Should Go Viral!!!! 💯💪🏽🙏🏽 Protect your Energy and Guard your Heart Ladies!!!

[@TanEbear]

This is why we need Anwar. Thank you and merry Christmas

[@JumpWatsonYT]

Thank you sir I hear you. These men are after me for real and I appreciate this one right hear. I also feel like when they are mad at you they want to have sex with you just to turn around and hurt you. Because when your not having sex with them you can’t be hurt easily

[@justcallmeshon2436]

I am starting my celibacy journey and this is much needed. 🙏

[@Mara.Isabelle]

same. we got this beautiful

[@justcallmeshon2436]

@ yes we do❤️

[@ATHYDI]

This is bars on another level Anwar! Like nothing but truth here. Women gotta look at the whole picture, black women especially struggle with this from the savior complex, all the way down to giving sympathy cookies to men we don’t even want to sleep with and ending up with emotional baggage, stds or even children we aren’t ready for!Thanks for your real content this message is one of many that are needed! ❤

[@EatmyStardust]

Thank you for this message. People forget that STDs exist.

[@delladrummond7975]

I feel your passion on this. Thank you. We don't get this kind of advocacy often.

[@LexEshe]

Ive been abstinent for 4 years dated the whole time. I dont tell them i just dont put myself in the position to think we gone do anything but hug

[@ShaunaStrawberry]

They way you just confirmed my decision to remain celibate, shocked me to my core and filled my cup of black girl magic all at the same time, is priceless. Thank you for sharing this very important message. This needs to go viral!! ❤❤❤

[@donatapowell8143]

😂 My soul ✨️🧘‍♀️✨️ loves these confirmations. Says to my mind, 🧠 "see told ya!"

[@BL3SSed-Bliss]

*Dating while abstaining is not for those who are sexually vulnerable or easily weakened in any way.* For those who are not, *please **_do_** actually date while abstaining or celibate. It will help to "train" [more] men to practice patience, value, courtship, and above all- RESPECT.* Either way, my Ladies, *be cautious, safe, smart, and strong. **_Whatever_** you choose.* Love to you all, Thanks and Love to you, Anwar. 💞

[@NoOtherLikeNat]

I love how you advocate for us, black women!!❤❤❤ Thank you for loving us, BLACK man!!🥲...Just taking the time to care and show us love by sharing knowledge and wisdom!! THANK YOU!

[@kimberlyrobinson3992]

Preach. You’re doing the Lord’s work, whether you realize it or not. I wouldn’t have sex with a guy before marriage, anyway. It has nothing to do with being Black. I’m a Christian and God’s word is more important to me than momentary pleasure. The order goes marriage then sex. Have great Christmas!

[@confetti2010]

Facts!!!!! If he’s wrong, put him out of business. I’m 50, and these men are running amuck ALL AGES and they don’t care.

[@ShamaraMurray]

I’m not hearing anyone tell us straight like this, anywhere. We know what he’s saying so all true. We need this reminder. Thank Anwar, my fav dating and life coach on the internet. Please make the video, we need it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@TwoPrettyRedDimes]

Blk women all over in this blk sector in BWE(BLK WOMEN EMPOWERMENT) HAVE BEEN TELLING BW THIS FOR YEARS & YEARS ATLEAST 10-15 & the last 7 years lol Most bw don't listen with stats 📈 & Abt blk femicide on top of it

[@jayscott5618]

This should have went viral. 😊I wish I had someone like you growing up. ❤

[@MzPresident]

Powerful information!

[@EllePlowPlow]

Protect this man at all costs!! We love you Anwar!! ❤

[@samanthasamantha1830]

Wow! Please make a video about this!❤🙏🏾

[@fayelanier8520]

Don't be their "sleeping pill." You're way more valuable than that! Be Safe out there!

[@donatapowell8143]

Love that. 👍 So true. I watched a film called The Silent Twins (2022) recently, and the way the guy smashed the girl to pieces was revolting. I just couldn't believe my eyes. It made me even more disgusted with these men. Too many of them have no respect for women.

[@ssmiles3909]

Awesome video and information. Dating while celibate is challenging and I would love to watch more videos discussing this topic.

[@vITALEmpress]

Oooh Anwar you went IN on this one.❤

[@shaybuttersbm]

So grateful for this Word

[@ariakay143]

This hit me SO hard.🙌🏾

[@SH-ix6mc]

Great video Anwar. I felt the love with this one. Thank you.

[@chigozieezeani3329]

How can I love this video a trillion times❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@RMMomma4Eva]

I recently realized that the fact that I was married when giving birth AND that my insurance was through federal government employment are probably the key reasons that I had good experiences. Meaning if I had gone to the hospital not married and with Medicaid when giving birth, I might not be here to tell the tales today. Because I'm finding out through my current circumstances and experiences that a LOT of doctors will base the standard of care that they offer on available insurance rates and a patient's demographics (or their personal perceptions of a patient's character and lifestyle), rather than ethics, medical science or the Hippocratic oath. Bottom line is we can be assured that people will care about us and even do their jobs regarding us ONLY to the extent that we demonstrably care for ourselves.

[@NetSunJin]

This needs to be talked about more and more!

[@blessedbygod3430]

I worked as a nurse in a large all male prison...my heart broke every time I saw on visitation day black women ( girlfriends/ wives) coming to visit these prisoners. I KNEW that these prisoners were having sex with MANY other prisoners of which MANY were HIV positive. I was also aware that their release dates were imminent.😢

[@DorothySargeant-u3l]

One guy told me that one of the first things he did upon his release was to get tested for AIDS.

[@MelanatedHomesteadher]

😮

[@alishak4061]

Bout to watch this again! You saving lives and helping to build self esteem! Ladies this is for our safety.

[@jbfontes1331]

Y'all better listen to nephew slap you into reality!!!! 👏🏼

[@conversingwithconita]

Great Question and Great Advice 🎯🎯🎯🎯💯💯💯💯❤‍🔥❤‍🔥❤‍🔥

[@TheDealio]

10s across THE BOARD!!! 🏆🐐🎉

[@doseofsam549]

You are truly a Godsend! More people need to hear this!

[@Chikou14219]

The answer is yes. You can be spoiledddd without having sex.

[@pilarq7886]

*we really do know all this but the world is sooo noisy hard to hear Holy Spirit revealing truth Thank You Anwar like God for not wanting us to suffer. PRAY PRAISE God for* *STRENGTHENING YOUR HEART - helps to Stand Your Ground and Be Wise and Trusting in God makes obedience easier* 🙌👍

[@Ruby-kr6fh]

Preach it Anwar

[@madamed1108]

This is the most important thing I’ve seen on this app🤯 share to all

[@sampsonlittle7368]

If you don’t date the whole way while being celibate, you will have just killed the relationship if you decide to stop being celibate without getting married first. Don’t kid yourself. Dating is to see if each other is ready to be married. Don’t bring intimacy into it.

[@CL-do5eq]

I know I can’t be the only one that has to take a break when listening to your concert because it’s so mind blowing and come back because my soul can sit with the truth. It took me about two years and six months to understand that it is OK for me to step outside of my comfort zone, which is black men and be open to possibly having a future with a non-black man and have mixed children I literally had to grieve that I don’t know if any other person is going through it, but I had to grieve the idea that I thought what my family would be and look like Now God has delivered me and God shows me that the most important thing is that I have a good husband of God in a healthy family damn what color he is but his character in his purpose but this is just more confirmation. That’s like yeah I’m on the right path and this is why things haven’t been working out because I’m doing the healing work. I am celibate. I am working on myself. I am in church. I’m getting more outside my comfort zone with socializing morelike going out more like and healthy environments and I attract men, but they desire me even though I am a classy woman, but they never truly want to be with me because they know I have standards and boundaries and they cannot walk over me. It hurts, but I know that it’s for the best when they do remove themselves from me because for example, I will not be intimate with them.

[@athomas1823]

Thank you for doing this. I pray it is shown in HS and college. These facts are no joke heartbreaking.

[@stynicee7964]

This is a scared straight video!!! I appreciate you for keeping it honest with us.

[@DrRaeLoveCoach]

Lawd! Truth! Yes GodBrother! 💯🙏🏾🫶🏾🙌🏾❤️

[@Genevieve4190]

I would also love to see a video on this.

[@LyfeofNikkiLee]

Love your content Anwar omg!! I've been celibate for 7 years and grateful!!

[@deniseromeo5784]

Priceless advice.

[@JL-jz9iv]

Facts❤ and coming from a place of love. Thank you.

[@teresah3450]

Thank you and received❤

[@ms.janncan6053]

I don't want to break my abstinence/celibacy for nothing/nobody! I haven't found anyone even worth dating! Thank God I'm not of childbearing age!! Yes, please make a video regarding all of this!!! 🫶🏾

[@smartgirlnyc]

I've been saying this for the last decade but no one listens to me. It's a bad idea to have casual sex and/or be promiscuous. You can end up with a violent maniac in your life, an unwanted pregnancy/child that you have to raise and financially support alone (and abortion shouldn't be used as birth control), h!v/@!ds or other sti's and just because some sti's are curable doesn't mean that you should get them. Why not plan better and make better choices?

[@tanjigandy]

Ipso facto, you can’t afford to date and NOT be celibate.

[@TheAAdele05]

It’s all up to the people in the relationship. If you want to be celibate, you will do what it takes not to have intercourse.

[@pilarq7886]

herb chastetree berry aka.... minimizes sex cravings monks use it

[@TheAAdele05]

@ I don’t want any of that stuff! I don’t want to be celibate. Thank you for the information, though 😌.

[@StamperWendy]

Thank you, Anwar 😊 I'm a Born Again Christian 💕 I love your videos 🥰

[@katiaantonova6949]

Omg! Blessings to you. Like I've said before, so much of your stuff applies to everyone. This further validated my decision to wait until marriage.

[@atlsongbyrd6084]

You preached a whole word!

[@ladyindigo1649]

Very important PSA!🎉🎉 Thank you for sharing.🙏🏾❤️

[@ricardajames5769]

Thank you for sharing this insightful information. ❤ Insurance policy = a million plus!!

[@tammyhenderson1592]

Help the Latinas, as well. The men are the same. DL Baby Daddies out there being toxic.

[@cureaurora7591]

You can follow all his advices even if you're not a Black woman

[@soulspirationgoddess]

He’s a BLACK woman’s dating coach. He said what he said.

[@tammyhenderson1592]

@ Teaching them white men are good catches. No shade in him, he’s awesome. You however got your feelings hurt. This coming from a woman who was married to a Latino until he passed in a motorcycle accident. He was a good man and husband. He passed 5 years ago and I have not been single in thirty years. I watch this coach because he is stating facts not manipulation tactics. Calm down sir. The Latin community needs help too. Because their sex is expensive too when reading HIV stats and the DL issue.

[@sarahblair6357]

I need more on this topic! Soo important!

[@nm9412]

You really opened our eyes! Thank you!

[@katiak74]

Wow! I am a white woman and I came here to say: what necessary video guy! You job is amazing! I am your fan!

[@Hajiazaimani]

Thank you very much. Facts from a loving brother.

[@selkertazumi9660]

Amen. All truths. Please make a video on this.

[@mesha0932]

More than 60% aren’t wearing condoms. I think it’s 90% honestly.

[@marleyhill34]

This explains why I don't have sex much with black men anymore..as in I had sex with one black man this year with a condom. I have only had sex with 3 men in my life without a condom. 2 black men ( first boyfriend and one and only ex husband)and one white man. All the rest...condoms are mandatory as well as testing. I'm 43. I date without sex but I find men always want to push boundaries and that is absolutely tiring so I don't date anymore.

[@who_knowsidk996]

@mesha0932 I agree with you. I worked in an STD clinic years ago and most of the patients we saw were black, down low men. A lot of them were sex workers (male and female clients). In the state I was working in, black men accounted for more than 50% of the STI rates--all STIs.

[@SA-uv1bq]

Thank you for this information!

[@shinysnewworld]

I wish i had someone would have told me this before age 23 and 3 children later and divorced twice.

[@breakthecycle1971]

New to your channel. Your insight is invaluable; thank you!!🙏🏾 Women around the world can benefit from your wisdom. Anwar, Please write a dating manual. I’ll be the first to support and purchase.❤

[@Gee-t2c]

PREACH & TEACH!!!!!!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@christinap14]

You never miss 🙏🏽