how to find out what you want to do in life - watch this if you feel lost

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🌟 The first 1,000 people to use the link or my code *ruriohama* will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare: skl.sh/ruriohama05221 🌟 ----------------------------------------------------------- ⏰ Timestamps ⏰ 00:00 Intro 01:37 Paradox of Choice 02:37 How to avoid decision fatigue? 03:00 Why is "do what you love" is a bad advice ----------------------------------------------------------- 04:01 3 main steps 04:09 Step-1 Discover your values 🌸 04:57 Q1 (value) 07:24 Q2 (value) 08:08 Q3 (value) 08:51 Q4 (value) 09:04 Q5:What advice would you give to people? (value) ----------------------------------------------------------- 11:36 Step-2 Figure out what you're good at 🌷 12:14 Q1 (talent) 12:36 Q2 (talent) 13:30 Q3 (talent) 13:49 Q4(talent) 14:23 Q5 (talent) 15:39 What if you still can't find your talent? ----------------------------------------------------------- 16:01 Step-3 Figure out what you're passionate about🌼 16:27 Q1 (Passion) 16:44 Q2 (Passion) 16:47 Q3 (Passion) 17:23 Q4 (Passion) 18:11 Q5 (Passion) ----------------------------------------------------------- 18:31 What to do after figuring them out? 🌈

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Ummm interesting

[@khalilahd.]

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[@eeeee323]

😃💚 gracias por el descuento

[@unnamed3679]

wow..i got a heart frkm you..thanks...

[@strongpizza]

I'm Turkish, I joined your channel to learn English, but I'm also interested in personal development and psychology and I was surprised to hear that your videos are from Turkey,

[@IKEMENOsakaman]

Life is long. Your goal in life changes from when you are 10 or 20 or 40. I just hope that I can be on my deathbed and smile and say I had a good life.

[@JohnnyJohnJon83]

I beg to differ life is too short and you need to make the most of it . Life will flash before your eyes befofe you know it .

[@MaliceMizer1888]

Life is short*

[@stormfront4382]

Life is shortest thing in life

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

What a beautiful message and advice, my friend. Thanks for sharing with us. I hope we can be happy in our life 💕💕💕

[@nandenayo3_catsandraw]

Life is short tho

[@itsrewindtime5994]

Can anyone else still not figurw out their passion? Even after answering the questions they just felt random

[@aida4338]

I wrote them all down and I don't understand why they should help find out more about my passion. But they help you see yourself more clearly at least.

[@itsnlee]

I just got rejected from an apprenticeship today, this video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you Ruri, your content is always so real and encouraging.

[@ruriohama]

I'm sending you a lot of love🫂

[@baum9048]

Took me around 2 years to land an apprenticeship that happens Espacily in germany because a lot of those uhm older wallnuts have either expectation which are out of this world or treat their apprenticeses like cheap litte servents (then they cry that they dont get new apprentices)

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Awesome stuff

[@kingberrycake]

Remember, you're a wonderful person 🌸

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@@ruriohama amen

[@FOCUS-ho6mh]

"I truly believed that I can do it one day, it's just not today" Wow, that's enlightening

[@ruriohama]

✌️🏻

[@jsonzhng]

You probably won't ever see this comment Ruri, but thank you. I'm currently studying computer science and am graduating uni this semester, though I've never been too sure if I enjoyed it or not. During quarantine, I've been reevaluating my life and have been trying to look deeper within. I've always had this childish goal of becoming a KZbinr. I love receiving positive attention, and entertaining people: giving joy where I can. As I grew older, I've prioritized stability and comfort over all else, as I don't want my parents to worry about me; I want to be someone dependable, and meet their expectations. As I continued university, I've been told that I have gifts in communication, language, and empathy. I'm not sure if these comments have influenced my answers to your questions, but I genuinely enjoy meeting new people, and creating meaningful connections. I think I have a talent in voicing myself, projecting my thoughts, all the while keeping an open mind and listening to others. I think I'll give streaming and KZbin a try once I graduate!

[@Millenniumzz]

Go ahead

[@xxx.00o16]

I wish you a good luck!

[@joshux3210]

Start now, don't wait until graudated

[@aida4338]

Have you started? I always thought I would give my dreams a try as soon as I graduated, and here I am now, wondering if my dreams are something I really want to do or not. Hope you're not struggling with this too.

[@bigboimize]

"There is nothing wrong nor right in this world, there re just different cultures and different value systems" I really appreciate people who understand this

[@xFersureMatt]

So pedifilia, murder, etc... nothing wrong?

[@rachelhae]

​@@xFersureMatt dude you don't get it

[@xFersureMatt]

@@rachelhae or maybe.. I do.. and you don't get it.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for This video!

[@ruriohama]

🖤

[@thebettafish3239]

Hiiii

[@undergroundkhiphop]

Omg psy2cho

[@KopyErr]

Helloo

[@AwwesomeVal]

Man. I answered the first question and now I have a paragraph written about why I respect my Mom the most in this world. I also feel like crying.

[@khalilahd.]

This is actually so so helpful. I’m currently 25 and I know what I want to do but it’s so hard to get there so this guidance is much needed 😅🙏🏽

[@annarose2439]

Same , people tell me it too late to do anything just continue

[@taopanda98]

I have been seeing you constantly in other videos. I guess we look upon the same media! 😆

[@nzgls]

I realized that finding what I want to do in my whole life is the most important thing. This is exactly what I needed these days. Thank you Ruri!

[@apdardillaspordoquier1324]

and do have any purpose now? idk sometimes I feel lost.

[@nzgls]

@@apdardillaspordoquier1324 same bro. unfortunately i couldn't find yet. i'll think about it after my damn important exam

[@carlajacob2631]

Some question I can not answer bicus I never do some thing stuff

[@gyroh6593]

The hardest part about this video was asking others the 2 questions that required outside input. But I was amazed and very surprised at how willing people were at answering these things for me. Almost made me cry.

[@jennifermarea8011]

I just skipped those parts. I’m pretty sure people are tired of me being lost at this point 😂

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[@evevlog7535]

You are so on time, there are so many people including me that are struggling finding out what they want to do. Thank u for that

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

I totally agree with you, my friend 💕💕💕

[@frozenghostbry]

Thank you for taking the time to create this video. I came across you at random in my home feed, and I have been feeling lost recently. I appreciate you. ✌🏻

[@hakarmalm7756]

~ Figure out your values ~ Question 1: WHO do you respect, and why? Question 2: WHICH experience influenced you the most during your teenage years? Question 3: WHAT do you feel we lack in society these days? Question 4: (Ask people around you) WHAT do you think I value the most? Question 5: WHAT advice would you give to other people? ~ Figure out what you're good at ~ Question 1: WHAT was the most fulfilling experience you've EVER had? Question 2: WHAT did you get annoyed about most recently? Question 3: ASK others to name your strengths Question 4: If you quit your job right now, WHAT would you regret about it? Question 5: WHAT is something you have succeeded in? ~ Figure out what you're passionate about ~ Question 1: WHAT would you like to learn about, even if you had to pay for it? Question 2: WHAT type of books do you tend to read? WHAT are they about? Question 3: WHAT is the thing/genre that moves you/makes you feel something? Question 4: WHAT type of job do you truly appreciate? WHAT type of job would you truly like to thank? Question 5: WHAT would you like to change about life? HAVE you been angry towards life? Thanks for sharing these questions and the video, Ruri. I hope many people will find out what they want to do with themselves by answering these questions. 😊

[@chhotangorain119]

Thanks bro😇

[@apdardillaspordoquier1324]

thank you very much

[@gamerdweebentertainment1616]

ask others... Who? :) I barely have conversations.

[@gamerdweebentertainment1616]

WHAT is something you have succeeded in? Define success

[@obserwator23]

May I ask the voices that live in my studio apartment ? Or does it have to be people

[@13thdemarch]

Graduated university as a UI/UX designer with Good grade, had been worked in a dream company for a year. But I decided to quit it 2 weeks ago because everything was so bored and looping everyday. Now staying at home, I'm doing what I've really wanted to do since university: Learn Japanese, drawing, guitar, photography... and find out more about myself, what I want and what I do in life. It absolutely makes me feel at ease.

[@27syamrajs59]

But how you finding your money for living?

[@13thdemarch]

@@27syamrajs59 Thank you for asking. It's all money I have been saved since start working. Now after 2 months now I found what job I want to do next. Currently I'm studying about it.

[@user-tq8rt2pm4k]

@@13thdemarch good luck

[@13thdemarch]

@@user-tq8rt2pm4k thank you!

[@izaag4545]

Thank you for sharing, just curious (I'm a front end dev getting into this problem) how did it went?

[@Valkyraw]

The first thing people have to do is rely less on social media. Social Media is the root of most social and even educational problems we face. We are getting "connected" to a virtual world but at the same time disconnected from the real world. Using a smartphone daily takes up so much energy of a human being, its scary. Stop using the internet so much, go out and see the world. Thats a good way to find your own passion and what you want yourself.

[@loliklola157]

so true

[@italico2792]

I LOVE this kind of video Ruri! I've been feeling lost since I got my high school diploma. I'm 28 and still feel very lost. I'm trying to figure out what's best for me and hope to find it out soon. I've written down all my answers, but I need to have a vision now.

[@idlesfinx4777]

A huge thank you for bringing out this video!💙

[@danielhu6134]

Thank you Ruri. I've never think deeply with my life purpose, but now I know what I should do in my life.

[@zumasa9991]

I'm 29.. I've been asking myself this question so many times throughout my life and I get so many different answers. This video is the response that makes the most sense to me.

[@karimnosaijo]

Thank you for the precious lesson Ruri!

[@koeestar]

Please never stop doing what you are doing. You are truly a light on this planet. Thank you.

[@flittystar]

thank you for this video! it's literally what i needed the most

[@aaronwilson4694]

Excellent video. I just had a major surgery and I've been thinking about what to do with my life moving forward. Thank you for making this video.👍👍

[@tomiziexd1779]

Thanks, as always! you were the first person I fully understood in another language, and I really like hearing what you say

[@Bnehir]

I have read lots of things, lots of videos about self-improvement but... This video became a medicine for me. I wrote all of them, I answered all of the questions honestly. Cross my heart, you are the best. Keep thriving ♥️

[@damnwhyisitsohard]

I'll watch this before sleeping. Actually I find your vids calming before getting asleep, Ruri and I am grateful with that. I love your vids.

[@izzt_fahmi]

It's kinda new to me but I like the idea of asking new questions to ourselves to find values, talents and our passions to find our path in life, thank you ruri for coming up with the books that you read, I wish it really helped me a lot throughout my journey in pursuing my career and my life generally, sending love from Malaysia 🇲🇾 💙

[@dickrichard5579]

You’re a positive and wonderful person, keep doing what you do 😊

[@Sandulvinsuka]

Great video Ruri! thanks for sharing all the lessons and experiences in your life!

[@1ND1G066]

A similar video to this ("Watch this if you feel like a failure") was what made me discover your channel. And I'm extremely glad that it did, because I'm at a point of life where I don't even know what my strengths/talents -if any- even ARE, much less if they can be applied anywhere. Seeing this vid be so similar to that first time really made it all go right around and I couldn't be more thankful. Keep up the great work and much love!😃

[@alanruiz952]

easily this is one of the most interesting and helpful videos you've ever done, thank u Ruri appreciate it. keep it up ;)

[@rain_2395]

I am honestly so grateful that i found your channel. I immigrated to another country not even a year ago and I am having to to college applications now. Adapting with new system, becoming an young adult, trying to figure out life has been so overwhelming but your videos really helped a lot. Thank you. :))

[@ktulu310]

Idk how your videos came up on my feed but this is my 2nd video. They seem to have appeared right when I needed them. Thank you for your videos.

[@ozgeo3427]

Thank you for this video Ruri. It made me and will make me think a lot. I’m so glad to find your KZbin channel. ✨🙏🏻

[@Helena-bc7fb]

now im feel more fine , thank you so much Ruri 🙏💜

[@marklecharreglo]

Hi Ruri i loved hearing your voice and explaining things about life, it really inspired me a lot. Keep safe always and stay healthy thank you.

[@ivonnelopez8203]

i love the way you talk. You're very articulate!

[@PETERFRITZPHOTO]

You have wisdom beyond your years, and I’ve encouraged my 12-yo son to watch this. Thank you, Ruri!

[@andriassiwabessy]

Thank you Ruri! You explain the content of the book into some practical steps, like we are 5 years old. And I think this is very important for everyone else.

[@ResilientRaspberry]

I felt lonely and lost since i became a teenager. I did lots of thinking and searching about what i want from and to do in my life. This video is very special to me because it marks the end of me feeling lost. I hope the creator is proud of herself. I feel better and this video is partially why. Now for loneliness!

[@FrogMemeis]

Just what I need! Thanks Ruri!

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Thank you Ruri❤ Such an amazing mindset you have.

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thank you, Ruri. i needed this.

[@eeeee323]

Gracias Ruri, siempre necesito vídeos así 💜🦋

[@perfectcopy591]

thank you so much Ruri you are one of the people I respect the most, you’re a genius!!! 🤯♥️

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This video is really helpful! I watched this when i feeling empty and lost now, and i would be more exciting about notion class or whatever ruri will be creating more in the future!

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Thank you for this video. Amazing content as always❤

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your voice makes me listen without being bored. you spell words so fluently and gently. thanks 🌸

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GRACIAS!!! Haces un excelente trabajo con tus videos... Existen ocasiones que caigo como en un circulo vicioso y entro en una laguna existencial del cual siento que no avanzo pero escuchándote me motivas a seguir adelante, un ejemplo de ello es el organizarme para cumplir metas. Tu me inspiras. Y también a seguir aprendiendo otros idiomas. GRACIAS!!!

[@ce4b987]

You got My Respect ! Thanks for all your efforts , You woke me up from My darkness , you were and still are giving so much to my life. God Bless you And I hope you can do What you want in your life ..

[@djjiang3718]

Thank you, young lady! Excellent video! Keep up your hard work!

[@maxlunin3693]

Took me 2 hours but I loved it. Thank you, Ruri!

[@yolkycheeks]

Thank you so much for making these motivational videos. They are so informative and insightful. I am at a point in my life that I really need to start take action and work on myself.

[@ahsanmlana]

Thankyou for Sharing Ruri !❤

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Thanks for this incredible video!

[@Snehdeeppradhan]

Thank you is just not enough for the quality and time you shared in the video this is exactly what I needed Thank you from my bottom of heart to your video ❤️

[@jessielewis6980]

This just clarified so much for me. I was trying to fit myself into a box based on my skills, but what I really want to do is something completely different. I love that this focuses on passion as a requirement. Thanks ❤

[@takecare5135]

I appreciate your efforts ...each and everything is full of guidance !

[@dynamic_united]

Thank you for this awesome content!

[@CoryInColorTV]

I want to thank you! Your videos always uplift me and bring me to a calm state mentally. You help me to see things in my life that aren't as important as my anxiety ridden brain would make me believe. Your videos really help me to focus within and see that what I already have is all that I need to be happy. Thank you for bringing positivity to the world. You are wonderful!

[@pgshay5455]

Beautiful video 👍i love how you explained this topic to us.It's crucial to do things that we like.Sometimea we get lost and feel demotivated at time we need to understand the value of the things that we want to do and we should give our blood,sweat and tears to fullfill it.Thank you 🤗💜

[@luisizaguirre8204]

Thank you for this kind of videos, it's make me feel relaxed and give me motivation

[@danecustance2734]

Thank you've helped me shine a light on a difficult problem for me personally. This was a pleasant suprise i wasnt expecting to get so much out of it. 🙏

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I LOVE YOU!!! I LOVE THIS GIRL!

[@victorymentality1922]

I really like your videos Ruri. I need this stuff in my life right now.

[@danieloftamriel]

Thanks for this! Made plans to find work in another state, which didn’t work out, and now I’m back here in boring old home. Now I have a sense of what I should do.

[@r0zzin]

Getting lost in all your videos. trying to find myself and this is a big help. thanks

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love your content!

[@keithpete-ro8si]

masterful content! thank you, this was a great video for the start of my day. stay the course. you really have a nice way of finding a passion within ones self.

[@roachbusters]

I've felt lost my entire life. I'm almost 38.

[@brenoaoi]

This was really enlightening!! tyvm!

[@AlexXBrenton]

Ruri from the moment i sow u , i actually never stopped watching

[@erfanempire5502]

Thanks a lot Ruri. It's really helpful. I'll have to watch it later

[@Cloudyconfusion]

Ty so much for the breakdown in The video description! I have learning disabilities and didn’t catch everything and was going to rewatch it while taking more notes- I was shocked that you took the time in the description to write a breakdown and time stamp. I know little things like that take a long time and I appreciate it more than you know!! Thank you!

[@ruriohama]

🥰🖤

[@subscriptions007]

Just in time when thinking about it. Thank you Ruri

[@snowluna4592]

Thanks that youtube let me meet Ruri's channel. Your content help me a lots for upgrade my personal life.

[@LennyTim]

Much appreciated, thank you.

[@eliaschainriffo5056]

Thank you for the video i'll be thinking and filling these questions in the days ahead

[@meghanakrishna7651]

Thank you Ruri. Watching this video make me realise that I'm not alone. And I want to know more about your you tube journey. I want to how did you made this happen and how did you got the courage to start a youtube channel and how did you planned to turn your KZbin into a business. Like always, love you so much ☺️

[@entp3698]

This video is excatly what I needed. Thank you!

[@takecare5135]

I respect your dedication and perseverance for your passion of becoming a youtuber...and here you are 😍😍😍

[@mmchristiansongs5908]

I can see myself clearly now. I followed every single step and wrote it down while listening to your video. Thanks, Ruri.

[@alt5631]

So what is your talent? What youre good at?

[@jofernan8]

OMG awesome!!! Thank you Ruri ❤️ Waiting for your new online class in Skillshare soon then haha 🙌

[@rainlover9381]

Thank you so much, for this video You are that person, who I recpect. Love u 💚

[@emmanueldaniel798]

Ruri ❤ you are my Angel.. Whenever I get upset I listen you... I love you so much ❤

[@ELPadrinoCOD]

"You want to do something but you don't know what to do" bruhhh that's the story of my life basically lol thanks for this ruri ❤

[@matil-dada]

Thank you Ruri

[@dil173]

thank you for this, hearing advice from mikasa is so nice. im in my late 20s and still lost at life.

[@lud5506]

I loooooved this it was really helpful in this time of my life. I got to really understand myself more, thank you!

[@sharaquinteropena8392]

Thank you, Ruri. ❤️

[@majodkajavs6977]

This is probably the best video

[@dupontdorval3753]

Thanks for the video. 💥

[@yalm169]

Thank you a lot. Of all the videos I watched to find what I want to do, what my strenghts and weaknesses are, this one, your video gave me the opportunity to ask my parents. I discovered that my capacity of long term full focus (idk if it means smthg in english) on one goal, was also my bigger weakness: if I'm not passionnate/interessed/happy of of the goal I'm working for I become almost completely unable to focus on it. I'm just losing most of my brain and physical abilities. (It might sound extreme but that's just how it is). That's the reason why my grades just fell when I enter college; it's the period when I was starting to discover the way to think and to see the world that are now mine. So in conclusion, thank you a lot for helping me and all the people watching your videos. At almost eighteen I just found my best strenght and my worst weakness. That's something that will help me a lot in the future. Keep workin, your videos are amazing, you are inspiring, and I wish you a good day. May I gave you an ounce of pride.

[@MaggieJimenez_]

This was very helpful, I love your style of making videos 🙌🙌🙌

[@soccereditshd7438]

You are a legend ruri❤️❤️🔥

[@Evelyn-kx5iv]

That is a very valuable and great video. Thank you so much, Ruri, for filming this❤️. I am not much of a reader (Ik I should read more tho) so I really liked how you included the main points of a book that you've read. Those questions are really interesting and do help to see oneself from another perspective. It definitely helped me clarity what is important to me for my future life. Keep up the good work💪^-^