How to find your Core Values 🦋 | summer of self ep 4

[@aleksandrapotempa947]

To anyone who needs to hear this: it's not really possible to be able to recognise what your core values are if you spent years in survival mode. Give yourself credit for what you have done already and DO NOT FEEL GUILTY about others' progress 🌿✨

[@stellwyn]

I needed this, thank you. Since the pandemic I've felt so out of tune with myself and my values, because I've just been surviving. I know I'm not living the way I want to be right now, but it's what I had to do to get through! But this exercise is a nice chance to try and reconnect with my pre-pandemic self.

[@m.m.4565]

So true, i spent my whole life in survivor mode and the pandemic woke me up and I realised i wasnt doing anything I love I just did what was expected of me. Now that I realised that i try to make time for my passion.

[@sacdaabdurhman]

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” Sometimes we need a reminder like this, if you are reading this have a good day💜

[@rk8659]

If possible, could you make a video telling us about the financial aspect of attending Minerva? Like using different currencies, being able to afford living in these cities, day to day expenses etc. Love ya ❤️

[@tanyaruimin]

yes i would love this! its my dream to study abroad. im in community college right now but would love to transfer, jade please!

[@vivisworld4553]

Yess pls that would be super helpful!!

[@mitalishinde6890]

Yess please

[@lottiehuggins544]

Fun idea: turn these into affirmations! Reminding yourself of the things you value most in yourself and your relationships feels so good :)

[@sunflower.mountain]

thank you so much for this idea! I just did it and it’s absolutely great!

[@thebenzeneboi]

1. Growth: lifelong learning and becoming a better person each and every day 2. Connection: maintaining positive relationships and meeting new people 3. Happiness: doing things that bring me enjoyment and not taking life too seriously 4. Health: building habits that keep my body and mind healthy, 5. Thoughtfulness/kindness: being a thoughtful and kind person no matter what happens in life (If someone has a better name for this value let me know!)

[@AmberWoodMusicx]

last one could be optimism

[@thebenzeneboi]

@@LeaReads Yeah! That captures what I'm trying to express pretty well :)

[@theverasilva]

So similar to mine! Mine were family, passion/love, joy/happiness, continuous improvement/growth and mindfulness ☺️

[@sho3413]

The best part about getting older is how the strong need to search for your own identity subsides, and then you discover so much more outside yourself.

[@annettepass8090]

That’s very true. It’s a process we all go through and very natural and important for young adults finding their own way in the world - something I definitely struggled with in my 20s. Once you become at peace with who you are, losing the need to constantly define yourself, you are able to be so much more open to the world.

[@koals6783]

Sounds like something to look forward to. Constantly questioning myself and finding out new things about myself feels like it's necessary and helpful at the moment, but it's also soo draining and stressful.

[@britischenadligen3760]

How old are we talking about? Not to be intrusive and inquire about your age, I'm just curious as to when I'll be able to take the break of constantly being in my own little world. It's necessary but also intimidating to be always analysing oneself tbh

[@lizigogoladze7258]

1. Growth (self development, maturity) 2. Independence 3. Liberty and Justice 4. Respect 5. Solitude 6. Bravery

[@AhmetKaan]

*To all the dreamers out there, don't ever let the world's negativity disenchant you or your spirit. If you surround yourself with love and right people, ANYTHING is possible.* 🙏🖤

[@temifaparusi4094]

Thank you

[@louvelvet]

Just a thought: you would be be an incredible teacher💕

[@mihirbapatwritings1234]

agreed 😌

[@ewe4493]

definitely!!

[@hannalunetta6766]

Imagine having Jade as a psychology teacher and student coach :)

[@dylantierney9362]

Agreed

[@mac.gaming]

Hey Jade! I wanna thank you for the content you're making, cuz my girlfriend is a HUGE fan of yours and you always bring a smile to her beautiful face 🥺 Thank you so much 🙏❤️

[@angelikahelmer1470]

This is so wholesomeeee🥺

[@sophyshort5405]

empathy, curiosity, love, growth, and stability it's interesting that i found each core value is interconnected with each other in a way!

[@Lou41038]

Me too, I got the same conclusion! Courage is connected with growth and health, love is connected with kindness/thoughtfulness...:)

[@majesticmyka]

this was such a fun exercise, I love the interactivity - my core values are creativity, liberty, empower, gratitude, and joy!

[@MoversGuild]

I did this exercise all the way through with you and I discovered that out of my initial core value picks of security, stability, structure, comfort, order, and control, I chose support. Because I realized I don't need to be comfortable or in charge, I just need to know someone is there to bail me out if I don't want to do it or hype me up if I do. Thanks.

[@stellwyn]

My core values: 1. Playful curiosity 2. Bravery 3. Truth and honesty 4. Stability 5. Compassion

[@PrettyLittleMrsFitz]

Working out my core values (altruism, connection, personal growth, well-being) a few months after graduating was life changing for me - life is so much more peaceful when you’re living in alignment with your values. It helped me figure out where to concentrate my efforts looking for a job and resulted in a fulfilling career I love. It’s also a really useful tool when I’m find anything difficult; I can so much more easily identify why something is challenging me and what I can do to overcome that. Would recommend everyone finding theirs out💛

[@spencerjmt]

This is great, I think mine are: certainty, dependability, learning, openness/honesty, welcoming.

[@livi-faye]

I love these guided journal sessions so much!! I think my core values are balance, independence, knowledge, passion and love.

[@shraddhanipurte639]

This was so amazing! I learned a lot about myself. My core values are: Ambition, Compassion, Determination, Growth and Empathy.

[@e-senpai9240]

My core values are honesty, learning, curiosity, openness, and growth

[@onwards.and.upwards]

This was awesome!!! Mine were: connection, enjoyment/ enthusiasm (couldn’t find the right word for it lmao), growth, and achievement

[@enna2143]

1. contribution: i want to have a positive impact on people/the world 2. freedom: i want to be able to experience many things 3. motivation: i want to be doing things i love and feeling motivated to continue 4. optimism: i want to have high hopes for the future 5. balance: i never want to sacrifice one core value over something else

[@emmasofiabultsma3389]

My core values are 1. Communication (especially with my loved ones) 2. (Self-) Development (In all areas of my life. Knowing that everything is a process and certain things need time to fall into the right place). But on the other hand actively trying to do your best to make things develope (If that makes any sense) 3. ALWAYS listen to my intuition 4. Gratitude 5. Inner peace and balance

[@looking_for_hope]

1. balance (physical and mental health, productivity: work and rest, calm, mindfulness) 2. communication & support 3. development & growth 4. exploration! 5. self-love

[@YenaShah]

This video is going to be my reward for spending the day productively today. Thank you Jade ❤️ love you and the positive you radiate ❤️❤️❤️

[@juliabechrodriguez2833]

I've always feel so inspire after watching your videos, they're my motivation to start looking out for myself even more, to try to prioritize my needs and my mental health, they're just lovely and peaceful.

[@ellie-wv4hl]

God I LOVE this video. I'm 23, spent a lot of time being bitter and sad - mainly because I didn’t have a set of core values or sense of purpose. You're so wise beyond your years, wish I had a video like this a few years ago. 🌸💕

[@mercyapolot7757]

I loved this exercise so much. It really made me realize what matters the most to me. My core values are: Health, Spirituality, Growth, Generosity and Discipline❤️☺️

[@rashmi12354m]

Mine are family, gratitude, growth, wisdom and optimism. Thank you Jade for this lovely video, love from Australia 🥰

[@sofiaelizarova2448]

1. Growth and self-discovery: always learning more about myself and the world, improving, developing into a better and more content human 2. Connection and love: directed towards myself, my friends, family, significant other and the world in general 3. Enjoyment: eating tasty food, being in beautiful places, enjoying my job 4. Purpose and achievement: to me finding a purpose, such as writing a book and working towards it is hugely important 5. Energy: feeling alive, being passionate, resonating with the energy of the place and people around me

[@yoanareads]

commitment, grace, passion, uniqueness, learning.

[@fionapolgari48]

This video came out a year ago but this is what I came up with for my core values: 1. Mental & physical health 2. Growth & awareness (I feel like these go hand-in-hand) 3. Openness 4. Connection & compassion Also: Would I ever sacrifice these, or have I when I was really stressed? The short answer is yes, I have. For example during burnout I definitely sacrificed my physical health and growth, but I also believe that practicing things that were aligned with these values brought me back to myself and made me feel alive again. Because of this, I still believe that these are my core values. I think living every day of our lives according to our values is a huge pressure, because sometimes it's very hard to stick to. You could say that if it's so hard to stick to, then they're not your core values, but I still feel like they could be. We're not perfect, and sometimes the values that resonate with us most are the things we need to work on a lot, but feel so so rewarding to us when we do practice them.

[@alottoftea]

I would say that my five core values are: 1. Growth 2. Connection 3. Health 4. Security and 5. Honesty. I love this video! Thank you. 💖

[@AmberWoodMusicx]

I love reading others’ comments and feeling so inspired by Jade’s series & her energy and attitude. Thank you, Jade 🦋

[@frazzyblue1384]

My core values according to this are (in order): 1. Trust 2. Growth 3. Understanding (and wisdom) 4. Connection (ie love) 5. Achievement

[@hannalunetta6766]

My core values: Growth, self-reliance & confidence, optimism & graditude, harmony & love, acceptance (for others and anything i can't change/influence)💛💛💛

[@benedettarega6023]

Thank you Jade for showing us your inner (and outer) beauty and sharing your ideas

[@juleslifeinJapan777]

Ahhh, I don’t know how to describe it but you are a safe space

[@nataliyasattarova9423]

Thanks for a great video, your channel is on of my favorites! I recently noticed that if i don't live by my core values i feel unhappy. Right now i am balancing work and evening classes, and i feel so happy and motivated. Such a drastic change after times when i just laid in bed after work

[@danaechristerson2708]

connection, growth, meaning, passion, wonder

[@magdalenapietruch4546]

My core values are: 1. Insight 2. Self-security and confidence that allows me to be sincere with myself and others 3. Communication, connection and compassion 4. Growth 5. Presence and dedication I found it interesting that they passed all the test questions but one, the "Have I sacrificed these in times of stress?" question. I find that under a lot of stress I tend to sacrifice them, especially the 5th - presence and dedication, which to me is necessary to feel happiness and see meaning in anything, and then gradually with more stress I sacrifice other ones, too. I wanted to share this observation because I feel like this is an interesting starting point for getting better at dealing with stress - remembering your core values!

[@marijapaskeviciute365]

Thank you for sharing, I especially like seeing confidence as something that helps to connect with others, not only as something to feel better about yourself. I will rethink how I see confidence.

[@sophiesmith3195]

Whatever jades career or job is in the future I hope it involves teaching because shes so natural and amazing at it!!

[@annika4959]

Mine are family, accomplishment, happiness, certainty and comfort💛

[@miroticfashion]

I'm 27, and you have no idea how useful this vid was for me, thank you ❤

[@parinitaray1071]

I really enjoy watching your videos. ❤️ My core values are accomplishment, creation, happiness, growth , independence and reflective. 😄

[@Nina-rv4sz]

Jade, thank you so much for this video! I already knew something about core values & living accordingly, but it wasn't until this video that I suddenly realized that these values are the reason that connections with people are easier or more difficult. Moving forward, I'll focus more on people with similar values to live my best life! :)

[@amritarosa8243]

i loved this so much! my core values are: growth, connection, equality, mental & physical health, and enjoyment

[@rajshreepardeshi_]

Awwww, Omg, Thank you soo much for this beautiful video, My Lovee !! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THISS AND I LOVE YOU SOO MUCHH MY ANGELLL !! SENDING YOU LOADS OF LOVEEE, BLESSINGS, POSITIVE ENERGY AND BIGG HUGSS !! MAY GOD BLESS YOU SOO ABUNDANTLY BABE !! YOU’RE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL, AMAZING AND LOVELY SOULL BABE !! ❤️❤️❤️🥺🦋

[@alaakhalifa209]

girl for real, thank you. my core values are: my mental health, the connection & love, growth, gratitude. summer of self is the best thing that happened to me recently, I can't stress enough about how grateful I am, THANK YOU!

[@KISO707]

I can really recommend "7 habits of highly effective people" by Steven Covey! It's not only about finding your core values but also about living in integrity with them (among other things!). I absolutely love it and find it highly inspiring. Thanks for "summer of self", Jade - i really enjoy it!

[@nurulistic]

Mine are: 1- Ambition and Hard Work 2- Growth and Improvement 3- Contentment 4- Peace

[@annisw6387]

capable, knowledge, originality, development, independence So I didn't think "capable" would be on my list of 10 when I started but now I have realised it is my most important value. Also I'm loving reading everyone else's core values in the comments because it is so interesting seeing how different people can be in ways I sort of didn't realise they could be?

[@hoai-linhnguyen5975]

hey jade, this video was so inspiring and helpful, thank you

[@lucy_woodward]

loved this, really helpful journal prompts jade! my core values are: 1. connection (to myself, others & nature) 2. honesty (being my true self unapologetically) 3. intuition (listening to my gut feelings) 4. gratitude (imo, the key to happiness) 5. balance (mental balance, balanced lifestyle & a balance in how I spend my time)

[@ethankewin3576]

I’ve read your book the only study guide you’ll ever need Just want to thank you I’ve been struggling with exams in year 9 and just as I came out with not so great grades I feel I’ve lost positivity in learning but when I read this book the amount of motivation and understanding from a younger other opened my eyes to how I will see exams sooner So thank you 🙏

[@hannahkaye.mp4]

1. Self Care (not necessarily health, just knowing what I need and making sure I feel good) 2. Emotional Connection - With myself, with others, the importance of feelings and relationships 3. Creativity and Passion - channeling thoughts to create art, storytelling 4. Peace and Serenity - feeling calm and grounded mentally, and positive sensory experiences 5th value tbd

[@chehidanour8825]

Thank you for this serie Jade❤️✨

[@zman1182]

my values are connection, potential, individuality, empathy, vision, and wisdom

[@LauraFernandeez]

I got a notebook and actually sat here trying to figure out my core values. I ended up with: Passion, knowledge, connection, growth and optimism. Some were really hard to cut and I think all the ones in the top 10 really help guide my life choices. Excited to see how my list will change over the years.

[@juliaszabla8317]

mine were comfort, growth, independence, passion, and sincerity. i think all of them have been throughout my life except for growth is a new one but over the past few months/year a lot of my decisions have been based on a growth mindset so that value has made its way into my core.

[@mihirbapatwritings1234]

So many of the things you said hit hard 😌 because I never thought about them that way and it made me question a lot of things and learn so much. Thank you jade for this lovely series. Summer of self is such a bliss ☀️💖🦋 looking forward for more !!

[@marialuizadcn]

Hi Jade! I felt that I needed to leave a comment because this video was sooooo important and relevant to me. First, I love the fact that just because some values are in a higher position than others, it doesn't mean that these other values are not part of us or of our path in life. This idea made me feel comfortable to write down what I believe to be my core values, with less pressure. Second, after realizing my core values, I feel that I'm able to make better decisions in so many different aspects of my life, I feel very open to understand a little better what truly fulfills me and how to get it. So, thank you. It was really fun and also challenging doing this exercise. Lots of love, Malu

[@creativebuterfly9366]

it was really fun figuring this out, in the end i think these are mine: Comfort, stability, trust and equality

[@Livia-ze9ch]

wow, it's destiny! i've been thinking about my core values quite often in the past few days!

[@serendipitybath5364]

I'm really loving this series, honestly the highlight of my week

[@valentino1646]

This was so fun to do, and extremely introspective. Thank you Jade❤ Mine are: Connection, Peace, Truth, Curiosity and Justice.

[@koopi789]

you would maybe be a great social worker or something surrounding that :DD

[@valentino1646]

@@koopi789 I'm a law student now, I don't think I'm patient enough to fill the shoes of a social worker lol

[@arinajane]

Mine are creativity, curiosity, growth, joy and security🦋❤✨

[@anniefox23]

My Core Values: 1. Health & Well-being 2. Growth & Going outside my comfort zone 3. Intimacy & Sincerity 4. Open-mindedness & Love 5. Independence Thank you for such a lovely video, this was a great exercise! ✨

[@Tina-mi2ud]

this was so inspiring!!! 🌸🌟 it still took me so long and I found it pretty hard but I ended up with: 1) Connection and Conversation 2) Understanding and Empathy 3) Kindness and Love 4) Reflective and Independence 5) Giving and emotions so basically a typical INFJ lol :DD

[@Tina-mi2ud]

update one year later: i did ot all again and here they are: 1)growth 2)understanding 3)connection 4)experience 5)curiosity seems like connection and understanding is pretty important for me :)

[@PaxxtonFelix]

Thank you for sharing this video! I’ve learned a lot about myself and founded my Top 5 core values, thank you for this! continue to be a blessing to others through your videos❤

[@celesteggg316]

luv you so much!!! this whole series is so helpful for me! thanks!:)

[@AB-rp8eg]

i neeeeed a podcast from you on spotify omg. perfect for my 50 train trip to school everyday omg

[@verminlady]

Perception/clarity, hope, contentment, and transcendance are my core values

[@carolmi3337]

Hi jade just wanted to say that you save my life everyday, thats it, thank you for being you

[@lyphan308]

Honestly, in tough times, i used to give up all the things that are important to me. At that time, I felt like i need time to restart , i didn't know what should I do next and just lie on my bed and surf my social media lol 😂. But now, i tries my best to balance and enjoy my life as much as possible ❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰

[@justnyn2993]

Mine are: Balance, Confidence, Creativity, Optimism and Commitment. And I couldnt be more proud an fulfilled. This will help me sp much in the future. Thanks Jade ❤️

[@footballerzz7]

Thank you for all the positivity✨

[@sramanabanerjee9694]

ive struggled for so long trying to figure out what my values are...i never knew that this existed..this is absolutely life changing

[@danijane2819]

I really enjoyed doing this and it was just what I needed today!! My core values are: Love + connection, growth, honesty, balance and intuition (self-trust). They're reflected in all the major decisions in my life and I wouldn't change them for anything. Now I can make a pretty visual of them to put up on my wall!!! Thank you!

[@samiraschwannecke678]

I feel like very specific events and negative episodes have shaped me a lot and it was kind of hard to derive from that what feeling I craved in the context. Then I tried rewriting the most important experiences into positives only and then it kinda worked out. Also ditched the question about whether I would keep my values for 20, 50 years. My life is too in flux right now. I'm glad I was able to figure out what are my values at the moment. I tend to forget that change is possible so I won't push myself into thinking about my values as something so fixed (even if they maybe are). Anywhom. The outcome of 1,5h hours of reflection and video re-watching: Harmony, Meaning/Purpose, Security, Skillfulness

[@Lauraviw]

Thank you for always making this high quality content Jade ✨ wholesome as always, your videos truly enrich my life ♥️

[@officialbirdyt]

I just want to say, thank you for making these videos and sharing them with us all on the internet. You’re incredibly genuine and your messages have a positive impact. Thank you. I wish you the best always. From a stranger and friend :) x

[@Sunshine-yk2eg]

2:31 I just wanna point out that just because your current behaviour isn't in alignment with what you feel in your gut is your core value, then its okay! It's not that the value you're not living up to is not your core value, it's just that you're living in what psychologists call dissonance...so, be patient with yourself, find out what's making you fall into that negative habit loop even tho it makes you feel like crap (because it goes against your core values) and work on fixing it ❤ I guess you could say, if you feel 100% content with the way you are, it's your core value, and if you feel shitty, or maybe like you're doing something wrong, or you hate yourself for doing something, then its not your core value, it's just that you're ignoring what your real core value is, and hence why you feel so uneasy and uncomfortable with yourself. (So if someone is just super focused on their career and have no qualms about it, success is their core value. But if you're really focused on your career and saving up money so you can buy a house maybe, and you feel bad for not spending enough time with your family or not being more altruistic, then its coz success is not a core value for you, you are just giving it priority in that particular phase of your life)

[@inkypinkyponky23]

“If you feel grateful, you feel rich.” - Jade 2021

[@valj137]

What happens when one of your core values is impacting your life negatively? Watching this video I realised that my top core value is comfort. I'm only in my twenties but I'm already actively envisioning and preparing for the time when I can retire from work, which I'm dearly wishing to be soon. I love to lie in bed all day long and just chill and watch the scenery and listen to music and not have to bother about doing anything or interacting with anyone. Putting this into perspective, it doesn't do my life much good to always put comfort on top. I don't care about losing touch with people coz I prefer stressless quiet and solitude. I don't achieve my goals coz I would rather spend time relaxing than striving. I don't get things done, I don't create meaning. I merely want to just exist. My core value is at odds with the very machinery of the world and living.

[@gvantsamorchiladze9788]

Your videos help a lot, Jade! Keep doing amazing work💫

[@kulfei]

Ah jade!! You are lovely!! Been watching your channel for long and it keeps getting better and my favourite channel 🥺🥰❤️

[@lauracardillo4981]

Hi Jade! I would be really interested in learning more about this topic, do you have any book suggestions? Or even documentaries, articles.. whatever you think could be useful :) thanks, I love the way your channel is evolving. You don't even know who I am but I'm so proud of you 💕

[@OttoVanluchene]

Since English is not my first language it's also a cool list to translate and learn the meaning. You can do this for any language of course.

[@amandabrandt3471]

so excited to work on myself!! love to us all ✨🌈✨🌈

[@saoussenbouchelouh7394]

Imagine being a friend with jade then spend time with her charging yourself with positive energy/ asking for advice while having a problem that would be a huge change in your life style 😄

[@juliaherrmann6563]

I have 1. Passion 2. Curiosity 3. Freedom✨✨

[@annabellelaw518]

Love taking time to reflect on this! My core values are empathy, creativity/adaptability, community/connection, sustainability, and openness :)

[@MaryHopp]

this series is just so amazing!!!! Thank you so much, Jade! It is relaxing, fulfilling, and I see tons of preparation and energy put in these videos! Love from Russia (and the Netherlands in 3 days) xo xo

[@myrtila]

Beautiful video! I never even thought I needed this but I did! Turns out my core values are: thoughtfulness, growth, calm, individuality, intelligence

[@iheartjbgccb]

You helped me get through my first solo trip and motivating me to do big things while taking care of myself. Now my decisions will be easier because I know my core values! I wish we could be friends irl but thankful for you ❤

[@duisan8656]

Mine are health, family, friends, financial freedom/stability and inner balance.

[@SamaraMorgan1970]

I came up with these: Beauty, Excellence, Hope, Love, Purpose

[@koopi789]

open-mindedness, enthusiasm, connection, purposefulness and freedom

[@bluebellbeatnik4945]

great video and this is something I've started to realise. I'm less swayed by others if I acknowledge my values. Problem is, out in the street, I have to remind myself of them.