how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

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In this chatty video, I answer one of my most asked questions: how do I find my style and the confidence to wear what I want? I break it down into steps, from assessing what clothes you already wear the most in your wardrobe, to finding aesthetic inspiration, building a moodboard, and tips for going shopping and styling outfits.
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F A Q
what’s your name? ashley
what’s your instagram? @best.dressed
how old are you? 21 (born in 1998)
how tall are you? 5'5"
what’s your ethnicity? half british and half burmese
what equipment do you use to film?
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➭ editing: final cut pro
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[@myeahonline]

"From this fashion disaster, to this *fashionable* disaster" I STAN AN INTELLECTUAL

[@kittenlover1888]

First comment yooo

[@mercury7458]

high key me

[@mishripettinger6170]

@@mercury7458 same

[@lucygrace720]

Preach

[@jakemarlins6775]

First ty ... I need a car qickplease

[@Abby-vs1nx]

i hate those “wHo ArE YoU TrYiNg tO ImPResS” headass people lmao

[@ellatrentini2209]

Abby YES! Im dressing for myself now shut your mouth (the people that say that are the ones who wear sweats everyday 🥵)

[@sistershook232]

Well to those people I say myself and thank you for telling me I look good

[@panagiotis4805]

If you're getting comments like that, it means you're doing it right 💜

[@somebodysopinion543]

my mum tells me this everyday and my sisters LOL

[@alaebk7825]

Abby "AhA YoU hAvE a CrUsH!1!1!1!1"

[@theatrekid5898]

Does anyone else wanna assess their wardrobe but feels so guilty about getting rid of stuff cause you feel like u wasted ur money?

[@aaliyonnahrobertson5099]

sell it

[@hi-kt8jj]

gurl my style is "whatever my mom approves of" i'll GLADLY sell/donate my entire wardrobe no cap

[@hebebebe139]

I've decided to clear out most of my wardrobe and start nre besides a few favourite items and I'm only allowing myself to spend the money I make selling to get new clothes, and thrift it all

[@hi-kt8jj]

@@hebebebe139 where do you sell your clothes? i usually donate mine but idk what store would pay for used clothes

[@hi-kt8jj]

@@hebebebe139 oh ok thank you!

[@BeaR-gd8ll]

Anyone else actually love fashion but is not confident enough to wear anything because you don't want to look "overdressed" or get asked "wHo aRe yOu tRyInG tO iMpReSs?"

[@ananyasampathkumar3832]

ive been dressing up a little recently whenever i go out, and while my parents gave me those comments a lot, they eventually stopped. if you just power through, you’ll be fine. at some point, id be able to go to the mall in a ballgown if i wanted to, and my mom would just accept it.

[@Cam-fv5op]

Literally I wore a crop top and some jeans in which was a top my mom bought me and some jeans she gave me and she said who you tryna impress like you think I'm tryna impress the icecream in kroger or smthn😭

[@gabrielle6663]

"who are you trying to impress" literally me, its for me...and other cute girls but mostly for me

[@kio4173]

I've always been so insecure about that. Like, I would want to wear an outfit, but then in the back of my brain, im panicking if I'm overdressed or if it isn't the right occasion or if its even fit for the weather. It's a lot-

[@pandajoyd4992]

“Myself! I like wearing things for me :)” Also in my experience most people are really sweet and excited about how cute your clothes are :) and if no one is, you don’t dress for other people anyway. And if lots of people are excited, that’s great! But you don’t dress for them. My advice is to not get too caught up in making sure people like (or continue to like) your outfits. Have fun! And relax :))

[@Ktbolton2]

Ashley: does it reflect your personality Me: *existential crisis on what my personality is*

[@VictoriaMeira7]

Oof I felt that one

[@honeylavenderbakery]

oops

[@yc2877]

Katie Bolton me too

[@marinejoseph5304]

when you're a gemini so you've got 5 different personalities to reflect

[@bleuleuc6961]

Questions about my personality make me wonder if I even have one

[@irisl2359]

me : *wears a hat* social anxiety : *intensifies*

[@ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381]

me: wears anything other than hoodies and leggings social anxiety: *intensifies*

[@candy3974]

Me: has been wearing the same thing over and over and over again since I was 6 and wanting to be able to wear converse, shorts, ripped jeans, crop tops without being called fat by my parents while they also say I dress like a grandma Depression: *INTENSIFIES*

[@saalthmeme5280]

i wish i had the confidence to wear leggings😔😔

[@mochismom7572]

oim veuch ikr. If i where anything i usually dont no matter how cute i think it is i get insecure

[@brittneyearnshaw6015]

hahaha i felt this in my soul

[@cailynpope6167]

When you can't choose between grunge, cottagecore, and light academia.

[@polly1579]

I can't choose between dark academia, fairycore, and skater/surfer... :(

[@agirlcalledmist]

@@polly1579 beachy acedemic fairy that likes to vibe at skate parks BAM!

[@polly1579]

@@agirlcalledmist lol thank you!

[@mikuhidinginyourwifi5615]

mix mix mix

[@salonikullar3627]

OMG SAME

[@houseplant_3084]

I have a style I know my aesthetic BUT I have strict parents, therefore I am screwed

[@Filsan.fr13]

They would just look at me like is this my child then look back at there phone ._.

[@darnielladd6131]

Same. I'm expecting a major glow-up when I move out but you can wear things that have a flattering fit that doesn't need to be showing a lot of skin.

[@keyachy1657]

samee

[@b3atricks]

Yah me too

[@Trisha._3]

Same here

[@annalynpoulsen2077]

“it’s a 30 year old mom thing or a thing for 17 year olds” i feel attacked

[@astoldbyfrancia6003]

Same, I'm like only 24 sis 😂

[@misaamane6528]

I’m 13 oop

[@chronicallyVirgo]

Same, I'm 21 🙈

[@ricacallano4913]

same

[@charliecrow6817]

oof I'm 21 and addicted to pinterest, I felt attacked

[@emilyisawesome1455]

people: who are you so dressed up for? me: you never know where harry styles could be, karen.

[@connyspiess9665]

only aliferxus this is an incredibly underrated comment

[@dominiquesimonetan4187]

It's always the Karen

[@user-hb6mt9eq3t]

^^^

[@harrystyles1122]

I LOVE YOUUUU

[@elena-3172]

Yesssss, I only care about how I look because i want to look good if I see someone I Stan and I would have a cute picture with them.

[@matcha2953]

I sorta found my style through it and my mother described it as "Hello, yes I am an intern at my grandmother's workplace"

[@peterevans6480]

PFFT IM SORRY FOR LAUGHING BUT I LOVE YOUR MOM

[@indeedical26]

LMAOOO I AM SORRY

[@thatcrowkiddraws]

IM CRYING 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@paul8623]

Does this happen to anyone else? I try on an outfit, think its ugly, then keep changing something one by one until im in a completely new outfit. Then I just change back into my first outfit lol.

[@SalamanderMagic]

every fucking morning

[@rubymack5782]

yess

[@Cam-fv5op]

All the time🥲

[@pineapplec0ke]

Yeah lmao

[@Matrixxx.u]

My dying so fucking relatable 😅😂 i legit mess up my ENTIRE room, closet...just to go through hell cleaning it all up and wearing the same jeans and graphic tee 🥸

[@soobdragon2962]

Step one: look at your wardrobe Me: I have three black T-shirt’s and a pair of jeans, let’s get it

[@franny9344]

Highkey an underrated comment

[@lavellans]

I’m laughing so hard xD

[@violet-uv8xm]

FUCKING MEEEEE

[@sayuriando3379]

I have mainly black t-shirts. I have one piece of clothing in 3 different colours which I wear on hot days but I don't like the cleverage so I mainly wear them at home. In my wardrobe is a grey dress that I want to wear more but I don't know how which is still better than the grey-brownish woollen blazer that I got thanks to my mom [and she annoys me with saying that I should wear it more often]. It's warm enough that it only makes sense during cold days but at the same time moving my arm even a tiny bit means exposing my wrist to the cold. Yeah, the next time I go through my closet I cm going to get rid of it

[@ulisesescorza3323]

Oh yessss. I have a lot of plain shirts, and most of them are grey.

[@thelazygirllifestyle3562]

My coworker: "why are you dressed up today" Me: " I wanted to feel pretty today." That's all you need to dress up! Love yourself enough to Indulge in your fashion.

[@eva3173]

PREACH

[@geuresu]

true!!!!!! my friend asked me a few days ago why i was so chippy(???) dk what it means but then he explained that i was wearing my boots (and he didn’t point it out but he obv wanted to say something about me wearing a skirt but ok) and i rly didn’t know what to say so i was like... “cos it’s winter” like come on i don’t need to explain my outfit (sorry i made a little rant)

[@taniawew]

TheLazyGirlLifestyle lol😂

[@tenleyhanson1077]

this is me in the middle of the night wearing makeup and a fancy dress

[@card0qnyu]

11:30 I seriously felt this because I have had the same style of dark shirts, sweaters, jeans, and very bland clothes just because I've always been afraid to wear my preferred style OR I'm so weird about people seeing me want to change who I've been for so long. It's a sad view and I'm like ready to start changing a bit by bit, I'm seriously into fashion and I'm very thankful for this video. Cheers to finally dressing the way I have always wanted to, and to be confident enough to stand out 💕💕

[@onionpuddle8124]

me: wearing something that i want to wear and that fits my style my sister: you don’t look in that/ you can’t pull that off me: going back to wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts 24/7

[@klavi842]

oh my god me too

[@alllamalala9903]

You guys got this! Fashion is only about confidence, yall can slay it!

[@erinyes3943]

All I’m saying is that spite can be an amazing motivator-

[@jacquelinematte1663]

I hate judgement by sisters so I can sympathize

[@asr4405]

Sis are the biggest problem lol!

[@jonginisholy]

Ashley really is the big sister we all so desperately need in our insecure lives.

[@kristina-my5ws]

facts, life would be so much easier if she was my big sister lmao

[@marahdais9773]

so true

[@Meg_Lovegood]

2.2k of easy pickings...

[@zoerapanot]

Jongin is Holy this is actually the best description of ashely i’ve ever seen

[@rebekkalindknoph1557]

couldn't have said this any better

[@mj-zl7kf]

“who are you trying to impress?” is the most compliment-y/non-compliment-y/uncomfortable question ever

[@whitykitty2651]

It's just fun to wear what you want I don't understand how some people don't understand that

[@nikolinaninkovic6748]

Dude, I put on a dress and every fucker in my surroundings asks me that.

[@funkybugman]

My little cousin asked me that the other day, I just looked at her and said, “myself, honey life is too short, do things for yourself”

[@klompaca5934]

it's so awkward cause rn my friends think i am dressing up for my driving instructor (spoiler: i'm not. i am dressing up for myself)

[@duhberman]

Also things like "oh, look who's wearing (x item of clothing, ex. a skirt)!!! Like, pls stop, I feel weird already and you're not helping

[@rosalindwinneker8638]

Another tip I suggest is looking at movie characters who’s style you like. Since they exist in their little bubble of existence, they can’t change and follow current trends which more often then not, you follow cause you see a lot of people wearing and then get sick of.

[@kat08]

I would also totally recommend thrift stores when trying out a new style!! You can get a lot of pieces for cheaper and it's less of a risk if you end up not liking the style bc you didn't spend a ton of money on it

[@honeyhive2896]

*Picks out a cute shirt I like* Mom: YoU lIkE tHaT?😣 Me: *sigh* I guess not

[@vividd1186]

Oh my goodness it's the same with me😞 It's so sad honestly

[@rosiefoulston1635]

Don’t let that stop you!! ❤️

[@zakyiaclanton6877]

Same I’m like come on uhhh

[@angelacooper5681]

Ahh yes so true

[@renoirrr]

Why are parents still stuck in the past?

[@melissapilato6541]

I have anxiety, so whenever I wear clothing that I really love I become insecure and paranoid. that’s why I usually come back to the same boring clothes.

[@contactmyheart3296]

same 😔

[@kiaraw8297]

Be confident in yourself and the things you love to wear! Heck!,my own family talks bad about my style but idc because I love it 😻!!

[@goddessloretta776]

Me too.

[@bearsneezer1929]

I believe in u girl I do too but I’m slowly starting to change my style without stretching too far, so just swap baggy tees with tucked in tees that are pulled out halfway, for an example

[@Emma-ku6ql]

Kiara Walker HOW

[@maryeckberger5758]

I worked in fashion retail, please know we loved customers like you. Always smiling, making other customers smile and using fashion like the basic art it is.

[@ChicaneMedia]

I feel most people are lacking the confidence to be themselves because they aren't completely open towards how other people express themselves. What we personally find uncomfortable, we tend to think of negative thoughts first-hand because it's something different which feels alien to you. I feel that in order to be more confident you have to accept others for who they are and see everyone more open minded. That in hand makes you more comfortable wearing what you want because others see you being yourself and don't judge you for it

[@ivyk1050]

when my style is different from what i wear because 1.I have no confidence to wear it 2. im poor, no money to buy those clothes

[@fwelony5252]

Rightttt I’m looking on Aliexpress and ROMWE for clothes 😭

[@avery6648]

I agree with the first one so much 😭😭😭 I know what my style is and I can afford to buy most of the clothing I want but I’m too scared to wear skirts and dresses to school

[@madyv8620]

@@fwelony5252 me to, me to :( AND I STILL CANT AFFORD IT-

[@valeria3325]

Maybe try thrifting? It's pretty cheap and you can find pieces that you love

[@claireporter2416]

Vælærïå yes thrifting is amazing, but you definitely need to have the patience to flip through everything

[@oliviacoe7297]

bestdressed: "Is this clothing something that suits my personality?" me: "searches how to find out what your personality is video"

[@PS-bn6st]

There's videos and niche pictures about outfits for your zodiac, Meyers briggs, ennegram, fandom, Harry Potter house, etc

[@greta5835]

HAHAHAHA SAMMMMMEEE!😂

[@anoushka2946]

Sameeee ! 😂

[@AnjaliBakhru]

@@PS-bn6st the way i've done all of those things because i'm in a permanent identity crisis 😂

[@PS-bn6st]

@@AnjaliBakhru omg same 😂

[@trishsantiago4232]

i’ve found my style this quarantine yet i haven’t bought those clothes yet. i’m mostly inspired by kpop idols lol

[@haruutoee]

For anyone whos 13-18 years of age watching this video, IT WORKS. My confidence sky rocketed. PS: Have fun having a glow up! You deserve it

[@thegallantgangster577]

"what's your style?" *sweaters* "what do you wear?" *sweaters* "what's the fit?" *sweaters* "what colour palette?" *sWeAtEr-CoLoUr!*

[@helenaravens6812]

The Gallant Gangster I did NOT ask to be called out like this

[@coolperson4418]

Mee

[@AlciesWorld]

This is so funny 😂 😂😂😂

[@hariniobla422]

Sweaters have styles too! Turtleneck? Cowl neck? Mock neck? Tight? Loose? Drop shoulder? Long? Short? Crop?

[@thegallantgangster577]

AllyHiran 1215 gah i don't know these things! teach me 😂

[@malinasakamoto]

i have a style...i just don’t own anything that is that style

[@emerelisrohena7413]

Same

[@zay6744]

OH MY GOOODDDDDD SAMEEEEE 😭😭😭😑💀

[@d4n1ellaa]

I feel u

[@izzyykatherine]

Yoooooo same

[@j.drvnsk]

Sameeeee😫

[@lenalikescats6583]

Everyone : I know my style Me : **Cries in Fat**

[@rubymack5782]

nooo i hope u feel as beautiful as u are soon

[@Cam-fv5op]

Not fat, pretty and simply a bit bigger. I know it doesn't help having all this stick figure models and influencers and what not but you're like a normal human being 🙂

[@lenalikescats6583]

@@Cam-fv5op Awh ty!

[@Cam-fv5op]

@@lenalikescats6583 omg np

[@sophiagionis]

im kinda late but just know that beauty standards are absolute bullshit and the beauty industry is constantly making up "problems" in order for people to buy their "solution" products - nothing can take away from your own beauty and the only opinion that matters is your own :) i hope you're more comfortable with your body now, sending lots of love

[@doodlemort]

0:50 *goes over to dresser:* *sees black shirts, white shirts, and sweatpants:* oh..

[@tohruchan6093]

"Why're you all dressed up?" idk mum I just wanted to look cute but I guess I'll go change- I'll wait until I move out to do that thing we call fashion.

[@anjaanja6448]

Tohru Chan no you got this do your thing now:)

[@emijune2171]

I have the same philosophy about eating healthily oof

[@tohruchan6093]

@@emijune2171 I feel that. I don't know why some things just seem like you shouldn't them, even though you probably should and it's just normal???

[@sayuriando3379]

I slowly managed to change it more to my style but to be honest I still have a lot of clothes that belonged once to my sisters since I'm the smallest one and our mom doesn't accept reasons like it does not fit my style to go shopping for new outfits

[@shizotypical]

Why change tho? Nothing wrong with dressing nice if you want to!

[@hannahbanana6149]

Story: In high school I literally wore dresses every. single. day. Most people knew or people in my class just knew that I wore dresses every day. One day I showed up to school in jeans and I visited my friend in another class and she was like "you're wearing pants!!" and some random guy in her class looks over, and pops in like "I don't even KNOW you and I know you wear dresses every day" yeetin

[@lararibeiro3343]

i admire your motivation and the jeans day was a power move. well done

[@rymno7466]

It’s the opposite for me haha props to you for being comfortable wearing dresses to school.

[@emmarose9997]

every time i wear jeans random people are like no dress?? and if i do wear jeans it’s jeans flats and a blouse i wore a hoodie and jeans one day and my friends thought i was dying

[@ruth9077]

Haha I love that!! I wish it was warm enough where I am to do that

[@emilia3313]

Hannah Banana this was totally me in middle school! Except with skirts as well as dresses

[@lasutherlin9398]

It’s so nice to look at this after a few years and realize I did follow this advice. Thank you so much this really helped me dress in a way that gives me confident in myself

[@theprousteffect9717]

Understanding that your style journey is an ongoing process that is never fully complete, is really key. I have a terrible habit of wanting to curate the "perfect" wardrobe right now and buying a bunch of items all at once. I have since decluttered or don't wear most of what I've purchased over the past few years 😩 Your content is just so positive and inspiring! I wish I had known all of these things when I was young like you, and could have saved myself years of feeling unattractive and uncomfortable in my clothing. But I'm very grateful to have found your channel.

[@elliee.232]

"fashion disaster to fashionable disaster" is the transformation we all aspire to

[@sangeetha6979]

*me* : likes vintage clothing *every single person I know* : yOU DrEsS likE A grAndMa well atleast I'm trying karen

[@joanagutierrez7082]

Sangeetha at least not like your grandma, karen

[@arson8265]

Sis you already one

[@arson8265]

@karen

[@zahrasultan6460]

I call it "grandma chic"

[@evelyn-bz7hv]

Joana Gutierrez well yeah, she’s not going to dress like a gHoSt

[@ThatOneLadyOverHere]

Me: starting a new instagram to try to redefine my style that I haven't updated in years Me: liking elements of vastly different styles Also me: "No Instagram, I don't want to be a witch, wear dreadlocks, or be a fancy country girl." Instagram: visible confusion

[@aflowercloud]

The second waves starting here and I am going on my second marathon of all of Ashley's videos and I am so freaking proud that my teenage self discovered her cause I am rewatching all of these videos and realising wWOW!!

[@artisticsoulless]

me: putting together a dope outfit for school also me: realizing it is way to extra and that i cant pull it off because who do i think i am

[@memequeen5026]

a big fat MOOD

[@ellagibbons1416]

exactly

[@coainc]

ok i’m gonna be cheesy and say that i’m 100% sure you can, it’s all about confidence. go wear whatever you want and just know that you rock it

[@hamnahfareed931]

SAME.

[@goyangeden9891]

hey wear it ! you're you that's all you need to be to wear an extra outfit !

[@klc2834]

So like, referring to step one, what if I hate all the clothes I own?

[@-t9214]

KLC 28 me

[@hium8716]

Same. All of them are like Walmart and target kid clothes because there cheap . Crap didn't think this comment would blow up but also all I basic own is a couple good shirt , shorts, and jeans and I'm still stuck with my cat clothing from last year lol

[@adriananoriega]

BRO same. I have one pair of shorts I like

[@jaycrawford752]

Same

[@casevids818]

Same. I’m here to fix my style because the only thing I wear is a t-shirt and shorts

[@AshlynnHerondale]

this video is so helpful and i love how she talks about finding the confidence to actually fit your style 🥺

[@shannongabriella]

dressing up and looking stylish and good is so fun!! it gives me an enormous amount of happiness and confidence that not a lot of people in my life can “give”, especially during this quarantine period :))

[@nosir0174]

me, in corona lockdown: oh! this'll pass the time!! her: track what you wear every day and it'll show your style me in pj's because i have no reason to get dressed: oh.

[@thechattycavy1551]

Stella Saridis lol same

[@mea5989]

So totally only do this if you want to, but if you have work to do during this quarantine like, maybe working from home or going to school, getting dressed will actually make you more productive. This is called embodied cognition (well, this is a subset of embodied cognition called enclothed cognition, but same diff) and it's really helped me do my school work :)

[@floorberendsen3567]

Ha I get dressed every day to at least try to be productive but it ends up being the same two outfits in rotation

[@thechattycavy1551]

Mea I get dressed but it’s mainly lounge wear that I get dressed in now

[@PS-bn6st]

Mood

[@sally-annehunt8820]

I can just imagine Ashley dragging in all those houseplants from around her house just to have them in the frame and you know what...? Me too Ashley. Me too.

[@bestdressed]

the tragic part is that i own so many plants that i didn't even have to move any into frame.. those are just the usual plants that hang out in my mirror corner

[@sally-annehunt8820]

@@bestdressed Hahaha I hope one day I own so many plants that I end up having 4 in the same corner

[@cebulsoon8232]

relatable. cuz we care in this house. WE CARE

[@littlemaniacinmyhead]

The one and only helpful video about style on youtube! I keep coming back, rewatching it every so often ecpecially when I feel lost in my own style. Much love to you girly!

[@sugarhoneyicedtea9704]

Sections ✨ 1. Asses current wardrobe (0:50) 2. Finding inspiration (2:48) 3. Create a moodboard (5:58) 5. Shopping (7:30) 6. Practise (8:23) 7. Confidence (10:52) 8. Fashion is subjective (13:32)

[@minhyuksssmile]

Thank you😊

[@davidcamus3385]

So the real question is am I allowed to just rotate 7 Hawaiian shirts and call it good?

[@smackmyassandcallmecharlie4579]

Yes father

[@avalena444]

David Camus absolutely my dude

[@izzyfrost647]

it’s a Look

[@annikabrug]

That's me tho

[@Venus-zn3qo]

Yes indeed splendid man

[@sarahbear2928]

I remember wearing dresses my freshman year and everyone would be like 'oh what's the occasion'. I would say 'there isn't one, I just wanted to show my cankles ok'. Lol

[@geengengena]

Sarah bear same experience! "Are you going on a date?" uhhhh no

[@dianneperico]

All the damn time I get this comment in school. We only have one day to wear our preferred outfits since we have school uniforms, I wear plain longsleeves, croptops and other super casual for me and still some just can't let me be 😌😂

[@zahara1115]

I’m a very confusing person and often I’ll go from a hoodie and sweatpants one day to a dress and stilettos another 😂

[@emijune2171]

Same, a lot of my friends had this happen to them. We're just on another level 😉

[@monsta6144]

I used to have a thing for blazers & shirts so when I was walking in hoodie filled corridors at school, ppl mistook me for a teacher all the time. (shirts I still love so much I will be buried in one so crisp you could cut someone with it and so bright it'll temporarily blind you if you look directly at it lol)

[@sushidashi6152]

I used to watch your videos in awe, like, I could never be that fashionable or confident. I'm 21 now and I can't believe that I'm finally finding my own style and curating my closet with the help of your videos.

[@sarasicus]

Genuinely thank you so much for this. I've spent so much time buying random thrifted clothes that I just kind of like. This really helped me think about what I really like wearing and it helped find my personal style. I ended up clearing out 75% of my wardrobe, selling and donating it all, and then buying clothes I actually would wear and love. You probably won't see this but thank you Ashley!

[@vophie]

My tip is, don't be afraid to be "basic" and to wear ordinary or common clothing, you don't have to be unique to be incredible

[@orangew.3055]

Yash

[@m_mmko]

Sophie Williams This!

[@annabanana1141]

Sophie Williams i been wanting the fila disruptors but i’ve seen so many people roast them & i don’t want to be flamed on

[@bethb9926]

I felt like a badass wearing a plain tank top with black leggings and a white jacket with (more black) sneakers. So, this!! Yes.

[@soapy2587]

this...i always like to wear bright colors and eye attracting stuff because i thought basic clothes were boring but recently i have experimented with basic crop tops & jeans and i find that it really flatters my body :>

[@Sisuchkaaa]

my style is just: going to the mall with my mom and i end up hating my mom...

[@susannalinshalm5638]

Your're not the only one. The problem is that my friends don't really help, either and I'm not confident enough to buy clothes on my own.

[@aetosia6490]

Why is that such a mood

[@ravn_73]

Sameee my mom forces me into dresses and I I littarly only were jeans 👁👄👁

[@rskjghdaljf]

Same, she always says I need basic t-shirts. I want to get into Gothic Lolita fashion. If I find a cute blouse or something, she says it looks like old lady clothes T-T

[@skiesky6224]

Damnn i feel you

[@vcmickey]

watching this again in 2021... love you so much Ashley!! thank you for being so sincere and encouraging and vulnerable. you made a difference in the way I view fashion :)

[@lifeisgood9889]

Hey, Ashley, you’ve been a major inspiration for me in finding my sense of style. And I definitely agree that confidence takes time. I personally think of confidence as a skill, one you have to practice to get better at. These days, I wear a superhero cape to class, because it’s fun. And it makes me very happy. I’m glad I got to see this video, because it was very helpful

[@juneritter31]

“You shouldn’t have to change for your clothes” wow that hit hard

[@juneritter31]

Marielle makes senseee

[@kelseybradbury1241]

suddenly i don’t speak english

[@m.kjordan5449]

Ur pfp-💀😂

[@laragrove75]

*me having lost 10 out of the 20 pounds i need to fit into my new wardrobe* : 👁️👄👁️

[@negg7046]

*cough* brAndy

[@Janelou42]

There is a style I like, but that style doesn't like me.

[@sara-vf5xz]

I felt this 😔 I really like a couple styles but they don’t work with my skin color, height, or build

[@nuriam.1598]

@@sara-vf5xz same. I like korean fashion, and a bit of cottagecore but I'm not a tall skinny girl :/

[@ThatOneLadyOverHere]

@@sara-vf5xz the skin color thing is just a matter of adjusting the colors slightly so that they match your skin color. Do you have warm or cool skin? If you don't know what I'm talking about then look it up, there's plenty of resources for helping you understand it and figure it out. Took me a while, but I have warm skin color and I love purple, but the purple that is typically sold is too blue and washes me out, eventually I realized that when purple is more red looks amazing on me. Just small adjustments to any color and you can make it work.

[@bbeach5675]

Everyone should love their own style or maybe u don't have any style but that doesn't mean you are guilty or boring type person .....It simply means "just stand on your feet and buy all clothes that you love and wear it even though it doesn't look good on you..bt still wear it"and and and specially if you love western clothes bt cannot wear it ..then it's ok ....bc hiding our body is wayy better than showing off body!

[@urvimande]

I feel you I'm fat so nothing really looks good on me (especially in my eyes)😂

[@aastha8034]

I really love how Ashley just increases our confidence by her amazing personality. Most of the times, we are all surrounded by people who either judge us for our style or are more stylish than us which makes us insecure as hell! I accidentally stumbled upon Ashley's channel a few days back and I am OBSESSED! She's natural, friendly and just amazing. I feel my fashion improving already. Thanks a lot Ashley!

[@thejazzpianist25]

I love how you say it takes time and you have to be patient and that you're not just born with perfect fashion this is so helpful

[@mer4738]

When I put together a nice outfit that really makes me feel comfortable and "100% my style" i take a pic of the whole look and save it to an outfit album on my phone gallery, when i don't know what to wear i just check these outfits and mix the pieces then come up with a few new ones! maybe this advice could help someone

[@isabellap9703]

Mer Vargas omg!! i do that too and it’s so helpful

[@zoereid782]

That’s so SMART

[@Marie02605]

Ooo I love this tip

[@jello8867]

Fricken genius

[@duckcylinder9903]

i do that! its very helpful

[@RosyPosyGirl]

Damn Ashley, stop improving my life so much. I might end up an actual person instead of a potato

[@jadyn.nicole6336]

I felt that

[@beatriztandrea]

Damn I really felt that

[@LaLaChole8714]

Yes😂👏🏼

[@saana5422]

when you said 🥔, I felt that🥺

[@veisnthere9]

So true 👏

[@rubyxx9803]

"move the clothing that you've worn that week" me: my school uniform lmao

[@karinasoch612]

I love how she's so confident and funny talking about something that really passionate her

[@dodo-sr8jp]

Ashley is only KZbinr who gives tips that I actually follow because they're actually useful and researched. This is quality content.

[@lilpoppy1328]

True😬

[@ibenengberg6713]

try watching some of AlexandrasGirlyTalk's videos, I love ashley as well, but if you are looking for more with real tips, try her :))

[@furrylego643]

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[@TheMsPants]

I just just thinking 'this girl is very clever and I would actually follow her advice !'

[@Whxmsa]

“why are you so dressed up?” im not. i just don’t feel like wearing pants :/

[@theunicorn1167]

Fun Fact: If you don‘t have enough motivation and are in a bad mood so you don‘t want to search two pieces of clothing, wear a dress, people will think you‘re dressed up even tho you were just too lazy to match two things.

[@emmarose9997]

i hear this all the time i wear a wrap dress denim jacket and converse most day i wear a girly casual thing everyday my friends think i dress up too much

[@sydneysonnleitner2680]

that hits lmao

[@paprika8334]

EXACTLY! I love dresses because I don’t have to wear pants and it’s SO comfy

[@leja9380]

@@emmarose9997 lmao ikr it's insane

[@rebeccaribnick4119]

This was awesome! Loved the practical tips and the talk about the real feelings of vulnerability and confidence that go with it. Thanks girl!

[@alicetsui7108]

Wow this was such a helpful video. Thank you for breaking it down in a way that doesn’t shame people for not knowing wtf they’re doing!!! I’ve been wanting to upgrade my wardrobe for a while now and only recently realized I just...don’t have a cohesive style. My style is food shirts and shorts lol. It’s fun and I love some of the things I have but I’m also outgrowing my wardrobe and I just want to feel more put together for myself, and MINIMIZE my closet too. I’ve felt so at a loss for where to start because I don’t think I naturally have an eye for fashion. This video was awesome. Thank you. ❤️

[@gracedsouza9067]

Ashley: Find Inspiration Me: Goes to KZbin and types bestdressed

[@sara-qq5cl]

🤪🤪

[@krivente6571]

Same

[@juliakirkham841]

I don’t wanna like bc ur at 666 lmao

[@angelonyugen2145]

Sorry but it’s over...

[@asperkin4665]

Cuteeeeee same

[@mielynotcyrus]

*"Does it reflects your personality"* Me: Which one?

[@carmelinatown]

HAHA

[@A.n.a.s.t.a.s.i.a.]

Relatable

[@ior1379]

As a Gemini, yes

[@AabhaDeshpandeaod]

the louis Tomlinson profile photo, I see taste

[@yeseniab6219]

@@ior1379 literally!

[@soyadise6235]

Me: *found my style Wallet: yep, dreaming is absolutely free.

[@ariskremcallac6720]

I can totally relate to the "there's no one close to me that I feel appreciates my fashion style" and it's so hard to change your style cause I feel like it not something that I should do cause it's different from how people see me.

[@Anika-tc6ih]

I used to be a confident little girl Puberty what a funny little thing

[@strawberriec]

Same

[@LiliLala1991]

this video is quite 1. informative 2. clear 3. motivating 4. inspiring !

[@taniawew]

Диана Ганеева ikr

[@eliechch5324]

And aesthetically pleasing

[@PreeyaSharma]

I read this in her voice lol

[@janiebb98]

and well-edited!

[@nesrinedekkiche6490]

-wholesome

[@lefty_lck]

Thank you so much for this bubble of positivity ❤️

[@vicriosRN]

Such great tips and encouragement. Thank you 🥺 trying to gain the confidence to dress how I want to!

[@rosesndthorns]

Me: wants to buy that thing that really fits my style and calls my heart. Thing: is $300 Me: *blinks* Edit: wow glad I’m not alone 😭

[@jenniferbordignon954]

Elsa thrift shops!!!

[@jenniferbordignon954]

Elsa oh and also depop!

[@jksbananamilk]

Jennifer Bordignon I can never find anything good in thrift shops 😩

[@Celestialperils]

Go to multiple thrift shops! Consignment!

[@jessicakay3695]

Try stores like Ross, TJMax, Winners, and outlets like Dillard’s Clearance Outlet (you can get high quality name brands for cheap prices) hope that helps 💕

[@muripu206]

“step 1: assess your wardrobe.” me: *looks at 2 shirts and 1 pair of jeans that i own*

[@aachal9852]

Lmao

[@francescakyanda9182]

*looks at collection of Star Wars shirts*

[@katelyn2876]

i don't even have jeans asgklsjdf

[@luisacoms6532]

omg thats me lol

[@cleetus_]

*looks at cute tops that are too small, too big, or that i dont have the confidence to wear and settles on a oversized hoodie from six months ago*

[@mynamehere3906]

her: "ur girl loves organization" Me: VIRGO HELLO THERES A VIRGO IN THE HOUSE

[@j.a.489]

YESSSS VIRGOS UNITE

[@Cool-jt1br]

You are really gentle and chill

[@Doeneseya]

*“Fashion Disaster to Fashionable Disaster.”* 😭😹💗

[@mikazvis6231]

me: *goes to men’s section* mom: Are you lesbian? Why do you like this? *proceeds to lecture* me: ...i just really like men’s sweaters?

[@mushroompoet]

Omg yeah like i want actual pockets leave me alone

[@destroyer6945]

I occasionally go to the men's section and I'm bi, soooo....

[@chimmyeatingkookies8419]

Im the same! I love mens jumpers and people always question it. Theyre nice, compfy, oversized, etc. mens clothing (jumpers and tops especially) are so comfortable!

[@lonelyghost1851]

same omg

[@kalenakien8036]

omg same. sometimes i buy boy’s jeans/men’s jeans because the legs fit me better ;(

[@genesisagosto8302]

You have inspired my fashion choices and journey so much. Thank you for being you!🥰❤️

[@dan-tz9dl]

i only recently started to put effort in the way i present myself, and i found that small steps help a lot. i remember the first time i was wearing a jean jacket at school instead of some random hoodie and i was so nervous (for no reason at all??). then a girl in my class complimented my jacket (idk if she was being genuine or not) and i got a huge confidence boost

[@dithmith6593]

Me: *holding a shirt that I like* My parents: ...you like that? Me: no i just carry clothes around in a clothing store -_-

[@MeMe-rj4zr]

ilovedogs omg I love ur profile picture 💜

[@dithmith6593]

@@MeMe-rj4zr Aw thank yoou

[@chimmyeatingkookies8419]

😂😂💜

[@osfnzusjwnnoudisn7601]

Nice pfp👍💜

[@dithmith6593]

ARMYs unite under the comment section 😂💜

[@kaylasanchez1228]

*me having 2 tee shirts "Ah yes, time to assess"

[@rat7465]

Lmao me

[@eden-.-3483]

The only reason I'm here is because my mom told me I need more clothes. But I'm not sure what my style is yet so I just get some stuff and kinda forget I need clothes.

[@honeyheaven482]

{ kaylapitter } I felt that 😔

[@lauraduca125]

I feel attacked

[@ari-xn5dr]

same i wear the same sweatpants and hoodie every day

[@patricia27968]

Love the discussion about being confident

[@yvettekim9185]

Rewatching Ashley's videos just to hear her talking again🥲

[@yesicastefanie]

the only two problems about finding my style: 1. don’t have the money for it 2. don’t have the body for it

[@rosesfromseptember517]

Go to a thrift store or a second hand store! So many gems from so many different styles haha

[@hunterkristina9106]

Yesica Stefanie the money struggle is so real

[@salmalk6737]

Same

[@hunterkristina9106]

elf bugs there are also apps like poshmark and depop which sell second hand

[@user-dm5sd6qz6j]

You just don’t know yet what types of clothes is great for your body

[@nithiyaakarunakaran8319]

I WANT A 3-HOUR VIDEO ON YOUR ENTIRE CLOSET PLEASE AND THANK YOU

[@cheruwong2075]

Nithiyaa Karunakaran same

[@diywithparnika689]

She made a video with everything in her closet already! :)

[@nithiyaakarunakaran8319]

DIYwithParnika haha yeah i know but wasn’t that like 7 months ago, and knowing ashley and her thrift-addiction she must’ve gotten something new - also i want three hours not 7 minutes, haha :)

[@ratking6668]

Yess

[@alexmacnab-stark8593]

DIYwithParnika I went through that video on the slowest speed to look at all those clothes 😂

[@harharharlee9308]

You can really hear the passion in your voice

[@adaholt1915]

I love you so much please never stop making videos, you're saving my fashion sense

[@femmefa7ale]

I get the "oh you dressed up today" or the "who are you dressing up for" question from my mum all the time and it makes me feel like crap honestly. Like why can I not dress nice sometimes? What's the issue with it? Stfu

[@littlesmile43]

I found a solution for that : I dressed up everyday to school. Like literally everyday. It officially became my style,being dressed up with dresses, heels, blazers, etc. And then, people became used to me experimenting with my style and my clothing. Granted, it's quite a lot of effort but lemme tell you, it's so cool to have someone come to you and say "I saw this pink jacket and I immediately thought of you because this shade of pink is YOUR shade"

[@Demi.d3mi]

Especially if u wear a skirt or dress, anything directly feminine when every other woman in your fam wears guy clothes or pajamas🙃

[@adeleisnamedafterme]

Be respectful to your mum

[@fernanda9934]

same, why can’t I just dress up to make MYSELF feel nice and it doesn’t always have to be for a guy or im trying to impress someone. i live in a mexican house hold lmao and when I try dressing nice my parents always say “a donde tan peinada” lmao💀

[@larissaleigh4488]

There is literally no problem with someone being curios as to why you are dressing up especially if you usually don't. And its stupid that that makes you feel like crap because its just a simple question, and no one ever said you cant dress nice sometimes

[@kiirolicht]

My issue: scared of looking like overdressing/being extra loooll cuz i sometimes i like polished styles (like buttoned shirt, slacks, loafers) but most people in my class wears hoodie/tshirt and jeans :/

[@gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042]

omg do it hunny!!!! i used to wear oxfords and button ups with a slim jean jacket! no one cares, express yourself!

[@coolperson4418]

Same hereeee

[@tamani2514]

Do it! I used to wear skinny high waist jeans with Tshirt so like really basic and stuff and it never felt right. It was okay but not RIGHT. Now I wear (extremely) ripped, Jeans, oversized Tshirt and men's sweater, stuff like that and since this change I feel so much more comfortable and it feels more like myself. You'll find people loving you for beeing that extra. Don't hide in the crowd be special!

[@thegallantgangster577]

that's me exactly. i feel like i'm going to stand out because my entire school wears sweats and sweatshirts, and i want to wear a skirt and blouse and clothing that makes me look nice.

[@evelyn-bz7hv]

Be confident!!!

The Jimmy Fallon vs Lady Gaga part is actually so important and I feel special

[@savannahsawyer5778]

This was so well said and I thank you very much because you just described everything I’ve been trying to put together about my style or lack there of for the moment.

[@lyssamary5845]

When her necklace broke, the CC said " *goes through all five stages of grief* " haha I love it :')

[@reehufflepuff9909]

Lyssa R Me when when I have to put in the *slightest* bit of effort into anything

[@softmongreal2522]

Ashley should start a podcast. I swear she's such a good motivational speaker and a smart ass person I wish to hang out with. Her cool style & understanding of things just calms me down because finally, I'm not the only one struggling here, even Ashley who's a famous girl with a wonderful fashion sense is still struggling sometimes. WE NEED ASHLEY TO MAKE PODCASTS. LIKE HARDER SO ASHLEY CAN SEE AND NOTICE OUR PLEA!! PODCASTS!!!

[@hamnahfareed931]

Yup, u stole my words.

[@Julia-ws9pq]

Omg yesss

[@cath5137]

i would 100% listen to her in the morning while i’m getting ready lol💖

[@hamnahfareed931]

@@cath5137 sameeeee

[@AllisonLee0110]

Oh my God yes, she can talk about so many things and her voice ugh I can just listen for hours!!

[@uNL4m3nt3d]

Thank you so much for this video. I've always felt worthless and think that I never deserve to live the best life because I am ugly. Your video literally saved my life.

[@caitlinsampson6390]

Thank you so much for this. Being 13 and trying to find what my style is and what person I am this really helped. 😊