How to Flip Anxiety on Its Head With 2 Words - Break the Anxiety Cycle in 30 Days 19/20

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There is a simple shift you can use to transform your anxiety in two words. In this video you’ll learn how to do it. There is no physiological difference between anxiety and excitement. Inside your body, it’s the same physical response- cortisol, adrenaline, etc. rapid breathing, increased heart rate. You can flip a switch in your brain, when you say “bring it on!” I actually want this! Let’s go!” That transforms your experience. In this video you’ll learn how you can use two words to transform anxiety into confidence.
So a lot of times when someone is anxious, the advice they’re given is to “Calm down” to “Relax” but it’s actually quite difficult to switch from an activated emotion like anxiety to a lower level of activation like calmness, it’s not impossible, it’s just hard. It’s actually much easier to switch from one intense emotion to another. So a simple way to transform anxiety is to say “I’m excited” Those two words can make all the difference.
Researchers have found that when people say “I’m excited” they actually gave better public speeches, they sang better in (a) karaoke lounge, and they did better on math tests. It sounds too simple to be true, but what you're really doing is getting yourself out of a threat mindset, where you're focused on all the things that could go wrong, and into an opportunity mindset, where you're thinking about all the good things that could happen if you do well.”
The emotion of anxiety is supposed to prepare you to take action. To help you perform. It’s the exact same physiological response in your body as excitement.
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@ShadyPastel
@ShadyPastel 4 ай бұрын
It's funny. My high functioning ASD child was home tutored via distance education in Australia for 8 years. She had a teacher who would start every lesson with "Good morning, I'm excited!" "I'm excited to be with you today and I'm excited to see what we're going to get done." My child always looked forward to his lessons. Watching this, reminded me of that.
@peachluck1050
@peachluck1050 4 ай бұрын
Love this-wrote it down for me! What a wonderful teacher for teaching your child how to start a great day. I’m excited for her!
@ShadyPastel
@ShadyPastel 3 ай бұрын
@@peachluck1050 oh she's turning 25 this year and became a talented graphic designer/web designer straight after graduating college and now has her own business ;-)
@peachluck1050
@peachluck1050 3 ай бұрын
@@ShadyPastel - Such good news! Thank you for letting me know.
@homeontherange733
@homeontherange733 2 ай бұрын
You did great! @@ShadyPastel
@esthera651
@esthera651 4 ай бұрын
wonderful video. a friend told me years ago, “nervousness is excitement without the breathing; just breath.” i still utilize this approach.
@RSanchez111
@RSanchez111 4 ай бұрын
Feeling Excited And Ready
@williamchamberlain2263
@williamchamberlain2263 2 ай бұрын
Nice
@cintowin
@cintowin 2 ай бұрын
Neat Integration Can Enjoy
@Thomas-pq4ys
@Thomas-pq4ys 4 ай бұрын
I awaken with anxiety 3 hours before i should be getting up. Telling myself I'm excited is not a good way to fall back to sleep.
@serenawest8056
@serenawest8056 Ай бұрын
ohhh this happens to me too - I think I might try saying I’m excited to find a new meditation on youtube that will help me practice falling asleep again - I wonder if that might work for us that wake up too soon with huge anxious feelings?
@zero1188
@zero1188 Ай бұрын
You do realize this doesnt apply to every thing. Use context lmao
@Thomas-pq4ys
@Thomas-pq4ys Ай бұрын
@@zero1188 I do. We are all unique indivinduals... I'm just a crybaby.... typically these days, I'm just joining the internet fray. Me, me, me, me, me, me.... enough about me, let's talk about me. Waaaaaaah!
@daniellebissonnette3304
@daniellebissonnette3304 24 күн бұрын
For me, I was able to fix this type of night time anxiety by taking Vitamin B supplements. On the other hand, regular daytime anxiety, anger or excitement all make me tense up and get all sorts of muscle pain and spine misalignment, so changing anxiety into excitement is not likely to help ma at all.
@tiller6750
@tiller6750 4 ай бұрын
My 12 year old kid taught me this lesson last month! He was taking his first big audition as a middle school musician. Being a former music educator, I asked him how he was feeling beforehand and he said that he was excited! I responded, "Really? That's a great mindset!" He said that someone taught him the trick of when you feel anxious, say that you are excited because it puts a positive spin on the experience. He totally changed my perspective!
@JGalegria
@JGalegria 22 күн бұрын
But that's a positive activity already. While stressful, it's a chosen passion, so easy to be excited.
@street1205
@street1205 4 ай бұрын
I can always feel that you are an actual person when watching your videos. Your authenticity really shines through. Thank you for all of your helpful tips!
@juliahello6673
@juliahello6673 2 ай бұрын
Anxiety makes my stomach hurt and excitement doesn’t. I don’t know what the physiological explanation for that is but there is definitely a physiological difference between anxiety and excitement.
@boris9047
@boris9047 27 күн бұрын
If anxiety = nervousness then her method works. If anxiety = fear then it doesn't. I guess it depends on which type of anxiety one has.
@JGalegria
@JGalegria 22 күн бұрын
I agree. They're different physically and emotionally.
@JGalegria
@JGalegria 22 күн бұрын
​@@boris9047yes, nervousness is low key compared to fear and dread
@katydeclercq9772
@katydeclercq9772 4 ай бұрын
I don’t know if this is the same but when it’s really busy in the supermarket, I imagine that I walk through a forest and the people are threes… it works for me
@judycole851
@judycole851 Ай бұрын
Love this
@anniemack4282
@anniemack4282 2 ай бұрын
I feel the need to say I think you are a lovely human.
@RalfyCustoms
@RalfyCustoms 4 ай бұрын
I learnt this last year, after being on physc meds for decades! I came off and have managed my anxiety by telling myself I'm excited 🎉 honestly it is a game changer
@melissasibbald4617
@melissasibbald4617 2 ай бұрын
You are so brave. Good to know that this is possible 😁. Thanks 😀💚💚💚
@RalfyCustoms
@RalfyCustoms 2 ай бұрын
​@melissasibbald4617 it most certainly is possible, good luck with your journey 😊
@jemstar7592
@jemstar7592 4 ай бұрын
Dear Emma, I grew up with a very anxious over protective Mother. Because of this, I have struggled with anxiety my entire life . my mother has never gotten any help/therapy and insists she doesn't have anxiety but then she goes through episodes of high anxiety where she unloads all her fears and past traumas onto me and it triggers me and throws me into episodes of deep anxiety. Could you do a video on how to deal with being triggered by a parent with anxiety who passed their anxiety onto us? and how we can deal with this.
@GabbyDabs
@GabbyDabs 4 ай бұрын
Same here, mom feeds my anxiety all the time
@GSPV33
@GSPV33 4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry you're going through this.
@jojoroma1
@jojoroma1 2 ай бұрын
Please please please! This makes perfect sense to me, as well.
@ShinyaKyo
@ShinyaKyo 2 ай бұрын
You probably should watch videos on boundaries. When you notice the conversation is starting to go that way, either firmly end the conversation or redirect it (and let her know why; if it doesn't work because she doesn't listen, go over to just ending the conversation).
@Fegga1955
@Fegga1955 Ай бұрын
Plz do
@msdixie1
@msdixie1 Ай бұрын
I come from a long line of anxious women; great-grandmother, grandmother & mother. Thank goodness I got into therapy on my 40s due to overwhelming anxiety that threatened to becoming crippling. Despite repeatedly threatening to die for the last 50 or 60 years, my mother turned 100 on December 1st & had a debilitating stroke the next day and has, sadly, been moved from Assisted Living to long term care. She never sought any treatment or learned any skills for coping with it, & her anxiety continues to rage even as she nears death. When she passes, I think I will be grateful that she’s finally at peace.
@imranyldrm3779
@imranyldrm3779 4 ай бұрын
Even listening to you speak is comforting. Thank you for all the work you've done for this anxious and scared community ❤
@cleocat562
@cleocat562 2 ай бұрын
I think this trivializes panic attacks and anxiety attacks.
@user-my2yb3yj7w
@user-my2yb3yj7w Ай бұрын
Agreed
@cloudofthought
@cloudofthought 12 күн бұрын
She didn't mention those things though.
@scrubjay93
@scrubjay93 4 ай бұрын
Reframing situations in our mind is such a good skill to remember and this "I'm excited" tip is one that makes so much sense. Thank you for this wonderful series. I have been so paralyzed by anxiety that I stayed in bed for almost a year, have isolated from friends and family almost five years, and it's very hard to re-engage because of overwhelming stress, medical problems, financial hardship, etc. I finally found a local therapist who accepts medicare and my goal is just taking the smallest baby steps each day if possible. Having a therapist is so helpful in this regard - please try one if you are in trouble, although easier said than done, I know. My last therapist quit and it has taken me over three years to get a new one.
@lesliesantos8595
@lesliesantos8595 4 ай бұрын
My deepest condolences...heres to a better year filled with light bulb moments! Lets have some faith in ourselves. Yes it may seem hard. No i am not in your footsteps..but if i can do it so can you. I also had severe anxiety...and depression. One fed the other...so forth..but come 2020 i was able to do alot more than previous years since 2017 ...you are not alone in this....until 2023 came ..there were some changes to my body medically that made me regress...but i wont give up. It just made my confidence dwindle alot lol but alas....there is hope...with natural remedies too...i think baby steps is what we need...im more concerned about keeping up with work now but...maybe things wont be as bad as it seems or our brain makes us believe...cuz now my anixety and depression literally is being triggered and induced by imbalance of reproductive hormones..and ts frustrating cuz i know i dont feel this bad...but yet my body somehow feels this way...😢😢😢 But we shall rise again...lets embrace all these nasty feelings..😅😊❤
@vv9452
@vv9452 4 ай бұрын
#1 Evaluate the situations and relationships that you have. Are you around people who are nice and appreciate you? Or people that are mean, manipulate you or gaslight you? Then maybe that’s where we need to start. Getting away from negative people is the first step then finding people who are kind and treat others well is transformative.
@angel.heart007
@angel.heart007 4 ай бұрын
I totally see this working! BUT my problem is when something bad is actually happening at the moment that’s what triggers my anxiety. I overthink and catastrophize the outcome. Usually it’s health anxiety or crime in progress near me. I don’t know how I can turn my headaches, palpitations or pains into something exciting. I’m going to try but that’s a tough one. Also last night the police were chasing a suspected driver for shooting a police officer. He turned into our neighborhood, crashed his car and ran into a green belt in our subdivision. I was in so much fear my heart was beating out of my chest. I was sweating, then cold, then got dizzy. I started to shake and felt sick. I literally thought this guy would shoot my door down and come into my home! Yet there were cop cars right outside. I think that situation probably wouldn’t work, but that’s the type of thing that triggers my anxiety and panic attacks. It’s horrible. I’m a mess today but I’m going to try to be excited for what the rest of the day has in store for me.🤞🏼🙏🏼
@connieammerman8302
@connieammerman8302 4 ай бұрын
You are not alone in this. The anxiety I get usually is triggered by seeing or hearing about someone who is sick which causes me anxiety, lowering my immune system and end up catching whatever it is that they had or just being paranoid of getting cancer or kidney disease or having to have heart surgery, etc. It’s so maddening. Anyone have any suggestions about how to flip the script when it has to do with health anxiety? Please
@angel.heart007
@angel.heart007 4 ай бұрын
@@connieammerman8302 omg I know that feeling all too well. I can barely watch the news. Im so sorry you’re going through that. I started with that in the beginning of my health anxiety. I didn’t even know if that was the rich name for it. I just thought I was paranoid with everything. The hardest part for me dealing with that was convincing myself F that my MRI, labs, scans and ultrasounds were all real and that I was okay. Hearing things on the news or friends being ill, I too thought I’d have what they have. Especially when they say “1 out of 3 women “ will get so and so…. I always believe I am that 1! And you’re absolutely right it’s maddening. Have you tried a therapist. It helped a little for me. I still struggle. But always tell myself “I’m alive and I can’t control everything”. I hope you can find help too.🤍
@lumenmom
@lumenmom 4 ай бұрын
This is really good. Two words I started using a while ago that helps me is “it’s okay” or I’m okay”. I’ll run through the thought that is plaguing me at the time, then I’ll say at the end of that,”and it’s okay.” It’s amazing how much I calm down.
@natalieerickson5519
@natalieerickson5519 4 ай бұрын
This is fantastic! You are fantastic! Prayers for your best year yet, Doc, and anyone at all reading this! God bless and lots of love!
@NansGlobalKitchen
@NansGlobalKitchen 4 ай бұрын
Thankyou and the same blessings to you as well❤
@natalieerickson5519
@natalieerickson5519 4 ай бұрын
@@NansGlobalKitchen ♥️♥️♥️
@kokoszkabezpiorka5420
@kokoszkabezpiorka5420 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! ❤ God bless you too! 😊
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 4 ай бұрын
Thanks! And I agree with your assessment. Love.
@irishgirl1753
@irishgirl1753 4 ай бұрын
Thanks you Nataliesame to you🫶❤️🤗
@Vincentorix
@Vincentorix 4 ай бұрын
An example for me was during my black belt exam in Taekwondo. I was really nervous I was shaking. I started to tell myself to just have some fun and I felt the switch from anxiety to excitement. This is a neat super power for sure.
@JGalegria
@JGalegria 22 күн бұрын
Yes you were nervous about doing something that ultimately you desired, so it's easy to transform into excitement because you weren't really afraid of anything or in any real danger.
@lseger62
@lseger62 4 ай бұрын
Practical and scientific expression of James 1: Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.
@general_zizi1156
@general_zizi1156 4 ай бұрын
I have struggled with mental illness and my mental health since I was a kid. Before I even knew what those terms were. After years of depression, anxiety, and even an attempt to take my life, I never thought I would be able to live without SSRIs medications. I clung to them because it was the only thing that made my mind quiet, but it also made me a zombie. Microdosing has given me control of my mental health for the first time, and they essentially gave me my life back.
@annemoore4461
@annemoore4461 4 ай бұрын
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
@ohmakure4716
@ohmakure4716 4 ай бұрын
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@dilara4130
@dilara4130 4 ай бұрын
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@dilara4130
@dilara4130 4 ай бұрын
His name is *DR Adolf Petter*
@ryancihet555
@ryancihet555 4 ай бұрын
@ohmakure4716 I feel the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
@jhj6636
@jhj6636 4 ай бұрын
Recently, I've come to appreciate redemptive suffering; how my painful life experiences may lead to support others experiencing the same things themselves.
@stevec404
@stevec404 4 ай бұрын
Decades ago, in Texas for Air Force training, one particular day was so hot that not one of the many thousands on the base ventured outside...except me. Never one to be comfortable in the heat, I took a slow and contemplative stroll. I loved it! It raised my confidence level that I could face something otherwise negative and see it in a positive light. Still deep in my healing process, and dealing with some very dark thoughts, I have recently begun to rename my anxiety as excitement, as you suggest. It does work. It also helps that I have begun to know that I can work through my anxiety; and not be the victim of it. Naming every stressor and dealing with them one at a time is decreasing the backlog, and helping with overwhelm. Though childhood trauma led to cPTSD for me, the negative and failure mindset I had is slowly morphing into a self-advocating one. Just today, I broke a long period of avoidance, and am tackling my issues. Thanks for your insights.
@Ragnarrage
@Ragnarrage 4 ай бұрын
Great job Steve, you got this. Even if one day feels like a stuggle, you always got tommorrow to try again. Don't sweat it :)
@luzye
@luzye 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. Best wishes!
@lesliesantos8595
@lesliesantos8595 4 ай бұрын
​@@Ragnarrageyou are so right...i just wish i could feel relief thinking i still got tomorrow to try again...especially fidning out having pcos i have my life cut short basically barely 25 and supposedly i have 25 left 😮 not a helpful research thread i wanted to find out about in trying to take control of my anxiety..but at least now i know why itd be triggered more easily...i just wish i had a normal body and brain..
@blazefairchild465
@blazefairchild465 4 ай бұрын
When at the University of Iceland as a young woman from a much warmer climate, I had a long bus trip back & forth in sub zero winter temps. There was a 25 minute stop where I had to leave my bus & wait for the next bus going to my destination. I was so cold my hands inside of my gloves became blue , I was most often numb then burning when I came into room temperature again. I forced myself everyday to imagine myself on the beach in California or Hawaii once again and after a few minutes of deep thought I could bring my body into the warm space in my mind. Mind over matter.
@CJ-hh3gx
@CJ-hh3gx 4 ай бұрын
This reminds me of the line from Kung Fu Panda: "There is just news, there is no good or bad." All we can do is figure out how we're going to react. This video is very timely as I have my first ballroom dance event next week. It's not a competition, but it is with our sister studio and I don't know many of the students there. I both excited and terrified of dancing with /in front of them, but I am going to do my best to focus on keeping it positive!
@ajordan1847
@ajordan1847 4 ай бұрын
I love the reframing of "pain is a part of the adventure."📝
@user-vb5jq2iu3t
@user-vb5jq2iu3t 4 ай бұрын
I'm not anxious about being homeless, I'm excited!
@EricaGamet
@EricaGamet 4 ай бұрын
I used to fly all the time for work, but after being alone in my apartment during the beginning of the pandemic, when I decided to fly to visit family in late 2021, I was having terrible anxiety about it. I had also gained a disability and some extra weight so that just added to my anxiety. Then I was reading about how fear/anxiety and excitement were the same as far as your body was concerned. And the person recommended thinking of something exciting in the moments of anxiety. For instance, I was flying to go to a big conference. In addition to flying anxiety, I was also nervous about suddenly being in a room of 300 people after being alone for so long. So I decided ahead of the trip to picture me seeing all my friends that I hadn't seen in 2 years and getting to present a session on a topic I loved. I imagined how it would feel to finally hug my friends and played it out in my head for a couple weeks before I left. When I started to get anxious on the plane, I already had my vision of excitement to think about... and dang it if it didn't actually work! I've been using that technique for a while now... even flew to Europe this summer with my mom and didn't have ANY anxiety.
@serenahm
@serenahm 2 ай бұрын
Using one’s imagination and ability to visualize in a positive way instead of a negative one is powerful and profound. I know this from experience, but have forgotten about it during some difficulties in the last few years. Thank you for reminding me that we have this ability. The example you gave is inspiring, and I’m truly happy that it worked for you. Here’s wishing you many more travels and great adventures!✈️
@claremiller9979
@claremiller9979 Ай бұрын
I was wondering how to apply Emma's advice to my situation of public transport anxiety and I think you may have given me the key, so thank you! I've been getting anxiety off and on for over 4 years around train trips in particular, and rarely go into the office now. I do need to go in soon and don't want to have to suffer through a lot of anxiety symptoms to do it (though accepting that might still happen and I'll be ok is another technique I will employ) This idea of imagining an amazing thing on the other side is one I hadn't considered, and might be just the thing for my 1.5-2hr train trip (because hyping myself up just to go into the office feels a bit weird 😂)
@Okguy4life
@Okguy4life 4 ай бұрын
You are awesome! Your videos has helped me so much! I was out of work for 1 month cause of anxiety and panic attacks I was having I was scared of everything 😢 I came across your videos and gave it a chance and so glad I did ❤
@alexanderguryev2416
@alexanderguryev2416 4 ай бұрын
Hi! You can also read the book "Anxiety: Panicking About Panic" by Joshua Fletcher who brilliantly explains why one should not fear panic feelings. Panic will leave once you understand that it does no harm and it's save to have 'panic attacks' (aka release of a good dose of adrenaline, which is naturally and evolutionary meant by body to protect us from a potential threat).
@kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934
@kathyinwonderlandl.a.8934 4 ай бұрын
@@alexanderguryev2416that’s so interesting once I give up the thought it’s b.s.🫠
@Lydia-Bee
@Lydia-Bee 4 ай бұрын
One night I was in bed not able to sleep because of high anxiety and I became angry with myself to be again feeling this way. I was so fed up with my mind making this anxiety that I told myself: ''All right, you want to freak out? Even if you go insane, go ahead freak out, be scared imagine the worse of the worse!'' I watched to see what would happen and all of a sudden everything in my mind stopped, there was just silence and a deep peace. I was so suprised, I couldn't beleive it. I got up had a drink of water and went back to bed for a good night sleep. I saw that anxiety was not something real that I had a certain power over it and that I could talk to myself to make things better. Anxiety still comes back from time to time but my view of it has changed.
@jcd3869
@jcd3869 4 ай бұрын
Way to go your a badaxss. What I find interesting in your success---- From my reading, your approach is more similar to "rational emotive thinking". When a thought comes we are usually deciding and thinking it is "awful" or the "worst" and fueling anxiety. Instead we can decide to think of it as "less desirable" or "unfortunate" and stop "awful-izing" it. And just like you did we can say to ourselves "go ahead and imagine the worst possible scenario ever" about this situation...Then what are the actual odds that this situation leads to that most "awful" possible outcome? Boom the anxiety is gone.....disarmed in its tracks, no fake, positive thinking there in this approach! I guess this method is in some ways similar to what this video is advising but maybe only the common link is "self talk". You chose a "real" and rational approach whilst she is advising a "flip" to positive thinking? In her terms you did the "hardest" thing getting to calm from anxious without "I am excited"/positive thinking method successfully. Hmmmm guess there is not one right answer....no "either- or". Glad all is working out for you!!! Would love your thoughts on it!
@Lydia-Bee
@Lydia-Bee 4 ай бұрын
@@jcd3869 Hi! and thanks. I agree with all you said, what is not so easy about this is that to do self talk takes either an extreme state of discouragement with oneself like I experienced or extreme vigilance to be aware of what is going on in your mind. Self awareness and self talk is something that takes a little work, unfortunately, but it can become a natural habit overtime. The most surprinsing thing I learned about mental health is "it's not because you think it that it is true". In other words "don't always believe your thoughts." I try to remind myself this often. I never tried the flip method, I'm not sure it would work for me, i'm not the type that gets excited easily, even the word exiciting is not very natural for me. Have a good day!
@jcd3869
@jcd3869 4 ай бұрын
@@Lydia-Bee thanks for your response. Love it. Your points remind me of my learnings and practice of Eckhart Tolle and also the Buddhist way. We are not our thoughts! Let the thoughts come in and don't resist then let them blow away like clouds. This keeps us in the now or the present moment and not anxious about the future or depressed about the past. It is life changing stuff. Self respect and unconditional self love always leads to love and non judgement of all other sentient beings(humans, animals, landscape, our earth, and the universe). It is sooo cool that you figured this out on your own!!! Again I congratulate you and am sure you affect many others around you in a positive way.
@jakhtar73
@jakhtar73 Ай бұрын
Love that i just discovered this channel. Its a tool box for living. Wish i found something like this 10 years ago!
@brittanynatasha90
@brittanynatasha90 Ай бұрын
Same here!
@pixelfrenzy
@pixelfrenzy 4 ай бұрын
1. "Feel the fear and do it anyway" - I read this book by Susan Jeffers in the 90s and had it as a mantra for some years; thanks for the reminder. 2. "Spannung" in German means both "excitement" and "stress" (as well as tension, voltage and others). In other words, it's all about context and mindset.
@mirthiful1
@mirthiful1 4 ай бұрын
I was going to say the same about the book. It really helped me to change my situation back in my 20's. I have a harder time using it now that I've grown older and seen/experienced more... my fears grew exponentially. I never understood why old people always seemed so scared but it's often from a life time of pain and/or witnessing pain. I might need to dig that book out again. I have it here somewhere. :)
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 4 ай бұрын
Großartig! A viola-player I know teaches that it's nonsense to be "entspannt" while playing music. If you'd relax everything, you'd fall on the floor. Love.
@valueatspeed
@valueatspeed 4 ай бұрын
Love it, so well articulated
@ingabutler4337
@ingabutler4337 4 ай бұрын
This channel is wild!!!! I can’t thank you enough!!! You make it soooo clear!!!
@babycakes8434
@babycakes8434 4 ай бұрын
Perfect timing Emma. Thank you!
@MissDoreen
@MissDoreen 4 ай бұрын
I really appreciate this video and anxiety. I have been diagnosed with severe anxiety and I have to take an anti-anxiety medication. Sometimes the side effects of not having a medication if I run out too soon is very hard to handle. I am listening with open ears. Have a lovely day and happy 2024 to you.🙏🏽❤️🥰
@lesliesantos8595
@lesliesantos8595 4 ай бұрын
​@Rollwithit699 im sorry that happened to you...i hope you heal from all that ...wishing you the best...lets heal together...hopefully we come back as wolves ❤❤❤
@heidih3048
@heidih3048 4 ай бұрын
​@@Rollwithit699That was my thought too. Benzos are not safe for long-term use. I don't get why some doctors still prescribe them that way.
@Bob-gn8ph
@Bob-gn8ph 4 ай бұрын
​@@Rollwithit699water fasting and prayer will heal you❤ Jesus loves you❤
@brianciofani4698
@brianciofani4698 4 ай бұрын
I would love to see Emma work her faith and the importance of it into her videos from time to time.
@kaygataki6163
@kaygataki6163 2 ай бұрын
@@heidih3048when prescribed correctly short term,with appropriate counselling all meds have a role. They must be respected.
@33jwill3
@33jwill3 4 ай бұрын
I taught myself how to do this 20 years ago. Best strategy ever.
@ivebel3966
@ivebel3966 4 ай бұрын
you have NO idea how much you’re helping me❤
@19671967ang
@19671967ang 4 ай бұрын
Love these short videos. So helpful. Thank you 🙏
@criszy123
@criszy123 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for uploading these! Are so helpful 😅
@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU
@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU 4 ай бұрын
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
@KassiusFineArt
@KassiusFineArt Ай бұрын
What did you take?
@ministryofpeacekmk
@ministryofpeacekmk 4 ай бұрын
Okay, I have plenty of anxiety, being a survivor of protracted benzo withdrawals...5 years out! So I will definitely try this out. I haven't had AC in 10 years now, and I do trick my mind on the most humid of the hottest days of summer. When I lived in my home state of Rhode Island, I used to love going to the beach at the ocean, and sunbathe. So I would just close my eyes and take myself back there in my mind, and it really does ease the discomfort. I definitely will try the "I'm excited" technique though.
@-handala-
@-handala- 4 ай бұрын
I shared your channel with my therapist and he is very impressed.
@sarathguttikonda4065
@sarathguttikonda4065 4 ай бұрын
Some things to learn for me who is always anxious, impulsive , exhausted , scared from the battle of depression since 4 years
@amenhotep7704
@amenhotep7704 4 ай бұрын
I actually learned something new Emma endless thanks, God Bless.
@rebeccadartez2333
@rebeccadartez2333 4 ай бұрын
I love this!! I can totally see how leaning into this feeling can be better, than leaning away. Neat!
@cintowin
@cintowin 2 ай бұрын
I am in awe over the story of a post she read relating to her children. You can see the absolute love she has for them. Not by the story but by the way her emotions spring up at just the thought and context of the concept and it relating to her own children- that's a mother's true love
@carolkolenda1843
@carolkolenda1843 4 ай бұрын
Thanks Emma for making these videos.
@Kinship1
@Kinship1 4 ай бұрын
The two words are "im excited". Ok for a bit of anticipation anxiety buf no good for years of crippling anxiety disorders. Im definetly not excited.
@JGalegria
@JGalegria 22 күн бұрын
Yes I agree. There's a big difference between feeling a bit nervous and feeling dread, unsafe, deeply insecure and or confused, unsettled and exhausted as is often the physical outcome of anxiety rather than energetic.
@Resolve1984
@Resolve1984 4 ай бұрын
Your channel is really helpful. You're such a warm person 💗
@zenstoryshare
@zenstoryshare 4 ай бұрын
Fantastic work, Doc! Wishing you and everyone a year filled with blessings and sunshine! ✨
@user-eu3lt2hk9i
@user-eu3lt2hk9i 4 ай бұрын
i love this, i was feeling so anxious when i looked this up and it helped soothe me! love your work! thank you!
@leoniemaier4109
@leoniemaier4109 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this insightful and inspiring video!!
@terrevite
@terrevite 4 ай бұрын
Thanks for this paradigm shift! I’ve been working on my anxiety my friend so now I’ll be more excited about seeing my friend!
@user-nn7zs2eb6v
@user-nn7zs2eb6v 4 ай бұрын
Thanks Emma you amazing! Thanks so much for this video. Its just what I needed. ❤
@mnickk2986
@mnickk2986 4 ай бұрын
Wow this popped up for me and I happened to be in the mood to click and listen; now I’m so happy that all happened because this really spoke to me and changed my whole direction for the day! 😊❤
@jerryoutlaw3396
@jerryoutlaw3396 20 күн бұрын
Thank you for your delivery. Your explanation is as valuable as the content. Thank you.
@ashleyclinton3485
@ashleyclinton3485 Ай бұрын
I love what she says about being a mother and teaching her kids. Beautiful
@lisabeeke7162
@lisabeeke7162 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for your empathy, time and knowledge. May you continue in good health.
@DavidRockvoice
@DavidRockvoice 4 ай бұрын
Thank you! You know how to talk about energy and calm people down at the same time.
@myriamtouil3347
@myriamtouil3347 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for your work ❤
@danisehetland3576
@danisehetland3576 4 ай бұрын
This video really hit home with me, so I ordered the course! I’m really looking forward it! Thanks, Emma ❤
@mariefeeney6664
@mariefeeney6664 4 ай бұрын
Wonderful. Will try this Emma. Thankyou ❤
@bbtrixie2653
@bbtrixie2653 4 ай бұрын
I would give ANYTHING for your demeanor! It's so calming and positive just to listen to you! I really needed to see you today! Glad you popped up in my email ;)
@BlueHeart7720
@BlueHeart7720 4 ай бұрын
Thank you! What a huge help. I'm sharing this with my daughters!
@rosalindarcher6060
@rosalindarcher6060 4 ай бұрын
The surfing metaphor really helped me; harnessing the power of the emotion into a different kind of ride…. Thank you for all you do x
@charlesmartel6103
@charlesmartel6103 4 ай бұрын
Thank you from the Netherlands!
@ericjtomsky
@ericjtomsky 2 ай бұрын
You’re such a fantastic educator and these videos are so valuable. Thank you!!
@nh.135
@nh.135 4 ай бұрын
Very helpfulllll as alwaysss ❤❤..thank you very much Emma! I'm excited!
@EmotionallyBalanced
@EmotionallyBalanced 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this advice!
@curimani
@curimani 4 ай бұрын
God Bless this woman!
@domepiece11
@domepiece11 4 ай бұрын
My new job is trying to throw the book at me for my reasonable accommodation request. I’m a disabled veteran. I’m already worn down from my sleep disorder and my serious back issues as I await a major surgery. I don’t know how to be excited about being asked to wage a bureaucratic war so I can have a flexible schedule or work reduced hours. There is no excitement, only anxiety, fear, catastrophizing, etc.
@cathleen_s
@cathleen_s 4 ай бұрын
Try to remember that you are standing up for what is legally required of them. Yes, it a shame that you have to go through the proceedings to enforce your rights, but so be it. They brought this fight on hoping you'd back down. You didnt. That was the hard part. Going through the process of having them being ordered to obey the law is just the walk you must walk to stay in that "fight" mode. You had the choice to fight or flight, and you chose fight. Good on you! Show them you ain't playin'! ❤
@cathleen_s
@cathleen_s 4 ай бұрын
AND....THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE TO OUR COUNTRY!❤
@christie07olson
@christie07olson 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing this information with us!! I have been struggling with anxiety this week. It’s a nice reminder of changing one’s perspective!❤
@h.davidburstein3578
@h.davidburstein3578 4 ай бұрын
It has been a while since I have listened to Emma and she is great. I have written a book on loneliness “Smartphones Don’t Give Hugs “ and Emma’s advice fits in perfectly with the chapter about how we react to change and fear
@TheBrycman
@TheBrycman 4 ай бұрын
I've understood this video before I watched this video but I never understood it in the way that this video presented the information, so now I understand it in a totally different way that actually functions well in my brain and I appreciate you for that.
@williamfoote75
@williamfoote75 4 ай бұрын
It’s helped me for a while now thinking of anxiety as a “frisson” of excitement.
@elisenieuwe4649
@elisenieuwe4649 4 ай бұрын
This is a great idea. It also explains why I'm usually happy and peppy when I have a job interview. I am nervous, but instead of going towards the anxiety type of nervous, I channel it into a happy kind of nervous. It works great. I didn't realize up to now! And now I can use this technique during other days, since I have quite the anxiety about some events lately. I can use it during work xD
@robertgirard4862
@robertgirard4862 28 күн бұрын
U're simply a Brilliant woman ! Genius ! Thanks ! ❤
@staceyklj
@staceyklj 4 ай бұрын
Thank you Emma! You've helped me so much, especially during panic attacks. 🎉
@carlenedean8382
@carlenedean8382 4 ай бұрын
Love this!! Learned a few new things and that’s wonderful!
@howardcohen6817
@howardcohen6817 4 ай бұрын
Fantastic! I've had students write down unhelpful interpretations and also statements from others. After discussing these (in a group) we'd go outside and, one by one, read them aloud and burn them. What remains is the feeling of being free and joyful to play the up-coming concert(s) and share what we can. You're doin' good; thanks.
@ajw9533
@ajw9533 4 ай бұрын
As a teacher, I pass this idea on to pupils regularly. Thank you for crystallising my thoughts.
@serenawest8056
@serenawest8056 Ай бұрын
thank you so much for your videos which are kind, full of great ideas and actions that we can try - and you are so relatable! I just found your channel and have learned so much in just a few days - I already feel like it’s going to be ok because I’m learning so many new tools to take back control of my nerves and my life - thank you ❤
@Selector82
@Selector82 18 күн бұрын
This lady is a God send! Thanks you ❤
@Sparkle835
@Sparkle835 Ай бұрын
I love this idea. I'm excited to try it. Thank you!
@ashblack4351
@ashblack4351 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this advice. I'm excited to have this tool to try next time I'm feeling anxious. You're so right about how difficult it is to just calm down. And so many people tell you to breathe deeply but that can raise the anxiety. Thanks again
@thijsgilbert
@thijsgilbert 4 ай бұрын
I needed this. Amen. Thank you so much.
@footballfav01
@footballfav01 4 ай бұрын
Thank you! Great timing. Only today I was doubting myself at work with imposter syndrome and looking for a way out. Admitting I am excited for the opportunity and bring it on is helpful.
@iloveyellow7214
@iloveyellow7214 3 ай бұрын
I love you. You. Should know that. I have been a subscriber when you only had 40,000 and was recovering from my traumatic brain injury. And you. Your content. The videos and you are all getting better and better 🥰 Thank you. I discovered you when I was 28? 29? 30? And Im 34 now. 😆 Im so happy for you and as always thank you for doing these videos ever since the pandemic 💃
@sarahmiller5632
@sarahmiller5632 2 ай бұрын
Thank you. This is such an important message. Thank you.🤗🇨🇦
@clive3940
@clive3940 4 ай бұрын
Thank you very much Emma for another well thought out video. Keep well from Ireland, clive
@danadouglass5481
@danadouglass5481 4 ай бұрын
Excitement is actually just anxiety with confidence... I have been trying to get someone to explain what confidence feels like for a very long time... this is what I needed. Its like tapping into the Joy down in your heart through all feelings and circumstances.
@jrusco4979
@jrusco4979 24 күн бұрын
This reminds me of when I showed horses. The morning of a show, I would feel physically ill with anxiety, but I learned once we had arrived and all the prep was complete, I would relax and enjoy the day. Thank you for this advice. I am certainly going to try this approach.
@richprincipe749
@richprincipe749 Ай бұрын
This is awesome! Spot on
@moohammedabdii
@moohammedabdii 4 ай бұрын
Lesson learnt all the way from 🇰🇪... appreciated
@MagusKali
@MagusKali 4 ай бұрын
I really needed this. Thank you.
@ommanipadmehung3014
@ommanipadmehung3014 25 күн бұрын
This woman is incredible
@SaffronHammer
@SaffronHammer 3 ай бұрын
I have never struggled--since childhood--with doing hard and painful things, being outdoors and getting scrapes and bruises. Physical hardships are satisfying when we go through them. No big deal. But emotional dis-regulation, anxiety--terror, even--is not like regular anxiety that everyone has. CPTSD is a horse of another color. Yes, I am working on healing through many modalities over many years, and while I have gained some healing, it isn't as easy as the formula you have provided. But am thankful for those who don't understand the difference betweeen anxiety and CPTSD trauma / terror.
@Stereostupid
@Stereostupid 4 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this again!thank you 🙏
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