How to Flirt and Date as a Blind Person from the Perspective of the Sighted Spouse

[@rafaeltorovip]

As always, excellent topic!, nice video. Keeping yourself genuine, respectful, demonstrate real interest and treat the other person the same way you want to be treated. I think those are the most important things when you are trying to establish a relationship. 👍

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Rafael! It’s great to hear from you. I totally agree. Whether blind or sighted those are qualities you want in your future spouse or any friend you have in your life. Thank you!! Corey

[@1983guitarhero]

Cory you and matt are awesome Great video as always

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Everything Blind! Thank you so much! That is so kind of you! Thanks for being such a good friend, Corey

[@1983guitarhero]

Blind to Billionaire No problem

[@OntheFritz]

My husband and I have been married 13 years in June. Date nights and communication are big things for us! We manage finances together as well so that we each know where the money is going 😊

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi On the Fritz! That’s awesome! 13 years! It’s so good to do things together and to know what is going on in your household for both of you. Congratulations! Corey

[@balbinol.f.8976]

Well, for a sighted person to "Flirt" with a blind, already shows that this person doesn't have prejudices, which, yells you that even if it won't work as a Boyfriend/girlfriend, could be someone nice to have for a friend. Also, must say that is completely different if one is visually impaired or blind. Probably lots of people wouldn't believe it, but, it's much harder for a vip than for a blind.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi, I just read your comment and I completely agree with you. Very well said! If someone is flirting with a blind or visually impaired person, they are not prejudice and they are actually excepting the person for who they are even though they have the affliction. That is so cool to see. From my experience, there are definitely some very good people out there, but the majority seem to judge right away and never give us a chance with me makes it very difficult. Thank you again for watching this video and for the comment, this is very well said and I agree with you! Have a great Monday, see you later today in another video. Matt

[@toniedudley6593]

Hi Matt and Corey lovely video x I met my husband before my vision went . 19 years we have been together. I find listening to each other in ups and downs even if the other is in the wrong lol give each other space .Be respectful to each other. Let them know you love them have cosy nights together . 😊

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Tonie, I think that is great advice. I think sometimes the tougher times bring you closer and for us it’s a lot about how the other person perceives your actions and words versus what the actual intention was. It’s a process! Thank you! Corey

[@fergregoire94]

Thanks for this great video, Corey. It brings great insight about a topic for which institutions and academic researchers in general have very few callouts on the problem and no statistics published. Although your tips are helpful, I'd like to ask you about casual meetings (i.e. a party, a disco, a group in a friend's house, etc.) instead of coming into a relationship. While it is true that blind people pay a lot attention on things like voice, hands taking, hair and even skin softness during tinny touch contacts we can do without being invasive with the other person at first, I feel that people don't understand us and that there is an unfortunate self-convincing on many blind people that the current situation is right. I'm frustrated about "normal" people often saying me that the important thing is how the personality is and that I have an advantage over the rest because I'm able to concentrate on that aspect of people without being distracted by considering prettiness based on canonical averages. I agree that personality and heart is important, and I consider myself sufficiently smart to appreciate a conversation with an intelligent girl. However, a person is a whole, including the physical appearance, and I think it is legitimate that in a specific case I want to privilege attractiveness over how good or smart someone is. When I discussed this with some friends they told me I'll appear as a pervert if I touch, despite they staring and commenting about how desi certain girls are; when I reply them that they look with the same purpose, they say that looking is not the same as touching and they look but don't touch, as if I could choose to look. Even my own brother suggested like the rest that I should to trust in third parties, but deciding if a girl is pretty or not is subjective, and things my friends may say are just descriptions - as someone telling you about a given cake you haven't eat yet. A good friend of mine told me that I have to speak about this when I'm interested in a particular girl, but I'm always afraid that she could think I'm treating her as a bitch. I'm also desperate when girls do not send back signals I can interpret after I trying eyeglances, when they answer me very literally to questions or subtle comments with clear flirting intention (sometimes shocked with the idea of a blind guy having sexual desires); but the 1st in frustrating things ranking is probably when I want to get closer to a girl whose voice/initial tinny contacts I liked and anyone else, known or unknown, wants to be solidary and ask me if I need something/help or where I want to go, breaking my attempts to building my own space as "normal" people do for this. Having told you these things, I'd like to ask you how could I touch a girl without she to think I'm treating her as a bitch and being perceived as an abuser, and which gesture could I do to let a girl know I'd like to get a bit farter of the other people when I'm into a party or small meeting. Congrats for the contents in this channel! And again, thanks for your perspective on this topic!

[@fdnyesu]

Excellent video, One thing I would add is to always be yourself. If someone is going to want to be in a relationship with you then they will like and love you for who you are not someone you are trying to pretend to be.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Blind Shooter, I totally agree with you. I think if you bring your most authentic self to a date and to all of your interactions then you will be happier and feel more fulfilled in the interactions you have because the people will love the real you. Thank you so much for this comment, Corey

[@jarrenlumpkin5178]

Great video Cory and some good advice 😊❤️😊

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Jarren! Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate your comment. You are awesome! Corey

[@jarrenlumpkin5178]

Yw😊

[@zarapelfree2553]

great topic. I honestly haven't thought about this topic at all really. I was sited when I meet my husband years ago. I honestly haven't thought about this because I lost my vision in 2015 long after I was married. So interesting question. Me and my husband were married in 2005 we just had our anniversary on April 2nd. Life is so much different now than I had pictured at that time.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Zara! It’s great to hear from you. I think it makes a difference when you lose your vision. You never know what is going to happen in life. It’s hard. Happy Anniversary!! Love Corey

[@kaylakam]

Great video. Honestly, I’ve been with my significant other for almost 4 years long distance. And still today we still flirt with each other and say sweet things. While actions are important and believe that words with those actions go along way. Keep up the great work with the videos and have a beautiful weekend and a happy holiday.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Kayla! Congratulations on 4 years in a long distance relationship. That isn’t easy but when you meet a great person who still warms your heart then it’s worth it. Matt still does sweet things for me and it’s good to flirt and show your partner they still give your butterflies even if the relationship isn’t new. Thank you for sharing, Corey

[@kaylakam]

Blind to Billionaire you are very very welcome and I hope you both have a beautiful evening. My boyfriend and I also visit each other from time to time as well. He will be here and literally almost 31 days. And so we will be doing a lot of videos together.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Kayla!! Ohh! 31 days!! I can’t wait for the videos!! Enjoy your time! Corey

[@anodysseyofsteven1985]

HEY CORRY AND MATT. WELL I HAVE TO SAY THAT MATT DID A GREAT JOB AND GOT HIMSELF A WONDERFUL FRIEND AND WIFE IN YOU CORRY. i REALLY LOVE HOW THE TWO OF YOU CLICK TOGETHER. I MET MY WIFE ALSO ONLINE 12 YEARS AGO AND BEEN MARRIED 10 YEARS. BUT OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN A UP AND DOWN ROLLERCOASTER. SOMEHOW I LOST THE STEVEN THAT SHE FIRST MET AND CAME TO LOVE OVER THE COURSE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP. SO I AM TRYING TO FIND THAT STEVEN AGAIN. BUT FOR THE MOST PART OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN A GOOD ONE AND I AM VERY, VERY BLESSED TO HAVE MET HER AND HAVE HER IN MY LIFE. THANKS FOR ANOTHER AWESOME VIDEO GUYS AND MATT YOU DID A AWESOME JOB HOLDING THE CAMERA BUDDY!! HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND AND I WILL CATCH YOU ON MONDAY!! HUGS AND LOVE TO YOU BOTH!!!

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Steven, thank you for the kind words and for sharing your story. I think the insight that you have possibly lost the Steven she married is interesting and good. Acknowledging that you have changed and that you either like where you are or that you want to find your way back is the first step to happiness or change. You are a great person and a great friend, thank you, Corey

[@BlindNeil]

Great video and solid work on camera Matt

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Neil! Yes, I saw that after filming. It’s just the way it is, I guess! Thanks for watching, Corey

[@BlindNeil]

@@BlindtoBillionaire it's all good ... awesome info and you both always seem so relaxed on camera .... always awesome

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Thank you for the compliments, Neil! We usually have to do a few takes but them the words some easier. The more we practice the better we feel! Matt was a great camera man! Thank you! Corey

[@slk8322]

Respect , a lot of talking , getting to know each other , but deep down God's doing, he knew you and matt would be as one ,, Amen many prayers and God bless you Both many year's as Best friends but husband and wife 🙏❤🙏🙏🙏

[@PaulRhodes420]

This will probably be useful for me as well. I'm physically handicapped and trying to find someone who understands I'll need assistance here and there! I've been married before and she just made me feel like I was a burden to her! After 3 kids all born in great health, she says...I don't love you anymore!! So, I'm kinda "gun shy!!" Thanks for reading, have an awesome day!

[@tobyharnish8952]

Hi Paul, It's sad to hear your story. I wish you the best luck. God bless you.

[@PaulRhodes420]

@@tobyharnish8952 Thanks man, it's frustrating when you wanna blow up, blow off some steam when you have a body that just won't quite blow up right! Sometimes I wish I could use the HULKS body for a day...I promise I'll be back with it....eventually!! Got some business to tend to! Might take a few Years!! LOL!

[@सुदामाp]

Wow it's my favourite topic. In my college I always flirt with girls. But sometimes it is very difficult being totally blind person. Stay bless and stay happy. Lots of love from India

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi, LOL, I love how you always flirt with girls at your college! That’s awesome! I agree, it can be difficult as a person with low vision, but at the same time they probably think you are so cute. :-) I hope you are getting lots of ladies! :-) Have a great day, Matt

[@tobyharnish8952]

"I hope you have lots of ladies." That sounds very repugnant. Polygamy is not fun.

[@abbyhipps4532]

Thanks for this video Corey. I really appreciate your perspective as a sited spouse. As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve been pretty discouraged in the relationship department. And seeing you guys happy marriage does give me hope, so I really appreciate that. But it seems to me most of the time when you see a sited and blind person married, the blind person is the man. I think that reflects on the fact that women can see that blindness does not limit us in most things, and guys tend to have a harder time with that. But even so those are the observations that I’ve made, and I know I still have many years of exploring to go. However, being 20 and never having anyone hit on you it is slightly discouraging. I was wondering if you’ve ever seen a couple where the blind spouse is a woman? Anyway sorry to rant, Thanks again. You guys are awesome!❤️❤️❤️

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Abby! There is a woman named Mel from Low Vision Life, Mel from Mel’s Blind Life, Alyssa Irene, and Jessica Parsal, Jazmin Luis a different kind of vision, Cayla with a C. Those are a few we came up with from the top of our heads. The spellings may not be perfect. I wasn’t hit on very much either but you might not even what the kind of guy who is cat calling or just saying stuff but might not mean it. The right guy is out there. I married Matt was I was 31. My Prince Charming took a while to find me :) Corey

[@abbyhipps4532]

thanks Corey.❤️

[@TrexCharlieX]

Hey Abby, I'm going through the same problems. Can we talk, get to know eachother please! I'm coming to u as a humble blindo lol but I'm a good man tho. And I'll be good to u 🌹

[@wandabrady2178]

This video is so good and interesting!

[@junelynn63]

I am still sighted but voices mean slot for me I'm good at copying peoples sound inflection and accents and I will remember someone's voice before anything else, so flirtatious sound of voice, playful sing song intonation can be fun.

[@techoftheblind1374]

This video had good insight

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Tech of the Blind! Thank you so much for your kind words! Corey

[@CaylawithaC]

Great video! I love Cory. Well I love both of you guys, but I feel like me and Corey would really get along

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Cayla! Thank you! I think so too because we both Love Disney!! Thank you! Corey

[@TrexCharlieX]

Hey Cayla

[@randyford7977]

Great video!

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hey Randy! Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! Matt

[@thomasdube3921]

Thanks for sharing you experience. I was wondering how you guys got together.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Thomas! Thank you for writing. We have been together almost 5 years now, married for 2. Thank you! Corey

[@thomasdube3921]

@@BlindtoBillionaire wow that is good. Congrats guys

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Thank you :)

[@diannecheeks9981]

Good morning Matt and Corey and baby girl

[@itzdayel2302]

kool vidio guys.an thangks for some tips

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Dayel! Thank you for the nice words! I hope it helps :) Corey

[@itzdayel2302]

your wellcome.an yes i am shore it will help if i find a girl fren some day

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

You will do great, just be yourself and the right girl will be thrilled to have you! Corey

[@charlesnadela219]

You saidbyou guys met online. Was it from a dating platform? Thanks for the tips!

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Charles! Thank you for commenting. It was on a dating platform called Plenty of Fish. It’s a dating website where you fill out questions and get matched with different people based on your interests and goals. It worked for us! Thank you, Corey

[@lw1088]

Hey Cory, get on an airplane to San Jose and when you land you will go down to the baggage claim. Once you have collected your bags do a 180° turn and walk out to the curb it will be exactly 42 steps. I would pick you up but I don’t drive so just take the Uber over to my house, once you get out of the Uber turn right and walk up the sidewalk to my front door where I will greet you with a single longstem rose. You can put your bags down and join me in the kitchen for a cool crispy spinach salad garnished with feta carrots, Cherry tomatoes and glazed walnuts. You can chase that down with Sam Napa Valley rose wine. Then will step out to the side yard where the barbecue will be grilling a garlic sautéed lemon sauce with K per piece of salmon. Of course it on the top rack will be the sweet corn and the asparagus warming up. After that lovely dinner will have some tiramisu and chase it down with a Bailey’s Irish cream coffee. Hey Matt and Corey, great video I just thought that I would do a pretend flirt and use Korrie as a subject matter. Of course you guys know I am just kidding just wanted to have some fun this nice Friday afternoon here in California. Matt I am so glad that you have released the warm sun and let it travel over here to California because it’s in the mid-70s and it’s going to be into the mid-80s this weekend.The real scenario is that when you both come visit California we can actually do this scenario and will have you over for a deliciously yummy barbecue and you can pick the meat or fish or chicken of your choice and I will do it up. Thanks Korrie that’s a great tip for theSingle VIP is out there. I am sure they all appreciate it as I appreciate the wonderful videos you guys put out. Oh and hey Matt I’m doing my second volunteer trip on the train tomorrow from San Jose to San Luis Obispo and then back up. I’m looking forward to it. Have a great weekend guys

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Lenny! You totally wooed me off my feet! But that’s the thing! Everyone has an imagine and you can flirt through words and it’s very effective! We can have Matt come along to the hot date of you want. We are just laying out in the sun now. It’s 73 degrees and a little windy for my preference, but good. Thank you so much for being such a great friend, Corey

[@lw1088]

Enjoy the sunbathing

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Thank you! Matt likes to lay in the sun like a cat, so we call him Matt Cat

[@jondsurprise5444]

Cory! As a blind person how would I know if a girl was flirting with me and the girl was sighted. I mean we always hear it from the blind perspective but as a side individual like yourself, how do we as blind people know when the sighted people are flirting with us

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Jon, this is Corey. I think there is less flirting from across the room like cute looks and stuff than you would think. If a girl is flirting with you she will come up to you and start talking to you. Or she will message you back on a dating site. I was single and dated as a sighted person for a lot of years and I never met someone who was giving me googley eyes across the room. You will know she likes you if she stands close to you and finds a reason to be in your conversation. Ask her about herself. It will keep her engaged.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

If she doesn’t write back or seem interested that’s okay because it means she isn’t the right person. Matt had a lot of wrong girls before he met me and it’s defeating, but you just got to keep looking for the right one. She is out there. I hope this helps a little, Corey

[@jondsurprise5444]

Well they can just come up to u just to talk but I feel like that doesn’t give signs? Maybe I am looking at this the wrong way because I am shy and not a lot of people comes up to me to talk unless it is a super old lady lol. However, I also feel like sighted people are discourage about someone that is blind.

[@abbyhipps4532]

Jon D surprise this was actually a really good question, one that I’ve thought of many times. I appreciate the answer, but I feel the same way you do Jon. I’m very introverted and blind or not, that discourages people from interacting with you as much. And then when you’re blind on top of that, it just makes it 10 times harder.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Jon, is Sighted People aren’t interested in you because of your vision they aren’t the right people for you. If any girl talks to you and is nice you can assume she is a little interested unless she is married or has a boyfriend. Just get to know her like you would any person and then the chemistry can build. Corey

[@TrexCharlieX]

I don't know what to do! Being black and blind just scared people away from me. I feel like Shrek. But even he got Fiona! What do I do when the look of my face scares away women? I tried online dating but I still scare away women with my pictures of my eyes and my face. Then I get used for money by the ones that do like me. I fight daily to stay alive, & my mom tries to keep me positive but my PTSD makes things worse. If I had a companion, a girlfriend that would help my mental health. What do I do?

[@Kad991]

Could you tell us some jobs the blind people can perform it??? Thank you for sharing

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Kadi, this is a great question that I think a lot of blind, low vision, and VIPs have. We made a video a few weeks ago called: Starting work or going back to work as a Blind or visually impaired person. You should check it out. We are also going to make more videos soon about this topic so stay tuned! I hope this helps! Corey

[@Kad991]

Blind to Billionaire thank you so much, I am working in a medical lab, and I can see now but my doctor told me I will be blinded after 10 years. Recently, I start to Study the master degree of blood pathology, but I don't know what will happen next :( Thank you because I don't feel alone, you really support me. I will watch that video 💗💗💗

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Kadi, in my opinion your education will take you far. With the knowledge you have you will be indispensable in your company and they will give you whatever assistance you need. Continue your education. In my opinion that is the best thing you can do to advance your career and find your path. You will succeed. I’m proud of you for working so hard, Corey

[@ps-lover8380]

Hi I am blind single in my country people do not accept blind person that much easily so for me very difficult to find a partner

[@omerylmaz958]

hello. as a blind guy, i can talk about the dating from the blind guys persfective cant talk from a ghirls point of view xd. first, as corry said, independence is so much importent. İf your going evrywhere with somebody and dont know to travel arouod yourself, you have to gain your independence otherwhyes your sort of screwed because you always have to travel around. 2, you should act as yourself, act natural let the things go normal, do not act unnaturaly act as yourself. 3, looking theeyes thing. For some reason i can do it somewhat. For a fiew seconds i look like a dum robot like adjusting its eyes lol but then i can focus a spot closer to the other persons eye, i cant see weather they are loking me or not but you can somewhat figure out from the conversation. Focus on the voice of the person and try to look tward that way and a liddle bit higher so i hope you can look the closer to the eyes with this way. İ know its impossable to the focus to the inside of the eye but (i hope it is the right term in english). 3 dont imidiutly try to touch on somethings, yeah your hands can be your eyes but others can get this one as a totally diffrent things. Touching a ghirlse head seems nice at the first thoughtbut maybe the other person does not likes it, observe them carefully first, consitter their reactions to your questions and so. 3 or 4 i forgot lol, do not talk about your blindness unless she asked you, ima blind because bla bla ima blind so bla bla bla that might get anoying, you dont have special powers nore the other person, atleast what i think haha talking about sighted and blindness can be anoying. 5, be peacefull with yourself, if you still didnt accepted yourself as a blind, its hard, you cant love someone if you didnt happy with yourself. anyway my fingers are tired lol, have a nice day, offtopic, if your using iphone considder using brail input, with that way, you can type as fast as a sightet, use this one in whatsapp conversations lols.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi Ömer! Thank you for the excellent advice and insight. You have some great ideas and an really good way of going about getting to meet people. I really appreciate you sharing how you do it because so many people will benefit from your experience. Thank you for sharing! Corey

[@omerylmaz958]

and ima sorry for spelling your name haha

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Oh my gosh Ömer, it’s totally fine! No one spells my name correctly! I’m just happy to hear from you! Corey

[@AkitaRabsatt-x8r]

Chris brown story!

[@jesusaarellano2826]

Hi Cory I love u and Matt very much, I respect u both. Please keep this privacy. But I want to stop all thinking what I heard. Asuch as I love u both but I overheard that Everytime I subscribe that you all r paying out of the stimulus check. Everytime that I watch u that will be a charge it's that a fact. I really want to go back with u but if it's like that I'm very poor God knows but if there's another way I love to help people. Bless you sister in Christ

[@सुदामाp]

Cory by the way your name is unique and I heard this kind of name first time. And I want to know that what is the meaning of your name. There is a famous food in my country which name is,Kari.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Hi, thank you for watching this video! That is fun that you like Corey‘s name! Oh yes, we are very familiar with curry, we love it! We eat it all the time, we love curry dishes. Corey is actually a shortened version for Corey‘s real name which is Courtney. I just came across your comment and wanted to write to you. I will ask Corey to also respond :-) thanks again for watching this and for reaching out to us. Matt

[@kennethkhayyam1208]

i do not know what was at that time in your mind here in my country women only like fully normal and well earning men

[@verahoward9422]

Great video. Good Tips!