How to genuinely heal from heartbreak and trauma

[@CabrinaPeer]

I remember when my parents went through a horrible, horrible breakup. Mom would say "Why did this have to happen? Why did he do this?" And I said "Because he's a jerk. That's the reason." When people say, "Everything happens for a reason" what they're actually saying is "Every bad thing that happens is meant for a greater good." And thats just not true. Tell that to all the people who've been trafficked and were never rescued. Tell that to the innocent child who died of cancer through no fault of their own. Go ahead, try it. It won't go over well. Some things are just shitty. Now, I do believe in blessings in disguise. If you want a garden, you have to pull weeds. If you want a rainbow, you have to put up with rain. Yeah, I get that. But the thing is, there are two types of suffering in this world. The kind that's worth it, and the kind that's not. And it can be tricky to distinguish between the two.

[@death9541]

W comment dude, thanks for that

[@alenavocado]

Well freaking said omg

[@ang695]

if those tragedies never happened what would result? gratitude or a loss of it by never having those experiences to compare to.

[@nomagic7]

@AaronNeedGodNet​​⁠ Wow this is really well said bro thank you 🙏🏼 I was a bit confused too because I was thinking « Yeah it’s true but what does God think about that ? ». And it was really wise from you to cite a Bible Verse and the fact that Jesus went through a terrible experience to set Humanity free. Of course, some things are horrible in this world but God is Just because he created Justice, even though we don’t always understand his decisions. Thank you again for this comment, be blessed 🙌🏼

[@CabrinaPeer]

@AaronNeedGodNet I've read the Bible and I'm well aware of its teachings. I just happen to disagree with some of the said teachings. Jesus suffered, it is true, but many people suffered far worse than he. I understand people want there to be a benevolent explanation for every atrocity because it helps them cope. It just happens to be a coping mechanism that I find no comfort or logic in.

[@sweez6676]

Me and my ex broke up about 2 weeks ago. You came up on my feed not long after, watched a couple of your videos and I enjoy them. Then came this video. Thank you, really needed this. I believe god put you in my path of acceptance

[@littlemisspookyness]

How are you holding up?

[@artskoala]

this guy is my everyday little therapy

[@whoismofeez]

actually

[@zombieslaya780]

The timing is immaculate. I had to end my friendship with my girl best friend recently when I really didn’t want to. It felt like I was tearing a piece of my heart away. It doesn’t feel right, but I know it was the correct decision. I should resent her for her mistreatment of me but I just had so much fun with her that I don’t. I’ll love her forever but that doesn’t mean she has to be in my life anymore. I deserve a better friend who cares about how I feel

[@Radeksonick]

My girlfriend and I broke up almost two months ago. After a short time she started hitting on my best friend. It felt like someone broke my heart twice. And that's where you come in. You have opened a new perspective on all of this. I already feel that things are better, I'm starting to accept that she wasn't worthy of me, and if I wasn't worthy of her then I'm trying to work on myself and be a better version of myself. Thank you for everything bro, peace!

[@roryy6777]

I had a similar situation brother. Ex lied about her feelings for one of my close friends while we were together, one month later and they’re together. It’s been 7 months, and I’ve moved so far forward but still see them together everyday. It’s an unreal struggle, but I promise we will get through it. No one truly gets it but life brightens up when you go out and find yourself, especially when you feel lost and alone. Much love ❤🙏

[@Kyspussy974]

@@roryy6777L friend

[@Radeksonick]

Update: today I found out that they are together. I feel devastated... guess my journey through pain starts again or something.

[@jonathanmage7073]

sorry to hear that bro you are better than her if she tried to do that

[@jatavisgriffin9327]

How are you holding up?

[@RealityOfJvrse]

I always love videos from you like this because it shows newer viewers that this content is not rehearsed nor is it normally scripted, it’s coming from the heart straight off the dome. I hope and pray one day to sit down and have an in depth convo with you man. God will prayerfully honor my request. Great men should walk together to enlighten the world 🙏🏽🔱

[@VistorinaShipanga]

I love when he said "everyone one doesn't have an answer everything doesn't have a reason but time heals everything". 😢❤

[@daryusi9347]

i suffered from my very first heartbreak from a woman i got involved with, about 5 months ago. i feel a lot better, now, but before, the pain was truly hell. tbh, im glad she broke my heart because it's made me stronger mentally and emotionally, it's made me wiser and more aware, and it's motivated me to work hard to become the best version of myself and create an amazing life for myself and my family. unfortunately, i know two guys who got heartbroken, too, but they allowed that to break them and they fell a part, im proud of myself for not allowing that to happen to me.

[@7even917]

I never really comment on yt vids but "you stuck in between wanting a person and a partner, but you don't know whos the right one, and you never do" thank you for saying this i'm in a similar situation rn and I think I really needed to hear that...

[@jordanvillasenor9992]

The first few seconds of this hit me......jeeeeeeezus.....you're right it's never gonna go away....but I can learn from it

[@khiddirector679]

He is just narrating my present self... Heart broken and feeling its over, thanks man for this video... I hope to be healed and maybe see if I can give love a chance again😢

[@carlosrivas4505]

It’s been 5 months and although I’m over her I can’t help but think back on the good times here and there this video rlly helped thank you shimon

[@CxGameLol]

Same here bro it's been five months for me and I still think about the beautiful times I remember with her. but I accept what it happened and learn from my mistakes and forgive myself and move on

[@ayt_metal]

how you doing 5 months after

[@carlosrivas4505]

@@ayt_metal I’m doing great man I’m not where I’d like to be but who is I’ve been able to completely leave it in the past. I’ve even been able to love again and am currently in a happy relationship although it is fresh I’m optimistic about it i am in an overall better place then I was back then thank you for your comment man I completely forgot I even commented or watched this video and it’s nice to think back and see the progress

[@andylordy177]

This really verbalized how I’ve been feeling I went through a breakup and just held on to it so tight for too long but eventually you let it go even if it’s just letting it slow slip away with time

[@vampiregeneral]

Man i know some of your videos dont necessarily get the views they used to, but youre truly Godsent. I believe God has given you the blessing of being able to speak faith into others. Don't ever stop this you're saving many people.

[@cloutbino9479]

Somthing I learned is to forgive those who done you wrong/hurt forgiving those who hurt us allow us to let go of the anger sadness and resentment that poison that will Hold you back from the present. Before I met my current partner I was talking to this one person and she broke my trust things ended I was okay I felt fine but a month later I met my current partner she went thru the same exact thing but I didn’t realize I held pain from The previous person I held baggage those rocks in the back pack but I recently saw her TikTok and it brought me so much anxiety and fear I had to calm myself down and I forgave the person for the hurt they brought me and I’m greatful for the experience the pain taught me a lot about my self and I grew into a better person and I’m mostly greatful for meeting my current person who I truly love she met me when I was broken and she stayed and was patient with me she showed me what true love is and I’m forever grateful for her I hope me and her last a life time together

[@nateracing]

Me and this girl I've been seeing just ended things (again) after being in an on-and-off situationship. Both of us said we were ready to commit fully, and we'd started to make plans for the future. Her ex and her friends gave her a lot of problems and stress, which ultimately put her in a place where she couldn't give me all of her focus/attention. I still love and care for her all the same, and want the best for her, but I just feel a great pain that we weren't able to make things work, after all the effort we've both put in to pursue one another. I've learned a lot about this relating to the need for self-worth and the importance of boundaries/trust. I haven't ever felt this way about a person before, or wanted to give 100% of myself to somebody fully, and I suppose that I learned the value of unconditional love for another person. I feel lost right now, but I'm grateful to have come across this video, and I appreciate being able to not suffer in silence.

[@robertorivera9427]

Such a young man with so much wisdom. Blessings to you brother

[@damonteforney8076]

Bro, everyone needs your story because it isn't just you that goes through it. I went through the same and even tried to maintain contact with her afterwards but God had to close the door and he even had to show me who she really was. Her leaving was a blessing in disguise and it doesn't mean that I wasn't wrong for the things that I've done. She was also wrong and chose not to take accountability, and I had to accept that's who she is. Doesn't mean she can't change. But I have to free myself and do things that make me happy. I'm filling the void that is me. I'm healing and happy more than ever. It's a process

[@geekedkitty]

this came out at the perfect time. Iv started watching your videos and they’ve really helped me. 💘

[@Shreddr999]

this is literally perfect, just broke up with my girlfriend a few days ago, and I started a new job, I don't believe in coincidence, but she left st the ssme time yk, thank you for this, I really needed itb

[@pikblis]

I was praying to god to tell me what i need to do next in my life, and i have a pretty good feeling that God has led me to this video to learn how to heal my past traumas. I dont know how deep my hurt is, i have never ever looked into myself nor talked to myself about the things i have suffered from. But i think the time has come. I have stuffed too much stuff inside me. Maybe i didnt do that because i was scared of looking into the past. But if i want to really move on from the girl i have really loved or from my family problems, i have to really get into myself and finally learn what i needed to learn all this time. Thank you Shimon, you really are a blessing. Thank you..

[@zachburch555]

Dude thats literally the same for me ive been broken up from my 3 year relationship for a week now and i found out 2 days ago she cheated and moved in with the guy. Ive been praying and when i opened youtube he popped up in my recommendations. Truly a blessing and an act of Gods timing.❤ prayin for ya!

[@pikblis]

@zachburch555 ay bro i hope youre gonna be alright from all that, thats honestly horrible to go thru, i cant imagine how it feels cuz ive never been cheated on before. Praying on your health bro ❤️

[@zachburch555]

@@pikblis it is very difficult for me but i will keep moving and in the end ill be alright. Thank you i appreciate ya❤

[@pikblis]

@@zachburch555 ay no probs bro, im here if youll need someone, just keep on pushin and youll get thru it ❤️

[@marierodriguez1806]

You absolutely worded everything perfectly… I started to doubt if what we had was love or infatuation because my friends didn’t understand, we’re all still young so it seems impossible to love someone like that. But I loved that man so much and I felt so much like this. I don’t think about him much because there are times where I see him in places or memories. It took me a while to bounce back to who I was even though I’m not the same person, he changed me completely and forever, I’m glad I met him tho. I wish him the best and I hope he gets everything he wants.

[@diecar128]

18:42 my mind was blown when you started saying what conclusion you came to after all you went through because it's exactly what I arrived at after my own heartbreak. Right after I was devastated and blamed myself for every possible thing I could think of that I might've done wrong. I was also hung onto the idea that we would get back together. But in the end I realized what happened was good for both of us and I learned a lot and that life goes on. Letting go can be freeing because u can go on to create more beautiful moments.

[@soslowman]

Thank you for this video It's good to know that someone somewhere goes through similar experience and lives on, and takes lessons from it It truly helps

[@Buffbassist69]

Brother. Its like you read my mind. I broke up with my girl last year, been running away from the acceptance, now its finally caught up to me. I went through exact same situation. Although the flashbacks are little less, but still a part of my life. Who knows if they will go away or not, the experiences surely changed my life. I have left it to time too, whileI focus on getting better. The main lesson I learned is learning to love thyself first then give love to other and having boundaries; for those are crossed I must walkaway. We will rise through this, stay strong.

[@ArriannaCherotich]

I really appreciate how genuine you are with your feelings, it really made me feel seen when i needed it the most.Thank you❤

[@AYMAN20030]

Because of you and other channels like you brother i was able to stop throwing my seemen on women that ďont know about my existence and even better i started my youtube channel to wake other men up thank you brother 🙏 much love from morocco 🇲🇦 ❤

[@Kervyyyyy]

My headset put on listening to you who giving us advice while im doing some exercises,push up squad, and eating watermelon with papaya and a smile on my face im feel so good🤍 While I was wake up and I didn’t fell my body i felt i couldn’t do nothing after lay down and scrolling on social media but i wake up anyway doing what are necessary for my mental health ❤️

[@braineeey]

Feels really good to see that I’m not alone. A lot of things you said feel exactly the same for me at the moment. I really enjoyed listening.Thanks. I have to work on my own life I know that. The problem is that in my situation she still wants to talk and figure things out. But from my perspective it seems like she doesn’t really care (of course I can’t know what exactly happens in her head). She says she is busy and that she only can talk next week (I mean I know her she always had time). I told her I want clearity and she did not respond. She’s liking my stories ,still has pictures of us posted but is treating me like a stranger. I really loved her… I actually feel played and now im stuck in my head for another week, thinking if I should just cut her and accept the fact that she’s gone or still give her a chance to talk me not knowing how I will react and if it would hurt me even more. At the moment all the cards are in her hand and I’m just stuck with bad thoughts.I really don’t know what would be the best option (if I should not answer her and “win” or if I should talk to her and make a fool out of myself) but your videos really help me finding my own worth again. thanks! I hope you’re doing well with everything! (Sorry for my bad English) greets from Germany!

[@StefanieLoerwald]

this dude is so genuine

[@Royalsheart]

Accepting that it is apart of me is the level I’m on rn! Accepting is letting go and i need to let go

[@brittanywilliams845]

Your story brought me to tears 🥺❤

[@Vaniesal]

You have no idea how much you’ve made me feel better by just watching your videos. Going through a breakup right now and Thank God we discovered your channel, do more please! ❤

[@alexpizza657]

I literally identified myself with your history and I was needing this one.

[@kalliyo]

This is literally what happened to me and I‘m starting to appreciate everything that happened, what it did to me, what I showed her and what I still have to learn about self love.. it’s sad that it’s over but I‘m still glad it happened

[@ANT.isocial]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I've only been watching you for about a month, but out of all the videos I've watched of yours, this by far is the most resonating. I actually got a little emotional hearing your story; it's moving and there are portions of your story where I was able to relate pretty closely. I fell off a little bit the last couple months or so, haven't had the discipline or energy to get out of bed on my days off. Realized I've been kind of asleep to this stuff I was once really passionate about, but listening to you and being able to hear your story and to understand you a little more as a person, honestly it was pretty moving. I know you'll heal, you've got the gift of having a mind and soul with no ceiling to stop it from reaching higher. I have no doubt that you'll live a great life, full of challenges but all that matched in blessings and wisdom. I hope for many generations ahead to share your authenticity and passion for growth.

[@FeniX90202]

I've been in a relationship and we ended it. It was beautiful yes but some things have to end. But im not here to talk about me and her but about YOU Shimon Davis. I know you lived longer than me (im 16) and the look in the eye. the memorys, the experience and how a person reacts to that that make up a person. And i can see you been in pain you grown to be better, i may be wrong but the felling still clings onto you every time you remind youre self of her. Its beautiful that you make videos to help/guide people to recover and heal from there problems. But i wonder, who was there for you? Its like you walked the walk to know all of this and you decided to give a helping hand to others to help them direct to there path. And as you say i say to you I love you man (ngl youre the Goat🐐).

[@mekaylagarcia8307]

I hope you see this comment! First thank you for sharing your stories. Your videos came across my FYP yesterday & I am so grateful they did. I can tell I am a very damaged person when it comes to relationships. I am very on & off with my spiritual practice. The reason I say I am damaged is because (in my mind) I always think of my high school (4 year) relationship as a reference of what I am looking for. It was childlike clearly but we continued even after high school. I think the reason I feel that relationship was the best is because we had no one before each other. Now that I am older everyone clearly has had a heartbreak. Let me add that the way you talk about your ex is beautiful. But it makes me think about who I am with now. I know he was with someone who broke his heart. I always compare myself now. Which doesn’t allow me to be myself. I feel as if he will never love me like that so I am so so guarded. Do you have any advice for this? Even if you don’t I appreciate your videos! Thank you!

[@A-25854]

Shimon Davis. your videos have been incredibly helpful in my life, providing valuable insights and practical advice on various aspects such as personal development, productivity, and self-improvement. I've always been depressed, but ever since I started watched your videos they have helped me a lot, Thank you Shimon.

[@V.ss.31]

This has very quickly became my favorite KZbin channel.

[@belizal]

Thank you for this video man... My bf and I broke up almost the day you posted this video and i just find it now. It really brought me a moment of peace to listen to you and i needed that. The heartbreak is hard but i know better days will come out of it.

[@Starbitss]

I needed to find this channel more than I know

[@ShaadsLifestyle]

I’m going through a break up right now and watching this help me realize so much and want to work on myself for the better thank you for making this video i don’t know what i would be doing or thinking if i didn’t come across this🙏🏽

[@johntorralba4481]

Thank you. It hurts a lot. This helped me.

[@brodyalden]

Shimon, you are a wonderful person. Thank you.

[@Wood-aF]

It feels like he was sharing my story, my problems and resolutions

[@damson9470]

By accepting it u embrace the feeling of the experience so ur letting go of it simultaneously. It's a pretty sick paradox

[@uncuncle2220]

I am so freaking thankful that i found you here on youtube

[@cmallow2022]

Absolutely real and I am 100% relating to everything. Way to convey your thoughts man

[@Giordano.Bruno3]

Thanks

[@ccy_10]

I have been suffering from a relationship with bad ending for years. Somthing I learned is to take a objective view of your feelings. Instead of diving into it, take actions to help the sad man and handle the unhappy relationship. Maybe there are many misunderstandings between two person, try to explain it.

[@osazedaniel7030]

You are truly an inspiration to me. I would love to become just like you when I get older starting now💯💯💯

[@dame9187]

needed both of these topics, thank you again

[@jad.4love]

Lot of love from France bud ! Keep going, you don't even know who I am, but you are the only one who reassures me during bad times.. Just want to send you gratitude, say thank you, and keep watching your next videos :) 💫

[@sobreviraje3024]

Liked very much listeing to you. First time watching your videos and really appreciate what you talk about and how open you are to show people they aint alone and that they can move forward too. Keep it up

[@harryhunter9002]

This was such a good video thanks

[@SYW12345]

He is such an old soul x

[@manipuralove]

The video brought up good a good cry and invitation into deeper healing, thankyou as always for being you n sharing wise words n experiences

[@anthonydeacy]

I respect and look up to you a lot for being so heart-spoken and vulnerable. I relate to this somewhat, having come out of a talking stage recently where I found myself throwing my boundaries aside. I want to keep my quality of being intentional and showing a lot of care, but it’s hard to find someone who reciprocates that to me. I see and feel a lot of triggers from my past 2 relationships, since they both have places in my school (I’m a high school senior). I’ve been trying to confront them with meditation and self-improvement, but I still feel those triggers a lot. Any advice how to overcome them?

[@mikehoxlong-fk5bh]

Shimon ik u prolly dont remember me but I commented on a video a while back when u only had 3k, I believe you will do great things in life and your mindset is perfect. People should aspire to be like you

[@AskShimon]

Legend!

[@hinatasama8713]

Good video hepl me on improving myself and other❤

[@romank1ng528]

I feel like I learned the exact same lessons as you, love your channel man 💙

[@Lixquidz_bbx]

Thank you so much for this video the. You wouldn't believe how much this video has helped me as of rn. You're the best and never give this up I'm glad I came across you because your videos are making me feel like a complete person again so thank you.

[@derryk9758]

Needed this one right in this very moment. Thank you

[@mineogagan6045]

Bro came in clutch as usual 🙂🙌🏾.

[@IMakeDeenVids]

Please make a video about how to be happier. I'm 14 and have bad habits(scrolling,ph) and nothing is making me happy. Whenever I asked my friends to go out they rejected me so I kind of leaned towards being alone and being someone who looks down all the time. I discovered your channel recently and Your videos changed my mindset a little bit but please make a video about happiness. I'm way too young to have this much depression. Sorry for bad English

[@iiBorxz]

Love these videos bro..

[@ntsikajelle8777]

It's so much more painful when you've got a child in your past relationship.... How am I ever going to get over the pain... I NEED HELP GUYS

[@asiaczarkowska7472]

Do you have any close friends you could talk about it? About needing help

[@ntsikajelle8777]

@@asiaczarkowska7472 I'm alone brother I have no one worth telling such things

[@gamezod18]

I need this video bro cause I still got the feelings bothering me

[@AthleticCoast81]

He's back tribe

[@Giordano.Bruno3]

Thank you a lot for your content very appreciate it

[@damson9470]

It's not as much about finding the right one as it is about becoming the right one. Ofcourse it works both ways. U don't wanna be walked all over, but becoming the right person already covers a lot of those areas

[@hatchet8209]

You need grieve your lost there buddy with the emotional connection and her ghost will always be inside you

[@TimelessTorquee]

Man it’s been 3 months since the breakup thought I was doing well accepting it and moving on but it’s coming back to haunt me 🤦🏽‍♂️ just the confusion and feelings are coming back trying to figure out how to accept it again day by day 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@Rai.sanity]

Thanks man, Appreciate it!

[@vampoisxd]

3:58 exactly me bro

[@JustMalcolm914]

It's been one year and five months since her and I last spoke. II sometimes still think about all The Times that we had.But then I remember it was all fake.It was just some false reality.And I don't know how to let all that go. I don't know how to just move on from this person.That made a choice to do me the way she did.

[@derpyhuman5596]

Me and my girl broke up a month or 2 ago I won’t lie I was arrogant I was selfish but it’s time to move forwards I kept on messaging her hoping for another chance but if I do truly love her then it’s better to accept it and leave her alone as she asked me to if it’s meant to be then of course I would be open to a second chance but as of right now I need to choose myself

[@ibrokemyownheart4953]

I made the mistake of falling in love with a girl who I haven’t met yet. We’ve been texting for 2 weeks and she’s starting to ghost me and it hurts

[@ibrokemyownheart4953]

She’s a very sweet girl that deserves a lot of good in her life. But I guess I wasn’t for her. She said a lot of sweet things about me, which nobody has done before, but I’m sure she got bored of me and found someone else.

[@icetray2727]

Self improvement is the only way

[@whoismofeez]

you're the best atp!

[@camjoseph6209]

It’s so hard to let go man

[@manavshai3344]

Today, I got kicked out of my school in the case of harassment. The girl I'm friends with, she was always being playful around and nice. Yesterday, I thought of pranking her through a lighter which causes a little shock (I've tested it on myself) and I did it. Today she went to the principal and PE teachers and litreally in front of every single teacher, my PE sir abused and kicked me out of school. Never thought that even a little shi can go so hard. And I'm guilty of my actions.

[@SpongeBobSquarePants634]

God bless

[@nellybean_12]

Thank you

[@alexnguyen9609]

thanks bro

[@TheRealBaycon]

It feels like his outro is him talking to his ex

[@raymondharris359]

Felt this bro ..

[@f-j705]

I love you videos and kind and kind of off topic but does anyone know the name of the music in the background.

[@SemekiIzuio]

Hm I would like to experience this someday 🤔 But as it is my experiences are fairly limited, oh well I never fit in I never considered myself a normal person who goes through the stepping stone process people tell us you should be going through. I guess in some ways may be its like im being told im not ready for that type of stuff and thus why im not given those experiences. I rather not go down that rabbit hole.

[@AubriBurger]

Hi I'm new here and I understand but if u don't mind me asking why did you and her broke up looks like yall were ok

[@nearanfel]

Dear Shimon, do you have any advice to move over an one sided crush?? It blocks my growth but it's so hard to get overr

[@genevievehansen211]

Super unrelated but i LOVE your necklace a lot

[@davidkrcal3415]

Real

[@LeonForThePeople]

❤

[@Sleepyheadzeveryday]

Not me thinking my ex texting me back😭

[@Maaserley123]

Guys i broke up with my distance girlfriend about 3 weeks ago. She told me she was only speaking to her cousin but when i asked her to show me a screen shot she uploaded on her WhatsApp storie face timing a dude she didn't wanna show me it . Did i make the right decision to break up with her . When i asked her if he is only your cousin why don'tyou wanna show med she said she just didn'twant 😢. She was so pretty though. I think about her everyday 😔. Pls guys did i make the right decisions sorry for my bad English

[@shardstrike69]

Does anyone know the name of the song in the background? Forgive me if it’s been said somewhere else- just a really nice track I could add to my playlist

[@f-j705]

Yeah I’m searching for it too 😅

[@f-j705]

Hey, I found the song its called „jacob and the stone“

[@shardstrike69]

@@f-j705 no way bro- thank you so much, you a real one

[@danielaa060]

✨✨✨🫂

[@_ayannaxo]

🥺❤️