HELP! My partner won’t budget & keeps spending all our money!

[@patmartin9727]

Great tips there Jane. When I met my husband he had a nice home a nice car no debt except his mortgage and a current account with not much money in it. He worked hard but spent hard which was not how I had been brought up. I took over managing the household finances. He was happy to earn the money and leave the rest to me. I gave him Pocket Money every week and set up a budget. Little by little I managed to build up savings and a good emergency fund. One day he said he couldn’t understand how I could fund things like changing the car and going on holiday without getting a loan from the bank. He was never interested in learning about budgeting or saving but was happy with me paying things and FINDING the money when we needed something or get a larger energy bill in winter.

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Thanks for sharing your story Pat.

[@Cheryl-gu1hv]

My husband is totally on board with not spending money. We are retired and have what we need. Very grateful we worked hard for what we have. Enjoyed the video. 😊😊

[@patmartin9727]

Good afternoon everyone from a very cold -5 snowy West Yorkshire in the Uk. Hope everyone is able to stay warm and stay safe.

[@simonefeaster5131]

Much appreciate this video, Mike and Jane! In the past I struggled to bring my husband on board the (more) frugal train. Fortunately, he isn’t particularly spendy, but rather he’s disorganized. While we are not always on as much the same page as you and Mike, we are much more organized, communicative and reaching financial goals together than before I started watching your videos. I am choosing to focus on the good progress we have made as a couple, and I try to remember that with money comes emotion, so I make sure not to bring it up when either of us is having an “off” day. Thanks again for the great topics and ideas ❤

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Your final point is so important. Thanks for sharing.

[@michellejennings3232]

I am single so I budget alone but as i was listening to your presentation i found myself identifying with ALL the personality types you discussed. Sometimes, if my life is an indicator, even single people will be dealing with a " spender" AND a " saver", and the associated internal struggles. So, your suggestions work even for SOME single people. Thanks for your hard work.

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Thank you for your feedback

[@wyyeti4004]

I can’t wait for this video. My other half is VERY stubborn.

[@lindajacquot5391]

Vital video for budgeting with a partner! Thanks, Jane and Mike! This should be in the top five of your excellent, must-watch videos. ❤🐾❤️🐾

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

@@lindajacquot5391 thank you

[@Dutch_Gonneke]

I would love to know how to get a partner. Period. 🤣

[@lindajacquot5391]

Be careful what you wish for.😂

[@teresaearl5688]

We are very fortunate, we are on the same page with money and budgeting. ❤

[@cathydyer3774]

Us too 🙂

[@hayleyrichardson3343]

I’ve been married 41 years happy

[@lynnestait8011]

ive always dealt with the finances but it made sense as I was in Banking for 34 years! I came from a budgeting upbringing, whereas my husband didnt, he often saw his Mum go short as his parents didnt have a great relationship, luckily hes not a spender, so its been working for us almost 40 years

[@barbarasheers1273]

Jane, this subject is the absolute number ONE stumbling block in this household. We have the Saver/Frugal side and then we have I'm not happy until I have spent every penny and the pennies to be made next month side. Since I am the one watching I can admit I am the Saver. PLEASE think about expanding on this subject in future midweek money chats.

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

I'm so sorry to hear this. Have you tried the three suggestions I made ?

[@Pejosach]

I’m also looking forward to this video. My husband is getting closer to me in my frugalness, but our attitudes to budgeting still differ and there can often be a bit of a ‘push-pull’ when it comes spending x

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Good luck. It takes patience but worth it.

[@Shantelle6253]

I'm glad you specified in the beginning. Sometimes a legal separation is the only way to stop an entitled spouse from drowning the entire family. I'm going to boop the like button and skip the rest ❤

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Thank you

[@annamariekorte7259]

Great video.

[@Ann-d6y]

Hi. Education is the key....

[@muttersmenu2422]

My late husband liked to consider himself good in managing with the family finances, in fact he was fairly hopeless. We were never owed anything other than the mortgage but had little in savings and things looked fine. On having to take over the estate I discovered things were not really that good. A strict rule was applied, record every cent spent and for the past twenty years has been done Holidays are paid up for prior to going, clothing is basic and interchangeable. Managing money 💰 was a learning curve for the but I got there😊 Thanks Jane and Mike for an informative talk. Pats to the doggies ☃️👍🇦🇺

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Thanks for sharing. Often people think they're on top of things.

[@lorelei9393]

Great video. 👍

[@sophiawolthof1238]

👍👍👍

[@rachalsmith]

My and my partner live separately we combine our money to and extent we pay our bills and have fun with the rest of this!

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Thank Rachel

[@carolwoodward6141]

Hello from Virginia 🇺🇸🗽

[@94hydenseek]

I've always taken care of the household finances and I don't mind doing it, I don't find it a chore Hubby is not good at being froogle or money saving but knows that I take good care of the finances so it works for us. I've done it for so long that I don't think I would like or appreciate him poking his nose in, lol. Money doesn't interest him, when I worked he never asked how much I earned nor does he question what I spend, I suppose because he knows it's taken good care of. Works for us.

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

@@94hydenseek thanks for sharing,

[@fionachain597]

The next one…The next one…The next one…The next one…

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

The next partner?

[@lauravancea3935]

Great post!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@S-K.456]

My husband doesn't want to know about budgeting! Im the opposite 😅 We keep our finances separate, he pays all bills I pay for groceries, childcare. Its equal % to what we earn. When it comes to big purchases, holidays etc we split it, again equally. Not my ideal but it works now.

[@FrugalQueeninFrance]

I'm glad you're making it work even though I sense that you'd rather it was different

[@mariannewesten3638]

I am lucky,that I have a frugal husband.we both grew up in a family where the parents were frugal.for us it's our way of living.And we love it👍