How To GET Game - My Process for Getting Good With Girls

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As much as I teach game technique in nearly every video. It's the PROCESS of game that will really get you good. Think of it like the difference between being informed of new discoveries in science versus LEARNING THE SCIENTIFIC METHOD... the latter is the key to long-term progress. Here is my method for practicing game to make sure you get outstanding results.

[@stealth797]

I don't really see other Pick Up gurus talking about this super specific practical stuff anymore... s/o to Todd for continuing on what the old school Pick Up community started.

[@joyfulsavage9905]

stealth797 True man. This is gold. So intuitive yet so nuanced 🙌🏼 💎

[@issac7787]

Most other Pick up guru had sellout, turn to social circle game stuff or self-improvement...only Todd and some other people still teaches and practice pickup. We should be thankful

[@ehsanag5837]

Cause pickup was and is a scam. Girls look for who you really are. What you achieved in life and how you see yourself in othee word confident and how others see you. You dont get your shit together by learning some stupid pickup techniques or practice. You will soon wake the fuck up and will see by faking it you are not gonna make it in long run. If you dont grow as a person you don't learn any social "skill". Its a scam

[@Audikontroller1]

@@ehsanag5837 You'd think you guys would use some common sense and extrapolate from other skills you've acquired in your life. You need both sides cooked to fry a proper burger. "I'm just gonna practice piano when I feel like it" vs. "I'm going to ignore feeling and just hammer out the scales". See the glaringly obvious? I'd suggest looking elsewhere for building confidence and spiritual groundedness than the pick up community but if you have no grasp on female psychology and especially how it pertains to cold approaching, your confidence will only take you so far.

[@gabeguzman]

@@Audikontroller1 e.g give her some attention and don't always respond or answer right away and make her think about you. Isn't that part of it?

[@aluumina]

Summary/notes Recommendations: - 3x approaches at least in 1 go - 3 days a week minimum - ex: Friday, sat, Tuesday (3x3) - reasoning: good frequency for analysis, and prevents rusty ness - warnings: - don't go out and do a ton of approaches a day like 10+, because u want to have a life LOL, and to bring good vibes to a set (so u don't hate the game) What do you focus on when you go out? - figure out what ur success criteria is (ex: get a date, or finish a full set) - make sure you succeed 30% of the time, ideally 50-70% of the time or else it'll be frustrating. Don't make it too high or else it's gonna be too boring - get to flow - TRACK RESULTS AND NOT EMOTIONS. - come up with a hypothesis for why you're failing. Then test it - change something related and see if it improves - be very specific with this change (i.e. girls aren't reciprocal of my cold approach because I come off too strong, add more pull than push for ex)

[@melshakobyan8670]

He basically explained Deep Reinforcement Learning for humans

[@Penguinz-fr1mu]

Lmao true

[@amphiaraos]

This was so accurate lol

[@eshw23]

hes to smart

[@ritwikt7617]

The fact that this comment has 160 likes makes me wonder about guys like me in ML field. Maybe we should start our own PUA conference some day

[@melshakobyan8670]

@@ritwikt7617 yeah right?

[@hodeneofficial]

Frequency: don't do it like a chore and a job. Enjoy it.

[@zen-ventzi-marinov]

Like Buddhists like to say: "Всичко е заради курвите".

[@antonsaraste4726]

There's a thin line to that on the other hand: this is a survival skill. Learn pickup or your life will be miserable, simple as that.

[@yane499]

@@antonsaraste4726 it's crazy cuz still to this day most girls I stop on the streets are impressed by the fact that I stopped her, they say "this never happens and even when it does it's a corny way...this actually shows a big majority of guys just don't use this...most people I see dating either met a friend of a friend or dating apps (except night club approaches which dont count in this way)

[@yane499]

@cp404405 i can understand it…are you italian by any chance ?

[@yane499]

@cp404405 lol cuz this « I wont open up to u unless I know you and your whole list of friends » is so italian lol (and I live in italy)

[@stephenhughes5156]

Also, I like you put the caution about approaching TOO much. Not only can lead to, as you say, becoming stale, losing interest in doing it. But it’s also the fact that that time could be better spent increasing your SMV in other ways. I’ve come across a few guys that think that all they have to do to get results is approach, approach, approach- yet they don’t even go to the gym, which I think could do a lot more for their results.

[@datingandconfidenceforguys]

Stephen Hughes was inlokkt myself to only a couple approaches a night and make them really count

[@tomvanbebber3396]

@cp404405 won‘t Happen Buddy

[@unitynofear7758]

Now that I have more fbuddies than I can satisfy it would make sense to focus on health. Otherwise Pickup is like MMA. 99.99% of people get the massive increases from improving technique, and physical fitness and external factors such as advanced grooming are not worth it, iow always level up your game. And the 00.01% of people where gym counts they already have impeccable game. But gym + bad game will lead to mediocre results at best. Probably not even intermediate level, just bad.

[@emanuelecorvino3880]

I think you're the most reliable pick up "guru", I've never seen a video explaining how much you should go out an approaching, it feels like a workout schedule and it makes approaching more tangible for me, I think I'm gonna buy your program, as soon as I get the money for that

[@fredpierce9610]

Damn I needed this video I’ve been going out 3-4 times/week for the last 6 months but have just been getting drunk so I don’t feel nervous about when I approach. Not gonna lie have had some success this way but have only noticed very little improvement in my game overall and have yet to bang a 9 or 10 or even an 8. I’m gonna start holding myself to staying sober and building momentum so I can analyze my results effectively. Thanks Todd!

[@zizou500]

One of the best videos from one of the best pickup coaches out there. I've been doing game for a few years now and I find this video incredibly useful

[@taewookrho9487]

you are teaching it like it's no other than working out or studying other language. Which makes totally sense! Great stuff!

[@Texas80]

This video speaks volumes regarding fundamentals. Back in Feb 2018 I made a 30-day commitment to approach at least 1 woman per day and wrote down my results in a journal. One year later I've continued the process with amazing results by my standards. This video takes me back to the drawing board. Approaching women consistently and keeping a journal has helped immensely. Thank you Todd.

[@22chickenhead]

bro i would like to hear more on these experiences if thats cool with you

[@DAMfoxygrampa]

Me too

[@arvinkang7104]

I wanna hear how you did a 30 day challenge in February

[@davideos1451]

@@arvinkang7104 bro 💀😭

[@jaydenrussell6097]

@@arvinkang7104 what in February ?

[@MrHav1k]

RSD will be out of business in 3 years max if Todd keeps pumping out this level of content. Incredible.

[@matiasklecha1060]

They are out of the pick up game now.

[@joaopedrocarvalhodepaulade2516]

They created a cult , its like a religion . Brain washing .

[@rafaelb1756]

I don't think RSD is getting behind. I just think they have a different aproach on the matter. They are more motivational, while Todd is more technical. They complement each other

[@Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard]

@@rafaelb1756 Whats RSD please?

[@rafaelb1756]

@@Catholic-Redpilled-Spaniard RSD stands for Real Social Dynamics. It's a group of PUAs. Todd is a former member of RSD

[@DJVibeDubstep]

When he said “if level 1 was too hard you’d probably give up” and I immediately thought of Dark Souls 3 and laughed. I almost did give up, but I kept trying. Eventually I beat that first “tutorial” boss and was overwhelmed in a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. It was because through repetition I started to learn the patterns of my opponent (the girl, even though seeing a girl as an opponent isn’t a good frame but you get my point) and I learned, adapted and then dominated. I imagine this is how game is. Like Dark Souls 3, it appears VERY daunting at first until you become more experienced.. then you continue on through the game excited for the next big challenge knowing you faced knee weakening adversity and anxiety before and overcame it. I guess this is like how you start with 6’s and work your way up to smoking hot 10’s to really put your skills to the test after you sharpened your sword enough.

[@erievhs]

Lmao perfect analogy

[@matsherzog3647]

10/10 Darksouls developers wouldn't like the content 😂

[@MagicLink43]

Mats Herzog This is the dumbest joke I’ve read all day, and I absolutely love it. 😂

[@vilethorn6861]

Lol I don't get it can you explain?👀😂

[@janfredrikhalvorsen3611]

Vilethorn dark souls is known to be one og the hardest games that exist, and you will most likely get insainly frustrated and quit😏

[@ggpauser5556]

I love that "do not judge your results by your emotions ..." I am from Argentina and I think that's the most powerful advice of game, because if you judge the results incorrectly, you will never improve in any area of your entire life. We need to mantein control of our emotions or they will take control of our lives. I have to add that is important to be cold in this because if we analyze things and add what we feel to what it simply is, we will lose the north and consequently it will take much longer to solve our mistakes. This is something that I did wrong despite having taken a lot of action. And that's also why a mentor helps so much because that person is not feeling what we feel, he only sees what's wrong and does say how to fix it. Pd: JP is the CJ versión of pickup (GTA SA)

[@facundojurisich743]

Raro ver a alguien de mi pais viendo esto, te parece que estas mejor despues de 8 meses?

[@nicolasrivero3027]

@@facundojurisich743 somos mas de lo que pensamos 😁😊🇦🇷

[@user-vh4no6cs4v]

GOD DAM IT TODD ... YOU REALLY ARE A GREAT TEACHER!!! Seriously, few people are so very talented at their trade. Thank you kindly for sharing all the valuable content from all of your hard work learning these lessons.

[@chunglu9492]

Great video Todd ! Most practical and analytical video on the subject. I am curious , would you talk about your Poker Career as well? How did you start and end ? For myself im very interested in both area. Thanks again Todd for the great videos !

[@KingBowserVlog]

Such a simple but gold concept. Todd the god!

[@beingpras]

I love the analogies you give Todd ! Dope video.

[@diarmuidbrady8987]

You either Win or you Learn

[@SpiritXd5]

before opening video. I knew this is a amazing video! and seen no dislikes at all! Going so good in direction mr Todd ! great really

[@arturoorendain1477]

Just what I needed thanks Todd your the best instructor and person there is in the pick up community

[@harshtiwari9315]

This man just explained Machine Learning to me while talking about chicks! Legend!

[@oscsavage6325]

He talked business to me as well 😅

[@arpitbinjwa840]

I had to watch this video 3 times 1st time i picked up 1st point (3×3) 2 nd time i picked up 3rd point (analysis) and now I'm picking up 2nd point (making it engaging). Thanks todd.

[@Frederick0220]

The Toddfather is the thinking man’s pimp!

[@hodeneofficial]

Analasys: welcome all results, even failiure. Don't focus on how i felt. Be thinking and study game. Form a hypothesis from my results. Why i am getting my failiures? Come up with a suggested change. What can i change? Put it into practice. Get incrementally closer to perfection but accept it will never be perfect. Make tiny changes and twikes and measure the effectiveness.

[@smartass751]

ti approachvash li

[@hodeneofficial]

@@smartass751 da

[@ehsanag5837]

Thats creepy as fuck what you just said

[@ninjazx3116]

If anyone is reading this. There is also very practical addition to the 3x3 approaches a week routine that Todd mention, in a new video, that I found very useful. He mentioned that 2 out of the 3 days can be replaced by dates/instant dates/longs sets. But you have to have atleast one day where you do your 3 approaches that week. So for e.g. you could have 2 dates and a day with 3 approaches a week. Or you could have 1 instand date and 2 days with 3 aproaches for example. I found this helps to keep you from burning out. Motivates you to actualy get dates because they are more relaxed (burn less social calories) and they dont take more of your time on top of the 9 approaches you are already doing. It also motivates you to stay in set and push for instand dates and long sets. All of this is great becuase these things (atlest for me) are the ones that get you results the most. If you wanna hear exatctly how he said it, the video is "Advanced Conversation Techniques that Actually Work"

[@SuperSymbiote1]

Todd you are literally a legend, thanks.

[@nitrom8891]

Dope content Todd! That was crazy cool!

[@andreluton1752]

Love this video! Really made me pause and reflect (wrote field reports) on the few hap-hazard successes I've had in the past and realising that I actually had those successes because I was unknowingly doing good game - still made some mistakes, but the game was solid!

[@ehsanag5837]

You creep fucking is not a video game you wont make it by this fucked up mentality. Pickup is a scam

[@kutakuta9658]

Thank you !! This is really cool and clear!! Nobody else explain the game that well !!

[@tomektomalos9088]

Thank you profesor Vandehey!

[@tonimontana5272]

i really learn a lot from your videos. Youre just motivating. Thanks man

[@MarinJapan]

Easily one of the best if not the best at teaching pickup. Respect.

[@romarioosborne589]

If I could get 1% better everyday for a year, I will be 3800% or 38x better by the end of the year. Wow, that statement just opened up my eyes to a whole new perspective. Great video

[@nocind6752]

Im not good at math but how did you get these crazy numbers ?

[@aloncwolonc8402]

This is like so obvious, However i have never applied it or think about it. Thank you todd for making game easier 💕.

[@DaeDaeTV]

alonc wolonc nigga wassup with those hearts kinda sus

[@aloncwolonc8402]

@@DaeDaeTV 🤣🤣

[@juliancintron9083]

Lmfao

[@22chickenhead]

@@DaeDaeTV lmaooooooo

[@kyrgyzsanjar]

@@DaeDaeTV ahahaha

[@oscsavage6325]

This is pretty simple. It's like running a business. You do the work, you stay engaged, you analyze results

[@angelgomez8592]

Great video and with a lot of value as always. i have a question for you todd or the comunity in general. How can I share this knwoledge to a friend of mine wich is deaf, he wanta to learn game and gain confidence in order to be able to atract women. does this method still aplies to deaf people? thanks. And best regards from México.

[@Teammodrive]

Great break down friend... Very clear

[@chedos22]

preaching good stuff Todd good meeting ya at victorian the other week my guy

[@Flawlless]

Wow, THAT'S content, awesome Todd!👍🏼

[@johannesgartner3584]

If i approach that amount of girls every girl will know me in my area in a month.. 😂 So i would need to move to go on doing it.. 😂

[@Seiseary]

For me in a week lol

[@kungtony]

Surely you have other nearby towns or cities?

[@Seiseary]

@@kungtony yeah

[@jonasjezussek6882]

ich fahr jedes mal ewig mim zug weil ich auch in so na kleinstadt leb

[@nickwang8595]

mike at squatingcassanova explained this, in order to get good with cold approaches, 1 of the 4 key element is to be in a big city.

[@ivankov1986]

This piece of advice is gold. Thank you

[@guitar21ify]

This is a Masterclass in PU. Great Video Todd.

[@PT-il7nv]

I love this guys channel, he gives you straight game no bullshit.

[@pranavgandhi9224]

Todd your chanel is just pure gold😍

[@theamazingnature2438]

This is the most powerful video in all dating coaching

[@kishanchali8752]

This is pure gold. Three thumbs up

[@hurricaneh123]

Really informative and useful video 👌

[@siddharthtanwar.9858]

Todd maybe some people will realise that this model can be used for purposes other than pick up. Excellent work.

[@erikbritz8095]

Thanx todd so i am getting back into game after experiencing major burn out like i didn't have any motivation and now i am going to be going out and trying to hammer this in it will be hard BUT i look forward to the learning experience and i thought to myself ahh so i am getting these reactions of which are mixed so what can i do to change that and i'm slowly working on it now and this vid just helps me even more thank you.

[@muchluv2221]

Damn this guy turns pick up into a science hahah

[@erickchaves2500]

hey Tod, thanks for the videos man, I have been watching and applying them as much as I can. Right now, in your terms seems to me that I have fail more in "trying it to make a man to woman interaction". cause I get the numbers and dates but at that moment, I cant take them to a hotel or my place once we are out. any advices?

[@Quashaun23]

To get good game faster go out and approach more. Implement what you’ve seen in the videos and you’ll be a master at in no time.

[@eminem252525]

One of the best videos in the entire internet

[@fredericbeigbeder9119]

it is about getting in state, for this you need the first three approaches to get things going (sacrifce the lamb)

[@Brelicity]

The OODA loop of learning game. Nice!

[@spydroo9040]

Hi todd , i just went to ask you : how to do escalasing succefully with a cold aproch in the day light ?

[@toniboloni2]

I would love for Todd to do a video on “Emotional Control” and how a “good” night out should feel the same as a “bad” night out.

[@oreyomih]

You should be going out to have fun primarily, girls are the plus on the night.

[@antwuntrademark]

Henry Oreyomi girls can't be the plus if you're going out to talk to girls

[@datingandconfidenceforguys]

MentalFreedom mmm Todd’s certainly an expert on that

[@johnnyd2222]

Nice Break down video. Thanks

[@getonurkneesOH]

UNDERSTODD COACH

[@saifuddinmakati843]

getonurkneesOH Todd puns always the best 😂

[@davidbielski]

Great content

[@GurpreetSingh-ud1tw]

Thanks, I put all possible metrics on google sheet now for schedule and results

[@matthewbonnar6161]

Out of all the "Game" teachers this is rock solid material, what you're teaching you're are teaching for free, shit man, this is grade A material

[@leganjan]

i realy like the explanation of the flow. it goes for everything not just for game or pc games :) Where does the name game come from? i was thinking from hunting where they hunt game ??

[@zap7956]

Great video!! Is this applicable in door to door sales? Thanks

[@peeteri95]

Directly.

[@benarellano5585]

Criteria for success 1. Insta date 2. Number close 3. Rejected (embracing)

[@10isc41]

I don’t feel intimidated talking to beautiful girls, the problem is I don’t like going out.

[@22chickenhead]

force yourself until you find one and you can go back in your cave with her lol

[@alniseschrenkek6348]

Day game? Do it your daily life. Done.

[@davidguerra5237]

Not Geting Girls your Hole Life, or Going Out Despite you Not Liking It. Your choice...

[@luhrare]

Just imagine that big fat ass bent over your bed, you gonna start feeling like it now.

[@Volker109]

@@luhrare 😂 you wish

[@kobybb6185]

Genius. Thanks for bringing back clear instructions and truth in a sea of bullshit.

[@piratze5945]

Hi Todd. Thank you for this helpful video. I see your point. What I dont understand is why cant you do 10-20 sets per day. I mean, most of the girls you will approach in daytime have a boyfriend anyway (and are in a happy relationship). So doing more per day makes more sense, right?

[@barsenovic]

Yea, studies show that hitting your muscles at least twice per week, every 48 hours or so will stimulate muscle protein synthesis..

[@getbigmuscle]

More world class value. Thank you

[@MrAaaaaaaaaahhhhhh]

What conversations do you use on models so that you ca show them you're on their level.

[@kja8043]

Hey Todd , I haven't seen you mention anything about Tinder game ? Any advice or tips ?

[@johnzeppos3827]

im confused. are sets the approaches? so its 3 days per week/ 3 approaches per day?

[@blkabdullah1234]

Great video

[@juzzy1236]

How do you focus on achieving your goals and living your purpose as opposed to focusing on constantly qualifying yourself and seeking validation from others? What is the root cause of this issue? I know the majority of guys suffer from this. Thanks

[@nino2real817]

THIS VIDEO IS GOLD 🔥🔥🔥

[@spoonslap]

whats the name of this powerlifting program?

[@patbateman4202]

Todd whats your oppinion on JMULV?

[@kaizenborntowin]

Thank you!

[@mrshrivler6216]

Some impressive rounding. completely forgot about the extra 15 days in a year when Gaming XD

[@jantomsic7828]

Thank you

[@LazerLightGaming246]

Do we just write our question in the comments or is there an email ?

[@mikhail6729]

Very interesting video. But it will be very interesting to know how interpret girls reactions. For example how you can interpret when girl instantly hates you after good interaction before. Is this something you did right now, or you lead to it? Thank you.

[@Crazy13Morales]

When you say go out, besides clubs and bars, what other places are good to practice your game?

[@antonsaraste4726]

Malls

[@Mainstreamj]

What about if you don't have time? I want to improve my game but generally don't have to to approach girls that much. I work 9 to 5 and busy after work with gym and other things. Where do you guys find the the time??

[@juanalvares11]

I want to know how much time is needed to move from begginer to advanceed in Game if i follow the 3times a day for 4 days a week schedule?

[@Georgious]

Every Todd video after a couple of minutes I'm like; "Shit I'm doing that too! I'm glad he's adressing this. This is a great video!" Just almost every video..

[@stealth797]

Lol facts

[@datingandconfidenceforguys]

Symha Syn it’s really empowering to hear it from the source

[@abcdrcill4253]

"front loaded toward the start of the week" LMAO

[@jayluis189]

Wow. Amazing!

[@brandonrhodes1894]

Me: approaches them, "hey, whats up". them: "hi" . then thats it

[@lmbo463]

😂

[@DonTwanX]

I have brought home some low SMV women and had a great time. I feel like the super hotties get mad that I think I even have a chance. I also have low self esteem from childhood trauma so I’m working on how I present myself. Nice clothes and a good attitude make a big difference in how women respond to me. If I feel good about myself, the rejection doesn’t slow me down and I feel like she is missing out. Hard to do that when I’m spiraling in shame and depression, so I’m prioritizing mental health to improve game.

[@jdinis1729]

One more thing, this sessions should be day, night or what?

[@Yamikaiba123]

Whenever I cross this thumbnail, I see, "How to Get Food Fast".

[@lukesousa9986]

same, I guess pussy counts tho

[@Chris-sx4qw]

awesome todd

[@IAmCDMacDonald]

Question: I often treat dm’s on dating/social media apps like an in person interaction, and I end up shooting myself in the foot because it’s harder to convey that I am teasing and being flirty strictly through text. I’ll disqualify or nag and sometimes it works but often it doesn’t. Whats your advice for dm’s especially before you meet/hangout with the girl?? Hey Todd, you’re killing it, and the content is literally life changing, thank you!

[@cameronfletcher1819]

Cam don’t dm any girls on Instagram... it’s puts them on a pedestal and therefore the interest in you won’t be much... the main thing to get them attracted is in person sexual tension not the words... eye contact body contact and body language etc...

[@brothajack1993]

I agree in all of this. But this is where you and I differ Todd. I welcome feelings, not see them as obstacles. Listen to your gut. Act on it.

[@cesarherrera2540]

brothajack1993 that’s not what he meant but nice quote

[@clarkfluegel6875]

Your gut is not your emotions. Your gut is your "soul". Emotions are from your ego. IMO

[@Zacksleeps]

I find it almost impossible to analyse results, because it just seems that the only variable that matters is out of my control. And it's HER! Personally, I get rejected early in set quite often. Either an instant backturn after I say 'hi', or it'll be a girl who is just giving me NOTHING after I open and talk and she clearly wants me to go away, but she's too polite to say so, so she just gives me one-word-answers and doesn't contribute at all until I run out of things to say. I'm in the UK. We don't tend to talk to strangers lol. HOWEVER, if I open a girl and she talks back for a few minutes and asks me things etc, I can usually get the lay. It just happens. I'ts easy. Why? Because she likes me. And THAT'S why she was receptive to my open. I feel like with the sets where I get rejected, I could have Tyler and Todd and Mystery and whoever else in my ear telling me what to say, and it wouldn't make any difference.

[@acrididi]

I feel you man, but maybe I'm just a beginner

[@MrFulkov]

Think of the outcome of the interaction as a function of many variables, many of which are within your control (== your game) and some of which aren't. The reason you can't get the girls that "don't like you" is probably bc you are affected by the way she acts, thus failing a very common shittest aka the bitchy/unavailable front many girls put on. Solution: be grounded, unaffected by anything, especially her reactions, which however doesn't mean being uncalibrated.

[@ronbridges3933]

I’m wondering if your mindset while approaching is causing some of your problem here.

[@Zacksleeps]

@@acrididi 2 years later how do you feel now out of interest? I've got laid lots more BUT that issue is exactly the same. e.g I only bang the girls who are clearly somewhat receptive. If a girl clearly isn't into me/doesn't talk back etc, then no amount of game helps. I think 'game' isn't what it is sold to us as. It's more a way to more efficient bang the 'yes girls' as opposed to somehow making the 'no girls' attracted to you. Even infields prove this if you watch closely, tbh. Basically 'attraction material' (negs, teases, self amusement, pushpull etc) is simply not fit for purpose.

[@davidflorez1196]

Its called black pill

[@Mentosfresh132]

Literally walked around downtown like a tool not approaching... First day ever but fuck haha it's kind of funny to think that I suck this bad 😂.

[@RKOSun]

This man truly is a genius

[@davidmartialartskicker8237]

What about if I live in a small town?