How to Get Over Feeling Rejected

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Julia Kristina Counselling

Julia Kristina Counselling

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@alldayeveryday20able
@alldayeveryday20able 3 ай бұрын
I realized that the man who rejected me is a good man who was honest from the beginning. He didnt string me along, played games with me or used me for azz, in other words, he didnt take advantage of my interest for him and I'll forever respect him for that.
@mike198383
@mike198383 Жыл бұрын
The hardest part of dating rejection is that when you get rejected after a first date over something small and not giving you the chance to either make up for it or show there is more to you as a person. So its hard to not feel that you were judged before even having the chance to defend your self.
@DaveE99
@DaveE99 Жыл бұрын
The problem is that you think you even have to. Trust me. That’s the anxious attatchment and fear driving that. Also girls say all sorts of things when distancing like that. If you push eventually they just blurt something that gets at the core of your ego just to push you away.
@hp2546
@hp2546 Жыл бұрын
That is more like receiving a break up after your first date. The thing is you already dated that person and then your partner decided to treat you like a 1 night stand partner. You had a chance to date that person only once and the after the first date, it was time for break up. So your situation sounds more like a break up then a rejection. That term rejection would of been more like if that person don't even give you a shot at a first date.
@jamesmccarthy6764
@jamesmccarthy6764 Жыл бұрын
I literally spent the last 4 years thinking about exactly that. I went too far with the teasing, which I intended in a good-natured way, but I abruptly got dismissed & then blocked. It's been hard to process having someone I'd liked for ages & respected a lot, define me over one comment, like that was all there was to me. It's like experiencing a death of that person, all possibilities with them are dead before they started. It can be worse than a break-up with someone you had a relationship with, because at least then you had your chance. Sorry about the essay, your comment triggered my ruminations!
@MrMike198383
@MrMike198383 Жыл бұрын
@@jamesmccarthy6764 I have come to realize in the end you will meet the right person who just matches who you are. I just met someone that is a 100% match to who I am and no longer feel I have to walk on egg shells. Biggest thing is if a person has an issue with what you're doing just communicate it. If they can't then probably not a good sign anyways.
@jamesmccarthy6764
@jamesmccarthy6764 Жыл бұрын
I feel she was the right person though, that's why I haven't been able to accept it ending so abruptly over something trivial. I haven't met anyone I feel the same way about since, if anything their not measuring up to her makes me feel the loss more deeply. I'm glad it worked out for you though, logically I know you're right, but emotionally it's a different story!
@chrisdigitalartist
@chrisdigitalartist 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Julia! Senior Shifter Chirs here! Thank you so much for this video! This is something that I sometimes still struggle with. Some days I feel more secure and who I am and I can trust myself and others and other days not so much. Of course, a lot of these struggles goes back to my anxious attachment style (For viewers here who are NOT shifters, we just had part 1 of our Attachment class and it was so helpful, and I am looking forward to part 2 and working deeper on this so I can become more secure!) I struggle with being needy and clingy and the hard part is then I feel shame that I am. So a reminder to all of us who an anxious attachment. There is NOTHING WRONG with you. It is all about relfection and learning to do the inner work and develop a more secure self. We do that with tons of self-compassion! A lot of hard truths and it can hurt and actually makes me more nervous because I feel like I still do everything wrong with managing my mind and creating self-fulling prophesy and so afraid of pushing people away. I am not going to give up on myself and I am going to continue to work on this after all, what does it matter if others reject us when deep down, we keep rejecting ourselves? Right? Truth! Here are my notes: *Feeling rejected hurts *Sometimes we feel rejected when we are really not being rejected. *Taking things personally like not receiving a reply to a text message in a reasonable time. *Not getting much response or support on a Social Media post. *Making these things measure our lovability. What to do when these things and feelings come up: *We take a deep breath *Pause and think "What am I making this mean?" *Think or choose alternative thoughts *Don't jump to conclusions Understand some people have different ideas about friendships and how they interact or initiating and that doesn't mean they don't love, value, appreciate or like us less. Stop testing your friends. Remember we are ALL worthy and valued people! We are loving and deserving of love and belonging. Believe it! (Saying this as reminder to myself as well!)
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Chris!
@chrisdigitalartist
@chrisdigitalartist 2 жыл бұрын
@@juliakristinamah You're welcome! Thank you!!
@SteveOliver-hh3rc
@SteveOliver-hh3rc 2 ай бұрын
​@@juliakristinamah Don't knock your fingers out there Julia with that amazing reply!!
@DavePhilosophyRules
@DavePhilosophyRules Жыл бұрын
Concentrate on people that value you. Thankfully it’s only my family that reject me, so as soon as I built my own life and surrounded myself with “normal” people I realised that it wasn’t me, it was them. I have always been different and now I love who I am. It still hurts though. My niece is very ill and no one is answering my messages of concern, of comfort, of good wishes, of offers of help. My cousin had a baby and I didn’t even know she was pregnant. My daughter really wanted to see one of my cousins but he never showed up. My favourite cousin has ghosted me a few years ago after an inheritance settlement that he didn’t agree with… but I know it’s not me, because my husband’s family adores me and I have lots of friends who value me and I feel loved by them. Family is family though… and I still offer my heart to them when I know something is up… and they throw it back to me like dirt 💔
@fionz71
@fionz71 5 ай бұрын
I get that same treatment too. And like you I know its not me thats the issue. But we are are better off without them as we really dont need that kind of poisonous people treating us like we are worthless and getting their kicks out of it. Its their loss. Not ours ❤
@prakashmungekar3119
@prakashmungekar3119 2 жыл бұрын
Stop testing your friends and start looking for the evidence . That was very powerful. Thanks Very much Julia .
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Really glad that part connected. Thanks for being here Prakash.
@lindaibrahim5448
@lindaibrahim5448 2 жыл бұрын
I REALLY needed to hear this. It’s like you’re reading my mind. Always search for your advice when I need direction and you always say the right thing. I’m so greatful for you❤️
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Happy this one connected at the right time Linda. Thanks for all of your support.
@FeelGoodInc2023
@FeelGoodInc2023 Жыл бұрын
⁠​⁠@@juliakristinamahi don’t know, the entire video sounds like that I have to do almost all the emotional Labor. Like reaching out, ask if someone is ok, when they didn’t reach out, initiate contact even if the other person frequenting don’t… I mean, why should I even stay in relationships when they aren’t built in the way I need them to be ? Why should I be ok with a communication behaviour or way of having a certain relationship when it’s just not my style and what I truly need ? Why should I ask a person if we are ok, having the “adult Talk”, when the person isn’t even able to address a problem and is distancing himself from me instead of seeking a conversation? Why I am responsible for all their behaviours? This advice speaks a lot of codependency still in my opinion.
@p.b.p.mussen
@p.b.p.mussen 10 ай бұрын
I'm with you, Linda. I needed to hear this, too. Spoken with sincerity and in plain language, and sharing her own experiences, even though they may hurt, is refreshing. Thank you.
@user-pk5pl7ox1e
@user-pk5pl7ox1e 2 жыл бұрын
I've had enough of being initiator and yes...on a good day, I'll not take it personally but other days, when cup is empty, I feel rejected or ignored
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@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
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@Unfoldedwoman
@Unfoldedwoman Жыл бұрын
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@BGL333
@BGL333 Жыл бұрын
There is also the scapegoat dynamic. That rejection that can be devastating.
@fionz71
@fionz71 5 ай бұрын
I was going to mention the scapegoat dynamic. As thats what its about with my relations. They all join in against me. I see it as theyre loss. Because they clearly have issues if they need to treat someone in a hurtful way for no reason.
@silvamarge5257
@silvamarge5257 2 жыл бұрын
Can you talk about being bullying, this happens a lot in the United States. Thank you
@unklekurlu
@unklekurlu Жыл бұрын
Trust me sister, it's a worldwide issue
@LoriBothwell
@LoriBothwell Жыл бұрын
@SarahMGalle😂lol good one
@Leggs013
@Leggs013 10 ай бұрын
YES!!!!!
@SidneyJohnson-p2n
@SidneyJohnson-p2n 8 ай бұрын
I was bullied all through school
@leanngoeken7144
@leanngoeken7144 6 ай бұрын
I need to learn how to deal with an adult bully. I called one out once and it pretty much ended the friendship. I forgave and let go. She couldn't get over the hurt she caused me and felt uncomfortable around me because of it. We don't talk anymore
@Marekcatholic
@Marekcatholic 2 жыл бұрын
I think people have reasons for their behaviour. Some of them have nothing to do with me and it just makes me feel rejected. I do this often too. its not nice to be on the receiving end of it all. I think in my own life people overwhelm me so I need to take a step back often. Im an introvert. doesnt help being and empath and hsp. people can just wear me out often. but I recover once Im on my own. Different perspective: -with years going by in my life Im learning that when I dont understand the motive for peoples behaviour, or some other instances ,this suffering is actually beneficial to me. and I see it actually as invaluable. its a bit controversial I know. It humbles me as a believer :)(my own little problem) . good video Julia. thank you
@melyndafrazer1962
@melyndafrazer1962 Жыл бұрын
Shifter here! Both my boys don’t want me in their lives at all, they have totally rejected me. This is a good video thinking about both sides too and added information, more understanding and information that helps for work relationships too. Thank you Julia❤
@dallasdandigitalproduction393
@dallasdandigitalproduction393 2 жыл бұрын
Really good vid Julia!. Made me do some self reflection. Honest communication is important in all my relationships,but seems to be a challenge since I was very young. I come from a Buddhist training background,so from that I've learned to let go of my attachments to others which has been helpful.
@MandyB-jx4zm
@MandyB-jx4zm Ай бұрын
So so helpful, thank you Julia. I love when you share your own experience.
@rainbow9987
@rainbow9987 Жыл бұрын
Also, rejection is a feeling and thoughts of it. No one can reject you. That’s the way I see it.
@anita_benz90
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@faisalmohammed5167
@faisalmohammed5167 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. It's as if you read my mind. From Ghana. Keep up the good work
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome! So glad you're here.
@Sameer-r4z
@Sameer-r4z 24 күн бұрын
Less expectations. Less rejection.
@suharenrojas6494
@suharenrojas6494 2 жыл бұрын
Loved it. Making things mean something against us is so natural but love to be aware and ask myself that question when starting to naturally asume. Thank u!!! I would like info on the shift society.
@anita_benz90
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@thenebraskan6977
@thenebraskan6977 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for the awesome video Julia. I love your classy new format ❤!
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much. I just moved and am trying to find the best place to record ;-)
@melissamaya1066
@melissamaya1066 6 ай бұрын
Feeling rejection by my adult daughter is triple the pain because 1) She is the most important person in my life 2) We used to be close and 3) society blames bad mothering 100% of the time. KZbinrs usually just write us off as bipolar, narcissistic, BPD, psycho, etc. nobody can imagine a situation where a good mom can be rejected by a child until it happens to them
@mariamedeiros406
@mariamedeiros406 3 ай бұрын
Parenting is so hard at times.
@Bree_970
@Bree_970 2 ай бұрын
I have a twin sister who has rejected our mother after our dad passed away. My oldest brother has also turned his back on her. I feel so bad for my mom as she doesn’t deserve such cruel treatment. I can only imagine the pain your feeling. In time, it does get better. ❤️‍🩹
@genasoriano559
@genasoriano559 8 ай бұрын
Wow! I love your approached . I can resonate from it. And really agree on everything you sad. I learned so much from it. Assuming really is a struggle on me I asked my friend we could go put and han out and in last minute he canceled this is not the only first time that happened it really frustrating and disappointing. But on top of it though explanation was given from it. I learned so much from your video. Thank you for sharing it.❤
@ramdas8842
@ramdas8842 2 жыл бұрын
You are my councelor ever since I started watching your videos
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Glad you're here and good for YOU for doing the work.
@bibianapatino
@bibianapatino 2 жыл бұрын
Omg I do all those things you shouldn’t do. I am often an initiator so I do take it personally when others don’t plan stuff. Great advice, Ty!
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
you're welcome! Really glad it was helpful.
@anonymousanonymous9797
@anonymousanonymous9797 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, lovely lady. sending love and support to all :) xx
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome. Thanks for being here.
@ianmcnally8501
@ianmcnally8501 2 жыл бұрын
I like how you get right into it. Great video.
@anita_benz90
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@fionz71
@fionz71 5 ай бұрын
Thanks Julia, I found your channel by chance and Im so glad I did. As everything you advise on is very helpful.
@lesliengo8347
@lesliengo8347 2 жыл бұрын
It seems like everyone struggle with this and I realize myself getting put off when I don't receive a certain amount of likes on my social media page and a coworker who lives just down the hill isn't texting me back in a long while. Being able to step back and think why they aren't that involved and having a conversation wil be helpful. Very interesting mirror Julia
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah - sometimes those mirrors can be hard to look at, but deep growth can come when we do.
@tronlady1
@tronlady1 3 ай бұрын
Brilliant brilliant brilliant! I now have a “goto” video every time I feel like this ❤
@agrav2474
@agrav2474 11 ай бұрын
I get this when I try to make friends. The rection isn't that clear, but I can't let go easily.
@dougmills3202
@dougmills3202 2 ай бұрын
I have been rejected and banished from my community all based on the lies of dishonest women. I'm so grateful I had the means to defend myself and go to trial, to eventually have charges dropped that were based on lies by women using excuse of domestic violence. I am so grateful to God that I was not falsely convicted but think of all of the men and people who are.
@Np7789
@Np7789 2 ай бұрын
Here as a Male, Single Full-Time Dad, I homeschool, & am a Business Owner working from home. Learning from my own rejections, @9:00-9:14 & establishing healthy boundaries when things are too much with a new person, then they reciprocate out of emotion. Often getting even out of spite… How do We Deal With That Rejection?! You’ve invested all this time till this point - it’s an outside factor of internal conflicts - you try to do the right thing, then get 💩 on.. (unresolved closure)
@michaelj.thompson2354
@michaelj.thompson2354 2 ай бұрын
Being led on by seductive overtures and love bombing while being told that you are just a "friend" is a bitter rejection. Planning dates and discussing the future together while being physically rebuffed added to the mixed messaging. It was a waste of time and resources on top of unrequited interest. Glad to now take a break from all dating activity. Gotta improve in the vetting process.
@kurisuchiinu1206
@kurisuchiinu1206 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not an open person and I don't want to assume that my circle rejected me. It's just, life happens. I've always loved to plan stuff but when I got rejected multiple times because of different schedules, I've changed. There were some truth to their schedules but you can clearly see who actually makes time. And because I've heard some stuff that I felt I was leading them - when in fact, I just love coordinating the reunion! I can now see that I'm not the reason why the group is still there because when I message, it's always an awkward conversation on chat. But if it's someone else from the group, the group becomes alive. It's so hard to be honest nowadays because when I did become honest, most of my relationships didn't end well. T-T
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@brendamaillet8052
@brendamaillet8052 2 жыл бұрын
Another great video, thank you for your hard work!
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome. Thanks for being here Brenda.
@tanishapetertv2298
@tanishapetertv2298 2 жыл бұрын
This is timely because this is how I feel at arms length with friends and family
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
did you find this helpful?
@wbritz9491
@wbritz9491 Жыл бұрын
I know you get so any comments... But just wanted to say that I absolutely love watching your videos. I learn so much from them... Always! Love and blessings. Wessel
@craiyohn
@craiyohn 4 ай бұрын
I’m guilty of asking similar questions repeatedly when she’s not responding. In the end I considered her silence as a yes that she wants to end our relationship so i ended it myself. I kinda understand now how i must have made her felt. If only i have watched this video before that. I bet I’d happier.
@chrismcevoy2503
@chrismcevoy2503 2 жыл бұрын
I’m an introvert Julia I admit it I really value my alone time.
@650ic5
@650ic5 2 жыл бұрын
I’m a really nice person with too much empathy for my own good. Because I generally know how other people feel I personalize rejection because, to know how they feel I find reasons that they don’t want me.
@anita_benz90
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@deestraya7854
@deestraya7854 2 жыл бұрын
Julia Kristina, the video is fantastic and covers some interesting points. How about people that got rejected from their mother? How do they handle this?
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
That's a great question - and a deep one. Perhaps I'll do a video on that at some point.
@messue428
@messue428 Жыл бұрын
Please do Julia. My mother has done this and as an only child this has been the cause of a multitude of issues. I am working though them but it’s hard.
@positivelynegative9149
@positivelynegative9149 2 жыл бұрын
Being rejected by people I know is a problem I wish I had. I haven't known anyone since 2004...
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@yawboakye5804
@yawboakye5804 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video julia! I love your videos.
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome - that means a lot.
@yawboakye5804
@yawboakye5804 Жыл бұрын
​@@juliakristinamah Keep doing what your doing. Your videos help me to do better and love myself.
@ciaramcilroy7738
@ciaramcilroy7738 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video Julia
@JeromeBundy
@JeromeBundy Күн бұрын
All the time.I just couldn't care anymore
@tuma0000
@tuma0000 13 күн бұрын
Thanks for sharing ❤
@vwminx
@vwminx 4 ай бұрын
Just spent 3 hours listening to all your videos.. God damn , I'm listening .. so personal.
@bobburch2151
@bobburch2151 Жыл бұрын
You are absolutely amazing and I really enjoy your videos so much. Thank you for everything
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@cyber_tech120. Жыл бұрын
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@indridcold8433
@indridcold8433 Жыл бұрын
I made sure to make it impossible for me to ever be rejected or be emotionally hurt again. I simply deleted the social aspect of my life. With no friends, no girlfriend, no aquaintences, it is impossible to have any conflict, rejection, nor ever be used, betrayed, then painfully abandoned only for the people to try to get back into my life three months later. Friendships and romantic relationships often cause more pain than pleasantness. I want no part of them.
@messue428
@messue428 Жыл бұрын
I hear you. But there are good people out there. Just be more discriminating in who you let in to your circle.
@HealingHands_Rusty--Parks
@HealingHands_Rusty--Parks Жыл бұрын
I'm not very good at keeping up with connective communication these days (i.e emails, texting, such) it looks like I don't care enough to know perhaps. But I can try an get better at that. My memory isn't what it used to be. But if it is up to my heart, I'll try and hold out long enough to find a way to work together or at least work around. I like the idea of someone I have no interest in rejecting me, that entertaining. Course the idea of someone to whom shares common and mutual interest feeling rejected hurts but if it's because of me, then that would break my heart. "Open door policy" by JuliaKristina was a nice touch, poetry and wisdom.
@biblicalgodisonlytruegod
@biblicalgodisonlytruegod Жыл бұрын
Yeah, BUT what if you ARE being rejected by someone who has been a CLOSE friend. You have both agreed to be honest and tell each other if you disappoint to be able to work it out. The friendship is one-of-a-kind to you and meaningful. Then… over a few months, they politely “let you know” they no longer want to be close …. by going into “surfacey” mode (emails about what they do, not how they feel), one word email answers or smiley faces, and no phone calls! (Avoidant) And you have NO IDEA why the change. It hurts. How do you handle that?
@messue428
@messue428 Жыл бұрын
I am going through exactly the same thing right now. It hurts. A friend I work with who was constantly texting me and talking to me regularly now doesn’t respond to texts and just avoids me for no obvious reason. She is civil but the discourse is superficial. I’d like to give her the benefit of the doubt and think she has stuff going on but I’m 99 percent sure it’s because I got a favorable job offer and am moving on and she isn’t. He coldness toward me began right after hearing about my job offer. Initially I was saddened… I mean why isn’t she happy for me? I’d be happy for her. But I’m slowly learning that when people act this way the problem may not be you but something stemming from within them. In my case, I believe it was my friend’s insecurities.
@biblicalgodisonlytruegod
@biblicalgodisonlytruegod Жыл бұрын
@@messue428 JULIA talks about the sign of a “true” friend is “being happy for you”. Yeah, it does hurt. A lot. Especially when you really believed they were a “friend”. I have this happen often. A GREAT video is Julia’s on something like…”is it time to let go of a friendship”. That particular video helped me a great deal. Also someone said, “Don’t make someone a priority when to them you are only an option.” I am loving and accepting of people but continue to wait for a “true friend”. I give it several tries over time and if the response is not there, I move on. People just aren’t like that it seems. They are SO VERY “self absorbed”, they only want you as a friend in order to feed themselves. I’m not feeding them anymore. Now, guarded. Still reaching out, but will wait until I see the signs that mean the person genuinely cares about me. I’m 74 and have a few good (old) friends… but they are ALL totally self absorbed and never even pay attention to what I say. I’ve learned to let it go now and just listen and not expect anything. I am not putting my soul into them. Not giving them a true friend because as Julia says, it is an equal relationship. Their loss actually.
@eileenmcdonnell1821
@eileenmcdonnell1821 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video helps me loads❤
@Sunshine-vi2mp
@Sunshine-vi2mp Жыл бұрын
Thank YOU so much Julia!
@SidneyJohnson-p2n
@SidneyJohnson-p2n 8 ай бұрын
Ive been rejected for years and it hurts i want so much for people to except me
@HyacinthFl0wer
@HyacinthFl0wer Жыл бұрын
Wonderful videos. Thank you!!! 😀😍
@captaindan1000
@captaindan1000 2 жыл бұрын
I'm a single guy and an entertainer who never got his "big break." So this is kinda the thing for me.
@Cytron1515
@Cytron1515 2 жыл бұрын
When it comes to asking women out or trying to converse with a woman I just meet and get to know her... that's when rejection and I really get acquainted.
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@WhereTheWavesAt
@WhereTheWavesAt 2 ай бұрын
I really really resonate and agree with what you're saying, especially the part about not taking things too personally and putting yourself in the other persons shoes, that they might have a lot going on too which doesn't involve you. Breaking free of attachments. But what if you're naturally a HSP or intuitive person and you just know there's mixed vibes from the other person yet they're avoiding it or not being honest with you about what's going on? You can feel them being distant, hot and cold or stand offish? And you feel they treat you differently or even talk to you differently than their other friends. This is where I struggle as I know something isn't right but I don't want to jump to conclusions and hurt them either. What would you do in this situation? I might be wrong but people have very fragile egos these days - if confronted, even from a loving place, they don't like it and will either deflect, project or completely ghost you rather than address what the issue is.
@cybelechamas198
@cybelechamas198 Жыл бұрын
My favorite lesson.
@BlairLavery-f2i
@BlairLavery-f2i 15 күн бұрын
Great content 👌
@takeiteasy7062
@takeiteasy7062 3 ай бұрын
I wonder if i am the one who has driven everyone away? You're right.
@michelleharris9992
@michelleharris9992 2 жыл бұрын
Oh Julia you hit Are the nail on the head that was describing me to a T I’m getting the the workbook and continuing listening to you and loving myself
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@mannycalavera1848
@mannycalavera1848 Жыл бұрын
Everyone talks about being rejected and just ignoring it afterwards as it doesn't kill you, but no one talks about the different types of rejection. For example, if you were rejected by a random person you met at a bar, it's not that bad cause you won't see that person ever again probably. Now, when you are rejected by a crush, someone from your social circle, things can become pretty awkward and it might affect your reputation within that circle too, cause she will tell everyone that you hit on her. she will make you feel bad for doing it like if you were a pervert or something and so on. So, I don't think that rejection is always that simple to forget.
@steffe9051
@steffe9051 2 жыл бұрын
i love julia how she always makes me to take responsibility and talk like grown up person instead of making ASSUMPTION and keeping to myself that was one of my biggest issue as introvert i expected others to understand me without telling them i didnt know how to do it but Now i cannot wait to try it thank you Julia for this
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@Prudenthermit
@Prudenthermit 2 жыл бұрын
Trigger warning to people with PDs 👐 the video is about anxious attachment & perceived rejection vs actual or genuine rejection.
@marlenehod
@marlenehod Жыл бұрын
Hi Julia, My name is Marlene and I am new to your videos. I am a mess, especially concerning my relationship with my adult children. Thank you for your psychological explanations and advice.
@papurnadi
@papurnadi 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video ❤
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@mandyporras07
@mandyporras07 Жыл бұрын
Yep…. This is me. I got rejected recently from a person i thought I wouldn’t be. It brought all this up.
@cyber_tech120.
@cyber_tech120. Жыл бұрын
You're welcome.. Wanting more info and insight.? Write ✍️ me up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment.
@TYGZus777
@TYGZus777 2 жыл бұрын
I am rejected everyday. I have not one friend, at all - ever. I try to make friends and be a friend, but that's an ongoing "no-go." I sign up for classes, activities, groups - no one befriends me. When I instigate conversations most people are cordial, but a lot are curt. I plan social events, no one comes. I send birthday cards, but receive none. I received absolutely no recognition at my retirement, after 33 years of service. When most people do talk to me, it's in a very condescending tone of voice. It has always hurt and it still hurts. It hurts every day, all day long.
@ernestapetrauskaite3465
@ernestapetrauskaite3465 2 жыл бұрын
Hi. I have no friends too. Maby do you want to be friend with me?
@tdivy
@tdivy Жыл бұрын
Be your own best friend....as the song says "people will hurt you and dessert you..and take your soul if you let them...but don't you let them"...God gave you life...enjoy it no matter what...you only get one chance.
@TullyRose3790
@TullyRose3790 Жыл бұрын
My sister is a clinical therapist and days the same exact things to me.. having expectations can lead to disappointment!!
@edgrabowski6797
@edgrabowski6797 2 ай бұрын
I love it when a girl rejects me because she is not the girl for me. It’s a blessing not a curse. It’s her loss not mine
@playdohsrepublic3562
@playdohsrepublic3562 4 ай бұрын
There are a couple of women who I wanted to be friends with and it didn't seem to be mutual. When I think back on those ladies..... I still like them!!
@josesantos-yb7qi
@josesantos-yb7qi Жыл бұрын
I love her more then others
@yoagi999
@yoagi999 Жыл бұрын
Great videos 💯😌
@chrismcevoy2503
@chrismcevoy2503 2 жыл бұрын
It’s important to me to have other people initiate as well Julia so it’s not always me.
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
That's fair! Just make sure they know it if it's not automatically apparent to them.
@donnaroosa4469
@donnaroosa4469 2 жыл бұрын
I would like to learn about self trust and stop overthinking things.. I loved this video it helped a lot in lots of areas.. But i found the self trust help cost money i dont have right now.. Can you recommend another one of your free videos that can help me in these areas or similar ones? Thanx :) 💜
@juliakristinamah
@juliakristinamah 2 жыл бұрын
Yes! I have a whole play list with talks on building self-confidence - those will definitely help.
@donnaroosa4469
@donnaroosa4469 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much . I would just find them on u tube under your site i assume.. :)
@chrismcevoy2503
@chrismcevoy2503 2 жыл бұрын
I consider myself passive-aggressive Julia.
@dl5054
@dl5054 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve always enjoyed these little talks. I fall behind a lot on your videos. Life gets busy, or challenging, and I’ll check in with you vicariously here. It’s been great 👍. Hope all is well!
@terriwhalen3618
@terriwhalen3618 2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this!
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@Sameer-r4z
@Sameer-r4z 24 күн бұрын
I'm going through rejection. But I just explained myself how I've been thinking what happened that other person don't even wants to talk to me. I just hoping for last Talk. I start hating myself.
@shortstories3756
@shortstories3756 Жыл бұрын
True ..2 years ago a women at work wanted to hang out with me . I said sorry I have a girlfriend ..she understood but later was being a total mean person ..I ask her do you have a boyfriend now she said yes ..I said ok good for you. My girlfriend and I broke up too ..the girl wanted me to date someone else ..I will find Someone else on my own not on your terms. There's was alot of tension between us...I am still single but don't care..
@daisyviluck7932
@daisyviluck7932 9 ай бұрын
0:54 LOL relatable. Irrational, and relatable 🤣🤣🤣❤️
@angelayapchung5288
@angelayapchung5288 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this.
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@MariaSantos-gm7ps
@MariaSantos-gm7ps 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Julia Kristina I appreciate “
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@dougmills3202
@dougmills3202 2 ай бұрын
Here's the problem on finding with many of these videos. They are high on Discovery but very low on recovery.
@jamesovertone7914
@jamesovertone7914 Жыл бұрын
I wish this was a little heavier on handling actual rejection. It seemed a lot more on “don’t assume you are rejected” but not a lot on well yes the person did reject me , now what.
@jimmynitcher
@jimmynitcher Жыл бұрын
This just happened to me.. i was told i was rejection sensitive (gaslit) when i asked to talk about the initiation issues and asked to have a sober chat about it i was dumped! (rejected for real).
@stevecatanio8532
@stevecatanio8532 2 жыл бұрын
I don't need to feel insecure.
@josesantos-yb7qi
@josesantos-yb7qi Жыл бұрын
Because of who you are
@MajorChangeAcademy333
@MajorChangeAcademy333 6 ай бұрын
love your content
@stevecatanio8532
@stevecatanio8532 2 жыл бұрын
Sorry. Your vids make me better. I struggle with confidence.
@stevecatanio8532
@stevecatanio8532 2 жыл бұрын
Omfg.
@stevecatanio8532
@stevecatanio8532 2 жыл бұрын
Lol. Wow. She reads my comments. I can die happy now. Jk. I'm not like a total troll loser. But I'm likely projecting so I need you. My buddy and I are aimless and depressed and we think you're just something. So thank you for being you.
@Marekcatholic
@Marekcatholic 2 жыл бұрын
@@stevecatanio8532 "om*g". Do you have to be so obnoxious , clown? you could have used another expression
@stevecatanio8532
@stevecatanio8532 2 жыл бұрын
@@Marekcatholic I know. But I love that woman. She kept me alive. I'm an Iraq war veteran. I am a college grad. I have been into internet culture my entire life. I'm a millennial. Makes me angry so many people out there who are pseudo posers.
@Marekcatholic
@Marekcatholic 2 жыл бұрын
@@stevecatanio8532 Im rather talking about using expression om*g. Im a religious person and this is very offensive. other thing is none of my business. except you know shes married right? take care
@michelleharris9992
@michelleharris9992 Жыл бұрын
Merry Christmas I just started a job and No one talks to me, everyone gets together and completely ignore me! My bipolar I just Don’t relate to people… I feel I need to hide .. it plays on me
@chrismcevoy2503
@chrismcevoy2503 2 жыл бұрын
It’s important to me Julia to find friends that initiate contact with me sometimes.
@josesantos-yb7qi
@josesantos-yb7qi Жыл бұрын
Don’t want to be killed for loving you
@brianalackey4246
@brianalackey4246 2 ай бұрын
Where can I find the 5 steps towards trusting yourself?
@stevecatanio8532
@stevecatanio8532 2 жыл бұрын
I like this corner.
@kirkwhite1736
@kirkwhite1736 6 ай бұрын
I get constantly rejected in my entire life. After a while, I figured it out that I am truly Unlovable. Example: I invited 30 people to celebrate my birthday. Only 4 showed up That tells me I am unlovable
@zakiamwoma4647
@zakiamwoma4647 3 ай бұрын
Yes.I have been rejected in total. 30 years and counting
@MrSuzielou
@MrSuzielou 9 ай бұрын
I feel like this is all about talking me out of how i feel. What if the person is not being kind. What if they are just not nice ?
@sheldajacques2562
@sheldajacques2562 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@anita_benz90
@anita_benz90 Жыл бұрын
Thanks..Glad you Love My Content, Write ✍️ Me Up 💬 Above 🔝 I'll Shear You Some beneficial Analysis'''update & enlightenment✓
@BlairLavery-f2i
@BlairLavery-f2i 15 күн бұрын
Secure attachment not anxious attachment
@chrismcevoy2503
@chrismcevoy2503 2 жыл бұрын
I keep tabs Julia.
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