How To Get Rid of EGO and Promote Humility - Jocko Willink

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Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 215

[@joe-mama94]

I don't know if you'll read this Jocko but you are helping me change my life.

he dont give a shit lmao

[@julieevans3110]

Maybe not individually.... while he’s mocking Dong Jong.

[@diochan6038]

@ bruh

[@Lukas-cg3ms]

@ of course he cares. Jocko does these podcasts to help people, duh

[@unkon129]

@@Lukas-cg3ms he definitely doesn't read any comments but he does care about changing people's life, just like he did with mine too!

[@qdllc]

Ego...a product of fear plus insecurity.

[@Kyman23]

Good way to describe it. Really makes you ponder on that

[@sunn1846]

Not tryna be a smartass, but technically that would be a sum, not a product.

[@qdllc]

@@sunn1846 - Math for the win.

[@mdb60]

“The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” -Carl Jung- In knowing this one can then say that ego is a part of psyche that is positive until it is not. Is it fear driven? Is it insecurity based? Perhaps, perhaps not. The neurosis that a human being has as it pertains to both psyche and its ego is a varying entity, everyone is different, situations dictate this. The one constant that Jung preached was self honesty when gazing in the mirror. The inability to do so was in his mind what drives ego out of control. And let’s be honest, truth hurts, and few embrace pain. Therein lies a huge quagmire for the individual and their quest for self control. My proof? Look around you,. Excess and Access is a death knell.

[@maxos-4135]

Thats the bad ego, the good ego is to try get better on what you do😉

[@charlestour4681]

Bravo. Humble pie is always hard to swallow with your pride. My life got a lot easier when I realized it was not my job to be right but simply honest. Let others be right. Let others argue about what’s right. My job is to focus more on being honest. If I’m honest then everything falls into place much easier.

[@jasonishwara7680]

amazing comment. I will repost this comment on my instagra. Thanks dude 👊

[@mikejohnson6135]

Incredibly worded

[@blainemont1014]

Amen brother.

[@donkeylzc]

I dono for me I felt I was always (not tootin' my own horn here) way too honest. Especially on the wrong time. Very blunt. I felt dishonesty is sometimes useful to meet my objective. What do you think?

[@popopr5113]

@@donkeylzc sometimes its not what you say (your honesty), rather HOW you say it (ij this case being blunt). Try other softer approaches or indirect approaches while still being honest. Jujitsu

[@rivalsports6276]

As a high schooler, constantly surrounded by entitled and rich kids, with giant (unearned) egos, I wish that we had the Jocko Podcast as a class.

[@pawsonarove]

Save your breath, focus on you first.

[@thatsawesomelol]

be the example for those around you. be how you see jocko, for those around you.

[@beastwolf7]

Amen brother

[@exf3]

Just wait 4 years and you’ll see them fail. It ain’t worth it.

[@Edgar-Friendly]

Rival Sports for non-academics, I use Jocko and Jordan Peterson with students. Even some rich entitled students know that there is something more and hunger for it.

[@beerinoculum]

THIS - is what people need to see

[@henkverhaeren3759]

Right, that is why I am watching

[@DT-sb9sv]

Indeed.

[@damienholland8103]

In most places I've worked most people are humble it's that 10 percent of employees / managers that aren't and they cause all kinds of problems whether that's not doing what they are told would be a good idea, being lazy, being overconfident and making bad decisions, not being polite, or whatever. As a regular employee not involved in management there isn't much I can do besides confer with managers who are also humble and understanding and let them deal with it.

[@andagain9826]

I pride myself on my humility.

[@ebrahimmusleh]

Wow wow wow, Very humble

[@yourkingdomcomeyourwillbedone]

But I am the most humble of them all.

[@notloki3377]

Ego is the result of fear. Fear is what happens when you have a worldview that does not completely serve you and you are also unwilling to learn.

[@finalform4971]

one of the true leader of our world. leader is not position nor title, it is personality, it is mind, it is action, it is integrity.

[@Commissioner.]

Name one

[@dimebagdarrell4949]

jocko

[@Sulamanjansulttaani]

Tergridy weed.

[@davidahern7705]

Absolutely love Echo’s demeanor and the chem between these two somewhat gentle giants. Great examples for us all.

[@jme2266]

His "ego" voice has me cracking up

[@weareallinthis3668]

LOL

[@micksmith7207]

Take ownership, poke around lightly, allow room for self analysis, do jujitsu and eat some steak.

[@atomsk3250]

Underrated comment

[@Fizz-Pop]

Diplomacy. Sounds easy, but it isn't. Many of us have never learned it, never needed to. Jocko makes it sound easy, because he learned it the hard way. I aint saying don't try, I'm just saying learn slowly. You aint gonna be Jocko the next time you talk to your boss, but you can apply this stuff over time. Knowledge is more than listening. It is doing. Be careful, not quick.

[@H0kram]

Best advice out there. Everything in these podcats takes practice and failures. So everyone can eventually craft a customized solution for his problem, by adopting the right approach. It's definitely not easy. There's a freaking reason why is so unpopular :) . It physically hurts, to keep our ego in check while using diplomacy with a boss who has a huge one. Takes a lot of time to be consistent and make it a habit, that eventually leads to much less internal fights and thus stress, than before practicing it. Before we fuck up again thinking we got this and we discipline ourselves again. But it needs to get worse before getting better. Because you first fight both your too big ego and the other person's inflated ego.

[@alexrandall8557]

Just if anyone's wondering, what Jocko is describing with "pulling the string" is called the Socratic Method. You ask a directed line of questioning that evidently leads to the conclusion you want. It's incredibly effective at changing minds, because people feel like they came to the conclusion themselves, rather than having it forced onto them

[@AkilesJose]

I laugh so hard everytime they do these voices. Seriously, every single time. Wonderful talk. This is something I'm having issues to control, I think I'm almost there, but still it slides from time to time.

[@cardenas262002]

Ego will drive you into a pit of unsatisfied eternal thirst, eternal hunger, greed, fear, and an endless world of unanswered questions.

[@SkreltNL]

Thanks again Jacko+Echo+everyone involved.

[@djcrackademiks1191]

Your ego holds you back from everything good life has to offer. Read the book “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday, changed my perspective about a lot of things

[@S.C.-wo8hq]

My ex-girlfriend is all into narcissism and it all goes hand and hand. Humility is a good thing and when I think about my biggest experiences of personal growth, many stem from being humbled.

[@bluwng]

Books are dangerous, authors are as imperfect as you are, what makes you think they are right. Jocko also has ego, he is playing the guru, in all actuality he has no experience in corporate America.

[@Theendman42]

@@bluwng Ever heard of his company called Echelon Front? That's literally his job, to go into "corporate America" and help companies with leadership. Giving advice isn't ego. What makes you think you are right? Be skeptical, sure, but if a book makes sense, and it is practical and helpful, then, it is just right enough to be effective.

[@S.C.-wo8hq]

@Mular Everyone has an ego but i'm not sure I understand your question.

[@AManofBalance]

Everyone has an ego. Having an ego isn’t “bad.” It’s necessary. However, if you don’t know who you REALLY are (not your mind, body or feelings), your “personal identity” might cause you a lot of suffering.

[@justwill8239]

Really appreciate Echo’s humble attitude and his talk about his own example! Respect

[@Lilitulitu]

omg the ego conversation is so relatable to me. I work in a room full of super stars, but I am the only programmer. So often I can help them do their job more efficiently but they won’t ask me for help, and if I try offer my help they say no. It’s really frustrating. The last shift I worked I tried to be a but more assertive and just create the fix for one of my coworkers to try show him it would help, and instead he just did it manually anyway 😭

[@scoogsy]

I come back to these videos when I start slipping off the path to get some perspective. Thank you Jocko and Echo.

[@paulisaaksohn9179]

You guys are the father and the elder brother and the mind coach I never had - all in one.

[@david6pac]

im so glad to have found this podcast. everything that Jocko says is very applicable to life in general

[@christopherdean697]

Love this it's absolutely truth... I've had the hardest time keeping my ego in check. Now I have a hard time keeping quiet when i notice other people allowing their ego to fill the situation and the room. Also best Ego voice ever!

[@buzzcrushtrendkill]

Studying Buddhism greatly helped me with the ego and how it creates suffering.

[@artofvalor9396]

Man... So many people need this advice! So many undeserved/unearned egos out there!

[@greeleypeterson8119]

I definitely have to do this daily. Thank you for these podcasts

[@jonathancoffey6937]

After listing to this and coming back a week later I have found this is very hard for me to put into practice and at the fron of my mind among other things. With that said it gave me the opportunity to look at my life and daily interactions and slowly start to critique myself and my thought prosses and I can see a very small change in my perception of my life and I believe that if I keep at it I wont just kill my ego but I'll change who I am and be able to maintain a healthy mindset moving foward. Baby steps

[@big-k-7.62.]

"Those are miiiine" had me dying haha. You are the greatest Jocko!

[@matthewrenko7586]

You'll never know me and most likely will never read this but as someone else said, you have changed the trajectory of my life with your knowledge and advice. You cannot reach the end of your journey if you start out facing in the wrong direction. It feels like I'm finally facing the right direction and I thank you for opening my mind so that I could recognize that

[@angbandart]

Holy s***. I was just getting in my car thinking "I've come a long way, and I think it's thanks to overcoming the ego, a painful part of life. Anyway, let's see what Jocko has to say today." and this video was at the top of my Home page

[@Concojone5]

This is fantastic. I always confront, but this is so much better!

[@daves-c8919]

This approach is useful. It's worked on me in the past and it will work on me in the future. I have a feeling laziness might not exist...what I mean is humans are looking for homeostasis. We are looking to put out the minimum amount of energy necessary to maintain where we are at this moment. No matter where we are, we've all made it this far. The only things that will make us put out more effort are: 1: We get a gut feeling that we are suffering more than we need to be, or 2: Something or someone we trust is hinting at a better version of ourselves that's attainable. Legitimately trust the intelligence of the person you're talking to. If they need to change, it won't come by calling them lazy or by laying out their problems...They are the only ones that can grasp their entire lives and change. Thanks for the lesson, gentlemen. I'll try to integrate it.

[@SS-mp4wl]

Thank god for Jocko! Sooo multi leveled.!!!

[@typ044]

My humbleness is the greatest thing about me.

[@marcusspurlock9443]

Awesome video! Could have used this much sooner (for myself and some other folks in mind...) than now but better late than never. 👍🏽

[@tommihaapanen846]

I had a quarrel with the missus. Then I come to you Jocko for a morale boost and boom you just tell the solutions for the exact problem we just had with the wife! This isn't even the first time, you are becoming a life saver for me, sir, thank you!

[@essencev8927]

You are helping me to change my life jocko Thankyou.

[@SupermanJH68]

Great stuff. Absolutely necessary subject

[@yteka99]

Something that really got rid of my ego is a different subject but possibly the same idea. I thought I was really good at riding motorcycles on the street. I went to the race track to ride with people who train and learn regularly. I quickly realized I was actually a really bad rider. Joining the groups in learning and training how to do it well gave me a great appreciation of what being good actually was and the importance of always learning and being open to new ideas.

[@kennethcurtis1856]

My son, who was about 35 at the time, thought he knew a lot about shooting handguns. After attending one intro to firearms class, he goes, 'Wow, I learned a lot.'

[@alexsanchezj.5575]

That cough tho. The cough of a dragon.

[@matthewbutler6557]

Yo fr lmao

[@zeppelin1n4]

Thanks for making me a better man and leader jocko

[@espada9]

I found the best way for me was to start training Brazilian jiu jitsu and muay thai at 43. It was a great lesson in humility. 12+ years later and I'm still getting humbled.

[@j.w.matney8390]

I had the same experience when I started climbing at 60. Very humbling when a 10 year old can climb harder routes than me. Anybody can be a teacher.

[@simonprice5374]

Jocko, you are both correct. A slapjack is a leather-wrapped piece of flat metal used to slap with a uniform flat point of contact with the metal bending to provide additional momentum. A blackjack is a leather-wrapped coil spring with a piece of thick metal on the top. A flick of the wrist and a black jack builds instant momentum for small quick hits with insane impact. Both items are leather single wrapped with a double wrap on the impact points. My blackjack was about 8in long and had a leather band to slide my hand in as I held it, keeping it on my hand like a glove. My slapjack was about 15in long and had a leather loop meant for the wrist. Both are great tools but their legality depends on the location. Love your show and wise insight, Sir. Thank you for all you do.

[@amishshark3549]

Much needed stuff to hear

[@tysully5245]

I really enjoy these clips

[@hoffamane]

I struggle with this but it’s getting better the more I learn

[@TheTurtlePenguin]

Thank you guys. After watching this I confronted my partner about a fight we had last night. I took ownership about my mistake of demanding her to admit her mistakes, and in doing so admitted I was being egoistic myself in that situation. She forgave me, and we reconciled the whole thing. Taking ownership about my ego hurt a lot. But it was worth it, since I came out better than I was before it. Thank you.

[@ryneprince7113]

No better sex than make up sex 🤣

[@sourcesauce]

lol

[@MichaelJames707]

Loved this episode 🙏🏼

[@BuddhatheRockstar]

WOW... THIS WAS my reality check!

[@Tactical_DZ]

Hell yeah, great message 🤘

[@LouisianaPyro93]

The best teacher is having your ego get put in check. That changes you. Life does that. Overcome and be better everyday

[@windowpain9615]

Perfect explanation of micro-managing = ego.

[@BlessedTex_]

"Ego massage"... Brilliant

[@Abraxastrust]

Suggest editing / cut to reactions of guest or in this case echo . Would help the conversation flow naturally ..

[@Jessehermansonphotography]

This is probably the most important part of EO imo

[@jimwilson278]

@8:28 I half-expected Jocko to say "my precious" LMAO

[@pajarito726]

I can see this happening in every business. So pull threads, reveal the problem, attacking egos will result in failure

[@horsehorse4595]

Thanks for the video. A person can never...and I mean never change another person. A person can only change themselves. This goes against all society training us since childhood. If a person is completely ego driven it's their responsibility to change themselves. If they WONT? Then walk. No matter who it is.

[@1976ondy]

When Joko make them funny tough voices , priceless 🙏🏽😂😂😂😂 "ohh,ohh, my supporters dont wanna step up!"👊🏾

[@ShellC888]

Wow he's humble its a attractive trait 💓

[@user-sx5kx3pq2i]

pull the thread reveal peoblem avoid confronting if posssible be a bouncer, use minimum force necessary

[@aidanmcelligott2329]

I too am extraordinarily humble

[@markmcintire4767]

I've always heard it called "blackjack." Im in the same spot as Jocko... like 98% sure but not 100. Lol it makes me wonder if you guys ever researched it to settle your mini dispute. Love the podcast. Ive watched so many that im starting to watch re-runs. Life changing.

[@ariesmyers2563]

March 24 listening Manny like to expand his knowledge 💯🔥🔥🤷🏻‍♂️🙏🙏♈♈

[@shanepdooley]

Where I grew up a blackjack was a small wooden bat that had been drilled out and filled with lead. A slapjack was a wide, thick leather piece with lead sewn into the center.

[@harveysanchez6993]

This was so funny and educational

[@et9650]

Damn.... Echo looks JACKED!

[@airpods3198]

J O C K E D

[@oyenkachiboguw5624]

Not only you can do it but the most important things is the person that produces the resources so you leave it to the person that produces the resources this is the most important things because before the person brought it you he or she knows can do it

[@FunnyFred67]

I’m currently watching this because I realized that I had an ego when I looked at the thumbnail and said “I don’t need to watch that because I don’t have an ego”

[@saramcgaha1406]

Life altering with ego1 and ego2 situation equals more than the sum.

[@billsmith857]

Two very important men

[@kotypryor752]

Same could be said about confrontation of any sort. Flank & over run your problems. Don't give a chance to defend themselves.

[@charlesbourgoigne2130]

Humility, discipline, courage, helping others, sticking together etc, these values used to be called „a good character“; it seems that modern „self-help“ books have completely forgotten this idea; you need to look in older books to find them; Benjamin Franklin wrote on them (13 virtues), or Marcus Aurelius, for example. I really hate that today, many people with power and reputation promote the opposite: The „easy wealth“, that it’s ok to be a selfish asshole because that’s what might bring you succees and that you don’t need to help others. That you constanly have to show off and impress others with how amazing you are. That is our modern world. The world of „celebrities“ who promote such „modern“ values. But you have the freedom to not follow their example. To not follow them on instagramm or whatever their name. But as Benjamin Franklin wrote in „the way to wealth“: after the old wise had told them his good advice, the people, after applauding him, just returned to their old habits, their vices as if nothing had happened. So, it is only on yourself to be better than these „modern“ values and be an example to others. It’s not a new invention (though I‘m sure the „self-help-books“ will discover this in the future as a „revolutionary idea“ and make big profits), it is common knowledge and testable in real life today.

[@1234clarknj]

Charles Bourgoigne Great observation Charles. Stephen Covey talked about this as the ‘Character Ethic’ vs ‘Personality Ethic’ in his book 7 Habits for Highly Effective People.

[@fgfgfg4]

Recognizing this is my first step took me long enough man I want to become better

[@jakeizlove]

Thanks!

[@LosDjango007]

Wow. I’m already doing this. Thanks

[@johnduffi625]

i love how jocko imitate ego 😄

[@darrenwhelan2479]

How good is the voice :XD

[@johndcoffee632]

Joe Rogan: Have you tried DMT?

[@Sulamanjansulttaani]

Yeah well that dissolves ego

[@peircesherpa9042]

Roe jogan: I’m on it right now

[@marcusmiles4234]

How to really destroy the ego

[@user-jw8oj2mi6i]

Jocko: Have you tried Jiu Jitsu?

[@internet_internet]

Why yes, I have.

[@sporkcunt8100]

I want to be like these men when I’m their age maybe not some super solider but a good self actualized man

[@danielomorain7134]

Hi, Jocko: Admiral Olson had a reputation of being very humble, like General Bradley. Would you consider doing a YT on any work you did for the Admiral, or on any person whom you worked with who was humble and effective? I read a lot of military history, and not-infrequently come across leaders who were quiet/reserved/humble. General Vandergrift (Guadalcanal), and General Simpson (post-Normandy, 9th Army, I think). People like Patton and Montgomery and MacA are tough to be around; I want to know that one came be successful while allowing the others to contribute and keep their dignity.

[@ParadymShiftVegan]

*Eckhart Tolle and David R. Hawkins are the masters of overcoming and transcending the ego.*

[@coritellastory]

love this analogy of pulling the thread...the approach of being a hammer to a nail does not work. eager learner here ready to master life

[@adamgolding]

Okay... but how do we build a culture where you can actually be direct and honest?

[@adamgolding]

Do a piece on radical honesty--tell me when and how this is wrong: facebook.com/adamgolding/posts/10107446637905022

[@Commissioner.]

Sex robots?

[@bronco1199]

There are blackjacks AND slapjacks. A black jack is a weighted, flexible piece of braided leather that resembles a small baton. A slapjack kind of looks like a leather toungue, also weighted and with a strap made to palm the weapon. There are different sizes of both "tools".

[@beauknows1677]

Greatest way to rid others of their egos, feed it. Greatest way to rid yourself of ego, starve it.

[@A8vscRrabbit]

I love this

[@ariesmyers2563]

I can appreciate your conversation and your massage but many people don't speak so precise and knowledgeable common since 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️💯💯🔥🔥♈♈🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️👍👍👍👍

[@fastawake870]

cant spell LEGO without it.

[@themessenger9624]

Hey Jocko I enjoy the podcast there are nuggets of gold in basically every one I’ve heard which is quite a few. Read your book “Extreme Ownership” and found it very applicable to my business and I refer to it quite a bit so thanks. Looking forward to the upcoming novel... Onto the main reason I’m writing this...wanting to know are you a Christian? By Christian I mean do you believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God and was sent to the earth to suffer and die for humankind’s sins so that we, through a repentant heart and acceptance of this truth, have the opportunity to spend a blissful eternal existence with God without taxes, sore joints, overcooked meat, spousal discord, the kardashians, etc. ? (not a run-on sentence) Also it seems like you read a lot, have you ever read the Bible? I know how much youtube and subscribers love Jesus talk hehe... Hope you keep up the good content and thanks to you and your buds for your service and bravery, and to all those who have served and especially those who gave the ultimate sacrifice for the freedoms most of us don’t even appreciate. God bless.

[@jeffarmstrong6172]

Hahaha! Jocko and his low voice ego impersonations is hilarious! He should do stand up comedy doing that, if it ever comes back?

[@christopheralexander1554]

An ego tripper is the master of excuses

[@Webber4505]

I feel You need a position of power to be successful at any of this. Otherwise superiors will keep you in a box or eliminate the threat. I spent 3 years being the underboss just to have to leave for more opportunities. also used to take on a lot of the heat for someone else. Idk I’m just trying to say to some extent I don’t understand some skill is missing or needed to navigate into positions. But I do realize it’s not a quick game of checkers in life.

[@SimpleFly73]

Bad ass psychology

[@GoforDayten]

Brother jocko’s “nice voice” has me wheezing lol.

[@laurelinlorefield318]

Coming from academia, I spit out my coffee in guffaws when he mentioned lots of crazy egos at work.

[@b.l.a.c.k.s.t.a.r]

1:00 nice knowing you jocko

[@Lorendrawn]

Nope. Those coronaviruses are gonna get seize-clear-hold-build ed in Jocko's body.

[@ForgottenKnight1]

That was staged.

[@bobhoman9410]

My one hour speech on humility.

[@MrCheckster2000]

As a kid I was taught to never let go of my EGO.....haha

[@shadowrealm6]

*crickets* lol

[@tylersweiger2389]

Echo karls- family matters, community first

[@willbaskin700]

i'm in a band and just realized how much ego i have to deal with including my own