How To Get Someone With Dementia To Accept Help

You can’t use a cookie-cutter approach when you are caring for a perso with dementia. It doesn’t matter whether you are working with someone who has Alzheimer’s disease or Lewy body dementia, the emphasis must be on the person not on the disease. In this video, I talk about how to get someone with dementia to do what you want using the example of getting someone with dementia to move into a nursing home. Your plan for getting someone with dementia to move in a care facility can’t be trying to convince them. That usually makes things worse and doesn’t work. Instead, learn the questions every caregiver must ask themselves when trying to help someone with dementia.
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In case you haven’t met me, my name is Natali Edmonds and I am a board certified geropsychologist. That means that I am a clinical psychologist who specializes in working with older adults. One day, while hiking a trail, I came up with the idea for Careblazers and I decided to see if posting videos online could provide help to the many other Careblazers in the world who don’t get to have help come directly to them in their homes. I hope that this work helps you in some way on your caregiving journey.
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[@carolbenson6524]

I took care of dementia clients for 5 years after I retired..mostly in their home..which I miss so much! What I can tell you is that the clients are so much more happy at home. I worked in 12 different facilities also and there was never enough caregivers in the facilities...that cost $6,000 a month!!!!. I think it's best to keep the loved one at home with family and outside care givers (that still need to be monitored) to split the duties. Of course it all depends on the person. Lots of things to think about! Just remember....the loved one is still here on the earth..and we all need to do everything we can to help them no matter how difficult it may be. 🙏

[@djondjon]

Yes, yes, yes!

[@Shiskabobber1]

Thanks for the guilt trip

[@heatherjunker967]

@@Shiskabobber1 One person cannot do it all. It is ok to have your loved one put in a facility if it means they will have their needs met. You will still be their caregiver but in an advocating way vs a physical way.

[@djondjon]

@@Shiskabobber1 If someone has a guilt trip, that is of their own doing. They need to take responsibility for their actions and inactions.

[@DementiaCareblazers]

Hi Carol, We are so glad you are here as part of this community. Wishing you all the best on your caregiving journey. 💖

[@orthodudeness]

Again, you say these things. This is one fine video. It NEEDS to be watched over and over to get the points. It IS full of precise information. August will be helpful to caregivers, and then helpful to those who need care. Out of the park you hit it. Maybe repetition from earlier instruction from you, but, as you well know there are new people caregiving everyday. Not to mention those who are so danged stressed they don't get it all right away. Your power is in your care you display Dr. Natali.💖

[@DementiaCareblazers]

Hi Mike, it's always nice to see you and hear from you. Sending you love!

[@fishingrod920]

You truly have a gift and I am so glad you are sharing it. See you in August!

[@DementiaCareblazers]

Excited to have you in the program!

[@sinebar]

My mother is a doctor. She told me that a lot of dementia in the elderly is caused by restricted arteries to the brain that can be treated and most of the time the dementia improves dramatically or goes away entirely.

[@DementiaCareblazers]

Yes, thanks for the info.

[@thenae8572]

How do you treat this?

[@kevingrimbeek2106]

I nave a question for someone out there who knows?! My LOWD and I have had our names down at two retirement institutions who offer short term caring as well. While my wife us kind of OK with the idea, she is happy to leave it up to me as has been the case for 49 years! So now I have to consider a bunch of things;- 1. What if it doesn't work out . . . ?! 2. My own heart isn't ready to move! 3. My head says don't wait. 4. We live in a very sociable environment close to my one daughter. 5. My wife has nice friends here. 6. I have been looking after the affairs of our gated village for some 15 years already which gives me a great sense of purpose. 7. Most convenience stores etc are very nearby. In short, it appears that my head is 8n the wrong place even if things go horribly wrong!!!

[@The49ergirlfan]

Is this special series free or will there be a cost ?

[@raecarful]

What are the options for a 70 year old Dementia Patient when the friend/caregiver passes away. The patient is on SSI but has no family or money. The patient also has Intractable Epilepsy. She cannot stay where she is living. I don't know what stage she is in. She would be unable to live on her own. San Diego, CA. Thanks. This is a great site.

[@janetfishwick8887]

My 94 year old mother has lived on her own for the last 32 years. She was diagnosed in 2014 with MCI and now has stage 5 Alzheimers. Mother had carers twice daily for 6 days a week and a care package from Adult Social Care Services. Mother had many issues such as deafness, refusal to wear hearing aids, slippers, and use a walking stick. We have had many sources of support to help mother remain in her bungalow. She had grab rails in the bathroom and hallway, she was assessed and referred for help to maintain herself, but mother still refused to wear or use alarms if she were to fall. Mother fell in June. She refused to go to hospital. Her mobility became seriously compromised. Mother was admitted into hospital this month and now awaits discharge into a Care Home. The very last place she ever wanted to be.

[@DementiaCareblazers]

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I hope you are surrounded with love and support.

[@janetfishwick8887]

@@DementiaCareblazers Mother moves today into her care home. We hope she will be able to cope with the changes to her new surroundings. None of us, are able to accommodate her in our own homes. We await the outcome with trepidation.

[@cocoblessedgurl]

I’m so sorry! I care for my mother and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done! I hope your mother will get better! Blessings to you!

[@lcinflorida8728]

Unfortunately I'm the only person helping my mother (I'm an only child of an only child. My mother is getting argumentative and has run off all but one friend of hers). She already is on the list for her preferred ALF because she put herself it a few years ago. I have asked her what would it take for her to go willingly there, she won't engage in that conversation. I can't just drop her off because one, she knows the facility and two, her furniture has to be moved in. I'm all ears for other suggestions...

[@johnsmith-du3yo]

Hi, I know that what I am asking has nothing to do with the topic of this video, but I would like to ask you is,my mother is 89 with dementia and around a month ago she lost her appetite and her doctor prescribed a drug called megestrol. Because of the many side effects i wanted to get your opinion on this drug. Please help. Thanks

[@DementiaCareblazers]

HI John Smith, This is Trisha. Dr. Natali's social media manager. I'm sorry to hear about your situation;. Here is a KZbin video she made that I hope can help you with your situation. 💖 kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIjVcohtgJerq8k

[@marksutton8504]

Hello Dr. Should I get her neurologist involved to evaluate how bad she is so that I can determine if we bring someone in or she needs a facility. I know I have input about it.

[@Olamchesed]

Yes ask the doctor

[@DementiaCareblazers]

Yes!

[@darlenecarman7644]

Thx, so what happens once you get someone there and all of the same habits show up but this time the experts are not really experts, they are strangers, the place feels strange and most times under staffed :( engaging seems more like TV watching and the amount of sugar is over the top:( Sadly for 10 grande a month things need to change....

[@sandrapride1046]

Once your loved one is in a care facility, how often should one visit?

[@DementiaCareblazers]

However often you want to. Truly.

[@sandrapride1046]

@@DementiaCareblazers thank you, I go 4-5 times a week and sometimes it seems too hard on her. I am getting so much better at letting things she says roll.

[@stella9717]

HOW DO I GET MY DEMENTIA PATIENT TO SHOW. WILL NOT LET ANYONE HELP HIM AND REFUSES TO DO IT ????

[@stella9717]

Meant to write SHOWER ???

[@DementiaCareblazers]

HI Stella, This is Trisha. Dr. Natali's social media manager. I'm sorry to hear about your situation;. Here is a KZbin video she made that I hope can help you with your situation. 💖 kzbin.info/www/bejne/jImyaaObqsale9U

[@traceypawlowski283]

If I'm already receiving the videos, am I in the club?

[@spritesprite8185]

@Tracey P If look below and hit more you'll see classes snd free classes as well.Dr Natli is Great and we all help Eachother ❤️🙏Sprite🙋‍♀️🇺🇲

[@JayRevay]

This video is a lot of pretty words that aren’t helpful. I know I will not be able to convince my Mom to go to a care facility and I know it’s pointless to try. What I don’t know is how to safely transition her to a facility and this video did not help with that

[@waynetalbert8109]

Knows nothing about the real dementia problems

[@DPortugal]

Like a lot of the experts on trying to get people with mental illness to get help. It's all "support groups" and no one has any answers.