How to Get your Children Involved in the Kitchen!

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[@amandaw30]

The hot warning rings true. My son who is nearly 4 has been inching closer and closer to the wood stove. We’ve told him a million times to stay back, it’s hot! We even have a little tape line on the floor that was a reminder for a “safe distance”. Well the other day he walked by it while we were vacuuming and no one specifically said hey get back it is hot. In passing he brushed the side of his hand across the stove. He earned himself 3 solid blisters (which we took care of and are healing now) and real understanding of “the stove is hot”. He’s little enough to not be worried about protecting his ego yet so he came right out and told us he touched it on purpose. I haven’t seen him walk inside the tape line since though! Some kids need their lessons taught by experience. He’s my fourth child and the 3 that are older then him took my warning and never felt the need to touch it, but some just have to learn differently.

[@ashb4smoke]

I have 3 boys like this 😂 they absolutely believe I am lying to them and then OOPS mama was right🫠

[@annsmith8343]

We have 4 children and #3 is the one who had to learn by experience. She’s 33 now, and still learns by experience, but her life of experience has taught her a lot!

[@californiadreamer2580]

Thanks for pointing out how individual children come with their own innate responses to their environments. People in single child households, or don't have children at all, often miss this fact❤

[@priscillamoore5736]

*FOR BURNS* - I was told by an R.N that she used apple cider vinegar for her children after they've burned themselves, and I have found it's like magic. It stops the burn from hurting, and whenever I've used it, I've never had any scarring.

[@rosemarydavis9347]

My grandma said don't touch the burners on her electric stove because it's hot. Well me being curious put my hand on hot burners.

[@12pointlife51]

Speaking of motivation, when I was a college student I worked after school at a home with three boys ages 8-12. I was to make sure they got their chores done, fixed supper and got their homework started as both parents had their own businesses. One day the 8 yr old was to vaccum his room. He wasn"t going to do it. Didn't want to. I explained to him that this wasn't a vaccum. No, No! This was your dance partner! And I proceeded to dance with the vaccum cleaner all around the bedroom. He squealed with delight and he soon danced around his bedroom with his dance partner. Mission accomplished!

[@Longfamily3]

That's like Mary Poppins and Maria in Sound of Music!! I loved the characters Julie Andrews played in those two movies that delighted the hearts of hurt children.

[@peanutf8235]

Very creative!!!

[@julih2674]

My mother didn’t teach me how to cook or take care of a house. She was controlling and wanted to do everything herself. I wish I had chores and responsibilities growing up because I think I would have had an easier time as an adult. Love your channel.

[@silviamagda]

That's sad. I am the same. My mother didn't teach me anything either because she didn't have the patience to do so. She was always yelling. Everything she did was made out of anger. Now that i am happily married me and my daughter cook together almost daily. She loves being in the kitchen with me. I feel so blessed!

[@patriciasoares8532]

I was just about to tell the same thing. When I've moved away from home, I couldn't do anything, no cooking, no take care of the house. It has been a nightmare. I have 2 sons, grown-ups now, and I've taught them all I dream I had learn as a kid.

[@silviamagda]

@@patriciasoares8532 i was the same. Good for you! Such a good mom.

[@SunnyDay-kw1pd]

Ruth Ann, not sure if u will see this but had to stop the video and tell you your silver mixed with dark hair is absolutely gorgeous. I am a fairly new viewer and don't remember seeing any silver in your hair previously. I have always thought your curls were really beautiful but the silver mixed with dark curls in this video are just over the top beautiful!!! Your constant smile as you talk to us is lovely as well. Thank you for being such a light to your viewers.😊

[@katie7748]

I watched my mother and gramma in the kitchen but I wasn't taught how to do anything. I taught myself the best, most efficient way of doing dishes, I taught myself how to clean windows, I taught myself how to do laundry (at age 12, I was doing my own), I taught myself how to cook (starting with boxed mac n cheese, also at age 12), I taught myself how to bake (again, age 12...and fun story: I didn't know back then that a half cup of butter/margarine meant a stick so I scooped off-brand Country Crock into a measuring cup LOL). Heck, I even had to teach myself to tie my shoes (4th grade). As an adult, I taught myself how to do even more - everything from balancing the checkbook and making a budget to gardening and preserving food (with a LOT of help from books and the Tube). My mother constantly harped on wanting us to be "independent" and "self-sufficient," but didn't teach us HOW. I don't want to repeat that mistake. I wish I'd had someone like you 16 years ago when I was pregnant with my oldest. I did start teaching all of my children basic skills and let them all help with things but there were too many times where I was impatient and/or the bigger resulting mess was frustrating. It's something I've been trying to work harder on and I often find myself wishing for a "do over" button haha Anyway, thank you for doing what you do. And blessings on your daughter's wedding and marriage ❤

[@AngelaSissySnyder]

Bless your heart I know what you are talking about. I had to learn the hard way too and even in my middle age am still learning. I have watched a lot of Tube and read a lot in order to learn. We are tenacious women tho! We got this.

[@tinadoerer4312]

Ruthann you are wonderful! As a parent you nailed it. It is our responsibility to teach them how to take care of themselves when they are no longer with you. I know people that have never washed dishes or done laundry and they have no clue how to cook. Your kindness and love for your family shows in every video. Thank you

[@FoundThingsandFamilyLegacies]

I grew up in a family of 10. When we had our son - 14 years into our marriage (by the GRACE OF GOD) He was on my back in a carrier, then in a tiny floor seat, and by the time he was crawling, had his own special drawer to pull out plastic bowls, cups. By the time he was over 2 years old, he was mixing flour, baking soda, salt, and water (yes, I set the perimeters on the amount) on the floor over heavy craft paper I could then scoop up and use as fire starter for our wood stove or the campfire. By the time he was able to stand on a kitchen chair beside me (safely) he was learning measurements and making up dishes with me. By the time he was 9 years old he was fully a "chef" and while I was recovering from knee surgery was putting together incredible meals and desserts - and would ask me over the stair railing area that separated the living room from the kitchen - if he had questions and I would talk him through the steps. Then it was a period of NOT wanting to cook or even reheat food! He is now a university student and his favorite cuisine is Japanese, so while we didn't cook that way as he was growing up - he has no problem creating and cooking his meals with what food he has on hand or the home-grown pantry staples we send with him each "school" year. Every basic tool he needed to be on his own that we could grow-him-into, we did. And, yet, I STILL learn from folks like yourselves! Love seeing children BE children and YET learn an abundance of skills along the way and the responsibility to do so!

[@user-mc6jz9er8w]

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the "silver" streaks in your hair!!!!!

[@cynthiafisher9907]

I love her tousled curls!

[@sherihicks1427]

One of the comments really triggered my memories. I truly love my mom, and miss her terribly (I lost her 25 years ago when I was 34). But she didn't allow me much instruction time in the kitchen--whether she didn’t want to deal with my extra mess or take extra time with cooking, I don’t know. But believe me, I WATCHED! I remembered ever after how to do things, and have replicated a lot of her food. She did teach me how to peel potatoes, how to use a rubber spatula to get EVERY DROP (I'm a stickler!), how to bake things properly. But I wasn’t expected to take a turn cooking or washing dishes. I wasn’t given any chores at all. And that was not good, I recognized later. I will also readily admit that I didn’t teach my kids very well, either. I lacked grace. They would tell you that. I'm ashamed of that, but God has given me a second chance with my grandchildren! And what fun!

[@lisatakeitorleaveit]

I raised three sons and they all helped in the kitchen and learned to cook and clean as well as other chores . When they are little they want to help and work next to you. I feel like so many people wait until they are teenagers and your window of opportunity is limited. I agree with everything you said. I have said this before I wasn’t looking at it like I was raising sons - I was raising future men and I wanted them to not only be competent but be good partners which they are ❤ I live right outside NYC and other moms thought I was being SO HARD on them 😂 my sons are 30,28,26. As they reached their early teens I gave them cookbooks and they could choose a recipe and they shopped with me for the ingredients and made the meal and they were so proud! One thing I learned early on is when raising children discipline means to teach 💕

[@lisatakeitorleaveit]

Side note - I did this in all areas as I can see you do too. I also handed them an nyc train subway map when they were early teens and have them plan a day. Then I would happily get on the trains they choose and when they made a mistake I let them figure out how to solve it. It builds competence and confidence. - my youngest son joined the Marines when he was 17 and after boot camp his drill instructor came up to me and thanked me for raising a competent young man that knew how to get it done 😂😂😂😂😂

[@bonnierichmond6561]

That is something to be proud of Mama!

[@lisatakeitorleaveit]

@@bonnierichmond6561 thanks! Loved it and now I’ve been an empty nester for years and I love that too!

[@lindagraff4842]

The world needs more mothers like you, teaching the kids responsibility, is a hard thing. Your like the parent handbook, that goes with raising children.

[@nicolewatters4062]

It's so important to teach children these skills. Alot of kids these days don't even have skills to talk on the phone, do laundry, cool an egg!! I love the way you mother. My mom and grandma taught me so much like you do your kids. It really is a lost art... real life skills aren't even considered in society...❤

[@sararempel7956]

This was such a practical teaching session, Ruthann. Thankyou.

[@stevemcmillin2737]

First, LOVE the hair. Thank you for teaching your children to go out into the world and be adults and take care of themselves. Too many parents don't think of these things. They just complain about being so busy then that kid isn't ready to move out. They also want to be their kids "friends", they don't remember they have the responsibility of sending them out.

[@juliabrown5948]

Yes, I say those are the parents who simply keep their kids fed and alive, more like a roommate, rather than actually taking these empty slates and training them in all the ways of life and all the proper ways to be a good human.

[@carmalitayanock9584]

I remember when my oldest son had the chore of folding towels from the laundry. It was his 1st time for this chore & he did not want to fold towels. So he rolled them into balls & thought he was finished. When I noticed his work I said "It looks like you are having problems folding towels, so from now on that will be your job until you learn to fold them right." I have to laugh about that now because the very next time he folded towels, they were perfect! I think sometimes children will do a half way job because they think it will get them out of having to do it again.

[@Prezlsc]

I think husbands do the same thing 😉

[@vanessaschoettle3380]

Love this! THANK YOU ❤ Here is a little condensed story that happened about 25 yrs ago when I had little ones: Our 12 yr old daughter was the eldest and during calving season, she agreed to help with meals. One day, we had a set of twins and ole Angus Mamaw cow decided to only nurse one calf. After a quick trip to our local dairy for fresh colostrum and then several hrs feeding our 'rejected' calf, I tucked our new baby calf in and took a bath. I thought several times I should transfer the new colostrum to another container ( it was in a typical store bought milk jug🍶 ) but exhaustion sent me to soak in the tub to thaw my aching muscles. At that same time, our daughter started a batch of pancakes: thinking she was feeding her siblings as well, I left her alone knowing she would do a great job! About 30 minutes later, my husband arrived from the barn: I heard a brief kitchen conversation then abrupt laughter!😂 Apparently, she was NOT feeling generous and quickly made a batch of pancakes only for herself.....and ate them! However, her lack of 'generosity' backfired: she had inadvertently grabbed the colostrum to add to her pancake mix instead of milk! Initially, she was pouty and a little mad she'd been 'caught' not feeding her brother and sister, but we laughed so hard about her eating colostrum that we forgot her 'oversight'. Lol! Good times and precious, precious memories ❤

[@Ruthannzimm]

This made me smile today!!!!

[@susiebyler5226]

This made me smile 😊

[@sherihicks1427]

Oh my goodness, how funny! What a great memory!❤

[@lorenstribling6096]

My younger son is 36 and autistic. He has been in the kitchen since he was 4 or 5. He can cook a full meal and even makes up recipes on his own. He washes dishes almost as well as I do, does his own laundry and putters around in my herb garden. He doesn't do things just the way I do but he is confident and capable. It has saved me a few times when I have been sick and he has taken over and done everything for me.

[@eliza_kai]

Excellent video. Thank you for your wisdom. Raising six children as a full time out of the home sole provider, developing my children’s skills has been difficult. I’m excited to begin to implement these skills beginning this morning. My children have the desire and I often shoo them away because I’m tired or there’s time constraints, etc…I now see that I’m not allowing them to develop much needed life long skills. I have three adults out of the home but I’ll sure be doing all of this with my younger three. After watching your channel, I’ve been so inspired to begin to follow my hearts desire as a mom. Even if I’m working outside the home and likely will be a single mom again, I can do this. Children are a gift, not a burden and one thing I’ve learned in the 24 years of being a mother is that you cannot get the hours, days, years, back. There’s no do-overs.

[@katie7748]

"Children are a gift, not a burden." YES! Though sometimes it'd be nice if there were "do overs." I'm sure we can all think of a few things we'd do differently if we could 😊

[@AngelaSissySnyder]

I just want to encourage you as you are doing all this alone and you will reap so much from putting in all the effort. Bless you and your family. You can do this!

[@DebbieB-zy8zp]

Well said!!

[@eliza_kai]

@@AngelaSissySnyder thank you very much. I’m in a very tough season right now, and appreciate all the encouragement I can get ♥️

[@lanadavis9535]

There are 5 of us in the house right now, so our meal setup is that everyone cooks dinner one night a week. With church on Wednesday and Sunday, it works out perfectly. Our youngest is 11 and she cooks every Monday night (with A LOT of support!). The 16 year old cooks with a lot of support as well, but she tries to get by as independently as possible. It's an invaluable and necessary skill.

[@wizelbee]

AMEN! Once again your advice is sound, tried & true. My husband & I had families who believe as you do. We had chores inside the house & out. My brother & his wife taught their 2 boys the same way as did my husband & I with our 3 boys. I cannot believe how many boys grew up without a clue as to how to cook, clean & do laundry or even grocery shop for the very basic of items. Obviously their moms didn't believe they are skills that would help them throughout their lives. My brother's boys & our boys (all grown by the way) are not afraid to cook up something on the stove, in the oven (even baking) or on the grill. Our oldest son even cans a few items & one even makes homemade ice cream for Mother's Day. We are all proud of the competent young men we have turned loose on the world. Or is that turned loose into the world? 😂

[@lorenstribling6096]

The same goes for girls. One year I helped at my son's small school. The students helped with cleaning classrooms and I encountered one girl about 16 who didn't know how to sweep a floor. I had to teach her to pull the broom towards her not push it in front of her. She very seriously told me she had NEVER done chores.

[@lauraenuco7219]

Great video Ruthann!!! I love your approach to teaching children the basic skills they will need to survive in the world beyond your home. Excellent!!! Best wishes to your daughter and her new husband on their wedding day!!! ❤

[@tammy5590]

I am in my 60's and never was raised by parents. I was left to my own devices from 10 yrs old and up and man what I wouldn't have given to have had this at my young age. It sure would have made me a much better parent. And a much better person. I am proud of you. Keep up the good work.

[@Prezlsc]

😢

[@marthasundquist5761]

I wish my mom and dad had more of an attitude like yours, I would not have had so much of an attitude toward chores. And would have learned better how to better train my sons to get those skills. I firmly believed the boys needed to know how to do basic cooking, sewing up a rip or replacing a button, doing laundry,etc. It helped that their dad liked to cook, and kept trying to learn how to sew a button on. I basically taught hubby along with the boys....lol, and being of engineering background, he learned to make pie crust better than I do...lol!

[@naughtynana5552]

Thank you, Ruth Ann! I wish I had known you 30 years ago when I had littles! I adore you and Lisa (Farmhouse on Boone). I have learned so much from you both. Thank you for the encouragement to get the kids involved, and give them jobs to do. Expectations, being part of the family includes chores. It isn't all fun and games all the time. Again, sending you love from Oklahoma. One of my favorite chores is watching the milking, with the cats standing there waiting for a squirt of two. It makes me laugh every time. ((Hugs))

[@AngelaSissySnyder]

Hello from NW Oklahoma! I agree with you on everything. Love Ruthann and Lisa.

[@amsohn1]

1st ofd Congrats on the wedding and blessings and Prayers to you all!! We ran a group home [not state sponsored, funded or any other government hands in it] We had custody of all of them, they were and our our children given by God... they came to us from ages 12-19 and had little to NO skills, and mostly from horrid situations... seriously most didn't even knownto shower or bath regularly... yet all learned and most were very grateful we cared enough to teach them. I Love that your training up your children to be productive and helpful kiddos and adults... we did the same with our children and all knew how to cook, clean, sew, and check & change the oil, check and change the tires, etc... not once have any of them came back and said they wish we didn't teach this!! They've always thanked us. Giving them this gift, is priceless!! Blessings ❤

[@tettivestberg2989]

My boys have always been with me in the kitchen and other household chores from very early age, they really loved it and as you said it doesn’t make homework easier when they have chairs to stand on to be able to stir a pot or mix something at the counter it gets messy and it’s tiresome even if it’s fun to watch how they get more and more skilled. Now I have grandchildren and they love to help grandma in the kitchen 😂❤

[@cynthiacook7768]

Happy Wedding Day!

[@loric3455]

Thank you for the reminder to adjust your expectations. I now have my 6 and 8 year old grandchildren living with us and I forget that they are so little and were never taught things. While I didn't teach my boys how to cook because frankly, I was terrible at it since my mom was terrible at it, but I was patient when working with them on other things. Thank you for sharing your philosophy and your experiences helping us to do and be better.

[@natalia199301]

Thank You you are so right my grandmother did this to me and I’m so grateful for all the knowledge she gave me….we think children should be trapped all day in in their cells (cellphones) I’m so glad you are teaching your children life values. Thank You love your channel and congratulations on the wedding. Btw..love your hair!

[@KarenSmith-ys3sk]

So glad to teach children to become great adults. I had 4 ,2 boys,2 girls. I started with mine when they were 7 and up. My daughters could cook a whole meal at 13. My sons about 15. But they grew up to know how to cook,clean,and wash their clothes. My oldest is 41,and the youngest is 34. They also know how to plant vegetables, and take care of animals. I wanted them to learn as much as I could teach them,become a person they are to not starve. They also know survival skills too.

[@05MaryBeth]

My friend would not let her 10 year old use knifes. I thought her through showing her and teaching her. She went home and told her mom that is not hard. Mary Beth showed me the right way.

[@elbeachy]

This system makes so much sense! I wish I would’ve had this concept 30 years ago!

[@BinfordMJ]

You are an amazing mother! If more mothers were like you, then our younger generations would be far better off. At my age of 62, I know what you say is true. However, I have met very few mothers that have the insight and fortitude to teach their children what they NEED to know. Kudos to you for sharing all your wonderful knowledge with the world at large. You are saving so many young mothers and children tons of stress that is not necessary. My grandmother did not teach my mother things because it was "more work than she could handle". Yes, her circumstances were different, but my mother did pay the price not having learned those skills early in life. As so, in a domino effect, so did her children. So, when I see someone like you who breaks it all down so anyone can understand, it makes it so much easier to understand. You are REALLY helping people with this video. May God bless you and your wonderful family! And I pray the wedding has gone beautifully! And a slide show of the wedding would be awesome!!!

[@beadwright]

The hair is beautiful! Best wishes on a successful wedding. Thank you for sharing your kitchen training tips with us. My mom would have agreed with you. She raised three kitchen ready children. She added an additional component, we had to plan meals in advance, had a budget and shopped for needed ingredients. It taught us so much life lessons.

[@arvettadelashmit9337]

My children are both grown, married, and live in different states. Yes. I believe that all boys and girls need to learn how to cook, clean, wash, dry, repair, and all the things necessary to keep a home in working order. Not teaching them these things (skills) is robbing them of part of their education. If they are old enough to ask questions, they need truthful answers. Your hair is beautiful. I love your new haircut.

[@kayserio443]

Can I use this with husband😂 Happy Wedding day !

[@denisepineda1788]

Kids can help at a young age. My grandsons still talk about all of the purple hull peas that we shelled together. All my girls growing up all learned to cook and clean. My grandsons have all helped to peel tomatoes during canning season, etc. It is good for them to learn. I always figured it was my job as their Mom to train them so that they are functioning adults who can feed and take care of themselves. A lot of times, they might just be my sous chefs, but they still learned and feel great about themselves. Great video!

[@bethford2334]

I am sure the wedding went well. Congratuations! You did a great job breaking everything down into such easy to follow suggestions for people to follow explaining the why's behind your ideas. My children are grown with their own children now, but I certainly would have made use of some of your guidance had I had it when they were young. Great lessons.

[@terripetty7396]

Oh and congratulations to the newlyweds. When your eyes became glassy, speaking of 18 and the children leaving, you made me cry. Parenthood, who knew it would go by so fast. ❤

[@bonneymoseley1159]

What a fantastic teaching video. You are a very unique person, Ruthann. You are gifted in teaching and parenting children. Blessings to you and your family. So excited to see pictures of the wedding next week.

[@annequiring5652]

I really appreciate your method of training along with the support and encouragement you show your children. I had to work outside of the home 3 days a week while my children were in their informative years. This made training them to help and learn in the kitchen very important. On days I was very tired it was difficult and I had to watch my attitude. I didn’t always do well. They are young adults now and have the skills to cook for themselves. It is amazing how many of their friends have no skills at all.

[@johnnyerrington4605]

Thank you, thank you for caring so much about us to take the time on this busy week to make a video for us. Especially such an important video! Even though my children are grown I appreciate you giving the Moms in the teaching stage such invaluable advice. I hope to help my grandchildren with what I've learned from you. We're never too old to learn and pass it on to those we love. Much appreciation to you Dear Ruth Ann!!...❤🙏Patsy

[@KimsKluckers]

I pray the weather provides the glorious day you have prepared so hard for. ❤️ I trained my children very young and by four they were canning applesauce. Cutting, cooking and milling apples thru a sieve. My youngest at four made soup and grilled cheese sandwiches. At four they also drove the lawnmower on their own after years of steering. At seven they cut tobacco with a machete. I was a helicopter mom yet also knew they needed their independence with some chores. By the way they also were in the A Honor Roll all their years. 🥰❤️🥰 I adore you Ruth Ann for your energy and great motherly practices. 😘

[@rhvondalaunsby35]

You know what I think it's awesome you let kids in kitchen I let mine in kitchen also my oldest was 11 I came home from work she had made lemon chicken and the sauce and rice. The kitchen was a mess but oh I was so happy all 3 can cook and are good cooks. Haters gonna hate just ignore them not worth your time. I find you inspiring we are homesteaders also have dairy cowspregnant with meat cows lol we raise everything we can. 😊

[@bonnierichmond6561]

Ruth Ann, you’re the best Mom. You have such great advice, and I so wish I’d had your KZbin videos when I was raising my two sons, who are now 50 and 47. I was too impatient, but I was young, as I had them at 18 and 21. I watch a lot of Homesteading and Farming videos, and your cool and calm personality always makes wanting to see more of your beautiful family. Congratulations to your daughter on her wedding day❣️ I can’t wait to see anything you have for us regarding the big day. God bless all of you❣️

[@kathycall8624]

Words of wisdom! Wish I had been a little more consistent with getting them to help but they all have learned to be good cooks. Just keep trying.

[@DIYAlex]

I hope to raise my son with as much intention and grace as you raise your kids! ❤

[@southloupriverhomestead4696]

I wish I would have heard all this 40 years ago. I could of used a mentor like you. Thanks for all you do!

[@susanharrell984]

I appreciate your wisdom and sharing it. All four of my boys learned how to cook by being by my side from early age. Today they are all grown men in their 50s. Two of them actually had jobs in restaurants and worked their way up to lead cook and helped work their way through college in that job. One of my boys was a weekend cook in a sorority house in college. And when they got married, I am not kidding, none of their wives knew anything about planning and cooking meals and my sons ended up having to come home from work and cook dinner if they wanted to eat. Even after grandchildren came along, they still were doing the cooking. Crazy. Just this last Christmas they started talking about picking fruit in the orchards and coming home to help can and freeze food for the winter. They also talked about how I did batch cooking, making one dinner for the night and one to go into the freezer for another day. The memories of their learning was positive and I was so happy they shared that with me. Skills of independent living. Blessing on the new couple. I know they will have a good life with parents like you.

[@missykuss9975]

I love your spirit! That is the key factor in your wisdom. It reminds me so much of the way our Heavenly Father approaches us; meet them where they are and lovingly, tenderly take them from there to where they need to be. It’s a big picture, long range goal, not a harried, impatient immediate perspective. You bless us all! Again, I hope your daughter’s wedding day will be covered in blessings! 🥰

[@juliepoppe6294]

Great grandma here- only 64. I love that my Granddaughter call for my recipes because as small children they loved the recipes! Now sharing the how tools and it’s great!

[@peanutf8235]

You are a good momma. I grew up with many siblings and my momma made sure all of us knew how to cook, bake, and clean the kitchen. I did the same with my children. My daughter started at 9 months with cookie dough and by age 3 she was frying chicken by herself. My son was about 1 year b4 he started playing with cookie dough. Both of them are grown and excellent chefs in the kitchen. My daughter is a 3 generation canner as well. All children need to learn how to cook, bake, and clean. We have saved a lot of money because we cook from scratch. Ty for sharing this video. So many parents are afraid to let their children in the kitchen. If children are taught at an early age to work, when they grow up they become responsible adults.

[@roxanneheusdens8051]

I wish I had known these things when my children were small. I was a young mother of 3 boys and most the time I was trying to figure it out myself. I can now take this solid advice to my 6 year old granddaughter and hopefully create some good memories as well. Thank you Ruth Ann!

[@roxannern9393]

I like the way you think. I raised boys who at 11 years old could prepare simple meals, do the laundry, clean the house (including kitchen and bathrooms) and mow the lawn. Now, my grandchildren are learning. The oldest is 11 years old. She is responsible for doing 2 loads of laundry on Thursdays after school and that girl can cook a brisket - changing oven temps and basting - with a flavor and tenderness that will rival the best chefs. She likes to bake a treat for the family (she is the oldest of 5 children so far) on Saturday afternoon. She mastered her favorite bread recipe when she was 10 years old. The next child is 6 years younger than her and the other 3 came within 2 years of each other-this is just 1 of my son's family. The 4 and 5 year old children are quickly learning with excitement to be able to do what their oldest sister does. The 2 year old helps clean up and get utensils. I anticipate the newborn to be even faster at these tasks. It seems that once the oldest child was taught with patience and consistency followed by complements, the other children are eager to gain a place in the family's positive spot light!

[@keiheaherakiwi1611]

My children can cook and clean the whole house, all chores, they meet women who didn’t know how to cook or sort wash and hang washing, my 1 daughter is similar to me, yes get the children involved in it all

[@chefevilee9377]

I sure wish that I could have done this with my son. I unfortunately wasn’t saved till I was about 45 years old. I was married to a really bad man that I had to leave. He started drinking, then got into drugs, then got into selling pot. So I had to get away from him. Even though he got busted growing pot, a South Carolina judge the state is crooked as all get out, gave him partial custody. Which meant I had to baby my son to keep him away from his dad as much as I possibly could. But praise God He is faithful and true fast forward 30 years later we are both saved and so is my husband.

[@Taratarinski]

You are wise beyond your years! So wise. I wish I would have gotten my grown son involved in the kitchen more while he was growing up. I did, but not enough. You gave such good advice. Thank you! Happy Wedding Day! Congratulations!

[@Paula-po9kx]

Thank you Ruth Ann. You give some valuable skills advice, thankfully my children are adults. Hope you and your family enjoy your daughter’s wedding, such a beautiful event and so so special day.

[@oldnanz]

Best wishes to your daughter’s special day

[@ellenbryant7679]

Hi Ruthann, I'm in my 70's, Oh how I could have used your WiseNess years ago, when I had a Headstrong young redheaded son. Even though I don't have young Children anymore, your Approach to working with and teaching your children, what all parents or child caregivers, should be teaching their young children about what they need to learn to become self sufficient young adults ready to leave the nest, Is so Inspiring. Have you Considered writing a book on the Subject? I Truly enjoyed this video. Hope you had Beautiful weather and a Beautiful Wedding!!!

[@eudorasalih4004]

It's important to teach children life skills and responsibilities they will be thankful for it when they get older you doing a good job from Philadelphia

[@raynonabohrer5624]

I'm sharing this. I have no children in my life now. It's all by myself. God bless you and your family.

[@annawerntz4431]

You are expressing yourself very well. I wish I had this kind of knowledge when my children were young I feel that they would have learned kitchen skills a lot better than they have them now. I did a little bit but it was very stressful and my son at the moment does not have fun in the kitchen and I think it's because of my stress when I was young trying to teach my young children. Thank you for putting out this video and forwarding it so nicely that I'm understanding what I did wrong and what I can change now. ❤️❤️

[@PeepingEars]

Good morning Ruthann so happy to see you and your lovely children.

[@juliahelland6488]

Thanks for sharing this! I totally agree! 💯❣️

[@ruby71975]

How I wish I had someone like you to look to when I was young and my children were little. This information is so valuable. I love your channel.

[@Lauralamontanaro]

I LOVE the flashbacks. Thank you fir sharing!

[@lowespringacres7838]

I sure would have liked your knowledge when I was raising littles. ❤

[@shawnmcpeak6184]

Thank You Ruth Ann.

[@dianaorcutt2442]

Wonderful advice!

[@barbaragardner2113]

Loved this video! You are 100% correct on everything. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@teresahoye6477]

What GREAT advice! I love your videos.

[@carlaturner7162]

Amazingly beautiful advice!!!

[@EmilyGOODEN0UGH]

If anyone is worried about the dishes not being sanitized by hot enough water, the solution is simple. One more dishpan with clean water and a splash of bleach, last step after the dishes are washed and rinsed. And when you're all done toss the sponges and dishcloths in there.

[@ukurikiakas]

You are amazing, an inspiration in so many ways!

[@DownSpriggLane]

Wonderful teacher!

[@susiebyler5226]

Thank You so much Ruth Ann. Congratulations to your daughter and husband ❤

[@Famcke]

Very well said! I agree 100% with you. Thank you for sharing 💐🥰🙏🇺🇲

[@user-gs3fm2rh3j]

Wise words of counsel!

[@melindawargowsky8176]

I have seen your philosophy in action on 3 Rivers Homestead videos. She has her toddlers helping her stir and add chocolate chips, etc. They all have outside chores appropriate for their age/strength. Her young teenage boy bakes a lot and now wants to be a baker😊. They help with butchering and caning. Everything you said here was spot on.

[@catladynj]

I was always involved in the kitchen since i was a young child. I look back and am so greatful for it. Im an excellent cook and teach the younger generation my skills.😊

[@barbaranielsen2888]

You are such an Awesome mother and you give rock solid advice!

[@vickimontgomery5271]

Great, solid parenting and perspective advice! Congratulations to your daughter and new son in love!

[@beckyrussell3181]

You are a skilled teacher thank you

[@annfrederick4467]

What a great mom you are! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience with us!😊

[@DennisStreeter]

i so appreciate you! I could go on and on, but no need! Thanks for being YOU! 🙂

[@carolynlineberger1929]

Thank you for your wisdom and encouragement for taking the journey with children in the kitchen. Great video!

[@cynthiafisher9907]

You have a lot of wisdom and good tips for training children and I love your heart for them!

[@sueknicely504]

Blessings to the couple on there big wedding day! ❤

[@onlybev1]

Good sound advice that probably everyone needs to hear. Thank you. Wishing all your family blessings on this special day.

[@shannonrising9024]

This is such a fantastic video. You are so understanding of both sides. I have an able but unwilling little guy.

[@Angelhugs1990]

I was lucky not only did my Mom teach me but my Dad did as well as my Aunt who’s was like a second mom to me, from Cleaning the home, kitchen duty’s, cooking meals from scratch , laundry , how to can and preserve food, to killing and cleaning chicken, and I did love each thing I learned, most of the time lol sometimes it seen bad but it was not, and my Dad taught me with his big garden he had each year and each year it seem to get bigger lol but I love gardening and being out side in the fresh air and sunshine, on my hand and knees planting it’s so much fun love it, , I can not do a big one where I am but a small one is 0k, one day I will have a big one and I consider my self very lucky and thankful that I had people who wanted to teach me . I thought everyone knew how to do all this boy was I wrong collage open my eyes to just how thankful I was lol. when I have a family I plan on teaching them to, everyone needs to know how to take care of themselves with good quality skills, I am not sure I will get to teach them about the chickens but the rest I can teach them . Thank you Ruthann for everything you do for us , Congratulations to your Daughter and Fiancé, or Husband, which he might be by now lol. And congratulations to your Daughter and her Husband on their first baby and your first Grandchild. I know that it will be blessed with a GrandMother and a Mother who will teach it wonderful things.

[@jacquiesuper2200]

Such words of wisdom. You are a wonderful mom.

[@aveyacres]

Thank you so much for all of your advice and encouragement! Enjoy your time with your family. 🤗

[@kkb0896]

Thank you for answering my question about washing dishes. Your reply is such common sense! Thank you

[@user-wj3ix6nz9j]

I remember, at the ripe old age of around 5, that my mom had me " help" her clear the table and wash dishes. As i grew older all 3 of us kids learned to carry our own dishes and eating utensils to the kitchen, scrape our plates and put them in the dish water. We all had our turn washing them as well. When i was around 8 i started helping mom prepare add ins to baked goods, baking apple pies, etc. I started cutting up and preparing veggies and fruits for canning around the same age. What fond memories you raise up in me RuthAnn.

[@kimberlybercume8757]

I started mine when they were six years old Grill cheese and heating a can of soup. And using cookie cutters.😊❤

[@tcbink]

I spent a lot of my time watching and learning how to cook from an early age. As soon as I could stand on a chair and reach the stove, I cooked all the eggs for breakfast for 6 of us. Eggs to order. Dad always wanted over easy. Eating has always been important to me for some crazy reason.😃 I was cooking for myself by 8 years old. My problem wasn’t eating, it was doing dishes.

[@chefevielee]

Congratulations to your daughter and for new husband! And of course to the whole rest of the families. When my son was really small like a year and a half I would take his hand just on the oven door outside, it wasn't even real hot touch it real fast. And say ouch hot don't touch that ouch. I would do this numerous times. In fact, I would actually do this with my animals as well. To discourage my dogs from maybe jumping up with their paws onto a hot stove. Work like a dream. Also with having a cat in the house. Whenever I have something boiling or frying. I always put a screen on top of it. I'd rather not go to any type of hospital if possible.

[@user-pg7cm9fg3x]

Your advice is always so down to earth and practical. Thank you.

[@user-lj9jq2mf2z]

Praying and congratulations for your family , as you celebrate the wedding of your daughter! Thanks for the video!