How to Have a Difficult Conversation

Need to have a difficult conversation, but you're not sure what to say or how to say it?
In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple steps to confidently approach your next hard conversation. I'll guide you through the exact words to use, how to maintain your composure, and make sure your message is heard.
Plus, I share several phrases you must avoid to keep the conversation productive and respectful.
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[@thibodeaux99]

As someone who is very blunt, it’s great to learn how to say things in a way that doesn’t ruffle feathers - even when I don’t mean to.

[@Karrie732]

🙋🏼‍♀️me too!!

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I wish i could clone you and just keep you next to me on standby when needed. 😂 You are a brilliant communicator. Its so refreshing.

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YES!!

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I agree, Yes

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And marry him. Lol

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@@racheljones509 if only all men could communicate like this. 😅🤩

[@zxs7170]

“I need your help knowing how to feel about a comment you made” is such a great way to word it! It’s a genuine & peaceful way to go about a difficult situation. I love this one. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! 👍🏼🙏🏼

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[@growing367]

0:30 &&Dont begin how are you small talk.." 0:40 "Thank you for the time.. I need your help.." 1:00 "I feel better about.. so how about you?" 2:00 **Remove the difficult from difficult convos 2:25 What you say & How you say it 2:55 "I have bad news" Set the proper expectation 4:05 &&Dont talk about unrelated topics 4:25 "I need your help knowing.." 5:40 "I feel X.. How do you feel?" 7:22 **Set aside time for convo 7:50 **I need your help in.." 8:15 8:45 **How do you feel about that 9:25 &&Dont be afraid to ask/learn 9:55 &&Stop trying to prove something 10:25 diff convos lead to deeper relations

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All of your suggestions for handling difficult situations and people are so valuable.

[@MareeLock]

I wish I’d heard this before my difficult conversation last month. I tend to be too 🤔 compassionate and end up losing my way when I hear their point of view. That’s a nice quality, but so often I lose my own voice 😣

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Dear Jefferson, thank you for teaching us the proper ways to communicate. You are making the world a better place. We need this in school, at work, in healthy relationships. Very polite, well mannered, and very articulate. Gid bless you , for what you do, please dont stop , teaching us and making us a better communicators.

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I'm a 12th grade English teacher and came across your content today! Perfect timing for the new school year to show my students your words of wisdom, which I will definitely embed into my curriculum AND in my life. Thank you so much! Keep thriving!

[@Tinyteacher1111]

Absolutely! I taught 12th grade English for 40 years. I just acted positively and gave them respect. Plus, my sarcasm was perfect for putting students in their places without making a fuss!

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Show all the teenagers!!!

[@user-um8os7fj7e]

How do you handle delivering bad news to a person with strong narcissistic tendencies (covert)? All of this sounds great for a typical relationship. In a narcissistic relationship all vulnerability and expression of feelings/emotion/ or acknowledgement of the negative impact of their actions are used against you. In my case we have to coparent 4 kids going forward in divorce proceedings.

[@EJMG22]

Definitely great? Would also like the answer to your?...especially when you become emotional they shut you down.. :(

[@lorigardilcic4976]

Ask like you are learning…. is a magical approach. Kind eyes and pleasant smile, with a neutral tone…. Is what you role model- when so often we go snarky or emotional

[@kristine4225]

Wow!! I love how you break down the conversation! Thank you!!

[@jenniferlawrence8577]

I wanted to say thank you. Using this template, along with tips from a number of your shorts videos, enabled me to have a very difficult conversation with my husband last night that I have been putting off for some time. Leading with, “I need your help in knowing how to feel about something that happened awhile back …” was an absolute game changer in setting the tone and intent for how we proceeded. Even though I was the one hurting and struggling, I took your advice and went into it curious, having something to learn, not something to prove. Throughout I kept reminding myself to focus more on finding and asking the right questions than looking and waiting for the right answers. It could not have gone better. My husband even thanked me for broaching him about it, when I asked at the end, “So how about you?” I’ve watched and saved your material for sometime, but last night taught me that the real power is in using it. Thank you for putting material out there that is pragmatic, helpful, and efficacious. Take care -

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Thank you for sharing!

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Best communication video on youtube!! I have been searching for days. Please keep making them.🎉❤

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Please do a how to deal with a narcissist episode Jefferson. Love you work mate.

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Add me to that list please

[@mhal2]

Yes! How to respond to an unexpected narcissistic-type phone call with a sibling 😮. I was blind-sighted and completely shocked and in the moment responded poorly (got defensive, of course). In hindsight I would've remained calm & gotten curious (where is this coming from?) 🤔 while maintaining my own health boundaries (at the end of the day, we can only control ourselves). The good news is ... Next time I'll be more prepared.

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As a therapist & supervisor your videos not only help me but the people I serve. Thank you!!!!

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Perfect timing! I'm going to listen to this till I have it memorized. And when she says, " I didn't say that." I'm ready. I know what I heard and that's what I'm going to talk about. Yay!!!

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YOU ARE WONDERFUL! Thank you!

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I love how you get straight to the point with clear guidance 😉

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Jefferson, you make it seem so easy. Thank you for sharing these valuable tips. Where were you all my life?

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such life changing tips for communication.. Thankyou Jefferson for making life more real and wholesome !

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I love your talent and knowledge of communication skills and look forward to learning from you. Thank you for making this available. What you do is so important!

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So powerful, clarifying & respectful. Thank you very much. You've helped increase my self-esteem & resilience. Life changing interpersonal skills.

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Thank you, your advice makes life more peaceful and enables me to value others in how I speak. Really helpful, pls continue!

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I love how you teach assertiveness and kindness regardless of what the conversation is about. ❤

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Your eyes are just smiling all the time.

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Thank you Jefferson, your training/coaching has changed my life. 😊

[@pattidenny3504]

This is so good. Ironically, I've been needing to have a difficult conversation with a family member and have been putting it off because I simply don't know where to begin. I'm going to try this strategy. Btw...I love your content, Jefferson! You talk about real issues that everyone deals with at some point in their life, then you provide real answers/suggestions. Thanks for sharing your wisdom 😊

[@Tinyteacher1111]

I want to have one or two as well, but I don’t even get a response from my sister when I reach out.

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Love listening to you. Great communication ideas and congratulations on your first podcast. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

[@annettehayden1540]

I tend to wayyyy over explain my feelings, thoughts, views especially if I'm hurt or scared and it really makes ppl mad. Opposite of what I'm going for. So this is a good thing for me to try. Thank you.

[@JanetBeebe-nh9re]

We need conversations in how to talk to people who have truly hurt us.❤

[@chloewilson9898]

Loving these videos! I work as a physician assistant and sometimes there are difficult conversations in patient care. These videos are teaching me skills i never learned to have these hard convos!

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You are such an inspiration. Thank you.

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Thank you so much ,Jeff. You always exceed expectations. ❤❤❤

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So glad I found your channel.

[@wendydevore4815]

In my job, I often have to deliver bad/sad news to brand new parents. Thank you for giving me additional tools for making these conversations more kind.

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Thank you so much for your knowledge !!! I need it . I needed it a long time ago .

[@aries19471]

Thank you once again Jefferson for showing us the right way to handle this topic.

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I needed your help decades ago. Since finding you I have better tools for the future. Thank you! I watch you daily now.

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Thank you for your Podcast.❤

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I always enjoy the insights you make thank you for making it more accessible.

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Jefferson, how in the world did you get so dang smart!! I just found your channel and it's wonderful. I enjoy each video and look forward to them each day. I've learned so much, as I have been called a "Straight Talker" which probably doesn't serve me all the time. Keep up the great work. Your wisdom is much appreciated ;)

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The people have been waiting for this pod! Thank you! 🙏

[@BigToeRing]

I love your communication help.... I have a problem talking to manipulative people...

[@graham2635]

Thanks from Ireland Jefferson, fantastic advice and brilliant videos. Kind regards. 🙏🌞

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[@AlenaS307]

Thank you, Jefferson! Very helpful

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Absolutely love this... Thank you for explaining this so beautifully..

[@KimSepich-f5n]

Thank you! This is very helpful. I struggle with tough conversations…the way you broke it down makes perfect sense.

[@jeffersonfisher]

Glad it was helpful!

[@patriciastark7292]

Great advice and spot on examples and explanations!

[@jeffersonfisher]

Glad it was helpful!

[@LivingInMissouriWithAmyD]

I am a Realtor and things go wrong occasionally where difficult conversations are needed. I appreciate this so much. Subscribed, liked, and told some people to find you here. Thanks for the help!

[@jeffersonfisher]

I am so glad you’re here. 😊

[@oliviaszeplaki4386]

Thank you very much Very useful

[@robertlacaille7359]

Awesome strategy. It is full of compassion as well and no underlying offensive motives. I imagine my next conversation as such.

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So well said🎉

[@AshesOfRoses]

Thanks so much. We all need to communicate better. Happy you are sharing!🌷🌿

[@amswestyorkshire8048]

Difficult conversation is the very thing I need to go next chapter. Thank you Jefferson. Only if more men like you. FC from UK.

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Listening on Spotify, on the go too! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me so much this past year! If anyone is a caregiver, and you have need of a family conversation about an elderly parent, this is gold!!!

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Jefferson - Love your IG posts and am so thrilled for your podcast. Thanks for sharing with us your insight and time. Looking forward to the next video :)

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Love your content, I have learned so much!

[@alexwelts2553]

When you overhear your stepdad bragging to your daughters dad and ex partner about having the ability to trigger me into the unhealed state of trauma that hes been maintaining since 1987. I waited until about a month later he was seeking validation for how great our connection is compared to back then. I said exactly what I heard, and was told I misunderstood. Nope,

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This is wonderful. Thank you!!

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Thank you for all these videos keep making them please and examples these are going to help me and everyone else so much

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I love this!! Communication can make or break anything! Your guidance for good communicatuon is invaluable. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos.

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[@sringham32]

I love the one suggestion “I remember it differently” when someone is lying. I used it on my employee that was lying the other day and it made a different impact than when I said, yes I did train you on this before. Thanks Jefferson!

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Thank you!!!🎉

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In a time when we spend endless hours communicating virtually, the art of face to face, eye to eye, communicating in a shared space is so much more demanding. I am so pleased to find this resource where the art of communicating within framed manner makes these moments so much more approachable. Thank you for adding to this void in communication! I appreciate it!

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Jefferson offers insightful and blessed topics to help build relationships.

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Excellent. If I had listened to this before my last encounter with a coworker, it would’ve had a lot happier ending. Oh well, next time. Thank you so much.❤

[@jeffersonfisher]

Thanks for listening

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Wow! That's helped me incredibly with discussing an increase with my unappreciative boss! Thank you dearest Jefferson!!!

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Love this advice. Thank you!

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Wonderful.

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"I need your help" is great wording, thank you.

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Thank you. Really.

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Your very good thankyou for a different perspective on talking to people

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This podcast couldn't have come at a more perfect time. This episode is just what I needed to hear this morning to address a topic I wasn't sure how to go about. Thank you, Jefferson ❤

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