how to have a g̶o̶o̶d̶ great relationship with yourself 💘 adulting diaries ep. 1

[@AlexisKingsley]

I think my childhood self = true self = ideal self. Life is a journey back to childhood. ❤️

[@MissVasques]

Sounds sweet but surely you’ve grown and changed for the better since being a child? Like trusting insticts, standing up for one self and learning which fights is worth taking. And learning to see things through other ppl’s eyes before lashing out from just your own pov. Or perhaps your child self is something very different from mine. And perhaps I took it way to literal so if so, very Sorry.

[@AlexisKingsley]

​@@MissVasques ❤️ Yes that's so true, there is much empathy and wisdom that is developed along the way. I mostly mean in the context of this video (having a good relationship with yourself) that shame, insecurity, anxiety are virtually non-existent when we're born, until bad experiences/trauma taint our beauty and, in turn, our relationship with ourselves. And in some ways, we learn too much empathy/selflessness, to the extent where we forget ourselves and it is no longer a virtue. For many people, not all, we have to learn the skills of choosing ourselves first once again. I think the beauty would be in seeing the world and yourself like a child with the maturity and wisdom of an adult ❤️

[@joshshortt9599]

@@AlexisKingsley I see this convo between Alexis and AngelFrosthia has stumbled upon the difference between childish and child-like. Childish=negative, infantile qualities of the child, vs. the child-like, which are the positive qualities of the child.

[@the_bob_147]

@@joshshortt9599 well originally she said "childhood self" which I concider to mean both the good and bad parts of childhood and therefore I really disagree with that statement. Child like is good. But even that isn't appropriate in all situations. As children we are more honest to ourselves ands so we are our more true selves but it's still important to mature and grow up and look at our childhood selves and see what who we were who we are and who we can be. And based on that take our life the right direction.

[@clairecurtis71]

see the issue is i can’t remember my childhood

[@mangospapayas6688]

I love how happy you are to restart your life for yourself and really loving and taking care of yourself. I’m a freshman at college this year and I didn’t realize how much work goes I to taking care of our bodies and minds without the help of my parents. No one is here to make sure you work out and eat healthy or to make you feel better when you feel sad. But it’s also really cool because now I can fully submerge myself in working better for myself and truly making me feel like some one who is worthy of love from not only others, but also myself.

[@kendraonoh]

Hey you. Yes you. random person that I will never meet. I truly hope that you will find happiness in life. Today can still be a great day!

[@P3RU4N11T4]

Thank you have a nice day too

[@luvvreni]

what if we have met before but we just don’t know 👀

[@ayeshasarfraz6768]

thank you!! same to you❤❤❤

[@chiaramarker]

Thank you :3 I wish you the same

[@dominiquevanburen6480]

I wish you the same! x from Holland

[@nicoleonfeels]

The #1 relationship we should all focus on 🤗

[@SamElle]

I’ve become more self aware and introspective in the last year and I’ve found that I’ve been making better decisions and have had better mental health. I think having a great relationship with yourself is truly prioritizing yourself

[@charlottekube86]

I usually feel kinda empty after watching KZbin vids (procrastinating vibes lol) but your channel is so wholesome and meaningful and it makes me so happy, ty

[@natt3212]

i agree that a great relationship starts with yourself. it's definitely the hardest relationship to cultivate and sometimes we don't see the importance of it until we've strayed far away from each other the three sides of our triangle.

[@Sylvies.secretgarden]

That is so true. Well written, thank you for this reminder too 💕

[@IshaSharma11]

True 🤍❤

[@lyndseycross2195]

"hello bb" ... silence "you look like a Miyazaki character" lmao y'all are so cute

[@KeianaByfield]

The prompt regarding the perception others have of us is so powerful; I can't stop rewinding that bit & idk why. I feel like we won't ever be satisfied until we can truly accept & be comfortable with ourselves; from there, it really is a 'your vibe attracts your tribe' type thing

[@cohesian]

im a counselling student, and the 3 different self in the triangle you're talking about is from a counselling theory called Person centered therapy created by Carl Rogers, just in case anybody is interested to read up more on it.

[@serene1486]

thank you !! will read about it more !!

[@pankreas2195]

Working on my relationship with myself is my best work so far tbh and has reflected greatly in all other aspects of my life, that may be my biggest pride that I don't really get to share with anyone since it's something so introspective and not at all valued by society oh well

[@mckaylamarie]

I love the true, perceived, and ideal self triangle, and I can't wait to try it. I've been doing a lot of journaling and meditations this month on my perceptions of myself and how I can move into a realm that is filled with more self-love than anything else. Wonderful video!!

[@hannahlennertkristiansen4797]

I admire you and your work alot, you get to talk about these things and make a cute and fun video at the same time!! it's fun to watch, makes me feel way way better than I am, and it's actually very educational without thinking about it :0 so thank you so much for posting and being alive, you're really making a positive impact online ❤

[@samf8405]

Hearing Ro describe her childhood self as having her head in the clouds, and the way she said she tends to go after her passions to an extreme extent until she burns out or gets bored and moves on, and that *immediately* being followed up with her distractibility - it was like watching my own ADHD diagnosis unfold right before my eyes. Obviously that's not to say that Ro has ADHD (I genuinely don't know, I'm pretty new here and *definitely* not a professional). But to anyone who feels like they relate heavily to that experience: perhaps try some routines, apps, etc specifically curated for people with ADHD. Even if the diagnosis doesn't fit, maybe the coping strategies will. For example: I always thought I sucked at organization because I'd put everything away and two days later it would all be strewn out in the open again (or I'd forget where I put things and eventually forget I even own those items). It turns out my brain just really needs to *see* what I own so that I don't forget about them, so clear organizers drawers are a life-saver! This even includes my fridge! Back when I'd put my veggies away in a place that I couldn't see them, they would always spoil before I would remember to eat them. Now that I can see them when I open my fridge, I don't have to worry about that. Or hey, don't like chores but your brain *really* likes those happy chemicals? Sticker chart!!! You could give yourself a sticker for every individual dish you wash if that's what it takes to get through that chore.

[@joshshortt9599]

An interesting idea I have encountered lately, but don't fully understand yet, is that time is not something you spend. In fact, time is not something you cut up into hours or days because time is one whole.

[@Meandyoujustus]

I think you might appreciate "the power of now". It's a book by Eckart Tolle on this subject!

[@LV-kv6wz]

Love the tips you give us to rethink our habits. Not just "sleep", "eat well" but going beyond the "why". Also love the colors you use in your videos. You are so wise for such a young age !

[@AlexisKingsley]

That triangle of selves is soooo inspiring 💖 Your 👏true 👏 self 👏 is 👏 your 👏childhood 👏self

[@ayeskarabech9653]

Your videos gives me such a calm and reflection vibes. Everytime I'm feeling overload I come here to listen your wise words and try to calm down to find a way to go through lifes challenges again. Grateful for it! Warm hug from Brazil ❤️🇧🇷

[@fmanalili]

Same 😊

[@lina_byoui]

started the weekend by going to the beach by myself for a breather for the first time, and i’m trying to get back to being comfortable with my own company after straying away the past two months 🥺 excited for this new series ro ♡

[@apurvaroha9843]

So good. I will be waitin for more adulting diaries. Rowena Please start a blog.... I mean a web blog so that we can read them when needed on the go. I wish to see a video about self- discipline because it comes under self- care for sure. HUGHUG

[@jandeiparine7041]

I'm always wanting to bring back my "old good self" everytime i watch your videos. They make me believe that I can do better. Thank you for sending everyone love and light, Ro 💗

[@getinlouiser2677]

Idk if its an infj thing that we constantly want to improve ourselves in someway, and think more deeply about small stuff lol

An infj approves haha

[@amandaisabelle9077]

entp here and same lol

[@queenaminalivingabundantly4320]

Enjoyed every minute. Rowena reminds me how I wanted to do KZbin videos. I like her combination of mindfulness and playfulness. It incorporated everything I enjoy, skincare, creative cooking and personal growth.

[@Sylvies.secretgarden]

Go for it! I feel the same way! I felt like I was too old to start but I don’t want to think like that anymore. It’s never too late!

[@queenaminalivingabundantly4320]

@@Sylvies.secretgarden thank you 😊

[@LivBotting]

i have watched this video twice now, and I keep finding myself drawn back to it and resonating with the things you talk about constantly since you’ve uploaded, it’s had such a profound effect

[@brianna5255]

I’ve been binging your videos and wow I feel like I can really relate to what you said around 4:30-5:00 about perfectionism and projecting high standards onto my relationships. I hope to keep learning more from you thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I feel less alone and also that I can change for the better whatever that may be.

[@peilicia]

I have a feeling I am going to love this series so much. Thank you so much for sharing your insights with us, Ro! You're the BEST!

[@talinoble9371]

I just wanted to say thank you for being such a lovely human. I have followed you for quite a few years now and your videos really help me a lot! I really struggle with self worth and liking the person I am so I will hopefully improve on my own journey to self acceptance and love. The world needs more people like you ❤️xx

[@angelyn.archive]

i love the authenticity here. your video's such a fresh air, ro, thank you!

[@reginebee2054]

The inner child in me is the most authentic me! Your topics inspired me to squeeze them into my journal prompts. Looking forward to more of your adulting series. Thank you so much! 🥰

[@mollyfaye]

I feel like it's the self-care videos I need the most! Loved your sweater too btw!

[@ChavelleLiu]

thank you for always sending such uplifting messages and energy to brighten our dimmer days. always makes me feel a little lighter!

[@karimagdy3507]

I feel you are more yourself Rowena, appreciate taking us with you on this self-discovery journey ❤️

[@kindocha4209]

Really loved this, it goes lot deeper than most diaries on KZbin

[@IshaSharma11]

True, she clear each thing so clearly

[@yoitsnegrita]

I've been telling people to think about their childhood selves a lot! Find your own happy!

[@putriewalakandou7851]

I really love your personality through this content, it’s really make me reflect on myself, like i need to know myself better

[@jieying4370]

Thank you rowena for constantly delivering quality content to us, so so grateful to have you share your thoughts and journey with us. ❤️ Been feeling lonely and this video series is so apt for me! To nurture the relationship I have with myself. Because I think feeling lonely do stem from a lack of self-acceptance and abandoning of myself.

[@biko2311]

It has been a rough couple of weeks for me, and I really really needed to watch some of Rowena's videos, it really restore your faith in yourself and your surroundings, thank you Rowena 😊😚

[@marissapayne2635]

A plant based diet might really help your gut health! 🌱☺️ it helped mine, plus I noticed a lot of other benefits like more energy, less brain fog, better skin, and sleeping better

[@brigettj.8964]

I'm not even finished with this video yet and I can tell you I needed it. I'm at the triangle part. I definitely have been feeling like I'm wearing different hats so when the prompts came up, I GOT EXCITED. Thank you so much for this video!!

[@CassieWinter]

Your thoughts on balancing authenticity and being more transparent with creating educational and inspiring content was really thought provoking, as that's a topic I've been reviewing for myself recently. Thank you for sharing, Rowena! 😊

[@jupitired777]

this video feels like a warm hug

[@fhaye4w]

Fact: I watch your videos to help me get up in the morning. I love you!

[@Maya-jz3tv]

so funny, today i have been really fixated on wanting to tend to & show my soft self to others but always default to a hardness which is a result of resentment & failures. what divine timing, thank you for this video

[@IshaSharma11]

When I read how to have great relationship with yourself, I immediately click the video and this video is so worthy

[@hyleore]

looved this one 💚 often seeing pieces of relationships can make me feel sad and lonely, but seeing you and your bf somehow made me feel warm and fuzzy, like some of that love is transferred to me 🥰 will be coming back to this one for journaling too hehehe

[@Sylvies.secretgarden]

Feel the same way! Good energy and vibe can truly be transferred! Wish you the best!

[@samwood9706]

Thank you for sharing your precious thoughts Rowena! I followed your channel during the years and a little i grew up with you. Again, thank u for being here and all may have a good day

[@JessieYangs]

this was awesome!!! I loved the triangle and thinking about my relationship with myself through that idea.

[@MarionHoney]

I always love the questions and journal prompts you share. If you made a Notion template listing these, I’d be duplicating it in a heartbeat ✍️✍️✍️

[@lianafantasy]

Thank you so much. Your videos and honesty make me more comfortable with my mental health struggles. You're incredible.

[@EmmaB_MD]

Not me grabbing a journal and taking down those prompts to explore more of myself immediately after this video wraps... 👀👀 I always leave your videos feeling very inwardly curious in such a safe, calm, but somehow also exciting way. I think it’s the way you share HOW you look inward and what you do with your own self discovery/checking in that makes me want to try. So thank you for sharing. Can’t wait for more adulting diaries.

[@skylychee]

I've been really liking the reflection prompts you include in your videos! I'm so grateful to have found your channel last year. Looking forward to the rest of this series :)

[@sweetpotatocouchpotato6895]

hi roooo! thank youuu for this again (and again huhu) hope you could do a video again about how you handle criticisms (from others and self also) huhu 💜💜💜

[@laugravi9]

As with all of your videos, this came at the perfect time! In our mastermind with my parents, we are reading "the seven secrets of happy and healthy relationships" by Dr. Miguel Ruíz, and the incredible thing about relationships... is that they all start with ourselves. The way we treat each other, communicate with each other and show affection to each other is, in the end, a reflection of our relationship with ourselves. Thank you so much for your valuable insights and generosity! We'll do the triangle exercise in our next mastermind meeting!

[@lilsun]

you always inspire me to discover myself further and explore what it means to have a healthy relationship with myself 🥰💞 thank you ro

[@hinaiqbal5950]

Omg I don't know if you'll see this but I remember the live chat before one of ur videos where a lot of us mentioned asking for an adulting series!!! Thank u for making this happen!! I benefit so much from ur vids so I can't wait to keep up with all ur upcoming ones, ofc from this series as well!!

[@takeit66]

thank you rowena for spreading this message. I personally never thought about it so it’s been refreshing to see you initiate this discussion! hope to see more contents like this 💜💜

[@beaudenefinger3312]

I loved this video so much, definitely using those journal prompts tonight!

[@inthenameofsalad]

i loved seeing those gorgeous raw moments with your partner 🥺💖

[@ericeychis]

her wardrobe is just so beautiful.

[@nikiszabo0]

I love your videos so much Rowena. You always inspire me on my journey and helping me with my self development.❤️

[@chocopuff]

i just clicked on the video and i already feel so comfy 🥺❤️

[@acuxart]

I love to watch your videos on a Sunday evening, they fill me with love and coziness ❤️😊

[@Layla-cm7mw]

this video brought me so much peace as usual - thank you Ro 😭

[@kgmkr800]

Yup, I had to learn this lesson last year, and I've been so much better for it! Looking forward to this series!

[@hot_chocolate_03]

AAaa Ro always knows what we need to hear the most 😮❤

[@kaffeine9398]

Loved this! I'll be moving with a alone with roommate at the end of Feb and this series will keep me motivated 💜✨ thanks Ro

[@Sylvies.secretgarden]

Good luck for the new life!!

[@kellyr3816]

This sweater is amazingly beautiful!

[@veronicafortunaveronica]

10:21 nice transition edition queen

[@AS-mn3og]

I love starting the week with you 😌

[@sanxvu]

1:51 I thoroughly enjoy my -wine- own company 😂 all jokes aside, thank you for always delivering important and positive messages at the time i need it most ❤️

[@IshaSharma11]

Beautiful 🤍❤

[@ReizumiHikari]

My gut is also compromised. I always thought it was because of the food I eat. I take probiotics and prebiotics, omega 3, and try to eat the rainbow, but there's only so much I could do. I had to see a doctor and they said that it is caused by stress. Try not to stress out, and it'll do wonders for the tummy!

[@hestiahearth]

Hey Rowena! You can also try Spearmint and dandelion tea for your bloating. It's really helped me this past month

[@SahiliTotale]

I'm so happy that Ro has done a video on this 🥺 and oh the colors in your videos I can't 🥺🥺😭😭🦝

[@maycrossing]

Thanks for this, Ro! I love how you're comfortable showing us your natural face! Makes me embrace mines more

[@eartht0erika]

spoiler alert: beware, my heart has melted with ro's baby potato pic😭😭

[@pollylambert5933]

Rowena, thank you so much for this one! I have also been trying to monitor the way I talk to myself recently, this was helpful

[@jackiek4159]

I absolutely loved this video! It's so, so important to spend time with ourselves and discovery who we truly are and what we want in life! We are the longest relationship we will ever have! Life is a journey and let's make it a fun one! 🙏🏻💞

[@etprincipalis]

your videos make me feel warm inside

[@sitiamartinez6709]

Gained a lot of insight and perspective from this video. Looking forward to the next episode!

[@CyndyTangerineyyyy]

Looking forward to this series, Rowena! I always enjoy watching your vlogs.

[@henleym179]

I love your videos! You're younger than me but you've help me a lot. I've binged watch your videos. You sound a lot like me in your views of yourself.

[@destiny9420]

This was such a refreshing video!

[@brookbergsma5089]

I love how it’s always the first episode ☺️💕

[@pat_7055]

you videos have helped me so much. Thank you being you and sharing wisdom

[@Sylvies.secretgarden]

Good luck for the present moment ❤️

[@julietteferrars3097]

You always make me smile 💕💕💕 thanks Rowena!

[@teravereen2772]

SO excited for this series

[@sarasmela5009]

thank u for spreading such a great message. it really does help me everyday 🖤

[@monkeywatermelon3177]

looking forward for you be writing a book! definitely gonna buy!

[@kateykat1570]

This is a sign, i needed this vlog. Thank you 🥲❤️

[@Sylvies.secretgarden]

I hope you are okay! Take care! 🍀

[@elssjoo]

your videos are always so wholesome 🥰🥺

[@mariannestardoroja9154]

Watching less than 2 mins and OMG I'm in love with the blue sweater 😍💕

[@Charlisanse]

I love the positivity you always bring in your videos! ❤️ love from seoul

[@margaritaesguerra1560]

I got so much from this, I can't even emphasize it enough 💗

[@NUBDAOx]

Love the content and can’t wait for ep.2 !

[@katelynnprinkey-bj2rr]

You want to super freak 😂😂 oh yeah

[@jaspreetamatharu3438]

Waiting patiently for the Queen ❤️

[@tokikani]

Love this content! Looking forward to the series

[@damarismowatt]

You've been following along Lee min Ho's videos woiiii yesss - love him!!

[@wangcheungyee8236]

never knew i needed this, what a great video!

[@veronicafortunaveronica]

I LEARN SO MUCH WITH YOU

[@lydiaedge6898]

Have been looking into new supplements recently, so many know in effect. Very helpful Thankyou 🥰