How to Heal Emotional Pain in 2023 | Eckhart Tolle on Mental Health

[@chickadee677]

My parents were killed in a car crash and the next year my fiancé died of lung cancer. I was devastated. I listened to Eckhart and Tich Nhat Hahn looking for relief. Tich Nhat Hahn said to find the pain in your body, breath into it and tell the pain, "I know you are there." then he said to take deep breathes into the pain and reassure yourself by saying, "I will take good care of you." That was a few years ago, and any time I feel terrible emotional pain, I stay in the present and breathe into my pain and I say "I know you are there, I will take good care of you." Thank god for these two men.

[@fortissimoX]

So sorry to hear about the things that happened in your life. Since you are here, watching this video, I believe that you are on good path to heal all your pain, and I wish you all the best on that path!

[@SHARONSTONE3337]

You were loved in this world, which is a strong rock to stand on. My heart goes out to you because I've been to the bottom of grief and loss. I know what you are talking about. Blessings

[@badtzmarugirl31]

Thank you for sharing this. I will use it when I feel emotional pain. I pray that you are happy and complete wherever you are right now

[@susanmumper8334]

Ty

[@TheOddPixel]

Thank you for sharing that - I've just used that in my own meditation and there was an immense feeling of relief following those words. What body of Tich Nhat Hahn's work did he say that in? I would very much like to hear what else he has to say :)

[@yourcalmplace]

- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨

[@DianeRyanONeill]

❤️

[@idowurazaak4430]

Thank you

[@ChangeYourLife1122]

namaste

[@gregk5726]

💙

[@kimhoffman8595]

Thank you. I needed to hear that. 🤗

[@roguexnation]

Pain body is fuel for Presence 💙

[@nualamartyn4918]

I wrote that down while I was listening to, so important to remember, when feeling hurt or sad or angry

[@Maxseeninastar]

To anyone listening I wish you the ability to be kind and compassionate towards yourself ❤

[@MsLowPeeZee]

Not sure why this made me cry but blessings to you!

[@nualamartyn4918]

Thank you ☺️….. yes so important to be kind and always compassionate to yourself x

[@Maxseeninastar]

@ yes 💖💖💖

[@Jeff_TUDONADA]

It took me 40 years to learn when I run away from pain it grows when I embrace pain it dissolves

[@luigigiuseppetti8484]

​@@accidentcellar6307 🙏🌻in un modo semplice:accetti quel dolore ,senza giudicarti o condannarti🙏impari ad imparare ad abbracciare quel dolore,prendendotene cura e con amore 🤝🌈🌼ti perdoni per il male che ti sei fatto,perdoni chi ti ha fatto del male☮️😊 metti pace in te stesso, namastè 🙏🌈🤝

[@luigigiuseppetti8484]

@@accidentcellar6307 🙏👌rendo grazie a te ☮️🌈in pace con noi stessi 🤝🤝🙏

[@tvwilson333]

@@accidentcellar6307 Michael singer helps me with this. He talks about relaxing every part of your body whenever a painful thought or feeling arises instead of trying to think your way out of it. When we relax and breathe it’s a form of surrender and is the only way to release trapped emotions

[@Oo27254]

@@accidentcellar6307 It's about having acceptance for your pain. "I hear you and I'm here for you", like embracing a crying child. The motivation shouldn't be to get rid of it. Trying to get rid of your pain is rejecting it.

[@rogerballet4709]

Glad you found the way...

[@mindfulnesswithmatt]

processing emotions while living the vast presence is a lifelong practice. for anyone watching, you got this ☺

[@johngreen4683]

The quality of our peace and happiness are the direct result of the stories we tell ourselves, the vast majority of the time nothing dramatic is actually happening in our real lives but in our internal mental world it can easily become full on non stop drama and chaos if we lose awareness 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@empty_seat]

I did lose awareness, and I do have that drama now… how do I get it back.

[@johngreen4683]

@@empty_seat hi E S, its important not to engage with our minds thoughts, feelings and stories but to simply remind ourselves that " this isn't real" no more no less. Please don't analyse and reason why its not real, just accept thoughts are just thoughts and feelings are just feelings and they don't exist anywhere but in our minds. The more we simply remind ourselves " this is not real" the more safe our minds will feel and be prepared to let the thoughts feelings and stories go.. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@empty_seat]

@@johngreen4683 okay i will give it a go. Can I replace some bad old habitual thoughts with new ones tho?

[@johngreen4683]

@@empty_seat hi ES, yes 100% you can. I was plagued for years with fearful habit thoughts and false beliefs, the biggest thing i learned and came to truly accept was that, we can not think our way out of a problem that is created by and maintained by thinking in the first place. Please don't try and analyse and rationalise your way out of this unhappy relationship with your mind, please just trust your way out by simply reminding yourself " this is not real". The really good news is none of us need to fix our minds, our minds will fix themselves just fine, all we need to do is change our relationship with our mind and the thoughts and feelings its produces. Please just let me know if you need any help or support, be it today, tomorrow, next week or next month. I am very very happy to help in any way i can, you will get ttere and you are going to be more than ok, you really are 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@empty_seat]

@@johngreen4683 so it’ll help you say, if I don’t replace the thought by positive ones, but by practicing to accept that they’re just thoughts, but reality. And my mind will naturally rewire itself? Is that all I can do?

[@micha_el0815]

The only possibility to free ourselves completely is to remember who we really are! 😇❤️

[@BecomeConsciousNow]

That's a very aware thought...the pain and suffering is in me but a mere inch away from my body there is no suffering. Thus, my conditioned mind that is suffering will see the world as a painful, miserable place, which is an illusion. I must remember that.

[@lenurbatalov6445]

I thought I transmuted my pain body but here I am again, listening to you teacher once again. Sending you love that knows no border dear Eckhart

[@tiinaikonen6353]

Thank you for this comment. I thought too, but hey there is more. Grace is with us.

[@lenurbatalov6445]

@@tiinaikonen6353 sending love ✨

[@justinwiebeguitar]

Excellent. I like the part about the negative energy from the pain body being able to be converted to presence. That is definitely a good thing.

[@Misslotusification]

In another recently uploaded video, he speaks about the alchemical process of turning lead into gold. Suffering is the fuel to wake-up.

[@giovanniamore7532]

if ýou have to endure a lot of pain, it means ýoure able to handle much.. its an honour to transform more than the ýounger souls.. this planet needs the power of everýone of us, so lets do it 😊👍 lets work

[@brendapolar8506]

I adore this beautiful man!! Such a gift to humanity.❤

[@mokuho]

-if you truly give attention to nature...it has a very healing effect -be present mean to be present with in and without...in both worlds... -what kind of thoughts you have about an especifique situation? -we must be vigilant -presence is witnessing without thoughts.. -let go of the thoughts -direct attention to sensory perceptions takes you out of thinking. -see the sky, flower, the hand, come to the senses, -to be present you have to not label, just look, -you dont denied what you feel. -watch your mind, dont feed your suffering. -your presence is more powerful, -pain body is a fuel for presence...

[@Yanto-Bardic]

It takes nothing to just 'Be". It takes absolutely everything to not 'Be'.

[@funnytv-1631]

Remember you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn't worked Try approving of yourself and see what happens.....

[@grittykitty50]

It's a wonderful relief.

[@Misslotusification]

Another neurosis. As long as we try and improve, we're trapped in improving the ego.

[@johngreen4683]

Good advice that N Z 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@TheMediumChannel]

Thank you Eckhart...what works for me is, well of course practicing presence consistently and while in presence I consciously hold magnified gratitude in my heart center, as well as compassion and love but I feel super grateful for nothing other than the absolute perfection of this present moment...for the now and when I do that and lock into the master frequency of the heart magic happens that is indescribable... I do this even when I'm in pain this present moment is absolutely perfect..It doesn't matter if I am personally experiencing pain as that does not take anything away from the perfection of this now moment. It truly is amazing and it can be used in manifestation work and self-healing..I've experienced miracles in both doing this...hope this comment helps someone. Namaste

[@lindapelle8738]

Your direction on how you accomplish this would be greatly appreciated. I deal with chronic facial nerve pain, many years after dental surgery.

[@TheMediumChannel]

@@lindapelle8738 I do offer that and this was my way of giving direction.. starts with Presence, meditation and working with a practice I do religiously called”Heart-Brain Coherence” and what I did was made the reality of perfect health more real in my mind than the physical suffering I was experiencing. It took me three years though if I had no more at the time I probably could’ve done it in a lot less time. I just don’t have the time nor the space to explain the steps on a video comment stream. I have done courses though, and I have several uploads on my channel that I explain more and people are healing. I also recommend people to look into Joe Dispenza, he is amazing and explains how this is done better than anyone I know of.

[@3foldartco]

I'm currently processing some newly recovered trauma memories from 23 years ago, and practicing presence is so helpful in this. It's bizarre to feel depressed and raw, but to not *identify* with those feelings anymore. I'm sad things happened, but accepting that they did. Different from dissociation, because I'm observing the feelings and the memories themselves, which are memories of physical sensations and feelings. Layers! This is such a good way to process these things.

[@ryanrohn4561]

I appreciate that. I too am processing something similar; the layers.

[@andrereloaded1425]

Thanks for sharing and I know how difficult it is to come face to face with your past trauma(s).

[@3foldartco]

@@ryanrohn4561 I wish you peace while you process. It's hard work!

[@3foldartco]

@@andrereloaded1425 they're definitely yucky, but I'm so grateful to be *aware* while facing them. Best to you.

[@gojiberry7201]

That is really inspiring, hope to be where you are soon. Good job on your journey!

[@stephaniezach2993]

Oh my! I wanted to leave a comment cuz it always seems that mr. T has something to say about exactly the way I'm feeling I go down to the comments and I read what you guys have said I find myself laughing and giggling so if you're reading this remember we're all in this together and no one gets out alive although we don't need to rush it and we can enjoy it while we're here it's up to us again thank you!!

[@elizabethbird5929]

🙏🙏💓💓

[@cw-wj1vs]

I like this

[@stephaniezach2993]

🎵 it's getting better all the time 🎶 I just have to allow it to be so in this 🎁 moment, I've been having a rough time and it's starting to look up because I've let it thank you guys for replying 🙏☮️

[@aussiekidslify673]

How amazing he finished with saying your pain body is fuel for presence😊❤

[@StrzBtz]

You just freed my whole life with one video. Thank you so much

[@1500lalaland]

yes! this helps me so much with my meditation right now. ive recently discovered pain is limited to my body, but the idea of looking at the objects next to me and feeling it’s peace and neutrality helps so much

[@1500lalaland]

to keep my thoughts from adding to the pain body, i believe my body to be an inanimate object like the couch im sitting on and feel the pain of my anxiety as tension and sensation occurring in the present moment that i can feel being that im an aware space itself that the body exists within

[@juneangus755]

Excellent! Wisdom. Clear. Step by step. Light! I thank you!

[@missartistsky759]

Emotions should not be so to say closed in a box , in your mind, etc . They need to be released. In a gentle way. In a kind way . But released. This is where you let go of fear and anxiety. You feel freedom.

[@JackieLarose]

I'm glad I love you are listening to this

[@Яна-ы4п8ж]

Dear Eckhart Tolle, thank you from the bottom of my heart, my paing is going as I'm listening to you❤

[@irenerubaum-keller5941]

It's not so hard to be present when the present is just fine but I had a migraine the other day and remembered to stay aware. WOW! So many of my thoughts when I'm sick like that are woe is me. And the woe is me was making it all much worse. To just experience it was way better. Thanks Eckhart!

[@Artemisofthemoon1]

Food for the soul and with body work, mind, body spirit. Release is possible for mental, emotional and physical pain.💗 What is on the other side is peace.

[@ew_323]

I had a near-drowning experience when I was about 6 or 7 in a public pool. It was my sister who kept pushing me under and I got to the point where I could not breathe. I finally decided to just breathe in the water and next I remember I was on the edge of the pool with the lifeguard pushing my chest and coughing and in trouble with my Mom when I got mad at my sister for pushing me under. It was never talked about. Since then, I've always had social anxiety, claustrophobia, and breath holding but didn't realize until today when I realized I felt like I was underwater and could not get a breath and that situation came back to my mind, looking up at the surface, not being able to reach it, and deciding to breath in the water when my lungs were going to burst. I thought this dying feeling is actually sort of peaceful. I've never processed this event with anyone. I didn't realize this event from so long I thought I had put it behind me was causing all this emotional pain in my life (I even became a class IV-V kayaker to 'prove' to myself I was no longer scared of water and was 'over' this event) . Like I didn't matter, was invisible, didn't deserve a breath, like the feeling of death/giving up would be more peaceful than living, etc. Life has been a 'struggle' since then, like the struggle under water. But now I can process it and observe it and the related emotions/messages/thoughts in a new way. I really like what @chickadee677 said about saying "I know you are there, I will take good care of you." to your pain. This book and discussion have totally opened my eyes. Thank you

[@Jewelmind]

Thank you for this, always so good. Thank you to all the people in this community

[@mariafolch]

Thank you Eckhart

[@crystal2911]

The fact he said nature is everywhere! The sky in an urban area, how oblivious I was to this truth! Thank you! Infinite love and gratitude ❤😊

[@khansherani]

I have been with my pain body for many years nothing worked but this shining light of consciousness on the pain body and slowly but surely it transmuted and still is under process of transmutation.

[@khansherani]

you need to work on ur trauma also with the shining light of consciousness, u need to see which even of ur childhood is that created the emotions that are still stuck, u need to grieve, be sad, be afraid go in that past history imagination and provide the child what u need to provide to fulfill his need of that moment and then ur emotional release very fast than just having shining the light of consciousness

[@lindaanderson7507]

This is helpful. I am going through a sudden, unexpected loss. It helps to hear this information.

[@lauralunaazul]

I love him, he s so kind

[@WorkingMan1177]

This was really good! In addition, I think seeking therapy, whether on KZbin or in person with a credible therapist is even more beneficial. Spiritual truth and spiritual practice combined with psychological and emotional understanding are a great one-two punch towards healing! 🙏❤️👍✌️

[@kighyuga]

Listening with the whole body

[@youngtevanced8818]

Oh man, I love Eckhart Tole, very practical and realistic approach to understand self and the sufferings from the world.

[@Jeff-yb7qk]

Thank you thank you. I get lost again and again, and sometimes I totally lose my awareness and it feels like I have no choice but to lose it (even though I had a glimpse of knowing I did have a choice at the moment ..) I have been relatively conscious of my mind activity last two months and this month I totally lost it from a trauma in the relationship and it was like a very strong relapse of some drug addiction. hit me in the face so hard that I thought the peaceful state of the last two months was a sort of fraud... but you know. As Eckhart Tolle said, it also feels like it eventually leads to awakening because I can't live with such pain no more.. I just hope I quickly get to the level where there's less suffering even though I think suffering itself is very painful but also a part of the awakening process. Life is so mysterious...

[@jennchavira]

It makes sense.. the mind feeding the pain body.

[@kyee9723]

Mental discipline. Not adding the drama stories to power the emotional pain body.

[@sannaperkio1469]

Tack!

[@lyfzuxz]

It’s so funny that I didn’t make this connection until I saw this video. For me personally when I become lucid in my dreams, I’m often doing the same things Eckhart mentions about being aware of your hands your sorroundings and awakening in my dreams become aware. We need to do the same now.

[@cloudsofwonder7004]

I am always more aware when I choose to watch and listen intently to how the pain body and self loathing is part repetitive thought pattern causing regret s re past choices When I listen to Echart s teaching and I glean wisdom and Peace returns thank you ☘️❤️

[@lahirugunasekera7867]

Shifting to observe sensory perception is practically a fine step towards healing emotional pain. As Eckart mentioned, yet, the impact of emotional baggage persists for some time. For me, revival of thoughts could not be ceased and it's inevitable. In the light of extra awareness, thoughts can be separated from its' attached emotions. I experienced it and thought of sharing.

[@beautitudes]

His teachings have healed me incredible in life

[@tnijoo5109]

That waterfall sound at the end, I need a long recording.

[@HecateTheDog]

Yes also the bell ❤

[@profbell7931]

I love his wise lectures. ❤

[@hereandnow213]

You can't fight your emotion, but you can live with them in peaceful way by acceptance et feeling them, deeply connect to your sensation (feeling) in the body. That's make you a complete living, not a prisoner of the form

[@shaffehaffejee3657]

Sushmita: just what most of us need to hear and adhere to. Bless to you Sir 🙏 You are truly amazing and admired. Love your sense of humour 💙 humor 💙

[@ChrisLively]

Greetings from Chattanooga, TN. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and your time. These days the negative thought I hear the most is, "You could have done better, why didn't you?" And the constant replaying of what I did just then and the overwhelming urge to find out why I did that or thought that.

[@yohenson]

I have that too. Guilt is a horrible and silent attacker. Only meant for us to stand up behind what we think is good for us. And we are too lazy it yells at us. That’s guilt for you. But too much of it can cause you to cave in and escape all that yelling. So I guess we need to let it yell but keep doing the good stuff. Until we don’t need to be yelled at by ourselves.

[@davidharrison2099]

If you could have done better you would have done better. We can only act effectively from the state of consciousness that we are in at the time. Don’t feel guilty and don’t beat yourself up. Just learn to be more present and move on. We could all handle things a little better at times but don’t. Such is life and learning.

[@meeraraj0]

9:35 the pain body is fuel for presence 9:00 presence is arising and its gradually dissolving this pain body in you. But your work is not to renew the pain body through unconscious thinking. Be really alert and watch your mind so you don't create more suffering by 9:26 if you no longer feed the pain body The pain body also feeds through drama in relationships, enacting drama The pain body renews itself through Don't add to the pain body, It wants to feed, It wants your unconsciousness. Your not feeding it with your mind anymore and you not feeding it by drawn into insane drama. You just watching it It gradually dissipates and transmutes Write down repetitive thoughts you can catch that obscure your awareness That become part of your fictitious identity Then you have the burden to carry burden of an unhappy self Presence us arising , and it is gradually dissolving the pain body. Your work is not to renew your pain body through unconscious thinking. You have to be really careful and watch your mind, if you no longer feed the pain body through unconscious thinking.. Pain body also feeds through drama in relationships - best ways for the pain body to renew itself It wants to feed, It wants your unconsciousness. But don't give it to the pain body.

[@dmgsoultogetherness6667]

during any kind of depressive episode....its like climbing a mountain there is def a logical distortion with depression.......and its very hard to over ride those thoughts because they are part of something that we dont know how to converse with

[@paulinesantos1378]

What I Do I d works is to find a new environment other than my bedroom. I was in hospital with a roommate and being served my meals which were healthy. It gave me hope and a new perspective of what's going on in other parts of life.

[@jenniferroberts7581]

This is SO powerful and timely for me (and the world)! Not just for emotional pain, but physical pain as well.

[@carolinedominique4876]

What a man ❤️

[@ravishing4533]

Somehow I lose track of the fact THIS WORKS 💕❤️

[@nineangels7572]

He's right, turn your energy towards nature, stand in the sun, watch a bird, distract yourself using nature & the pain will subside.

[@K4113B4113]

I wouldn’t use the word distract as it suggests distance to the pain rather than presence with it.

[@mariarichards5221]

🙏transmuting trapped pain, being in the presence of it... thankyou again🙏💝

[@coreyrenik6419]

Yes when there is a nail in the wood you must drive another nail through it to become something greater

[@gracefulindeed6091]

Thank you Mr.Tolle

[@MinyCalapa]

Incredible insight as always. What a gift 💝 Thank you, Eckhart.

[@bulentakkas4937]

Thank you very much for this

[@NamookWM]

Eckhart,s voice is so soothing. Calms me when I an stressed and anxious.

[@poppopopp-k3j]

Thank you, Eckhart❤

[@angeloiodice9304]

This teacher is saying something that seems on its surface to be too simple to be useful, but you will find its power to be transforming.

[@sandyvonharten39]

Thank you ❤❤❤ Today is a good day to have a good day!

[@russellfeecrouch6136]

These are instruction of how to be enlightened.

[@vertrauen212]

I love so much his humor!! 😄

[@Ra-thesunking]

Thank you

[@mbutikusekwa3994]

Eckart Tolle is a great man of God I dont know where could I be if I could not listen his lectures and read his books the Power of Now and Practice the Power of Now

[@yohenson]

Always amazing to see an enlightened being.

[@Omnipresence101]

There's alot of unknowns atm, but this is very helpful. Thanks Eckhart and all here in the community🙏

[@dallasfurnish3031]

My pain body seems to get activated through negative social media, others telling me of said media and sometimes myself. I do believe I have been able to enter the beginning fazes of presence through the presence meditation by feeling my body and later listening to the sounds around without making a distinction but some days I find it easier then others to enter presence and have been trying to determine why that is. For me when I enter presence it feels like I am opening up like a balloon and can feel the ends of infinite spirit energy that I am already connected to but forgot because of my limited ego causing me to forget.

[@peterhaberfehlner2621]

Thank you for your advice, Eckhart, I struggle with my mental states (depression at the moment) and it was helpful to listen twice.

[@veraintuizione6497]

This teaching saved me... This profound TRUTH they should teach us on the first day of school! SO grateful 💓🙏✨✨✨...

[@ethanredd3342]

We love you

[@hcharton5722]

"the pain body is fuel for presence"

[@hcharton5722]

or could be "the pain body is fuel for presents"

[@mokkshaartgallery]

Give your total attention to the now the present moment the most deeply satisfing thing to be - Eckhart 🎉

[@gojiberry7201]

So soothing to listen to Eckhart's voice

[@champagneprincess4]

Eckhart i love you

[@lynnmcquillan2338]

That’s wonderful.. Thankyou Eckhardt 💕😊🙏✌️

[@ProdByAdenTemaNinja]

Thank you sir that really helped me, I'm having Huge pains from my emotions and i've been denying them for 6 years or so, And i'm saying you helped me not becuase i'm cured, i watched it just now, But you woke me up to my past, I did that before I was really absorbant! I had this pleasure for relizing those Tiny tiny details about reality, and you helped me because i was looking for a long time for what i did back then, because i was feel AMAZING For anyone who has that pain this is such a cure, unbeliveble, Not only you won't feel pain but you'll feel a milion dollar, pay attention to reality Thank You Sir :)

[@meeraraj0]

2:58 is your mind feeding it. You have a big pain body there which is not in itself bad thing, because a big pain body becomes a very strong motivating force to awaken. Be careful to examine your thinking. Enough Awareness to realise it. Let go of the thoughts. Be present. The pain body is fuel for presence

[@loveShamrock]

I 💜 you Mr Eckhart. 🍀🙏

[@devinbeverly7855]

How do we heal trauma and illuminate shadows through pure presence? It feels too passive or placating without progress. Avoidant. Yet on the other hand gripping to much leads to being crushed by undue confusion or heaviness when patient presence is necessary. How do I properly allow Grace and presence in all that I feel to break cycles? How do I not allow my isolation to honor my cycles affect interpersonal relationships? It all feels so cyclic. Where does true transformation lie?

[@wiesawaniedzwiedzka8679]

Dziękuję,że jesteś❤❤❤❤❤

[@NeilRevin-sb6lt]

Is the root of all suffering the inability to stay focused on the present moment? What I mean by suffering includes depression, anxiety, grief, loneliness, bipolar disorder, panic attacks, social isolation, shame, guilt, regret, low self-esteem, stress, anger, jealousy, heartbreak, emotional trauma, etc.

[@rashmichandra9079]

Thank you very much, Mr. Eckhart 🙏🙏

[@StephanieJeanne]

Thanks, Eckhart! Have a wonderful day!☺️💜

[@von_Apa]

The world could be a better place with the knowledge from this fantastic person! He has changed my world!

[@luizalaurastoica2551]

Amazing, thank you, Eckhart Tolle ❤!

[@AilsaMcLean]

THANK YOU. This was so helpful.

[@crystalfolse3208]

Thanks

[@luuk9659]

It seems there is a pain vortex and a mind (thoughts) vortex. I feel like what works is to stay in between the vortices and transmute the pain. It is torment, though fuel for presence

[@originalnormie]

Thank you so much Eckhart 💓

[@carmenr.r.8112]

Gracias 🙏🏼 💜 🙇🏼‍♀️ 🌈

[@rishi1613]

Thank you ❣️

[@classicbeatsbybhavye3724]

Wonderful dear Eckhart. Thanks

[@Leo-xs8bv]

Wow , just wow !! Thank you M. Tolle for your présence in this earth 💝💝💝🙏

[@Brabdog]

Cognitive-behavioral (self) therapy as an on-ramp to Presence.

[@Misslotusification]

Tell me more, you do both?