How To Help A Negative Person Become More Positive

[@prezidenttrump5171]

I watched this, as a negative person, to help myself. That's a positive!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

PrezidentTrump, that is great adulting for today!

[@ranaeid2390]

Self-awareness is key.

[@prezidenttrump5171]

@ranaeid2390 Being self aware is only half the battle. You can be self aware, and still not able to see past your own BS. I am now 99% cured of my negativity. Feeling very proud of myself and eternally grateful to LiveOnPurposeTV

[@SpiritDragoness]

I wish more people knew this. I am one of those people who tends to slip into the abyss of negativity, and people lecturing me to be more positive really doesn't help. It only makes it worse. I also struggle with gratitude... on both sides, showing it to others and receiving it. I always feel like i don't deserve it and i start acting all weird. I am getting a bit better at showing it as i am reflecting more on my past lately, and there are a lot of people who have helped me a ton to keep my sanity, knowing or unknowingly by just being there and being themselves. Been writing a lot of thank you emails for things that happened 20-25 years ago. But there is one person who i really need to thank, but unfortunately i can't find him. The person who i hardly knew but who pretty much saved my life when i was 21-22.

[@tecumseha]

#SpiritDragoness (I like your handle! It sounds both mysterious & strong!) - I've known a few people who seem to have a perpetually negative outlook on life, so I've witnessed how hard it can be to pull out of. I think it's inspiring that you are trying really hard to show more gratitude by writing thank you notes, especially for things that might be forgotten by those who did the kind act a long time ago. :) I've been listening to Dr. Paul on this channel for about 6 months now, & have noticed my attitude improve - slow as it may be. My husband has noticed it, too. Dr. Paul has said happiness is a choice, a skill, & an emotion. I'd like to add that it's contagious! :) So is gratitude. And he spreads both very effectively! I love watching & sharing his videos... hope they help you like they have me.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I love that you are cultivating an attitude of gratitude and expressing it to others. You begin to look for the positive, and that helps both you and others. Go ahead and write the letter to the person you can't find, for the act of expression. With gratitude developed, it will be second nature to begin creating the life you want, SpiritDragoness.

[@diamondunicorn2421]

I love my partner in many ways. But his negativity and drama is over powering at times. This video is an excellent way for me to hopefully be able to still stay in this relationship with him.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Diamond Unicorn, thank you for watching - it's an honor to be on your team. I love that you continue to love your partner, despite the hard times, and are willing to be there for him.

[@crh251]

Diamond, my husband is the same exact way. It’s tough at times.

[@no_special_person]

I wouldn't recxomend staying with a negative person yanno, You become what you put yourself around, garbage in garbage out. Although I feel that's a bold thing to say, Its so god dang true.

[@rubyisabel7634]

“Negativity & drama” those were red flags I wish I had known when I was dating a narcissist. I hope that’s not the case w you xx

[@maddyG7414]

@@zorro727 exactly. It’s not always as black and white as “oh they’re negative that must mean they’re a narc or not worth it”. That just dismissed those who can be loving, supportive people who just struggle with mental health.

[@rachelzed2004]

Great stuff! One thing I find is if I seek out attributes in others that I'd like to see in my family and reflect on them out loud it helps. I always do it with true appreciation and a smile. Never in a comparative, angry way. It works with fictional characters too. I just had to complement my guy the other day for his Mr. Darcy moment.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

What a great idea, Rachel Glurich. Thanks for sharing.

[@juebasu3166]

Very different and new perspective...I truly appreciate that.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I'm glad it resonated with you, Jue Basu. Honored to have you at Live On Purpose TV.

[@maddyG7414]

Thank you for this. My best friend is my soul sister, she is SO supportive of me. She’s always my number one cheerleader who will encourage me to pursue my dreams, but she struggles a lot in her own life. Sometimes I find it really hard being around her when she’s in her low moods because the complaining and the worry over everything is a lot to swallow and no matter how much I reassure her and show my support, it’s one thing after another. I feel so guilty saying that but I want her to be happy.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Maddy Harvey, sometimes you might need a break, and that is o.k. It is so you can build yourself up to be there for her.

[@shalomgarcia6000]

You've did it again! I love how sincere and helpful you are..Thank you so much for another quality video!! 🙌🏽😁

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Honored to be on your team, Shelom Garcia.

[@prezidenttrump5171]

I have this strange issue, where I won't share or tell my friends about things I've learned or read about. I don't do that all the time, but some subjects I keep close to my chest, such as this. In some ways, I think I want to be appear stronger than I am, as I work my way to becoming strong for real, and have them think I'm some sort of super hero who just figures things out. Not really sure, but it's a pattern I noticed within myself.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

PrezidentTrump, it is actually something I suggest to people. Act like what you want to be.

[@raek8940]

Bless you....when I searched this subject you were the first to want to help in a 'positive' way. 💕 Just what I needed/was hoping for. Your specific how to's are good! I will endeavor to drop MY labels, MY shoulds. I can be grateful.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad it was helpful! Rae K, you got this.

[@taliakuk1295]

I am a negative one and I gotta say it really make me live a life I don't want to and the worst part is I lost one important person in my life because of this very negativity.. He was, he is one of the most positive people I've ever met, and it was tough for him to handle me, and I let him go to be happy without me...

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Time to make some changes so you can have the life you want, go.liveonpurposecentral.com.

[@cathymars23]

Thanks. 💕 I feel happier already, knowing that this negative person is not my responsibility. I'm responsible for the me in my skin. So I need to focus on my own positivity and not waste my energy on trying to help negative people. Yes I will make a habit of leaving space for them, moving away when I feel myself being dragged down, and pointing out positive things that I appreciate about the person. 🙂

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Cathy Mars, perfect, sounds like you have control of this.

[@sonalsunshine]

Thank you for being so kind and sharing

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Sonal Patil. Thank you for watching.

[@JessicaTang9202019]

Great video Dr.Paul,thank you so much for sharing with us.😊😊😊

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

My pleasure, Jessica Ilano. Thank you for watching.

[@jalilecaballero9241]

Great video Dr. Paul! Thank you! 💝

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Janet Caballero, thank you for watching.

[@phammond2392]

Your videos came to me at the right time. Thank you for these. !!!! Blessings.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are so welcome

[@rabiakamal4955]

The great video! Thanks for sharing brilliant stuff dr. Paul.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Glad you enjoyed the video, Rabia Kamal. Honored to be on your team.

[@tanaallen6810]

This has been very helpful in my situation, thanks!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You're very welcome!

[@yanyan9636]

Thanks.. just what i need for my friend

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

yan yan, thank you for being a great friend.

[@greeshmaanilkumar1948]

I did all the don'ts.😢😢 What should i do..? Plz help..😣

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Greeshma Anikumar, when we know better, we do better. Stop looking back, stay in today and do things differently.

[@greeshmaanilkumar1948]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you 🥰

[@georgeannepanos8132]

I'd like to share this with a family member!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Georgeanne Panos, while I always like when the videos are shared, I don't want the next family gathering to get out of control : )

[@georgeannepanos8132]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Nah, it's all good. I'd get made to feel bad long before I get to unload my frustrations

[@Allie-ck2lj]

Well, just fine! This is not what I expected! (Joking!) Wouldn't you know, it all depends on me. I'm the only one I can change. Same lesson, over and over again. When will I ever learn?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

We ALL need reminders. Glad you are in our community.

[@paulrevere8470]

Love it! Amazing information thank you

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, Paul revere. Thank you for being here on the channel.

[@Mushroom321-]

Nice! ☺ great tips & true..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you for being a loyal viewer, Wendi Watson.

[@lancastersouthway2336]

How can you be positive and at the same time not hide your feelings when you're not feeling great..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Lancaster Southway, we all have feelings and you are never wrong with how you feel. Feelings tell us sometimes what is up and that we need to deal with it. You might try asking how you can use the discontent or the feeling to create something more positive. If you want to work with a coach you can schedule a zoom call at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

[@lancastersouthway2336]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Yes that is powerful, so I can express my feelings in the hope of creating something positive. Will try that, thank you!

[@unremarkable3913]

Could you do a video on calming techniques for kindergartners?

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Unremarkable, I will add the topic to the development list and see if something comes of it. Thanks for the suggestion.

[@ankitagupta2755]

How sholud we deal with back answering..?I would love to hear from you...I don't want to intrude her freedom and at the same time I will not tolerate disrespectful behaviour whatsoever...Any help..

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Ankita Gupta, ask yourself if the talk is really disrespectful or it is she really needing more explanation or a way to express her feelings. That could help. If her behavior is disrespectful and you have a family rule about respect, then she would be violating the rule and there would be consequences. Keep it simple and without emotion. Good luck.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for the invitation, Ankita Gupta. That would be a great experience.

[@georgeannepanos8132]

Uh, you got me!!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thanks for watching, Georgeanne Panos. Honored to be on your team.

[@livelearnlove9086]

I always tell them they are negative because it’s the truth. Can’t help negative people either or show them. They got to help themselves.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Hopefully they can see by the example of positive people in their lives.

[@agatworose4534]

my mom is a really negative person and it really affects my life and i always tell her to stop being so unhappy about everything and she says that there isn’t anything for her to be happy about🤧

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sounds like she needs a gratitude list, a reason to look for what she is grateful for, agatworose.

[@diamondunicorn2421]

Also sounds like she’s looking for attention. The new currency

[@nasrinali2328]

When my children were young they were not appreciative of anything. I let them watch World Vision so they can see the lives of poor people and see how blessed they were in their lives. Now I’m so grateful that they are very appreciative of their lives. They support poor people, they have good relationships with their families and friends. I’m so blessed to have them in my life. I’m hoping that your mom’s perspective will change too.

[@lindavarghese9949]

awsomeeeeeeee

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Thank you, Linda Varghese.

[@SOCBenjy]

💚 Thanks, Sometimes its soooo hard, when you try it with lovr and examples of yourself and say what works and inspires you... And just say one thing wrong... 2 hours conversations come up and i really think i just say nothing, but thrn this inner urge comes up, because you think you can tell that person now about it becauseyoure on such a good level.... And then they get crazy affendet and criticised... Even if you talkedabout, that itis alwayswith love and helping eachother whithout judging... But the ego ofpeople is so strong and theconditions... We cant change, ws must role All thebest and thanks 👌😊☀️

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

You are welcome, thank you for your positivity.

[@chewygami8781]

Damn, i did things wrong Instead of making them better, i almost did things wrong

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Chewy Gami, thank you for watching.

[@Ttt87163]

Some people dont want help, its their personality. They thrive off a reaction!

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Until they get some great coaching that is.

[@Ttt87163]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV Some people dont want coaching. Or dont think they need it. You cant save everybody

[@sarahbrennan1342]

💖🌸💖

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Sarah Brennan, good to hear from you.

[@sarahbrennan1342]

Live On Purpose TV have a good week 💖💖🥰🥰

[@Venus.actor.singer]

Awesome video. I can apply these with everyone except my sister group. I just feel i have no right to share anything with substance to them. They gang up on me and tells me im negative... what? Thanks to youtube i learned the sister group dynamic that the youngest one, me, is their scapegoat. Since all of them are stressing with covid and my brother and step father died last month from covid, they are looking for a scapegoat. So i left or quit our group text to save my sanity.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Virgie Mata, that is o.k. to do. Sometimes we need a break. Your sanity is worth saving.

[@Venus.actor.singer]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV omg. Thank you very much for your reassurance. Thank you for saving my sanity. My sisters are war freaks and they flip my messages all the time. When I try to encourage them to be positive, they flip it around and make me look negative. It's insane. Again, thank you. God bless you