How to INSTANTLY Stop Workplace Negativity And Toxic Coworkers From Affecting Your Mood

[@TheWizardOfWords]

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[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

I find so much value in this video. :) I also really love the levitating picture. 🤗 We get to see Dan's feet. 😊💖💖💖

[@actionchaplain1]

Personal Compass: 1. Who I am 2. Why I'm here 3. What I want

[@djw8591]

This is a watch over and over and over video. It’s packed with pearls of wisdom and delivered with energy and compassion.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks @djw8501 and I invite you to share liberally :)

[@SydMountaineer]

Yes, I agree, you can get new & different lessons from it each time you watch, over time, as your knowledge, perspective, & circumstances change & evolve. But then again, all of Dan’s videos are like that, but this one is extra special.

[@SydMountaineer]

When you work yourself, on the inside, everything else falls into place, and YOU are in control of your body & mind - not others.

[@brightpage1020]

Parenting classes have also taught that if we are beyond capacity with HALT emotions (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) that's our responsibility to manage. We can get to bed earlier, take a break, grab a snack, walk it off... if I get irritable that is up to me to manage without leaking mean spiritedness all over my family or anyone else. Long as I manage those and my ADHD responsibly, I do much better. When I catch myself irritable it's usually that I have jilted myself out some level of self care when it comes to those things (usually tired). And when my sons get tired, they're even more destructive than when they're hungry. Dho! I habe passed it down. Uh oh. Best time to correct is now. Thank God for this opportunity. Phew!

[@brightpage1020]

Releasing you releases me.... great idea! Forgiveness. Yes! 🎉

[@rebeccas.7584]

Thanks for the reminder: to think of the meaning of life in difficult situations. To love God and others. Even if I don’t feel loving I’m to reflect the love of God.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

That's a great summary, Rebeccas. If we relied on feelings, we'd be doomed :) :). It's all about choices. Agape love is a choice.

[@dawnf2z1]

Dan, you are the finest way to start my day: this morning I get to stop and calibrate over a mug of tea, before stepping out of the house. Lucky me. Thanks for all that you work hard to share with us, you are inspiring and empowering. ❤

[@marloboutte6661]

Agreed

[@inspiredinlife1]

Thanks Dan. I've learnt how to use a personal compass. I dislike bullies and would usually distance myself from culprits but still be nice to them. However there are those who sniff you out and you have to deal with them. Right now, a false allegation was made against me. So ridiculous, Im being accused of having a negative aura towards this particular person. Yet I have always been friendly. She ended up coming round to my desk and throwing work at me. After meeting with management about this Im waiting for HR to investigate as she's just added something else against me in this meeting. Again ridiculous and couldn't justify or any evidence in the meeting. Ive taken a week off work because it's quiet upsetting.

[@truthseeker4504]

It's a choice! Choose wisely keep your power to yourself. If all this fails, there's a great tune by JDubs call I hate my job 😂😂😂. It helps me while I'm currently quietly quitting!

[@leahr9038]

Ugh i love you so much. I need this channel for my SANITY! And i feel affirmed and believed and supported. Its crazy how childish GROWN FOLK are! Hate to say it, but especially women. Its a rarity to see men exclude other men, gossip to tear other men down, and play games to hurt the feelings and self esteem of other men. When are people going to grow up

[@IloveMEOWING]

Thank you so much! I was searching for some words of wisdom on how to deal with toxic sexist workplace and found this channel two days ago. I really needed this. You are a blessing

[@djw8591]

I second that!!! Dan is a blessing.

[@desertpatient]

Thanks bunches. When I was 20 and a bit out of control in my world. A wise man whom I kept in touch with all my life told me..."You get to pick your children's father". I did not get what he was saying at first....but finally understood the profoundness...

[@TheWizardOfWords]

And what a difference it makes--when you think of it that way :). I thank God my mother chose wisely. But don't tell her I said that.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

Wow. That was good advice. My father was really weak, he handed over all of his power to my Mum. I never really noticed that he didn't stand up for me, I just thought that I couldn't get through to my Mum. I just thought I was constantly upset and I thought that that upset would go if I could just ''get through'' to my mum. Then I met a man who replaced stone walling and silent treatment with verbal abuse. I didn't realise that I'd ended up with my MOTHER My daughter is 21. I am going to say that to her, when it comes up. I won't storm in to her bedroom and tell her right now!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Yes--it is excellent advice--and I wouldn't wait to long to dispense it.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

@TheWizardOfWords I will, but she can be proud of herself, she tunes into how she feels. I was not raised to do that. I had an epiphany after my kids were born. I do share advice and perspectives with her though. Going to watch another of yr videos next. Love the new channel name.

[@SydMountaineer]

I told my niece something like that (and of course, this goes both ways, for guys & girls) - our family was visiting, we were all in the car talking, she was talking about dating. I told her that there’s just one thing to think of when deciding to date a guy or when deciding to continue dating: Is he someone who you’d want to be the father of your future children?

[@athenasmith5866]

Yes! I always want to think of ways to ground myself. In the moment but I never remember in the moment to call myself because my emotions are high I close up, dismiss or retreat to crying

[@Plantagenetic]

It’s in-laws and step people for me. Thank you so much for this!

[@prissypacheco2860]

Great video!

[@SelenaQ22]

This is so powerful! Thank you. I will REMEMBER!

[@j.t.1215]

❤ Dan, you're a beautiful human being, inside and out. Thank you for shining your light. I always find my higher self watching your content. You give me not only hope, but a path to get there.❤

[@SydMountaineer]

What a lovely comment! 💕 I understand what you mean. It’s so important to have someone, “a light” like Dan, when there’s so many people in this world who are not a good example for us & others. I know that all of us who know Dan’s work can be a light for others too - maybe we won’t even know it, but others who see our actions will be affected by that light too. Edit: I just noticed your name - it’s a name that’s very dear to me, how coincidental!!!

[@marleyofficialmedia]

This was very affirming and I appreciate your guidance. And humour. ❤

[@robertgraves3215]

I used to date a Magnolia, she ended up being kinda boring. I have a Master's degree now in Counter Annoyance. When they're all in your face, like, "So how's it going Robbbb? " (stupid smirk , Oh Lord, here it comes) I'm like " It's been a productive morning, Tracey. But how can we make it even more productive?" Then I start quoting scripture and cool stories from the Bible. Watch them run for the hills. Or outside for a vape. All the backstabby gallightey gossipy crap is what we bought into from age 20-30 , recently, a road cyclist trainer guy, called that our "Unicorn Years". Loved that. Great segment Dan, thanks.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

"cool stories from the Bible"-- I had to smile at that one :) :) :)

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

What's an example of a cool story from the bible? right now I seem to be more focused on the qur'an (and boy it's scary) I'd like to contrast that with a cool story from the bible.

[@athenasmith5866]

@@SusanaXpeace2uone cool story is 1 kings 18:24-38 🔥 who wins the battle ?

[@UnidentifiedCat007]

Been following you for a long time Dan. Your messages never disappoint.

[@lovewillwar2422]

Dan. I wish we were neighbors and colleagues. I struggle, alone, from a good place, professionally that feels and looks lonely and uncomfortable, and unique. However, I know that not to be true. Your advice is so accurate. Your ability to navigate any workplace obstacle is beyond reproach.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I hear you. We're all in this together.

[@Mollymolly321]

You have helped me so much and to not feel alone. Thank you

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are welcome, MM :)

[@HeavenlyLights]

Who I am. Why I’m here. What I want.

[@AmericanWoman24]

You showed up on my feed & now I'm obsessed (not literally) with your videos!!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

It's OK to be obsessed with my videos--as long as you SHARE THEM :).

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

True, there's a certain type of person who sniffs me out, and it's the person who gains a sense of belonging from excluding me. The first few times it happened I didn't deal with it well, but the job I've been in two years now, I looked around the other day and realise that I have not ignored her as in ignored her back but I ignored the situation. It's been such a long process becoming this person who can focus on my relationship with myself and therefore, rise above it, keep calm. My family though, they never change. I've learned that they will never let me in to the family unless I agree that I'm sensitive, angry, emotional, demanding et cetera

[@7l3ma87]

God bless your intellect and sense of humour. Thank you.

[@samantha200]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge! This was meant for me to hear. Love allllllll of your videos!

[@djw8591]

Me tooo!

[@IndigoMasquerade]

Absolutely love this!

[@SydMountaineer]

Magnolia’s like, “Nuttin’ wrong here, honies, well I just gave it two snaps up & a twist, mmm’hmmm, baby, ain’t nothin’ botherin’ me, oh heck no, I don’t allow it to.”😂😂😂 Dan, your Magnolia character reminded me of In Living Color.

[@annaadoue2763]

I keep watching you and there is no video that I don´t think how brilliant you are and how important your message is to the world.

[@mitaalqahtani]

Fabulous. Thank you for sharing this loving wisdom. ❤

[@barbarajean7208]

Thank you so much for this reminder!

[@TheGiveittomeall]

Ohhhhhh, this is absolute GOLD

[@carbonfootprint3635]

The content of your talks are really really moving up in terms of depth and vibrationally ascent! You are unique in your niche Sending Peace, love and light to you

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you; about time, don't you think (on many levels)? :)

[@carbonfootprint3635]

@TheWizardOfWords true although from what I've observed you are relatively open to learning and developing yourself and others you have shone significant light and dispelled alot of ignorance Love light and progress to you : )

[@lillianbarker4292]

It helped me to think of work as a training ground with people testing me. I also learned to be positive, but honest, in my speech. It really does change your life. I sailed along enjoying work until I was elected department chair twice. My goal was to improve things for students and I did. Unfortunately, one paranoid teacher turned the whole department against me (some were work “friends” for 20 years). I retired but I still wonder how it happened. My therapist said that sometimes crazy crosses your path. I know it was a perfect storm. I just wish I could have handled it better. Maybe it was simply time to leave.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I hope this video helps you look to the future rather than the past, realizing YOU are doing the best you possibly can, and you should be proud of YOU and forgetful of behavior that told you who the other people were :)

[@lillianbarker4292]

@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. I’ll keep them in mind for sure. My goal now is to have fun and spend time with people I love, and that includes your videos. Keep up the good work!

[@SydMountaineer]

💕 I’m *sure* that how you handled things (being positive & honest) helped others to learn from your example, and it’s possible that even the paranoid teacher & the ones she manipulated learned from you, maybe they didn’t realize it until years later. Also, as I’m sure you do, you can still continue to improve things for students & people in general, regardless of not being in that particular job. 💕

[@richardhimes3723]

You knocked it out of the park again! Dan your the man! Sign me up ❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Richard :)

[@rosebudmoon]

You are the best! I’m so happy you exist

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Please tell that to my mother :) :)

[@SydMountaineer]

@@TheWizardOfWords I agree with the other commenter, Dan. Speaking of your Mother, and your Father also - when I began watching your channel 3 or so years ago, you spoke so lovingly about your parents, a bit about about their careers and their effect on you. I appreciate them for bringing you to the world, and raising you to help create who you are now, because people like you are so needed and rare. And I’ve always loved how you talk about them in your quips & examples, it’s very endearing & entertaining! So, every time I see your videos, I can’t think of you without thinking about your parents, and what wonderful people they must be to have raised a son like you. (I’m not saying that you having nothing to do with it 😂, but you know what I mean). I’m not kidding - when I see your face on the screen, it’s not just you I see & think about, I think of and “see” your parents along with you, yet I have no idea of what they even look like! I guess I see their “spirits” along with you, and their love.

[@PaolaN-l5y]

I just found You, I am so happy I found You.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I'm glad you found me.

[@nikkid9915]

Thank you for your divine guidance. I needed this exact reminder today. I love when you show up for me. ❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome

[@jakeforge]

💯 that's as high as you can take that ! Thankyou 😊

[@jackiefernandez8080]

Loved your lettuce analogy. I know I REALLY need to listen to these over and over. I have ADHD and have a difficult time speaking to people and sayi g what I want to get across what mean, and saying the very wrong thing.

[@dominoscr]

Whoo! This is the best video ever. Thanks for all you do!

[@fabianafran927]

You can never lose when you respond with compassion and in a way that reflects who you are. Thank you for sharing so much wisdom!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome.

[@RashaunMichelle]

You are amazing Dan. Thank you.

[@stevenbinum7659]

Thank you.

[@eternitywhisperstotheheart8416]

I enjoyed this video, it is one of the most powerful videos I have come across from you… More of this please 💜

[@TheWizardOfWords]

More to come!

[@mal8447]

The "I love you" adlibs from your pet 😆💞

[@apppretty4391]

Every since I started to go to school on campus, I now know where the "office people" come from

[@MyFreeload]

This is just what I need to raise my vibration, thank you for this material

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're very welcome

[@JustBeREAL1st]

Thank you so much for all you do!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome!

[@MNorbert89]

I think better to leave a toxic workplace if one able to, than fake a loving personality all the time. In those time when somebody is cruel to you, you have to be tough and not soft, so i not necessarily agree with that mentality that i should remember i am X all the time. No. That's the point. I can behave according to the situation. Sometimes you need to share love, sometimes you need to show others why they should never mess with you again.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

@MNorbert89, you can show others they ought not to mess with you--without being hateful. There is nothing that you NEED to say that you can't say in a loving way. Your assumption that a loving personality is fake--is troublesome. I think the problem might be that you are mistaking the love that is decision-based (agape) with the love that is warm and romantic and emotion-based (eros). It is decision-based kindness that is espoused in this video. To see the ugliness and dysfunction of "You hurt me so I will hurt you back" all you have to do is look at the rhetoric in U.S. politics.

[@i..am..]

You'd be surprised how much people change when you change. I had a toxic boss and multiple coworkers. I was able to build healthy relationships to have smoother team work and there is no toxicity any longer. Sure i work with many narcissists that tried drama with me... but I chose to fix instead of contribute to that energy. Toxic people fear looking bad, you can use that if you're not in the victim mindset.

[@volumeaddict]

You are amazing. I am grateful. I am learning (!!!) You sum up the concepts so succinctly it is easy for me to understand. Thank you. You are therapist, coach, and teacher in one!!! Thank you

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're welcome. It's my pleasure.😀

[@milenapastore5259]

Love your insights and expertise so much! You are simply the best. 🙏🏼

[@SR-mv2mf]

Tbh I am not going to ever elevate anyone beyond me. Maybe my kids but no one else.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Totally up to you, of course, but I think your field of vision could be expanded and you'd be mightily rewarded.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I had to laugh at the manifesto at 15.00 my mother is stonewalling me to the end of time. She will die without reaching out. Her personal statement might be something like, I am the victim, I am here to be pitied because I want to be right.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I am normal but not at all average 😛 I'm here to be included, through reciprocal communication I want to belong but most of all I belong to me. Edited to add, when i read this back it sounds like i bend with the bend, but after dealing with my family i've realised that the *reciprocity* of communication is a boundary for me. Control and keeping things superficial is my mother's own Boundary. Oh. Hang on, just got to the bit about releasing. Maybe a boundary of reciprocity is what's standing in the way of me releasing.

[@sage8889]

Absolutely Superb 📹! 💎

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks!

[@FromtheLightofTheDarkness]

Hell ya, dude, youre awesome

[@Teal_Moon]

Excellent

[@amelittaberretta9109]

Fantastic!

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

Dear Maggie, 🐶 Here is your Super Thanks for being a good girl. 🤗 Love, Sarah 💖

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Maggie thanks you profoundly :)

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

@@TheWizardOfWords It's my pleasure, Maggie! 🤗💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@Jacquie_Kirk_111]

Thank you.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I need adjectives that mean more than one thing!!. I am striving, adapting, loving, hoping... I am here to connect. I want what I have to be real. *No houses of cards* (wrt finances, relationships, career opportunities that might glisten but burn out). OK, my multiple posts are too numerous. I'll make this the last. but I'm thinking about this. Is there another version of this exercise that allows more than one adjective. Or does it marshall the compass to be restricted to one? It's a good exercise.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Absolutely you can put all the adjectives in that you wish.

[@sovereign.spirit]

Thank you ❤

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

I love the picture of Levitating Dan! 🤣😃😂👍 Now levitating Dan, in the red suit, is going to float into my dream while I drift off to sleep, listening to meditation! 😀💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

Thanks!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Wow, Sarah, thank you so much--for your membership and your support! Dan

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

@@TheWizardOfWords Good morning, Dan. 😊 Yesterday, after I sent Maggie her money, I Googled "Super Thanks" because I was curious about it. Yes, I know....I don't have a life, but you probably figured that out by now. 😂 I read that You Tube takes 30 percent of the donation. So if I gift you 50 dollars, You Tube takes 15 dollars of it. Which means that you get 35 dollars out of the 50 dollars. Is that correct? If that is the case, is there a better way to send you a money gift? Is it better to make an extra donation on the Patreon? I noticed you can change the amount that you want to give on the Patreon. I just don't like to see You Tube take so much of the money, that I want to go to you. 🤔 Please let me know the best way to donate for the future. Have a great day! 😃💖👍

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Well--since you asked--Yes, you have everything exactly correct. Patreon is the way to go--when you're so-inclined :) ☺. But I AM GRATEFUL either way--of course!

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

@@TheWizardOfWords I am so inclined. 😀 So what I will do in the future, is I will make an adjustment in Patreon for a higher monthly payment, when I want to give you a money gift. 😊💖 I want to see the money go to you. I think 30 percent is steep. 🤔 Thank you for all that you do. You are a ray of sunshine.🌞 I have to get ready for work now. I'm on the night shift tonight at the nursing home. 6pm to 6am. It's my least favorite shift to work. Once it hits 2am I struggle to stay awake. The patients do not sleep, they keep you busy all night long!💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[@TheWizardOfWords]

My step-father is almost 90; I get it :)

[@mpdepass]

Fantastic! Love there is no separation between the branches of relationship / communing

[@koenvandaele8673]

Substance into form, or form into substance, that’s the question. We all need a Shakespeare @ Ground Zero. ☘️ We may just rebuild a tower or two, and I don’t mean this literally.

[@HallowSeeds]

17:30 bars on bars

[@Jacquie_Kirk_111]

Wow wise words!

[@thiabrabson2533]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ ❤I am REMEMBERING HOW WONDERFUL IT FEELS TO BE LOVING IN UNLOVABLE SITUATIONS❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@HamletsMill1969]

Cool! ❤

[@BostonSportsFan1020]

What should you do if the workplace negativity doesn’t stop despite your efforts

[@TheWizardOfWords]

It's no surprise that the negativity does not stop. The point is to stop it from affecting YOU.

[@josephinestone8404]

Dan, where did you get the talking dog ?

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Don't all dogs talk?

[@josephinestone8404]

@@TheWizardOfWords Dan, you are so witty. Luv ya lots

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I am a dog-whisperer, but please don't tell. . . .

[@user-mi8gk6dn9m]

I am Timothy budbill Phoenix Arizona I don't know what's happing to me

[@crackerjacks6789]

🥗 ❤😅

[@luciamihok7195]

lol don’t we all love our mothers

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I truly hope so

[@luciamihok7195]

@@TheWizardOfWords 😅😅

[@tobyfitzpatrick565]

❤

[@kleinemaus2914]

Hilarious🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@belluz6819]

heavily moneytized, an add every 3 minutes

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You'll have to take that up with YT; I have no control over such things.

[@Helzwazhair]

Thank you 😊