How to Deal With Workplace Bullying | Kick them OUT OF YOUR HEAD and to the curb

[@TheWizardOfWords]

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[@SKW-12]

Dan - thank you for continued wisdom, encouragement and inspiration. You are treasured. Wishing you and your loved ones happy days and wonderful, fulfilling adventures throughout 2024. ✨🙏🥰

[@sirrantsalott]

Hi Dan, I downloaded the 1-pager but it’s really low-resolution. Would you upload a high-resolution version please? I want to print this out and put it on the wall next to my monitor. Wishing you the best of 2024 Dan!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Write Jean at [e-mail] and she'll send you the pdf.

[@TheMusicalElitist]

No thanks.

[@solidcatink]

Thank you, sir ! I did just that : I said, "I don't belong here. Thanks for the opportunity, but we are parting ways, today. Bye!"

[@rosepainting1]

You are wonderful Nurses bully each other horribly

[@sage9836]

Nurses! How sad. They are such effective professionals and so appreciated by those they have helped. I believe you that bullying is there, too.

[@ceceliaperkinson5222]

Yeessss! Unbelievably so!!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

@@sage9836there is plenty of

[@carole3708]

"You can't manage what you don't monitor." This applies to so many things in life! Thanks, Dan!

[@naenaee5829]

You are a blessing. 😭❤️ I found your videos cuz I’ve been getting frustrated at work. I have autism and am fortunate enough to be able to work in a regular workplace ok, but I still don’t always understand the social nuances of coworkers. Consequently I think I’ve been getting steamrolled and find myself having to work more weekends, getting less help for my area than others, etc. You explain things so I can understand what exactly I’m dealing with and why it happens and how I can stop it. THANK YOU.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are welcome, Naenaee. I try to make it clear and I try to give you precise words, to take as much of the guesswork out of communication as I can.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

@@TheWizardOfWordsyou are doing this really well. This is especially helpful for neurodivergent people. Bad enough for the rest of us…

[@Neon27T]

This speaker is great! I really like the part when he said “I’m generous out of self-interest.”

[@oaktreecottageequestrian5252]

Thank you, Dan, for the emphasis on Dignity. Absolutely non-negotiable! ❤

[@gracecase998]

Thank you so much for this video. I had a fellow co-worker rage on me for a favor I did for my boss. I got dragged into HR for how I triggered her. WTF? This girl raged on two other people in same day, but it's my fault? We don't even work in the same state. I got, she was stressed by year end audit. I said, I know I was supporting that audit. Never got an "I'm sorry". There is no place for rage in the workplace. I never replied to her I knew better. Boy did I want to. But I am not wasting 3 years of therapy on her issues and unprofessionalism. Very actively looking for another job. Wish me luck. Love your channel.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks, Grace--and I do wish you luck!

[@gracecase998]

@@TheWizardOfWords thanks so much! I did have interviews now waiting on replies for two positions. I picked only positions and companies I am passionate about, no more chasing the salary. I want peace at work.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Good decision, Grace. BTW, I am coming up with a new course (live and then taped). that might interest you--"How to handle rage, meanness and backstabbing in the workplace--(while keeping your job and your sanity)." If you register at danoconnortraining.com you'll be notified. It just might interest you :)

[@Travelerofthesouth]

I've struggled with this at work my whole life

[@Pancakes4dindin]

HR actually did help me after I went to them with months worth of documentation (I had already talked to the bully, then my boss, etc.). Because I have a disability I asked them for accommodation because the bullying was impacting my disability.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Pancakes, I am happy that the documentation and HR route worked for you. You are describing a situation that might have landed the company in a lawsuit, given the aggravation of your disability. So HR, working for the company, saw that and helped. Normally HR, working for the company, does nothing to dissolve everyday disputes among coworkers. One reason for this is that those disputes are legion :). Your dispute was unique.

[@Pancakes4dindin]

@@TheWizardOfWordsI agree with you 1000%. Had I not had a disability, they would have done nothing.

[@aking1196]

Just found your content...so glad I did. I feel like quitting my job and this year just started! I call my freedom fund my "f you" fund. I'm definitely putting as much as I can in there.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Yes, in a way it can be an f you fund :(

[@littlemule1]

That may be but sometimes you do have to leave the bully

[@angelwishes3213]

@James-gp5cw But what if there is no such God? Then what?

[@Jasminepsalm]

“Put your armor on and become something else” I GOT CHILLS deep

[@Jasminepsalm]

@James-gp5cw ❤️❤️❤️💫💫💫🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@generationalcursebreaker5397]

Amen

[@butterscotch2086]

Ephesians 6:11

[@Jasminepsalm]

@@butterscotch2086 God bless your soul

[@tammybell6423]

With bullying I have found ignoring works. The only problem is it does wreck your mental health if you are not prepared. My take away on this video is I have a phajaan. Thanks helping me realize it.

[@tammybell6423]

@James-gp5cw when I first saw this, at first I was frustrated because I do not try to get back at people. I feel it is a waste of energy. However, my husband is dealing with a situation that would apply to this. Thank you for commenting.

[@angelwishes3213]

Ignoring does not work; you are a sitting duck if you know what I mean lol

[@tammybell6423]

@angelwishes3213 that may be true if you don't believe in yourself. Also, ignoring will eventually expose.

[@PurplePinkRed]

As always Dan, you are so spot on with your advice! I just left a role due to relentless bullying and not seeing a way out. Seeing that I've been far too nice and too willing to allow others to walk all over me has been so powerful. It's sad that it has taken me almost half my life (and my entire career) to realise this. I stood up to a recruiter today over the phone who was speaking down to me and not listening to my needs. It was incredibly powerful to take back the power and knowing I control my own destiny! It definitely goes back to high school. The role you have in high school is the role you'll have by default in the workplace. I was the loner, hard worker, straight A student, asked to perform extra tasks at school for minimal benefit... yup... mirrored that into the workplace! I will be starting a freedom fund at my next employer. My fund normally comes from the payout of annual leave (like right now) 😂 I have a habit of not taking holidays so it works out 😆 I definitely need to change some spending habits! Thanks again Dan ❤

[@MsPriyaLal]

Yes recruiters get offended when you don't want the jobs they are trying to force you in..

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You're welcome, PPR! Happy to help.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

MsPriyaLal, thanks much for being a YT member. And feel free to kick to the curb a recruiter who is trying to force you into a certain position that you don't want, or for which you are unsuited. Remember that recruiters are paid when they place someone--so sometimes they push too hard. Watch out for that.

[@PurplePinkRed]

​@@MsPriyaLal So true!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

@@PurplePinkRedhi remember to take some holiday leave for you, to recharge your batteries, relax whatever.. even if’s just a few days somewhere nice or add a leave day onto a weekend a couple of times a year. Just for you.

[@heatherc3345]

Dan, as always, I'm grateful for you and your phenomenal teaching skills. Thank you for bestowing such important and valuable lessons to myself and to your viewers. As someone who admittedly has never been good with words, you've shown me the keys to excellent communication and most of all freedom. This truly is life changing and I cannot thank you enough. I hope you're having a fantastic holiday surrounded by people you love and who love you.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you for that positive message--especially your wish that I'm surrounded by people I love and who love me :) :) :). And I was and I am!

[@sage9836]

I wanted to cheer like ten times already and I'm not halfway through the video. This is gold!

[@jessicaisherwood2888]

Good Morning Dan! What really resonated with me, was when you said that i am putting my happiness and comfort on these people, mind blowing! Done, no more. Thank you for your wisdom, Happy New Year!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Happy NewYear, Jessica.

[@joycereller2489]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I needed to be shaken awake more and more. My children reap the benefit of seeing me grow.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Very happy to help.

[@BitcoinWillFixEverything]

I worked at Chatfield Dean from 93 to 94. I'm not 100% sure but I believe I remember you. Ty was the trainer, most people only lasted less than a month. Terrible experience, yeah I did walk away with some skills that have been useful.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

It's possible, Mike--though I only lasted a few months. Great learning experience. I was there around 1993 when I was 20 years old (having perhaps exaggerated my age just a bit).

[@Ad-Lo]

@@TheWizardOfWords 😂

[@DiamondEyez456]

Woah..not everyone can just do job switches like had the privilege of doing...I hope you can find the understanding and compassion of where I am coming from. I work in public healthcare so this is going to a very specific audience. I have gone to HR about someone who abusively YELLED at me..and they were going to take care of it if needed. Neither HR nor the head of my facility was amused by the coworkers' abusive yelling at me, especially with VERY vulnerable patients. Eventually, I approached the coworker. She tried to gaslight me and I repeated what I said the first time, "No, what you did is considered workplace violence just like the poster up in the elevator that discusses it. Abusively yelling at me is considered violence." She then apologized and said she didn't want any issues. I said I did not either. I want to address it and move on and hope to work in civil teamwork professionalism. The only bullies in my life are my mother, and father and well I walked away from my bully domestically violent brother.

[@icysurfer1]

Usually going to HR has backfired on Me and I was the Manager of 32 people. ! My HR had ZERO real experience except raising a thug daughter with no morals.

[@desertpatient]

If I may answer from my heart? Yes, if you choose to do such, Dan just gave you the blueprint to be able to regain your dignity. Your first sentence only tells your brain that you are a victim. I have been in healthcare for over 50 years in one of the most difficult positions as a dentist. My front desk has been with me since 1986 and most of my staff is plus 20 years. Because I am profoundly dyslexic I was labeled "Unteachable" in first grade in 1955. I have the report card. So for the other kids because I was stupid, I was nice focus for others to try to bully. My father left before I was born and my mother dumped me off at 4 months old with my great grandmother. I grew up in foster homes and was on the streets at 16 while I dropped out of high school. I am a graduate of USC because I refused to be a victim. I am not big deal except I refuse to be placed in a position where "I have to..."And at almost 75, I am still listening to people such as Dan and working hard to incorporate his advise into my life. People yell at my staff all of the time due to insurance claims and their misunderstanding of how insurance does or does not pay. So, January 1, 2024 we no longer will accept insurance as I have done what Dan has stated in his video...created a safety fund. I don't have to do such. I think it was Budda who stated that if you do not accept verbal abuse from others, who actually owns the verbal abuse? (paraphrased). At 16 all I had was the clothes on my back. It is not a privilege to switch jobs as I have been in the same job since 1969--it is refusing to be a victim. My wife and I met at 16 where as her home life was not stellar. Dan is not talking about "just" switching jobs. He is telling to plan and plan some more so you can switch jobs. You missed his purpose of his video. I believe he is telling us that if we want something better, we must change, not the environment. You might want to read, "As a Man Thinkest" by James Allen. Blessings as you continue to grow and I give you as much praise I can give you for listening to Dan. Sent with understanding and compassion which I hope you notice.

[@DiamondEyez456]

@@desertpatient WOW! What an incredibly resistant soul you are. I know most trauma survivors do not like hearing that due to all the trauma they went through b/c it was horrible what you endured. You give me hope, even if our jobs are different and require different skill sets - mine is a lot more physical while dealing with 4 different painful chronic diseases, yet I LOVE it. It also allows me to have compassion and empathy for my patients as a patient attendant. I adore where I am at working in neurological rehab. & even if I wanted to do a less demanding job in the public healthcare system, it all depends on seniority. I take the info I can and leave the rest yet the reality is, not everyone can do that. they just try to make their days better by incorporating more self-care habits or more kind environments. Thank you for the book recommendation. I have heard of it before and now that you have brought it up again, I am adding it to my list to read. Stay Blessed and healthy!

[@KW-onceuponatime]

​@@desertpatientWhat wonderful advice and testimony!! Good for you for refusing to take insurance anymore! I love "As a Man Thinketh" and need to read it again.

[@Varner410]

Damn right HR ain't on your side. Going to them only makes things worse cause the management then turns on you for going to HR

[@mmirafuentess1990]

I was bullied and when I reported it, nothing happened at first, then, the Gong, haha The entire department had to revisit a “bullying class/course” I was afraid about retaliation, but nuff was nuff.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Tell me about the bullying class. Was it good? Was it helpful? Did it change anything in your organization? How did the bullies react? Are things now better for you?

[@thebobsmith1991]

​@James-gp5cw shut up James!

[@susanwoodcarver]

I worked two jobs my entire life. Cooked all the meals at home, except for special occasions. Drove a stick shift for the first 25 years. Vacationed in a cabin by a lake for one week a year. My clothes were neat and clean, but never came from Nordstrom‘s unless it was off-the-rack Nordstrom‘s. Saved money. Had a lot of hobbies, but none that were expensive, that I enjoyed with my husband. And I was exceptionally happy. Exceptionally!! I didn’t owe my life to anyone. I was free to do whatever I wanted. I was free to work wherever I wanted. And I knew that everyone in the office admired me, but I never knew why until I listened to this video. Anyone reading this… He is 100% right. Oh… And I retired as a VP…. and my CEO was still a jackass, but it didn’t bother me.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thanks for the interesting story and the affirmation, Susan. Much appreciated.

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@TheWizardOfWords 🥰❤️

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you SO MUCH for that affirmation Susan :)

[@vivere__]

This video is gold! Dan, thank you 💫

[@Soylamarilyn]

Oh I could not think of anything meanly funny nor is it in my regular thought process 😊thanks for the challenge

[@lizzi437]

I am The Cause! Perfect timing for this video. I get along very well with my boss and he is NOT a bully at all, but I was annoyed about some stuff that needs to get done. I was about to text him, "Is it me? Am I a horrible communicator?" but held off because he has more important things to deal with. I'm glad I cancelled the text because Dan answered a big "YES" to my question! I will figure out how to send clearer messages. ATTN BOSS does not seem to work in the subject line!

[@anafreitas821]

Thank you!!! You finally said something you made me smile AND hit the nail on the head as always.🎉🎉🎉🎉 Happy new year

[@ethicalmachiavelli]

appreciate the entertaining treatment of the topic 👍

[@TamiCheyne]

LOL - love you. I quit my job last month. Gave 2 weeks notice and left well. Bullied/mobbed at 55. I have had a long career and it was very sad and hurtful. I have been off now for almost 2 months and I'm not sure how to get back to work or how to explain. I am sick over this, first time in my life.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I would contact Heather [e-mail]. She is the greatest with resumes and she's also a headhunter and a genuinely nice person who will get you on the right path. Tell her Dan sent ya' ;)

[@ProfessorD2023]

Don’t be too hard on HR. We are not all like you described :-) I love your stuff and consistently recommend you and your training to people who come to the dreaded HR😁

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Professor, I know that and agree with you. But by and large I think people are better off if they learn to solve their own communication (as opposed to abuse) problems. AND WHEN THEY DO, IT LIGHTENS YOUR LOAD, right?? And you can attend to actual problems--such as abuse!

[@SOM-v4o]

No joke but after losing my job, being on a sickness benefit and being scamed all or most of my resigned pay out money. It made see that I can pay bills, put money in car maintenance, money aside to savings for emergencies and maybe some money for online or skills with $430 and still have money left for food. Obviously with in my parents house. As I thought I needed $700 with all of that because I spent it on food I didn't need and spending it on extra petrol driving to places that's not even worth it instead of saving petrol. I'm glad to learnt this lesson.

[@JG-kp8kb]

Bullying I face is they alter policies and serve me disciplinary actions.

[@karenr5870]

This is the most powerful message I have seen in this channel. Especially as a stay at home mom.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you, Karen. Please spread the word--and press that "join" button if the spirit moves you.

[@j.t.1215]

You are so empowering and adorable all at the same time. Yes, I do adore this channel. This is INCREDIBLY, incredibly helpful. Thank you so much Dan. I cannot think of a BETTER WAY of entering into 2024. AH-MAY-ZING!!!!!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Here's a better way, j.t. Become a channel member! Just press that "join"button you'll see with each video. And thanks for adoring this channel! I hope you share these videos :)

[@TheWizardOfWords]

WELL THANK YOU, J.T.!

[@VentiChaiLatte]

Omg thank you so much for this. I literally got all this advice that you said “no” to. I was told to document everything, to speak to HR, etc. you have debunked all of their advice. I am currently going through this and I needed to see this. Again thank you so much. Have a happy new year! ❤ -Kat

[@e2ndcomingsoon655]

Thank you Dan. I actually do have the freedom fund. I just clarified something to my manager’s manager today I am happy! Thank you Dan!

[@koroshiya_1]

I'm going through a hard time at work and am binging your videos! 💖real talk that HR does nothing. You're amazing xxx

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I hope you find them helpful, Koroshiya.

[@ElleSeven-l3q]

Routine Maintenance: I hit the 'like' ❤. Back later to watch this, Lx

[@ThingsILove2266]

The mental clip of him being insulted is something you’d find on the cutting room floor of a production office- it’s too unbelievably mean, even for a sitcom. There’s a special place in hell for people who dream up such things.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Ahhh, yes-- but you learn under these conditions that you can choose whether to allow yourself to be demeaned. Or you can move on.

[@suzanerickson965]

Wow!!!!! This is incredibly helpful!! A game changer!!! Bravo!!! I’m taking notes. I haven’t watched TV in a year because I decided I wanted to learn from videos like this and get my dignity back. Thank you!!!

[@Red_1976]

This video was very informative & I feel like the info certainly provides ways to think in a different way, to then be able to make better choices. Thank you!

[@lizi.2503]

I lost my job at a car dealership once because it was family owned and I went to HR about being harassed basically someone was suddenly getting aggressive with me and slamming keys at my desk blaming me for something beyond my control. I complained about the way this individual went about interacting with me and the next day I was callled into the office and given my last paycheck. Years later I come back and it’s alll good between me and the individual who still works there. It’s like a knowing, if you can’t take the heat then get out of the kitchen and that dealership included a LOT of inappropriate behavior from sales, techs, service ppl you name it. Car dealerships can be kind of sleazy.

[@veronicadaguanno7507]

Dan you are a true genius. I love listening to you

[@Tltawhr1]

Holy cow. This was good. Also- your editing skills. 🔥

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you so much, Titawhr1 :)

[@angiesleeps3890]

This gives me power. It is the opposite of all the other advice I've been given. Thank you.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome, Angiesleeps.

[@littlemule1]

Holy shit that was priceless! I love your vids and the timing of this was impeccable. Ty your friggen awesome!

[@littlemule1]

@James-gp5cwyou would never tell by my comment that I’m a Christian. I’m a redneck one at that. The fact you answered this with Gods word you heard from him. The phycological bullying is so bad I called a lawyer yesterday and was praying asking him if that was the correct route. It’s the top dog that has been doing it and I’ve learned as a small elephant only to say from authority figures “how high” when they say “jump” I’ve been vajoned.., I have 6 months income in the bank… no more taking 💩from @$$holes

[@ritao9432]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 Life is not about the destination but the depth of it. The deeper it is the stronger the roots. 💪💪💪💪💪

[@Jasminepsalm]

Amen!!

[@lizzi437]

This is Gold, Dan! 😘

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks, Lisk! I appreciate the thanks :)

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Lisk, thank you so much. I don't see my own reply of thanks, but I hope you did. YT does strange things with posts sometimes.

[@DB-dw5gz]

Where did you learn to speak with such eloquence? It's something I've always wanted. I often struggle to find words in stressful situations and regret the things I didn't say.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I've invested in my communication skills pretty much all my life and also-I received a good start from my parents and grandparents. The secret is LEARN AND THEN PRACTICE, PRACTICE PRACTICE.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

I work at it, DB--however I was given a great start by my parents and grandparents.

[@ruth.rochelle]

You were on a Tear with this one, Loved it! TY

[@twocents7495]

Thank you… so obvious when you say it. Looking at my budget today.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

If you need help with that budget--let Jean [e-mail]

[@MsPriyaLal]

Dan I wish this made the gong, Common advice I see is to just suck it up and work harder because the boss is trying to get things done and you need to stop being so sensitive.!!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Consider it GONGED.

[@sarahc3344]

The wizard of words

[@nycem1943]

You are heaven sent🙌Thank you!!!

[@DevotedtoTruth]

Thank you for sharing this powerful message!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You are so welcome.

[@user-dj8gt6ik7c]

This is so amazing. The best video on this topic on KZbin, I must say.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you! I hope you subscribed and also joined as a YT channel member. And please share :)

[@creekbandit]

Thank youuuuuuu I hear you loud and clear ~ blessings ✌️

[@Harrolarroparri12]

Thankyou fir ur wonderful humor It’s fun

[@CP-jv4xt]

You are the best! 🤩

[@LifeIslitt]

So at first i was in the "right" but now i think tides are in the bullies favor. Ugh

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Thank you Mr Dan O’Connor. 😘

[@Sunshine_76191]

Always have a backup plan with an exit strategy. It’s not worth dealing with all the crap. Upper management has upper management back period

[@krystjanchanerley9288]

This was empowering

[@user-td2cu9mx6y]

I’m dealing with this but difference is I’m in residency program so no way out

[@JesusSaves77799]

This video is so amazing. I am not finished yet, but may I ask, which link is the link to “The Rules”? Thank you Dan!!! And I LOVE how you say that we are not at work to be coworkers’ therapists. THANK YOU SO MUCH for that Empowering and Freeing Statement! And I LOVE when you said that there are only 2 people at work (and absolutely no in betweens - you made me laugh again) - those who want to pull you up and those who want to pull you down - that really helped me as well! You have greatly inspired and helped me Dan. Thank you so much!! 🙏💖

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you for your note--and I will put up that link that I forgot to put up!

[@JesusSaves77799]

@@TheWizardOfWords Thank you Dan!! I wasn’t sure if I just didn’t see it correctly! Is the link in the description now? Thank you!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

The link is in the description now. Press "more" and you will find the link and can download all 48 pages, but HURRY because I'm not leaving that link up for too long :)

[@JesusSaves77799]

@@TheWizardOfWords Dan, thank you so much!! I will do that now!!! 🏃‍♀️

[@KazAlphaville]

​@@TheWizardOfWords Have I missed the download? 😢 I've just seen this now and it's exactly what I need at this moment.

[@Trulaella]

Omgoodness. I already feel like you know “me” (the type of person with the combo of personality traits and life experiences that leads to a special kind of doormat) and am trying to help me… but now I see we have the same 3D wallpaper in the back lolol kismet

[@LeaMessenger]

I just love you.🥰👏

[@TheJahscar]

I just have to say after hear only 15min of your video im starting to see cause and effect more.

[@CB19087]

I was bullied a my colleague was sacked. However, i get a feeling they were looking for an excuse to get rid of him so they went to town with it. Negative side of that, is that his friends bullied me for a year after that and also resident narcissists will have a field day using it against you, do exactly the same thing as the previous person and make you look like the problem. So yes, it is a fairy tale in the original versions of the stories 😂

[@Deshan791]

That is what I want your attention to all who I am aware them all retired!!!! Nither new people nor I knows each other but Otis ok. I still can work as A Crew- Team member- Clerk!!! Happy New year - HNY !!!!. 0:02 Happy New Happy New year - HNY !!!!. - HNY !!!!.

[@chrissyw.7500]

Guy at work tried to bully me after I told him I didn't want a romantic relationship. I was more than willing to walk away and ignore him, but he kept it up so I had to come back and tell him the words he didn't want to hear. He made it awkward not me and now he has to hear my last words calling out his bad behavior ringing in his brain forever...lol😂

[@SOM-v4o]

Some may have to learn.

[@kaliayang8504]

My company just had 20% employees laid off. Unfortunately, my bully is still here. My boss was part of the lay offs so the bully came to me with work telling me to get it to her quickly and to just copy paste from another document. I told her the document she wants me to copy paste has a lot of errors. She said the document is good enough and for me to just do it. Well, I asked our new Chief Medical Officer if I should copy paste the document and he told me absolutely not. I sent her the new document with all the errors corrected. She emailed me back saying I didn’t do what she asked. I then told her that I spoke to the CMO and she can talk to him if she disagrees. I’m not letting the bully change my work ethics just because she’s bullying me.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Kaliayang, the woman who came to you and asked you to copy/paste from another document--is she in a position of authority over you?

[@kaliayang8504]

No, we are at the same level, just different responsibilities. Recently, everyone has been told by leadership to have me finalize their documents because of my attention to detail.

[@iceyblue1077]

I'm a top performer at my job. I stay to myself and tend to be quiet. I can't see how I am the cause for the bullying.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

It's not a matter of your causing bullying. Some people become the target--and they need help putting a stop to it. This isn't about blame. It is about trying to carry yourself in such a way that bullies avoid you.

[@bryanholland6987]

I haven't seen this video yet but I'm going to in just a little bit. I'm having trouble with when I shut down my phone, it also shuts down your video. I have KZbin premium so it's not supposed to be doing that. But the main thing is, I wanted to let you know that I just subscribed. Thank you for all of your help and advice

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Many thanks for your membership, Bryan. I hope you can clear up your phone issues :)

[@bryanholland6987]

@James-gp5cw We don't all share the same religion. There's four major ones in the world followed my twenty other well known faiths and according to each one, they are all true despite having different doctrines and principles

[@cinderelli3192]

you are my inspiration !

[@Luanne-et8cd]

Thanks a lot! 😊

[@jerusalemspeaks]

Thank you.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Jerusalemspeaks--thank you for becoming a channel member. I appreciate it and you! Dan

[@bryanpoole6605]

Good Message

[@noelmay9]

Thanks for the "tough love" talk! Does it count as a Freedom Fund that I have more than 6 months income, but I have it in investment accounts that I can liquify within a few business days? It does help me feel less "trapped" in a job, and gives me some confidence to stand up for myself as needed.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

You bet it counts!

[@cstroudjones4380]

You are amazing - thank you. This is great for the new year!!!

[@Morgan313]

Contest entry: I’m guessing what happened was a minute ago, and you’ve aged really well. I’m going with Babyface.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

hahaha--don't I wish. GONG. :) :)

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Nope, I have to give you the gong, Morgan, however I thank you for the compliment.

[@gerrimiller3491]

I had to cancel a client...right away😅 once she was trying to be hateful and rude with manipulative tactics. Hell Naw!! Dignity is Golden

[@jjohnson1434]

I just got fired today, by w bullying boss! I feel as if a load has been lifted off my shoulders! This woman has been padding my personnel file since 2023!

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Learn all the lessons she taught you, JJ--and take them with you to the next job, armed with BOUNDARIES.

[@shopaholic1]

Dan you are the best... more video's like these please.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Hey shopaholic1, have you pressed the "join" button to become a channel member?

[@user-xc9sv5hk2d]

Hi Dan this is the best info hands down, I tried several times to download 10 rules there is an error not sure says connection I need your help thanks in advance ❤

[@TheWizardOfWords]

My website is being moved and can't be accessed. Write Jean at [e-mail] and she'll send you The Rules.

[@sharonhainesNumber1Red]

I’m an Independent Contractor, and I had a boss who tried to shame me. I told her where she could go, and I left. I had other jobs. I filled the missing hours very quickly when I left.?

[@desertpatient]

Thanks bunches--the rules are too small for me to read them.

[@MsMelissa1973]

I loved the gong show lol

[@michaelgwest3752]

I woke up!!!!!

[@jenniferpoitier]

Wow, that’s horrible. I saw the elephant painting exhibit in Berkeley probably 20 years ago I would’ve never attended had I known.

[@littlemule1]

What was the cutting nickname? I keep listening to this to get the courage to leave after 22+ years

[@TheWizardOfWords]

PeeWee :). I lived through it and use it now as a learning tool :)

[@littlemule1]

@@TheWizardOfWords ❤️❤️❤️

[@angelwishes3213]

Wouldn't that be the initial reaction? Has it ever crossed y'all minds that we have already thought about this stuff? People confuse the shit out of me.

[@Jasminepsalm]

You are awesome

[@totemconfidence7992]

This is an excellent video

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you, Totem :)

[@kbeautician]

Some of us struggle w/confusions in your message Ie background music up to @12:35 . How to filter out the background music? How is the background music necessary? How it’s helpful? How does Disney productionesque🛎 music enrich the message?

[@cinderelli3192]

I have to share this with you Dan ... I love fashion and have always had fun having my own personality with fashion ... I wore a pair of high heeled running shoes that I wore one day at my office at my front desk and a co-worker "Real Estate Agent" said "omg who buys shoes like that" I had to say to that girl who dressed like she just cleaned out her garage, no makeup and messy hair .. and shall I mention she was a Real Estate Agent ... I just had to say, with respect to her that she should have fun with fashion ... I work our front desk at a Real Estate Office and I would think a Real Estate Agent would have at least some fashion sense no ?? She was so insulting to me, I just wanted to share with you how how other girls are so jealous of others ... so sad

[@SandyBop-k1d]

What’s so surprising and disturbing to me is the amount of men that are worse than women when it comes to gossip and bullying. Humanity 🤦🏽‍♀️🧘🏽‍♀️

[@danwohlslagel1277]

Love this guy

[@nataliamartinez6834]

Your advice always centers me and as an autistic individual, the fact that you give me the appropriate words to say in a given situation is invaluable 😭💕 Thank you so much!!!❤❤❤🎊✨✨✨💛 Also, I’m not sure if you already made one but could you make a video offering autistic/ neurodivergent people advice in dealing with all the social awkwardness and the abuse that stems from it? I think you hit it on the money btw, when you’re financially independent you can try to give two f@?!$ about bullies but you will see that there are none to give 🤷‍♀️ They can stick it where their mother licks it lol

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Natalia, I always keep the millions of people on the spectrum in mind when I do a video and I try hard to give precise words that will help you and also help people not on the spectrum with life's communication challenges. Thank you so much for writing.

[@nataliamartinez6834]

@@TheWizardOfWords you’re awesome!!! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@dayc801]

Wow, this video really speaks to me in a way I can only describe as profound. I mean, the words you say should be common sense and now that I have heard them spoken it seems so obvious buuuuut. Anyway, this applies to me, not in the office, but in life. If I had heard these words years ago I may not have stayed in an abusive marriage for so long. I was like the elephant. I didnt know I could do something else I really didnt know. Or I forgot I had the ability to smash the man poking me in the ass with his bull hook making me paint. Lol. The world should hear this again and again until everyone fully understands this and never forgets it. I know i will be listening to this as many times as it takes until I never again forget it. Im ready to wake up. Dan, thank you for what you do, thank you for your words. You really do have the words.

[@TheWizardOfWords]

Thank you for writing, dayc.