HOW TO KEEP HIM FROM USING YOU!👌🏽

[@s.msmith835]

Don't pour into someone that isn't pouring into you

[@amandayoung6167]

Amen!

[@michelleottley5292]

!!!!!!!!!!! I'm not 32 anymoreand we are past college days

[@crissyj1047]

So true

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

So, who is going to start pouring first ?

[@TheJ9179]

Truth is he doesn't "love" you at all. He's comfortable..pull the plug. There's no such thing as "half love".

[@lovemywife698]

Jamila Monaco damn...tyvm for putting my shit to words.

[@TheJ9179]

Bernadette np...just saying how it is...

[@lovemywife698]

He just left. Its over. Im tired of begging. Im done.

[@TheJ9179]

Bernadette Keep in mind...the only one tired in a fight is the one losing. I mean who really gets tired of winning??? Seriously?

[@oddballeye330]

There's no such thing as "half-love". You spoke the truth.

[@KiaMiaProductions]

That was so serious. I've learned those lessons the hard way. A quote stuck with me. "if you settle for less, you'll always get less than u settled for." i ain't playing. Red flags are REAL

[@oddballeye330]

So true! "If you settle for less, you'll always get less than u settled for."

[@beneiseoleinmheart5614]

Very real. My daughter told me the other day she met this guy who seemed he could be that perfect"one", but she saw things immediately in his behavior that sent up RED FLAGS for her. She let him go. She said, " My mother always taught me to look out for the red flags", 😭 that made me so proud of her. I didn't even know she had remembered I ever said that. I didn't even remember! 😂. But God is good, true & faithful. We must trust him n his wisdom in our lives and our families lives. In the Name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. AMEN.🙏

[@susanparker9877]

@@beneiseoleinmheart5614 Amen

[@cat5354]

The more I watch your videos, the easier I can identify and dismiss foolishness! #TeamJaxn

Catherine Johnson Yes girl!!!!!

[@TheGreta2400]

Catherine Johnson ...I agree

[@tonyagordon2460]

So true

[@BritTheCeo]

Same!! I'm binge watching all of his videos.

[@LonjeMarie7]

Catherine Johnson GIRL ME TOO,DAMN Derrick is hooking up a lot of women,stopping a lot of mens bullshit

[@Jacqueline8]

That’s why you have to be careful because they’re always on their best behavior....in the beginning....

Yes! I learned that truth myself. Everyone is usually on their best behavior in the beginning. That's why women should require things from men in the beginning as a constant. It will make it easier for you to get what you want or get him out

[@Freespiritedqueen]

Exactly, ALWAYS!!!!

[@Lovely_Diva]

So true....a lot of females get used so much these days. It's sad

[@majj5705]

Lovely Lady true but sadly men do too. Even if it's their own wives

[@Lovely_Diva]

Maj J Yep I agree with you. People are so damn heartless these days.

[@Rocanala]

Once you learn the hard way, cutting a man off for his nonsense becomes easy

[@mysteriawest7622]

Woma

[@KarlaMartinez-wf6xd]

People shouldn't even date nowadays. They dont know The sacrifice of a relationship. Men and women have become insanely selfish with each other....

[@missdesireindependance5194]

If you are not getting what you are putting in the relationship let it go.

[@meganyoung7655]

My ex used me a lot, I'm glad I kicked him to the curb though cause I found a real man who loves me and puts in the effort #TeamJaxn #truth

[@VV-pt2gg]

Megan Young Good for you.

[@quanda8459]

Was it hard leaving or him accepting that he had to go ? Sorry I'm in a similar situation in don't know where to start

[@meganyoung7655]

Shaquanda Williams it was super hard, but after years of dealing with his bullshit and games I had to stand up for myself and do what's best for me. Now I'm happier than I've been in years

[@quanda8459]

Megan Young I'm happy for you thank soon I'll be able to say the same .

[@meganyoung7655]

Shaquanda Williams do what you gotta to do make yourself happy. Once I got rid of the toxic relationship I was in I was able to meet great people and have my life back. Now I have friends, and I was lucky enough to find a great guy who treats me like a queen. It'll happen for you too

[@virginialinge7195]

This applies even to "older daters" -- women who are back on the dating scene after years of marriage due to divorce, death, etc. and don't know how to play the game. Just saying that there are a lot of old guys who were players, have baby mamas, never married, but will see a woman who is "vulnerable" and take advantage of them. Please don't forget we are out here listening to you as well.

[@juliannejoseph5408]

Yes Maam

[@juliannejoseph5408]

What can be said a out these men who prey on vulnerable women?

[@shelleydavis5231]

Good point, I think by the time women gets older, they should know their strengths and weaknesses. So if you know your currently in a vulnerable stage of life due to divorce, loss of a spouse, don't be dating anyone soon until you feel like yourself again. What most people tend to do after divorce, is look for the exact opposite character traits that made them end up in divorce, only to realise when you find it, that the new person comes with a different set of challenges, eventhough they might have ticked the boxes you don't want in a future relationship. Isn't life just peachy 😂

[@alliemaxwell8382]

Julianne Joseph: Identify the reasons why you’re vulnerable. Self love is the best kind of love. Don’t even think about a relationship or dating Until you fully & completely love yourself, heal from the past, release the negativity & forgive (yourself & others). It’s a process but if you don’t take a timeout, you’ll continue to release the same mistakes over & over... (my 2cents)✌🏾

[@TheRockman260]

Yes, I definitely needed this exact advice 5 years ago, coming out of a 30 year nightmare marriage and immediately falling for a man who had been single 7 years and played me for 3.5 years. I had no idea how to date, or what dating would be like at age 50. I was googling "friends with benefits" and "fuckbuddies" to try and define how I felt like I was being treated. I needed this channel.

[@veeoby3364]

I swear this channel is now an addiction. Every single video makes me cringe, a wealth of knowledge I wish I had known a long time ago and could have saved me a lot of heartache. Thanks bro, this was so ON POINT

[@abigailpennington1747]

DITTO!!!

[@nadeanbowles3052]

This.

[@tumimokoena2184]

I'm obssesd with Derrick Jaxn, he is my daily bread👐

[@purify100]

Vee Oby Same here and I have gone through a lot, I never had anyone sit and talk to me about my worth and value, I come from a single parent broken home and my mother couldn’t advise me because she didn’t know her value and worth herself so I looked for love in all the wrong places.

[@sandramullen7804]

Absolutely agree

[@nickierasberry6376]

You gotta know when to hold them and when to fold them!! He will find himself by himself.

[@toombs6287]

Nickie Rasberry 💯💯💯

[@wowso4]

I love this comment

[@squeeze170]

Nickie Rasberry Or find someone better.

[@christinalucas1002]

He will find himself by himself 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@sequoia4631]

Amen! 👌👍

[@reddqueen9722]

This post is the reason im single i simply refuse to be used and taken for granted been there done that too old to be wasting anymore time with a selfish selfcentered user trust me i have no problem remaining single until the right man comes along and if he doesnt then im still great and blessed. Having or not having a man doesnt define me. I LOVE ME REGARDLESS!!! #TEAMSINGLESASSYANDSATISFIED

[@itsirene0086]

Latosha Lester i always say the same to myself...having a man or not doesn't define me at all.if the right man comes well and good and if not am still okay with that

[@squeeze170]

Become the right women,period.

[@reddqueen9722]

squeeze170 im not obligated to become the right woman for anybody that isnt the right man for me PERIOD!!! DONT COME ON MY COMMENT WITH THAT ONESIDED CRAP.

[@tishataray]

Redd Queen you sound exactly like me. And we do have Jesus amen!

[@harmony3279]

THANK YOU

[@CherryTaylor2]

I refuse to let him use me... I'd much rather be alone..!!! Standards are a must 💯 don't be so hard up are desperate ladies your worthy of a good man 💋

[@adriennedouke1880]

I agree. You get what you settle for if you don't have or keep up standards. That said, from experience I've met one after another of the former kind,. and if I have met a decent man, I didn't recognize him. I am beginning to think finding a good man is just a myth. (Knight in shining armor myth-childhood fantasy) and I accept of a life of flying solo. During my over 30 year marriage, my ex husband just invested less and less love, and more and more cruelty was met to my sincere desire to be a loving wife and good mother. It was worse than just not loving, or even indifference. I allowed it, put up with it, and thought I was to blame for it. I hoped for so much better treatment in a marriage. It was a mockery of what love should be. What a hard lesson to learn. The way you explain it makes it much easier to deal with the issue before it becomes one. How to recognize the game plan and deal with it in a logical, instead of emotional way. Thank you for your spot on videos. They are very helpful.

[@oddballeye330]

"You pull the plug. You get out and find the exit. If he took some of you for granted, he will take all of it for granted. Don't let that man teach you how to half-love."

[@kimchong9198]

This should be common sense but chicks so scared of being alone they will tolerate the BS to keep from being single.. SMH

[@heide-raquelfuss5580]

Women did not learn from the own ubbringing the lessons they have to learn. Fathers do not teach anything about men and the red flags. This women do not have any kind of knowledge what happening out there with men. That is the real reason why they are trapped. Bless you

[@misstp7781]

A women can become so powerful when she chooses to be alone and embrace singlesness. You see clearly what is unacceptable to your emotional wellbeing. You choose to love yourself above all else and if he half steps you can emotionally cut him off with the quickness.

[@shutit4024]

I mean if they’re in a relationship and she still holding on technically she’s still single lol

[@xoxo-vp7ww]

Fuss: you’re absolutely right!

[@hotmama3172]

Shitd I been single for over 3 years and aint never had anyone over a year. I mean I aint wasting time with any man.

[@a.alexander9221]

Whenever my heart ❤️ and mind are in disagreement, I can always count on Derrick to point me in the right direction #TeamJaxn

[@mickeybaby92]

Umm I don't know Always!

[@foundittv]

Yes. So true

[@trueempress7174]

YES 🤗

[@jadarosexo9587]

My situationship/ relationship whatever is on the edge like Mufasa was in Lion King. I'm bout to drop him like a mixtape. Thnxx to Jaxn! I'm about fed up with the bs 🙄🙂

[@TheGreta2400]

JadaRosexo ...I know that's right...be bout that business.

[@ms.fluffy_277]

JadaRosexo haha I like that phase😜

[@relaxitsnotthatserious7090]

Like a mixtape 😂😂😂 love it sis

[@kathrynmiranda6789]

Don't relapse. I did and 2yrs later and a broken heart, not worth it. Stay strong girl, block and move on

[@michellej5770]

😂😂😂 You have my blessings!!!

[@zakeeyawlyons5026]

Truth. I hate when ppl get used. You think you have a good one and then he/she becomes a butt hole. #teamjaxn

[@zakeeyawlyons5026]

Iyauna Shaniece lbs thanks

[@idearing]

Zakeeyaw Lyons 💋💋💋

[@melanatedwoman3760]

Zakeeyaw Lyons ...they were always a butt hole...they just never showed it from jump.

[@echostorm1996]

My last relationship was exactly like that. In the beginning it was great but then he started ignoring me and was never willing to make time for me. Always had some lame ass excuse for it too but would assure me he still loved me. I told him that just claiming to love me wasn't enough, he had to show it to me too. But anytime I would bring up how I needed more, it would fall on deaf ears. I knew that there was no use trying to work it out if I was the only one willing to put in effort, so I kicked him to the curb. He was the first guy I ever really loved so it hurt like hell and still does, but I refuse to settle for a half assed relationship.

[@itsirene0086]

Echo Storm we going through the same thing girl...saying he still love you feels good but is not always enough.Am trying my best to move on even if its still hurt so bad.we worth more

[@brittanyr1456]

You ladies are definitely worth more!! This saddens me because it sounds like he used the fact that you loved him against you ultimately smh

[@imeime4021]

Same story here... I can not handle it anymore. Enough is enough! I shit on he's ' i still love you' 🤢🤢🤢🤣

[@louiseemssy]

Yess same here 👏🏻🙄🥺just feel like there isn’t any genuine guys they all seem the same to me🙄

[@underthemoonandoverthesky]

It is real simple. Stop being with and giving to the greedy. Find the right one. Give to the deserving. Anyone who has not proven themselves worthy should not be in your life. Life is too short to waste time on selfish, inconsiderate people. Love is a gift. But, so is your time. Know when to stay and when to walk away.

[@moniquevandeplas5210]

Yes you are right. Love is a gift. Time is a gift. The second gift vets taken away if you spend the first one on an undeserving person. Life is short. Spending it loving the right people...even if the only person for a time is oneself

[@pattycake9856]

I so agree, why do so many women short change themselves. I remember my husband told me a long time ago, maybe about 10 years into our marriage he told me "l don't owe you anything." When he said this he totally caught me off guard and I said nothing. The second time he said that to me when we were in the misted of an argument. I told him, you've got a lot of nerve to say that to me. Are you crazy, yeah you do owe me, you owe me the best that you can be, you owe me protection, emotional support, and your precious time when I need it and I owe you the same. I told him I don't ever want to hear those words come out of your mouth ever again. We've been married a long time over 40 years but he tried me for a few of those years until I decided I wouldn't accept his non sense under any circumstances. When someone tells you they love you, accept nothing but the best from them, if they can't give you this than confront them on their actions and if they refuse to change than they love themselves more than they love you. God bless

[@zmcfadgen]

Wow that's so true! I admire your boldness. I feel like my husband has the same attitude towards me and it's so trying sometimes being in this unfulfilling relationship. Yet even so he's still a good man and does so much for me. So confusing sometimes!

[@bashful0502]

Yes, exit game real strong in all relationships. I don't explain myself to anyone,just keep it moving.#TeamJaxn

[@valeriedakota2289]

Yessss! Had to let my husband know recently, bruh you off ya game. Was up? Dude seen I wasn't playing he suited up, got his mind right and jumped back into the game. It's all about communication!

[@CocoaAlmondJoy]

I pull the plug when he violates one of my non-negotiables and I have talked to him about and there is still no change. They are shocked that I don't buy into that friend shit, and I cease ALL communication. They always come back shook!!!

[@beautyswithinu8829]

Cocoa AlmondJoy I guess I need to do the same doll

[@ShazGardenbliss]

Cocoa AlmondJoy I am the same, I just like to watch Derrick's videos to make sure I've done the right thing and for guidance :)

[@squeeze170]

Cocoa AlmondJoy Your fat weave wearing ass should be happy any man is interested in you.

[@LonjeMarie7]

Cocoa AlmondJoy I definitely agree I cut off not some ,all communication he wants me to believe the bullshit ,let’s just be friends I’m not buying that ,all they want to do is waste my time AGAIN,and hope and pray that I have a vulnerable weak moment,So they can swoop down like a vulture

[@Aariyan096]

When they come back shook, do they get it together or not? Usually they don’t.

[@learntolove3327]

Relationships are really easy. WE as individuals make it difficult.

[@moonlightstargem1006]

yes! there are moral codes to follow. being the bigger person, being on your best behavior the whole way through. all the way from beginning to end. yes people make it difficult by sinning in the relationship. being evil to their partners.

[@crzytinabubu]

Pull that plug babyyyy . Dont think just do it quick lol.. listen to youre woman intuition. ✊✊✊👊💫

[@ari23-23]

crTina Starr. Sjould of tooking your words along time ago... Exactly whst i should if done pulled the plug. N dont think

[@crystalallen10]

CAE alex Every vagina comes with instincts ... Some of us just ignore the red flags

[@MsKeyIngredient]

Reciprocity, put the 🖕🏽 up & wave it in the air as you learn to love & value yourself...in the end HE will regret what HE missed. #Learn & Live 2 Laugh & Love!

[@Aariyan096]

Key Montgomery will he really regret it if he didn’t want you to begin with? I don’t know if guys even care then smh😔

[@taggsvybe3656]

Agreed! It took 15 years for me to realize this. After 7 years I expressed my feelings and nothing changed. Give the relationship more attention another 3 years after that. Suggested marriage counseling which was shot down. I got the counseling for my self and worked on me within the relationship for another 5 years. I had to be sure that I gave it my all because in my mind once it done it's done (no going back). 15 years of marriage, I finally realized that the marriage was over. I accepted this and made peace with my part I played in the relationship and left. Now I am working on for forgiveness and compassion, I do not want to be bitter for being committed and submissive when he wasn't. Now he wishes things could be different. Now all I want for him is to find peace for his own personal happiness.

[@susanparker9877]

He missed the life boat!

[@michelesmart4799]

I am an all or nothing person. If we can't give each other all of our love and trust I would rather have nothing because it will not end well.

[@harmony3279]

Michele Smart You and I are alike

[@michelepace777]

Amen

[@tamarag9981]

👊👊👊

[@sheilakfisher]

Thanks derrick

[@jaceem4175]

Exactly!

[@deemac8231]

I don't know why men keep women around to use them. That's how they get physically hurt. These videos are good, your points are well taken. It hurts to leave but in the end I won't be half loving or getting half-loved. Who wants that? That's why I'm miserable, and it doesn't feel good, it makes me angry.

[@camzloren]

I love this and can relate. I had to get out as he started showing how mediocre and inconsistent his affection is, and because of this I find I couldn't trust and open up to him as I would want to in a relationship. I had to cut ties cause it's better to be single than to be with someone who makes you constantly doubt him

[@susanparker9877]

Mediocre and inconsistant are such accurant descriptions of how my ex behaved. Thank you.

[@perfectlyyoubeauty]

#teamjaxn both people have to be equally invested in building and supporting the relationship. Sometimes one partner has to build the other up and vice versa. Communication is key because unsaid expectations are the silent killer of many relationships.

[@ebonybeckwith1419]

Perfectly You Beauty so true

[@mariamsattar9581]

I just want to say thank you so much for your videos you give me strength

[@kaydavis2828]

I love your response

[@singym-td9em]

Perfectly You Beauty

[@jacquelinealexander5632]

You said that! Yes maam the silent expectations and lack of communication has been my problem trying not to rock the boat. Wow I know better know get out early if they aren't willing to communicate. Peace and Blessings

[@KidultSense]

You should speak on Narcissism

[@carn3600]

NeverPerfectByKidult I totally agree 100%

[@emilyh7801]

YES!

[@Shaunpeters105]

Yes please!!!!

[@GoldenNapptural]

NeverPerfectByKidult yes

[@eyeofashadow9419]

I agree

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

That's actually what mostly happened. I honestly don't understand men that after all the efforts and proving they do, when the girl finally hit the YES button, they suddenly changed into this unpleasant stranger guy. Anyways, again, we are grateful for your passion in sharing your valuable wisdom to us. :)

[@pensandnoodles681]

Can you share what happened after you left? I can relate SO much to what you said- him showing how much he cares and wants to be with you, and then dropping all of that as soon as you agree to a relationship..

[@veraj3828]

A True Love Official yes

[@cshel4201]

It’s the chase. After he’s got you, he then falls back. Ima always keep em chasing.

[@lexiwhite8796]

Literally just happened to me, he was chasing me down calling me his girl and then when I wanted a relationship he just stopped chasing and became distant.

[@gregoryfelicia34]

If you want me to love you 100% with my all then you should enter into the relationship with the same intentions #TeamJaxn

[@VV-pt2gg]

gregoryfelicia34 Good one. I like that. Thanks.

[@roseamandajohnson5275]

I totally agree. In the beginning I was cautious but he proved himself worthy of my love. Then he changed overnight for the worse. I asked to talk, he refused point blank. In fact, he said he didn't see a problem, that it was all in my head. I moved out, yes I did l pleaded again for us to talk. He knew I was a catch! (I guess I wasn't) but he just wanted me hooked in my head, meaning "crazy-in-love" to tolerate any crumbs he threw my way but I refused him and refused his body and now I'm attractive and alone. Women say: "your soo beautiful" and cant believe I'm alone, my response is beauty cannot change another person, it may attract a man or woman but has nothing to do with that persons mindset. Stay blessed and I love the way you describe how you love your woman, it's soo real and what us single women are looking for... genuine men!

[@noel_tru4870]

i been in a relationship just like that. i gave my all till i had nothing else to give and it was exhausting. But it was so easy for me to end it and never look back! another lessoned learned! #teamjaxn i wish i came accross you a long time ago!!! you would have saved me from alot of douche bags!!!!!

[@reverdiadariverwoman9542]

his facial expressions say everything...

[@osheasway38]

I needed this. these videos keep me positive and hopeful.

[@shamekaellis1182]

This was sooo real-I stayed up into bad mental health and poor self image. God has shown me to never do that again! Thanks for speaking on that- it reminded me of what I've learned and what I have overcome. Thanks Derrick!!

[@OPEYandLUIE]

You only have one life to live, be picky about who you spend your time with.

[@asill.6668]

Carina Parsons Yes!!!

[@CodyCole80]

Lesson learned. I’m still mad at myself for some of my time I’ve wasted on the wrong people.

[@cidneyoliver4706]

Red flag: Thess same folks (men & women) tend to half ass in the begging.

[@cidneyoliver4706]

Forgot to add, becsuse they are focused on juggling a team rather than their star player.

[@stacy961213]

Personally, i think you are used when you feel used. When my bf broke up with me for the first time, I cried in pain feeling used. After he came back to me i was better to him. I poured everything. He broke up with me again yet i am peaceful. I did my best and i have no regret on him. Even he acknowledge that i am a sweet person and i am precious. Yet he broke up. I will be always be me, being a sweet person, no matter how much I feel bitter. I won't let anyone turn me hard, bitter, mean. I won't be used even though i will be pouring my love to everyone. I love people because I want to love them. It was my choice to pour my heart. I wish you well everyone watching this vid. ❤

[@anewloveofficial9137]

I've learned my lesson to not trust someone easily because if you're too kind, the tendency is people will abuse you. Better know your limitations, and be in charge of your life.

[@richkhamile]

I agree and even if he is going through stuff he should be man enough to communicate that. #nomediocity

[@TheNandM]

"Don't let that man teach you how to half love by the way he half loves you" PREACH! Sad thing is people play off each other's actions and emotions and end up doing this a lot. Holding back the real love we have inside to the point where we get so frustrated only keeps us from reaping the blessings we can experience with someone who not only deserves it but will give us that same fulfilling love in return.

[@memyselfi3258]

I’m ashamed to say I have been in this situation in the past 👀 but lessons hav been learnt Thanks #teamjaxn ❤️👌🏽

[@tyh8464]

"...Don't let that man teach you how to half love by the way that he half loves you" drops mic and walks away while we all gasp. There is so much wisdom and truth to this. I am grateful that I found your channel and am able to listen to a man's perspective on these subjects.

[@msg2364]

Exactly! Your a wise man and its so awesome to see this kind of wisdom still exists in men and that men are making men accountable! Im tired of feeling like as women we are being treated like we expect too much or that our needs etc are seen as drama! ...I def would rather end an unhealthy disrespectful relationship and risk being by myself than stay and continue in the devalue and disrespect losing my own self respect and sense of well being...this is our life and ours to enjoy with the right people who want to enjoy it with us...not to be wasted on disrespectful douchebaggery

[@theoniway2323]

I’m literally studying these videos. They are helping me heal. I’m taking notes and replaying them over and over, soaking up all this game that I should’ve gotten a long time ago. It’s never too late. Thanks to Derrick I feel even more empowered to live my best life and never settle for any period of time again. Life is going by fast and I am learning my worth and increasing my purpose.

[@tajthegreatone9326]

So true. I thought playing tit for tat would make me feel better. All it did was make me wonder Wtf am I doing this for?

[@Lex161Lexi]

Yesss sis. That’s kind of what many of us are taught. It’s kind of that “you hit me, I hit you back” mentally that I was taught from elementary school. You treat people the way they treat you. But when it comes to matters of the heart, it doesn’t work that way.

[@nicolabailey4835]

I agree. I was in a relationship with someone who I thought wanted a relationship. It turned out that he liked and cheated. I was tired of him using me I had to forget. We women have to be smart. I just want to say thumbs up for words of encouragement and for opening most of eyes.

[@cherissehargrove7287]

Omg, I have been watching your videos for a while now and every time I hear you talk, I am more and more appreciative of a honest feedback / male point of view. Keep doing what you do cause I love it.

[@kristinameza6330]

I cannot even tell you how much your video clips have helped me in the 24 hours I have watched them. I’m blessed to have found your you tube at this exact time in my life because I am at such a crossroads...thank you so much. You explained being used in such a way that it’s like now I have my eyes opened when you said why would you continue to show up at a job getting shorted half your check! That resonated so much with me.

[@susanparker9877]

Keep your eyes on the brightest star and go forward. Peace and courage to you.

[@littlefroe]

I have to agree with you because when the Pharisees didn't want Jesus he didn't just stop loving everybody else he kept it 100 and just was who he was if somebody rejects you that's not your fault that's them not seeing your value

[@bcvc3365]

Always Love yourself first....it makes you more attractive.

[@LADYVIKING05]

#TEAMJAXNNNNNNNNN THE BEST TEAM EVER!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@LadyDayK87]

This is one of the BEST peices of relationship advice I've Ever heard. The analogy using the job and paycheck was soooo on point and easy to understand. Gold star for Jackson!

[@shirleyholloway5403]

I get it now!!!!! If he not giving what you deserve let him go!!! No foolery:)

[@queenzee9118]

"Give him the benefit of the doubt [...] but if he ignores you or gives some type of excuse. You don't scale back, you pull the plug!! CHANGE who you're giving your LOVE to. If he takes SOME of it for granted, he will take ALL of it for granted. Retract your value you pour into that relationship and give it to somebody else. Don't let that man teach you how to half love by the way he half loves you. Peace." Thank you Derrick #teamjaxn

[@tyh8464]

Those are the exact parts that got me. This is amazing advice!

[@demetriag7791]

y settle, it's your life choose to be happy!

[@blessedone843]

Derrick you are right on, thanks for the advice an encouragement. You are a real man not afraid to be transparent about how some men manipulate & use women in relationships. I always know that whenever I watch one of your videos, I 'm about to be schooled. Love you dearly...❤

[@shabribenson-thompson4717]

Honest and consistent as always...very refreshing. Love love love your videos! #teamjaxn

[@abigailpennington1747]

AGREED!!

[@MsFree2u]

You are a reminder to us women to value ourselves and a blessing to so many other woman.....Thank you 💋

[@organicskincarenyc5775]

After watching your videos, I realize the risk isn't worth the bullsh-t. The type of good guy who doesn't do all of this nonesense, doesn't exist. Or he's a needle in a haystack. We are safer single..

[@brittanyr1456]

Ethereal Aromatherapy and Skin Care Amen

[@tishataray]

Ethereal Aromatherapy and Skin Care true. Taught me to learn to love being on my own beat

[@latanyakitchenscreations6222]

You're so right Derrick it seems like I'm a glutton for punishment being in the relationship I was in. All I wanted was for him to care more and at the end of the day I was feeling mistreated, neglected and unloved. In my mind I wanted to walk away from him but my heart wouldn't let me go. I just kept going back and the situation didn't charge. But what HURTED me the most is when he told me that he told me to see other people if I want that he wouldn't stand in my way. That broke me. I felt like he didn't value me and that he just didn't GAF. Rejection is a hard pill to swallow. Now I'm looking at what part I played in giving him complete control of my emotions, of me. I basically lost who I was being with this person. I refuse to ever let that happen to me again. I deserve to be love unconditionally.

[@ceedahdeedah001]

You said "Peace" and then stared at the camera in freeze mode, but the video was still recording...You made me smile, cuz I felt like we was having a 'stare down'...#TEAMJAXN

[@nhopkins1979]

Yes!! "You don't scale back, you pull the plug!"👏🏼🔥

[@luvroxie4589]

Thank you, that is how I am...when you stop appreciating me and playing mind games....communicate that with you...and if you still full of it...I get ghost...yes I do...thank you brother....love you man...smiling...single with no drama...yes sir...lol

[@givethanks38]

I feel like I've gone to church almost every time I watch these videos. Many times it's a confirmation of what I already believe and other times it's revelatory. It's like a public service to women and notice served to men. Thank you.

[@narcfreekeekee9168]

I love this dude thanks Mr. Jackson. Your videos are extremely helpful, and i think you're so handsome.

[@meicealways5842]

Walking away is way easier said than done but i love this! I agree wholeheartedly

[@krystalh8445]

We have too. I'm having the same issue don't know if I'm going or coming. 😪🙏🙏🙏

[@PreciousStarr9]

Amazing advice!!

[@dawn8881]

My ex white husband said all black men have extra marital affairs. After 14 years, I discover his infidelity. I value you being honest and forthright. Keep helping single mothers. Lots of temptation is out there, but a man can lead if God is for him and with him.

[@PrincessAtarah7]

This guy I thought loved me but he was only around to take from me I’m so hurt

[@wall47291]

Christina Avila try to hold your head up sis.

[@tacitalady_tbeautiful213]

Christina Avila I’m sorry to hear that. I know how that feels. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and keep your head held high.

[@pentalataylor1707]

Christina feeling hurt is just your inner spirit to move forward and to fine to strength you need to do you. He's only hurting himself because the grass is never green on the other side and he will fall just like the rest of them. Its time to find you place God first and allow him to send you Mr. Right. Dont go searching for noting. Let it come to you and what how wonderfully things will be. But keep in mine we all suffer for a purpose and that purpose is to wait for the Lord blessing Power.

[@zan752000]

At least your finding out now rather than later.

[@ajax2101]

Definitely been there. I had to snap out of it & clear the smoke screen

[@rosecoleman9090]

You are so on point! I will never let a man use me!!!

[@legslipsandlashes9831]

That was a great comparison and Lawd knows I want my whole check.

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

Lol! Yes it was and me too.

[@evnomiaiw2244]

Your passion when you express and share your knowledge and wisdom in your videos is highly motivational! You are a powerful channel Derrick! Keep sharing your wonderful gift of higher consciousness.

[@che553]

Never lower your standards if you do the other party is disrespectful from the jump

[@ChristineMarie29]

Dear Derrick: My Mother says “I hold on to people too long”. This was very helpful insight. Thank You , for turning the light on , in my life. I will listen to my inner guide!

[@colenajones8804]

Yup, ain't no way I'ma let a man half love me! I got to much good loving for that B.S....

[@pinarussolillo8878]

I totally agree... as much as it may hurt, opening your eyes to the truth is always painful!!!

[@tacitalady_tbeautiful213]

#teamjaxn you are so awesome 👏🏽 💯💯💯 great topic

[@mikchanclas]

"You don't teach yourself how to half love, you just change you you're giving that love to." Wowowow. Those are some words of wisdom!!

[@WaterBabyKendra]

His analogies 😂👌🏽

[@sylviaaalori1417]

So true! And if you feel that your partner is taking you for granted although you at the same time feel forced (in either a direct or subtile manipulated way) to continously give your 100% - you might as well benefit from learning more about NARCISISTIC ABUSE and behavior. Thumbs up Derrick - your content and videos are awesome!!!

[@beedeetee8781]

New subscriber here. You're my fave KZbinr. I just found you & wish I had found you sooner. I've been binge watching all of your videos & have learned so, so much. Thank you for all your hard work. God Bless you from Houston, TX♡

[@bkrd7278]

So true... I've allowed myself to change and accepted such low standards. This is my turning point..

[@aphroditeg2712]

When someone of the male gender mirrors my thought after I no longer expect it to happen. #teamjaxn

[@kimberlynhughes3658]

That is a good point, if he doesn't deserve all of your love, doesn't deserve a portion of it

[@charmekiawhite3633]

He go all in then go all out and you go straight out the door. Walk away!! Some dudes aren't worth the time and effort so your effort is to just leave it only gets worse. Take your walking shoes with you. Give him the dueces

[@MsNjeli]

✌deuces

[@michaellodwich9062]

Derrick, you're comparisons with real life situations are great. It makes the challenges in relationships so much more understandable. Thank you for another great video. Heartfelt greetings from Germany, Mike

[@alwaysheleena]

What if you're not in a real relationship (have title), you're "special friends?" Am I being unfair by just pulling the plug with no explanation since I've become aware of the games he's playing. I don't even care to be real friends anymore. I can't allow myself to get used like that because I go hard when I give my all, and it just doesn't seem fair to me anymore to put up with these nut ass dudes that don't want to commit and think I might be okay with being a side piece, or even be treated any old kind of way because I'm going through something. Hell I'm not that type desperate. I rather be single and lonely than involved with someone and miserable. Ain't in the business of keeping a man that don't want to be kept. You want to act single then go be single without me in your life. You can't work hard to get a brand new car and once you get it you don't keep up with the maintenance. Hell no, the same effort you put in to getting me you need to put in to keep me. Trey Songz said it right: I want all of you or nothing. You give an inch, these fools try to take a mile. You give in to 1 thing he wants to make him happy (like a threesome) and that opens the door for all types of bulls***. I'm not some on-call soulmate. If you're not trying to go at least to the next level with me, not necessarily relationship level but levels spiritually, life, business, success and progression; then what the heck are we friends for? You're either taking some things off my plate or adding to my already full plate. If you can't at least help to ease my mind and bring me back to center then what are we doing this for? Don't waste any more of my time, I got other things I could be doing than making time for you. Got NO TIME for fake ones....

[@lgbaybaysalesladayy]

That first sentence tells me everything I need to know. You need to move on and don't be "special friends" with anybody. Way too much of that going on these days.

[@lisalivingston7458]

Run!!!! We women put the wants of these guys before our needs way too often! Get yourself out of this situation & give your all to the man that shows you that you take utmost priority in his life Sister💚

[@L2HH2C412]

You and this video have SPOKEN to me tonight and let me know my decision is the right one. ...

[@stephaniekalberer4318]

I love you and I admire your 100% Honest Truth. I have been living this way for 4yrs and you are right I gotta get up outta here. I have no where to go right now no family no friends. I made my life all about him and now he's a man I don't even know. 16yrs together and 2yrs ago we had a son and my bags were packed then and he swore to me that we could make it but we can't we won't not like this. I'm 50% to blame to I know that I own up to my Shit. Thank you for opening my heart and eyes. God Bless

[@stephaniekalberer4318]

Rock Bottom ain't no place to go but up. ☝️☝️☝️Lord Help me

[@sabypalmer6299]

Too late, a year in and I helped him get back on his feet and he is slowly pulling away and yet acting jealous for no reason and spends almost no time with me anymore, always tired. I am now feeling a bit used and blindsided.

[@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453]

Yeah , he won’t / can’t respect you because you”helped him get back on his feet. “. Never help a guy get back on his feet. That’s degrading and castrating to them when a woman does it. You thought you were helping but you were hurting him. Not intentionally of course.

[@normafig924]

Very well said. I wish I would had done that 8 years ago. Keep your videos coming. It’s helping a lot of people out there.

[@jillforte3488]

Agreed...I wish you were my BFF. We would have some interesting conversations and I would have been schooled a whole hellva lot early.

[@kathysmith789]

Jill Hodge I'd like to be his bestie too!x

[@ari23-23]

Me three

[@Shabzana]

Aint that the truth, you live and learn. on-wards and upwards, only way to go, they may break you but you don't have to remain broken!!

[@lexiwhite8796]

Just removed him and blocked him on everything, he literally chased me down for a while but then when he got me he stopped trying and became distant. I explained to him this wasn’t okay, and he became even more distant. Hell no. Goodbye.

[@jacquelinebegley5414]

Yes men today are always looking for something from a woman! Boy things have changed love ur messages, nice to see a real man

[@asimplesoul5652]

Wow...more men like you in the world, and it would be a much better place.

[@nataliepaige3595]

I pulled the plug! I know my self worth. A Narcissist is toxic!