How to know if you're fully recovered from Depersonalization and Derealization?

[@reichan2590]

I’ve been dealing with DPDR since August of this year and I’d say I’m about 70% there. It’s definitely hard because I still get existential thoughts and I can feel the dread and anxiety creep up. Just going about my day like usual does help, and I go out with friends and dates with my husband. It’s just I cont to struggle with my fear of death 😕. I also struggle with OCD so the rumination can be brutal on my bad days. However I keep moving forward and practice mindfulness, I exercise, and write in my gratitude journal. Keep going guys! It does get easier over time. I try to absorb the good feelings and happiness I feel.

[@EveSincl]

I feel exactly the same as you, mine started in June. Things will get better . I bought myself a book and I write in it every day - I look back on even October and I cant believe how much progress I’ve made since then, even if it’s not over yet. You’ve got this . Love to you

[@robinschindelka2117]

Hi there! I don't really know your background so it's hard to exactly know what advice to give you personally, but OCD and fear of death have in common that you are afraid of feeling 'out of control' and vulnerable. Often we don't fear these concepts themselves, but more how they make us feel. Try to 'expose' yourself to the feelings underneath these thoughts, and trying to open yourself up to feeling the feelings instead of running from them. You'll realise that they are just emotions, physical sensations. If you stop being afraid of how death makes you feel, you stop being afraid of the concept itself ❤

[@reichan2590]

@@robinschindelka2117 Thank you for the response 🥰 I feel like I do face my feelings and I just deal with the discomfort that comes with it. Some days I’m able to handle it better. I’ve almost died twice and all the other trauma I’ve faced in my life……I’m taking my time with addressing things I’ve buried deep since childhood

[@swagspedups]

I followed you about a year ago as I was struggling with DPDR. Your videos really helped me. I found out that I’m actually not the only one who’s going through it. Now I am completely fine, I’m happy and I kind of don’t mind that life and human experience are kind of weird:) and the sign of being fully recovered for me was the fact that I stopped watching your videos hahaha, love you thooooo!!! It’s just that DPDR became so irrelevant to me. And now I actually feel exactly the same as I did before the whole DPDR thing which I couldn’t believe that I would ever feel the same but I do now!

[@robinschindelka2117]

Congradulations darling!! I'm so happy for you. And you should never watch my video's again of you are recovered indeed 😁 I might start an 'after recovery' series soon for general life and happiness tips 😉 see you there maybe?

[@ca7582]

ROBIN YOU ARE THE BEST IN THE WORLD!!! ❤❤❤ Exactly the message that I needed at this right time. Today I woke up feeling physically well and mentally ok, but some residual symptoms and omg the hypervigilance and the existential thoughts... It has been so fortunate to come across with your YT channel😢😢😢

[@robinschindelka2117]

Hi darling! What a sweet message 😁 I'm glad you're progressing. That in and of itself is wonderful! Keep on living your life. You will be okay ❤

[@vanessawilhelm594]

Oh my god that's me. I had it chronically for 2.5 years, and the last 8-9 months I've been on a healing journey. Feeling about 80-90%, but still have this little visual "off-ness" - living life normally and not really afraid, but do sometimes get a little annoyed ha! I do hope it will just fade after a while.

[@johnlaru1709]

Thanks Robin, for real this helped a lot. I'm exactly at this point. I was literally thinking well if this is it, then I guess this is it. Life will be weird sometimes. I figured I'd have to engage in life more or something, but this video was so straight to the point and helpful as always.

[@robinschindelka2117]

That's actually the best attitude you can have as it takes the focus off of trying to recover, which decreases your hyperawareness and that makes it normalise again. Enjoy the progress you've made! The rest will come

[@charliefisher2205]

Thank you so much robin!! I needed this!! I feel like I'm about 80% recovered although ive had some setbacks recently but I'm feeling alot better after watching this video. I hope you know how many lives youve saved robin.

[@robinschindelka2117]

Hi Charlie, That's incredible! I'm glad my video's have been able to help you in your journey 😊 you deserve to feel amazing, and you will!

[@veronikasoralova6106]

I feel like i was in that state for a while. But now i feel i back down. I dont mind the weird reality...what really gets me is this feeling "what the fuck is reality?" And also it feel like im no longer me . Which is funny cause i know i changed a lot about me since it started. But now it feels like i am stranger

[@ca7582]

Don't give in to the thoughts, don't give them your attention and/or care. The same with sensations, let them be there, but don't let them define the "truth" or your experience of the present moment. Think about how you want to define your life, the things that you cared about before and gave your life meaning. Define them as your truth and start striving towards them (or maybe explore to create a new definition for your life). Don't feel like you have "discovered" some hidden truth about reality and that by trying to recover you are somehow entering a "lie". That's not the case, because you decide what your truth is, what your definition of life is. You can do it, I wholeheartedly believe that you can.

[@veronikasoralova6106]

@@ca7582 thank you!!

[@kirstencorbett2289]

I like to say, "my reality hasn't changed. what has changed is my perception of it." And in order to deal with this changed perception is to not deal with it, almost. Observe it, notice it and let it be as it is. Meditate (especially use Robin's videos!!!) everyday. Let everything be exactly as it should. You'll be fine. I'm in this plateau phase atm like how Robin describes in this video (unless I drive, my final/remaining hurdle lol) and you just gotta play the 'patience game'.

[@kirstencorbett2289]

Probably one of my favourite videos of yours to date!! (Omg your bf coming in, I had a giggle 😂😂)

[@MandyMonroe-e2n]

Hi Robin, thank you for everything, your videos help me a lot with my existential fears. Could you make a video talking about oneness and everyone and everything being connected. I’m very scared of divine oneness/non-duality and everyone being the same being, but i think I struggle with a distorted view, because when i see other people talking about it, they seem so at peace with it. When I think about it, I feel disconnected from other people and feel very lonely, like I’m all alone in the universe. I get we’re branches part of the same tree, but are the branches essentially different from each other, each individuals? I would love to hear your take on it. 🥰

[@robinschindelka2117]

Hi! I just did 😊 was my video last week! ❤

[@othmanothman705]

I've been struggling with dpdr since the pandemic, now I don't know if I'm recovered or not.

[@annesophie111]

Hi Robin! Hope this message will find you well. Could you make a video about emotions? Like coping with emotional turmoil and drowning in our emotions or healthy emotional regulation? I have difficulty getting out of low mood and also I am easily overwhelmed when things don’t work out (it triggers a « not good enough » pattern). I am conscious of the loop between thoughts & emotions and I try to accept what is (not resist) then change my actions/behaviors to shortcut the whole emotional distress but it is very hard to change my state each time and it creates a very poor self-concept of myself being so emotional. Could you give ideas on how to manage discomfortable emotions? I don’t know maybe it could be useful for other people too, just an idea maybe for a next video ;) Could be part of the 'after recovery' series for general life and happiness tips because it is not specific to dpdr you know ;) Thanks!! xx much love & appreciation for your sharings.

[@robinschindelka2117]

Hi! Could you give me a list of beliefs you have about yourself? It might give me a bit of a better look on what could be at the core of your emotions

[@annesophie111]

@@robinschindelka2117 Hi! Sure! Thanks you so much for replying! The list of beliefs I have about myself: I should be perfect / I have to be perfect, I am not enough, everything is hard - I am weak, I’ll never live up to my expectations, people don’t understand me, life is hard. I am conscious of the mind tendencies to dramatization, perfectionism & victimization but I’ve always been very emotional. Even if I don’t like to label myself anything as it is limiting, I am neurodivergent and it’s part of the package. I am highly sensitive and emotions are high in both directions (“high” & “low”). Sometimes I am able to see them as weather patterns and stay centered, and sometimes they are so charged (as you said maybe it’s linked to core beliefs I really believe) and I am hooked! The emotion somehow becomes me and I cry or am in a distress state for several hours. Thanks a lot Robin! ☺

[@jacobaragon3398]

I don't if recovered or not because everything is clear but I still feel like this is not real or like I've just been traumatized and now I'm looking at life differently please help me