How to Live with Gifted Intensity | Intellectual Emotional Social and Sensory

[@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching]

What if you've been holding in all your intense feelings and thoughts, to the point where your friends and family have no idea what's going on in your head? How can you start to be your authentic self without scaring them? ✅ Start slowly: Not only will it help your friends process the New You that you're showing them, it will also help prevent your own "oversharing hangover," that uncomfortable feeling in your gut that comes after you've been unusually vulnerable, then worry that you've said too much. ✅ Identify common ground: Share the intense thoughts and feelings that are most likely to resonate with your friends & family first. For example, you're more likely to get a positive response when you share your thoughts on organic gardening than if you share your thoughts on politics. (Not to say that you shouldn't share those thoughts too, but don't start with such a fraught subject). ✅ Establish boundaries: Some people in your orbit may be unsure how to react to your intense thoughts and feelings, and may try to "talk you down" to a level that they're comfortable with. Now is when you'll need to say things like, "It's important for me to express myself authentically. This is my perspective and this is how I process things. Can you help me understand what bothers you about that?" ✅ Remember why you're opening up: If you start to feel some push-back, remember that the reason you're sharing your intense thoughts and feelings is because it's good for you. Sharing your authentic thoughts: 👉 Is a stress-relief valve 👉 Allows deeper connectivity in your relationships 👉 Builds trust because you're opening up and showing vulnerability 👉 Helps you process difficult thoughts and feelings 👉 Allows you to grow personally

[@NoOne-nk5fe]

My therapist recently diagnosed me (29 y/o) and of course I have been obsessively reading about it , and watching these videos suddenly makes me so seen. (Thank you so much for this!) I am struggling to cope with everything in many regards, but this past year has been good in many others. Starting to write again after years of silence was the best decision I took. I started my blog, and overcame my fear of being cringe, and and now I spend all my spare (and also work time) time thinking about many random things and writing about it, and it gives me tremendous joy now. (Though the simultaneous guilt about avoiding work and underperforming is always there by default.) I also go on walks to and try to notice every flower, every sunset, every little animal, every color of the sky, the rain, the snow- I get overwhelming joy from everything, and channeling my overexcitabilities towards this has helped me find so much happiness. (Also been obsessively making cute tiktok videos of everything I find beautiful) I am glad I don't assign to much value to what other tell me at least, so I try to take my personality with me everywhere , and I have always happily been the funny well-meaning weirdo who lives in her head. My other personality meanwhile is this anxious, dumb, stupid, weirdo with an inability to cope with anything and filled with the guilt of not having the ability to cope with her own life ..and just refuses to share real issues with anyone including the therapist. One day maybe I will learn to overcome this imposter syndrome, and this silent deep fear of inadequacy, and this huge burden of existential angst, in this happy cheerful joyous personality , who is bold at times but really is crippled with self-doubt the other times. Maybe I will be fine though, please tell me I won't ruin my life with self-sabotage , and this constant self-evaluation!!

[@rubyglasspoolastrology]

When I watch a documentary on say the war, I don’t just focus on the event and isolate it to within that time, I see the bigger picture of the psychological troubles of humanity and the hopelessness of the situation. It’s never just a piece of history to me, it’s a deep pervading disturbance and understanding of what’s essentially wrong in the collective psyche of humanity. It’s never simple for me. My intense passion is often dampened by a pervasive sense of hopelessness.

[@fivefiveqt214]

Don’t know if I’m gifted or not. Can’t believe I’m even mentioning me and gifted in the same sentence. I honestly don’t know what I am. ADHD, Autism, or (now) gifted. I just know that I’m different and have always been called weird, but as a black female I was never tested as a kid for anything. Over the last few years I’ve come to terms that I have ADHD. Then recently, I’ve been grappling with the thought that I could possibly have ASD. This has been a hard thing to wrap my head around and have left me feeling so many different emotions, one being anger that professionals have never discovered this all these years. Now, as of yesterday (NYE 2024), I’ve happened upon “gifted” and what that looks like. At first I thought no way, because of what I believed it meant to be gifted. Then I learned what it truly means and felt like someone finally understands what it’s like being me and constantly wanting to learn everything, look into everything, know the why of everything and the joy I get from learning these things. Now I want to get tested for everything to know for sure what type of neurodivergent person I am.

[@rubyglasspoolastrology]

You mentioned being intense with our talking or emotions, but I’d be interested to hear you speak about those who actually just hold back their intensity and don’t reveal it? I just behave ‘normally’ outside my house, so none of my friends or family would have a clue that I’m intellectually and emotionally intense! I save it all for behind the walls of my home. Is there ever a way out of this? How can one start being more authentic amongst non-intense people?

[@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching]

That's a good question -- one that deserves a more thoughtful answer than I can give in a comment. Let me spend some time on this and I'll either write a long post or make another video. Stay tuned!

[@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching]

Ok, I've outlined my thoughts in a social media post that's scheduled to go up on Thursday morning (3/19/24) at 7am EST :) Let me know if it's helpful! instagram.com/thrivemind_gifted_coaching/

[@rubyglasspoolastrology]

@@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching oh thank you! But I can’t get to it to see it. I’m sure it’s brilliant 🤩

[@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching]

@@rubyglasspoolastrology What if you've been holding in all your intense feelings and thoughts, to the point where your friends and family have no idea what's going on in your head? How can you start to be your authentic self without scaring them? ✅ Start slowly: Not only will it help your friends process the New You that you're showing them, it will also help prevent your own "oversharing hangover," that uncomfortable feeling in your gut that comes after you've been unusually vulnerable, then worry that you've said too much. ✅ Identify common ground: Share the intense thoughts and feelings that are most likely to resonate with your friends & family first. For example, you're more likely to get a positive response when you share your thoughts on organic gardening than if you share your thoughts on politics. (Not to say that you shouldn't share those thoughts too, but don't start with such a fraught subject). ✅ Establish boundaries: Some people in your orbit may be unsure how to react to your intense thoughts and feelings, and may try to "talk you down" to a level that they're comfortable with. Now is when you'll need to say things like, "It's important for me to express myself authentically. This is my perspective and this is how I process things. Can you help me understand what bothers you about that?" ✅ Remember why you're opening up: If you start to feel some push-back, remember that the reason you're sharing your intense thoughts and feelings is because it's good for you. Sharing your authentic thoughts: 👉 Is a stress-relief valve 👉 Allows deeper connectivity in your relationships 👉 Builds trust because you're opening up and showing vulnerability 👉 Helps you process difficult thoughts and feelings 👉 Allows you to grow personally

[@rubyglasspoolastrology]

This is wonderful! You have come with some very real and tangible steps that I could see working. Thank you. 🤩

[@deshawnbrown986]

I have never felt more heard or seen

[@bobathebobtail]

Aw man, I've always felt like I'm too much for everyone, so I was so relieved when they put me in the "gifted kids" classroom where there were other people that didn't think I was so weird for being so intense all the time But I had no idea that a physical sensitivity came from the whole gifted thing, either I always thought I was just... Really autistic lol, every touch to my skin sends waves up and down my body. It makes me shiver just thinking about it Great video!!

[@niklaswahlgren421]

I think everyone in my family would have liked you. Even my dead grandma and me, who are the most nervous, you have a soothing way about you, I can tell you like intentionally slow things down, even vocally, mannerisms, and how fast you move your body. I also like your decorations, that cup especially. It reminds me of something I've seen somewhere, but I don't remember exactly, feels like its connected to my grandparents but Im not sure enough I would take poison, on it ;) Anyway, I feel more calm now, so thank you :D Very grateful :) Hugs!

[@rachelonlife]

I was expecting her to have so many more subscribers.... The fact that she makes all these videos for a large group of people if we were all in one room, but very small across the whole internet, makes me so happy I'm 14 and for about a month i've been on a journey of ''turning my brain back on'. when i was about 11 i 'shut my brain off" to fit in and not annoy my family. looking back i think i did the same thing around 3-4 years old. Finding this channel has made me so happy, i just saw a diagram with ADHD Autism and it also had giftedness which i thought was weird. but i read it and i had every single thing associated with giftedness. I've been doing tons of research and the fact that other people have the same experiences i do is so refreshing. also i made a friend a year ago, she doesn't understand any of this, but when i rant about some deep thought i have (no matter how boring) she doesn't call me annoying. i don't know where I would be if i didn't have her because she made me feel comfortable to be myself again..

[@mikeunger4165]

Her video quality is so good, and she has a pleasant demeaner. Looks like she has been making videos for a few months. I can't imagine how hard it is to start a new channel. You have to put yourself out there and produce quality product for many months. I'm glad she has spoken to a few of us. I subscribed and hope she gets many more.

[@purple_moxy]

This is so incredibly useful, I've been practicing some of these techniques for several months and my mental health has improved so much

[@aaronm71]

This is reaffirming as hell! I cry the good tears here. thank you

[@pamelaperrygoulardt1425]

100% For Real 💥

[@KytexEdits]

I'm not sure if I'm gifted but probably close to it from the many pieces of evidence I've examined. I have to say having whatever you want to call this ability to perceive and connect things combined with ADHD and a good ability to read people for other reasons is truly a blessing and a curse. I just wish I could turn it off sometimes. Especially in complicated romantic situations, it just hurts too much to see when people lie to you and they don't know that you know, or worse yet when they lie to themselves to a degree where they're no longer honest towards you indirectly. People can also find this degree of insight uncomfortable.

[@NoOne-nk5fe]

Yeah, someone once told me it scared them how much I saw and understood them, and it was deeply uncomfortable for them although they liked being understood so intimately,

[@ElladanTinehtele]

I've watched a few of your videos and I love them, but this one is perfect to say what I have to. As a neurodivergent person, with high auditive sensitivity, the intro song is way too loud compared to the rest of the video, and with headphones it hurts 😅

[@Refactor-ig9sc]

Thank you for making this video! I very much struggle with sensory sensitivities. My theory had been that my brain pulls in everything and doesn’t bother to filter things out. That it is a good thing when I want to learn something, but a problem in a large crowd. I’ve been more open with telling people why I can’t handle large crowds and explaining “No, it’s not anxiety, but my brain just can’t process all of the input from multiple conversations at once.” This has been helpful. I’ve also given myself permission to not go to large gatherings, but to socialize in small groups or one on one. I can have genuine socialization in those environments, in a large crowd I only pretend to socialize (or if it’s especially loud I just sit there) and feel foggy for up to 2 weeks afterwards. You have very good information about giftedness, thanks for sharing.

[@lorilovebeads1967]

It’s low latent inhibition I feel your pain

[@KheirClassic]

Such great explanations and suggestions! Love your videos.

[@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching]

Thanks!

[@teaanddaisies]

I love your videos so much but the picture with polka dots hurts my eyes