How to Maintain Presence among Unconscious People | Eckhart Tolle

[@wanderingfree149]

When I'm around toxic people, I quietly ask myself " who's looking out my eyes?" I become very aware of my inner self and that keeps me in my stillness because it flips my mental state into becoming an observer vs taking in all the crazy

[@blablablabla1111111]

I get what you say completely, when im confronted with bad energy, ive started to remind myself that I am the one that is perceiving the negativity, not the one generating it, which seems to help not absorve the negativity. Ive also tried to evoke the opposite of the negative energy that i perceive.

[@terridillon3053]

Good point! Thanks

[@tezzo55]

So that's your reaction to toxic energy is it? So, feeling a bit toxic are we?

[@rick.870]

I thought I had problem with people in general but the issue is me. I soak into crazy and sometimes gets weeks to find me again.

[@rachellskerlec4713]

I find it helpful not to think of people as toxic. I think the toxic concept is toxic.

[@healingnaturegirl333]

“One could say, when you react to the toxic energy you become part of the toxic energy. “

[@fieldandstream9362]

Knowledge of actual science, cures and healing under attack and highly forbidden.

[@bethbartlett5692]

Precision accuracy.

[@natalieking6552]

Absolutely needed this reminder thank you

[@elissafuss9990]

It takes practice to stay in your heart and breath and not get pulled in But once you master it You master Heaven on Earth

[@Ari-Artform]

Yes. Entanglement. It comes from Judgement I think. Ahh...the beauty and tragedy of life.

[@mikeharper3784]

Spend more time with young children. Their innocence and energy is refreshing and their joy and love of life is food for the soul. God bless.

[@mikeharper3784]

ET, phone home?

[@victornilsson2816]

True that, they are closer to that deeper unconditioned i.. Good if parentes would cherish that

[@blackjay5338]

Christ said behold your little ones. I completely agree that we can learn a lot from watching children who are meek, humble, and sponges for learning. (I pray that are taught wisdom and not just knowledge by their caregivers.)

[@annabellacrewe8858]

I do ! Whenever its possble...!❤

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

Thats dangerous and political NOT correct ! It may be counted as paedophilia !!!

[@futtsie2512]

I LOVE being alone. I prefer it actually. And if I cannot be alone, I prefer to be with others on the same vibrational frequency. I’m in a situation at the moment where I do not have to engage with a bunch of people so I AM very thankful for that. Those moments when I do have to be in the presence of those who are still ego driven, I find myself (more and more) not participating in the gossip or negativity. I will get up and walk out of the room. And when I can’t do that, I put in my headphones and watch videos on KZbin or music and will remove myself mentally.

[@erinsuzy613]

Im in the same boat. When I used to join the gossip I was able to feel the discord in my gut, thankfully. Following these gut feelings is leading me into a more authentic life, with less friends of course, but still worth it.

[@futtsie2512]

@@erinsuzy613 most have fallen away naturally. There are still those who linger because of circumstances outside of my current realm of control. But we find ways to adapt. I have to constantly keep my headphones charged! Hahaha

[@aimane3375]

@@futtsie2512 is it possible for someone who is very grounded in reality to feel the vibration of a very low vibrational person? Like a psychopath? Or is not affected

[@futtsie2512]

@@aimane3375 as an empath, you are sensitive to all vibrational frequencies. Raising your own vibration will render you immune to any potential effects it may otherwise have. The vibrational shift of Gaia is magnificent and she is bringing us with her if we choose. Remember that everything is energy and we are the ones who perceive it as good or bad. There is no good or bad outside of this simulation we have created for our soul evolution. 💚 Remain in your heart space and send love to everything. Nothing is more powerful.

[@auroravioletlight]

@@futtsie2512 ❤️

[@M3GARRA]

“When you react to toxic energy you become a part of it” that’s all I needed to hear 🙃 I love his energy , like a fluffy warm hug💚

[@lyndalou2892]

🌲🌵🌸🌺🏵☘Eckhart is a BLESSING and he is so full of Wisdom and Love and compassion and Truth !

[@rachelD7549]

Agreed, this was the best takeaway for me as well. If I react to the toxic energy, that is an indication of my resistance on some level, but really I should be focusing to resist nothing🙏

[@abbasalchemist]

So very true. There is a certain "possession" of these energies that somehow seek to express themselves through us and into the world. Thank you for highlighting his comment.

[@banderas2000]

Same

[@sver8495]

Isn’t it the same old teaching of Jesus? About resisting nothing, embracing everything, because resisting or punishing evil makes you evil, but accepting dissolves it. In other words, you cannot defeat darkness with darkness, you can only make it disappear by bringing the light. “But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.”

[@krishnchipz]

For me, the easiest way to remain present is to observe what's happening, as if you were reading a book. It's fascinating

[@DevidSword]

That's really helpful, thank you!

[@Lizbeth36961]

thank you !!!

[@user-x57620fzmt]

Oh boy thank you for this tip!

[@manasakarade8596]

For me it’s like I am watching a movie , being thankful for the movie wether it’s a good movie or bad movie ❤

[@ElizabethHancock]

I think a better question is, "How do I maintain presence?" regardless of where you are and who you are with. If remaining present and aware is a spiritual practice that you employ all the time, then whether you are with unconscious people or not will not make a difference. In other words, practice presence all the time; whether you are alone, at work, with your spouse, with friends, working out, taking a shower, or in an extremely toxic situation. There really shouldn't be any circumstance where you aren't present. If you approach life this way, you will remain in this present state of awareness and not get easily swayed from other external energies. You will be very grounded in your state of being and very aware of your thoughts and emotions. You will have fine tuned your sense of awareness to such a high degree that being around toxic situations will bring out other higher responses from you. These higher responses include: stillness, acceptance of the present moment (not wanting to change it), compassion for the person that is suffering, and/or depending on the circumstance, helping the individual or removing oneself from the situation. There really is no perfect response, but if you do make presence an every moment spiritual practice, then being in uncomfortable situations doesn't really translate to being 'uncomfortable' anymore. You instead have increased your awareness and energetic capacity to remain still and aware to be firmly grounded and secure in your being. When you can weather any kind of storm you know that you have evolved into a higher state of consciousness altogether.

[@officialdamnmoodi3283]

its difficult to remain present i stray away without even knowing it,any tips ?

[@auroravioletlight]

🙏🏻EH...Thankyou 🙏🏻❤️

[@ElizabethHancock]

​@@officialdamnmoodi3283 Yes. Please try meditation. There are various tools to help you (mantra, breath watching, pranayama, hatha yoga, etc) get into a relaxed body/mind state of being. Over time with consistent practice, you will enter a meditative state of consciousness without any aid/tool. 🙏🏻

[@clarissavaida4058]

@@officialdamnmoodi3283 It really takes a commitment to the process of staying present in this moment and then the next, etc. I started practicing stopping thinking whenever I remembered and was determined to make this my daily intention. I am so glad that after years of being determined to not let the negative ,repetitive and unnecessary thinking dominate my life, I am in a continual state of being present and when I want to think, I do so but I know what am thinking about and immediately stop thinking if it has no value. My life is soo much more peaceful and effective and effortless. It’s a very difficult thing to do. But I’m more determined now than ever to not let the unobserved mind run my life, given the horrible damage in peoples life when they are a victim of being lost in thought.

[@clarissavaida4058]

@@joeyondakeys Most people are so caught up with non stop thinking they don’t have a choice whether to be present or not, that is, they don’t know there is a choice. I can understand sometimes choosing to focus on what you are thinking, especially when it is a pleasant experience, instead of being present. I find I can be present and be aware of what I’m thinking at the same time. ET talks about the unobserved mind as being potentially problematic, not necessarily being present as a state of being, but choosing to have thoughts when necessary or maybe in your case when you are enjoying the thought process. I think the why though boils down to human nature, but the important thing is that you are able to make the choice in the first place. Cheers, Joey!

[@melissaglueckskind]

as Eckhart explained, after the shift, he was in the tube without having bad feelings. So as long as you have bad feelings, and you blame it on the people that you call "unconscious people", make sure, that it is not yourself, being unconscious in that very moment.

[@annabellacrewe8858]

Quite so !🍀

[@frankrobertolsvik6988]

Exactly. Don Miguel Ruiz books explain it so good. Recomended for this tema

[@tslomt]

👏💯

[@ellie-tk4jy]

Depends on what it is and I'd be wary of saying this because women more than anyone are asked to suppress their natural reactions and feelings in order to accommodate other people. So for women I would rather say "make sure it isn't others before you blame yourself". Definitely agree for guys and non ethnic minorities though yeh.

[@maryhall3722]

@@ellie-tk4jy yes, I can see where you're coming from, although some might say that's some sexist bias. If I might give an example of a female perspective that might be acceptable: I was working in a nurturing profession but cut backs, poor management and staff shortages stopped me being able to do my job properly. I was constantly challenging management and felt increasingly out of step with the institution. Edit: I was in fact becoming part of the toxic situation, feeding into it as much as suffering from it...The cognitive dissonance over years led to me getting burn out, then cancer, then leaving. I was aware of the writing on the wall, right up until the wall fell on me, but felt utterly powerless to do anything about it. I love this video, and your comment is particularly appropriate. Just wish this material was available to me then, maybe I would have woken up and left the place before it nearly killed me. Best wishes to you ❤

[@NondualityChannel]

Just don't judge and critique unconscious people and create stories...and take anything they do personally (a story about "me")...etc, etc. Just be with them...fully aware and present...not story-telling to yourself.

[@victornilsson2816]

The first thing you wrote, what you are describing is in itself is quite unconscious :)

[@BananaBabys]

Thank you

[@inkjazz]

@@victornilsson2816 Not at all. What he's describing is the self-monologue of "your life".

[@missrabbit6509]

I try not to. I do wonder why the great awakening is happening simultaneously with CERN experiments in switzerland. Everyone look up while they should all look into DAVOS. Regardless, I believe you are one of the kindest ppl I've heard. Thank you.

[@tamn9446]

Exactly

[@RosaGrau2014]

Meditation is not absence of outer noise, but absence of inner noise.

[@JLZR1]

When anyone asks, what are you grateful for ?…the answer is “ Eckhart Tolle”🙏

[@annabellacrewe8858]

Yes, hw saved my life 4 years ago, but I still have to listen to music and ocean waves with earplugs every Day in order to keep Sane ! Sensitivity in a modern society is very difficult to live with, because there never was so much noise everywhere as in these last two centuries ! Right now I am disturbed by neighbours constantlt slamming doors, trying to sleep ! Consciousness does not help me here !!!

[@raone6145]

A great answer of meliocracy

[@idiocrat8425]

Food.

[@quantumpotential7639]

This is exactly what Putin is thinking too. The only difference is all he has to do is push a button and poof, we're gone! Just like that. Think about what you're saying here. Thanks

[@quantumpotential7639]

@Fred Carpenter Fred, can I call you Fred? Anyway Fred, Fred, Fred, Frederick, Frederick the Great, Freddy Boy, all I'm saying here is that Putin will push button you right out of existence. Is that the Legacy of Frederick the Great? NO!! Gotblam it. We need to push back against the push button man who wants you, and I to die. Do you wanna die??? Of course not!! You wanna LIVE!!!! Just not here in this world. I get it. I understand exactly how you feel and where you are coming from. You come from home. And you're ready to go back. I'm with ya on that one big feller. Big Freddy Boom Boom 💥. Now let us pray 🙏. Thanks F r Ed

[@sallysmith8671]

Removed myself from a toxic work environment. it actually wasn't my choice, but my guardian angel was helping me, now I'm in a better place. No such thing as a coincidence❤

[@gamemasterdave]

There are no ordinary moments.

[@wilma8326]

The key to a peaceful life (10:58): don't demand that anything that arises should not arise 😇

[@wisconsinfarmer4742]

fundamental agreement of reality

[@theresewillemsenmagnetiseu6719]

❤

[@leighharris8924]

I need to tattoo this on myself so I never forget. What a beautiful thought.

[@SneakySteevy]

Don’t wanting reality being reality is irrational. « We can’t be right against reality » - Stoicism

[@GraDays]

It's a relief to hear that even Eckhart has "disturbing" noises around when he meditates and it's inspiring to see how he managed to switch from an unconscious being to one who can trascend the city noises.

[@bpiedfort]

What a wonderful time to be alive and have easy access to the spiritual wisdom of an amazing teacher like Eckhart - thank you sir!

[@wisconsinfarmer4742]

I love her self awareness and willingness to ask questions leading to the management of her power. It gives us all permission to do the same. Life is becoming a satisfying journey.

[@ray1348]

Accepting what IS; unless it is abusive. Then change is needed.

[@thealltimemasterofairchess9871]

doesn't what you decide is right or wrong. When you feel, think and act, it is not informed by your ideals, because your ideals are formed in a private way. No such privacy exists. To be amongst others is to influence and be influenced by others. Even aiming to be flexible is another way to become the opposite. No aim, no wrong, no right. Accepting what is, means to think about what is. No thought neccessary, but still thought arises whether neccessary or not. Nothing can be told how to be. All this should is what stop what is from being. And that is what is. Do you allow that? Do you accept that? I don't accept what is. And I accept that is what is.

[@summersunriseyoga]

Very helpful video for those who have to deal with a narcissist or a toxic person. It doesn’t help to feed into their unconsciousness with your own. Thank you for reminding us to practice responsibility and Presence 🙏

[@BananaBabys]

Ive heard narcissistic victim hood is a sort of contagious narcissism. Like the ego and pain body spreads to the “victim” causing more identification and density.

[@learningenglishthroughtran8540]

Is it helpful that they feed into our peace with their own unconsciousness?

[@violetphoenix9105]

When we become more and more centered, our center becomes so strong until the outside does not distract us or influence us. It takes one day at a time. Just like building a muscle.

[@SIERRATREES]

I like this....

[@justinsugay1149]

She's so brave to put herself out there like that. I appreciate how patient Eckhart is and understanding as well. He is able to relate deeply and that's so refreshing. Much more to learn for me. Thank you!

[@Lizbeth36961]

You're speaking as if she needs to hide? What would be a good reason to hide?

[@justinsugay1149]

@@Lizbeth36961 I'm sorry you've read or interpreted it that way. I'm more focused on her courage. I can see how one could read it that way but believe me that was NOT my intention.

[@smhtb8188]

"By allowing myself to feel it, there was transcendence." Thank you..

[@apitonisabr]

How is Eckhart always so kind and attentive? Thank you for being so sweet, sir!

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

He´s got patience with poor humanity . . .

[@GauravKhuranaxy]

Surrender yourself is the key. Realize that we are floating in the midst of negative energies all around us. Accept them whole heartedly without judgement as far as possible. And when judgment arises realize it’s arising and accept that’s part of us too. Over a number of years of practice at least for me, it becomes a habit and yes it DOES work! Spiritual life was never meant to be easy :( It’s a journey until our death beds never a destination.

[@FaithFashionFinances]

This is so hard, I can’t be around unconscious people for long without having to get away from them. I spent most of my life around these types, they drain you. Once you get away from them peace is possible I love being alone and present 💝

[@A2kingsfull]

I removed myself from a Toxic job that I worked at for 10 years. It ended up being the best decision I could have ever made, love the power of now audio cds for road trips. Thank you Eckhart!

[@wisconsinfarmer4742]

Congratulations on loving yourself. I did the same, but only spent six days there. Function of age and bothering to learn.

[@lemurianchick]

@@wisconsinfarmer4742 ???????

[@wisconsinfarmer4742]

@@lemurianchick oh sure, six days at a toxic work environment. No one who loves themselves will stay in that game.

[@littlewillowlinda]

Good for you!! Companies make you feel disposable even if you've been there for years. I hope you find what you're looking for 💙

[@piotrkonieczynski]

Took you long time. Muffin

[@jasoncora1]

It's been a hard but incredibly valuable lesson for me to understand that whatever bothers me in other people is just a reflection of something in myself that I don't like or accept. Even if it is just at a small level. It is at the core of compassion and responsibility. And once you know it you can't go back. Doesn't mean you won't slip and fall though. Constantly observe and accept without judgment and it will become easier and easier to stay conscience and transcend this seemingly mad, unending cycle.

[@xtra-spec.0005]

Thank you,nice...

[@Json-with-a-Kay]

I had the same feeling some months ago and that itself provides evidence how we are evolving spiritually. Such a wholesome blissful feeling to gain awareness little by little

[@movieloverUS]

The reflection you see in others if for your own emotional & spiritual growth to evolve as a soul

[@ppmppm7010]

I love interacting with people i still work full time at 71 and just love people and i genuinely believe we both take something from our interactions. I particularly enjoy interacting with difficult people, working on being non judgemental has been very useful , everyone has their story

[@l.k.2337]

I'm disconnecting from people, living an independent life, and I've never been happier.

[@l.k.2337]

@@AL_THOMAS_777 So awesome! 🎨🌹🖌️♥️🖼️

[@beavischrist5]

Bur for growing and ascention we need other to test our waters so to speak. I mean most are here to solve karmic issues and thats with orhers around us. Just a thought❤

[@DanielleLoven]

It happened naturally to me 11 years ago it is the separation from chaff and wheat beautiful process the isolated collective is ascending first and the bigger it becomes the other are coming in 💜🙌🏼✨ love and light

[@lizbrown9553]

​@@DanielleLoven YES! I TOTALLY NOTICED THIS ...ITS JUST MORE PEACEFUL AND MANY AREN'T DOING ANY SELF HELP WORK ANYWAY SO LET THEM DO THEIR OWN THING UNTIL THEY GET TIRED OF THEIR OWN THOUGHTS,TOO.... IT'S TOTALLY OKAY....I GOT EXHAUSTED TRYING TO TEACH PEOPLE ...😂

[@DanielleLoven]

@ not our job and this is unconditional love to respect the others timing 💜🚀✨🥰

[@rs9807]

Love the peaceful sound of the waterfall at the end of every talk by Eckhart! 🙂

[@jeandixon586]

This is what life is about - interacting with all types of people. If you're present, you'll know how to interact. That's it.

[@thaddeus46]

My wife is unconscious. Recently, I tried to introduce her to these concepts hoping she would join me on the journey. Nothing but resistance. I guess I have "deep surrender" practice ahead.

[@Ellis_B]

Whyd you marry her

[@thaddeus46]

@@Ellis_B money

[@Ellis_B]

@@thaddeus46 my mother, sister and ex girl all unaware , heavily programmed and firmly in the matrix. Thankfully my kids mother smart and aware , think Sarah Connor lol

[@quantumpotential7639]

I so sorry for your wife being asleep still. I pray right now that God lay a lantern at her feet. 🙏

[@CFinch360]

@@thaddeus46 As you stated that you married your wife for money: As my mother used to say "Those who marry for money earn it" 🙂 Accepting her as she is will be a challenge and an opportunity for you to grow ♡ In time she may begin to follow your path but judging others always feeds our egos.

[@sissysp8924]

My husband is still blind to everything. 22 years together 3 kids together. Awake for almost 3 years so gets hard cause he thinks I’m a conspiracy theory person. I see the truth. I’m always been outsider I love being alone gardening and in nature. I’m ready for my husband to see the truth. Our children see the truth. I knew I was Empath feel everything deeply to kind hearted in this world. Thanks for sharing💝

[@rshnewton]

Accepting him as he is will be a challenge and an opportunity for you to grow ♡ In time he may begin to follow your path.

[@gyunge3617]

He is your teacher and mirror. Through him you see your state of consciousness. It doesn't matter how he is. How you fully accept the way it is, that matters.

[@Json-with-a-Kay]

There's something called Quantum entanglement

[@Bibiana862]

do you know how many people thinks they are ampath and they are not?

[@sissysp8924]

@@Bibiana862 ok I believe I am have all signs but ok James

[@PureLight11]

I was not prepared for thanksgiving with family after years that I was away and wasn’t able to travel to visit! Great experience in that I now know I can use more practice in staying centered!!

[@jeffrey3498]

Consciousness is pure and infinite whether alone or with people.

[@floriana-shaktidevi]

Thank you for this ❤ Message Eckhart Tolle! I know how it is to be in the Flow ❤ and I manage to stay calm in my Meditation even if there are worst noise pollution. After a while it stopped, because I didnt care. Last year I travelled a lot again in the flow. In case of the leaf blower or if they destroy Nature by cutting trees, its time to tell that this is not the right way! Cant accept that unconsious egos destroy the world! In six months travelling in Central America I found only one place where I felt that Nature was happy! Means where wilderness is real. My goal is that there ll be new expierience rooms in Nature, instead of schools, where the kids understand own feelings and needs and communicate them like in NVC - so they can understand each other and there ll be no more wars! The first rule must be that we have to contribute in each others luck ❤ in a true human way! Love this place with lucky beings❤ I want to live in harmony and that means to listen also if there is a conflict. To stay in a unpersonal condition is still challenching because these situation appear when I dont aspect them, because I thought people are more aware, but thats still an illusion. Not my brother not my sister but its ne o Lord staying in the need of prayer ❤! And if its to bad and there is no solution, because there is no way to communication I leave! Jesus told us" if you are not accepted leave the place" ! BUT ALL WHAT WE NEED IS LOVE❤❤❤

[@SusanB101]

This is such great and practical advice. Especially for those of us who are more sensitive to external stimuli such as other people’s behavior, or even environmental conditions such as noise, light, smells, etc. Thank you for this video.

[@joanramsey4002]

Yes, I sympathize with you. Sometimes I feel as if I was dropped into a war zone and told to just get on with it. I do find it hard to deal with other people's ego's and manners, there's so many to deal with, if they only knew how exhausting it is by the end of the day.

[@themiddling2393]

He answers the question as if it's about tolerating distractions in the environment, but I feel like the question is not about sensory disturbance but being part of upsetting/antagonistic social situations, especially ones where you would be expected to respond.

[@accordian6ty]

Thank you Eckhart for ur words if wisdom. I'm suffering from PTSD and triggered often but I now understand I must accept what is and simply feel the panic and let t Be. Sounds easy 😊 but it's my homework . Very grateful 😘

[@skycherrios5885]

I reached my ENLIGHTENMENT about a year ago. I struggled for 20 years trying to follow spiritual teachers' guides. But I was able to reverse engineer the process of stopping the advances from the DEFAULT MODE NETWORK (brain function responsible for the self-conversetions/Ego). I've written a book with instructions for the ENLIGHTENMENT OF THE MASSES. My techniques are fundamental with crystal clear instructions and no open concepts or parables to figure out. My book is now available in Amazon "ON THE EVOLUTION FROM THE PRIMITIVE EGOIC MIND BY MEANS OF PURE CONSCIOUSNESS" by Victor Berrios

[@rhiannonwalker3047]

​@@skycherrios5885This sounds wonderful! I will check it out! 😊😊😊

[@rogerlin9602]

When confronted by toxic energy, accept it as a manifestation of life. You get beyond it through deep surrender. You sense it as expression of human unconsciousness. You feel the negative energy without mental narrative. It is transcendence. Remove yourself if it is violent or extraordinarily toxic. Thanks Eckhart. 💯🌻💖👍🐘🍨🍌🤠

[@duangviphadaomakkitti7007]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@DM-123]

Do boundaries have a place here as to how and till when to be present ? Can one guide .

[@lisetteem588]

yeah just move through it.

[@elissafuss9990]

Yes boundaries if possible, but otherwise practice mastering unconditional love &acceptance

[@gothangelbabysinner]

@Kelly Spear what do you mean?

[@sharmismroy]

I love the way he genuinely asks questions while being gentle with her and analyzes the situation to answer her question❤❤

[@eternelle143]

Much love to everyone. We are one.

[@auroravioletlight]

Such lovely comments. Beautiful 🙏🏻🌹 Love to all of you. Thankyou for being here "now" ✨❤️✨

[@delphina1111]

What a vulnerable and helpful question!! And what a brave soul she is to reveal herself to this gentle, kind, funny wisdom keeper and all of us. Thank you both!!❤

[@cbrashsorensen]

The more I become conscious the harder it is to deal with "normal human unconsciousness". Fortunately, those around me are somewhere along the line of growing consciousness. There is a temptation to withdraw from much of human interaction. That said, there is also pleasure in just being light-filled and calm during normal human interactions as well. Kind of "sharing" my contentment and calmness through my voice and posture. Disturbing interactions are decreasing as I grow more calm within myself. I am now able to sense the tension and anxiety often (not always) washing across me or even through me in situations that might once have been unsettling--or even a full clash of egos.

[@AL_THOMAS_777]

Nice statement Charlene ! We all have to come - and finally arrive - to OURSELF ! This is exactly the "coming home" so many wise teachers are talking about. See Osho for instance: Never been married, but oh SOOOO happy - surrounded by nice pupils anyway . . . And "Eckie" is a 100 % wonderful supplement to this indian kind of ZEN-master . . .

[@dbennettkc]

The answer that came to me is remain compassionate and forgiving

[@anthonybelletier8831]

I think the answer is compassion .The "toxic" people are only harming themselves. By being peaceful and compassionate we can provide an example to show them a way out of their pain.

[@johngarrity6687]

@Anthonyb - very insightful

[@laszlosandor3987]

Surrender to Spirit for Spirit is all that is. This is the lesson I take from Echart’s talk. 🙏🏼

[@natalieking6552]

Was meant to come across this video this morning reminding not to resist the things that come up that lead me to feel upset, stressed etc. thank you

[@caroleborsu]

"the misery line"...so funny to have Eckhart describe his experience of the underground, back when he lived in London. Just listening to him relaxes me and allows me to just be. Thank you! 🙏

[@banderas2000]

This is challenging but I know keeping calm around unconscious people will be a step closer to more awareness. 🙏.

[@USAcit]

Tread carefully around toxic people. You can fall in the sticky tar and it's difficult to work your way out. Best advice "remove yourself" if you're ruminating and in emotional turmoil. Save yourself and send out a life raft from distance. Be careful.

[@daverudd-zt3ob]

Yep, some will try to goad you into their madness and you also end up toxic if not careful. Watch your reaction from 'afar' or just switch off or avoid them altogether.

[@alecvargas1156]

Honestly being around unconsciousness is a great opportunity for growth

[@Jmarshall-kj4hc]

It really is the best test to gauge just how conscious you are.

[@georgehouston6327]

Alec, so true my friend. I found it rather easy to live in joy and harmony when i am off alone in nature. But i realize i am missing out on so many learning opportunities. Cheers.

[@beavischrist5]

Growing also means helping them the unconscious to see or become a little more conscious. Its your challange to find something that make them more aware. Or at least plant some seeds there❤

[@Venice1917]

@@kolarz2128 amen

[@kolarz2128]

I deleted my previous comment here. It was two years and I changed my mind on it. Unconsciousness around will show you how good you can deal with life challenges that's true. Sometimes we are "forced" to be with people who are at low level of self development. (You have to go to work place for instance). When you are there - be there. Learn how to ignore what has to be ignored. How to accept what has to be accepted. How to leave situation when it has to be leaved. I am in special need right now for some work place which offers me a part time hours, because I need that for the school I just started. However, this place contains one of the greatest unconsciousness I have ever had to face. They are constantly asking you to work faster and very hard, and they are very nervous about it. it can be said that they are very future-oriented in their activities. Despite this, I don't get drawn into it - this crazy rush, I do my thing at my own pace and I don't consider it a bad thing, although I know that they see it differently, because they have already let me know. What's important is that I don't fight with them about it, I tell them that I'm trying, I'm doing what I can, etc., I don't offer resistance to what they are saying to me, because they are not my enemies. I don't know if they will fire me from that place at some point for not being fast enough, or will give me some other tasks to do, but I am sure that if my behaviour towards them was different, then it would be a matter of time when. Still I am sure but I may be wrong about it. The most important factor is how do I feel and I am feeling okay thanks to being in alignment with myself.

[@sharmalarma1]

I am in trauma. And this explains part of why I can’t handle people right now!! I used to be able to do this and I can’t anymore. I feel too far gone from it as I disassociate. So this is literally saving me in a way? Seeing this video. Almost like my prayer has been answered in a way. And I can’t explain it other then, this is the beginning again, to finding my way back. I have had many experiences I can’t explain that have brought me to this.

[@adempc]

A reminder to rewatch this video. And.. when the path is dark, remember that others have walked it before you and that they have left clues, signs, and other assistance for you on the path. Look for them. With love, your friend.

[@junejune6177]

Don't react dont judge, sending a tone of love to me and everyone who across this lovely channel❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@PonyExpressway]

I love sitting alone by myself. It’s my favourite thing. And everyone thought I was depressed Sad what our society thinks of “being alone”

[@AnnAndNala]

I totally agree with you! I feel like spending time alone is spending time with my best friend. It's a happy place, a place of peace, calm and serenity, and I love it! 🕊

[@MrPinkfloydian]

This was absolute wonderful! What a privileged she was 🙂

[@sail4life]

Eckharts advice is a lot like the premise behind the very successful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This theorizes that some trigger happens (big city vibes / leaf blower / London Metro), then you start thinking about that (negatively / judging / revolting), and only then does it register emotionally and influence your state of mind. These emotions can then become a trigger themselves kicking you into a spiral of negativity (or euphoria if you were listening to music or observing a beautiful bird for example). The only ways to stop this is to remove / avoid the trigger or change your thinking. The second is the most universally effective way but requires training because its not what most of us are taught to do.

[@johnretired8213]

We deserve all people we surrounded by. They our angels helping us get better.

[@2622Valerie1]

Thank you for thé question and the answer!

[@susanfromthemountains1754]

"Accepting what is", "deep surrendering ", "completely ok with it"... "oh, that's what is", .... 💞👍🤗🙌🌸 That's what works, yes. And I very much feel love instead of anger with these practices we were taught on here. I've been practicing consciousness in these ways with toxic people for over 37 years. I am 58. So most of my adult life. And I would say even a lot as a child and teen. But definitely understood the concept of consciousness during toxic times only 37 years ago. Other than the list given on this channel today I would add that to remain conscious in toxic times I "step outside" of the person that I am, as if I'm a spectator only, and thereby not able to react. The toxic person or egoic person is not affecting me as I have stepped outside of the flesh so to speak, and have a place standing outside of my person. In that place outside of my person, it is calm and peaceful. And when I come back into my person, I am bringing the calm and peace with me to my flesh being. So the soul and the flesh match in the presence of peace and understanding and love. That's the best I can put it in words. And definitely what was taught here to "take home" with everyone today is that surrender is a power. Not a weakness. And when you learn that and understand that surrender and acceptance is your power card, you want to use it regularly, and daily and you'll feel love and peace as byproducts of surrender. Humility is just as similar. Remaining humble, taking the idea of acceptance and surrender is power . Use them. And feel love, peace, and freedom and tranquility as you maintain these powers. I'm not perfect at it at all times, but I enjoy practicing it daily over 37 years. And it works for me.

[@morenaflor7310]

Amazing. Thank you so much.

[@susanfromthemountains1754]

@@morenaflor7310 You're welcome, it's my pleasure. I'm happy to help, and thankful for your comment. 🤗🌸

[@LucasSantos-rb8qe]

Interesting

[@milapopovich6819]

Amazing Susan!

[@SA-px3ln]

You can’t do this if you absorb negative energy verbal abuse gaslighting til u react

[@miss_whipps]

I listened to this to prepare myself for my narc coming home from work. We had an "enthusiastic" fight at 5am and haven't spoken all day, so there is the tension of unresolved conflict in the air. Add the weariness of a long hard day and the attention seeking dramatics the narc brings through the door with him, and i'm anxious there will be a blow up. I don't want to react in a way that is unacceptable, angry, and bitter, and i know watching this video can help me stay focused on regulating MY behavior. Thank you for your dedication to sharing this wisdom!

[@abigailestherrobinson2204]

The more presence you cultivate before going into situations it acts as a protective barrier in an energetic way.

[@Sir-zl2nq]

the answer comes at 10 min:40 sec into the video - onwards ❤ wow thanks

[@nikkiswenson54]

Your beautiful energy lifts up people. I am grateful.

[@thealchemist0000]

Exactly the question I asked God today and the video appeared. Eckart Tolle is great Guru, I know about him but never listened to him until today. I’m facing the same with my family, they are amazing beings but something is shifting in me and I do participate in the toxicity and then feel miserable. Now I know where my lesson is. Thank you dear lady for asking the question and Thank you Eckhart Sir for the answer.

[@GulfIslandRock]

Thank you Eckhart it is so wonderful to hear your voice … gentleness expressed … gratitude.

[@lynettehoselton9519]

That was so good. Eckhart’s analogy and example of how to remain conscious and not fall back into unconsciousness.

[@gailmorgan2556]

This was a good reminder. He added to what he has said in his books and it was helpful. Love that waterfall scene at the end. So peaceful. Sometimes I bring a waterfall scene into my mind during very stressful situations or around unconscious people I am experiencing it from behind a waterfall. Part of the big problem around world situations or people is the resistance as he says. "This shouldn't be happening. I should be living on a different planet". I have survived much of my life just by knowing there are other planets and worlds where consciousness is more evolved. That helps long term LOL.

[@michakoodziej5741]

A great gift for the humanity, Eckhart Tolle.

[@عماد-ف3ذ]

Thank you very much, Eckhart, and thank you also to the girl for asking these questions because we are going through the same experiences

[@onewiththeuniverse1283]

I like your tone of voice. It's calm and peaceful.

[@escribanosystemic]

What arises «still is a manifestation of life". I loved that. Thanks to everything just the way it is. It is thought that way by something greater, like I am too. In all it's forms, it's always the expression of something greater.

[@CreativeCapricorn6]

What I would like to say is that I saw some "conscious" people acting like they are on a high horse around others. Trully awake or not this doesn't make you better than the next person. Stay grounded, down-to-earth-like, and you'll be fine.

[@beautylife310]

The point I get from here, if you cannot change it (except those extreme toxicant scenarios he mentioned), accept it, rather than feel frustrated / annoyed, once you accept it, you are at peace...Thanks for sharing.

[@laurierivera8089]

Eckart you are keeping me alive and Present. Thank You for You

[@gavinspeaks]

“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ” ― Simone Weil ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction KZbinr💜

[@auroravioletlight]

❤️👍

[@lalalala7706]

reality is not in the field of vision of loa preachers though.

[@cliffordjohnson943]

So true, when your able to enjoy your own company you internally become stronger and from my own perspective, it actually draws people towards you especially when you remain free and quiet from those who seek attention. It’s also easier to observe peoples behavior and let go of those who are in lower vibrations. We all experience lower vibrations from time to time but if we remain aware we can improve.

[@h2_kumar]

Thank you, Mr. Tolle, and to the lady in this teaching. As always, this is a timely teaching for me. Peace!

[@trevelinadelmar4534]

Amid toxic people/situations, i do not react or even reply to their prodding questions, unless it is with "I don't know ", maybe, is that so". But always keep repeating silently my inner mantra to myself : FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY DO. And that keeps me out of ego storms❤

[@justsomeguy6867]

Girl i feel your pain and sadness and i know what it is to be lonely i really do even if your surrounded by people at times i want you to know you are not alone there are many of us and i know you must have been nervous about reaching out to and i just wanna say bravo for doing so the universe will like that 😊☮️🙏

[@Kiw4765]

The feeling of having the VIBE with certain people who just have your same frequency is amazing 🤩 when you find it try never lose it

[@megajcprincess4718]

This is a very very good chat as I really needed to hear this.. So grateful to both of you for having this chat.. Much Love 💜💖💛💙

[@dammisen7599]

I felt very similar feelings to this woman. I've tried and worked hard for about 5-6 years with mantras like: "I dont judge and hate, and I dont judge and hate those who judge and hate." And "acceptence is the key". It work in immidiate interaction with unconsios people, but in the long run I felt like to much of my energy and time (meditations dedicated to this) went to try to accept people/situiations/ect that was not alligne with ME. So I made a decision to move out to the countryside, started working as a personal assistent to an old sweet lady, got 5 loving bunnies and doing gardening, yoga, meditation, doing music, buildning/renovating my house and only invite people in my space that I share similr values with. I dont have much money, but I dont spend much money either. I believe that if to much of your focus goes into trying to accept everything, instead of enjoying, then you are not living the life that is meant for you, thats my thoughts on the topic. Greeting from a 29-year old.❤

[@Chris-tc8sm]

Thank you for this explanation. Though I love your teachings and from the first time I ever heard them, something inside me knew them to be true and so I listen to them almost everyday and try to practise them as best as I can. However there were times I'd become very angry and negative because I felt that they weren't realistic. This because I was the scapegoat in my very toxic pathologically sociopathic family, and no amount of presence or love could help. But because of your teachings about being present in the face of unconscious people and present when another's pain body arose my escape from them and my recovery was hindered considerably and indeed it almost cost me my life. You see when a person has been born and raised in such a family and psychologically manipulated into staying in the family in adulthood due to a family business and them needing help etc, so the psychological abuse continues through adulthood, it is very difficult for such a person to discern things due to the split created in the person. So I looked to spiritual teachers people like you for help. And when spiritual teachers are always preaching things like forgiveness and love and the connectedness of all things etc without explaining that yes some people are just too toxic and even if they are family members if your physical mental and or emotional safety are at risk you can remove yourself from them then it puts people like myself at risk of being badly harmed and even destroyed totally. So thank you for that clarification and I would appreciate it if you could speak more on these extremely toxic people who even cause permanent damage other peoples mental health and even cost them their lives because many of us are born into families like this.

[@annstar4306]

I am from the same as you , still a dad 94 and his favourite daughter and child who is like him Sociopath and Narcassist, they are horrible beyond belief . You have to walk away and it's part of living in the world is to be true to you . Well done for this ,detaching can be painful but necessary , this is stillness for you and in my instance...me . Well done ❤️

[@johnkeller5163]

I have a similar family background with the great oxymoron called family business. From my experience, you as an adult must make a serious decision with family.members to either stay around family if and only if family is working to honestly improve from the past in bonafide steps to your satisfaction OR you must give the gift of leaving family members behind if things are truly still toxic and not improving. You then have the choice to see real friends to your satisfaction as well as make a solemn oath to make improvements in your life with explicit goals on your terms now. As an adult, you now have the power to be yourself into the future and seek help from people good to you taking responsibility to chart your life, to own personal mistakes while learning in steps, and to realize your goals with time and effort forward.

[@lightitupsweeney9627]

It has been years of struggle and frustration.. I’ve finally realized I had to surrender and flow. Learning detachment is also a very large part of what’s helped me. Understanding we are all here on our own journey and souls not ready to awaken just aren’t ready yet! Part of it is ur still in ur ego if u allow it to bother u!!

[@travisfrazier6918]

I was confused by what it meant to let go and surrender until my recent Ayahuasca experience. I had a lot of physical pain. I had a choice in each moment to be consumed by the pain and complain incessantly in my head until it was over or I could stop resisting and just be in the moment with each breath with gratitude and humility. It’s always a choice IF we are conscious. And then forgiving ourselves when we catch ourselves complaining and no longer in the moment. She mentions a growing sensitivity to being aware when she’s not conscious. This is a good sign and an indicator of expanding awareness. I’m sending love to you all. The key to humanity lies with people like you…..

[@elif.4199]

I like how she thanked him for asking the question. Made me realize how wonderful and beneficial questions are. I often see people getting annoyed and sometimes mad when being asked questions. The only time i hate being questioned is by the cops because i know their questions are only to incriminate me.

[@CarrieLuikens]

Wow, very interesting discussion! Great question. I have experienced all the things you both talked about. I live in a mostly quiet family oriented residential area within a fairly large city, but I also have noticed energetically heightened activity midweek. I had not realized this could be the collective energy of people around me. That is a helpful insight. I have learned from my yoga classes about accepting what is. One day we had the same experience of a leaf blower disturbing our peaceful yoga restfulness. Our yoga teacher said exactly the same thing - accept anything that appears as being part of the meditation process which we can simply observe and not react to. Of course we had to endure the 5 or 10 minutes the noise continued, but it did go away and then quietness returned again for the rest of the yoga session. Sometimes when things like that happen, it helps to laugh about it. A leaf blower starting up at the exact moment you are practicing quietude just might be one of those paradoxes of the Universe, presenting the opportunity I suppose to practice our spiritual techniques.

[@dottiebaker6623]

Recently, I took a friend to the Emergency Room, and we needed to wait several hours. In the room next to the one we were in, there was a young man struggling with some kind of drug or alcohol episode. He often cried out, literally bounced off the walls, was alternately becoming angry and in despair. There were 2 police officers waiting outside his room, there to ensure the safety of the hospital staff and others nearby. This went on for several hours. On top of my worry about my friend, this was pretty challenging to me. After a while I just began to say, internally, take away his pain, take away his pain, take away his pain. I did this in small part because I wanted his disturbance to end so I didn't have to hear it, but mostly I wanted his pain to be over so his life was easier. After about half an hour, he began to quiet down, and within an hour, he was quiet. I'm still puzzling over this. Was my energy expanding into his space? I was completely concentrating on being present with that situation and that thought.

[@gregorbaum5]

By allowing my self to feel it, there was transcends. So simple life can be but we inflict suffering on ourselves. Thanks for all your insights ❤️

[@wildsoulalice252]

Transcending the Northern Line is quite the accomplishment ❤

[@marthamagee2055]

Thank you Mr. Tolle.🙏 And thank you to the person who asked a very good question which many people can relate to and will be helped by the answer..

[@joannejohnson7006]

There is always a higher wisdom when hearing Eckhart speak of internal truth

[@brandondupuis8243]

Wow I'm going through that exact situation right now... I thank the Universe for showing me this video! Much love for all of you people 💜

[@quantumpotential7639]

The universe is awesome. It has a way of transmuting a part of itself through you where the full manifestation of you and the universe is fully expressed. Now let us pray 🙏

[@derekv1718]

The distinction between normal unconscious relationships and extreme unconscious is key. It's a workout for our emotional presence as long as we apply the correct workout for the situation

[@tkmastaaa]

Such a beautiful conversation they had. And what a great question. Thank you so much for sharing your insight. I find that even though it sometimes is hard to be around this toxicity, the beauty about interactions with unconscious people is also in those moments where you draw THEM to you. My shift in perception happened when i became aware of my discomfort from being an outsider. It's still a work in progress but i'm enjoying the aha moments throughout the process.

[@idiocrat8425]

"...the sun always shines on TV..."

[@crischui-so5292]

“By allowing urself to feel it, there is transcendence.” I am so glad he was able to tell us how to do it, and not give us fru fru jargon to do so. Sometimes spiritual teachers don’t give us the exact tools or language we need to move in this world. It was helpful to see regular daily interactions can be shifted simply by our thinking. We truly are the owners of how we see our world. Is the cup half full or half empty? You pick!

[@randomelvis3359]

Been doing this all my life…. Apply “Forgive them for they know not what they do” and make sure you meditate before during and afterwards 😂… if they irritate you, that’s so much more about you! ✨✨🙏🏻

[@AlexanderTechniqueMadeEasy]

It is important to have a practical way to embody awareness. Really important to be the influence and not be influenced. When we find our true centre, who can knock us off it? That’s impossible. If we are surrounded by ‘unconscious’ people that is not your issue. Do not judge. Remain in your awareness. But do not judge, as this will take you right off centre into a place that if you were truly conscious you would not go.

[@oneworldonehome]

"The power of Knowledge is with you. The Presence is with you. But everything in the world that has dominated you in the past and that dominates you now is also with you. And these things are leading you in different directions. Therefore, during your time of preparation, particularly at the outset, you will have to limit your exposure to people, places and certain things. This will require great restraint and great discretion, things that most people do not possess, for they do not have the strength to exercise these things. Here even your hobbies or your recreation must be reconsidered. Is it truly beneficial for you mentally and physically? Does it really give you reprieve? Does it really give you rest? Does it support your engagement with Knowledge? Or is it a form of escape, a running away? Many things actually fit this category and serve this purpose. Refrain from going to the movies, as they imprint you and fill your mind with powerful images that will make it more difficult for you to still your mind and begin to explore your inner life. See what music does for you. Rather than playing it all the time, see what kind of emotions, thoughts and feelings it arouses. Is it truly beneficial for you? Or does it remind you of your suffering, your longing, your desires, your disappointments? All these things must be re-evaluated because everything is having an influence upon you, and that influence is either helpful or a hindrance. Understanding this, then, gives you the criteria to re-evaluate all the things, people, places and influences in your life in a more objective manner, with greater clarity and discernment. If you are to have the freedom to live a life of greater purpose and integrity, you must gain this freedom, which has been lost to so many things. You must re-evaluate who you are with and what you do, how you spend your time and where your mind tends to go, and the influence and the effect of your activities upon you. Here you will see that many things that before seemed innocuous, or even pleasurable, really are a hindrance. This is really about becoming truly honest with yourself. It is not about having one perspective versus another perspective. This is not about having one belief or set of beliefs versus other sets of beliefs. It is really about becoming honest with yourself, honest at a deeper level. What is really the truth about your involvement with this person or this activity or this form of engagement with the world? To be really honest, you will see if something is beneficial or not, and you will see how and even if you must be engaged with it. Taking the Steps to Knowledge is a process of becoming truly honest with yourself and as a result honest with others-honest in your pursuits, honest in your values, honest in your communication with others, honest in what goals you set for yourself and why you set them. Honest. Knowledge is deep and simple because it is wholly honest. You are complex and confused because you are not yet wholly honest. Knowledge is strong, focused and powerful. Your mind is diffused, confused and set in opposing directions because you are not yet fully honest. You have not really come to terms with what you most deeply know and your true direction in life, which is all the product of becoming truly honest. It is not about having a better belief system. It is not about perspective. It is not about opinions and ideas, for that is all at the surface of the mind. We are speaking of something that is far deeper than the surface of your mind, something that is intrinsic to your nature-that which has brought you into the world and that which you will reflect upon once you leave this world, that which is most elemental and fundamental to your being here. As you take the Steps to Knowledge, you will have [the] opportunity to extend your honesty into new areas and to reconsider things you have always assumed or believed in without question. It is a very deep evaluation. Here you will begin to see that which is harmful and that which is helpful. Here you will value simple pleasures. And you will see the danger and the hazard of giving your mind and life away to things that have no real promise or purpose for you. Let this be your understanding." An excerpt from *Harmful Influences* - a teaching from 'The New Message from God' - as revealed to Marshall Vian Summers.

[@auroravioletlight]

Hello..🙏🏻 From one member of the greater community of worlds to another, thankyou for this posting and your time 🌎✨ I think it is comforting aswell as informative.

[@csjaybit]

Wow! SO long thread

[@defender7624]

Jesus Christ dude it isn’t all that complicated to of written a book! I didn’t read your entire tread because it’s too long but it almost sounds like you’re saying avoid everything. If that’s the case, I disagree. I think you should practice presence with everything goin on around you AFTER you’ve practiced enough presence in your life.

[@defender7624]

@@sky.9 No doubt! 🤣

[@JonKonik11]

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