the REAL reason you feel jealous or insecure in relationships

[@DiaJin]

Disclaimer: this is for when you recognized your own pattern. If someone is actually doing shady sh*t, by all means, don’t self-blame. ❤

[@abrilsanchez9512]

"If your anchor or house is not in myself and i keep putting it elsewhere im always gonna feel under risk or threat of becoming homeless" so powerful!!

[@kirakyouji1021]

I'm so tired of hating myself. I don't remember ever loving myself. It's kind of driving me crazy. I feel like hating myself is killing me

[@victorious1503]

100% - people aren't possessions and you must let them do what they want and then decide if you want that kind of behavior in your life. To rely on others for your happiness, sense of self, confidence, etc, is so very selfish. Live for yourself and beautiful things start entering your life. :)

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

This may or may not help others, but i realize that when i was comparing myself with others, i had a courage/confidence gap i needed to fulfill.

[@samihatariq7987]

The intro questions made me feel like you tapped into my soul 😭

[@saenxty]

I finally figured it out.. this video helped me so much. I'm honestly annoyed with how underrated it is. But thank you

[@a.alg20]

I needed this so much right now. I'm feeling anxious all day long because of my fears and jealousy but have no one to open up. Your words triggered so much in me and I think this is a sign to try everything you said. Thank you for your lovely but realistic words! ❤

[@FleurdeLys_Blue]

Jealousy because you do not grant another person something or want to take something away from the other person, that is never good and one must then work on oneself. Jealousy because someone threatens your partner's love for you is justifiable and not condemnable.

[@blackkitty1111]

I feel so scared because I didn’t feel safe, seen understood or truly appreciated by my last partner, so now I know I am just bringing baggage, I want to feel Free again, I want to go out with my partner without feeling that he would prefer to be with anyone else but me… I try to soothe myself thinking that whenever we go out, he already decided that nobody else will make him change his feelings for me, otherwise he would be going out alone, I hope that helps someone 😊 sending a hug to everyone here! Thanks for your video!

[@robertcriollo5625]

I’ve realized this at the start of the year and hated myself for it. To admit to myself that I’m selfish for always waiting for one person to be my source of validation/love but have always been a people pleasure seems so unfair to me. I just wanted people to like me, is that so wrong? In some aspect it is. Since then I’ve taken up a few hobbies trying to “self-improve” like drawing and fishing. I get really inconsistent with any goals I try to achieve but I’m glad I’m still putting in some effort, even tho it’s inconsistent. I’ll probably continue this journey for a long time but I do hope I’ll learn to be more self-fulfilled in the end.

[@abrilsanchez9512]

Absolutely love this!!! I needed this, i feel like not many people talk about this with empathy and its more common to just trash whoever deals with jealousy. It releases some of the shame i carry around

[@DiaJin]

I’m really glad you found it helpful. And you’re not alone in feeling this way!

[@sophiex4152]

I'm glad that after you analysed it, you actually acknowledged that knowing it logically and FEELING it are totally seperate. So many self-help videos or literature just tells you what you should be feeling ideally and to somehow bridge that gap without any actionable steps. Thanks Dia

[@oishikaray2767]

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[@QuingStar]

I found your channel yesterday and have been watching non stop. I'm a 35 married female who had overcome a lot in my 20 year relationship. Your topic points resonate with me deeply and its refreshing to hear a very mature and thought provoking individual sharing real advice. Thank you. Would love to see more ❤

[@DiaJin]

Aww thank you so much 🩵🫶

[@chouchou2056]

This popped up on my feed after trying to understand this dilemma within myself for the past days,and you honestly put everything into words so beautifully it made me better understand what's going on.The insight you gave is very simple yet creative and powerful too.Thank you Loved the video,new subscriber!

[@paulrivera5231]

“No matter what happens I will be fine” … I couldn’t agree with you more because … You are sooooooo fine !!! And gorgeous as well. Will I get in trouble for speaking the truth ???

[@ElitaMX]

I hate that I get so quite and jealous when my boyfriend talks to other girls.. They're laughing? It hits me hard.. Lets stop it

[@samelmudir]

Have to love yourself before others can find something to move about you. So you think social media has made this more difficult? because personal contact is on the decline and people try to find self worth online instead of in person

[@bigdaddylizzy]

Just discovered your channel and have been listening while taking daily walks on my lunch break…You have inspired me to show myself more love and grace. Thank you❤

[@DiaJin]

Aw reading this made my day. 🩵

[@ashlyn.nicole]

Thanks for helping me understand myself a bit more. Thanks for providing steps on how to tackle my issues!!

[@DiaJin]

Of course 🩵🩵

[@spacebuddy2363]

I just found this content a few minutes ago, actually, it's my time feeling and understanding my own self by the state of how I am feeling right now. You just spoke the words I've been meaning to hear and I truly... deeply appreciate it 🥹 I want to see more videos like this

[@leoniel6771]

Every word you said resonated deeply with me. Thank you for this incredibly helpful video - it truly shifted my mindset in a positive way. I’d love to see more content like this! ❤

[@DiaJin]

Aw I love reading comments like yours. Thank you for taking the time! 🫶

[@definitelyally4955]

You should try doing some podcast!!!! I love your speaking voice and contents❤

[@gunjansahu6150]

This is one of the most helpful videos ever for me and it's really worth a lot of money

[@ryanshannon7454]

Sure a great knowledge filled video. Thank you. Keep up the good work

[@brunosong5635]

Great video, thanks for sharing this!

[@Crafty_Rain]

This was very helpful. Thank you.

[@castielol]

Really good video, thank you ❤

[@lindaanozie1229]

I needed to hear this.

[@mariamjessica7528]

Your video is so helpful ❤

[@teenalebrun4595]

TY for this video, definitely helps

[@hobsyllwin2562]

Just what I needed. Thank you ❤

[@LangOne-n7c]

I thank you I hear this!!!

[@zoereid6086]

This video is so incredibly helpful 😭😭❤️❤️

[@DiaJin]

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[@gloriakwendo3879]

I loved this. Thank you ❤❤

[@marija5409]

Great video ❤

[@emekaachilefu036]

thank u so much for this

[@AnonymousSoH2]

Such a good video ❤

[@aya-tv6qg]

I love you thank you

[@michalmackowiak22]

Hello, the video really helped me. Thank you for this. Can you give me the name of the woman from tiktok clip? She seems very smart and I would love to watch all of the interview. Thank you!

[@Divyv520]

Hey Dia , i have send you the email have you received it ?

[@stephencirving]

The real problem is women’s jealousy and men’s jealousy is totally different. Men are not insecure when they are jealous, they are disgusted (towards girls) or resentful (towards guys). So because girls are insecure when they are jealous, they project that onto a guy when he’s jealous. So girls constantly pick guys who could not care less about them, as they will not be jealous but the girls will misappropriate the lack of jealousy with high confidence and lack of insecurity. When in reality it is just a lack of territoriality, or because of the level of disgust, pushes her into a place of such a lack of attraction, he then cares so little about her, is happy for her to be a ‘sleeper’.

[@stephencirving]

So if the guys not ‘jealous’ of other guys being around you. i.e. not ‘territorial’ he simply doesn’t find you attractive. And if he is jealous, it is not insecurity. It is disgust and anger. If you make him disgusted and angry enough times. He will lose so much attraction he will no longer want you. And it’s fast. You can be 10/10 attracted to a girl, see her foirt with a guy, immediately goes to 7/10. If he does it again, is about 2/10. The beat example I can think of is meeting a stunning girl, then you find out she’s a ladyboy or single mother. You’re not insecure. You’re immediately disgusted. In exactly the same way as seeing her be promiscuous or flirt with someone else.

[@stephencirving]

So if you are a girl and feel jealous, feel free to show the guy. We don’t care at all. But understand the dance you are dancing if you try to make him jealous. If it does, your attraction will forever be dropped in his eyes. It’s almost impossible to gain it back. Just like if a girl said: “I’m a single mother”. There’s almost nothing she can say or do past that to be as attractive again.

[@selflover6957]

I really wanna talk with you for the first time I feel some one knows me who can help me I really appreciate your video 🙏 if you are ok to talk with me please.

[@DiaJin]

Hi! feel free to DM me on Instagram “diajin”

[@Dee3shaw]

Watching this trying to figure women out

[@otsukaharu4501]

Maybe talk to your partner, because not all women are the same.

[@stephanie387]

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[@mirzabeg2274]

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[@frankyavery]

I used to be a jealous person but I can't tell anymore. I feel like I've worked on myself and I am not. Like what's the line between working on jealousy and allowing disrespect?

[@DiaJin]

I think we’re allowed to have our own unique set of boundaries. Especially within a partnership where each person has subjective preferences. However, I’d tune more into the inner experience of when jealous feelings arise. Does it feel upsetting but I am open to hearing the other person’s story and then determine if the jealousy is called for, or do I immediately panic and feel anxiety ridden, knowing this is tied to a sense of loss and abandonment fears. 🩵

[@hannycho2605]

I watched this special video every time i got jealous of my partner, and this made me calm and released.❤❤ Thank you for sharing your masterpiece advice🫶

[@DiaJin]

I’m so glad you find it helpful 🥹💗

[@melinduhhhhh]

The way you word things is amazing!! helps my perspective shift so easily. Thank you Dia!!!! 🤎

[@DiaJin]

I’m so glad to hear that! 🩵