How To Make Your Guy Realize He Doesn't Have You Hooked And Get Him To Invest Again

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

Guy “ Would you still love me if I was fat?” Me “ Who said I love you now?”

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Oh no I'm not having seggs with a guy only for him to leave after 2 months and then rinse and repeat. No ring no contract that we're married = no seggs

[@jennifermarieconnected]

Let’s get started, coach! This video captured the essence of a strategy meeting between two competing teams, featuring a woman and a man exploring the dating scene. However, I disagree with the idea that sex is necessary for a relationship; a meaningful connection can certainly form without it. The appeal of your video lies in the fun and playful exchanges that should define dating; it should be a delightful and carefree experience, not a source of anxiety.

[@erishposhclub]

This comes at the right time 😂

[@Princellachow]

Your videos are so on point! I ended up cutting it off while he had the power and was pulling away. Sadly he easily accepted it and we’ve never spoken since.

[@tess7798]

Great video!

[@caitahleen9281]

Eliot I’ve been watching for years, you keep me on track. I own my own home now and I’m still single lol 😂 not giving up yet

[@iamdannita]

Thank you! This video is very helpful 👏😁

[@sjgbrighton]

One of your best videos Elliott. I get stuck at the commit junction and it was hard to know what to do. And have the confidence to do it.

[@tiname1805]

What if an ex you still love comes back finally ready to give you all, but you started dating a good man and things look good, yet you are still curious about the old guy and feel much more secure about yourself and are wondering if the old relationship could be renewed with the new you?

[@catboxcleaner3532]

If I may share my experience? I still love my former husband. He came back three times after we divorced. After the first time he returned then left, I began dating another man, with whom I specifically shared my pain about my ex and how I didn’t want to have sex outside of a committed relationship because I want to be in love again. Like Elliott says here, this new guy sped it up, said all the right things, we agreed in front of another person that we were in a relationship (so I know I wasn’t imagining it), began a sexual relationship, and like Elliott also says here, the new guy slowed it way down, to the point of barely speaking or barely looking at me the moments we were together (non-sexually, because I stopped being intimate with him due to his actions), yet he would agree with what we both thought a relationship should be, had plausible excuses for his lack of engagement, but nothing changed and it was a real mind-fu**. I had to come to the point of being alright with losing him. It was during these off-times that my ex came back, but by the third time, it became evident that my ex was just using me for an ego boost, and why would I want someone who would treat me that way? I also told the new guy that I was no longer investing in building a relationship with him because there was no space for me to be accepted as I am in our interactions. My experiences highlight that when a man wants to be with us, nothing stops him from doing the work to earn us back, but if a man is hesitant or unsure, that man doesn’t want us. The new guy and I agreed we could try again to build a relationship, and he ramped up attention, but then veered toward requesting sex, which I am refusing because I know a man won’t buy the cow if he gets the milk for free; I want a whole relationship or not at all. So, I am filling my life with classes and concerts, and overtime at work, along with building female friendships to enrich my life and a path for myself, regardless of a man’s interest in me, I am creating for myself. I feel for you in your situation, being comfortable and in love with an ex who is trying to come back, versus trying something new with a good guy who we don’t know as well. My thinking is, if a man leaves us once, he will likely leave again, after using us as a filler during his search for a partner who is better fit for him. If he were serious about being with us, he would be with us, and we wouldn’t have to question his intent; we would know because he would act in ways to keep us. Just my two cents. Take care and best wishes for you.

[@morountodunokedara]

stay with the new guy , dont open a book you already know how the ending goes :/

[@zanecliffo3685]

Unless that ex has done a lot of work on themself why they couldn't give you what u deserve they are just coming back cos curious or other option didn't work out etc . I would stick with the new guy u know the other person has tendency to pull away ul just end up in thr same cycle again

[@jennifermarieconnected]

If I were to express my thoughts candidly, I've come to realize that individuals often return to former partners due to the comfort of familiarity, regardless of whether the past relationship was positive or negative. My strongest advice is that just because your ex has undergone some changes, it doesn't mean you should rekindle that connection. You currently have someone wonderful in your life; cherish and appreciate the person who has grown and evolved. The fact that your ex has changed independently of you speaks volumes-it's a clear indication that they could transform without your influence, which suggests that the relationship may not have been beneficial. I trust you will make the right choice, and always remember that you are a strong woman who has moved forward; resist the urge to look back and let emotions pull you into the past. “Men always come back when you moved on”

[@morountodunokedara]

@@jennifermarieconnected couldn't agree more !

[@kirstymacdonald3783]

Wow spot on ❤

[@MarinaM-o6p]

MARRIAGE IN US IN NOT TAKEN SERIOUSLY BY MEN …..TO THEM IS ALL “ a game” ..who gets to win in the end …who gets to keep their money , who gets to destroy the other party …..and so on ….

[@1crafter408]

If my ex brushes his hand against my cheek or kissed my forehead not too long ago, would you say that he has feelings for me even though he denies it? He says he has no romantic feelings for me yet he did those things recently…

[@cassiewilliams2041]

If his actions and words do not match up be on guard.. you're going to get hurt and he's going to mess you up in the head.. I know this from experience.

[@Esastujn]

It means he cares and respects you. Not necessarily desires you.

[@kimt8162]

What's the deal with guy who has the girlfriend, but when he's in your vicinity the girlfriend is "somewhere else" and he's bothering you. In his mind he's being nice. He thinks he's not exclusive so he'll talk to you, but then that lets other guys think you're with him when you're not?

[@jennifermarieconnected]

@@kimt8162 It appears to be a young man seeking validation through the attention of women rather than a mature individual. His claim of having a girlfriend holds little weight unless he demonstrates genuine commitment. This term is often employed by men to manipulate and bewilder women, functioning as a form of reverse psychology.

[@Errricccc]

Hi Elliot, do you have any content that covers how to have a FWB correctly, what expectations should be for communication, commitment to that type of relationship, etc.?

[@michelledavison2533]

🤦🏼‍♀️

[@lotus7313]

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[@Rueveyda93]

Fwb is almost about not having any kind of commitment in my opinion. Some day one of you will get hurt .

[@jennifermarieconnected]

I recently assisted a young woman in grasping the reality that a friends-with-benefits arrangement often leads to one person becoming overly attached. It's worth questioning why anyone would pursue such a relationship, knowing that the other person may ultimately take something precious and then walk away, or that you might choose to leave them for someone who can offer complete love. It's essential to seek a whole person rather than settle for half of someone's heart.♥️

[@Hannah.1911]

I think Elliot is a coach for commited relationships.

[@catboxcleaner3532]

This is exactly what happened with the person I am currently dating. Interesting and informative, Elliott. Thank you.

[@musicbrazilian7065]

Usually it is the man pushing for a relationship.

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

To get you to Not see other guys. Not because he necessarily wants to be exclusive with YOU. Sometimes it’s about control.

[@eveline_yoga]

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