How To Meet New People (Even If You're An Introvert)

[@MichaelJayValueInvesting]

Introverts become ridiculously talkative once you get to know them and discuss something they like.

[@Zeratul187]

Michael Jay - Value Investing True

[@ItsJJOLO]

Michael Jay - Value Investing you just defined me.

[@theweridohassan]

That’s a generalised statement that’s just backed by your own and the cognitive bias of others.

[@gus2182]

Hassan Miah yes, yes it is, but so is classifying people as introverts or extroverts

[@Oxytocin_]

Gyuston Exactly. I’m not an introvert, nor an extrovert.

[@-themordekaiser8658]

We Are NOt AntisocIal... We Are Selectively Social

[@seizieme]

deez nuts 👏👏👏

[@NclinedMuzaclly]

well said

[@SocialConfidenceMastery]

That's accurate for sure!

[@dvni3284]

I can make friends easy but with certaiN people lmao

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

Right. I actually love meeting new people but it has to be on my own terms. Being too obnoxiously-forceful whether you mean to or not is sure to make anyone who’s not exactly set up like that to pull back and not want to associate with you. So long as there’s mutual respect and appreciation for at least some degree of personal space (especially in the more incipient stages) it’s literally so calm. I write Bibles ranting and raving about not particularly enjoying the company of people I’m not familiar with but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to get familiar with them if we have some sort of shared/personal connection. It’s the social entitlement that can put more reticent/boundary-conscious people off and that’s where most of the frustration is actually directed. Meeting respectful new people isn’t actually the issue.

[@mightymight24]

I've been an introvert my whole life and I kinda want to change my lifestyle. I'm comfortable hanging out by myself and I don't hate it but I want to spend my youth socializing with others

[@twilight6189]

Same

[@sudinshrestha3767]

Same

[@rainydayz6429]

Same exact thing for all of us, I just don’t know how to even start going up to people to make casual small talk.

[@misosoppa3279]

Wow, this woman makes me feel so calm

[@yaboijuan4052]

This way she talks is very soothing. I could listen to her all day ☺

[@jedimmj11]

You haven't heard nothing yet. Close your eyes and listen to these sounds. Or keep them open, for obvious reasons kzbin.info/www/bejne/mIe5Y42hbZ2Vm7s

[@Miimu5210]

*me watching this while staring at a dimly lit screen in a dark room with blinds closed*

[@dtvfan24]

same

[@ketoking9435]

Same here,,,,it's sunny in UK and I'm indoors,,,,,but used to it now,,,as don't see a way out,,,

[@10DGjoHnSon]

Me too. 😂

[@MRTN13]

That depressing, not introvert m8

[@megumineatssand]

Same

[@edwardwilliams8238]

I listen much more than I speak and I've found that people are not shy to tell you their life story. I think most people would like someone to listen to them but that's hard to find . Introverts are not unhappy people, they just lack the desire to be noticed and out front. I love you all, you wonderfully quiet people❤️❤️❤️

[@jessicah3450]

Introverts make great friends because from my experience, we are great listeners. Remember there’s always two sides to any social interaction, the one speaking, and the one listening. Some extroverts seem almost compulsive when they talk and to talk a lot. Maybe from trying to talk over other extroverts. It’s refreshing for them when they find someone who isn’t as interested in talking so much, and willing to listen instead. Give up worrying about being too quiet and what to say next, and just listen to the other person. I think most people, extroverted or introverted, would benefit if more people learned the art of being a good active listener.

[@SocialConfidenceMastery]

Play to your strengths for sure!

[@atlantabaruah]

if you want to save time, video starts at 1:53

[@vhsghxul]

Thank u ❤

[@fari1830]

Introverts would certainly babble once someone discuss what they’re interested.

[@SocialConfidenceMastery]

You're so right!

[@ItsJJOLO]

I am introvert but I am not shy or scared to do public speaking. I just don’t want to speak to you in particular in this certain time. Doesn’t seem like I really need to. But if it comes to a point where I need to do public speaking, I do it. I really don’t care what they think.

[@jessicah3450]

As an introvert, especially if it’s discussing a topic that I’m interested in and passionate about. I could make speeches and debate classmates without a problem.

[@allstr8peopledeservetodie10]

Jessica Hill can’t relate. I take all pre ap classes and very smart but my anxiety gets the best of me

[@virgil4043]

No man, people just don't like talking to me. I try like hell to be nice and tell others how much I appreciate them and I'll drop everything to help total strangers. But when it comes down to it no one ever reaches out to me. I feel so alone. And going out in public talking to people I've never met before and have no idea where to begin it makes me stumble on my words and people are even more put off by me then

[@allydeo4388]

One thing I really get sick of is being the only person willing to make the approach, make the effort of talking and getting to know people, and the person doing absolutely nothing to engage in return. I do agree that going to places like Toastmasters, where the people are more likely to have a conversationalist mindset will help

[@thexplosifbrosif8031]

Video: Ask youself how can you make people feel comfortable. Me:... By leaving them the hell alone, duh.

[@tanishjain9190]

Hello from an introvert!

[@TEXAS74671]

Tanish Jain Hi

[@16soccerball]

Hello. I see you like youtube also.

[@lidijadjurkesac7617]

Hiii

[@vietnammg]

Batman is an introverted superhero however with an extroverted public persona. An otherwise introverted Bruce Wayne would have never made it as a business man. As long as you embrace your introversion while working on developing your outward persona, you’ll be fine. It’s like having a personality switch inside. Social fluency is a skill that can be learned, even if your social altitude remains forerverly introverted.

[@jessicah3450]

Interestingly, introverts are better at playing an extroverted role than extroverts are at acting introverted. Most introverts know because extroversion is seen as a positive trait in our society; we’ve had to fake being extroverts during events like job interviews. I can’t think of a time when an extrovert would be expected to act introverted, actually.

[@frog6054]

Well, not everyone wants to became a millionaire, I just want a quiet peaceful life.

[@moritzschroder]

I actually really like that more and more "main stream" channels focus on personal development topics. Means also more viewers for real personal growth channels like mine 😀

[@-Mizuki-.]

I’m a introvert, and when I want to get along with some new people. But whenever I wanted to speak, I never have the courage to do that.

[@tobubiify]

I'm an introvert and an antisocial Yet i really interested in public speaking And yes, i also have that "how to make people comfortable" way of thinking But i think that people more comfortable when they don't speak to someone who doesn't know how to speak like me lol So yeah, i stuck in that loop, since high school

[@mynameisliana]

The animations are so cute! I love when they went to the museum together. 😂

[@sonujossyabraham]

I'm an introvert and 00:33 what she says is 100% true.

[@GamingWorld-eq5kp]

How are you doing after 6yrs in life?

[@charlottebailey99]

im an introvert too so one thing that helped me was meeting people in guestmatch for example, everyones looking for the same thing and i like that we can match on common interests

[@whiterun_guard1634]

internet is an odd place, one minute you're looking at dank memes the next minute you know How to meet New people (Even If You're An Introvert)

[@carpenoctem775]

Don’t hate people, just not a social butterfly. Only know people I’m connected with. (Family, work, etc.)

[@davethursfield9283]

She has written a book called Quiet: the power of introverts. I listened to the audiobook. Good as I remember.

[@SocialConfidenceMastery]

It's definitely a great book!

[@stellacarrier8341]

Being a person who would love to go from being an introvert to more extroverted andor outgoing I am happy/extremely joyful to find this video pertaining to meeting new people.

[@TNT46DOG]

As an introvert I can attest, we LOVE extroverts! most if not all of my closest friends are extroverts and like being around them as often as possible.

[@Vyrion_Edits]

Theres something i hate, everyone knows im shy, if i just, changed, it would be weird, its really not hard being someone better, nicer, flirty or all that, but the change, is embarassing I guess?

[@ItsJJOLO]

Introverts unite! For we have learned how to connect with people, we no longer need to make that joke of ‘in there homes!’

[@rinzler4706]

I read your book Quiet last year and I absolutely loved it!

[@sandeeepkiran1130]

OMG your voice. I just love it. Its so lovely😍

[@Mr._Ramos]

Probably the best video on KZbin about making new friends! Thank you very much for sharing this information. Life is about relationships 🙂 So I’m trying to make the most of it

[@Positivepworkouts]

Wow great lesson. I will try to shift my mindset in social situations. Thank you so much

[@harami7348]

Introvert are more talkative with you When you know those inner secrets✌️

[@atlndnballer123]

Wow, very practical, helpful tips, thank you so much!!

[@hummienoon]

I have a problem with public speaking. One time I was presenting in front of my class and I started stuttering and it turned into me getting teary eyed for no reason whatsoever, so I wanna try and fix that because it was very embarrassing. ;(

[@mikavinci]

but.. where are these parties and meetups when you have no friends or coworkers.

[@Ned669]

One thing that kind of makes me chuckle is the CEO’s with planes that could have just set up conference calls. One can “travel” quickly with the use of internet. I essentially hop around the world with youtube for the sake of learning from many people.

[@dhrupalpatel731]

Ned-669 my dad’s a business owner and I usually travel with him when it come to business meetings. He can make conference calls but it’s something about meeting people face to face that you see the truth or even connect better with people.

[@Ned669]

Dhrupal Patel valid point. I just appreciate the efficiency in cost and time with the internet. I do understand though there’s definitely times for face to face meetings.

[@slayqueen3574]

Dear Lord please protect your people. Thank You and I Love You so much Papa Jesus and Mama Mary always and forever Amen ❤️

[@rafyjr5596]

im an introvert & i want to meet people

[@kgrrgbkg]

Thank you. This was very informative.

[@KaylaPearlCPNinja]

I have the book she has written regarding introverts like myself in this extroverted world.

[@ussessu]

How can i make the people around me comfortable?? That does not make sense to me. I'm looking for a way to connect with other people. How to create a relationship that is something more than acquaintances?

[@barryisland5942]

Useful tip .... if you're nervous about speaking in front of an audience, wear a pair of glasses that makes everything fuzzy.

[@jessicah3450]

Oh my gosh then you have the added anxiety that you can’t see! But hey if it works for you, go for it. Funny, I’m very camera shy (I can’t see my audience through the camera), but I do better making speeches in front of an audience. Maybe it helps that I can see their reactions. In speech classes, I liked picking out just one acquaintance or one person from the audience who seemed engaged in what I was saying, and pretended that I was just talking to them (without staring at them to the point of creepy).

[@FormallyCrippled]

Susan, I like you. I’ve read your books, I follow your blog, but I just noticed you have an Adam’s apple.

[@Zodiase]

How to make the people around me comfortable? Like... Me leaving?

[@ashab6101]

Only reason why I tend to not socialize is because I find majority of the people around my age group (13-18) tend to be more annoying than anything.

[@siyabongasibanyoni]

This is very helpful. thank you

[@mooooooooooomooooooooooomo6829]

dont ask what can i give you? ask what can you give me? in your mind of course

[@Adam-hs9ft]

I've mostly gotten rid of my social anxiety now (there's still a few things that trip me up on this but I'm sure I'm further than I was back when I occasionally struggled to talk to people I'd known for years lol), I just don't actually know how to meet people cos it's not like I'm gonna start talking to random people on the streets and I don't really get invited to things so social events are probably out the window too

[@Noneblue39]

do the key is to shift the mindset?

[@AmberlyKay]

I need this

[@youraverageguy5426]

Me: Oh boy, as an introvert, ill get to meet new people after this video Also Me: Nahhh, ill just stay home, in my bed

[@jessicah3450]

Wah, sometimes just the thought of meeting new people is overwhelming enough to drain my energy to the point that I’d much rather curl up with a good book. People do come up to me and talk to me though. I get told that I seem like a nice person to talk to. Maybe because I listen more than I talk, and all these extroverts really want to be heard. There’s always two sides to a social interaction. Never underestimate what great listeners introverts can be 🙂.

[@kheido8517]

YourAverageGuy haha ..i know exactly what are you trying to say.

[@quentinwach]

Life is a full time networking event if you are doing it wrong. Be like me. Never leave your bedroom. Avoid contact of any sort at any cost. Period.

[@MrSamwiseable]

Quentin Wach that’s terrible advice lol

[@quentinwach]

Exactly

[@Minney-Me]

2:10 ha I needed to hear that.. 😂

[@estroknot]

It's very hard 😢

[@nikhilck629]

She's amazing

[@afedumm]

my mentality is that, people must meet me, not the opposite

[@chromeextension7516]

Thats something amazing!

[@DAClub-uf3br]

I have signed up for toastmasters but i can't imagine speaking in front of them more than anyone else.

[@neogoats8738]

I'm not in these type of situations. How do I get into these type of situations?

[@kunntakentay]

What if you’ve never taken the small steps to prepare for public speaking and all of a sudden you find yourself getting married next week and must share your vows on a microphone in front of hundreds of people? How does an introvert manage that???

[@Me-ec9uz]

The statement "how to make people comfortable around us" ... Yes it is. I used to use that method, but at that time I was too much so that I always thought "I have to always make them comfortable" so I couldn't bear it when they were angry, and one day someone was angry, suddenly I was hurt all day and overthinking. . And in the end I chose not to use that statement anymore ... Yeah and now I'm an introvert yaaalll and I'm really scared to use that statement again

[@ЦветославПаскалев-д9х]

Thanks, I really nedeed to hear that

[@adijayaification]

Thanx Business Insider

[@creativefoxstudio7172]

Who knows the pain of introverts 😭

[@hariharingesus7409]

Ok,,,,I’m antisocial… I’m introvert… I’m easy anxiety and always scared meet or make eye contact with people even close people…. Somehow i always talk with myself. I forget my reality world,I’m always in my fantasy mind. I’m shy,I’m nerd(always study and read book,because I’m prefer focus my mind to a book then a people),I’m love silence,I’m love sleep then meet people…. I’m not feel lonely because I’m love alone. Im always nerveous with people but if I meet animal, I always cuddle with animal especially a cats. I’m realize I’m antisocial,because I’m always panic attack when make eye contact,sudden get touch(handshake) and always sweat when talk with stranger even friend. The point is… I’m just want to be more open,and not be antisocial,because I’m comfy with alone,that freak me out…. I can be alone for 1 month without meet people or talk… and it’s bad thing…. People see me as a weird…idk…. And why I’m write this

[@thomaswang]

0:16 'how do I make people around me comfortable?' 0:22 *hand* *movement* *of* *the* *girl*

[@cr-ic3qv]

Thomas Wang 😂😂😂

[@jerichosamurai]

It's not that I'm not fun at parties, it's that nobody told me there was one. 😞

[@Cortesevasive]

You are literally me.

[@quartytypo]

Why do you want to meet new people? Other people have met them before you. They're used. OK, after the meet-and-greet, what are you going to do with them? Are you going to grab their arms and swing them around? Lift them up like you are bench-pressing them? Put them on your shoulders and take them everywhere you go for the rest of the day? What are you going to do with them?

[@Robert-3691]

I'm blown away by this content. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and it was truly incredible. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@khanmashtura]

Great video! :)

[@yukhimli1807]

Just look good and ppl ard will do most of the work trying to befriend you. The hard part is picking out the real friends and shaking the annoying ones.

[@jessicah3450]

I try to avoid really good looking people because they seem to be superficial. Maybe that’s a bias of mine because I’ve known nice people who were also nice looking. But just in general, their personalities don’t match their looks.

[@LunarAerospace]

I just get so nervous that when I try to make a joke I don’t fully pronounce everything or I’m too quiet and when I try to say it again it comes out jumbled and I sound insane

[@Phlegethon]

sounds right

[@ebuslamentee5963]

What if I make friends by breaking in to other peoples houses

[@daniels7861]

Hopefully, this is working

[@jameslaufer1809]

3 seconds in, I'm already perplexed. When in life do you just happen to be at a party? and happy hour is great if you want to go eat for cheap, but has nothing to do with meting someone.

[@no89lan3]

I don't have a hard time talking to people. I just feel like I can't connect with 90% of people.

[@dumpster9048]

How do I make people comfortable when I myself am not?

[@jessicah3450]

Taking deep breaths, speaking from your diaphragm helps you get more oxygen and makes your voice sound stronger. It has a natural anti-anxiety effect. Practice relaxing one muscle group (discreetly) at a time. Like your hand, or wiggling your toes in your shoes, and then relaxing them. Sit or stand in an “open” position, not with your arms crossed (that is a “closed” position). It makes you seem more confident even if you aren’t feeling it. I wiggle my toes in my shoes to release what I call my nervous energy, and I make sure that I have my back straight, and am taking deep breaths. It takes practice, but it works. There are many ways to self-soothe. Find one that the other person is unlikely to notice. Also know that the other person is probably nervous and uncomfortable meeting new people too. I know plenty of extroverts who still dread meeting new people.

[@SteffB87]

Unfortunately I dont go to cocktail parties during this pandemic

[@marymotherofgod4861]

She’s awesomw❤

[@xjosec1231]

What about if u an introvert but u stutter

[@seizieme]

Look up "School for Stammerers" by ITV. Make sure you have a tissue nearby. Your eyes will need it.

[@TalesOfGod]

Jose Castro Practice talking online, don't shut up. Keep trying and take your time. Say your words slowly, try to relax. Sometimes, people who stammer are trying to say too much or are too nervous.

[@jessicah3450]

I stammer when I’m nervous. It’s the worst how it makes me more nervous, so I get in a cycle to the point that I can’t even get words out to finish my sentence, even though I’m trying to push them out. I find that pausing, taking a deep breath, then finishing what I was saying helps. I think the anxiety brought by how we think we might stutter then makes us stutter more. I get a weird look sometimes but I mostly do it around strangers who I will probably never see again. Like the other commenter said too, I do feel like I’m trying to say too much too fast, then it leads to the stutter emerging. So again, just stop talking, close your mouth, take a deep breath, then try to finish what you were saying. It gives your brain some time to catch up and get over that bump. I’ve never had any speech therapy because “females don’t have that problem”, and I don’t ch-ch-chop my words as much as I just lose my ability to speak and operate my mouth totally. Once I recover, if it was a bad episode, I apologize and say I just lost my train of thought, got a bit tongue tied, am tired, or had a brain fart.

[@transformers7891]

I want so much to have alot of new friends

[@elliottmiller3282]

I think this is confusing introverts with socially awkward. I consider myself an extrovert but I'm still awkward and insecure. I also think that people in general have few close friends. We just don't have the mental capacity to manage many relationships.

[@maydotelomay7149]

Nice

[@miqueiassilvanascimento7331]

Ótimo vídeo

[@Thomas-1023]

This is absolutely outstanding. I read a book with similar content, and it was truly outstanding. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@seetecktee]

I got thrown into a public speaking competion rip

[@Mubashir12-fz7rz]

Meeting

[@iloveramennoodle01]

Where can i meet a people??

[@saad8774]

Yo it’s my idol Susan

[@ClockworkRBLX]

nah

[@malliahreyn8429]

Soooo basically...fake it to make it. Saved you 3 minutes ☕

[@pollarr3240]

❤️❤️

[@nouv0]

Be good looking.

[@agoblintrippingonhorrordus145]

Cocktail party?? Bich I work at a gas station 😂

[@nickc6095]

How do introverts make more friends? They don't...

[@geoffreyengatkinson]

Introvert insider

[@premm4777]

What just happened 🤔

[@Ab-fi5bh]

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