7 Ways to Make a Conversation With Anyone | Malavika Varadan | TEDxBITSPilaniDubai

“We mustn’t speak to strangers.” Malavika Varadan, challenges this societal norm, by presenting 7 ways to make conversation with anyone.
RJ extraordinaire, Malavika Varadan, creates waves quite literally with her morning show, Breakfast No.1 on City 101.6. An avid fitness enthusiast, positivity ninja and drama queen, she has chiseled a benchmark in the radio industry. At TEDxBITSPilaniDubai she will choose to redefine connections.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@LakshmiDevi-ow5pp]

A hi from an introvert to all introverts:)

[@saurabhrawat3939]

Hey dear :)

[@sazelfbeifong7639]

Hiiii

[@shurbeto8345]

Heyy😛

[@erosennin2162]

I'm an ambivert. Hi.

[@akshaykumawat2910]

Hi😄

[@farooq5176]

After watching this I started a conversation with an stranger and he is still taking to me, now I am searching for how to stop the conversation😅😂

[@varchasva4829]

Btw nice question. The end is always remembered weather its good or bad. Things happned before doesn't matter if you have f ed up in end. Lol

[@mdr_vishnu4733]

😂

[@TheEnglishOpedia]

😆😂😂😂

[@farooq5176]

@@TheEnglishOpedia funny isn't it...😆😆

[@TheEnglishOpedia]

@@farooq5176 yup 🤣😂🤣😂

[@zakariaesadiki970]

1. Just do it 2. Skip small talk, ask personal questions 3. There is no room for negativity, instead find the things in common 4. Give a honest unique compliment 5. Ask for a simple opinion 6. Be present, eye-contact 7. Remember their details (Name/place ...)

[@ProfOdin]

Appreciate it !

[@happy_biird]

i was gonna watch the whole video again to note the points. You saved my time. Thanks stranger. BTW where are you from, where do you live?

[@nassermj7671]

Shukria Bhai

[@Jim-pu7nq]

Thanks a lot 👏

[@Rd-88]

​@@happy_biird he's probably from earth

[@PHNascimentoFS]

“ppl forget what you do, what you say but never forget what you make them feel” that’s a such lesson

[@DJK-cq2uy]

Wow...never heard hat before😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 🤡

[@DVelter]

​@@DJK-cq2uy Wow.. you're smarter than evrybody else 😮😮🎉🎉

[@DJK-cq2uy]

@@DVelter 🤡

[@sakshi9w]

Her - Eye contact is where all the magic happens. Me - eyes contact is where all the awkwardness starts 😂

[@indigobrain7450]

True 😂😂

[@abhinaysingh7205]

Very true

[@changeeyecolor3891]

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@aggie47]

😂😂😂😂

[@zacharykraus6161]

Honestly it’s more awkward when you don’t look someone I’m the eye when you talk to them

[@janna1739]

"Make the eye contact" Introvert have left the chat

[@DiamanteDea]

i love to make eye contact :)

[@deepaklokhande2536]

Me too 😓

[@founderofself]

Haha damn

[@sauravmobarsha5760]

Otaku spotted.. Shelter

[@KASKhan_]

*Sociopaths have left chat*

[@abhishekjoshi800]

Who's watching this in 2024

[@Yourfavoritecheerleader]

I am 😊

[@Gdsgdgdgdggdg-sm8il]

Me

[@nuwatuhikizekevin7231]

Me

[@jayaramkancharla7073]

😂

[@meetsachu]

Me, very useful

[@anandprakash4740]

That was so good and motivational when se said "what starts with Hello and ends up with marriage proposal."😂☺

[@richardsucgang4712]

Exactly haha

[@steveunderhill5935]

It’s a warning

[@CrazyIrishDrunk1]

I was a very social child, I was pretty popular at school too because I could easily hold a conversation with anyone and got along with everyone. As I got older I sort of lost that social ability. I'm not anti social, I can talk to people. Indeed I find it easier talking to strangers than some family members! But I'm working on getting my old social skills back and thankfully I succeeded. How? The only way I can explain it is: Learn not to care, learn not to be nervous, learn not to be afraid of silences and just let conversations flow naturally. Humans are social creatures, just let it come naturally. You are what you imagine yourself to be, so imagine yourself as social and talkative.

[@ahnaftahmid9115]

dude u just opened my eyes, the part where you said you are what you imagine to be really hit me

[@mksingh3116]

I have the same story,too!!!! But the difference is that I haven't yet suceeded in getting back that social ability, but ur comment made me feel that I'm not alone, I'm pretty sure, I'll get that back, soon... thnx, man!!

[@CrazyIrishDrunk1]

Yep, you are what you imagine yourself to be. Your mind is very powerful, use it to your advantage! you can be whoever you want to be!

[@CrazyIrishDrunk1]

it will come, don't worry. Its also important not to blame social awkwardness only on yourself, it could be the other person who has the social issue and not you. It takes two to have a conversation. Your certainly not alone, every single person alive has had social awkwardness in their lives, everyone, from celebrities to politicians, everyone!

[@bethanydusciuc2148]

Same!!!

[@chaliejoy224]

Plot twist she walks off stage and never talks to anyone that whole day

[@jayarfa8453]

Hahaha

[@deepb5204]

lol funny

[@nKLsblahvlahblah]

😂😂😂

[@DaShizization]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@1kinyanjui]

Cha Robertson 😂😂😂

[@livaiwebert9823]

it's not complicate to talk with stranger it's complicate to talk AGAIN with the same stranger🤣

[@jayasuryaraj]

👍

[@CassandraLangley]

I say the opposite. It's harder to talk to a stranger at first rather than talking to the same stranger again.

[@veroscript]

1. Just do it 2. Skip small talk, ask personal questions 3. There is no room for negativity, instead find the things in common 4. Give a honest unique compliment 5. Ask for a simple opinion 6. Be present, eye-contact 7. Remember their details (Name/place etc

[@oneandonlysd5061]

how to get someone to like you:

[@user-qk4ov3ik6e]

​@@oneandonlysd5061 be real and always have respect for the one you like whenever you have conversations with them

[@shutdahellup69420]

"remember their details" My ADHD: "Allow me to introduce myself".

[@tanmaydeshpande5748]

Her : hey werent we in the same school? Me : yeah.. 5 mins of awkward silence Me: so what school were you in?

[@xhosawithinga]

Hahaha. I'm lauhging out loud and I'm in the Library. Eish.

[@nikhat.parveen001]

😂😂omg that really made me laugh

[@palenyang1950]

so funny

[@Vaxom]

this comment did sweeten up my day, thank you.. so good

[@Sujitha30]

@@xhosawithinga 😂😂😂🤦‍♀🤣🤣🤣

[@youknowwho7253]

Is it weird that I'm more comfortable with talking to strangers than the people I know? I just feel their judgment won't affect me at all and therefore I can be myself around them since there is a very low probability of us meeting again.

[@hiidupiidu3292]

meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@kanushi1365]

OMG I feel the same exact way. Glad to know that I am not alone.

[@innersoul9464]

I just say things that I have never say to my friends to someone I met on Internet

[@eugeneeugene3704]

Wow I want to develop this skill😂

[@wannabyul2109]

I can approach strangers and talk to them but I don't know how to approach with acquaintances whom i rarely talk to/didn't have the chance to talk personally, it becomes really awkward

[@emerald9054]

What I love about this is that she didn't target an audience with the mindset that they were insufficient in some way to explain their difficulties communicating with strangers. She just focused on teaching how to converse from the perspective of making it better no matter what your background. That demonstrates a high level of emotional intelligence.

[@harshitjhalani765]

I watched this video 2 years ago as an introvert to know how to initiate convos and it was very impactful, now here I am in present watching it again as an extrovert, just to understand what an extrovert is doing wrong while talking and I must say this video can be watched from both perspectives. 😊

[@aninditabhunia395]

I love how she speaks so smooth without any hesitation.Speaking is a SKILL.

[@69aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

its a speech but yea shes good

[@yashbhatiya9923]

How to speak fluently English language

[@avatr7109]

LOL you don't know RADIO CITY 101? she is the radio host she obviuosly sppeaks while in sleep too

[@Sudopia8372]

bas kar my girl

[@Sleviron]

speaking is a SKILL DURR

[@humudu]

I took the advice and said HI to someone with a huge smile on my face. She got a shock because i said it so loud, then just looked without responding, so i kept smiling as hard as i could and kept staring at her. She said she would call the police

[@yuki0989]

humudu maybe the way you talked with her scared her , because nowadays many terrible things happen and most women don't feel safe

[@kkkkkkkkkk955]

wait... maybe because you didn't smile with the forehead?

[@Noone402]

now i'm laughing and sad too

[@alinan538]

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[@WandersNotLost]

😂

[@jamiluddinmiju]

That line "conversation can make war, conversation can make peace" respect mam❤❤🇧🇩

[@HarpaAI]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 📚 Conversations are like links that form a World Wide Web connecting us to strangers. They define who we are as a human race. 02:20 🗣️ Starting a conversation with a stranger requires enthusiasm, positivity, and a simple greeting like "Hi" or "Hello." 03:26 💬 Skip small talk and ask personal questions to create a deeper connection with the other person. 06:42 😄 Pay unique and genuine compliments instead of using common words that people have become immune to. 08:47 🤝 Find common ground with the other person to make them feel comfortable and engaged in the conversation. 10:23 🤔 Ask for the other person's opinion on something generic to open up a two-way street of communication. 12:01 👀 Be fully present and make eye contact to establish a deeper connection and show genuine interest in the conversation. 13:01 📝 Remember and use the other person's name and other details about them to show care and investment in the conversation. Summary by HARPA AI 🧬

[@naveenswarnkar4180]

Thanks a lot for writing this amazing conclusion, you made for this loving TED Talk! God Bless You because no one like you on this planet Earth!

[@SomeCatFromFrance]

Wow, probably the best Comment Bot ever on youtube!

[@Lightupyourworld.7]

Thank you So MuCh Harpa AI! :)

[@swinxfee]

You know you're confident when no one laughs at your joke so you do it yourself 😂

[@Iamkay01]

Simply Sookie 😂😂

[@savalaslindsey274]

Simply Sookie Haha

[@parulkhanduja1789]

Simply Sooki

[@eileenbyrne1315]

Simply Sookie my little pony

[@madhukarparit9285]

Simply Sookie Bhimrao

[@aliunal1732]

Her: Ask personal questions! Me: So... what is your bank card number?

[@anonymous.990]

🤣🤣

[@kelvinechweya7865]

😂😂😂

[@popurichandrasekharrao5442]

😂😂😂

[@nihalg23]

Let me know when you ask them.....after then i will ask their atm pin🤣🤣

[@EpicRobloxTomboy]

Me: "abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz. Annnd, what's your social security number?"

[@nguynnguynee]

Within 15 minutes she solved all the problems I was having in communication, which I spent time watching many youtube videos to be able to improve but couldn't until after watching this video I realized out many things. Thanks you so much!!!

[@arshitsharma3193]

This video >>>>>>>>>>> my whole one month learning of soft skills classes

[@SumitMirpuri]

You live on earth too?! We have so much in common.

[@kirannakarmi1149]

I'm from the same galaxy dude!

[@ronitology7]

Me too from same earth👍😀

[@luisfelipecorrea4219]

And that's how I met your mother kids.. 🤣🤣😂

[@mma8113]

😂😂

[@angelinajack]

sumit mirpuri 💀💀💀

[@Soulful_songbird]

Things I learnt from this:- 1. Just ask questions what you want. What's the worst thing can happen? 2. Skip small talk and ask personal questions (you will be surprised how much people are willing to share if you ask them) 3. Find the "me too"s 4. Give a compliment (mostly on what thinks they give efforts in for example makeup) 5. Listen to their answers and add your opinion or thoughts about it. 6. Make eye contact (see one eye at a time and move the the other afterwards) 7. After they say their name say their name (for example - hi paul!)

[@codeinout9438]

What is Mee too's

[@Soulful_songbird]

@@codeinout9438 That means when someone says something try to relate to it. For example your friend said I hate coffee and you too actually hate it so you say me too! This can help you be likable too as well as it can start another conversation too like your likes, dislikes, etc

[@solvetheproblem1448]

"A conversation is like reading a book, you can turn to any page you want. You can flip to you favorite chapter, you can read as long as you want and you can read what you want. And every person trust me is a really good book." Wow

[@ReelFusionbySupun]

1. The first-word flood gates 2. Skip the small talk 3. Find me toos 4. Pay a unique compliment 5. Ask for an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name, Place, Animal, Thing

[@Saveg36]

not very helpful without context

[@gabardjean-paul3779]

Thank you Bro. !

[@bharatjl]

Thanks

[@nikhilboddu5472]

I was searching for it..thanks bro

[@muhammedhosnyessa8002]

Thnx

[@abdulazizmuradi9390]

it's my 6th YEAR watching this multiple times every year, and I AM in love with how she explains it with so much enthusiasm

[@beyourself7085]

what to do when someone have stammer prob... I want to get out of it.... I want to be a artist, public speaker, RJ type. I've all qualities to do everything... but stammer will ruin my life n carrer...

[@princess.s.6018]

​​​@@beyourself7085simple! Just be confident and BE YOURSELF

[@AmanSharma-sn8js]

I love how when she smiles - it is preceded with her eyes starting to sparkle then followed with a HUGE warm smile.

[@adititakale5790]

I've heard somewhere, "A stranger is a friend you haven't met yet."

[@ipapergrey6654]

Or... Your... Next victim....

[@sithumiperera5212]

@@ipapergrey6654 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🙈

[@c.mirashi]

if he/she's a friend so how he/she is a stranger??

[@adititakale5790]

@@ipapergrey6654 😂😂

[@adititakale5790]

@Joey M true😂👀

[@elfyelfy5264]

Me trying to make a conversation : Me: hi Her:hi Me: how are you Her: good and u Me: good .30 second silence.. -how are you now Edit: the fact that I’ve certainly communicated with 1,100 people because I cannot communicate with people🤝

[@peepee.poopoo]

lol

[@prajwalkhokale6742]

lol

[@sudarshanjoshi8127]

😂😂😂

[@-Naveenchalla]

😂😂

[@sholagebeya2863]

I love you

[@cagla3360]

fun fact: I was in the audience of this ted talk. when she told us to stick our head and tell the person next to us "hi!",there was a man sitting right next to me. we had an awkward laugh and said our hellos and learned each other's names. after 3 years of dating, we are now married for 4 years :) so yeah, go ahead and meet strangers.

[@muteebakhawar3500]

The way she speaks... Just OMG 😱 so, smooth and energetic 🎉. She completely an enchanter ❤😂.

[@theresamorley14]

Her enthusiasm about every stranger just being a wealth of knowledge and new experience has lessened my social anxiety a lot. Thank you.

[@-blackcherry3918]

True

[@preetpatel2186]

u are shutup

[@MAX-de8fe]

@@preetpatel2186 woah

[@connorfrankston5548]

Well, that is in fact true, when you happen to be a highly attractive woman.

[@carbonxkiwi]

@@connorfrankston5548 that's what i was thinking: how these techniques would go for other demographics...

[@moa3810]

"Every single person in your life was once a stranger to you" - Including your parents and siblings!

[@shikang6525]

确实

[@loturzelrestaurant]

@@shikang6525 Do you know Hbomberguy, i wonder?

[@belindajardim3145]

My parents r now deceased and my 3 siblings r now my enemies

[@simon_777]

@@belindajardim3145 first of all I seriously hope you're not serious, also I have to ask are you Portuguese? Cause your name looks very Portuguese to me.

[@suchipamarthi2940]

Exactly

[@b-6870]

9:31 I came to this video after watching a shorts consisting of this part. And must say, YOU REALLY DID A GREAT JOB BRINGING THIS UP cuz believe me, today, almost everyone gives compliments without even meaning them. We must start to admire people for their real beauties (not just the external beauty but the real beauties too) with complete honesty. Thanks for bringing this up. Really appreciated.

[@ILoveSoImAlive]

to be able to admire something you have to be able to see it first. to be able to see it, you have to know it. to know it, you have to invest time in it. to invest time in it, you have to know its value for your surroundings. if your surroundings value other things, you will not know it, you will not see it, you will not be able to admire it. thats what the culture is for. thats what goes lost today, especially in western society, where only competition is (over)valued. but this overvalue of competition from surroundings is indoctrination, for that people do not work together because that would make them solve their problems in small circle, and they wouldnt need to buy solutions from someone less known to them. that would be bad for busines. so overrating of competition is actually overrating of money and money system. we are ready to suffer just to stick to this system, where the money system should not be ideologically thing for the sake of itself, but should service people more than it burdens them. competition is a good thing, but like everything else, its best if it has own place and time and doesnt occupy place and time of things, which would fit there better. it is really unlikely, that this problem will be solved anytime soon. so we will have to live with the problem, that there is not so much of real admiration seen, felt, lived. and for that time most people will admire more things, you dont want them to admire, like how you can allow yourself to talk from above to a lot of people, because of your position, or admire your money, you got from other people in this sometimes sensless competition.

[@surajagrawal7980]

Seven ways : 1. First Flood Gate - Start with smile and 'Hello' 2. Skip Small talk - Try to talk about personal things 3.Find me-toos - Common thing 4. A compliment - People always remember how you make them feel 5. Ask for Opinion or Suggestions 6. Attention - Be present in conversation 7. Name, place, animal - Remember Name their place With these ways you can have a beautiful conversation with people sitting beside you, behind you or walking along with you❤

[@joshschilling6457]

1. First word is a flood gate (3:33) 2. Skip the small talk (5:20) 3. Find the Me-Too (7:33) 4. Pay a unique compliment (8:45) 5. Ask for an opinion (10:19) 6. Be Present (11:41) 7. Names, Places, Animals, Things (12:40) Some Important points: just start the conversation, dive right in, pay attention, make them feel valued, and find commonality and discussion topics by asking about opinions and me-too's.

[@UpstreamNL]

Doing gods work!

[@dianasamayoa3020]

Thank you!

[@BleachHorizons]

Thank you!

[@chandanprajapati482]

Your effort it's helped us to understand the content more clearly thanks 🙏

[@PatrickOMalley-617-patrick]

Awesome. Shame they don't put this on every KZbin list. Thanks for doing the work.

[@mikevieira6041]

She is proof of what she preaches. When she first comes on stage, I thought her pretty but her bubbly personality came out, and the longer she spoke the more attractive she becomes. Not surprised at the taxi driver"s proposal.

[@AA-ob4yg]

Man you are just nailed it. Had the same note.

[@iamo]

was going to write the exact same comment

[@prokitchendotng4646]

my point exactly

[@xidrk9826]

Bubbly personality? I would love to see how she respond to someone who she runs into who is really boring and always complains and tells the same story over and over again. I would love to know how she would handle that business. The more attractive and wealthy you become, the harder it gets to have a deep conversation with everybody.

[@belindajardim3145]

Absolutely right, th more she engages with u th more u like her 🥰

[@suruchis.5351]

Undoubtedly, conversation is a skill through which we can achieve a lot of things and also sometimes it causes an adverse situation. How beautifully she told us about the impacts of conversation.

[@kiwe2348]

Wonderful tips, thanks a ton. And I will definitely use them, it is much appreciated from an introvert person like me. Thanks!! 1. The first word flood gates 2. Skip the small talk 3. Find the me too 4. Pay an unique compliment 5. Ask for an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name, place animal thing

[@akashkvijay]

She seems sincerely passionate about being there on the stage. She's not there just for the money. she wants to genuinely inspire people and share her ideas to others. That is beautiful. I really respect that. I'am now offically a fan of her.

[@niharchandaliya1555]

👍

[@nigefal]

Admit it you just fancy her! :)

[@akashkvijay]

nigefal Yea well, that too.

[@lokeshsurage]

i agree

[@lokeshsurage]

i agree

[@jeremytan1051]

I recommend watching through the whole thing, but. 1. First word floodgates (3:33) "Once you've said the first word, everything just flows." 2. Skip the small talk. (5:20) Ask personal questions. Be bold, and you might be surprised how much someone might share. Asking about family might help elicit response. The lady gives a neat tip, and a neat story at (6:27) 3. Me - too's (7:34) Don't start with negatives. Start the conversation on the same side. 4. Pay a unique compliment. (8:45) Someone may forget what you say or how you look, but they would never forget how you made them feel. There are words and compliments that people are immune to. Avoid them and pay a genuine, unique compliment. 5. Ask for an opinion. (10:19) Ask generic questions like "what's your last movie and how did you find it?" instead of "what do you think about how this affects the oil prices?" That is the difference between generic conversations and exam questions. And when someone gives you an opinion, really listen; listen to listen, don't listen to reply. 6. Be present. (11:40) Don't look at your phone etc. Make eye contact. You literally feel the conversation. 7. Name, place, animal, thing (12:42) Remember their name. It's really important. Say it back to them. Places they want to go to. Their pets names, their children's names.

[@Mein_KampfyChair]

Thank you for this-- I needed a summary

[@SamuelDarmento]

Thank you for the summary!

[@VitaLaDolcee]

Thanks for the summary! Now I don't really have to watch the video haha

[@ericfeng4725]

i think this very important

[@Kiritappa]

You're the hero that KZbin needs.

[@hetvipatel2345]

I really liked this ted talk. Her speech , her body language , the way she was smiling , the way she was doing hand gestures and her simplicity in explaining the whole topic and little humor in between. One of the best Ted talks. ❤

[@psycho8545]

I''ll save you 15 minutes. This is what contained in this video: 1.Say hello, 2.Ask personal questions, 3.Find commonalities,, 4.Give unique compliments, 5.ask for simple opinions, 6.Pay attention(Be in the moment), 7.Remember names.

[@MrJ17J]

Yup that's an accurate summary.

[@-Floydimus]

psycho Hahah she bored me a lot. This comment saved my 15 minutes. Thank you so much.

[@anupamsharmaganesh9344]

+Kashish Shah ... lolzz that was spot on. ..(y)

[@b3at2]

psycho thank you... because she was going on and on and on and oooooon.

[@rahulr5147]

Wish I had seen this 14 minutes earlier :/

[@Charloteblahblah]

Everyone in the comments needs to stop being so harsh and kinda racist, I'm from rural England and I can understand what she is saying. She clearly speaks English fluently and is speaking very clearly, she just has a lovely Indian accent to top it off. So shhh. Loved this TED talk.. ❤

[@Luna_Anonymous]

Thats no indian accent you should listen what they actually sound like, this is a normal and 100 times better accent plus nobody that i have seen is being racist infact everyone is saying she is soo hot, she is sexy, she looks cute etc etc.

[@kamalkumarmukiri4267]

you are right...

[@Gutenberg3]

Lovely is the least. I fell in love with her voice and accent.

[@sunflowrsunshine]

truth

[@parthsanil7477]

+Anonymous User Lol you sound ignorant ! I am indian and that is an indian accent

[@onemillionpercent]

she’s absolutely captivating. what a phenomenal TED talk given by a clearly beautiful and kind woman, oozing with charisma from her accent to her hefty and valuable material. genius!

[@quirtt]

The best Ted talk I have ever seen

[@factsedits-m9sz]

Yeah you're right

[@conradmashazhike6670]

her public speaking abilities are amazing. its as if she is talking to you individually in a conversation

[@pixitone4140]

Right

[@sekarmukilan4627]

yes

[@ju999X]

Fr

[@amigalemming]

That's exactly what the TEDx organizers teach you, if you want to give a talk.

[@abubakras-siddiq1694]

@@amigalemming their thoughts are amazing! they are really helping us.

[@damarh]

how do i proceed after she says "i have a boyfriend" ?

[@elbarto8282]

damarh walk to the next one

[@romanpirs8127]

thats really awful, but i think thats a good reason forma not to go ahead with that person, i think that means she lets her boyfrien to control her or that she is egocentric

[@suneelx63]

damarha6 may be with "you need a better one"

[@chillthcho7432]

Say its ok i am not the jealous type

[@Hi.Im.Vastur]

+L CC lol

[@n.m6249]

I love her, she's like me. Total extrovert. Her character shines through her. You don't have to be the most good looking person but people can just be in love with your personality.

[@lailaalfaddil7389]

[@ValentineTM07]

Her enthousiasm is contagious: she has made me smile during all the video

[@holarobbin]

x2

[@uniqueandspecial]

"Me too" so let's start a conversation 🙂😂

[@AA-ob4yg]

Me2

[@ValentineTM07]

@@uniqueandspecial Okay, what do you want to talk about?

[@belindajardim3145]

Yes indeed 😍a beautiful person in and out

[@Honeyydo]

"A conversation is an adventure." More like an anxiety-riddled obstacle course.. hence why I am here lol.

[@matrixdukenukem000]

My thoughts exactly. Talking to strangers is more like a sweaty, panic rising and possible bad outcome for an introvert specially.

[@Jamesucht]

Small talk is like kryptonite. #IntrovertProblems

[@MrMark940]

can I have a convemesation with you?

[@WantedMayhem]

Sounds very spot on 😂😂🤣

[@zackbrown5201]

what is she files a rape case for just started talking to her

[@fabiograppasonno1495]

This is one of the most beautiful TedTalks I ever heard until this moment! I love conversations and I'd love to improve my way of doing them. Moreover, I think a radio presenter is one of the most prepared people on this matter, because entertain people only with voice is very difficult and the presenter needs great talent and training before start working in a radio company. I'll listen again this video and I'll try to put in practice this important tips... conversation is the base of our life!

[@saeedcrt9444]

Conversation can make war ,conversation can make peace “ This line are just wow amazing

[@DJK-cq2uy]

Wow...never heard that before 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂at 😂😂😂😂

[@one9853]

“Conversation can make war ,conversation can make peace “ This line ♥️♥️

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

Her tips on finding common ground and giving real compliments totally make sense. It's a cool reminder to be positive and curious in every convo.

[@danish_thelearner]

So,the conclusion is we should quite 😜

[@fuckception]

I can't even have a decent conversation with myself!

[@satyamsharma14]

HAHAHA!! I feel you, man.

[@tobegan3753]

It's hard, maybe ask better questions or try mediation to quieten your mind

[@xskywakerx]

hahahaha, funny

[@fatmahassan800]

all of us can have a conversation with ourselves. but when ourselves start the conversation we escape by doing any thing or talking with people , because we did`t have enough bravery to face ourselves!

[@imNashh]

+liffeyb im liking that .

[@AnilAnvesh]

After watching this talk, I have looked at myself and discovered something about myself. I am good at making conversations with strangers. But, when it comes to seeking help or asking for an opportunity, I act like mute. All of sudden, my super introverted nature kicks in. I start thinking, how they will react! I guess, now I know how to overcome that. Thanks Malavika ❤

[@rohankohli]

same problem is with me

[@kutlwanomighty]

that too easily

[@watermelondoggo861]

I tried making a new friend yesterday, and everything was good, except I SUCKED at talking with them. Half of the time we just stood awkwardly and most of our conversations were a trainwreck. Thanks for this video!

[@AldosWorldTV]

Damn tough crowd no one laughed when she said world wide web lololololz

[@esotericbliss5887]

I know right! I was cracking up!

[@drewjames1770]

I instantly went to comments when she said it 😂

[@4pedos]

that is because they don´t know what the world wide web is

[@harishp.n5887]

plot twist their aint no crowd

[@aryashetty3924]

Probably crowd mic is not there

[@OfficialBasedologyYT]

1. Say hi 2. Ask personal questions 3. Find me too’s 4. Pay a genuine compliment 5. Get an opinion 6. Be present 7. Name place animal thing

[@sayidrayhan5442]

Thank you sir, you just save my (un)valuable time

[@SV42165]

@@sayidrayhan5442 😔

[@yogeshreddy6002]

Thank you for summarizing 👍

[@user-ey1ms7dj8i]

Thanks man

[@user-fv1pf4wt8u]

what I learned from her, "don't listen to reply, listen to listen". Thank you Mam!

[@wellbodisalone]

She speaks so eloquently. You can definitely learn a lot from her.

[@Enigmaticharm]

Me trying to become a better person after quarantine: Edit : ive become a bit better! My skin also cleared so I kinda had a mini glow up

[@MahimaAgrawal]

Yeah! Same here 😊

[@mirhamyusfina.g_jakut4972]

Yoo

[@level70k38]

That is a very smart move! Keep it up and you will succeed!👍

[@kendrick7379]

Same

[@shautuvas]

Gundham's Eyeliner lol same

[@gopukrishna521]

It's surprising how nobody is saying anything about how cute she speaks

[@luckyluke4276]

And looks

[@OffGridInvestor]

She's indian barbie. But honestly at least the first few minutes I think she's talking to an empty room.

[@lanel6745]

Exactly! She was enthusiastic and energetic and actually that looks so cute!! Idk why so many people got bored from that

[@biggaming9075]

cheryl sparkz you lucked up shoot your shot 🏀

[@SubrataSarkar-us1cq]

Exactly

[@mirranjannegi4467]

Absolutely brilliant thought provoking oration by Malavika. I was visualizing and wondering in context to so many celebrities, Industrialists and people of little fame who never open their mouth in front of strangers. Great insight

[@Kashmirincanada_]

This is something I have been struggling with since childhood, making conversation. Thank you for all the motivation, tips and tricks.

[@the-terminator5682]

The last time I started a conversation I said, "where the Pokemon at tho?"

[@yabba133]

"fam theres a rapidash like a block north of here"

[@SexualizingTheHolocaust]

"You catching that Pikachu?" and then " Damn it! He left me just like my father!"

[@HannanAlisyntacticspi]

you just made a LINK

[@JunkiesTube]

We all laughing

[@Lalitsingh816]

This makes much sense than her speech

[@koushikmaji7998]

"Every person in your life was once a stranger" Family has left the chat

[@gavtipor7394]

When u were born,even dey wer a stranger 🤔😂

[@j.ou.d.f]

@@gavtipor7394 nah not your mother cause you stayed in her womb for nearly a year so it would be pretty weird to call her a stranger

[@Noahnoahan]

Except for family ofcourse duhhhh!!!!!

[@AshutoshPandey-eq9xq]

Maybe you're adopted 🙂😂

[@mahotsavkumar1278]

@@AshutoshPandey-eq9xq 😂😂😂

[@grizzyc9796]

this is so helpful. Being an introvert, I usually find it very difficult to talk to people. These pointers are a great roadmap to talking to people. Thanks so much

[@zerosum1290]

it feels like another beautiful, confident, extrovert telling people 'just be confident'.

[@abigailoguntuyi4387]

I really like how she presented her speech and her energy was so contagious. She's also pretty

[@alive14ever]

She's a cool 7

[@dbasrus]

@@alive14ever you're a socially-illiterate 2

[@mathewcherian7832]

I really wish she was my friend. Whatever she taught makes you so loveble as she is

[@nimrashahid2569]

body and face expressions and attitude really enlightens a person

[@britlmao]

"and every day we meet so many strangers" I'm in my room all-day

[@gurupriya8726]

Hey! You could meet a stranger online.. Just like now 🙂

[@dt_99]

@@gurupriya8726 yes. Internet has made it a cakewalk nowadays. Hi Guru Priya!

[@gurupriya8726]

@@dt_99 Hello friend!! How are you doing?

[@dt_99]

@@gurupriya8726 I am doing good. How are you?

[@gurupriya8726]

@@dt_99 just not as good as i would wish for lol. By the way, idk if this would be too much information, but here you go..i have a similar surname as yours, Gurupriya Takkar is my full name. Haha we got a me too topic here( not exactly me too).

[@azivert_1979]

I have literally just started to gain that confidence back after lockdown and this video just got recommended to me. Blessed

[@GyanshalaEntertainmentChannel]

We should appreciate her the way she delivered such a motivational speech so eloquently and flawlessly with great sense of humour..

[@btul2569]

she's amazing i'd let her marry my son but i dont have one and im not even married

[@mrsenpaihd7485]

Batool wh- what? wait.. what?? my brain cant process this.

[@ampersanda.h]

Permission denied :D

[@firdacz]

I would marry her myself! ...if I wasn't married already :D Such a charming person.

[@b3at2]

Batool lmaooooooo

[@MustafaAl-Gaberey]

wut?..

[@harrydaplatypus361]

How to establish connections with people through conversation (not necessarily just with strangers): 1. Dare to begin, dare to say the first words 2. Skip small talks, focus on what's really interesting 3. Draw on the common ground 4. Make genuine unique compliments 5. Get people to share what they think about something, listen to listen 6. Don't multitask, be there, be in the conversation 7. Remember what you two talked about **1st big takeaway: "people can forget what you say, what you do, but they will never forget how you make them feel" **2nd big takeaway: look at them in the eye **3rd big takeaway: every person is a really good book, you just have to figure out which to read next instead of only skimming the titles

[@mytho_raj]

Thanks ❤️

[@prashanthgojja]

Thanks man

[@sunilalimbu1594]

Just the comment I was looking for

[@namdevgudmewad6937]

@@sunilalimbu1594 me too

[@manumanmaneesh3390]

Tq

[@rishisaraogi4350]

there s nothing in this video that i didn't know about but to listen from someone else really put things into perspective and that someone who is from communication bizz . So i really confident and motivated to act on this .

[@andynonymous6769]

Humans are naturally social: we've spent thousands and thousands of years becoming good at making connections. If you, like me, are nervous to talk to someone, and you're nervous that you're not going to do it "right" remember, we evolved just for this! It's in our bones. Overthinking and being tense is what makes it so hard, under that, it's instinctual

[@cappyvlogs]

*The Problem Is That The Stranger Is Not Watching This Video!!*

[@ronaldrichardmutebi7772]

im actually

[@RahulPandey-xb6gb]

im actually

[@raghavgangrade7037]

Well, me too!

[@mikereigns8134]

Me 2

[@jordan.n01]

I'm

[@mundanemonday46]

I am watching this because I am so bad at conversations that I act cold so people won’t want to talk to me. I do that to avoid awkwardness. I hate awkwardness. It makes me feel intimidated! Ughhh.

[@randommess6667]

exactly the same as me

[@aly8950]

Same..

[@brandonblacc_]

Me too! Damn it

[@zombsz01]

Can’t even hold conversations since I feel like I can’t add or contribute to them. Just makes me tense :(

[@Paytonxoxoxo]

We have a lot in common

[@H-productions]

It's been 18yrs since I am here on earth ......through all these years what I have learnt is that quality matters more than quantity ......a one true friend is greater than a trillion frnds for name sake .......so focus on being truthful to your existing ones rather than making new ones

[@deadlydairy7634]

When you have 0 existing ones 😔

[@zaidzaeem5398]

I chose to become a beautiful book for someone i was not reachable for... This is how I started. And I'm more than happy too... it's really magical.

[@libertybiberty8182]

“Ask for an opinion” Me: approaches girl Also me: *what is your opinion on the Israel-Palestine conflict?*

[@suryapanditi3161]

I don’t see the problem in asking that you gotta be sure

[@monikakrok357]

How would be your reaction if the answer was "I don't want to take any side cause I don't have enough information and experience with this conflict to make my views as objective as possible", and when this person wasn't neither from Palestine nor from Israel?

[@libertybiberty8182]

@@monikakrok357 I would be happy! That’s the exact kind of woman I would love to have. I personally have developed my own opinion on what I believe is right, but it took me a hot minute as well.

[@ericcimic]

@@monikakrok357 I don't judge people on what they believe, it's more on why they believe it. Too many people these days are just reciting everything they hear without putting any individual thought into it.

[@rauf2961]

Israel-Palestine Conflict ✖️ Israel Genocide ✔️

[@Ampwich]

Me: I like how when you smile, your nose smiles and your whole being smiles Her: I have to go.....

[@thelazychef_blogs3408]

Ampwich 😂😂😂😂😂

[@benstr8156]

Me: wait wait I'll keep you company. Her: (running away now)

[@litavays4087]

LMAO

[@amanpathan8085]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@balajiakkayyagari8454]

That makes her feel weird about me

[@roshansvideos]

Malavika Varadan! We have heard this a thousand times, but your talk was a breath of fresh air!

[@inderpanda]

14:12 "A conversation is like reading a book." You can turn to any page you want. You can flip to your favorites' chapter

[@gimmaefive]

1. Hi 2. Ask personal question 3. Me-toos 4. Compliment 5. Ask for opinion 6. Full heartedly present 7. Remember their details

[@SnakeWasRight]

The awkward part is step 2, where she is suggesting you just ask people random questions. Do you like lizards!?!??! What's your favorite color??? Dogs or cats? What's your deepest life goal??! That just seems so childish to me. And awkward that they are just fishing for some kind of connection, it's borderline obsessive. Especially if this conversation is happening at the water cooler or printer. There are special situations where interviewing someone is not awkward, but not every day.

[@Consolous]

You care too much about "awkward". Every new conversation with a stranger is awkward, embrace it.

[@BeAPickle]

me irl half an hour later - What is your name? I forgot....

[@safdarkhan8414]

iwdyv

[@Slimecrazy234]

Rule 1: Be attractive Rule 2: Don't be unattractive

[@tinmvn]

Slimecrazy234 These comments are funny, but really that doesn't make any sense. On the other hand, it's often harder to talk to an attractive person without being nervous.

[@jayarfa8453]

That's true, it's easier to start a conversation if you are good looking on the outside.

[@jamesranada9702]

More likely, is that you tried hard to accomplished something from a talk with an attractive person yet you failed . then it is useless to do so, try talking to a nice yet unattractive . yet i'm too young for this 13 yrs old .

[@tinmvn]

It may be easier for if you're attractive, but the other person can be very nervous.

[@hopsinojnr8746]

these are just excuses. and real men dont need no damn excuses. just build a lot of confidence! hang out with some nice friends, exercise at the least 15 m a day..try to talk with everyone you know! also for all men having problems, i'd recommend checking out alpha.m

[@awes0men0b0dy9]

As a pretty lonely person who’s wanted to befriend people but can’t get the courage to walk up someone and start a conversation I’ll use the tips and just hearing the examples makes me feel slightly more confident.

[@RJV.]

Summary of 7 ways to MAKE A GOOD CONVERSATION WITH ANYONE : - 1. The word flood gate- Don't think too much before starting conversation with strangers. Whenever get a chance, just start with simple Hi/hey/hello. Everything will come out and flow with the very first word. This can crate a chance to start a good conversation. In worst scenario, stranger won't talk which is the same situation as it was before the first word. 2. Skip the small talk- Don't waste too starting times with the same boring and usual questions. Have something new and personal type thing. Poeple have many things to talk and share. They need a listener. 3. Find the Me-toos (similar/ common things)- People will feel more connected if both have something common to do/interest/thinking and so on. 4. Pay the Unique compliments- Compliments must be genuine, attractive and interesting which is not common for everyday and told by everyone. 5. Ask for the opinion- Everyone have many opinions on everything. All are ready to spell out of they get chance. Topic for opinions shouldn't be informative, bookish, interview type and boring. 6. Be present heartedly (physically, mentally & 100% involved)- Pour full heart in the conversation with good eye contact for effectiveness. 7. Name, place, animal, thing- remember some personal information for next conversation.

[@rizalikestopaint]

she explained it all so beautifullyy

[@R.G.962]

Can we all take a moment and appreciate how beautiful she is

[@ashishjaiswalful]

Lande Raxial

[@jayarfa8453]

Bad hairstyle though, covers her beautiful face.

[@emedi.09]

Jay Arfa I love the hair looks so sexy

[@CyberSage796]

seriously!? her body isnt even good, its her face and clothes that make up for her "not so good body"

[@R.G.962]

Ali Zein Your body type preference isn't everyone's body type preference

[@poojithareddy6197]

Definitely one day I will share my SUCCESS story on this stage .... Thank you ❣️ soo much for all your support and blessings 🙏....

[@miguelborrero6329]

Q\\

[@pranavdwivedi3962]

Sure i wil be there listening to u

[@fardosomran3853]

@@pranavdwivedi3962 me too

[@Nichirvan]

@@pranavdwivedi3962 me to

[@andersonjackiesrandallfern8115]

The Problem Is That The Stranger Is Not Watching This Video!!

[@sonsanddaughtersofgod1693]

I love how she moves with a specific pattern according to her audio strength and all her hand gesture , all in all beautiful

[@akshataggarwal4774]

The most loveable point is To be Present and that to make Eye contact .. I personally believed and experienced that point which she mentioned.. Thank youu Soo much ma'am for your nice points and giving such a confident in ourself ....

[@MXOtaku]

I'm not too enthusiastic about talking to people, but it's a necessity.

[@HelloKittyFreak96]

Carlos Jimenez exactly how I feel

[@DJ-qs3pl]

Carlos Jimenez everyone here doesn't want to talk to people but they feel it is needed

[@TAJMath04]

Dan Jackson

[@nhanguyenlt7225]

1. first word floods gate 2. skip small talks 3. me-toos 4. unique compliment 5. ask for their opinion 6. be present --> eyes contact 7. name, place, animal, thing Her speech was great, thank you Malavika

[@amitrahang6096]

How can I talk English fluently

[@questions3355]

Thanh Nhã Nguyễn Lê Thanks presentation is too long this is not engaging omg

[@nitinkumar-yp8zm]

Skip small talk by asking a personal question

[@timothyminton7687]

Thanh Nhã Nguyễn Lê

[@rayrodriguez2109]

I love her she's a genius. And very glamorous ayeeeee.