How to MOVE ON when your ex was a GOOD person | Moving on from an ex you think HIGHLY of!

[@PearlEphraim]

I cried!!!!!!!!!! I needed this. I can't hate him... he was my bestfriend... I struggle becuase I don't hate him. He was amazing

[@AshleyNord]

Absolutely! And the good news is that you don’t need to hate an ex in order to move on ❤️

[@PearlEphraim]

@@AshleyNord thank you Ashley. I needed this because sometimes my friends don't understand. This is my second breakup like this and these ones are even more frustrating because you don't hate them 😂 Btw I'm from South Africa, you're doing an amazing job!

[@RandoWisLuL]

i imagine this is how my ex feels....im still in the stage where i cant imagine forgiving myself for messing it up. We didnt end in cheating or anything, i just wasn't enough for her when she was putting her all into me. When i look back i see all the signs where i could have saved it and i feel so so stupid for not doing so, i lost my friend of 3 years and my partner of 1 year. Now i don't know who to turn too when i need support. She was the only one i had for that. I hope it gets better......if feels like it never will.

[@r.maelstrom4810]

@@RandoWisLuL Wow man, that's exactly what has happened to me. EXACTLY THE SAME in general terms. We were happy, we were fine, we had projects. We took it slow, step by step because we knew each other for 20 years and the first time we met we were very young and later life made us take different paths (but we always seemed to love each other), so this time we were nervous haha. For two years things went peaceful and fun, till this fucking pandemics and its restrictions arrived: she maintained her job, she did well; but i, as a self-employed, suffered the most and i barely made it (and still i'm on difficulties). She, notwithstanding, supported me like an angel even when i said that i needed some time to save my business; i was nearly a year without seeing her (it was like a LDR, i felt very low and anxious), trying to not worry her, and she comprehend me and was always at my side. I've never felt so loved. But i exhausted her. When i finally reached her out again she was depleted and two months after me trying to see her she broke up with me. Three and a half months have passed by since the breakup, she has now a new boyfriend and is moving on. I can't forgive me. I cannot erase 20 years of her existence, in some way or another, in my life. She was amazing. I will love her forever.

[@egidijad.6119]

Prayers to you 🙏🏻In my situation its been 2years post break up, and I miss him, as he was my best friend too.

[@outroseok]

it's hard not to completely blame myself for the breakup bc he was honestly great, my anxious attachment and trust issues is what inevitably pushed him away. It was a short term relationship so we never really got to completely get to know everything about each other, sadly it ended before we got to that stage so all I'm left with are good memories.

[@nikita6822]

How are you now? My ex was the best guy I ever met but he dumped me

[@Rays6MonthsTransformation]

I am going through the same thing. Could you tell me how long your relationship was?

[@noyonika2245]

Well in that case, why don't you work on fixing your insecure attachment style, and then ask him for another chance? Do you think he'd be open to it (considering he's single then)?

[@rose14109]

Same thing happened with me. Should've given it more time.

[@outroseok]

update: y'all he tried getting back with me and I wasn't interested anymore, after some time I realized he wasn't all that great and blaming myself for the whole breakup was unfair. it's funny reading back on old comments like this, healing and focusing on yourself is a beautiful thing!

[@dianalira5213]

Whewww, you did the work of 3+ therapists never could for me with this topic. People are always like “don’t put them on a pedestal” - like I’m not they were genuinely good people.

[@AshleyNord]

That’s such a big compliment! So happy to hear it was helpful for you. Absolutely - although I agree there can sometimes be elements of putting exes on pedestals, it’s also entirely okay and healthy to acknowledge and appreciate the fact that they were/are wonderful people. It doesn’t mean new wonderful people can’t also enter our hearts - there’s room for those from our past and present!

[@CapitanTavish]

I do this: I take all the emotions I feel for my “good ex”, remove them front the active part of my mind and metaphorically put them into a sphere and put it aside. That sphere will glow, it will illuminate your life, but those emotions won’t affect your active life, because you know there is no point to let them loose, you can’t nurture them, you can’t suppress them either, so you put them in a state of archive. Doing this you allow yourself to meet new people and build more emotions and feelings free from your past. When the time is past, a layer of dust will have settle on the sphere, and that emotions will have less and less grip on you, without you ever suppressed them, but just accepted them. You accepted the truth, those emotions cannot be suppressed neither changed neither nurtured, the only way is archiving.

[@shaktisoul93]

Beautifully said, thank you for this 🙏🏻

[@sepehr_moghani]

I’m not a garbage person but I didn’t know how to behave in a relationship correctly. Didn’t know how to pay attention to little things and over time she just got fed up and created a monster of me in her mind and eventually broke up. She moved on quicker because she believed I was a bad person and she deserves more but I didn’t because she was genuinely a nice person. Now I’m aware of the mistakes and I’m trying to change, but it’s too late.

[@AshleyNord]

I know for fact that you are NOT a garbage person. Far from it! You wouldn’t be here, watching this type of content or taking the time to really self reflect if you were. You’re doing great and it’s this type of self-analysis that you will make you so much better equipped to your partner’s needs the next time around ❤️

[@sanyasuhane6731]

Same w me I didn’t appreciate him enough and now he thinks that

[@hipnotikaa]

Same

[@ericgandhi]

Same here man.

[@MrMrjchips]

@@AshleyNord I like that you believe that, but there is a chance he is, and so am I. I'm here because I'm crushed to the core, and haven't slept more than three hours a night in five weeks. I just want to not feel like I've ruined our and our kids lives.

[@Speedy-lc3nz]

" If they are not choosing you in return then they are the wrong good person for you" Great piece of info. Thank you. I miss my Ex girlfriend so so much. I just can't stop thinking of her with someone else. Hurts so much. 🙁

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

OMG, that’s me, that’s the one thing killing me is thinking of them with someone else, I need to focus on that in therapy

[@Drikkerbadevand]

@@CallsItLikeISeizeIts It's jealousy. I found out it's because I define my own sense of value too much from what she thinks of me.. So when she breaks up, gets with someone new, or moves on while I haven't, I feel like I'm not good enough, or worthy of love

[@PaulMcMinotaur]

The love that you’re talking about is called “unconditional love”, and it’s a beautiful thing to feel. But you can never give that in a romantic relationship, because romantic relationships are built around conditions. But once those conditions have been broken, and there’s no more possessiveness or expectations... that’s when the opportunity for unconditional love truly begins.

[@egidijad.6119]

“The wrong, good person to you” 😢😢😢thank you for that!

[@GwenMotoGirl]

Wow, this is exactly what I needed. I loved my good guy ex deeply, and I still do love him. He’s a quality man. We broke up 13 months ago. I’ve done therapy (was told to just get over it), I’ve read books, I’ve leaned on friends, I’ve prayed, I’ve searched online for support. There is little to no information in support of my situation because almost everything is about dodging a bullet, getting away from a narcissist or abuser, or escaping a controller, etc. I’ve pushed down and questioned my feelings of love for him, and this clearly doesn’t work for me. I found your channel yesterday, and I’m glad I subscribed. Thank you so much. I appreciate you.

[@lolitkanovel6415]

Hope now you feeling better

[@GwenMotoGirl]

@@lolitkanovel6415 I am! Thank you so much!

[@noyonika2245]

Why did you guys break up then?

[@GwenMotoGirl]

@@noyonika2245 great question! He broke up with me and never could say. He regretted it later and wanted to reconcile, but it’s too late. I’ve moved on.

[@anhthipham9186]

Thank you for the update! I’m so glad you have moved on and are doing better :) it gives me hope

[@erinashlee2690]

This resonates with me so much. I dated my partner for over three years but ended things because my mental health took a turn and didn’t know how to feel about anything anymore. He was so amazing and sweet did everything to help me and was so understanding and never was mad at me for how I felt. He was understanding and my best friend we did everything together. We are been separated for awhile and I still don’t know how I feel but he’s seeing someone else who is very pretty and makes me feel insecure but he still cares for me so much it’s just so hard💜

[@fol761]

This is exactly what I’m currently going through. I found myself running back to him for us to be together again even though he just started dating someone new. He really still cares for me and loves me but it’s so complicated now that he has someone. I don’t know if i will be to get over this. He asked me to give him time to think through what he wants if he could come back or be with the other person. He is clearly still in love with me and he never thought i was going to come back to him. I’m so confused

[@patriciacarolinarosa]

This is me and we cry and hold each other... I get mad but he is so honest and he told me I am not mentally well you do not deserve this!

[@AnitaKinkaid]

This is a concept my therapist has been trying to tell me, but I refused to listen. I felt like still being in love with my ex boyfriend, who was genuinely a good person, meant that I would never move on. I was so hard on myself. I felt vulnerable and pathetic. Both you and my therapist are making me consider the it’s actually the other way around: if I keep fighting it it will keep me from moving forward. The idea that your heart will expand to take in more love without sacrificing any other kind of love before was beautiful. I hope one day I can find that peace you describe and live the rest of my life with such equanimity.

[@luckykonwea5032]

Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly

[@luckykonwea5032]

Whtsaap him.

[@luckykonwea5032]

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[@fatima05_05]

Amen❤

[@ravinadhaliwal1008]

Yes! This is never talked about. I’m so glad you made this video.

[@AshleyNord]

Yes! It shocks me that it’s not talked about more because it’s impossible that EVERYONE has had shitty exes - so many people have relationships with someone who was wonderful, and I feel navigating those breakups are different!

[@ravinadhaliwal1008]

@@AshleyNord I’ve had both experiences and I can tell you that getting over someone who is genuinely a good person and treated you with respect and love is so much harder. Thanks again Ash, I know I reached out to you months ago regarding a similar situation and it means a ton that you truly listen to your supporters and make content for us. ❤️ love you so much!

[@aaronkumbier1978]

Thank you for this video. I am having a hard time moving on, but your words help me understand my feelings.

[@meganxotchilt]

Wow. Literally started crying about this right now…so needed.

[@luckykonwea5032]

Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly

[@luckykonwea5032]

Whtsaap him.

[@luckykonwea5032]

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[@meganxotchilt]

@@luckykonwea5032 no thanks.

[@sisjones623]

I can not tell you how this blessed me and set me free to a degree! The comments has really helped me be gracious to myself . I felt so guilty because he is a good person . He just would not and I guess could not love me the way I needed to be loved. He would push me away when stressed which would trigger me and make me feel like I wasn’t good enough. Which could lead to a dark place if I wasn’t careful . It sucks that it didn’t work, but the blessing is moving forward and choosing to love myself more and get the love and partnership that I deserve. Thank you !!!!

[@Hnysndpi1]

I had a hard time getting through this video without crying when I first watched this. My ex of only two years and I had broken up almost six years ago, but somehow we continued to speak to each other be there for each other every day for those next six years after we broke up. It wasn't until he started dating someone seriously that it became a reality that our relationship would change and it felt like having to go through this break up all over again. Grieving a relationship of losing my best friend (longer than we had actually been together) has been one of the most difficult losses I've had to experience. But just listening to what you're saying about the fact that I am allowed to feel love and deep appreciation of your ex without anger and indifference is such a big light bulb moment for me. I hope that someday I can be truly happy for him being able to move on and love someone else, and not feel extremely jealous or devastated about it.

[@noah1502]

he was such a good partner and he had extra sensative needs that i failed on a handful of times. i cant blame him at all, all i can do is blame myself because if i got another chance or a time machine i would 100% change the way i behaved in many situations. i didnt know. i knew a little but i didnt know ENOUGH what i needed to do.

[@σοφία-τ8μ]

“He was the wrong good person for you,” is all I needed to hear today. I was kinda desperate to find a reason… something to tell myself so I could potentially resent the person but this backwards approach is so beautiful. Thank you so much for this healing of a different kind you’re spreading❤️

[@abstract-thoughts]

This is exactly what I needed! She is a genuinely a good person and we were both happy, but I had to let go since we wouldn't be compatible long term. Any video on dumper's guilt? That's how I feel.

[@nemesis9410]

What does it mean “not compatible long term” if you were both happy?

[@curious_gage]

If you were both happy and loved each other, that’s as compatible as it gets. Nobody is perfect and everyone you meet will have issues or shortcomings.

[@abstract-thoughts]

​@curious_gage happy RIGHT NOW yes... but not compatible long term. You can be happy now yet know that things won't work out long term.

[@curious_gage]

@@abstract-thoughts sure, but compatibility is quite subjective and people are likely to change over time

[@abstract-thoughts]

​@curious_gage of course it's subjective.. but I know who I'm compatible and not compatible with. And I'm not willing to take a gamble based on my specific situation.

[@andreaestrada8658]

What if he did choose me for awhile but eventually he just felt like nothing he did was helping me grow? I didn’t work on my personal issues in time and it pushed him away. Towards the end of our relationship, everything was different. I could tell he was off. He wasn’t putting in anymore effort because he just had none to give anymore bc he didn’t see a change in me. He is a great guy and I was so lucky to have him and it’s so hard to let go of him. I just keep reverting back to blaming myself. 🥺

[@asyy2072]

Don't blame yourself for him not loving you.

[@NinjaOutfitInTheWash]

Oh how I resonate with this.

[@dc2133]

I can totally relate... I did the exact same thing:/ its tge worst feeling...

[@AshleyNord]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. If you recognise that you didn’t start your work in time, then I think that’s a fantastic insight that will hopefully motivate you to work on them now. It may be too late for that relationship, but you WILL find another special human that it won’t be too late for ❤️

[@andreaestrada8658]

Ashley Nord it’s been so hard to find motivation. I feel stuck in this emotional rut because all I can think about is him and all that went wrong. He’s already moved on and is even seeing someone new and I wanted so badly to fix things with him, not start over with someone new. How do I let go? I miss him so much.

[@happyslappersrus]

Honestly thank you for this. Idk the stigma of having to say goodbye and think negatively of your ex is something i have been trying to do but haven't been able. She was a good person and i loved her fiercely. Towards the end of the relationship she grew distant and when she eventually ended it. She said she felt like a bad person because she couldn't provide everything that i wanted. We split on good-terms and now 2 months later she has found someone new. I have been an absolute mess trying to find a reason to hate this incredible person but can't do it. Its tough seeing her with someone new but im slowly getting into my head that i can still love her deeply and enjoy watching her flourish in a new relationship while eventually finding someone for me and doing the same. Its still rough and i have been hurting, down bad recently since i seen her with someone new but im starting to feel better.

[@AshleyNord]

Thank you so much for sharing! I hear you - there is such a weird taboo over thinking highly of an ex or still having love for them, and I really don’t believe it needs to be that way ❤️ through allowing our hearts to love people from our past, I think it expands it more and gives us the capacity to love even more deeply!

[@HaydiLam]

This is exactly how I’m feeling. My ex is a husband material and I genuinely thought he was the one. When we had our breakup discussion, he confessed that he felt the same initially. The feeling of ‘I messed up’ sucks. It’s been 3 months and he’s moving back to his home country(I relocated to where we met to give us a go). It feels like another breakup moment. We used to be really good friends. Knowing that we will never be the same and all the plans we once had were no longer there is truly heart-breaking. I don’t know how I’m going to go forward…

[@micahrutland9021]

Update?

[@3firstnames903]

Ugh. Thank you. She was wonderful. I was definitely in the wrong. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship, and I had become jealous, a little possessive and paranoid without realizing that that is who I had become. I tried really hard, but I was extremely anxious throughout our relationship and, with her being very independent, it pushed her away. I want to focus on myself now that she’s moved on, but it’s difficult staying motivated, but I know it’s something I need to do for my future. It’s just so fresh and I’m still in pain. I’m still getting hurt by every step of her moving on. I miss her, I wish I had been ready, but I love her and wish her the best always.

[@Al1980Ash]

I started watching you when I was struggling with a break up from a good person. I’m now in a lot better place but continue to watch your videos. This is so refreshing and your such a likeable person who makes so much sense! Keep up the good work!!!

[@AshleyNord]

This is such a lovely comment to read! I’m so so happy to hear that you’re in a better place, and also that you enjoy watching my content! Hearing updates from those who are feeling better is wonderful. Thank you for sharing and for such nice feedback ❤️

[@scool30000]

I love this video so much. I’ve been struggling to learn how to let go of my ex when he didn’t do anything wrong. But being able to still love him and realizing he just wasn’t a match for me made me feel a whole lot better. THANK YOU!!!

[@AshleyNord]

I’m so happy you enjoyed this one and that it resonated with you! Yes, I’ve totally been in your shoes and navigating that breakup was extremely difficult for me, because I was under the impression that I HAD to stop feeling love and admiration for him. But that’s actually not true at all! There is nothing wrong or unhealthy about allowing an ex to have a special place in your heart ❤️

[@jadonmuller1576]

Hey how are you know, did it work for you ?

[@dystephiary]

He was a very good person and even empathetically and kindly ended our seven-year relationship. It was me who sabotaged our relationship that’s why he left.

[@PrettiRissa]

This video is amazing ! I tried explaining this concept to one of my friends when they kept saying “just forget him let him go” as if they were trying to get me to be mad at him, but truth is, I am not really mad at him. He was good. That makes it so much harder to let go !

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Funny, we both said if we actually hated each other it would be so easy, but we love each other stil so much harder, both are sad about it,,crazy

[@abra3326]

Thank you for this video. For everyone who is going through such a weird time, I think it is important to grow awareness on why things happenned the way it happenned. And see that this relationship had to break because it wasn't meant to. You both had to free yourself. It was, what it was for the time it had been, but deep inside you and him/her know you were now not meant to be together. Only the emotional connexion and habits make you blind of that. Work on revealing the truth and also close that chapter learning the lesson why all of that happenned. And "fall forward" be open and love yourself, future awaits and it's going to be amazing ! I promise ♥️ and who knows maybe the universe will brought you this man/girl back if it has too be, at least it will be free from the wounds and guilt you are onto now. 💕💕💕💕And never fear again, never block yourself again , love freely

[@tatianakouklitsa6727]

This is the content I've needed. So calming to hear you talk about this because it's everything I've been feeling and I don't see this being talked about anywhere. It's so hard to let go of someone who was my best friend for 11 years but we weren't good for each other anymore. I'm just grateful for the time we shared and everything I learned, I would not be who I am today without him. I just want what's best for him, I want him to be happy. I want that for myself too.

[@AshleyNord]

Oh honey I hear you loud and clear! I have recently split from my fiancé of 9 years and I’m right there with you ❤️ sending you love!!

[@luckykonwea5032]

He is indeed a problem solver,he helpe me also I can't keep his good 😭 work to my self alone.

[@Dahita]

Same as many here. We ended up ruining an amazing relationship of 8 years, and I broke up with her but she was the best person I ever knew. She's smart, loving, kind, she was my best friend. We felt like nothing else mattered when we were together, and I cannot live with this idea that she is alone and hurting. I still love her to death even if I made the decision to break up, and it hurts a lot, every day, after almost a year. Thank you for your video.

[@lukeroe3434]

Couldn’t have needed this more. She broke up with me because she had to work on herself. She told me I was the ‘perfect boyfriend’ and couldn’t fault me. She just needed time to heal outside of a relationship. She’s a great person and deserves peace but I’m just beginning to grieve. This process is more difficult because we teach dance together. We are working together today and it’ll be the first time we’ve been in contact since I initiated no contact and I’m terrified. Wish me luck ❤

[@sandeepchanna6633]

Thank you so much, this has really helped me, I can’t hate my ex. We just wanted different things in life, but he’s still such an amazing person

[@AshleyNord]

What a wonderful perspective to have! Hating or disliking an ex is absolutely not a necessity to moving on. You can absolutely move forward with love, respect and appreciation for them ❤️

[@roberttruman8444]

This video makes some interesting points. The part about how it is so much easier to move on from someone who was genuinely bad actually explains why so many people unfairly vilify their ex partner, blaming them entirely for the breakdown of their relationship. But it takes two to tango and although this method offers a fast and convenient way of accepting the facts, repairing the ego and moving on, it denies these people the vital self reflection and personal growth they need. As a consequence they tend to repeat the whole relationship with the same kind of person again and again.

[@Sip_ley]

I just ended up a long term relationship with my latest partner. He was not a bad person, but emotionally didn't work out between us. But despite still being behind the decision I made it's hard. I'm relieved to hear that there are more people out there who have experienced this.

[@jessica-ut9zm]

I can relate to this so BADLY. I loved my ex immensely and I still do cuz he was such a lovely person and altho we aren't friends anymore or not in contact anymore I still adore him yet avoid seeing him or staying in touch w him so I could move on. My entire family loved him sm too and yes it's hard sometimes too let go but ik I have to

[@luckykonwea5032]

Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly

[@luckykonwea5032]

Whtsaap him.

[@luckykonwea5032]

[phone]

[@Clleonie]

This is me now, after 16 years, my best friend, it's over. I'm struggling. How are you now ?

[@jessica-ut9zm]

@@Clleonie hey,I'm actually doing pretty good currently (touchwood and grateful to God) he actually decided to text me after rlly long and I decided to answer and we j talked like bestfriends,we even talked our hearts out and he said how he tries to find me in everyone else he dates now,and I told him we both need to move on and we talked and came to the conclusion we must move on,this time fr and willingly,but while all this and talking to him,idk if it's me or him (don't get me wrong btw,he's lovely),but it's just after so many years I realise I have changed and he changed in a lot of ways too,and we just aren't the right fit hence why we broke up in the first place,you just need time to realise it sometimes I guess,and we both have moved on for what its worth💗 but the love and respect and care for him in my heart stays,also knowing he's not the one and that I'm meant for someone else. I hope you will get through this soon,just remember "if it's meant to be ,it will be,baby just let it be" and go on,this shall too pass and life has so much in store for you,I am sending you so much love and the best of wishes to get through this tough time,and here for you as well.

[@MrNada2012]

This is so touching. I am struggling moving on because I know deep down he is a good person with good ❤️. The way he treats people around him, his friends, his family, I admire him so much. This makes it very hard for me to stop loving him. I wish he is a bad person so I can use those excuses. Listening to you lightens my thoughts and understand him more. He can be such a good person but emotional unavailable when it comes to relationship. It makes sense. Doesn’t matter how good as a person he is, he didn’t choose to be with me; therefore he is not the right person for me. I can allow myself to have a special place in my ❤️ for him but I will have to move on for my own happiness too. Love 💕 as always.

[@laurened6505]

I can't say how grateful I am to have been recommended this video. This speaks so much more to me than all the recommendations I have been receiving to move on. I will allow myself to love him secretly inside without initiating contact or taking any action on it. It's a blessing to be able to feel this. It is also a good thing we are not together anymore because it caused so much pain as he was totally emotionally unavailable. I will free myself physically from him but will keep cherishing what he represented to me forever. Thank you for making this video.

[@racheliucci1399]

Omg ash I feel SO seen rn ( fan girling for realz) thank you so much for covering this, I loved your advice and just the way you discussed the entire experience and process of losing a person like this is so dead on and relatable, especially in this phase of my healing process. Going to try to find the maturity within myself to allow that love to be there instead of pushing it away and trying to blame him to make myself better. It’s so hard, but know it can be transformative and probably what he did to feel so at peace with it. Thank you for putting this into the world, it’s going to help so many broken hearted humans out there. We are the walking wounded in silence and I just appreciate you so much for bringing this topic to light. Xx big big hugs xx

[@ritchellecosinero308]

"the walking wounded in silence" soooooo true

[@AshleyNord]

I’m SO happy I was able to make you feel seen - that’s such an important, validating feeling and it’s so lovely to hear I was able to provide that for you. I have ABSOLUTELY been in your shoes and this is a path I have had to walk both in romantic and platonic relationships! Allowing yourself to love, instead of forcing yourself to shut it off, truly is the most transformative experience and I wish this was talked about more. There is absolutely nothing wrong with continuing to value and appreciate an ex! And relaxing into that allows it to soften and eventually become far less painful. Sending you so much love! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@joegirl6194]

Love is sweet, love is life, true love never die don't give up someone you love all hope is not lost okay

[@joegirl6194]

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[@joegirl6194]

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[@LuisCSR]

I went on a rabbit hole looking for ways to help me move on and accept my girlfriend’s decision to end the relationship even though we still care a lot for each other. This vid brings me peace of mind and attenuates the pain I felt after losing her. Thanks for the content. Subscription earned 😄

[@stolendance8661]

Glad that I found this video. My ex was wonderful. When I realised that, and tried to get him back. He already moved on and married others in 3 months. I live with regret everyday …

[@eddiestevens2457]

Bro this helped me but not in the way I thought it would. She literally described how I acted in my relationship. I was the nice guy asshole and I didn't even realize it. Gave me a lot to think about so thank you fr.

[@TheeeDannyD]

I have always known for me personally love doesnt turn to hate. I dont hate any of my exs despite being treated quite horrifically in the end. Its quite stoic. However a lot of people have almost shamed me for this, deeming me "too nice or soft". I actually think its strong. Screw the naysayers! Thanks for your well put advice!

[@rebeccah.8504]

Thank you for that insightful video, it really spoke to me..! My Ex was a good person and he fully chose me, the problem was, that I could not fully commit to Him. After years of inner doubt we broke up and looking back, I get confusing feelings because I now, that in some way, I will always love Him and I cannot say a bad thing about him.. almost like forgetting why we broke up and me being the reason for that painful loss makes everything even harder

[@junaydjaved6776]

But the problem with me is the more I admire her, more I curse my fate that she wont end up with me. And I can't forget her either

[@prishanth]

i started bawling when she described the nice guy a**hole, mine was so good in every way except that he wasn't ready for commitment and it's so hard for me to convince myself I did the right thing by ending it. Thank you so much for this.

[@realmadridizbest]

8:03 THANK YOU!! I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. This is going to help me move on for sure, because now I don’t feel as guilty about still kinda loving them even when I’m finally moved on.

[@Londya]

This is truly the channel I needed to find in this journey of healing after an 11 year break up. This is truly my situation right now. I'm commenting before even watching the video, because I can tell by watching another video you did and by the title of this video, you are saying everything I need to hear right now.

[@MuffySSwiftpath]

11 yrs here too

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

@@MuffySSwiftpathwow, 11 years. Can’t even fathom how that must feel.

[@MuffySSwiftpath]

@IWillStandWithYou very long and painful but now I'm able to look at the good times without regret or feeling immense sadness. I hope he does the same, sooner than later. I know some people in 30+ yr relationships just now leaving and I didn't want that long

[@adririvera]

immediately subscribed. fresh off an almost 2 year relationship breakup. your words hit home so hard. he was seemingly so good for me, and i for him. we dont know what our futures hold, but im working to be more and more okay with the thought of not being together ever again. this is so fresh, but i needed to hear these words to help me not get my hopes up that some "time apart" will fix things. thank you

[@maria-j8b5l]

This advice was so precious! Thank you for covering this topic. I try to accept feelings that come up now during my break-up but I never realized, that I always tried to avoid to admire and love him for who he is even though we are not a couple anymore. You are right: Allowing yourself to also feel this love really sets you free 🕊 It was a relief to hear this. Thank you again! ❤️

[@mayanaise9360]

Holy crap thank you. No therapist, article, podcast, or friend has ever been able to convey this beautiful concept to me. He was my best friend, first love, and three years later i still think about him every day and go through cycles of anger and blame for myself wondering why im not over him. I wonder how that will change from now on now that i plan to adapt this concept to my life everyday. Thank you so much:) truly down to earth and insightful human being, i hope you keep creating and sharing.

[@clairemarie1801]

I’ll always have unconditional love for him. Hes a great person. He was the only man who treated me good. My best friend… I just wasn’t in the right headspace and I wish so bad that I could’ve been ready for him. Slowly moving on.. it’s hard when he has a new gf and all I have now is myself but im growing a lot and this vid helped so muchhh

[@rockybolick9646]

I feel like it's a bad idea to keep loving them unconditionally for however long you find suitable, because it is an unnecessary obstacle we put in front of ourselves, that keeps us from growing and moving on. You can think highly of them, but don't express it towards them. There is a reason why you are not together with this person anymore, and it doesn't matter if it was a negative reason or not. Fact is that, if you keep idolizing them, you will put them on a pedestal and this will prevent you from finding a suitable match for you, because you will keep comparing these people to a person that did not want you in their life anymore. After you read a chapter in a book, you don't start it over again. You continue reading, so that you find out how the book ends. It doesn't mean though that you can't have a favorite chapter but for god sakes keep moving. Cherish their memory and keep writing your own story.

[@lolla7166]

Thank you so much for this video, you really help me so much to get trough this break up. He was my first, we were together for 2.5 years. He had left me multiple times because I couldn’t handle my anxiety and it made him start to hate me even when it got better, he just told me that our relationship had potential but he was tired of waiting for happiness that had left him when my anxiety started. I have never loved anyone that much and none ever loved me so much, but I really need to let go. We see each other everyday in class and it’s so hard to just stop, even if he is seeing other people I can’t even go on a proper date and compare myself too much to him. Thank you for reading, I really needed to let it out. I hope you will be happy ❤️

[@jasmineburroughs7355]

😭😭😭!!!! Thank you for touching on this topic. Other break up content didn’t speak to what I’m going through. This break up is the worst because he is such a great guy. Excuse me while I watch again and take notes this time. 😂

[@meilinaa.8185]

If you never stop loving them then how do you know when it’s a good time to start dating someone else? How do you know the love has transformed enough for you to move on.

[@leekautz2926]

This is my category. A breakup I still regret. The guilt and regret r tremendous.

[@redoni9114]

I was scrolling through these break up videos, i was dumped. She told me i was a good person but I wasn’t emotionally there for her. This video helped me understand what kinda person i am.

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[@lyndawilliamson3050]

I hear ya. I very recently left my husband who is a nice guy a hole. He is very considerate of everyone else’s feelings and needs but when it came to my feelings and needs he was not available. He is a so called musician who played for people who would not pay him. That did not put gas in the tank. Like I said nice guy to everyone else but to me….his wife. He would also take his narcissistic alcoholic son in laws side and not mine. My husband always defended the scumbag. Needless to say there was a lot of family dynamics with his side of the family. His older sister always treats my husband like a little boy. She never let him grow up and look after his own problems. There so much more that I could say but I will keep that for some other time. I still love him but I am not holding my breath. Life goes on. It’s not going to be easy. P.S. I still cry a lot but each day gets a little better.

[@missfatcat]

Thank you. In my case it’s a matter of distance (he can’t move states because of his son). I definitely have much higher standards for relationships than ever. He’s a wonderful partner, & I still deeply love him. I have accepted that I will always love him, & this is a good reminder that if it’s supposed to work, it will 💗💗. May we all learn to be loving humans and be receptive to all infinite, unknown, & future blessings. 💗💗✨✨

[@Pramiti_Choudhury]

If being relatable can have it's peak..this is the video for me...peakkyyy peakkkesttt relatable.. OMG..first i saw that guilt video because u was feeling guilty of my mistakes.. it's been a year of my breakup and he moved on with a rebound just another week after our breakup 😅and here I'm..still on a guilt trip..as he was kinda good for me but..if he was that good..then why broke up? Right... that's where my guilt starts

[@typoception2029]

Thank you for making this video. I have no one that understands this situation as my ex was a good person and this has helped me moved on.. I wouldn't be here today if it weren't for you and this video. Thank you :)

[@ritchellecosinero308]

This is exactly my situation rn, and this literally made me cry tears of comfort knowing that I am not alone. My ex, that I still love dearly (but not desperately) was a good guy and I know it will take me some time to move on from him (maybe I never will). I am just allowing myself rn to peacefully feel the love I have for my ex, and just let things flow. But I'm not taking action on it like reaching out to him, because as you mentioned on your other vid, no matter how good the relationship was -- we were just not the perfect fit and I have learned to accept that. Although I still love my ex, it's not keeping me from opening myself up to new things and new people ❤ Ash, you are a blessing! And I sincerely want to thank you for creating meaningful contents as always ❤

[@racheliucci1399]

❤️❤️feel for you girl. Going through the same thing. Sending love❤️❤️

[@ritchellecosinero308]

@@racheliucci1399 awweee~~ thank you!

[@AshleyNord]

I’m so happy I was able to validate your experience! It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job of moving through this grief process. It’s absolutely OKAY to still continue to love your ex, as this love will evolve over time. It’s completely okay if you never stop loving him completely. I think this is very normal and healthy and I’m not sure why it isn’t talked about more openly by people. You CAN love your ex and also have room in your heart to love someone new! It’s fantastic that you realise this ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing!! And thank you for the support and encouragement 🥺💕 so lovely to hear you find my content meaningful.

[@ritchellecosinero308]

@@AshleyNord thank you so much... Sending you much love and more meaningful contents to come ❤

[@xMustang_WCUE]

God, thank you so much this really helps. My ex was an insanely amazing person, and I was the toxic person in the relationship, they did nothing wrong, and this really helped me get over breaking it off with them, thank you.

[@shreeyamohanty-mr4et]

You have no idea how impactful your words are i feel so reassured and warm after this.

[@victorrojas2116]

I am living n experience how to love back. mother of my children and the ex-wife, learning how to respecting her and also for being incredible wife. I regret the lost couse by my behaviour I lost a good women that gave me her best for 28 years. In return I promise to be there n support her like a good friend until her true love will show up. Know I have learn to love her and apreciate her and accepting the facts that she doesn't need to love me back. She done more then I deserve and time to return the favor. I lost a great women, now I will have to leave with the with the consequences. You rip what you sew.

[@claireplant5745]

So glad you posted this...it is exactly the situation I am in and have been stuck for two years now and I’m unsure how to move on x

[@ry9348]

Being an pure and good soul sometimes has it's downsides. My past needs to see this video. Im so tired of my past always coming back. 🙅

[@PeukinsPoint]

The first 3 minutes of this video made me cry. Thank you so much.

[@TheReisasaki]

I lost my bestfriend of 9years. We were perfect. Our religious differences caught up with us. I cant hate him because he was perfect for me.

[@SCnative64]

My Ex she was/is an Angel. I simply blew it.

[@CallsItLikeISeizeIts]

Damn Ashley.you Fuking with my head, damn, never considered that perspective, I could never hate my ex, so always loved her, can’t Honestly unlove her, so,hard letting her go. Curses and a hex upon you for such heresy 😊. How long does the gauntlet of pain have to last. Ugh. People are bonded for life after trauma on the battlefield, could it be same with the trauma of a breakup if true love by one exists , bonded or seared in a way that never heals , since trauma can never be healed, all you can do is live and manage it as best as you can. Love trauma leaving an open wound in our hearts, always reminding us, like shrapnel sill in the body for life. Crazy

[@sbi8762]

The advice you give is so genuine and simple yet so effective. The best I have come across on this topic. Would you recommend staying friends if as you mention the love you feel for the person will evolve into something different with time?

[@AshleyNord]

This is such wonderful feedback! Thank you so much, I’m so happy you find it relatable and effective. Personally, I don’t recommend staying friends because I think doing so can totally backfire. It can really complicate the moving on process (particularly if one or both people still has “more than friends” feelings). I think a friendship can certainly be possible further down the road (as in, years later) but not in the early stages of a breakup. What I’m referring to here in this video is more so “loving from afar.”

[@Separo1]

This is a beautiful response and I truly hope that one day I can be friend with my EX as she is a beautiful human being. Thank you for this video and this response.

[@bella-bu9en]

I made a list of why i broke up with him because i always found myself thinking he's such a good person yet i find faults in his childish behavior. Now I'm gonna let myself love him but from afar and unconditionally.

[@yasminh]

this feels like a HUGE weight off my chest, thank you :)

[@mayankrohinival]

Wow this is profound . Even listening to jorden peterson for hours n hours could not do what you have done for me .

[@riddhinaik2351]

Honestly thank you so much for this.i really messed up it was my first relationship and i left the guy just because i was scared about the future and i thought my needs would not be fulfilled.i became selfish and ended the relationship just because he was poor and i feel guilty about it now

[@vakaliarelis]

Thank you for your video. You truly hit a nerve deep inside. That’s exactly how I feel. I don’t want to get back with my ex. However I send him positive thoughts daily. That he finds a partner which he will be happy with. Tho we weren’t right together. I will for ever have warm and much light in the man he is. 🌓💜💜 your video helped a lot x

[@irisc9895]

this made me cry so bad at work, do need to hear this

[@TheRoadrunz]

Thank you Thank you Thank you Best moving video on KZbin

[@amelie-db7gu]

Wowza the breakup video we all needed and looked for but never found cos they all center around how bad your ex is. And in a horrible dating landscape it's EVEN worse to lose an ex who was physically and mentally hot AF you feel like it's all over for you 😭💔

[@shayleejeanne]

currently going through this.. but i am letting the love i feel for him over power any of the sadness i may feel.

[@Jo-gk3ew]

thank you, this is the best thing I've ever heard recently. makes me less confused.

[@chriscich]

I can’t say I moved on, but i know that I need to move on and will eventually move on. But one of the things i know is that if I ever want to revisit it, we ended on amicable terms and I can always try again later. She is sweet and we both agreed to keep in touch.

[@sandrinemasse]

That video was so much needed for me at this time!! Wow thank you so much!

[@iiboba9537]

The physical attraction too. He was very good looking and who he is was so great! So when we broke up it felt like I lost a really good looking dude along with a good person. And he moves on to someone prettier

[@Reshmathomas_]

Oh my God. Cant explain how your video has solved lot of questions in mind. Thankyou for clearing a lot of things for me 😊🙏

[@luckykonwea5032]

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[@Drikkerbadevand]

I have had such an extremely hard time letting go of my ex of 4 years who I STILL love and would take back in a heartbeat, but at the same time I am so anxious that she already moved on since we're in no contact (2 months). However this actually put some things into perspective and while it obviously didn't instantly change my feelings/wants about her, it might be a video I need to revisit a few times to help me heal.. I doubt I will ever be able to actually contact her, at least as long as I still have romantic feelings for her.. But it gets me on the path to accepting that it's OK to still think highly of her, and love her person, while simultaneously moving on romantically, and also working to accept that she WILL find someone else to love other than me.

[@sasapetroski981]

Nice guys best thing what you can do stay single. Like me 9 years and I don't have problems in my life💪💪💪

[@OfficialFloydboy]

You’re prob one of the very few of first that dropped a good video on loosing a good ex. Def hits different 💯

[@AshleyNord]

That’s such great feedback! Thanks so much. I’m so happy it resonated with you.

[@OfficialFloydboy]

@@AshleyNord I was one of those hopeless heart broken viewers a few months ago lol.. but time brings perspective, which brings healing. Since we both were good Ex’s we in the middle just enjoying the fresh approach and building back on our “best friend” foundation. When first you move on from a good ex, I think that “limbo” of wondering if you could replace them kills you! Keep em coming Ash 👌🏾📌📌

[@OfficialFloydboy]

@@AshleyNord definitely resonated 📌

[@WamahMafiaTV]

I love you for this video , I have searched the internet for a video like this !!! it's been so hard.

[@siyabongapatrick2257]

Best advice I got since breaking up with my ex

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[@KatM272]

Damn 😭 this happened with my last ex and now this current ex is really hurting again bc they were an even better person in their own way

[@AnAussieinNorway]

My ex is horrendous. Video not required. Leaving a like on the way out.

[@noah1502]

its just that…. i cant accept that “were not compatible” or “it didnt work out” because if thats true then i feel like its all my fault. but i know its not. i keep having to remind myself he made mistakes too. but i just feel like mine were more important bc they ended the relationship, and i didnt want it to end. and i know i can stop acting in those ways. i really know i can. which is why it hurts so much.

[@r.maelstrom4810]

Incredible to watch someone say these words. I am surrounded by people who seem to not understand that i still love my ex and feel that i will love her forever. For the first time in my life i knew what it was to be Loved, she was something else... Something i will never forget. But i f*cked up, it was clearly my fault. We were doing well but the pandemic and restrictions put a big weight on my shoulders i could barely hold: during that time my business and projects struggled a lot and so i did too. I started to feel insecure, unworthy, my self-steem got seriously hit; i had to abandon some projects, refrain from many things... However, my ex was unbelievable supportive, understanding and helpful, the problem is that the more she cared the more miserable i felt, as if i didn't deserve her. She gave me a lot and i couldn't reciprocate. I made a terrible mistake behaving that way as later i found. Finally after a whole year in this situation, where i couldn't see her firstly due to restrictions, and secondly to my issues, i decided to reach her out again whatever it could happen, because she was my companion, my love and i shouldn't behave so distant (it was distant on the surface, in my mind and heart i loved her with all my soul), i started to feel better and it was time to demonstrate that i loved her in acts, not only in words. But i felt something changed on her mind. She started to make excuses to not go see me, and when i insisted for the fourth time (one month after the first) she told me she got exhausted and broke up with me; she even was dating another guy. Nearly three months have elapsed since then and no word i heard from her.

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[@carolinacalderonalonso6264]

My ex partner was the best boy (we were young back then) who crossed my path. I learned a lot from him and his beautiful personality. He broke up with me, (cause I deserve it to be honest) and I could never speak bad about him.

[@MsAnny1998]

Thank you so much. You don't know how badly I needed to hear this today🤍

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[@israeltapia5577]

What an awesome topic! Never imagined this existed...

[@sstevo4066]

Thanks for this video...I was with my ex for 21 years, we both made mistakes and she made one that took my trust away and it never came back. It was a mistake but I never got over it. But if i'm honest other than that mistake she was such a great person that I respect so much. We became so incompatible that it was painful. I have had teh conversation with a few family members that I needed them to not be so connected to her though because it was painful for me to see. I like this viewpoint though. I'm going to try to practice this, plus we coparent so that's not a relationship I want to completely ruin.

[@Hilary945]

It's been 3 years since we parted was and some days it's still hard. Sometimes a man will let you go because he knows he can't give you what you need long term.

[@abeeraaslam6414]

My ex fiance was a good guy in general. But the relationship turned toxic and became a push-pull dynamic. You are saying in the video to choose people who choose us. I dumped him 3 times but he came back and chose me every single time. I feel so guilty because he was so in love with me while I was half-hearted in the relationship cuz I wasn't in love with him. I loved him, yes but not true love. So I pushed him away. Even tho he kept choosing me. How will I heal myself after so much hearbreak?