How to overcome avoidant attachment

I know you have avoidant attachment, you know you have avoidant attachment so let's fix that together. I used to have this form of attachment and it is just as unhealthy as anxious attachment. If you do not want to be a better person and you do not want to change then there is no way of ever coming out of the same cycles again. Hopefully you have all learned from this video and please share your wisdom in the comments so that we can think and grow together rather than alone. There is always a way out.
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[@sirpidgeysittington]

Thank you so much for this. Have been avoidant my whole life and recently it costed me my relationship with a girl I loved so dearly but just couldn't express it to her during our time together. I have been trying my hardest to change this part of my life and I truly want to break out of this cycle of hurt that I cause the people around me. I know the road will not be easy, but I am determined to try my best till my bones give out.

[@DastanHeinz]

The fact that you are willing to change that is already a sign of growth and self improvement. Good job keep going!!!!

[@sobu9917]

Thank you for this honest expression. Can I ask what made you realize those patterns and decide to change them? you said (and I know) that avoidants are unaware of the ways they're hurting others or just prioritize themselves. So what was the point that made you realize, hey this isn't right?

[@DastanHeinz]

Thank you for your question! For me it was that every single time I got a new connection it would be short and I couldn't even say if I had a genuine friend. I thought what if I for once did something opposite of what I would usually do. I tried to look back at a conversation for instance and be completely neutral (so not take anyone's side) and looked at what I said and if a complete stranger would read it, would my point come across? In my case it was no and I saw that I stepped back every time and had to change that

[@sobu9917]

@@DastanHeinz Thank you! so basically if you had someone patient and tolerant and understanding of your tendencies, it wouldn't incentivise you to think if you are doing anything wrong?

[@DastanHeinz]

@@sobu9917 as long as you both communicate well it should all be good