How to Plan for Grief Filled holidays.

Facing Holidays with Grief in Your Heart Can Be So Stressful. Watch to learn some important considerations as you make a plan for any special day or event.
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Who is Jo?
I wanted to share with you why I am dedicated to supporting your Grief. My journey with Grief began when I experienced life changing losses early in my life. I was Grief illiterate and scared of the BIG feelings of Loss. This left me in a really dark state for a long time. I lived with the belief that life was filled with pain… that I would never feel better.
My Grief warped and changed relationships with myself, others and my sense of safety in the world.
I have done grief all wrong. I did it alone, silently, hidden, dangerously, and without knowledge or support
As a Therapist I have worked for years providing Birth work.. I came to recognize that there are many defining moments in birth.
When loss intersected my Birthwork I came to believe that equal and opposite must also be true…..There are also many defining moments in Loss.
Here was when professional meets personal!!!
This realization forced me to do some long overdue personal Grief work. I researched, studied, learned, trained and cried my way through all my unprocessed Grief.
This became what is called a Moment of Obligation….. I was now obligated to share these skills and insights as a professional Grief Worker. I know that others can benefit from what I have experienced and learned about Grief. I have valuable lived experience and professional training to lead you to change your relationship with your Grief..
I base my all work on the practical and emotional elements that I know now I needed when Grief ran my life.
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[@grieftherapist]

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[@dancingdog6732]

My heart is yearning for my husband. My first christmas without him .

[@caren6573]

My spouse died 8 weeks ago and I am grieving this Holiday Season, our 57 year Anniversary and Life without him.

[@dorisdaylight8415]

I am so sorry for your loss. 57 years....Wow it is a long time and you know, not being nasty in any way, but you were so lucky to have him that long. We were just going to start living at retirement age when my husband passed away. It was supposed to be our time together and well it didn't happen. I do hope you have lots of good memories, ones I wasn't able to make. I am still grieving as it is just his first anniversary gone and this time last year I was plain numb so it didn't even count as the first Christmas without him. I am hurting along with you. Do take care of yourself.

[@jennebeattie3168]

My third Christmas without my son. Branson died when he was just 14. He died in 2022. Thank you Jo for remembering us 💔

[@Marjoe4005]

Thank you, grief never leaves esp when both parents aren’t with us. 🙏

[@BarbaraSanchez-bg8bs]

NO celebrations for me. I am totally shattered and in acute traumatic grief. Losses pile on and I can barely function. In any case I have no family left. This is too hard.💔

[@pigletsbank437]

@@BarbaraSanchez-bg8bs please take care, do what you feel like in the monent, be kind to yourself

[@scmommy4539]

I'm sending you gentle hugs. 🩷

[@dancingdog6732]

❤❤❤❤❤❤to you. I am going through the same painful grief. No words can convey what it feels like. I pray for you that you will have peace and know that you are loved

[@BarbaraSanchez-bg8bs]

@dancingdog6732 Thank you...But, unfortunately the ones who truly loved me and cared for me are gone...I have no support...I just want to leave this world💔

[@dancingdog6732]

Well I am the last of my immediate family my mom and dad are gone. My brother died last year I'm an elder orphan amd my husband died 3 months ago I am so broken hearted especially at dust and night time I pray everyday for G od to help me make it another day and I'll pray for you too. Sending love to you via this message ❤ God bless and keep you

[@hollygardner5076]

My son passed away in August. Tomorrow is my birthday and two says later it will be his birthday and of course Christmas is soon too! Every Year I would throw a New Year’s Party for my family and friends. In light of the loss of my son, my husband and daughter and I decided to go on a Mexican holiday and skip all the decorating and go for the sun. I also decided to celebrate my son’s birthday by making brownies for his friends.

[@WrenChastain]

@@hollygardner5076 my heart pours out to you. I lost my mom at 70. I am sure they will really be grateful for the brownies. Mom and I did everything together. My dad was gone but he never lived with her were around each other day and night she didn’t like being alone and I didn’t have a family so it worked for us. Not at first it did some adjusting. I see her in so many things too many memories I miss her telling me good night and I love you and I would tell her the same. Then on March 13 she took her life. I saw the whole thing…..gunshot to the head. I have been the same both physically and mentally since

[@hollygardner5076]

@ Hi Wren, I am so sorry for your loss and Even more sorry you have had to experience this trauma. There are certified counselors who do EMDR. I have only done 3 sessions but it has helped with the trauma to get rid of PTSD. I hope you will consider it. I have also found taking time to journal and write letters to my son helpful.

[@pantherpauli749]

That was really helpful. Grief being an internal state that is exposed during the holiday season reasonated a lot with me. After losing my mum who was my whole family and who celebrated every christmas with me, I feel devastated during this time. Sitting through work events were everyone is asking: "What are your plans for christmas? Have you prepared all the presents?" is just painful. I feel so exposed and I have no idea what to say. Normally I carry my grief inside of me and I can chose when I want to mention my loss. Now it feels like the whole world is screaming: We have a family, you don't.

[@WrenChastain]

I feel same way. I hate this time of year. I didnt always that way.

[@charlottelogan7822]

@@WrenChastain when my mom died I was crushed. (Looking back, losing her was more difficult than the death of my husband 7 years later). I decided to get some counseling and not too many sessions in, I discovered with the help of my counselor that it wasn’t my mom’s death that kept me from moving forward but was my relationship with my husband. After that got sorted, the grief I felt due to the loss of my mother fell into an appropriate perspective.

[@dorisdaylight8415]

Gees I thought I was the only one feeling like you are. They will never get it unless they are in the same boat. This is such a hard time of the year, more than every other day of the year, as if that isn't hard enough. At least you have work mates, someone to even just idle chat to. You know it is harder not to have even that. When it is you and four walls, you, yourself and I. Be grateful for those you work with, even though they could be more sensitive to you. Gees some just don't get it do they. Sending you hugs.

[@WrenChastain]

@@dorisdaylight8415 I completely understand. I don’t have anyone to talk to either. I stay hidden inside in the dark with my grief. I know I shouldn’t but I’m not ready to live again. I might as well be dead.

[@stylemethrift997]

After I lost my beloved dog last year I had new years on my own. I got so many invites but I knew in my heart I needed alone time. I woke up feeling much better

[@aquaman199]

Ok

[@andrea4505]

I understand and feel the same way. My cat baby passed in May, and her sister in January 2021, so I dread this time of year.n

[@WrenChastain]

I no longer do Holidays. It’s too painful. I watch movies or shows anymore. This is the second holidays without mom. She passed away (took her life) on March 13, 2023 and my dad passed away two months later. I struggle each day. I miss her so much. The holidays was the two of us.

[@WrenChastain]

Don’t watch

[@Marjoe4005]

Prayers. Mom died last year 😢. Christmas is not the same,anything for that matter

[@rozanidesignsmasquerade7050]

Thank you, Jo, for this interesting topic. 💓 Yes. “feeling out of step” is a good description. I want to feel welcomed and not just invited because the hostess doesn’t want me to be alone for Christmas. That is to say, I want to be comfortable without obligation to blend in with everyone at what I call “Widowed and Divorced World”. Try as I may, there is usually a disappointed hostess friend if I choose to only stay for a short visit. The irony is that she’s so busy preparing things that we hardly get to talk except during the big meal. It’s hard to hold a one-on-one conversation. I’ve accepted invitations every year, as not to let my friend down because she thrives on helping people who feel lonely. The thing is I don’t feel lonely when I’m home alone for Thanksgiving or Christmas. I go to her home and feel isolated when people are all doing their own thing or nothing and they don’t want to strike up a conversation. It’s the same every year with lonely widowed and divorced acquaintances whom I know but are only close friends of my friend. Rarely do they even greet me (the most recent widow), unless I initiate it first. Yet the meal is always wonderful and appreciated. If the environment does not feel like family or there are no close friends, I prefer not to stay for hours. Whereas, once I’ve returned back home, I can feel relief and be comforted and inspired by my decorations, fragrant scents, music and wonderful solitude. After all is said and done, I love giving myself serenity, the best gift of all. 😍🌲

[@pigletsbank437]

@@rozanidesignsmasquerade7050 so true and giving yourself serenity sounds like the best gift of all. Although people surrounding us other mistake it for pitty party

[@pigletsbank437]

❤ "You can say you have an other event, that could be the couch without telling" it made me laugh out loud. Good idea, I will have to practice on your line but they are Definitely helpfull. Hope I can keep a straight face afther seeing this😅 because I will be seeing your face and hear your voice when I do!

[@judygrubaugh5424]

The early fears of being judged were founded. People make lists and time lines for us. However, I do not need someone's approval or permission to honor my own process. Unfortunately I have lost other relationships besides my husband, because I failed to be who they thought I was. Funny, because I have just been finding out who I am, myself and can't imagine them having better insight than I. This sets me free.

[@harrydeanbrown6166]

Thanks, Jo, very helpful.

[@jeanettebranco1910]

This is my second holiday without my soulmate , love of my life , boyfriend, cannot think about celebrati g, i wil be alone and watch movies, and try and find my peace without him, i hope and wish all of us have the strength to go on without the love of our life ,not being with us. .

[@dorisdaylight8415]

Please tell me what movies you watch in grief? It seems every movie is about love. I can't find any that don't hurt me watching them. Even listening to music it is all about love and when yours is gone, well the world seems to be rubbing it in.

[@jeanettebranco1910]

I watch mysterious and some comedies. It helps me alot.

[@Otessa-j4u]

It has been since 07 September 2022 that my late Husband Robert left me. Nothing has changed, I just bury better in my heart and mind One thing that keeps me going, is that I will NOT always feel this way, because I know that Yeshua HaMashiach _Jesus Christ shall return and I shall feel grief NO longer.

[@WrenChastain]

Amen. 🙏🏻💔😞

[@charlottelogan7822]

Yes! He will be your best support. It happened for me. Lost my husband 10/7/23. God showed up big time.

[@CR10.07]

@@charlottelogan7822how did He show up big time ?