How to (quickly) make progress in life

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Better Ideas

Better Ideas

Күн бұрын

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@starlanzo
@starlanzo Жыл бұрын
How to make progress in life: 1 - Develop a vision (imagine/visualize where you want to be); 2 - Weaponize your attention (focus on what you want and like to do); 3 - Surrender/submission (don't fight to do what you have to do, just relax and try it step by step).
@MarioKstgr
@MarioKstgr Жыл бұрын
After the video ended, I forgot half of it. These summarys are so helpful.
@Mark1Mach2
@Mark1Mach2 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@Mark1Mach2
@Mark1Mach2 Жыл бұрын
@@MarioKstgrlol
@racysounds9470
@racysounds9470 Жыл бұрын
Thanks
@xLTxFire
@xLTxFire Жыл бұрын
I always just make my own, I wasn't expecting one in the comments. @@MarioKstgr
@Phill_F
@Phill_F Жыл бұрын
"Develop a vision that's more exciting to you than the pleasures that surround you". For someone with ADHD, this is near life changing. Thank you.
@lohi172
@lohi172 11 ай бұрын
As someone with ADHD, I appreciate this comment. While it doesn’t define who we are, ADHD is the opposite of focus so fulfilling one’s vision often seems impossible. There were a couple points in here that I’m gonna lean into while still sticking with medication and therapy. Good luck to you!
@maximilianososa9033
@maximilianososa9033 11 ай бұрын
@@lohi172 Ty for your comment (As an ADHD person)
@Josh-Beeton
@Josh-Beeton 9 ай бұрын
I don't have ADHD but I also resonated with this quote as well
@bperez8656
@bperez8656 8 ай бұрын
As someone with ADHD The knowledge of what he said is great but it’s the freezing with short term pleasure that stops us Knowing this won’t change your life Doing it is the only way
@MyMomSaysImKeen
@MyMomSaysImKeen Жыл бұрын
Better Ideas is the closest thing to a father I've ever had
@mightymoeish
@mightymoeish Жыл бұрын
I can be another father figger for you
@CarbonBeast
@CarbonBeast Жыл бұрын
Same
@ruimarques1408
@ruimarques1408 Жыл бұрын
​@@CarbonBeast😊
@wguts999
@wguts999 Жыл бұрын
​@@ruimarques1408😊
@rojodivagante
@rojodivagante Жыл бұрын
Same and I´m oldest than him haha
@con_doorman
@con_doorman Жыл бұрын
"Develop a vision more exciting to you than the pleasures that surround you." Well said!
@rannyorton
@rannyorton Жыл бұрын
Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future.., I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life!!
@Robertgriffinne
@Robertgriffinne Жыл бұрын
Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life beause I invested early ahead this time .
@smithlenn
@smithlenn Жыл бұрын
The rich Invest in alternative income streams that are independent of the government should be the top priority for everyone right now. especially given the global economic crisis we are currently experiencing. Stocks, gold, silver, and virtual currencies are still attractive investments at the moment...
@ivankagel9949
@ivankagel9949 Жыл бұрын
I thought about investing in the financial market, I heard that people make millions if you know the tricks of the trade, but I lack good knowledge and a strategy to outperform the market and generate good yields. I have $160,000 but it's hard to bite the bullet and do it.
@dawsondanny990
@dawsondanny990 Жыл бұрын
Having an investment advisor is the best way to go. Based on a direct encounter with a CFP named Kate Elizabeth Amdall, I can say with certainty that their skills are excellent. She helped raise over $580,000 in 18 months from an initially stagnant portfolio of $150,000
@ivankagel9949
@ivankagel9949 Жыл бұрын
Fantastic! can u share more details?
@realblakematthew
@realblakematthew Жыл бұрын
Your emphasis on the importance of having a vision resonated with me deeply. It's a gentle reminder that without a compass, it's easy to get lost. And yes, attention is truly our most precious currency in this age of distraction. Your point about surrender, allowing ourselves to truly feel and not be burdened by external circumstances, is a perspective that I hadn't considered deeply before. It was refreshing. 🐺
@exnihilonihilfit6316
@exnihilonihilfit6316 Жыл бұрын
_If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable._ - Lucius Annaeus Seneca
@exnihilonihilfit6316
@exnihilonihilfit6316 Жыл бұрын
...and no wind seems unfavorable. - I'd add, since when you have no purpose, you waste tons of your time on things that would seem insane otherwise. Like watching videos whose content will be forgotten 2 days later. 😅
@WingingItCrypto
@WingingItCrypto 11 ай бұрын
Your part about creating a vision was so good that I had to do it before even continuing the video. Specifically for me, a short-term vision. I often get lost chasing my long-term goals. I'm a very ambitious person, I pretty much know what I want in life, and I know I'm more than capable of achieving it. The only thing holding me back it trying to chase the end goal too soon. It becomes overwhelming and ultimately stops me from making any progress at all because the thought of starting, knowing that I've got so much to do, is a daunting prospect.
@taubadaniels6249
@taubadaniels6249 Жыл бұрын
I never comment on KZbin videos, but I had to for this one. I've been watching your content for years and seeing how much your channel has grown in that time is so great to see. The quality of your content is so captivating, engages me right to the very end (which is rare!) and avoids all the waffle that so many videos have. There's no BS, you get straight to the point but you still manage to film cinematic, well scripted (and often comedic) videos that also feels very much like you + your personal work, not copying what everyone else is doing. You make self-improvement sound less daunting and much more like a journey to get excited about, not one that exhausts me before I even start. Your ideas are simple but effective, and watching your videos makes me feel like I can achieve my goals without feeling like I have to join the toxic productivity cult to do so. Create your vision, focus your attention on that vision, and learn to surrender to the task at hand. May your channel continue to shine, Joey! Keep doing what you're doing. You're helping a lot of people :)
@Another_AR
@Another_AR Жыл бұрын
great comment and i feel just the same as yours.wish this channel become better and better 🤩
@MKULTRA_Victim_
@MKULTRA_Victim_ 10 ай бұрын
Great comment, thank you for making it
@Takeshi_Kovacs7
@Takeshi_Kovacs7 Жыл бұрын
I actually managed to get out of the rud lately in my late 20s after nearly 10 years of procrastination. Turns out I just needed accomplishments to kickstart my mood, motivation and hope, to fuel my self confidence and my will to move forward. I accomplished more in the last year than in the 10 years before that. Surround yourself with good people, put yourself in a good mood and keep going. I'm just at the beginning of my journey but its great to feel that amount of power running through my body.
@shaheerasajan18
@shaheerasajan18 Жыл бұрын
What r d things u did??
@kdpwt
@kdpwt Жыл бұрын
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@jacqueslee2592
@jacqueslee2592 10 ай бұрын
It wasn't your time before, now it is.
@MKULTRA_Victim_
@MKULTRA_Victim_ 10 ай бұрын
Are you me? This is my goal this year.
@MKULTRA_Victim_
@MKULTRA_Victim_ 10 ай бұрын
10 years of procrastination. I can empathize so hard with that. Dang. It's like I was living but not really alive
@Harshitmahour
@Harshitmahour 11 ай бұрын
i am 22 now and running late in life than my friends and other people of my age in general, this is taking a toll on my confidence. It's not that i am not doing things to change my life for good but i feel like i am not doing enough, i struggle to study for few hours and i feel entitled to my goals just because i have written them. I feel really left behind today and everyone is going ahead of me. I have left social media long time ago but it doesn't mean that now i will surely reach my goals. I was having good routine for a week from which i got side-tracked today, i hope i get back on right track today quickly. This video again re-emphasized the idea of having a vision in life. I am gonna do that hopefullly. And there's a girl that wants to meet me ( i also wants too ) but i am not really confident in my life in general coz of those things i wrote above and i strongly believe that this is not the right time for me to meet girls or make gf and i should just disappear for a year to change my life for good and to build a strong identity that resonates with me and makes me feel like *YEAH, THIS IS THE REAL ME*
@Marc-ju3sc
@Marc-ju3sc Жыл бұрын
I don't know how I want to feel.
@gavincox3487
@gavincox3487 29 күн бұрын
Start with how you don’t want to feel
@Jack0619
@Jack0619 11 күн бұрын
I think at base level all people benefit from having their own respect, if you really are at step zero and you need to get out of a bad spot, stop doing what makes you feel good in the moment but do what makes you respect yourself more and you should find yourself on the right path for the first time in a long time
@aaRept
@aaRept Жыл бұрын
The snippet that you edited in, explaining what submission is, is an absolute gold nugget. I struggle to do what I know I need to do on a daily basis at my job. I have this intense physical reaction of clenching my feet and my stomach tightens. I feel like I want to do anything but what I have to do. It's really reassuring to hear that other people also feel a resistance and having faith in the process will actually help. Thank you sincerely for this video, and particularly that part. It really spoke to me.
@chris_1988
@chris_1988 Жыл бұрын
Oh Gawd, it's so bad when it actually gets physical. Aside from the pit in the stomach, my hands get cold and my hearts speeds up a good amount. It's almost like an allergic reaction to things that are eventually helpful to you. Brains can be real dicks...
@aaRept
@aaRept Жыл бұрын
@@chris_1988 Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention the "hands get cold and my hearts speeds up a good amount" part haha.
@helenstratigos4862
@helenstratigos4862 Жыл бұрын
"Where your eyes gaze, your feet tend to follow." Yes. Amen! Focus that attention on where you want to go. ❤
@law11school11girly
@law11school11girly Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤
@MudroZvon
@MudroZvon Жыл бұрын
Here are bullet-points: Crafting an Inspiring Vision - Develop a specific, detailed vision for your ideal future life 1 year from now - Focus on how you want to feel and who you want to become more than material success - Ensure your vision is emotionally compelling and exciting to you - Write down the specifics to clarify your vision and keep you motivated Harnessing the Power of Your Attention - Direct your attention purposefully towards your vision to turn goals into reality - Be aware of where your focus goes and guard against distractions - Treat your attention as precious by being selective about where it goes - Align your thoughts and energy with your core vision for maximum traction Surrendering to the Process - Access desired emotional states like calm and empowerment in the present moment - Take action with faith before you feel ready and disregard limiting beliefs - Allow yourself to relax into inspired action instead of forcing it - Progress comes from surrendering to the journey rather than controlling the process
@thegooodguy
@thegooodguy Жыл бұрын
did u write that manually or is it some ai video summary tool
@BKing007
@BKing007 Жыл бұрын
Thanks bud
@emiliagetsproductive
@emiliagetsproductive Жыл бұрын
I recently created a new channel (this one) on my KZbin account in order to get a different feed of videos - reserved only to productivity content. It’s hard not to feel motivated when I open it and pick something to watch. Works especially well when I have a dip in motivation and reading my productivity journal isn’t enough. Hearing a positive message from someone else gets the gears turning a lot better for me. I also applied this to instantly see content in languages that I’m learning so that there’s nothing in my way - except for switching channels. The path of least resistance is my favorite path. And I still have my other channel where I watch all the entertaining stuff when I want to relax. But it doesn’t distract me when I don’t want it. I don’t know if anyone will see this comment but maybe someone else would like to try it 😆
@ChristianCEC
@ChristianCEC Жыл бұрын
I feel so lucky to have found your channel.. thank you for what you do
@glass_wrld
@glass_wrld Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making positive, non-toxic self improvement content. It’s hard to find
@DamionRose
@DamionRose Жыл бұрын
Woke up today feeling lost, couldn’t get out of bed. Perfect timing, thank you 👑
@burrenwaffet7742
@burrenwaffet7742 Жыл бұрын
Bro watch the video first instead of commenting this
@DamionRose
@DamionRose Жыл бұрын
@@burrenwaffet7742 I’m an active watcher of this gentlemen, I can appreciate the video before and after watching it, this guy only puts out BANGERS 🔥🔥🔥
@alexmic7941
@alexmic7941 Жыл бұрын
Was actually thinking about your channel today Joey. I'm 28 & lost, feel like a complete loser with no sense of direction & I feel behind in life. But deep down I know I can do better. I just don't know what the 1st step is. I just hope it's not too late to turn my life around & make something out of myself. Thanks for the video man, cheers 🙂
@victor6010
@victor6010 Жыл бұрын
I'm 25 and I feel the same man... and I have no idea what to do... but I guess our first step is creating our vision of what we want and feel it in the now and things might get better... God bless us all ❤❤
@BenignBenny
@BenignBenny Жыл бұрын
Its not too late for you at all! Start with the small daily routines. It sounds easier than it is somedays. Get them down. Try again every day. Eventually you will develop a sense of order for yourself and your surroundings. Clean up your space, make room for yourself instead of your baggage. And as time goes, try and pick up another thing to include in your daily life. Then another one and so on. But take your time. Consistency is more important than the amount of stuff you are doing. One day at a time. It is stupid what you can do in a year, let a lone in two, three or five. Start small, keep at it and you will get there. I know you will. Now is not the time to give up, I believe in you.
@MrPinkfloydian
@MrPinkfloydian Жыл бұрын
Hi, Alex. I'm 45 and I could have written exactly what you wrote. I could also add that this is not just another phase of mine... this have been my whole life. At 40 is where I saw and felt all the possibilities that I could have after following some testimonies of adults ADHDers. I guess I just started to know who I am and who I have been, connecting all the dots ever since. More 5 f-years have passed and, you know, things are only getting worse by the minute. Everything will get worse if you keep doing the same things! (an obvious lesson that it is hard for us to understand). I guess everything comes to what Joey is saying: action is the key. Everybody is talking about it. Even sports people are wearing it! It's the most dumbly obvious thing to follow... and yet we struggle to do that. And with hardships we start to focus on the worst things, we derail from the things we should be doing, like Joey said we start dreading it (we choose "flight" instead of "fight" because it is easier) and we all crumble. Everything is so heavy to "lift" now. But this is it. Not only action is the key but it is also the way to lighten the burden of ages. I believe in what he said: then things start to be more enjoyable to engage after we submit ourselves to our things. I heard someone say something similar: dare to dream, embrace your dreams, put them on paper, and turn them into reality. If you don't put your dreams into action... be sure that's why dreams will never come true. Obvious again. So simple yet so hard. Let's do that, my friend. And please don't let yourself sink deep into the ages like I am in, you know? Don't let yourself be 45 the way I am. Wish you the best 🫂 Stay strong 💪
@erolc82
@erolc82 Жыл бұрын
I'm 28 too, and I feel just the same. 😔
@improvedperspective
@improvedperspective Жыл бұрын
28 and in the same boat brother. We got this though!
@sarthakumare6258
@sarthakumare6258 Жыл бұрын
as a person that is not a person, I am offended to not be addressed
@zajebancija11
@zajebancija11 Жыл бұрын
It feels just so good when you manage to get things done. Specially things which bring yourself forward.
@Racing_Society
@Racing_Society Жыл бұрын
I used to be an addict. Been clean for 10 yrs. I say that to say I’ve had a lot of therapy yet your videos are so eye opening in a way I’ve never really heard before. Please keep them coming 🙏
@granttakemoto9999
@granttakemoto9999 Жыл бұрын
The way you're able to express yourself in the ending where you're talking about what submission is is really admirable. Even with no cuts and fancy edits, your speaking and presentation is really concise and the information is valuable. Great video :)
@Dontheoffical8
@Dontheoffical8 Жыл бұрын
Joey you're the only KZbinr that makes a lot of sense for me. You're so clear. Most of the KZbinrs just blab about the same shit all the time with different background sounds and clothes and shit 😂 you the realest ❤️🔥
@victorespinoza6210
@victorespinoza6210 Жыл бұрын
"The feeling that you want to feel is available to you at all times."
@LostJ
@LostJ Жыл бұрын
The lack of vision is truly why I've felt so lost in these last two years. Staying in the same place, same job, and therefore same thoughts just leads the same days. I'm just having trouble figuring out my next but realise that the more thinking I do, the more time continues to pass. It's so frustrating when you don't have a clearly defined desire
@masked8745
@masked8745 Жыл бұрын
This seems like actual advice from a really genuine friend, i know you also dont know everything in life. But your advice is just genuine and it actually usually works for me, so your videos are always worth my awareness. Of course i need to progress in self control and temperance, but ye cold turkey is never the way its always about forming better healthier habits until you can break free and stay healthier mentally and physically
@rebeccadobbs4665
@rebeccadobbs4665 Жыл бұрын
I think you've just described the process of manifesting. It's great to hear it without the woo woo connotations! Your description of the tree and the outer branches being a physical outcome from the growth of the trunk was perfect!
@RussellBell96
@RussellBell96 Жыл бұрын
Excellent and informative video, Developing a proper "vision" is one of the greatest keys in life simultaneously with "plan". Every successful people must have a great vision and plans. Building wealth involves developing good habits like regularly putting money away in intervals for solid investments. Financial management is a crucial topic that most tend to shy away from, and ends up haunting them in the near future. Putting our time and effort in activities and investments that will yield a profitable return in the future is what we should be aiming for. Success depends on the actions or steps you take to achieve it. "You're not going to remember those expensive shoes you bought ten years ago, but you will remember every single morning when you look at your bank account that extra 0 in there. I promise, that's going to be way more fun to look at everyday", I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life too.
@AndrewPaul-ll7wf
@AndrewPaul-ll7wf Жыл бұрын
Successful people don't become that way overnight. most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time.
@Johnsonlee33
@Johnsonlee33 Жыл бұрын
You're right, you've remind me of what someone once said "The mind is the man, the poor is in it and the rich is it too". This sentence is the secret of most successful investors. I once attended similar and ever since then been waxing strong financially, and i most tell you the truth..investment is the key that can secure your family future.
@RobertJohn-xp3dp
@RobertJohn-xp3dp Жыл бұрын
Thank goodness you brought this up! Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this lately in life. Currently I earn as much as 10 grands weekly and this has improved my financial life.
@Michelleella9
@Michelleella9 Жыл бұрын
Wow, congratulations on your impressive investment success! Your discipline and focus on delayed gratification is truly inspiring. I'm curious, what are some of the key factors that you consider when making investment decisions? Do you have any tips for those of us who are just starting to dip our toes into the world of investing? Thanks for sharing your story!
@RobertJohn-xp3dp
@RobertJohn-xp3dp Жыл бұрын
Obviously I don't really trade myself, I have a good financial advisor who guide me.
@kevinw2569
@kevinw2569 Жыл бұрын
I've been waisting away waisting countless hours watching other peoples shit every day for years....exactly what I needed to hear!
@giftsofspring
@giftsofspring Жыл бұрын
I love how you shift your focus to more mindset based content. This is such a great video. Thank you!!
@skkrtskkrt-5210
@skkrtskkrt-5210 11 ай бұрын
26, next month i start GED classes and a month after that ill be taking the exam, after that i plan in joining the marines for 3 years and hopefully get some plumbing experience while im there, then if the GI bill still exists by then ill try to get in trade school/apprenticeship which apparently former military get priority to enroll then be an apprentice/jounrneyman for 8 years and then become a self employed residential plumber, thats the plan anyway...the end goal is just creating a family, cant do that broke I had the perfect girl ever, she was absolutely in love with me the same way i was with her, all she was asking of me was for me to get an apartment so we could live together and then get married since shes christian, unfortunately i was dirt broke, im not going to let it happen again Any tips/advice is greatly appreciated
@daveginos
@daveginos Жыл бұрын
You back 🎉🎉🎉🎉 I was worried! I though you not coming back!! Glad you are good 👍
@travissennett1026
@travissennett1026 Жыл бұрын
There’s a good analogy for this. Anybody that has ever done a rail grind on a skateboard/bike/snowboard/skis/etc, heck, even just walking on a balance beam, knows that you need to look at the end of the rail to stay on it. If you look at your feet you will fall off. So when you have a vision (what’s at the end of the rail), and you keep your attention on the vision, you are less likely to fall of the rail. Inevitably you will fall regardless about where you look, but the more you get back up and try again and keep your eyes on the end of the rail, the quicker you will grind that rail all the way to the end.
@tismeDenis
@tismeDenis Жыл бұрын
Grant me the serenity, to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things & the wisdom to know the difference = surrender & do it. Great video man 👍👏
@aidanmohrman9493
@aidanmohrman9493 11 ай бұрын
I genuinely feel like this was the video i’ve been looking for. The way you explained submission at the end made everything click. Also, how you explained us doom scrolling in search of the feeling that can only be found by not procrastinating. I’m gonna work on my designer clothing brand now.
@michaelteak
@michaelteak Жыл бұрын
Man, this really hit home for me today. This sums up so well what I’ve come to realize recently and this approach absolutely works. Even in the short-term, as you mentioned, you *feel good* doing the stuff you’ve been resisting. It strangely becomes easy. Thank you for this, and your content in general. You’re one of the good ones without a doubt.
@honkhonk1555
@honkhonk1555 Жыл бұрын
That surrendering feeling you describe at the 8:00 mark makes me think of the feeling I use to get during the last day/Friday before Christmas, and summer breaks during school. Also, to a lesser extent, that feeling on Friday when you’re walking towards your car in the parking lot to leave for the weekend. Another thing that gives me that type of feeling is when I use to occasionally buy a lottery ticket, and discuss with friends what it would be like to win. It’s hard to actually describe, but it’s that at ease feeling where it seems like everything is working out perfectly and flowing smoothly, and you can put everything stressing your mind(obligations) in the back of your head for a bit. Unfortunately this feeling rarely lasts longer than a couple of days in my experience. I’ve been told that some drugs, specifically cocaine, and meth can simulate these feelings for some. Shoot, I’ve experienced where caffeine taken at the right time can give you a mild sense of this phenomenon. It’s very interesting.
@tallefjant
@tallefjant Жыл бұрын
I think the reason why you make such good videos (like this one!) is because you express yourself in a sincere way and give sensible ideas that people can actually use. What you convey in this video may be obvious, but it helped me create my plan and helped connect the dots to current hurdles in my life
@DecrypterPrime
@DecrypterPrime 11 ай бұрын
Love how you address the often ignored internal cues of feelings. It really is called flow, because that's just how it FEELS. You let go of the blockage that boring old logic creates and you express the vision you've created. Less tension on the dualistic nature of things, and more focus on (what you consider) positive outcomes.
@tntori5079
@tntori5079 Жыл бұрын
This channel helped me a lot when I was in school.Started with part time at Best buy living in my grandparents spare room with 9 other family and hating where I was. Now (only a couple years later) I have a good relationship, my first house (which I love 😍) and job I'm happy at (ya there's days but in general I don't want to go elsewhere). All that to say it is possible. Even if it seems like the whole world is against you. It can happen.
@shbmsrto
@shbmsrto Жыл бұрын
FOCUS
@miqbaln14
@miqbaln14 Жыл бұрын
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🌌 Vision Development - Developing a vision is crucial for making progress in life. - Without a clear vision, it's challenging to gauge progress. - Most people lack a detailed vision and rely on vague societal expectations. - Create an exciting, detailed vision for yourself that goes beyond material possessions. 03:14 👀 Power of Attention - Understanding and leveraging your attention is essential for success. - Human attention is a valuable resource in today's world. - Your attention is the vehicle driving you towards your goals. - Focus on your vision and avoid distractions to gain traction in your life. 07:24 🔄 Surrendering to Your Vision - Surrendering to your vision is the final component for progress. - The feeling you want to achieve is available to you at all times. - External circumstances follow the authentic feeling of being yourself. - Surrendering or submitting to your vision involves relaxing into the steps necessary to achieve it.
@ComfortAjibola
@ComfortAjibola Жыл бұрын
Having faith and surrendering has been so transformational honestly.
@andrebaxter4023
@andrebaxter4023 Жыл бұрын
Excellent video. To add, something that really helped me not procrastinate and worry was to not be outcome dependent. I got it from the Stoic principles that I only have control over my mindset and my actions. Even if I work hard and dedicate myself, my goal still might not be reached, and that’s ok! It’s about the journey, not the destination. Tldr, let go of ALL outcomes. Be mindful. 🧘🏽‍♂️
@dubiousdistinction6500
@dubiousdistinction6500 11 ай бұрын
very good point
@itsrevlok
@itsrevlok Жыл бұрын
“Develop a vision that’s more exciting to you than the pleasures that surround you.” One of the best advice I have heard this year.
@dracofells5390
@dracofells5390 Жыл бұрын
I really struggle with the last point. Ive nailed the first two suprisingly intuitively but i have depression pretty bad mixed in with plenty of other mental challenge making it really hard to surrender to the process. Lately before even watching this video ive been stuck in this cycle. I'll be relaxed, happy and taking things step by step at my own pace. My mom calls, lays on expectations and deadlines even though im an adult, i try to explain why this isnt productive, get gaslit and then the next week is completely unproductive. Im unable to even relax or play games, i just sit all day staring at a wall or at my computer screen trying not to beat myself up for failing to do anything. Even relax. Its to the point where i consider cutting her off, but for fear that she might hurt herself, i cant do it. To be clear im not holding onto a victim mentality or anything, i just felt like venting because obviously it just happened again. Ive pushed myself through worse things that have happened to me and the long term damage to my mental and phsyical health taught me to no longer just "robot" my way through it. So im just really frustrated that ive reached such a point in my personal development and the people who are supposed to be my biggest supporters and caretakers are the ones dragging me down. Thank you for this video. It reassures me that im on the right path. Therapy hasnt really helped me, but hopefully this is the last time i need to vent this week before turning things around. Maybe this weeks a bust. Guess ill see
@SjorsTimmer
@SjorsTimmer Жыл бұрын
Just a random person on the internet here, but don’t dismiss therapy too soon. If you can afford it and you find a therapist you click with, it will work. In your case, since it’s related to people who’ve been so close to you for so long, it might take a few years to become your own independent person, but you will get there. Also a therapist is not a miracle worker, they’re more your support buddy, someone who you can check in with while you do the work. Obviously you can also do it on your own.
@lyncisr5059
@lyncisr5059 Жыл бұрын
Maybe if you can't cut her off, try to distance yourself emotionally and stop telling her about your most important goals? Maybe it will help to manage it
@diego04
@diego04 Жыл бұрын
You may think i have no right to tell you anything about you and your mom because we don't know each other, but, don't say she is dragging you down. She is your mom, she took care of you and i'm sure she always want you to be well and happy. She will not be here in this world forever, and when she goes, you will miss her a lot. So take good care of her, as it will be good to you too.
@leahweinberger583
@leahweinberger583 Жыл бұрын
​@@diego04no. Some parents are harmful. Just as you say she is your mom and you should feel this way about her you should also realize that he is her son and she should feel this way about him. And that is to encourage not gas light. I think there are some people when their parents died There They Mourn they absolutely mourn and there are other people that when their parents die they go and they salt the grave and nail the coffin shut. You never know who's doing what I think a good therapist might be a better solution
@gabrielmiranda169
@gabrielmiranda169 Жыл бұрын
hey man, leave your e-mail here, there are someone wanting send you a useful message. We are with you!
@insinia
@insinia Жыл бұрын
This is not a 'wo woo'. You talk spiritual truth in a very logical and pragmatic way. I'm impressed.
@thigaming9303
@thigaming9303 Жыл бұрын
Hey joey ive been watching your videos since i was 13 now im almost 16 and youre like the only one who've helped me a lot to improve myself cuz people in real life, people my age never talk about these stuff. You are like an older brother i never had please keep making content🔥
@insinia
@insinia Жыл бұрын
Keep going! If you stared improving your life so early, you are going to have a very good life in the future. Listen to yourself and get what you really want in life :)
@juliarafalska5463
@juliarafalska5463 Жыл бұрын
The most difficult thing and hard when it come to changing your life, 'glowing up', finding yourself is that you have to be honest with yourself, face your demons and nobody will help you 'cause they can't...
@filouchar
@filouchar Жыл бұрын
I always love watching your videos, it is so inspirational. I wish I could just follow your better ideas. I mean, I COULD do it. But sadly the motivation usually falls off pretty fast, and I m back to despair. In a video game, we see our progress so clearly. It's obvious. But in life, i can barely see if i m going towards my goals or just straight backwards. So obviously my mind tells me that I m just making one step forward two step back. And then here I am, back to my self destructive routine, hating myself and my whole life. I think this time I will track my progress a lot more. I don't know how, yet. I know its just another random comment on a KZbin video, but it feels good to vent out somehow. Anyway, great video as always. Thank you
@lukakantar6540
@lukakantar6540 Жыл бұрын
Going trough the same bro
@leahweinberger583
@leahweinberger583 Жыл бұрын
You never see the things you do not measure get a chart from the dollar store create one write a big goal right the performance indicators that will lead you there adding a piece of motivation and look at it every morning write down your progress every morning track it every morning and see if you improve if you improve a little go back to your kpis and increase them if you approve a lot keep going at the end of the month take it down start a new chart at the end of 3 months look at your charts you will see Improvement it will take discipline but make it big make it hokey make it the first thing you see in the morning and the last thing you see at night that is your focus and watch your world expand. Good luck!
@MaryMichelleWorthy
@MaryMichelleWorthy 11 ай бұрын
He’s so freakin good
@thebetterblokesproject
@thebetterblokesproject Жыл бұрын
Another great video! These sorts of messages reiterate some of the conversations we've had with people... and really how small little changes or improvements to your life can equate to significant change in the future.
@self-deprovement
@self-deprovement Жыл бұрын
The thing for me is: when someone spends so much time of his life not feeling this feeling you describe, it can also feel quite terrifying to feel this feeling for a longer period of time. When I feel like that it feels like my heart is pounding and I am sort of overwhelmed by a mix of joy and anxiety. It feels like I am on a moving train that goes in the right direction, but at a speed that I don't feel comfortable with. A speed that makes me feel like I could lose control over the train and derail at any moment. So it isn't always easy to relax into it, but I try. Thank you for the video!
@artirmuzil7028
@artirmuzil7028 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for pushing us to be better bro
@zy7532
@zy7532 Жыл бұрын
I started to use pen and paper and leaving my phone in other place, and my efficiency and clearness in mind is boosted. The problem with today, that most of work we do on mobile or laptop, but a lot of distractions are there. Also it is difficult for example to browse through your notes on digital, but much easier on paper. So I recommend to revert back to papers ;)
@InvinciblePepe
@InvinciblePepe Жыл бұрын
Super helpful advice and i experienced the same. When I don't use my phone or use a blocker to block all the distractions, my productivity is 100X compared to when I don't
@rzuku97TV
@rzuku97TV Жыл бұрын
is there a simple way on focusing on one thing? I want to become a UI designer or just a graphic designer, sometimes I wish that my painting hobby could make me money to live off it, other times I wish I could make music… How do I choose the right thing? I’m 26, got a shitty job, I feel tired and don’t really know what to do. Could you make a video around this topic?
@manofculture8026
@manofculture8026 Жыл бұрын
Just choose one thing and really stick to it for a year. The perception that "I can do anything" stops us from doing really anything.
@ioncatalin1713
@ioncatalin1713 11 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@tanzil.
@tanzil. Жыл бұрын
Start following you 1 year couple of months ago. I learn a lot. Thank you men👊🌱
@gustovmark
@gustovmark Жыл бұрын
Absolute facts. I’ve been focusing on letting go and realizing I am already successful. Focus on relaxing, everything is working out.
@Sumbee
@Sumbee Жыл бұрын
Outwitting the devil is like in my top 5 favourite books of all time. Super deep read. I’ve been reading it on and off since 2019. Definitely some of it is unhinged but a lot of it is really true stuff that can change the way you look at everything. Great read. Great video :) thanks man.
@cognitivestate9512
@cognitivestate9512 Жыл бұрын
what are your favorite two or three books?
@exnihilonihilfit6316
@exnihilonihilfit6316 Жыл бұрын
Don't waste your time with superficial pop b.s. and go straight to good philosophy: Ayn Rand and Leonard Peikoff. Objectivism. Try her novels first to see if you have a predisposition for it: Atlas Shrugged and The Fountainhead
@exnihilonihilfit6316
@exnihilonihilfit6316 Жыл бұрын
I was responding to cognitivestate9...
@Sumbee
@Sumbee Жыл бұрын
@@cognitivestate9512 Power of now, power of your subconscious mind
@Sumbee
@Sumbee Жыл бұрын
@@exnihilonihilfit6316 I’ll check it out.
@MohamedAnwar.
@MohamedAnwar. Жыл бұрын
1-Develop a vision
@waldmannhans
@waldmannhans Жыл бұрын
Joey, when I started following your channel (back when you had like 10k subs) I was constantly watching self-development content without really getting better at anything myself. Now, and for a while now, your channel is the only self-help channel left in my algorithm and I feel you have kind of become a mentor of mine. Recently, most days have been good days and when they're not, I at least know what's wrong, and though I feel like most things have just fallen into place for me, your videos always remind me to continue down the path I'm on right now. Thanks mate
@freckles5959
@freckles5959 11 ай бұрын
The fact that he pointed out that we felt a piece of what we wanted to be, was actually really eye opening. I was sitting at my desk at work and felt what I wanted and a few minutes later he pointed it out.
@AbhishekSingh-ip3xe
@AbhishekSingh-ip3xe Жыл бұрын
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🤔 Developing a Vision for Progress - To make progress in life, you need a clear and exciting vision for your future. - Your vision should go beyond material possessions and focus on the kind of person you want to become. - Create a detailed vision that excites you and keeps you motivated. 03:14 👁️ Weaponizing Your Attention - Human attention is a valuable resource that shapes your actions and influences your success. - Focus your attention on your vision, as it's the key to making progress. - Be aware of where you direct your attention and how it aligns with your goals. 07:24 🤝 Surrendering to Your Vision - Surrendering means relaxing into the feeling of who you want to become. - Instead of struggling, trust in the process and take action aligned with your vision. - This act of submission or surrender can lead to a state of flow and fulfillment. Made with HARPA AI
@banshee1832
@banshee1832 Жыл бұрын
"Are you treating your attention with respect?" man, this one struck me like a lightning Thanks for video, good as always!
@strictlymoe
@strictlymoe Жыл бұрын
Always happy to see an upload from you. Recently started pairing therapy with my self development, and am making lots of progress
@nathansheasley3143
@nathansheasley3143 Жыл бұрын
Uncomplicated and straight to the point. Your videos are top tier
@MarcusConnelly-w2n
@MarcusConnelly-w2n 11 ай бұрын
I've had my attention on getting a job and/or a girlfriend since I was about 15. It never happened.
@andrewjames309
@andrewjames309 5 ай бұрын
How?
@MarcusConnelly-w2n
@MarcusConnelly-w2n 5 ай бұрын
@@andrewjames309 You think I know? No-one would hire or date me.
@thealienatedearthling1742
@thealienatedearthling1742 3 ай бұрын
Hey you ought to give a shot listening to Joe Diszpenza I was in similar shoes as yours. Things have started to move for me after following his school of thoughts about silence and an empty mind​@@MarcusConnelly-w2n
@GuerinecheMohamedIslem
@GuerinecheMohamedIslem 2 ай бұрын
Impossible, must've missed something along the way
@mannofinno
@mannofinno 9 ай бұрын
Thank you. I’ve been stuck for days, weeks, months and today felt right for the right reasons. Today felt good even. It’s not like I was I completely in the dark or that I have been forced to stay at unproductive and overwhelmingly sad pattern but for whatever reason it all dislodged for the better. One step for the better at a time.
@sophiaisabelle027
@sophiaisabelle027 Жыл бұрын
We appreciate your insights on this matter. We will support you no matter what.
@Darknight526
@Darknight526 11 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video Chad.
@normannequin
@normannequin Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video, I need those types of videos to help me get through life!
@woodenheartsos
@woodenheartsos Жыл бұрын
From a mental health perspective, the surrender to the process really resonated with me as I find that if I get worked up trying to accomplish something rather than relaxing and enjoying the process, I'll have worse outcomes.
@the.bonsai.samurai
@the.bonsai.samurai Жыл бұрын
Good doctors heal you, so that you don't have to come back over and over again! Very few content creators tell you that if you get their content right you won't need to consume more and more of it, you'll be "healed" as such. This is why this channel resonates so well with so many people, because your content is always genuinely trying to help people!
@bawbsmith
@bawbsmith Жыл бұрын
Yikes, I guess you didn't give your comment much thought. 1. Nearly every self-help guide will tell you that it's "the last one you'll ever need!" He's not unique in saying that you don't need his content if you do it right. 2. By your own very definition, considering that he has millions of subscribers (i.e. people that want to come back), he's not a very good doctor. Also, a bad doctor will also tell you that this will cure you, despite knowing that it won't. 3. As much as I enjoy his presentation style, the underlying message is really basic stuff, pulled from self-help 101. "Visualize who you want to be"s - This idea in verbatim is *at least* 100 years old, and similar ideas of how the mind shapes your world have been around for thousands of years. Again, I like his content, but I'm not going to start making analogies to a doctor. His channel, whether by design or not, is dependent on people coming back for more content, so if his content were truly something that "heals" people so they don't need any more "treatment", his channel would fail. Considering that his channel continues to grow... I'd liken him more to a snake-oil salesman than a doctor, albeit one that doesn't oversell his product nor sells anything harmful. His underlying message is technically true - If you can just do what he says you should do, you'll be successful. The key is that he knows very few people will actually follow through on his vague instructions, so they'll have to come back for another "how to improve your life" video.
@the.bonsai.samurai
@the.bonsai.samurai Жыл бұрын
@@bawbsmith Well good for you for giving my 10sec comment "so much thought". I suppose we all get different messages from content at different times of our lives. I find his content very helpful, unlike some other creators.
@GoldenMushroom64
@GoldenMushroom64 Жыл бұрын
@@the.bonsai.samuraidon’t listen to him. He’s one of those insufferable negative nancies who thinks he knows everything.
@erincosta1370
@erincosta1370 7 ай бұрын
You are my AHA moment! You articulated everything I "knew" but said it in a way I needed to hear to really "get" it. I appreciate you
@Pilgrimss
@Pilgrimss Жыл бұрын
Perfect timing! I've been needing a video like this :)
@SerotoninRelease.
@SerotoninRelease. Жыл бұрын
This video finally came up for me today, at the perfect time. I've been a subscriber for a while and today of all days, I have been figuring out my vision and this video has helped reinforce that idea even deeper into my brain. I may lose my relationship because I haven't had a clear vision nor focus. Although, at the same time lately, I have been thoroughly enjoying creating some simple graphic designs, so it feels like in some way, these 3 key points to make progress are happening right now to me. Although, it can certainly be refined and be more exact and orderly. Thank you!
@Laura-je2uw
@Laura-je2uw Жыл бұрын
I realize that whats keeping me from reaching my goals is my lack pf submission typically i take a long time planning and strategizing on a system (habits) to improve my life, but as soon as i start them i already pivot leading to replanning the entire system. If i would just follow through without requestioning everything all the time i would be much further in my life.
@nmdiop00
@nmdiop00 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this ! I was going through an existential crisis, not wanting to do much. But after watching this video I now want to get my life together and I'll comment in few months for a progress update !!! Thank you thank you so much.
@prothymos
@prothymos Жыл бұрын
I'm going bald and this man gives me confidence and hope for my future self
@GoldenMushroom64
@GoldenMushroom64 Жыл бұрын
Get your life together with good money, good career etc then you can shave it off without feeling weird about it. But for now don’t stress.
@mayotv9645
@mayotv9645 Жыл бұрын
I think you really helped me with this part about weaponizing your attention cause i really struggle with knowing what i want but when i feel deep inside myself i hear it clear what really always get‘s my attention thank you!
@whosawotnow
@whosawotnow Жыл бұрын
*laughs in ADHD* It must be nice to be neurotypical.
@MsTrustUs
@MsTrustUs Жыл бұрын
Yes, for us the first step is to be not mentally disabled.
@WeebFitness
@WeebFitness Жыл бұрын
What I learned from this video: I don't care about half of the things that "everyone wants". I can't visualize how I would behave in a state where I'm doing the things I need to do, because I'm lost. There is no way to (quickly) make progress in life.
@andrewanastasovski1609
@andrewanastasovski1609 Жыл бұрын
Thanks, that video was pretty helpful. Don't give up on the idea of submission or surrender. The human mind is a complex place. It can be difficult to describe ideas and feelings in a way that's meaningful to people, but I think that just relaxing into the tasks you may not feel like doing in the moment, but which serve your vision is a good thing to talk about.
@NdaHsbelnabi-fj9xi
@NdaHsbelnabi-fj9xi Жыл бұрын
''But at the end of the day it's just a matter of doing it or not doing it" . I love this sentence much and your concept in general 😍 You want to arrive is arrived Thanks alot ❤
@tomrenegadefilms
@tomrenegadefilms Жыл бұрын
I don't think you can overstate the idea of surrender/submission. In my experience it's the only way to turn a bad day around!
@NBTJacklyn
@NBTJacklyn Жыл бұрын
The end of this is so great
@andywilliamb
@andywilliamb Жыл бұрын
Here's my issue that I've lived with for years. Every 6 or so months I get out of my rut and my mental health is great, and then the next 6 are depressing and I've lost all motivation. I feel stressed 24/7 for no reason. I always have a fear of being fired or not wanted, and at the same time I feel SO guilty to take a break and play games or spend time on myself because I'm not being productive and improving my life. It's such a vicious cycle and I am SO exhausted☹ I have ADHD, and I feel like the US and the UK isn't equipped to support people with health issues. They push them to one side, and it terrifies me because I just want to succeed.
@seekingpurpose
@seekingpurpose 11 ай бұрын
When in a rut, I try to remember to repeat to myself "A year from now, you wish you had started today".
@x0r1k
@x0r1k 2 ай бұрын
I don't know how, but just watching this video makes me feel so confident. My back is straight and my shoulders are open. I feel like a human and not that miserable creature, that I used to be. All my problems suddenly become so small and totally solvable. Thank you!
@imazspams6760
@imazspams6760 Жыл бұрын
That Quickly in the bracket made all the difference
@bangojetty
@bangojetty Жыл бұрын
thank you
@elvenonyt4617
@elvenonyt4617 Жыл бұрын
I was literally looking for one of your videos to watch right before dinner, and when I came back I see this
@abdelmoneimelshafei6570
@abdelmoneimelshafei6570 Жыл бұрын
Most Important Points : 1 - Developing a vision is crucial for success, as it provides direction and purpose. 2 - Human attention is a valuable resource, and those who understand its power have created an economy around it. 3 -The key to achieving what you want in life is to focus on how you want to feel and behave, which will lead to external success as a byproduct. 4 - Submission refers to the act of doing what needs to be done, even in the face of resistance, by relaxing into it physically and psychologically. 5 - By submitting to your higher conception of good and following your vision, you can experience a state of flow and fulfillment. 6 - It's important to enjoy the process and find joy in what you do.
@Flaviadriana
@Flaviadriana 10 ай бұрын
8:50 the key
@joshjahada4238
@joshjahada4238 Жыл бұрын
Damn! 4 minutes in and I love the video. I'm gonna watch this like 5x over but I really just wanted to say you have a very good intellect. I love your point about human attention being the most valuable resource!
@hannamahat4974
@hannamahat4974 4 ай бұрын
Been watching your videos for the past 5 days, and the feeling is like having a psychologist friend tells me things i should have realized. Not a motivator, but like a friend.
@liampercy3490
@liampercy3490 Жыл бұрын
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:41 🌟 Develop a clear and exciting vision for your life. It's essential to define what you want to achieve and where you want to be in the future. 03:14 🔍 Understand the power of your attention. Your attention is a valuable resource that drives you toward your goals. Focus on your vision rather than distractions. 07:24 🌟 Surrender to your desired feelings and behaviors. Instead of fighting resistance, relax into the feeling of being the person you want to become, and let that guide your actions. Made with HARPA AI
@Sarahhh_Klein
@Sarahhh_Klein Жыл бұрын
The last part of the video is so true 🙌🏼 one of the beste video’s / concepts ever
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