How to quit being a perfectionist! (And become an optimalist)

[@zaqueumacedo5674]

That's my reality. I'm such a perfectionist and I start to hate my self every time I do something wrong. And If I my boss ask me to do something I get nervous and anxious thinking " I can not fail". In my opinion, be pessimistic is close to be perfectionist because we always think the possibility of fail first. Your video is great. Thank you for spend your time doing something such meaningful like this.

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[@procrastinatingnow9451]

“One day you will wake up and there won't be any time to do the things you've always wanted...Do it now.” ~ Paulo Coelho

[@creativecompanion]

I love how you share the pen and paper with us. How you circle things, underline things, emphasize things with lines, doodles, etc. Somehow it makes the learning more concrete. Maybe it speaks to my right brain. Thank you! I hope you'll do more like this one! :)

[@HeroicBrian]

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[@HeroicBrian]

Thank you, George! Look forward to growing together in the months/years/decades ahead! :)

[@LiftYourSpiritCoaching]

Just discovered your video’s and find them super inspiring!!

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[@rustiq-coach61]

Great recap, thank you! You so succinctly captured so many concepts, ideas and strategies in a short video - I applaud you!

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[@HeroicBrian]

Hey Clark: Working on it! Look forward to playing together in Dec~ :)

[@gs5752]

Hey there. I just wanted to tell you that I totally respect what you are doing. I think that self development has a massive power and enormous impact in our life. We came from 2 different worlds but our ideas are similar. Keep up the good work!

[@yinon500]

this information is very useful! it is motivating me to go out, not being afraid from my failure, and not feeling bad with failures in the future. i think it's a matter of perspective, and you are just helping me finding the right one, and not making a big deal out of a small failures. i am glad that I have discovered your channel and I'll be sure to check out more of your videos! (and subscribe of course ;) )

[@HeroicBrian]

Yinon Belker Thrilled to hear you're enjoying and appreciate your support, Yinon!! Let's do this! :)

[@HeroicBrian]

Awesome. Thrilled you dug it and here's to becoming optimalists!! :)

[@HeroicBrian]

Thanks, Donna! Thrilled we're connected and here's to a wonderful 2013 with a beautiful guiding star! :)

[@haellis]

Thank you so much for this. I was really needing it.

[@HeroicBrian]

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[@CubanitaFresca]

Thank you! That was really good. The part about "Being good" Vs "Getting better" was really eye opening - lot of food for thought here!

[@RobertGAudet-ty8jt]

Thanks Brian - received this from my coach - very inspiring and quite helpful for seeing how the shame I've been working through is based on the fixed mindset. Feeling the power of that revelation. I am grateful for this video.

[@JulianaBeasley1967]

This is really great! I am going to check out some of your other videos. I suffer from the need to be perfect and it has completely paralyzed me into the dreaded "comfort zone." I really need to just get better at failing and getting the most out of whatever experience comes down my path. Thanks so much! Life is about experiment and process and not about getting the golden carrot.

[@donnagill9243]

Thank you so much for this brilliant perspective. My distant shore is definitely morphing into a star for 2013. I've only recently discovered you and your work, Brian, and am loving it! Happy New Year to you!

[@swaasje1]

So happy to have you in my life, such a good friend! Very refreshing

[@HeroicBrian]

Awesome, Trisha! Love to you and your fam! :)

[@eortegaz]

Awesome video! Crazy underlining there! haha great way to explain quite tough concepts though!

[@HeroicBrian]

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[@jacobsabrina74]

you didnt really cover HOW to become an optimist. I can't just flip a switch and say "oh I'm an optimist now" this is 40 years of programming into my head here.

[@HeroicBrian]

Katrina Vantassel Technically I was trying to help you shift from being a perfectionist to an *optimalist* (not an optimist per se)! I hear ya on the challenges of re-wiring 40 years of programming. Definitely not going to do that in an 8.5 min video. :) Takes a TON of work, of course. Here's a little Note that I hope you will give you a little more insight into a facet of the process: cl.ly/2n3T07302x0z

[@jacobsabrina74]

***** thank you :)

[@HeroicBrian]

Thank you, Georgi!!

[@HeroicBrian]

hehehe and Awesome!! Hope you enjoy!!

[@clodettelee9392]

you have a beatiful soul, thanks for sharing.

[@HeroicBrian]

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[@DiPritchie1]

Well, two down, 363 watches to go and I hope I don't become a perfectionist optimalist if there is such a thing!! (However, I don't foresee changing the way I staple papers together.) Thanks for everything, Bri, and I will definitely check out the Pursuit of Perfect!!

[@TonyAmstaff2012]

that really helps, man! i appreciate you're work very much! awsome job with those videos! Thanky you again!

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[@georgefilhour8122]

Great stuff my brother, I've been following your info for about 2 months now very impressive

[@clarkkegley]

Yo brian! What are the chances of PN Book #2 coming out!? Can't wait for O-Living Class this December bro! -Clark

[@HeroicBrian]

Amen to that! Altho, let's enjoy BOTH the process and the result, eh? :)

[@seredag]

Thank a lot. This is crystal clear and really helps me to understand my perfectionism. I think I'd rather be an optimalist and walk out of dreadly habits. Thanks!

[@shinobi520]

The beauty of imperfection is....perfection :D

[@ajitasingh233]

Absolutely loved this!

[@HeroicBrian]

+Ajita Singh Thanks, Ajita!! :) Optimize is now free! Sign up/tell your friends! www.optimize.me

[@IgorDernov]

Good points. Here's couple more. Perfectionism is endless process :-) . So you need to enjoy the process not the result.

[@charlenedadd4083]

This is making a lot of sense to me. I think it may help. Thanks for posting!

[@HeroicBrian]

Thanks for your note Charlene! Hope you have a great day! Zak | Team Optimize Optimize is now free! Sign up/tell your friends! www.optimize.me

[@bridgetspring7298]

I swear I'm a perfectionist I get angry at everything that is wrong in any way..............this realy helps me tho

[@josephzamora5268]

incredible stuff bro...just so right to the meat... thank you.

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[@HeroicBrian]

hehe and thanks! :)

[@zoespack]

Love this! I'm not a perfectionist at all but I'm married to one! Thanks for the tips and knowledge you share!

[@HeroicBrian]

:) Thanks! :)

[@JulianaBeasley1967]

Hi Brian, I hope you will get back to me. I want to watch more of your videos after I saw this video on the pursuit of perfectionism vs. optimilism. You have so many videos, I don't know where to begin. Can you lead me in the right direction. I am very interested in Positive Psychology and have been trying to incorporate ACT therapy skills into my daily life. Maybe you can tell me which videos of your I should take a look at. I really liked this one. Thanks so much for explaining it all so well!

[@nayoungjin6114]

really great video. educational and helpful.

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[@joshthomas6219]

Thank you 🙏🏼 this is great

[@hero9023]

Is it okay to be a perfectionist for my break dance training because sometimes I am out there for hours learning one move till I think it's perfect. I don't see how you can learn something and not want to strive to be "perfect", aren't those people who end up doing the most amazing things?

[@HeroicBrian]

Go for perfect but know it's not attainable! Yet... still go for it. :) Wooden captured it well: cl.ly/image/3n0x1Y2m090W That's from my Note on Wooden: brianjohnson.me/philosophers-notes/wooden/ More on Willpower + crushing it: brianjohnson.me/philosophersnotes-tag/willpower/ Optimize is now free! Sign up/tell your friends! www.optimize.me

[@robertrainey1728]

Really appreciate this teaching 😎

[@HeroicBrian]

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[@ihabalhamarneh504]

Amzing as usual

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[@justchillb]

Good stuff. It was a wise decision to subscribe to your channel

[@MC_DesmondSparrs]

Hmm interesting. I tend to undulate from both but I guess I'm more an optimalist. Still scared shitless but in the right setting and direction I just go on ahead and try some things. Someone very close to me is the perfectionist...and I think he is a bad influence on me overall. Typical type a person

[@HeroicBrian]

heheheheh. Love it. :) Check out Pursuit if Perfect, too! entheos .com/philosophersnotes/notes/all/The-Pursuit-of-Perfect#note_pntv

[@Priya-rf7ov]

thank you 😊

[@Corinnasmusic]

AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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[@someshrewadkar3899]

Awesome brian🤘🤘🤘🤘😍😍

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[@DiPritchie1]

Hi Bri! I have a new goal: To watch this particular video 365 x this year!! Di

[@rafaelbreno2981]

hey nice video!

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[@atifsaleed9717]

Ok, Brian. So, you say that an "optimalist" knows about reality. Obama was told that there was no way he was being president. Same for Beetles. Same for Michael Jordan. Same for Steve Jobs. Same for Mahatma Gandhi. Same for Thomas Edison. And you're sitting here talking about the so called "reality". Brian, I truly appreciate your willingness to help but, what you say just isn't true. Hope you read this.

[@PaulHanafinMusic]

Atif Saleed evidently that wasn’t the reality as was proven by the future events. So they were more in tune with reality than the person whose ‘opinion’ you refer to. The person who said you’ll never make it was maybe more the perfectionist. They were optimalists working at getting better rather than focusing on fixed ideas like ‘you’ll never make it’ ‘you definitely will make it’. Besides, because someone said Obama wouldn’t be president - how does that confirm it as reality. It was just an opinion. They were in control of there own destiny so had more say than on outside source.