How to recognize - and deal with - the narcissist in your life

Clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula joins Hoda & Jenna to discuss narcissism: what it is exactly, how to recognize the signs, the difference between narcissism and gaslighting, and ways to effectively deal with the narcissist in your life.
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#narcissist #advice #relationships

[@mariafarley7602]

Best advice my therapist gave me was: “ You can love someone (parent, sibling, etc) but not have a relationship with them.”

[@paulagalletta99]

The saddest situation is when a child has a narcissistic parent or parents and their behaviors are all the child knows when it comes to love. As they grow they accept narcissist as friends and intimate partners. I’m so happy to see awareness being shared about this topic. I believe narcissistic abuse is the most horrific experience and the cycle will continue with different faces until a person is educated on what is happening to them ❤

[@MT-tx7bu]

Agree! You hit the nail on the head. Educating yourself and taking time to get to know someone before committing.

[@proverbs3126]

your comment describes me to a tee. so grateful for the information I have learned from Dr. Ramani!!!

[@11jreeves]

I really look forward to her new book. In the meantime, the book “Narcissistic Fathers: How To Deal with a Toxic Father and PTSD” by Caroline Foster put it all into perspective for me in addition to Dr. Ramani’s You Tube videos.

[@markbarbaramichenzi3957]

My mother is a narcissist and I just kept attracting these people into my life. It's been a very painful journey for me but I'm educating myself at 60.

[@nancysmith3400]

Soooooooo helpful, thank you. We have the opportunity to learn about this personality type now. Trump is offering the opportunity of a lifetime for the MASTER CLASS in learning the skills to deal with a narcissist. Time to wake up out of the coma of the games they play on the mind. We can do this !!! Thank you so much Dr. ROMANI💗🙏👍🤗

[@shelmie5]

It’s about time this woman is spreading her knowledge of narcissism across national television

[@annjohnson8437]

Yes! Dr. Ramani is the best! ❤

[@munchey99508]

Dr Ramani has been speaking about narcissism for years.

[@yellowiris123]

Dr. Ramani has a KZbin channel.

[@lostundgefunden8023]

they shoulda brought out Jada Pinkett-Smith as a live example in the flesh as a demo

[@LindaQueLeenda]

@@lostundgefunden8023 Many of Dr. Ramani’s videos are produced by Jada Pickett Smith. I believe she also joined the red table with her for an interview.

[@lorianne4608]

I’ve been following Doctor Ramini for years. She’s gotten me through the worse years of my life. Narcissists are real + everything she says is true. She’s been my rock

[@shelmie5]

Same here

[@mm7846]

💯

[@alicepantina9492]

Me too

[@In.the.darkness_there_is_light]

💯 Dr R has helped me stay sane just from KZbin videos alone. ❤her. Mad respect for her

[@katkatsanis]

Yes - same! I’ve been watching her KZbin videos for a while now and gleaning a lot of wisdom from them. I’m so happy that they had her on the show! ❤

[@dreamqueen317]

Having a parent that’s a narcissist is really tough.

[@NotTheVibe]

it is. i feel almost numb to it but it’s a painful numbness. i thought my childhood was normal and i was just weak or something. looking back at it with adult eyes is almost too much to handle

[@shelmie5]

It’s is, I feel like I’ve been mistreated my whole life. I didn’t even learn how to love myself. 😔

[@elysianfields8461]

​@@shelmie5❤

[@catwhisperer9489]

OP: You're tellin' ME!!!

[@catwhisperer9489]

When I found-out, I felt my entire life, was a lie. I felt so unbelievably lost---I couldn't see how I would ever find my way, back "home", so to speak.

[@cereal_qilla]

“You want to know what triggers a narcissist more than anything else? Reality”

[@gwg216]

True reality makes them sick to the core and makes them feel ashamed. I often face my mother with reality no sugarcoating

[@NancyBrown1975]

Dr. Ramani is an excellent expert on narcissism.

[@sweet2sourr]

An excellent narcissist

[@JulietMartin2022]

Dr. R should have been on the show with Jada. Now that would have been incredibly insightful.

[@deanvo503]

@sweet2sour-bpd are u hurt, honey?

[@aktchungrabanio6467]

No, she's right. Ramani is also one of the crew@@deanvo503

[@mulkahajagun-ogunleye8963]

She's my mentor ❤

[@Amersboo]

Narcassism is out of control and these people shouldn't be in society, abusing people and causing them physical and mental health problems for life. But it's not as simple as "I met a jerk." No... these people are coverts, often. Disguised as humble sweet people who manipulate and spin you in emotional circles.

[@sarahs5340]

Well said, I agree. They will destroy your life and your health.

[@travalintrailer]

For sure.

[@catwhisperer9489]

Truer words, have not been spoken!!!

[@sweet2sourr]

Like Dr Ramani?

[@Sandra-fc8pc]

You notice when they stay on their own topic for too long, and do not really like your topics of conversation, and show it..

[@lastjob2011]

I finally began to feel like I wasn't going crazy, when I started researching narcissism on KZbin, and I saw the 1940s movie Gaslight. I finally understood how truly wicked my former husband was. I knew I was on to something when he searched my KZbin history, and started talking me about the bad information on KZbin. I haven't seen him in 9 years. Bliss.

[@SinaLaJuanaLewis]

When they are in your family it's worse😢

[@jilldufresne8903]

Having an adult daughter who is a narcissist is so hard.

[@heidiveronica]

Having narcissists in one’s life is so very tough. I’m thankful it’s being talked about more. 🙏🏻

[@gwg216]

Sure its good that awareness is being created..... I also talk to my 10 year old kid about this kind of things, i think the early they know the better so they don't fall victim of this narc monsters 👹

[@barbara5495]

My ex-husband's famous comment every time we had a disagreement was "the problem is..." And of course, the problem was always something I said or didn't say, did or didn't do. It was never him. And when we did have 'discussions' it was always him lecturing me, it was never an open evenly discussed conversation. So glad I'm out of that relationship. I have 2 children with him and finally after all these years, my youngest is finally seeing him for who he is.

[@Itsgrantsrants]

I lvoe Dr. Ramani! She's brilliant. Today should have her on regularly.

[@hairdresser1300]

yes!!!

[@JulietMartin2022]

Dr. R should have been on the show with Jada.

[@imalwaysright]

She’s very good, and “It’s Not You” is the perfect book title

[@cdow9032]

My therapist used to ask me "why would you go to a place where you feel worse than where you are now?" I stopped going to family holidays, and focussed on my own family- my son, dil and grchildren. I felt so much better. Before my Son was married and started his family, there were Holidays I spent alone. It was sad that I had a family that had driven me to that decision, but I was much happier, and they were crazier for it 😂 I mean, how do they function without a scapegoat? 🎉

[@kimlogan1278]

I do the same thing now. Spend holidays alone, and you know what, it doesn't even bother me. I can't stand EVIL people.

[@intercat4907]

Totally approve of the idea of being a moving target. Happy holidays!

[@danika9448]

Love Dr. Ramani. 🙏 In my view, narcissism is not just a “personality style”, it’s a maladaptation for getting a person’s needs met. When I encounter narcissism, I remember that they are extremely insecure and sensitive underneath, but I don’t allow any type of personal relationship to develop with them. I keep everything very superficial and limit the exchange. You cannot win with these people.

[@catwhisperer9489]

🎯

[@karlabritfeld7104]

Insecure and controlling, yes. Sensitive, no.

[@cdow9032]

It would be a sad story, but they know what they are doing when they are abusing you, so they get no sympathy for me. Do not let these monsters fool you, they'd just as soon cause you pain, and get off on it as look at you.

[@catwhisperer9489]

@@karlabritfeld7104 Sensitive, in regard to what happens, to them---NOT sensitive, in regard to what happens to others, or what they do to others.

[@BobbiGail]

WISE. Very wise.

[@coffeewiththeunknown8302]

Congratulations Dr Ramani in being in the today show!

[@rhondabloom5518]

Having dr Ramini I on your show is brilliance. I love her. She should be a regular

[@ithacacomments4811]

My 93 year old mother passed in 2023. I felt numb. I felt relief. She was so needy and childlike her entire life...my entire life. As her oldest daughter, I was there to meet her evey need ...in her mind.

[@kirstieb8025]

i hope you can heal and learn to have your own needs. separate from others. it’s the most important thing in my opinion for those that had been abused.

[@dvawva5197]

Wow. My mother completely consumed my entire life up until I married; then? I needed help with a health crisis and she quite easily ignored my need, executed decisions that made my situation worse, and now? I’m free and SHE’S the victim. What? Yes. Her controlling hatred turned on HER!

[@user-qv7vi2ls6j]

WoW

[@BobbiGail]

Enmeshment. Heaps of guilt that sucks the life out of a person. It's bananas to be held so responsible for someone else.

[@Mister_Listener]

I am so sorry. You were robbed. I hope you can go on to create loving situations and find nice people to spend time and create memories with. Thats the only cure when you have been robbed of kindness and guidance parents should be providing. Hugs.

[@lifestylebyrachel]

In 2016 I left my narcissist after a 17 year relationship. At the time I wasn’t educated but once I found out about narcissistic personality disorder my life made perfect sense. I ignored red flags, a term not even in my vocabulary. I tried so hard and loved this man very much to the point that I forgave abuse over and over again. I am now 59. I was widowed at age 35 and he came into my life as a hero and adopted my sons. I put him on my deed (for no equity) and business. I had to buy my own home and business from this man. I would be further along in my healing but when I left him he told my oldest son that his birth father may not be his real father and that I stole his college savings. Both complete lies. Sadly, I have not seen my son in 3 years. Our family is shattered and I am forever heartbroken. Thankfully I do have loving relationships with my other 2 children but the situation hurts them as well. Thank you Dr. Ramani you have taught me so much.

[@NotTheVibe]

my heart goes out to you, friend. you are strong and kind and there are real people who really care for you unlike this freak

[@texkit1]

Don’t forget the covert narcissist who try very hard to hide their narcissism from you. Are their signs, yes but they are very subtle. I think the biggest red flag to any narcissist is they move very fast. Always take any new relationships slowly. No matter how much they try to sweep you off your feet. Set boundaries. Trust your instincts and don’t ignore the red flags no matter how small. Educate yourselves on narcissism. Don’t just settle for anyone just because you are lonely. We all deserve better.

[@MG-ot2yr]

Sounds like what happened to me but got out of the relationship sooner. I was widowed at age 36, and shortly after a long time work associate of my late husband poured on the charm and started asking me out. For the first six months, he was amazing and focused on everything he knew I enjoyed, then the chaos started, constant cycles of triggering an emotional reaction, which started with breaking dates for ridiculous reasons, then a few days later I got a sob story on money he owes the IRS.....so that was the hint to lend him money and things would return to normal. Then he'd withhold all those things he knew I enjoyed until I complied with his demands. At any rate, I never did loan him any money, while I ignored many red flags I didn't ignore that one. Never married him, he had subtly suggested that as well.

[@intercat4907]

Ouch. Mine took one of the kids too. I don't want to give false hope, but adults do review their childhoods and figure it out. Whether that happens in your family or not - and whether your son ever tells you he figured it out - you are not alone and you did NOTHING wrong to deserve that.

[@IndigoRocs]

Dr. Ramani is a lifesaver. Not only does she teach you how to identify and deal with the narcissist. She helps survivors of narcissistic abuse to forgive themselves and rebuild their lives.

[@rdr6686]

This woman helped my partner deal with a narcissist at his workplace. A wonderful lady!!!

[@Ughforducksake]

Soon to be ex husband is a covert narcissist and it was destroyed me. Finally healing from a decade of trauma

[@EdenGrace2022]

Same here!! It took 5 years to get divorced and lost my son in the process! I did make it and am ok and stronger today! And no, You are not crazy like they like to tell you! Destroying you is their goal!! Hang in there!! I have lived through stalking and lies and emotional blackmail!! You can survive!

[@catwhisperer9489]

I'm recovering from 5 decades of trauma---you can do it !!! ❤

[@Selesel1981]

I 1,000% ended up in a relationship with a narcissist because i was raised by one. I assumed the emotional and physical abuse was normal. The narcissist i spent 16 years with just took over where my mother left off abusing me. He used me financially and emotionally. I am absolutely traumatized by what they both put me thru. I’m so glad people like dr ramani exist or i would be in such a horrible hole of depression and anxiety.

[@LainieB]

I'm sorry you were traumatized, but you WILL heal in time, and the best part is that you got out, which is the 1st step to regaining control over yourself, your emotions & feelings. So, kudos to you!

[@suzanne4396]

Same. Exactly. Raised by a physically abusive narc father. I thought it was normal. So, of course I repeated the pattern over & over again. This last one -- whew -- he was absolutely the worst;(he) almost ended my life!! But, also " Thanks to him" I went into trauma-informed therapy these past two years, got away from him and am healing all of my childhood wounds 😊

[@XXX-ru1kk]

I listen to Dr Ramani for a long time. I think one of the most important information she gives is that narcissism is a personality style and a personality style is not possible to change. This is for all the people who think they can change their toxic partner, parent, boss, etc. This is the hard truth to accept but you have to save yourself by running from them as far as you can....

[@lpmowgs2425]

This is SUCH an important topic and deserves a lot more attention. Narcissistic abuse is so pervasive in our society. It’s often the victims that get blamed because narcissists are so charming.

[@ljrockstar69]

Be one the look out for these people! Do not ignore the red flags! Be vigilant! I'm glad this out in the forefront to expose these fools!!

[@catwhisperer9489]

Not "fools"; they are incredibly crafty---they're demons!!!

[@marjoriepreston8546]

Oh yes. As Covid restrictions were easing up, I went to a restaurant with a friend, with others to join us shortly. The server said we had to wait to be seated as a group -- some kind of pandemic thing. Instantly, my friend was seething, spitting profanities and treating the server with contempt. Eventually I realized that rage is her default setting. That anger was directed at me a few times, and she is now my ex-friend.

[@dianeb95]

The timing of this is absolutely spooky: I was literally just told last night by my 83 year old narcissistic mother that “well, you’re just not the daughter I thought you would be” even though I have spent the last several years doing everything I could to care for her & my dad (deceased 2 years ago now) during & after both of my sisters went through cancer treatments & died (younger sister died a year ago). I’m relieved that I’m not spending the holiday with her & my alcoholic brother-in-law who is her dependent leech.

[@A.Rose.G]

Well, she's just not the mother you thought she would be.

[@dianeb95]

@@A.Rose.G I had a similar thought later that night, but I’m glad I didn’t say it to her as it would put me down on her level & I’m trying not to be that mean. But I’m afraid if I’m with her too much I won’t be able to hold my tongue.

[@A.Rose.G]

@@dianeb95 yeah .. that would be yelling. Oh... You're always the victim, I'm the worse mother in the world. But know we see it at least. ♥️

[@lorettanericcio-bohlman567]

Love Dr Ramani! Rocks it

[@jacksonthedoggy]

Dr. Ramani has helped me so much. Finding her videos during COVID changed my life.

[@ariellepoetry8299]

Also leaving a narcissist can trigger them to become obsessed and to stalk you. They make fake social media accounts/ fake phone numbers. There can be a very dangerous side to their personality. Stay safe and remain no contact. The less reactive you are to them - the better.

[@fabiatrump8734]

Yes, this! My narcissist ex stalked me for almost a year after I left him. He constantly called my place of work, asking to speak with me. My bosses never handed me the phone but his behavior got me fired. He would send cards and letters to my PO Box. He would call and text me from various phone numbers. I wasn’t on social media back then (2008), but I’ve since created a few accounts and have had to block him there, since all these years later, he’s STILL trying to get to me.

[@owenbeharry8478]

Both my parents were/is narcissistic parents. To the fact where they were having affairs with each other behind their spouses back. Saw my mom on Thanksgiving after months of not talking to her. I went into to it with no expectations while creating emotional boundaries.

[@meg7699]

To everyone who wonders how there are so many narcissists around us. We are a country who is lead by narcissistic people, watch reality shows of narcissistic women, and then loose hours of our day generating our narcissistic social media posts……. This isn’t likely to decrease any time soon.

[@NotTheVibe]

my gut tells me it’s going to come to a head for some reason because something has got to give

[@catwhisperer9489]

​@@NotTheVibe🙏

[@catwhisperer9489]

We are a country of people tellin' their kids, they are special; then, the kids go out into the world thinking they are entitled to the same special treatment, from everybody else.

[@hollystiener16]

I don't think it is really about that. It is that there are so many bad parents. This is where NPD stems from.

[@catwhisperer9489]

@@hollystiener16 🎯

[@AllTheStatus]

I hope many people benefit from this as well as her KZbin channel and other books. She is so knowledgeable and genuinely wants people to be able to manage narcissists in her life. So glad she got this exposure.

[@MT-tx7bu]

If you are a giving person, a person who sincerely cares about your feelings and the feelings of others. If you were raised to learn how to navigate your feelings and to feel open enough and safe enough to share them and expect others to do the same (because you do), that's when you become the supply for them. Doctor Ramani is amazing.

[@bornreadyproductions]

Since you have a reputation for seeing the best in people, they will use this against you knowing you will tolerate their abuse with the hopes that you can get them to change or see the error of their ways. It will not happen. You cannot win or change them as long as they have any connection with (power over) you.

[@lynn7392]

My boss is a narcissist. Luckily for our team, he's stepping down in the new year.

[@cdow9032]

Took me years to heal, find the person I was supposed to be, and then go NO Contact with the birthmother ,and GCS, who is possibly even more sick and conniving. I found Dr. Ramani during therapy, and cont. to learn and protect myself. I adore this lady! ❤

[@intercat4907]

Hi. I know your post is 4 weeks old, but it's a good post on an important topic. I'm stuck though - GCS? Glascow Coma Scale? Gender Confirmation Surgery? Sort me out please. Thanks.

[@ChrisPolg]

She has helped me find so much peace. She is incredible.

[@bienfaitmboni]

me too man, got out of a 3 years of toxic relationship, and I have her to thank

[@sarahs5340]

Such a timely and important topic. Narcissism and sociopathy need to be discussed even more than they are now because it is a public health and safety issue. We need coercive control laws like they have in the UK.

[@catwhisperer9489]

It's a friggin' epidemic!!!

[@karlabritfeld7104]

How's that going to work?

[@catwhisperer9489]

@@karlabritfeld7104 I know you weren't talking to me, but I just wanted to throw my two cents, in.... Maybe, laws against bullying?

[@anovosedlik]

I'm in this. Remember: it can turn from emotionally to physically abusive. And really, really scary.

[@MillicentAspinet]

Dr. Ramani is my #1 KZbin expert on narcissism! There are a half dozen other good KZbin therapists I was watching, once I realized what I was dealing with regarding my sisters. But eventually it became evident that Dr. Ramani is the best. So nice to see her on the Today Show.

[@d0v3Tai1]

Dr. Ramani is bar none the best expert on narcissism. Doc Ramani pulls no punches and tells it like it is. [Narcissists don't care whether someone is civil, respectful, or diplomatic -- for a narcissist, it's ALL about the narcissist. Bottomline: the narcissist is NOT worth your: time, breath, sanity, energy, attention, aggravation, frustration, health, &/or rumination. ]

[@dianebarron8362]

after 45 years I just figured out this year that I was NEVER INCLUDED IN CHOICES , I was INFORMED about the choices he made ,always after the fact and in reviewing our whole life I now realize I was INFORMED about EVERYTHING. I WAS NEVER ASKED TO JOIN THE DESISION MAKING , we're married and the same age with 2 children and everybody thinks he is the greatest guy on earth.

[@Dizfan]

I was in a situation after my Family & I suffered a tragic loss and...that ex-friend was very jealous of the situation & the attention(With other friends & family)along with how they thought I should of Grieved. I dealt with it for 2 very long years & I decided to end it & we don't speak or see each other at all till this very day.

[@lorianne4608]

Can’t you help but wonder about what these people are thinking!! Something awful happens + they become jealous about the attention you’re getting as a result of the event. Would they have rather the event have happen to themselves?? They are terrible people who enjoy others’ suffering. They dismiss you as if you’re not worthy of their time or attention. They are sick demented evil beings who only want to cause others pain + grief. They don’t care about anyone but themselves

[@dyoung2739]

I love Dr Ramani❤. Been following her for a few years. I thank 45 for helping more of us to focus on narcissism.

[@brittany0616]

This is so true. I had a manager that is a narcissist

[@hairdresser1300]

that had to be awful

[@bonniegivens3013]

My life right now, and not sure what to do about it.

[@lovepeaceunique3905]

I work in a mental health clinic the director and office manager are both narcissist’s bipolar, and one of them has OCD, I’m their bouncing ball. They don’t intimidate me. it makes me happy peaceful that I’m going to work everyday grateful that help a lot trust me. & I LOVE my job so much 💗

[@sippinonchamomile]

She helped me understand it wasn’t me and I’m finally free. Thank you so much ❤️

[@janeking4059]

Was in relationship with a narcissist for 35 years...not knowing what narcissistic behavior was ..I was raised back in the 60 and 70s...where you OBEYED U PARENTS! DIDN'T HAVE A VOICE! SO THOUGHT MY SPOUSE BEHAVIOR WAS NORMAL...HENCE I STAYED AS LONG AS I DID 😭😭😭 At 68 suffering with all kinds of medical issues...due to that stress/trauma...coz I also felt TRAPPED... PUTTING UP WITH THIS ABUSER ALL THOSE YEARS!!!

[@Sophia-yo9rp]

Wonderful to see Dr Ramani on your show. Her videos have helped me in ways I can't even express. Thank you.

[@jeanettecastle7916]

I've lived with a narcissistic family for many years. I feel confident when I say, Dr. Ramani is the foremost authority on narcissisim. The knowledge I've gained from her has helped keep me alive. I am feeling my own self worth after many years.

[@LaurieLT88]

Me too. I was able to discard. I now have a peaceful life. Not the scapegoat any more.

[@sherriianiro747]

We have a family member like that who shows up for everything uninvited just to create hateful gossip and uses expensive gifts to weasel in. We got smart and formed a united front and didn't reveal actual dates or times and it worked.

[@seaglasscolor]

We love Dr. Ramani!

[@andrewcicchetti]

The other way we can talk about narcissistic abuse is as coercive control.

[@roserosa8276]

Now I understand gaslighting and narcisismo. I can describe harassment I was suffering with my managers at VA Hospital and no help from EEO, DOL all the abuse and harshness I suffered ending up with PTO.

[@user-bd5mm7pu9l]

HEALING FROM A NARCISSIST MOTHER, SIBLINGS, EX HUSBAND!! WALKED AWAY FROM ALL OF THEM. BEING LOYAL NEVER HELPED, ABUSE JUST GOT WORSE!!

[@leilagomulka5690]

She is my healing guru.

[@quyennguyen9797]

What if that narcissist is my mother in law and I can't just cut her out of my (or my husband's) life? I'm practicing setting boundaries between her and my children. Every conversation is about her. Whenever she interacts with my children, even when I'm there, she has to be the most important, the best, the one solving all their problems. I've been through postpartum depression twice with my 2 kids and didn't realize the impacts of her behaviors on me until now. I've also been seeing a therapist so I'll share with her what I've heard in this video. Thanks for this!

[@rg-mi5hh]

Dr. Ramini is on youtube. Have learned so much from her.

[@brandiesstudio]

I’m thrilled Dr. Ramani is making this life-changing info. mainstream. She got me through when I didn’t think I could survive it.

[@MeeLii2024]

Thank you Dr. Ramani!

[@delilahsdollars]

I deal with this my parents are the worst narcissists and i dont agree with you i didnt enjoy the holiday in my own home for many many years i say distance yourself for your own happiness no go and deal with them with realistic expectations i say you dont go at all and enjoy yourself with people you want to be around even if its family dont deal with it anymore

[@erikavaleries]

Dr Ramani is life saving

[@beautyfrmwithin]

Dr. Ramani is truly saving lives.

[@rebeccajones1608]

Having been exposed to this type of malignant toxicity for decades, my mantra of gratitude is: so happy I'm not like them and grateful I learned how not to behave. Also, this BS stops with me!!

[@annap9441]

She is just amazing ❤ forever grateful for her work

[@2choosewisely2]

at what point does the 'behaving differently' register in the narcissist? envy? jealousy? when they see someone more attractive than them? that is when they really lose their cool when someone more attractive a 'bigger narcissist' than they themselves appears, right?

[@ericb8413]

Dr Ramani, you are awesome!!!! So happy other people on TV will see you and benefit from your wisdom. You are my favorite You Tube channel. You’ve saved my sanity🎉🎉🎉

[@pamelac.5600]

I'm not having to deal with my narc mom, I went no contact with her years ago. What's hard is dealing with the flying monkeys!! i.e. my siblings who support the narc.

[@Mm1233m]

Dr Ramini!! ❤

[@jlcmsw]

Dr. Ramani has helped me heal from narcissistic abuse and to spot a narcissist. Just this week I met one while working out who went so far to try to be superior that he said he did more reps than I did even though he started after I did. The grandiose statements just got worse from there.

[@maudeboggins9834]

My husband eeked away at me for 6 years until I realized he was the one making me feel down. I left him & a year later felt so much happier

[@cindee1794]

All of the comments I've seen pertain to family members or romantic partners. My one and only co-worker is a narcissist and she makes my life a nightmare. I finally reached my breaking point and had a very productive conservation with our boss about her just this morning.

[@d0v3Tai1]

There's also the: Narcissistic next-door neighbor in a narcissistic family cult dynamic, replete with narcissistic parents who blow off steam through narcissistic adult toddler tantrums, narcissistic low tolerance for frustration, narcissistic grooming & conditioning, narcissistic debt-by-obligation, narcissists who are unlikely to change, narcissistic exploiters, narcissistic stalkers, narcissistic addict & substance abuser that is the narcissistic ex-convict.

[@user-bi8cq9lx9g]

I grew up as the only child of a narcissistic single parent. Can’t get a word in and getting cut off mid sentence your entire life is an absolute torture/abuse. I didn’t know anything different. Unfortunately, when I grew up I started to see myself doing the same thing to others. I absolutely hate it and trying so hard to work on self awareness and to make sure people in the conversation with me are heard. I actually ask my closest friends to tell me if I cut them off because sometimes I don’t even know when I did. I have tried bringing this to my mom’s attention and that backfired instantly. One sided conversations with her it is then…

[@NikiSchap]

Don’t forget that some of them are very intelligent, and they also watch these videos and they learn what not to do at first. There are still going to be red flags, you just have to pay close attention without getting bonded. The bond is very hard to break, and they do it subtly.

[@tishbeaver4294]

Dr. Ramani has saved me! ❤️🙏❤️

[@evelynpasqua6968]

Thank you for bringing her in. She sets some good examples for everyone. It’s a good way to be aware of what a narcissist does to a person and how to get away from it. It’s better to get out of the situation in order to save your life.

[@siaminja]

Dr Ramani has been such a life saver, I can’t thank her enough for helping me navigate life with a narc. I didn’t know what narcissistic abuse was until a friend directed me to her YT channel and it’s been life altering! You deserve some kind of Nobel prize. Merci beaucoup

[@shaund9759]

Dr. Ramani’s healing program has. Completely changed my life. I am forever grateful to her.

[@evoz4489]

Dr. Ramani is also drop-dead gorgeous. My opinion.

[@user-lm2vs1sl3v]

Dr Ramani’s work has really helped me to understand what my narcissistic wife has put me through. I’m really unwell now.

[@TheGatortale]

NO CONTACT....PERIOD

[@Seraphim7]

Also, Congratulations to Dr. Ramani! This Discussion Needs to be Spoken About! Amazing, I also recognize the other women. This is an Epic shift in the Right Direction. Praise God🎉🥳

[@user-yj1jc8gu3c]

I was raised by a narcissistic step parent who raised my sister to be same way. Always the victim and everyone else is always to blame. They maliciously cut me out of their life and blamed me for everything. No accountability and no remorse for hurting me so deeply. Although I’ll always miss my sister, I’m glad I no longer have to walk on eggshells around her. Wish them the best but I am done. In a way, I’m glad they did what they did because I would’ve continued to be hurt. I never would have cut them out. I’d be continuing to bend over backwards to make them happy and it never would be good enough.

[@jaykay3839]

3:05 It took decades before my husband started getting triggered by those little things I'd say, like, asking him to park in the shade because my health has taken a dive and heat kills me, especially in over 100 degree weather. He had me on that pedestal until my health tanked, or at least he acted like that outwardly. There were a ton of "little" things that were always there but I couldn't see, having come from a very dysfunctional family myself. So I believed his family when they acted as if they were a "normal" family. They are the more covert/vulnerable types.

[@bbh7550]

Dr Ramani is fantastic 🎉

[@Justmeeeee813]

Dr. Ramani in the HOUSE!!! Thank you!

[@brandyhuffman8672]

Dr. Ramani helped me leave my cruel, mean and cold narcissistic ex-husband, Her u tubes video's changed my life for the better.

[@jasmainjasmain2906]

Acceptance and boundaries make all the difference.

[@mercedesruiz3182]

Dr Ramani my new hero

[@aimeechas]

Oh yes, been there! Unfortunately, I still have to deal with him as my kids' dad. I find it hard to fight when the kids come to me after being with him.

[@jungersrules]

I'm glad I'm an introvert and don't really care if you're charming. The second I see entitlement behavior I'm out. I'm alone but not lonely. Well, it might be tougher if the person is smart and funny as those are my draws.

[@jesusloveseveryone888]

Dr. Ramani is describing Jenna perfectly. I attended high school with Jenna, and she was so cruel, mean-spirited, and a bully who’d make fun of everyone. I don’t buy this fake facade she’s put up. But what can you expect? She’s come from a family of evil war-mongers. Anyway, I’ve listened to Dr. Ramani for years, so she’s the only reason I’m tuning in. Dr. Ramani’s body language says it all - closed off from the very person she’s sitting next (closest) to, but Ramani is a deeply intelligent and sensitive woman.

[@laday4792]

It’s incredibly satisfying to know that the information about narcissism is out there now so the young people of the world can have the knowledge to understand what’s happening in their environment. What’s not incredibly satisfying is how media is now showing that estranged parents as sympathetic. Any adult child who goes no contact with a narcissistic parent doesn’t do it to hurt anyone....they do it to save their own emotional well being. No contact is a hard decision but it’s the best solution.

[@itzelcontreras1899]

I wish I would’ve listened to Dr. Ramani before I married a narc. I didn’t see the red flags 🚩 for narcissism it would’ve saved me so much drama 😅.

[@lavidamia9]

Love to see Dr. Ramani! Please bring her back ❤

[@donnah4643]

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[@BrooklynnAlexx]

Love Dr Ramani and _Synful! 🙌🏻

[@mnelson2008]

Dr. Ramani is the BEST. I love all of her content on KZbin. She's a superstar helping all of us!

[@Periwinkleblue.]

1. "Narcissists at core are: Deeply insecure, like to be in control, Grandiose" 2. "Everything in relationship blamed on me, Took no accountability, severe lack of empathy..." 3. "Able to heal by surrounding myself with family, friends" 4. "you deserve unconditional love"

[@Iris_Transforms_Healing]

If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, the person who needs to change, is you. Like with anything else, the buck starts and stops with you. If there is a way to deal with a narcissist, that way is to heal the pain within yourself that creates a vulnerable space for that narcissist to nest. Personal boundaries is all of the protection you need from a person who is intent on sucking the life out of you.🦋