A crucial explanation concerning the instances where you are vulnerable to providing fuel to the narcissist and how you can address this in an effective manner.
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@patrickpepin85776 жыл бұрын
I caused a major wound when I ran into my ex narc after two years of complete no contact. I walked right past her like I didn't even know her. She tried to approach me after I ignored her. I said absolutely nothing to her. She stomped away miserably but kept staring at me from a distance while I was in the company of a beautiful woman. What comes around goes around karma is real.
@rb6416 жыл бұрын
Patrick Pepin Yesss....sure does. They reap what they sow. And God dont like ugly!
@sunshinecompany16 жыл бұрын
Patrick Pepin God I hope there is karma
@redrainbow47266 жыл бұрын
...One day his Karma will be that nice towards me. (good looking man included)
@chefboyartee76076 жыл бұрын
Patrick Pepin Good! Happy for you.
@rb6416 жыл бұрын
Red Rainbow my ex narc woke up to his precious truck vandalized 🙊(wasn't me though 😒) wonder who 🤔, oh well.....
@shannonlea37246 жыл бұрын
Never a better feeling than being right beside one and actually feeling nothing. Like they say.. you can't hate someone you don't respect!
@dinxie82215 жыл бұрын
Shannon Lea it’s the BEST!!
@ladylove23106 жыл бұрын
One month away until a year of total no contact from my ex narc. I have never felt better. It took time, and a lot of self growth, but I am finally free from his abuse and control. It can be done, just have the courage to love yourself again.
@amyd15496 жыл бұрын
Amazing and sick at the same time. The more I know the more I hate both him for robbing me of my life, and me for not being strong enough to get away...yet.
@terribletanner8056 жыл бұрын
No matter how strong you are when you come to leave, you will face an almost overwhelming sense of despair for casting aside the hopeful return to the golden period, and for going against your promises to never leave and always make things work. But once you've left and more importantly cut all contact, you'll heal to strength in leaps and bounds. Besides which, the narcissist in your life will make short work of any strength you have or may gain. Far better to just leave ASAP.
@Barbara_Banks_16 жыл бұрын
Amy K You will get away, when the time is right. Just set the goal, then make your plans, and follow threw... Don’t beat yourself up so much with hating yourself so badly. You were deceived, as all victims of narcs are. Once you get away and begin to get a better sense of yourself, you’ll realize this was a very difficult “life learning experience”. This life lesson, can serve to make you stronger, once you distance yourself from him. You’ll also gain a healthier and better perspective, and learn how to maintain good boundaries. Life begins to get much better, once you go “narc free”. *Wishing you the very best!*
@sharonallen3086 жыл бұрын
Don't hate yourself. Honey I got caught up in the same situation. It's not your fault. My own mother is even a narc and she went off on me cause my what is now ex boyfriend is a narc.? I thought it was funny in a way cause it was two narcs going at it trying to find out who was going to control me. But guess what neither of them could control me but me.
@eyeoffthetiger26916 жыл бұрын
Terrible Tanner yesss Run🏃🏃🏃
@eyeoffthetiger26916 жыл бұрын
Barbara Banks 💯👏Exactlyy
@shecat19646 жыл бұрын
I call this "stop feeding the troll".
@Barbara_Banks_16 жыл бұрын
“Say nothing and leave ASAP, in the case of an ambush.” I haven’t given another encounter much thought, or how to respond. Because it is a real possibility that I would feel somewhat emotionally reactive in some way.... , I will do as you said, “Don’t show emotion or speak to them at all, and move on ASAP.” Got it! Thank you once again, for another very helpful video. I will follow your excellent advice.
@carolloraine2235 жыл бұрын
Reduce the Fuel?? I say cut them off TOTALLY! Thanks! I 😄
@bethjbrannon41146 жыл бұрын
Mine Is BLOCKED, IM FINALLY STRONG ENOUGH, THANK TOU, GOD, HE IS BLOCKED AND HAS BEEN, NO MORE “FUEL OR ENGAGEMENT FROM ME”!!!
@princhipessa19696 жыл бұрын
My ex is excellent at ambushing me. First you break up with me then “accidentally run into me” several times? Now, I hide.
@AbsoluteMdot5 жыл бұрын
I do not understand why Narcs flock to me. I cause a Narcissist injury each and every time.
@alvasa56346 жыл бұрын
I was a little boat going no were for 5 years , till I understand everything. I learned now that him never gone change. But I changet, I'm stronger every day , don't giving my time ,my thoughts, rejetting giving my body , he is weak every day ,saying that I'm a bad person that making him sofer ,making him gelous ect. .. i like to seeing him like this ,even that I now that is just a role his playing to make me his slave again . Is not true that you are so strong ,because when you lose control you became the most insignificant human being. Now is time to go ,to block him everywere, now I am strong ,I don't want his money, his fake love his cage. I got to go like a winer not I victim . Thank you for all the time that I learned from you ,from this chanel, even if don't trust you , you just like him but I understand so for that I I'm thankful .
@megnrei6 жыл бұрын
Coparenting without a court order. But I’m practicing a high level of no contact finally.
@cynthiahytower26656 жыл бұрын
Meagan Jackson how is that working? I'm trying to, but he is driving me crazy anyways.
@nikkilea56326 жыл бұрын
Meagan Jackson I've been trying that for 8 months. It's sad that I was happy he had a new supply hoping it'd help, but I believe she may be a narc too. It's been a nightmare. My ex wanted to move her in right away traumatizing his own son. 8 months and he's shown his son no support. He ran to a lawyer and said I was alienating him from his son. Document everything and be careful when texting if you have to. My ex was always trying to bait me, he uses our son to try and hurt me. He doesn't understand I don't care. I walked away from the house and half of my belongings. Starting at the bottom is better but mine won't stop trying to knock me down.
@stephaniesmart6 жыл бұрын
HG the book is an eye opener & a game changer. 5 stars & two thumbs up. Thank you for your candidness.
@KnowingtheNarcissist6 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@tsukie116 жыл бұрын
I've been so lucky, my ex narc's hrs at work have changed. The only time I see him now is when he picks up his paycheck every two weeks. I stay at my desk, if he speaks to me, I try to stay neutral and keep it short.
@0liverposch1406 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha.... This fuel has the color of piss
@sunnyflowerstarot81416 жыл бұрын
0liver Posch 😂😂😂😂
@ElizabethWoodsSweetescape6 жыл бұрын
Lol you're stupid
@evamcinnis79926 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂it is on the cool!!
@wordscomeafter67746 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice, as always! If you run into the ex-narc in public accidentally, you can also dive into aisle 3 at the store (like I did lol), to avoid direct contact. Laughs at that memory. I probably looked a bit silly 🙃
@asenseof57226 жыл бұрын
If you can walk away and stay away.Always believe the actions as that is all your going to get.And never believe one word that oozes from that hole.
@crazyworldlarue83885 жыл бұрын
I did get a chance to eff with him a wee bit.. it was quite fun. He tried to work me by making me feel guilty several times and I was sweetly compassionate but did not respond to his requests, at all. I said things like, "oh that's terrible" then nothing more and did nothing. I was smiling from ear to ear for days. He actually even tried to get a situation straight with me in conversation, which was shocking- I could NEVER get anything straight with him in conversation so, I used his line. I said, "are you still on that"? OH I KNOW that rattled his dirty little cage 8-) I used to check my "blocked text" folder on my phone so I could pretend to be nice and give him the hope that I would allow him to hoover me again... but now, I'm done. I messed with him long enough to feel fulfilled and I've moved on. DANG it's so good to feel so happy again! I'm a singer and I actually got my voice back. Life is GOOD. I know his sucks. Bummer...
@sunflower57496 жыл бұрын
It's that awesome ENGLISH accent, whew!!! Outstanding!!! Xoxo
@johndentyn48666 жыл бұрын
Sunflower Love - Yeah, HG’s voice is very rich and dark. It’s perfect for what he knows best in conveying the message
@joeleliaskivi90296 жыл бұрын
Lmao, reminds me a person I knew. He use to practise this type sophisticated accent and voice. I can only shake my head with smile on my face while I listen this. 😄
@rainbowjellybeans58156 жыл бұрын
Wow - once again, great HG. Can you consider making a video describing how to knock all the pillars down, pretty much throwing the narcissist into the abyss and revealing the creature to him/her? I've read allot of your works, including the one describing the pillars, and a video on this would be helpful. I know you don't encourage this generally but rather encourage NC - which I am now. However, it would be something good to have in one's back pocket. Thank you.
@lacrossslounge54036 жыл бұрын
I SEE YOU BUT I DONT COLD AS ICE.....NOTHING TO GIVE !!!!
@theamvgirlx6 жыл бұрын
Moving our HANDS give you fuel? Wow that's sad
@funzjag6 жыл бұрын
Debbie_Destruction You have a pretty face Debbie! Have a wonderful day!!
@toinfinityandbeyondlovetri61735 жыл бұрын
What’s the fuel thing?
@elizabethgassen73526 жыл бұрын
HG, I found you yesterday. This video is quite helpful. Thank you. Cheers!
@deborahkhora18686 жыл бұрын
I understand narcissistic supply better with the term "energy" rather than "fuel." I have to conserve energy too, and can't waste it on narcissists. One week no contact with my online narc. Changed my FB relationship status to "married." It's a white lie to ward off as many predators as I can possibly ward off. I don't go online to "date."
@funnymela6 жыл бұрын
Hello HG. I have enjoyed listening to yout videos. They give me tons of insight into my father. I have decided that he is a midranger. I haven't come accross videos where you talk about children of Narcissist parents but I would like ro hear yout take on it. My mother is divorced from my father and I also try and maintain no contact with him. However, my mother sometimes still talks to my young daughter about her "grampy." This irritates me as I would much prefer my daughter to think my father is dead. My father did email me after I slipped up and allowed my daughter to call him because she wouldn't stop asking and I knew he wouldn't answer. Instead he emailed saying hed love to talk to my daughter but cant because of all the terrible things I say about him that aren't true, and invited me to therapy. He added my mother in this email as well. I responded (i know I should have ignored) and told him that I had screenshot the email and posted it to Facebook. This invoked rage. He responded attacking my mother and me and you get the picture. I didn't respond after that. Anyway, it would be great if you could make a video about how narcissists view or interact with their children. I would love to give it a listen.
@SBecktacular6 жыл бұрын
that was one of the best and practical explanations of what the narc wants, how they go about getting it, and what the target can do to thwart all of it......
@Jennycosmo16 жыл бұрын
What about high fives ✋🏼? My ex has been doing this recently. When we have our child exchange, he will audibly say “hi five” and put his hand up and I just stand there with a blank stare. He will say “sorry I know you don’t like being touched but don’t leave me hanging.” It’s very odd to me.
@jram85556 жыл бұрын
Interesting observance. My “Narc” always wants to give high fives to people when we are in a social gathering. Always when she has talked about herself, or voicing her opinion on a subject. It catches them off guard, but once she gets the “high five” I notice a smirk, or half smile from her. Indeed odd, but these personalities always behave the same. Stay strong, and great comment.
@carolinelala98186 жыл бұрын
F him.......It's him testing your boundaries. Don't do it, smile instead and say 'I'll pass".
@shelbynoffsinger94356 жыл бұрын
Jennycosmo1 don't high five him. Do. Not.
@danmeck59786 жыл бұрын
It's a mind game. He knows why you don't want to hi five but twists it and says you don't want to touch. He is hoping you will start to correct him/reply/respond anything at all.
@kaleema34856 жыл бұрын
He wants to touch you. He wants to mess with your head. He wants you back in his web. Leave him hanging. Don't even comment on it. Change the subject like, "So we'll see you when you drop off Johnny at 5 pm. Johnny, give Mommy a kiss!"
@ashleyking12884 жыл бұрын
HG, In your opinion do you feel that Narcissists suffer any kind of consequences for the way they treat people?
@21angali6 жыл бұрын
HG is it possible to upset a narcissist. Is there a way to get emotions out of them. My ex would try to lure me back and ask me out and when I went I was very subdued. I wouldn’t engage in conversation about us and just spoke about general things. He paid for me to get my hair done and expected to go out later but I wouldn’t return his phone calls and went out with another guy. I told him that I was out with a guy that he knew. How does getting no fuel and then placing my emotions somewhere else effect the narc. It made me happy to see the look on his face. Also i will text him to ask a question and when he replies I say nothing and absolutely will not return any of his text msgs .
@quentindaniels74606 жыл бұрын
Mid Range - Lower (Emotional Discipline) The narcissist is a master at training a person on how to discipline their emotions. But the person receiving the abuse, but unable to leave the situation, has to be able to understand the Toxic Logic (kzbin.info/www/bejne/m6HSg3V_oap1baM) being used. (Personal Experience) (4 Years of Training)-- I went through this at work with a boss that would manipulate my emotions, until I eventually caught on to this occurring. I didnt understand narcissism at the time, but I had enough insight to see that he was manipulating me, and that was enough to get me to discipline myself. It takes time, and you'll fall over and over again, but eventually you'll be able to withstand 95% of the BS. (The Ambush) The Ambush is a bit more difficult to dodge, though. It forces you to be on guard at all times. But if you know your dealing with a narcissist, you'll be guarded with you words as it is. But again, you can master your emotional output to this as well. This is probably the final stage of "mastery", because as I have noticed, if they sense you catching on, this will be one of the "more calm" final resorts.
@saranox73196 жыл бұрын
If he shows up at my work I will instantly look away not giving him any eye contact, walk away ignore him and not talk to him, while trying to look bored and calm. I‘d lose it if his familiar scent would wash over me. ☠️ I raised the Hoover bar tremendously as you explained in your other video. Doing everything right. :)
@glendar11176 жыл бұрын
We live in the same small town so can't avoid him completely but thanks to you HG last time he was just walking past my door when i walked out he got a very different me,the new me just pressed my fake call on my mobile and walked on talking to my phone.
@bonnielee71346 жыл бұрын
HG, do one on grey rock, please.
@loveistheisness5 жыл бұрын
Would physically assaulting them provide fuel? At a very high level of aggression.
@puresoul13685 жыл бұрын
We are just but appliances how unfortunate.
@terribrown59896 жыл бұрын
I ran into my narcissist today I walked right past like I didnt even know him how does that make a narricissist feel please tell me
@KnowingtheNarcissist6 жыл бұрын
Massive wounding.
@ta39706 жыл бұрын
He doesn't. He has no soul remember that.
@lacrossslounge54036 жыл бұрын
Terri Brown MAD AND HURT LIKE SHIT !!!!! Baby that's a severe narcissistic injury
@2Bonita086 жыл бұрын
There has never been contact! Apparently even dealing with cleaning up this mess is reinforcing or supply. That is where is can become insane! I have wondered if that is his goal.
@21angali6 жыл бұрын
I’m being hoovered right now🤣🤣🤣. First day after a week of not talking I got a text. I wished them happy birthday prior week and no response but not they are texting.😏. I responded and first response from them was trying to hate me into an argument. No sir......I responded to the statement and said nothing else about it. Nothing but a big fat grey rock. They asked for a favor, usually I was happy to help but this time, I wasn’t sure if I was going to be available but maybe I were not too busy. 😏. The narc says, don’t cancel your plans if you have them. My response was I had not intended to. Hahahaha. I love it. They stopped talking. I didn’t hear from them again for 24 hrs. This morning back again. Of course to regain control, let me know they didn’t need the help because they had to work😉. My response was a simple Ok. I LUV ITTT!
@jenster296 жыл бұрын
Angel next step is ... don't wish him anything..birthdays Christmas whatever. Change your number or block his and delete his number from your phone You need to go full no contact or you WILL get sucked back in. Good luck.xx
@pam1646 жыл бұрын
Trouble is im a open book i can't hide my emotions if i saw him i would be a wreck and he would know! Hope i never see him in street etc.
@christine52946 жыл бұрын
k meg Never say you can't. Keep your cool and cry later. Whatever you feel if/when you run into him, just ignore him, turn and walk away.
@luv4usluv4all986 жыл бұрын
"RESIST THE DEVIL AND HE WILL FLEE "
@terribletanner8056 жыл бұрын
You should definitely work on that. I used to be exactly the same. Being an open book around narcissists just makes it easy for them.
@ameliamyers58716 жыл бұрын
k meg just think back at all the crap he did to you, that should help if you run into him.
@jessrnny6 жыл бұрын
Focus on your breathing. It tricks your body and face into relaxing and he won’t be able to read as much emotion. Don’t take your focus off of your breathe. As soon as you do it will become erratic and you will be overwhelmed.
@gwillis014 жыл бұрын
So you are saying screaming, crying and other histrionics should be avoided at all costs. Just turn away without saying a word.
@melaniehowes73676 жыл бұрын
If I scream and run in the opposite direction holding a cross up in your face is that fuel!
@deeflowers60966 жыл бұрын
You is not lie ing, we broke up about 1o, 15 times on, off up down, he do have a charm I have to stay, no contact, because I am getting stronger and stronger, I got back the last time, I never went 6 months no CONTACT, I am good, listening at you, I am actually laughing, it is not funny I hope I do not see him right now I am gonna get the hell on, I definitely will remember no hugging don't try to kiss me. Dam you is so real. I all ready no, I can't I don't wanna see him, I hope I never do.
@renukashinde27016 жыл бұрын
Can you please make a video on covert narssist.....
@marie-rosedaly42346 жыл бұрын
XXX
@bethjbrannon41146 жыл бұрын
There are tons and tons of covert Narcissistic Creatures on KZbin, YOU WILL LEARN EVERYTHING IN THESE VIDEOS!!.....IT’S ALONG RIDE, ITS SAD AND HORRIFIC FOR MOST OF US SURVIVORS, IT IT WEREN’T FOR ALL ThESE VIDEOS, ID BE DEAD BY NOW!!....GOOD LUCK❤️
@bethjbrannon41146 жыл бұрын
I meant to say tons and tons of videos with “life coaches who has been thru what we have, and /are still going thru, so many listen to, some of The life Coaches Are Better Than Others, Are Maybe I should just say “You will relate to better, they saved ME!!!
@justqueenie14805 жыл бұрын
@@bethjbrannon4114 some life coaches are narcs themselves and just wanna collect fuel and money from victims/survivors. Some even sell merchandise 🤔
@patriciamoraga85856 жыл бұрын
Thank you.... Thank you... Thank you H.G
@runwiththewind32816 жыл бұрын
Thank you for helping me understand
@deeflowers60966 жыл бұрын
Hi, I am listening to you, thanks hj for schooling me and all of us who seek help oh YOU are the best for me to listen to. You are what we need. THANKS HJ.
@MsTopley6 жыл бұрын
Can a narcissist sense through a “psychic bond” or “thoughts” whether the victim is still traumatized. Can they sense our pain when we are not around?
@sirrenn19366 жыл бұрын
No, they assume.
@DaughtersofJoy6 жыл бұрын
My experience has been there is an intense and active psychic bond which can last through distance and absence and partial contact. Yes, they know... until you go full no contact. And even then, maybe. It could be true that only death breaks that bond. But, do not give in or give up. Hold firm. Your life depends on holding firm to no contact and believing in your own self worth. Let.go.
@judyabraham99636 жыл бұрын
DaughtersofJoy you need to look up "breaking soul ties " IT broke mine with the narc
@judyabraham99636 жыл бұрын
Jesus did IT!
@alinaburtman88646 жыл бұрын
Yes! Its demonic! Its real!
@sandyshorewalker53646 жыл бұрын
This is helpful. Thank you.
@KnowingtheNarcissist6 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Rosemary.
@mystiquelou12776 жыл бұрын
Why did it have to happen why did my life have to be destroyed? I coulnt help getting enmeshed with the narc...he provoked it all ..i didnt know him at all and meant no harm . But it hurt it so much... what did i do wrong...?
@catalinaroses22986 жыл бұрын
My ex has not secured a primary source since he dumped me a year ago. The much younger women he targeted were not interested in him. He has completely left me alone and knows I still love him. How is it that he hasn’t decompensated due to lack of fuel? Could online chats with women be fueling him? Or maybe his co-workers give him enough fuel at work? He has many narcisstic traits. Either he is an exceptional narc or he is not one. But I think he is one.
@vmm51636 жыл бұрын
Catalina Roses : Hi. He'll get fuel just from attempting to target these younger women, then use everyone else for backup. I can guarantee he's getting fuel from foreign women online. They'll want his money, and he wants their fuel, both are desperate, so it's a two way street, although they'll probably never meet. Narcissists always use these women because there is no commitment issue, and he'll have so much thought fuel to sustain him. They all do the exact same things. Very limited way of behaving but identical. 🙁 it really gets to us doesn't it. Hope you can leave him in the past soon.
@catalinaroses22986 жыл бұрын
Hi Sea Fern. I am not certain he is talking to women online, I am just speculating. He is a good-looking man and looks real good for his age. He left me to target much younger women after 4 years together. Maybe these younger women were turned off with his personality and he didn't have a chance to love-bomb. I am still having a really hard time getting over him. I am working on it. Thank you for your input. I appreciate your post.
@olive2.0.2live32 жыл бұрын
What do you think... that Salmon dip is still good right? 5 second rule?!
@Angela-kg7bf6 жыл бұрын
What if the narcissist won't collect all his belongings, all his clothes, tools fishing gear and golf clubs are still in my home after 8 months no contact! I feel like I'm in limbo.
@jenster296 жыл бұрын
Raman Dhaliwal give to one of his friends/family Or warn through others close to him that you're going to sell or dump his shit. Good job on the no contact
@HellcatMad6 жыл бұрын
if you cannot give to a relative trash it. take pics, keep any text or emails where u have repeatedly ask him to retrieve. with documentation judge will likely rule in your favor. GET RID OF IT
@quentindaniels74605 жыл бұрын
Goodwill. Take his stuff to Goodwill.
@Phoenix-kf4xo5 жыл бұрын
Dump it!
@annamariapiotrowicz5115 жыл бұрын
first sell all his belongs in your home it will help youmove on if the narc ask you for his things back/hover you just prented you mete him/her move on with your life andlearn from your mistakes how the narc abuse you
@gpparis20236 жыл бұрын
I wish I new this last week
@sherryluchette77716 жыл бұрын
Great advice
@vinkeyla236 жыл бұрын
I LOOOOOVE THESE😍😍😍
@judyabraham99636 жыл бұрын
Yeahhhh!!!!! This is what i am talking about and the kind Informationen we want more of u in future bc you already discribted perfect what goes on the mind of the narc. And these are the kind of infos the viwers need now. I was almost leaving your Chanel. But know This!!! Awesome!! Keep it up😀👌👌👌👌
@gracewright79386 жыл бұрын
How do they know exactly how to run into you, face to face, at the exact place and time where you will be? I understand they cannot track your phone. How do they do this?
@MsJay-xj5kq6 жыл бұрын
Grace Wright you'll be surprised they can track you, if they want you bad enough...
@supowell16 жыл бұрын
I enjoy the videos and have learned a lot about narcissists, but don't your vids sort of defeat the purpose if one is trying to go full blown No Contact? If I am trying to forget the Jackass, watching these videos just reminds me of his evil mug. Dilemma...no?
@KnowingtheNarcissist6 жыл бұрын
True but it is a necessary evil. A little like certain courses of medicine, they don't taste pleasant and have side effects but are necessary because of the ultimate outcome. Better you are reminded when doing something constructive to your progress than being reminded with no benefit.
@bjh9096 жыл бұрын
Would please put that in a book
@joeleliaskivi90296 жыл бұрын
Its funny how these people who want you to see them as a superior humanbeings are actually just a miserable engines who constantly needs to look for fuel to be able to live.
@evamcinnis79926 жыл бұрын
Nothing but pure demons
@Phoenix-kf4xo5 жыл бұрын
They are actually inferior, twisted cowards playing at superior through deception, because nobody is interested in them. Their deception is a ploy to buy them acceptance which allows them to play their silly time wasting games. They otherwise have a pathetic, doomed, rejected and miserable existence. But they can only waste your time if you let them. Common sense demands they waste their own!
@kimberlyadams13006 жыл бұрын
Great advice.
@sweetsting59646 жыл бұрын
HG..I have a question you may be able to answer...sometimes the Narcissist I know is blatantly rude (but rarely), he's told me "I am a bad person" on more than 1 occasion...& in the beginning whenever we would spend time alone after we'd talk a while he'd politely ask me to leave & when I would ask why? he'd say just please go I'm trying not to be an asshole...like almost in a pleading voice...later, after I had visited several times.. he would tell me very rudely basically get the fuck out of my house..almost in mid-conversation..he would even threaten to leave his condo & leave me there, just to get away..looking back I guess he felt it was getting too intimate, (or not intimate enough maybe)...anyways, Do you think he knows what he is? thanks in advance.
@runwiththewind32816 жыл бұрын
Brilliant
@JonathonDenson6 жыл бұрын
I work as a DJ in a club. The covert narc knows where I work and will try to hoover, provoke, or ambush me there, but I don't know when it will happen. Since I won't be able to leave when he shows up, do you have any tips? My idea was to never look up from the computer / mixer if he tries to engage.
@getoutstayout21736 жыл бұрын
J D I was a bartender and I barred her. Problem solved. Good luck.
@NataleeJT19856 жыл бұрын
Just inform the doorstaff of your situation
@karenkelleher9895 жыл бұрын
I've been reducing fuel output. He seems to have adapted,and is now "switching it up". By doing so, he can catch me off guard, and I leak out little bits of fuel. Any suggestions? 37 years- 24/7, 365 of dealing :-P:-)
@selah1595 жыл бұрын
Keep The Contact High and Fuel, Watch what Yahweh Does To the Male and Female Narcissistic Demon....SELAH
@kittyvanderterp26675 жыл бұрын
Do they love there children? Somehow….
@jimmanycricket49526 жыл бұрын
How do you or can you expose a narcissist without looking like a crazy narcissist yourself??
@olive2.0.2live32 жыл бұрын
I told my mom I'm in love with my dad...... & she doesn't want any of my blood diamonds
@Sophie-db1ko6 жыл бұрын
There s something i don t get. If fuel = our emotionsHow come the n discards them?
@KnowingtheNarcissist6 жыл бұрын
See the video 5 Reasons We Devalue You.
@TheAshMcG6 жыл бұрын
Sophie Because as they wear you down the fuel supply is not as rich, so they devalue and discard....move to a secondary source.....Hoover you later when you think you can move on...and get the rich supply by feeding off you over and over cycle after sick cycle. Think of a vampire and there lies the answer.
@givethemavoice9316 жыл бұрын
Well said 😎...As a resource for you I am following #drjohnaking.I often read his work on CPTSD, you might like it also.I have often found them to be extremely useful.
@JESUSRULZZZAMEN6 жыл бұрын
Thank you bless you for sharing!!!
@WingZeroSymphonics6 жыл бұрын
Nemesis
@mystiquelou12776 жыл бұрын
Sounds like being arrested
@mystiquelou12776 жыл бұрын
Yes why did you hurt us...so you can do further do that by discarding your victim....and who is we? Nobody wants.to meet their narcissist, and who is we...sounds threatening
@gwillis014 жыл бұрын
hint for the clueless: canteen equals cafeteria
@rhondanelson26695 жыл бұрын
That is CRAZY TALK, NUTS
@yt73776 жыл бұрын
Wow
@keepingmyfaith826 жыл бұрын
Why did he have to have sex three times a day? Everyday.. Even will wake you up out your sleep in the middle of the night. Smh
@mystiquelou12776 жыл бұрын
Whoooo is uuuus....😛
@elizabethasikpo28476 жыл бұрын
Stefan Molyneux
@robocutie6 жыл бұрын
The narcissist needs fuel to survive, so it seems kinda wrong to not give them what they need
@joeleliaskivi90296 жыл бұрын
Phantomhive Girl lmao, thats the trap sister. Keep ur distance ☝️
@jenster296 жыл бұрын
Phantomhive Girl they'll find another source...stop concerning yourself with the freaks
@LoremLipsumz6 жыл бұрын
Phantomhive Girl because it’s never enough, it gets stale to them and they need to devalue and discard and juggle other sources of fuel, humiliate you in the process and then love bomb you again to suck you back in. Mostly though staying and giving them fuel will eventually shatter your heart and wound your soul.
@carolinelala98186 жыл бұрын
How do you stop them from gas lighting you late at night or waking you up early, especially before an event? This person likes to do this and then expect me to try to live up to the social obligations and be a contender among peers. I'm starting to realize what a mental problem they have and how I've been conditioned over the years.
@eps45606 жыл бұрын
There is such a thing called Sleep Abuse. When you tell them or they understand that good uninterrupted sleep is important to you, they will wake you up. Too early, repeatedly during the night etc. It really is a thing!
@santiagocastrostudios5 жыл бұрын
OMG my ex used to do that to me. He would wake me up and argue with me until the wee hours of the night. I was so tired sleepy disoriented. Eventually I ended up quitting my job. I realize now that that is what he wanted me to do all along.