How To Release Trauma Stored In The Body

Trauma impacts us all differently, so recognising the coping mechanisms or behaviours you have developed in response to trauma can help support your healing journey. In this video, I share how you can begin to release trauma stored in the body so you can heal your stress, anxiety and pain.
It’s easy to think negatively about how you learnt to cope when subjected to childhood trauma. But the first part of healing is understanding that those coping strategies helped you survive at the time. By understanding that they once served a necessary purpose, we can begin to let them go from a place of love.
The gift of being an adult is we’re not dependent upon others to meet our core emotional needs. We have within us what we need to heal, but to access this we need to slow down, make space and learn to connect to the love within us.
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[@AlexHowardTherapy]

What helps you build inner safety? Let me know in the comments 👇🏼 👉🏼Pre-order my new book It's Not Your Fault: Why childhood trauma shapes you and how to break free www.alexhoward.com/its-not-your-fault Once you buy the book, don't forget to register your order number. I have 5 bonus gifts I’m giving to you for FREE to thank you for purchasing this book (including LIFETIME ACCESS to my very popular Decode Your Trauma, Decode Your Nervous System and Decode Your Fatigue 5 day series).

[@RainbowLane]

Staying away, as much as possible, from family members who have not evolved past the old family dynamic. It’s not ‘old’ for them, it’s still current. When you work to break the family dynamic, particularly if you were the scapegoat, other people still in the family ‘game’ who have not woken up will try very hard to keep you in the scapegoat position. No amount of explaining will stop them. So I heavily limit contact.

[@jofox1186]

I find this "inner safety" part of the puzzle the hardest. I used to be able to do it with Tai Chi, walks in the countryside, caring for my son, but now I can't walk anymore, I have a chronic pain condition. I can't do Tai Chi anymore and it feels like my options are very limited. Even meditation gets more difficult because of the pain. My son is now grown up (so I care for a cat, but she is fairly independent). I really really need to be able to self regulate but I can't seem to get this piece in place. The only thing that really helps is finding some kind of co-regulation. I can't afford therapy so I call the Samaritans.

[@Ceria3ella]

Your book “It’s Not Your Fault” is on my wish list on audible and will be purchased Jan 25, 2024. When I do, how and where do I register the order number? I look forward to listening to your book.

[@lenorabarclay275]

If I buy this of my audible app do I still get the freebies please?

[@Ceria3ella]

I have purchased the book on audible last month and, still unsure where to register my order number.

[@sylvie060]

I started to pray. I was close to death through autoimmune, no friends family or doctors that would help me. I prayed out my feelings, unprocessed trauma, and I began to heal. After 20 yrs of accumalative trauma, now in 4 years of healing. God brought me to your Reset Program Alex, it has healed a lot. Thank you. Now I've picked up the Bible at this late stage in my life, and I now feel healed. Healing is possible. Trust you, trust God. It is possible.

[@smuccilicious]

Beautiful ❤

[@marjn1030]

The doctors give us a pills but most diseases and sickness can come from our trapped emotions.

[@lautjeee8582]

❤

[@TheZoelorelei]

I been diagnosed with probably Ankylose spondalitis.. Yet i realized, and what triggered all this healing process, is to chose wrong partners...Actually..The right partner to trigger all my traumas. So i broke up. Of course, i can't let someone abuse me. But it pushed me into taking the step to heal...

[@dawnatchison]

AMEN GLORY TO GOD

[@polyglotmona]

What helps me first of all withdraw from toxic people, toxic companies, toxic situations, toxic places. Secondly, find peace, why are you sitting at a river or at the ocean as far away as possible from other people, or just be in the middle of a forest. Thirdly, reduce the cost of living so that I don’t have to work as much so that I have more freedom for myself. I could go on and on, I found a lot of helpful things since I started my new lifestyle. Thank you for thanks inspiring me and have a great week.

[@simpleliving4205]

Thank you

[@allythearts5439]

Ignoring toxic people has helped. & Honestly meeting new people 👍🏽 has helped release trauma

[@jenniferlowe5207]

For me, inner safety looks like speaking kind words to myself, being compassionate toward the parts of me that struggle. Additionally, setting boundaries with others.

[@user-mj6qr2ky9d]

What exactly is meant by setting boundaries and how do u do it?

[@andytutt7746]

Setting boundaries is difficult for me its hard for me to articulate my feelings.

[@mannoubouba9204]

thank you Doctor. I myself would add a last but very crucial step to that process of healing : being grateful to yourself and thanking yourself for the courage it had to take to get it through that process of releasing the trauma.

[@MontyRead]

Great Video.... I was traumatized as a child, and then proceeded to traumatize myself with workaholism... I was really ultra good at masking my feelings and deflecting... now, at 60, I want to undo all of that and start to feel and live... repairing a lifetime of trauma and addiction isn't easy, but it's doable! thanks for this!

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@IkamiLog]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Is he on instagram?

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

[@beckyf2991]

Tapping has helped me the most. It calms me and soothes me, and yet it assists me in bringing up and healing trauma. My therapist, who uses tapping throughout each session, has been invaluable.

[@pmearsh]

I'm a life coach and I use tapping every day and recommend it to everyone. It's free, it's easy, can be used for any issue big or small and most importantly, it works 😀

[@robertaswanson5633]

I agree that tapping is a wonderful way to safely bring up trauma and release it. I'm surprised that more people in this field don't mention it.

[@sleepinggalaxy]

Do you mean EFT tapping?

[@birdienumnums1]

IS this tapping all the meridian points?

[@Dkayemiller9]

A relaxing environment that is safe with things that comfort like soft blankets and music.

[@rayma66]

My trauma is stored in my stomach, I’m sure of it. I’ve been through a lot throughout my life and now I have a digestive disease (GERD/gastritis) caused by extreme anxiety and stress. It’s so difficult to begin my healing journey but I’m here trying. I can’t bring my stress down and it’s making my heartburn worse. I have so much work ahead of me. I’ve started with yoga and I journal sometimes. I need to regulate my nervous system somehow. I’m up all night, every night. I’m glad I found this video though. I think it will be very helpful. So thank you

[@writer684]

Mine too, my digestive system doesen't work, making me to shut down after a meal , but the stress is making me hungry, the only way out is to get rid of the stress/ trauma I belive, and that is trougth the process of confronting the traumas, stay with it and realise it can't hurt you any more. You have to look at the trauma, feel it, don't run away, and then comfort yourself and say thats not relevant anymore, move on and live your life.

[@rahuldwivedi9278]

You can use Vipassana meditation and tapping to release trauma.

[@RiyaXlifestyle]

Mindfulness healed me a lot

[@erinelle4310]

Look into fasting and cut out sugar especially. Ive had the same problems with stress, anxiety, trauma and digestive issues and I'll then eat junk food for months and feel worse for it. But when i cut out the crap, i immediately feel better and sleep better. You might go through the Herxheimer reaction when the bacteria die off which feels like being run down but afterwards, you'll feel much better and get back to good health.

[@annawinek560]

@rayma66 you may want to lead about the vagus nerve stimulation. There are specific breathing exercises, humming and singing that may help you with it. Also, MAT (muscle activation technique) practitioner can ease your digestive issues.

[@Ceria3ella]

The biggest and most helpful way that I began to build safety was to realize that safety first starts with me. No matter what is going on around me, no matter what people are saying and doing, and no matter what is going on in the world; I can work on making my inner and immediate world around me, a safe place. To work on inner peace -I will continue to work on trusting in God and building trust within myself, healing my inner child. Healing is like peeling an onion and I still have far to go, and that’s okay as long as I continue to have compassion, patience and keep learning how to be my own best friend. I will get there One peel at a time. I realize that being hard on myself doesn’t make a safe inner environment to allow for holding space for inner parts. Patience and compassion with self really is important. I have days I am just so fatigued by it all, but I do think it’s more stressful and tiring when avoiding, running from the emotions that want to be felt, validated, seen and heard. I have been on this healing journey for quite some time. Grief has a way of bringing up unhealed trauma, unaddressed grief and trauma that needs to be grieved. I realize I have to hold space for myself more often. It is said that in time we learn to grieve more in love than in pain when a loved one passes, perhaps the same can be said about trauma; as we grieve the trauma we can learn to love ourselves more in the process and little by little the pain of it all will become less and less over time. Much love and compassion to you all ❤

[@aberdesign]

Dear Alex, I build inner safety within nature, walks by the beach, listening to bird song and enjoying good food, and long chats with friends and family around me. Meditation every morning and positive affirmations. Just wanted to say that your videos have helped me greatly in trying to understand my engrained traumas. I love your therapeutic approach and methods. I believe they are paving the way to my healing. Thank you deeply for sharing. By far the best therapist on You Tube. ❤

[@proudchristian77]

Gosh , foster kids don't have family, we have drugs !

[@nastasiaa23]

Alex, this is the most comprehensive description about trauma healing journey and the steps one should be aware of when addressing trauma in their bodies.. I've listened to many lectures on the topic and most of them were just confusing and in the end people didn't know where and how to start. This one is short, exact, straight to the point and I am certain it will help a lot of people. Thank you ❤

[@mashfield1846]

I am starting to build safety with a beautiful blanket! Back to the womb! When I was growing up my mother would often say "Pull yourself together". It became my motto after she died when I was 26. Now 69, it doesn't work anymore and I have a lot of alarm symptoms which need soothing and sorting. Thank you for your reassurance that there will be a way out. Bless you.

[@fifiearthwanderer]

I also used the method of "keeping it all together" now I have chronic bracing and tension through my whole body.

[@paulypacker]

I wasn't able to build inner safety until I found a way to be compassionate to myself, and finally to LOVE myself. I started journaling consistently and honestly. It helped me be compassionate when I saw how hard my healing was in a concrete way. And I found it easier to feel compassion for that hurting person in my journal. It gave me some space to actually see how difficult this was for me and how hard I was working on it. I found that helped me to start trusting myself. I also use my journals for perspective. I look back to see how far I've come! THAT helps keep me going when it's hard to go on.

[@evelinel.9827]

Exactly--my stored trauma (starting in childhood with emotional neglect) turned into fibromyalgia and CFS. Doing tons of somatic emotional work is one of the main things that has helped me get to close to recovery. (Kiloby Inquires/somatic self inquiry to get out emotional repression and limiting beliefs) (Also learning not to fight, flee or try to fix symptoms and learning how not to worry about them also). Thank you Dr. John Sarno!!!

[@evelinel.9827]

TRE (trauma release exercises) and mediation is also great also!

[@bonnie_nelms]

Glad to read this. I too have fibromyalgia and cfs, and have been wondering about KI

[@user-yl6qg2gf7h]

Starting from THOSE OLD N HARMS STRATEGIES TO DO JUSTICE. PARTIA DE RACISTAS CASCARRABIAS CORRUPTONES LO Q SON.

[@SB-ss5ih]

Try acupuncture for fibromyalgia and bouncing on a trampoline too. Cured someone I know ❤

[@emmaclaireisherwood]

Taking time out, in the garden, the beach, peace and quiet, allowing the body to recallibrate, recognising when to do this is important, helps tremendously. Taking time out allows you to listen to your body and your inner self 💗

[@JoshLooperMusic]

I’ve been processing trauma for 44 years. If it hasn’t come out yet it ain’t never. I’ve tried it all.

[@philipparandall2910]

The things that make me feel safe are being with someone that loves and accepts me as I am where there is trust (mum), walks and sitting in nature, coffees and chats with friends, healing workships with other women, walks on the beach, yoga, Falun Gong, a belief system in something higher, kirtan, kindness from others even from relative strangers on a daily basis, patting a dog, affection, hugs, kind words, not having too many demands, being in beautiful places with good energy. Also, even doing something like knitting or crochet or stroking a cat where it is "time out" but the mind is preoccupied. Feeling financially secure. Frankly, a lot of jobs have not made me feel safe because there are so many demands, pressure and judgement with them. At present, am looking for a new job whilst wanting to sort through some of my issues and whilst jobs are important to feel valued with self esteem and financially secure, it is making me feel that I don't want to feel stressed or pressured as it is counter-intuitive to enjoyment of life, to feeling safe enough to work through issues which also contributes to more enjoyment of life.

[@JorgeGarcia-zu7cj]

Physical activities are extremely helpful

[@msmith8818]

I'm 68 and in the past ten years, have started to deal with old trauma feelings. I feel that daily hiking and strength training have saved me from severe health issues. I'm trying to include meditation, but it's difficult because I have some type of ADHD. My parents are passed, but I have two much older siblings who were emotional abusers, until I went no contact with them. Therapists don't seem to understand how bad emotional and verbal abuse, and emotional neglect, can be. I don't have many childhood memories, but I remember my dad shooting my cat when I was around six, because it bit my mom, who stepped on its foot. I recently had a therapist tell me that my siblings just thought I was "different" and that was why they mistreated me. By and large, the counseling and therapy community is not helpful for survivors of family abuse.

[@agnieszka.bekalarczyk]

When i feel discomfort and try to escape into conversations, social media and so on i go back to myself and i ask myself questions which helps to discover where is my trauma in my body and mind. Then i let myself cry and when i do it Hurts but then i feel sich a relief. When i stoped to runaway i just opened for emotions and im very loving for myself like a bestfriend i started to feel real calm and joy.

[@RezOz9916]

I've learnt a lot about my chronic complex trauma from Gabor Mate n Bassel Van der Kolk, but I have to say you prbly articulated it in the most clear, coherent, relatable way. "SLOW" is the key, rmbr that the first time you talk to a counsellor, it can be very re-traumatising, you lock up, enormous sadness n pain comes back n you feel what did I do that for. But slowly, gently n with compassion you learn to feel n think about those events/times without being triggered. It's a long journey that has taken me 10yrs to understand. It's something I'll have to work on everyday but it's worth it as I don't want to pass my trauma onto my kids, I want them to hve the life that I couldn't hve. All the power to all who read this and thank you Howard for trying to make a difference, it's working,-)

[@Trulybee_]

Remembering gods love for me is helping me 🥹

[@2joynow42]

Being aware of my thinking/self talk is very important to my feeling of safety. I aim to be consistent & to be my own best friend. 💖 this also includes tuning into my body, what is my body feeling? Stop take a breathe or rest & allow myself to do nothing. These things help me to notice the adrenaline & make a new choice ✨💖✨ Thank you Alex 🫶✨ so grateful for your work

[@carriesmaticmccarthy2016]

Thank you for sharing this wisdom

[@2joynow42]

@@carriesmaticmccarthy2016 🤗 wishing you a joyful journey 💖✨

[@MaggieWirtanen]

What you said! Learning to listen to and acknowledge what’s happening in your body and re-narrating the internal dialogue from negative to supportive. We can learn to be our own bestie!

[@2joynow42]

@@MaggieWirtanen ✨🤍🫶🤍✨ beautiful

[@salkashoura4928]

For me im working on self compassion. Really being compassionate to my self. Which can be in the form of write compassionate letters to my self, self compassion touch, connecting with my body, and writing down my feelings to express it. I also allow my self to release anger by shouting to the universe or punching my pillows. One thing i never did was express anger. I now know it is ok to express healthy anger in a healthy way. And it is ok to feel angry with things. That is what justice is. As long as we are not taking it out on our self or others.

[@parisaforpeace]

Thanks for breaking this down. I also find that using the imagination to imagine safe, soothing spaces results in the feelings of calm and safety. Of course, it takes practice and may not be for everybody. I wonder, however, if all techniques and strategies need to be based on a sense of Self. Some people feel shattered and don't have a solid sense of self. Who am I? What is my worth? What do I stand for? What is my purpose? So perhaps applying techniques needs to go hand in hand with building inner wisdom or meaning.

[@johnpatterson6448]

I get a lot of help listening to The Crappy Childhood Fairy and Heidi Priebe and, of course, Peter Levine. I am adding Alex Howard to my ‘team’. I like him a lot. Clear explanation and a good manner. And English. Subscribed.

[@klyrebird]

I would like to suggest Eckhart Tolle to you. He has helped me a great deal. I just subscribed to this channel for the reasons you mentioned.

[@christinereynolds8840]

my defense to trauma is isolation that I learned as a child when my father was physically and emotionally abusive. I did not feel safe and now as an adult if someone makes me feel unsafe physically, it comes out as anger and I fight but if emotionally I am hurt, I remove that relationship from my life, I cut you out of my life for "all of eternity" . Taking the time to think about why I am reacting the way I am and allowing myself time to go for a walk and get those feelings out. I am fortunate to live in the beautiful state of Montana, USA where it is safe to walk and the scenery is beautiful.

[@pedroba76]

same for me, mine is isolation too. It cost me some problems in my life, and regret.

[@luciamixon8119]

I walk on a track park by me. Joined a centering prayer group. I was too isolated. Tiny steps.

[@abiv4491]

This title is a mouthful but this book helped me immensely: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

[@pesthlm]

Hello Alex! So interesting to hear you talk about this topic. I am a very lucky person to have been cured of my psychosomatic ailments as I stuttered badly for 40 years and also had eczema all over my body. I just want to chime in with a parallel here to what you're saying. I was healed through liberating breathing ("rebirthing"). I found a fantastic therapist and here I want to directly emphasize the importance of finding a good therapist, who as you often say, safety is something important to think about. Trauma that is trapped in the body, when it is released, very strange body sensations can occur and then it is really important that you have a good therapist next to you as it can feel scary. The great thing about this method is that you as a client do not need to know anything about "why" your ailments are there, the method is very radical, in short; via the breathing technique, high-octane oxygen finds its way into the blockages (stored in tissues, muscles, etc.) and releases trapped energy. Very often then, memories can come to the surface and you get a clarity as to "why" the blockage arose. It is very common for blockages to arise in childhood, when one's own intellect was not developed to understand the source of the "trauma". In my case, I have carried with me trauma where I could not at all derive this to anything from my own life. I have been part of a fantastic journey and become 100% free from my ailments. Been completely healthy now for 17 years.

[@stephanieknowles7586]

Is this technique related to holotropic breathing?

[@ioanacristinabratescumusca7412]

Anxiety can be body-anxiety, mind-anxiety and emotion-related anxiety. Awareñess of this and likewise action for building inner safety: body-safety (e.g.sleep, soft diet), mind-safety (e.g.non-judgemental about criticizing, I found helpful), emotional-safety (e.ģ.meditation walk, I consider to be interesting)...

[@nonameneededd]

Beautifully explained. People go through trauma and think that it’s over and done with but trauma stored in the body has life long consequences. Trauma typically gets stored in the area of our our brain responsible for our emotions. Which then gets a response from our body whenever a similar situation occurs in one life which will remind you of your traumatic experiences and to live through it over again, which doesn’t end up leaving your body. When this happens over and over, your stress response increases leading to long term illnesses and can lead you to having an early stroke, dementia, heart attack etc. It’s so important to deal with trauma and heal from it once and for all. Because something is not seen and running in the background, does not mean it’s not effecting you in your everyday life.

[@amandaford1278]

Thank you. Every time I get close to my feelings I feel like they're going to overwhelm me. It's helpful to have a reminder that they won't.

[@jenniferlowe5207]

Same. I avoided my feelings at all costs. It terrified me to go there. Now I am realizing it was anxiety and that I will get through it if I go through the process of feeling

[@miguelherrera3387]

Thank you for this... I've been releasing & letting go a lot of shock cell trauma in my body,, spinal system, asthma, tension in chest,, joints, muscles, immune system, rage, everywhere! lol.. ALot of stubbornness, anger, rage, sadness, humiliation, betrayals, mistakes & bad deeds on my part & especially others connected to this life & many many past lives for the last 2 years.. Not fun,, but after it's said & done,,, What LOVE, Safety, Peace & Trust in Life, I Am Feeling More & More.. I Breathe A LOT, in & out constantly.. I want to be present, exist & deal with EVERYTHING that is present or presenting me in front of me & inside of me clearly... Oh Karma,, lol,, Good to know & feel that,, " Nothing But Good Come's Out Of ALL Situations" Absoultely! Correction & changing perceptions In Constant Forgiveness & Especially "LOVE", REALLY Works & Patience.. Thanks again for this

[@SonyaTurner-rz8vp]

thank you for informing me about stored trauma.

[@ChasingLadybugs]

I just subscribed to your channel as I LOVED that you kept your video short and concise and recapped with lists! Thank you for this valuable content!

[@laurinadra7314]

Thank you for this topic. It was concise, comprehensive and accurate ❤

[@janetlink3626]

Thanks Alex. Informative and explained well.

[@maddie9185]

Wow! This was amazing. I was able to do this to a degree without realizing that this is what I was doing. I had an accident that left me traumatized which manifested with a lot of anxiety. Because I ended up in the hospital I started to experience a lot of health anxiety even thought all the tests came back negative (clean bill of health) I started to educate myself about anxiety the symptoms and I learned that hypochondriac is at the top of the many symptoms. Once I understood that there was nothing wrong with me I decided to accept the anxiety but learn to manage it. Deep breathing, meditation, having a wonderful supportive husband and slowing down and getting in touch with my feelings has been the key for me. My anxiety is pretty much gone but I will continue to meditate and I have slowly gone back to the gym.

[@user-fo3oz9mv3q]

We have four principal emotions and if we work out these 4 emotions authentically yes we can grow and recover.

[@etaokha4164]

What help me was walking in nature and spending hours outside with nature 😊

[@brandymlittle]

Got the restraining order and a day later fell apart. Now starting acupuncture to release from the body. I am on the way to full healing ❤

[@jeanettekvinlaug2772]

Thank you for explaining it simple and practical.

[@jillychandler]

Listening to your wonderful words of wisdom, I was put off with what sounded like background music ? Please, can we just have your talking without that? Having trauma myself, I am very sensitive to sounds. Thank you so much for all your videos, they are really helping me. xxx

[@robertaswanson5633]

Reading spiritual literature helps me to calm down and build a sense of inner safety. Current favorites are anything by Ernest Holmes.

[@user-kq7ks5dn6j]

What an excellent explanation! Thank you!

[@mariaraheel8788]

Thank you for sharing this video , its a ray of light in a dark tunnel, a ray of hope❤

[@user-dy1uw3jn6s]

Thank you for the hope ❤

[@merncat3384]

Thank you sir for how you worded everything in this video.. this is my first time on your channel and everything you said made total sense to me. Much appreciated.

[@MelissaVRamos]

Thank you. A way is being mindful and developing a friendship with my inner child, adult self, parent myself, be a BFF by talking to myself as support. This is something I need to do for an inner safety rule.

[@marilynoverton8142]

Thank you so much, Alex, for this wonderful content! What helps me create a feeling of safety is self-soothing stroking of my arms and hugging myself.

[@LibbyIreton]

Beautiful words! Thank you 🙏

[@deborahwalker1208]

Working with a really good therapist currently using a somatic method, inner child work also. I'm learning to get in touch with my emotions and feel them, allow self care practices. To survive, I had to deny and repress emotions. Finding my voice: setting boundaries with others and asking for what I need.

[@Noran11290]

Thank you very much for this video. I have seen many videos and this summarises the matrer really well with an organised way that respects the listener . We should have this knowledge taught at school from an early age.

[@123fredv]

Hearing things that scare me and experiencing that nothing happened and I’m ok. Also being w my family and letting myself laugh and talk with them. Being with my cats and seeing how they are being with me without needing me to be in any other way than myself.

[@RenekLexa]

This is the most important and straight video about trauma releasing I have ever seen and heard. Important points in a few minutes. Lots of people put this informations in long podcasts. So thank you because this stage of my life let me release these emotions and this support helped a lot. Have a nice rest of a month! 🙏💎❤️

[@Mariam111_]

So beautifully explained …

[@jeanniecampbell1374]

one of the Best video's I have seen ..inner safety ? for me counting to ten before I commit , say I will get back to you .( when I have thought it through ) having the same compassion for myself as I do for others ,and pulling away from people that make my stomach turn ( thats where I feel it ) and stop making excuses for people ..if it does not feel right its usually is not right ..built your wisdom and observations which finally will help you trust your instinct ...respect yourself and know you have value too .

[@MorganLeeModelxo]

Omg. Every trauma video I see is so abstract and unclear, this video was so much easier to understand. Thank you so much

[@ThePlatformSA-jq3lr]

What an amazing video. I didn’t know I had stored trauma till I watched. I knew something was “off” just didn’t know what it was. So Thank you for this✨

[@sandyp4123]

Your gave me hope ❤ Seems so far He did not listen when I prayed

[@olafbotel9895]

This video helped me so tremendously. Thank you.

[@carolmahoney2777]

What helps me is Theropy and meditation. Started chair yoga for seniors and podcasts like this one. They are all helpful tools and techniques and I’m still learning. 😊😊

[@divinenurturerjanenecummin2020]

Working directly with the inner child has helped me feel the feels and bloom her into safety and confidence to express. Now we are delving more into finding safety in being more grounded in the body.... what a fascinating journey! Great video! Thank you.

[@RainbowLane]

Thank you - your videos are always very helpful.

[@barbararobbins441]

Thank you, God bless you

[@nikol7951]

Excellent thank you. I've been reading your book, It's Not Your Fault, and then avoided (for a while) doing the first exercise in Chapter 3. I finally started the first exercise last night, and a whole bunch of stuff came up that surprised me, freaked me out, and made me uncomfortable; and I didn't sleep well. Now through this video I understand that I was using one of the defense mechanisms (avoiding the exercise) to avoid feeling the subsequent feelings. I feel better now after I watched the video, to continue the process, and be gentle with myself. I also know that as I remain courageous, I will provide the safe environment for my body to connect to its wisdom and heal its unresolved trauma.

[@wb1291]

Thank You! I find prayer helps me

[@MargaretJEllis]

Limited time w/ narcissists.... I'm impacted physically.

[@bitesizedessentials]

I find this video very beneficial. I have a lot of stored trauma that manifests itself in panic, anxiety attacks, over-worrying, doomsday thinking and overly negative thinking. Accepting that I have not surfaced many of my stored trauma is the first step towards healing. Thank you for this video!

[@EL1T3xFaTe]

Tapping helps me release a lot of trauma. Lots of shaking release with tapping. Only thing ik will definitely release trauma while I do it

[@joseerollet8071]

Just listened to this online talk and want to thank you as l find so many people explain about the trauma and it’s response but few actually tell you have it can be transformed.lve listened to your videos explaining about the reset programme but l really felt l needed to work one to one. I have recently started my process with a somatic therapist and l really hope she can lead me to make the changes l so want to make. It feels like my whole lie,68 years have been dogged by fear, anxiety and dread of just living and Covid sent me right over the top. Slowly l hope to start to live……thank you again for all your online information and advice, it helped me see what l need to heal my wounds, Josée

[@gabbadabba007]

It will be fine ❤direct yourself to God, it will help you 🎉

[@KoenVandevelde]

Very clear, thanks a lot!

[@arjanblad416]

This is an awesome "sum it all up" And also the other one about how it is stored... The helicopter view is the first to disappear during emotional turmoil. At least in my case... This really helps to see the big picture again... Thanks so much... Blessings to you...

[@Emerald007007]

Very very good stuff there Alex your advice was spot on I have a lot of challenges ahead and I am very fearful because I’m still very unsure of myself I have anxiety and depression literally 24/7 although my sleeping is not too bad so that is a big help and I do give myself a lot of self compassion

[@karenc.6144]

Thank you Alex. I have been dealing with anxiety on highways for years after having a panic attack while driving the day after 911. As a child I did not have a secure base to turn to for safety since my mother was a narcissist so I did not know how to self regulate my emotions. I distracted myself with alcohol, sex, eating, and drugs. I have been sober since 1988, but I did not how to calm myself when things seemed out of my control. I know I have CPSTD. What has helped me feel stable internally is my relationship with God. I read my Bible every morning, attend Bible study and continue to drive on the highway. Meditation is a daily practice along with stretching. I stay away from any drama from others and keep my focus on God and helping others without caretaking. Healing is a journey. I am thankful to people like you who create these videos for those suffering who need help. God bless you!

[@paulinaluck5623]

And what helps to build inner safety ..yoga self love hugs touching cat or dog learning sth new which give us confidence and pleasure and always remembering good moments in life and gratitude for these happy moments 💝 because whatever happens to us we should try to find sth nice and good in our life❤

[@user-gm4jh2wv3z]

Fantastic video. I continue to build safety. Most recently quiting a toxic job and asking my parents not to contact me. Meditation and spirituality has helped with internal safety. Knowing I am not my thoughts, my emotions or my body has really helped me to find a space that is safe and untouched by the physical world. With love and wishing you peace, J

[@ZgunnZ]

Well said sir.

[@danagodfrey2979]

Thanks a great video cheers

[@libe2431]

Thx for the video. My trauma got so bad that I developed a functional movement disorder. I was unable to stop having tremors like motions for a whole week. I was hospitalized unable to move properly. I was able to manage later on and I finished the school year a month later. I am a teacher. During the summer break, I found out a treatment at Mayo Clinic. In December a year ago, I started a great program. The main process was learning to do diaphragmatic breathing and other physical therapy training for a week. I am not 100% better but about 90%. So breathing and sleeping at least 7 hours a days, 9 hours are ideal make a huge difference for me. I can feel my body internally shake when I am stressed and anxious. I am afraid to let the emotions run free but this video might just have me convinced. Again, thank you.

[@kkendell954]

Such good guidance ❤

[@paulinaluck5623]

Building inner safety is the most important and most difficult as trauma creates imense feeling of uncertainty unsafety and almost ever lasting feeling of danger and fear..and any small impulse could wake up this alarm again and again and you react instinctively without the power to stop it as this reactioin is faster than your logical thinking....speak from own experience but still work on that there exist ways to get rid of these anxieties from trauma but as you sad slowly it takes time and selflove❤...hope to overcome it one day😘

[@Spiritual_2024]

Taking inspiration from you I have also started spiritual youtube channel in English. Thank you so much for your inspiration 😊😊

[@derfliegendeflunder]

Thank you - KZbin just recommended this video to me. For me the release of the trauma (in my case stored in in the belly & solar plexus-area) comes with a lot of anger or rage... which is not so easy to access gently it seems - at least not by myself outside of therapy... Also I'm getting in touch with some feeling of guilt for my confused ways to cope with this in the past - trying to get rid of this energy in sexuality for example... puuh, not so pretty to look at that, yet I didn't know better... I mean there was nothing going on which was not consensual... yet, it's not my proudest phase of the journey... I don't know... just felt like sharing myself here I guess... thanks for reading! ❤️‍🔥

[@Xmifi_]

Thank , I have alot of trauma. Love the trauma videos.

[@johnmc8805]

Finally after years of self help books and therapy .

[@barbarawhelan3846]

Understanding we had no control over some events tha happened in our lives ❤only to move forward with love and understanding

[@Amylyn..]

I state change... I went from Pennsylvania to South Carolina ❤❤❤

[@Nmpwlnp]

The first video that actually explains this well and helps you understand what to do 🙏 L

[@gabrielakarl3859]

You guys are angels

[@tubejim101]

Thank you

[@Emerald007007]

excellent video.

[@MargaretJEllis]

What Helped? Seeing a therapist that fits my needs. Codependency outpatient treatment. 12 step. Yoga, especially Urban Zen and other restorative yoga and Hatha yoga. Using a Biomat. Meditation, breathing practices, tapping, praying, dancing, hiking, making art, singing, making and listening to music and being outdoors getting excited by natural events. Being with children. Watching and listening in nature. Taking Epsom salt baths. I limit screen time including TV. Forgive and have gratitude especially for myself. Listen and honor my body for where to be, with whom, doing what. Wearing natural fibers in clothes that are me! Saying Litney Against Fear from Dune. Reading or listening to positive inspirational work especially before sleep. Sleep with natural bed and linens as much as possible. Use aromatherapy. Use Bach Flowers and homeopathics. Work against stress, being more honest with time needed for most everything. Eating fresh natural food, unprocessed as possible, in calm environment. Support like minded. Be in safe community. Be where I'm appreciated. Speak up appropriately.

[@barry5265]

I found being in nature. Appreciating the small things .the kindness in others and the things that are positive like worshipping god help me get in touch with my emotions.denial can be a big.part. like this isnt going on but you know the body keeps the score and it catches up.

[@thomasfranson3542]

First I do some break work to go inward and cultivate the calm state that allows myself to “go there” often I do this alone but have done it with my partner in the room as well. But I use visualizations and feeling it out to process it. I have my eyes closed and I identify in the body where I need to lean in. And often crying happens. And as that subsides I visualize its color or texture and I do almost a self raki practice. I pluck and unwind this visualized energy with my hands and clear it out while keeping my breathing very strong. Pressing out anger. Massaging the clavicle and shoulder for the sadness as well.

[@elfuegoearlymusicensemble7104]

I take more breaks during the day and listen to creeks and water sounds. By resetting and relaxing I am being more present in other activities and less anxious.

[@jeaninerumble6503]

I have found that creating art, strictly for myself, allows me to see meaning and emotion in a reflective and validating way. It is something private and sacred to me, but I do share it with people I trust and relate to. I have found expressive autobiographical sculpture to be my preferred medium.

[@colec3738]

A very important piece for me to be able to start feeling my repressed feelings, has been to distance myself away from digital stimulation. In the same way that a lot of people stay busy to avoid their emotions, I was always distracting myself from my emotions by being on my devices constantly. Even watching educational content can be distracting us from our feelings. Everything in moderation, I guess.