How to remove GUILT from OCD

[@ocdandanxiety]

Do you experience GUILT with your OCD?

[@sheyanderson9498]

No and I don't listen to the sexual thoughts because I know it is just my brain. I am not that type of person.

[@serenity_now1999]

Yes a lot. Extremely high since I have a real life event OCD. I even feel so low at times that I feel suicidal. But then a few days I feel much better only to go back to feeling low and depressed. Let me share my pure-O experience briefly. I have had OCD for over 12 years ( I'm 30 now). But I was managing well. However, an incident that happed in March that has shattered me. I was dealing stock market and I ended up taking way too much risk which could have resulted in me losing a FORTUNE. But due to luck I was saved and did not lose any money. But I just cant stop thinking what if I had indeed lost and tried to commit suicide. My mind is just fixated on this huge mistake that I made and I feel extremely guilty. I no longer feel happy like I used to before. I feel only ending my life will give me respite from this unbearable guilt and shame.

[@mrsk8016]

Yep, constantly!

[@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns]

@@serenity_now1999 ... I’m on the same boat. Something happened when I was 8 years old... and I don’t know why my brain is punishing me for it now. Unbelievable how the brain works.

[@dragonkunia6798]

Through my own research i found out i have ocd more specifically real event ocd so lately any time i remember something bad i did i feel this massive amount of guilt shame and anxiety and need to confess everything

[@phil4863]

It's not just the guilt it's the past keeps on replaying in my mind. The heat increases the rumination

[@narwhool]

I had this happen so I confront and work through my trauma

[@emilyphippen8742]

Yes. I agree

[@giaparmer]

You are so right when you said it is OCDs last resort to convince you of something, I don’t think that there is a strong enough person in the world who can just move through shame like that. It’s almost impossible for it not to catch your attention when the guilt leaves a lump in your throat and a knot in your stomach, it’s like your brain literally just goes for the kill so you don’t even have the option of ignoring. Crazy stuff.

[@DogMommy.]

Omg yes this is how I feel

[@ayafakhreddine5246]

Exactly how i feel right now , these past two days i cant even eat

[@Polpsyspi10]

I will try to work hard with courage and perseverance to apply those teachings even if it’s really difficult, I’m sure we can make it!!💪💪❤️🚀

[@giaparmer]

@@Polpsyspi10 we can do it friend ❤️

[@carlybeckner1853]

OMG WHY is there a legit bully in my head????😂😂 wow thank u this was a terrific video! Kill it with kindness I guess!

[@deltabravokilo5799]

I hope your journey has improved since your comment. I wish you well.

[@carlybeckner1853]

@@deltabravokilo5799 it sure has

[@ikechukwufortune9269]

I really need to talk to you 😔how can I do that?

[@Ryu-v8r]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.

[@robertsacia6245]

I deal with the same thing

[@blueberrybery2495]

I honestly want a lobotomy at this point, I’d rather forget and never have to deal with it ever again

[@bettypartin1793]

I can relate to that feeling

[@gojiralegendary4009]

​@bettypartin1793yeah I rather forget things

[@GhostScout42]

Jesus Christ saves

[@jillybean18]

THIS. This was my kryptonite. I was so depressed and wanted to die from the suffocating guilt associated with my OCD. Thank God I overcame that (mostly).

[@morningwithgracie7870]

How did you overcome po?

[@Ryu-v8r]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.

[@221b_Bakerstreet]

​@@Ryu-v8r See that's the problem. I can forgive everyone but I can never forgive myself for anything

[@lilliessbeess]

​​@@Ryu-v8r i cried reading this, honestly guilt ks killing me and many times I thought that it is okay that I suffer, the guilt and shame were so strong and today these memories came back, I hurted myself too much but I'm trying to get better, still the guilt is there, but less than before. I really need to forgive myself, thank u for this

[@lilliessbeess]

​@@Ryu-v8r I feel I don't deserve to forgive myself

[@kristymarie6065]

Don’t try to figure things out . Ocd wants you to do that . Have to learn to let it go

[@Noorassi5]

that's helpful!! thank you!

[@Daishinobi]

This is exactly what I go through, except that I ALSO feel guilty and really bad when sometimes I don’t mind those intrusive thoughts, am being positive, and/or don’t feel guilty, so it’s like a never-ending cycle of suffering. I’ll continue watching the video ‘cause I’m pretty sure it’s gonna help me. Big thanks to you! Keep it up pleeeaaaaase!!! 🙏🏻

[@ocdandanxiety]

Thanks so much for sharing your experiences! Guilt is so frustrating and often can cause lots of false signals and emotions!

[@ParkerPlays2005]

This is EXACTLY how i feel. Once i don’t have much fear over the thought it’ll make me think i became what i feared

[@Grace-qj8ty]

Yes me too.

[@iriskastrati5507]

Bro it’s literally another way to keep u in anxiety, ocd thoughts will still come but the way U react is everything in ocd and the more u stop reacting the less they will come

[@DashieNCheekie]

@@ParkerPlays2005 me too

[@lauraa7994]

You have changed my life!!! Everytime I want to do a neutralizing behavior I always think nope!!! Sit with the discomfort and enjoy the ride! I'm constantly telling my deep anxiety- sorry buddy you're stuck with me and nothing you can do about it, like I'm the boss! Keep making the videos and you should come out with a book soon! Take care!

[@Kee900_]

I love the idea of it being stuck with you rather than the other way around. It seems like it could be very empowering--I'm gonna give it a try!

[@lauraa7994]

@@Kee900_ eventually it dies off! What anxiety loves is us reacting to towards it. The more we react the stronger and more worse it gets.

[@f1slove]

@@Kee900_ watched a Tedx video the women told a great solution....think of your OCD as monster who wants to get feed on your compulsions and reactions and you just have to let that monster starve don't react if you fail try again and yeah avoid those things which makes you have these thoughts for a bit in the middle of recovery...then the monster will starve would want food but because it is weakened he can't keep talking he will die 😊

[@juliakakko77]

@@lauraa7994 has your technique been working?? i just a few days ago started to think these things and I'm only 14 I want to get rid of this asap

[@lauraa7994]

@@juliakakko77 hey lovely. Truth of the matter is you can't get rid of it. Anxiety is a paradox. This guy has changed my life I'm in his mentorship right now. Look up Shaan Kassam on KZbin. I'm basically recovered from this already. You just have to know the mechanics of anxiety and how it works.

[@melissacastillo5562]

I have sexual intrusive thoughts and it's killing me. Beastiality, incest, a really crazy fixation with dicks even thought I consider myself gay, etc. Some days are better than others, but currently most of them are bad. It's gotten to the point that I try avoiding my brother, dad, grandpa, etc. Whenever I'm close to them I feel anxiety. I love them and I want this to stop. When I remember the times when I didn't have this problem I feel extremely sad.

[@melissacastillo5562]

@@honeyrose088 Thank you so much for your kind words! It's nice to know I'm not alone with this problem. Hopefully we can all get better from this horrible mental state. I wish you the best!

[@SonGoku-ro4qd]

@@honeyrose088 TRUE! JESUS is the HEALER! HE can save us from this. I have so much guilt and anxiety and yesterday I remembered I did something horrible related to POCD and I don’t know if I really did that, still I feel this horrible guilt and it kills me.

[@sarandipitiqwe4387]

When you understand that you are too sensitivite about these topics that you developed anxiety from it you can relax and understand that you are the exact opposite

[@miked2301]

@@SonGoku-ro4qd How are you supposed to know which voice is “Jesus” and which voice is the disorder? I’ve found it more helpful to work with therapists who can sit in the same room and help keep you grounded. Big mystical ideas are too mushy. That’s why there are so many people on street corners who think they are Jesus. Real people keep you grounded.

[@miked2301]

When you get older you’re able to look back at all the different “phases” you had in your life and remember how good/bad some of them were. But when you’re IN one of those phases it feels like it’s going to last forever. Just try to remember that humans are really bad at predicting the future. Anything is possible. A happy life is possible. If you can just forgive yourself and be a friend to yourself someday you may be able to look back on all this. Stay. Keep going. One day at a time.

[@Emilyredeemed]

Yeaaaaa boiiiii, I love this guilt ☑️

[@ocdandanxiety]

Haha. I love it!!

[@unitedstatesofadam]

These past few weeks I’ve been going through a tough OCD lapse and the shame of being back where I started almost felt like too much to bear. But today feels a little bit lighter and your videos were a part of that. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@blvkfvng2727]

I struggle with mostly mental compulsions and realized this is a huge part of it. of course guilt is involved, but it's like you acting and reacting in this way is what makes it feel like it's real.

[@Saltybuher]

I go from guilt to guilt, remembering all my bad actions or mistakes, and feeling like its a never ending pile I need to confess until no-one would want me or be hurt by me.

[@221b_Bakerstreet]

Ikr 🥺 what'll we do 😖

[@sinescanor600]

How are you guys?

[@Harshit09877]

lol i get guilt over things i have never done,its my ocd which make me believe that it may have happened

[@psicologiajoseh]

Your channel is amazing. You manage to generate awareness of a problem that by its very nature seeks to hide. You help expose this hidden monster that is hurting so many people (and their loved ones), who have no idea what is wrong with them or how to start fighting it. Not only is this problem not talked about, but when it is done, it is done in a caricatured way that has very little to do with what many experience. Thank you for your effort and I wish you much more success.

[@ocdandanxiety]

Thanks so much for your support my friend! I wish you the best!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@Lentilboots]

You spoke so slowly and clearly :) Just what I needed for what my partner is dealing with at the moment. Religious OCD guilt can seem so strong! I like that phrase "hey, join the party"

[@AP-ex6qz]

Yes, Religious OCD has been tormenting me. After all this I just tell myself it would've been so much easier if I was atheist. But then I feel guilty for even saying something so bad. I could never leave my religion, but I Must be strong to mock the guilt.

[@mersi5428]

@@AP-ex6qz im suffering wih this same its overwhelming living with this ☹

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@kiwitea4179]

I feel massive guilt towards my pocd and even the possibility of liking the thoughts. I've had lots of guilt come up recently now that I've started doing erp therapy. The thoughts get so confusing sometimes, ocd likes to lie. I try to allow the guilt to stay if it wants but I do find it depressing. I'll try what you suggested though. Thank you.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@ocdhealingaffirmations]

OMG, guilt is quite in the center of all OCD issues... thanks for making this video! 🙏🙏🙏

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@tryingtodobetter7509]

I've been struggling with intrusive thoughts with over 2 years now, started when I was 13. I feel like I can't escape them and sometimes they are like "flashbacks". And I just learned about OCD a couple of months ago. All the time before I thought I was a monster. I never talked to anyone about this because I thought they would call me disgusting and crazy and would reject me. I never talked to a professional and the therapists around my area have no time for me at the moment. And my brain clutches on every little negative and intrusive thought and makes me feel guilty, like I'm not worthy and I'm inhuman. I didn't know OCD was a thing. I was 13 and I thought I was a monster. Damn. That's why mental health matters so much. Mental health should be teached at schools. Thank you for this video! 🙌

[@geogithomas2473]

ya me too soooooo relatable😭

[@tryingtodobetter7509]

@@geogithomas2473 it really sucks, I hope that you're doing well, you're not alone

[@cleopatra_probably_idk3376]

@@tryingtodobetter7509 I deal with the same but I’m 17. You’re not alone either.

[@tryingtodobetter7509]

@@cleopatra_probably_idk3376 wishing you the best for the future

[@cleopatra_probably_idk3376]

@@tryingtodobetter7509 Awe😭 Thank you so much! You too🥺☺️💜💜

[@sheppeyfishtales]

Sadly I slipped back into OCD a few weeks back. I've had it in many guises but each time you still believe it! Good luck everyone. Feel the guilt. Great vid 👍

[@jcool8797]

time and again i use this video to reassure me! thoughts that will resurface without doubt and guilt that does the same...but the video always 'grounds' me and helps me regain control - thank you!

[@safiyasulaiman5626]

Thanku thanku thanku thanku sir!!!! In the midst of all the chaos in my mind u finally gave me clarity even though its a long way to go having to practice all these techniques...but u are a god send❤

[@keithphillips1234]

His tone, his attitude is great. He makes so much sense. None of my previous therapists have made this much sense. God bless you Man. 💙

[@higrlz]

Thank you so so SO much for this. I love my partner more than anything in life, and yet I've been having intrusive thoughts around whether or not I really want to be with them and I didn't understand what was going on and none of it made any sense to me - But everything you went into at 4:55 and 5:33 made me cry and feel relief that these thoughts aren't me. They are my best friend and my everything I just didn't understand what was going on, but now I feel true hope. Thank you.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@rambling_riah9510]

I was diagnosed with OCPD and have struggled with intrusive thoughts for a very long time. This was amazing. Finally someone puts it brutally honest. Thank you. I'm working hard to embrace it.

[@Catfan123lol]

I’m so glad I found this and that there are more people like me ❤

[@PunkMartyr]

This dude has those cool Mr Rogers vibes. Definitely an Empath. Thanks bro.

[@erockbrox8484]

I've been watching a lot of these types of videos on this topic and your videos are THE BEST ones I've come across.

[@jonathans.219]

I’ve been struggling with this. God bless you

[@ocdandanxiety]

I wish you the best!

[@jonathans.219]

I finally got to see a therapist today. Oh how amazing it was

[@feelalive7123]

@@jonathans.219 can you explain how the session went I m still thinking if I should go for therapy.

[@jonathans.219]

@@feelalive7123 of course! So, the first session I had, the therapist asked me questions about what I’m worrying about or struggling with. The next session, we kept talking a little more about that, but got into ideas on how to fix it. I hope you have a great time!

[@feelalive7123]

@@jonathans.219 thank you so much appreciate it 😄👍🏽

[@MrAug80]

I’ve been suffering from OCD symptoms since the age of 12. It’s ranged from all sorts of things like obsessive hand washing & fear of walking past dogs dirt in the street in case I caught a disease and went blind. Also I got thoughts saying I wanted my mother dead which I felt awful about. I used to read stories about young children going missing in the newspapers then thoughts came into my head saying I wanted awful things to happen to them. It was really terrifying at the time and I still feel guilty when I think back to it all. I’m a good person and I’ve never harmed anyone in my life.

[@ocdandanxiety]

Thanks for sharing! OCD can be so tough. I hope you can find some relief from what you're experiencing! I appreciate your thoughts! 👍🏻

[@user-hx7mi7ml8u]

I’m very sorry for your pain. I have some of the same issues. It seems to happen to very sensitive people..I’m the same way. It’s like our own brain likes to pick on us. I’m trying to just let the thoughts go by and not analyze them so much but I still don’t know why the brain thinks such crap opposite of the person’s character.

[@MrAug80]

Cat M yeah it’s hard to know why it happens to certain people. Must be a history of it in various people’s families. The best thing to do is just ignore the thoughts and let them just drift through your mind. Don’t pay any attention to them.

[@chelzyramirez3663]

I have had those as well and it’s so exhausting and stressful! Now it’s like harm ocd It’s thoughts of my Ocd telling me to do things and Im trying to accept them but i feel so much guilt.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@idanhalpern1609]

This video is a life changer!

[@ocdandanxiety]

Thanks so much! I'm glad it was helpful!

[@MissyFaye]

Ok this is explaning so much.. sometimes I wake up feeling guilty for no apparent reason even and then I spend like an hour trying to find something to fit the guilt shoe.. but I today it's gonna be I love that guilt woop! woop! Haha

[@SKRithvik]

Hi Nathan ! Thanks for another great video reminding us about the importance of not trying to figure it out or dispute the presence of guilt. I have a guilt everytime I end a phone call. I have intrusive thoughts like I might say something bad and I really start believing them and then it becomes a false memory over a period of time. Then I go into rumination or feeling guilty for hours and sometimes I do confessions. The uncertainty associated with the situation is what makes it so intense.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@Renato99873]

This video really helped me... Every time a friend doesn't answer a message, I keep thinking over and over again about everything I had said and end up feeling really guilty...

[@Alessandro4528]

Thanks Nathan for all the valuable information!

[@ocdandanxiety]

My pleasure!

[@MissyFaye]

You have such a calming air to you..

[@s.combis2866]

You, my friend, is my healing.

[@Cece-gg9mi]

I just want to add something for people that are like me and that find it hard to deal with. Intrusive images about a specific situation. Have you ever done something and you were SURE how it went down, how it exactly happened but then a week or a month later you find yourself obsessing about what you've done and you are scared you harmed someone ? This type of OCD is not true. I guarantee you. You are not what your anxiety makes you believe in. Trust me, I am currently worried about something I did a YEAR ago, but I know deep down that if it really went like I think it did, then I would've stressed the minute it happened, or the day it happened. The truth is I was kinda scared when it happened, so I analyzed what I did and realized that it wasn't bad. And for a whole year it was gone, until it came to bite me in the ass when I had nothing to worry about. Like the man says in the video, I am feeling guilt towards the POSSIBLE situation, what COULD have happened. But I can promise it didn't happen. I can promise you, you are NOT lying to yourself. I can promise you, you are not a bad person. You know how I know that ? Because if it really did happened the way it did, then your anxiety would've jumped IMMEDIATELY on the occasion to make you feel guilty. It wouldn't have waited a year or a month, no immediately. You can do this Don't give up

[@hollythomson5894]

Omg hahaha I cannot imagine welcoming my guilt in the way that you describe - yeahboiiii! Buy guilt is a very familiar companion to me so I see the value in trying

[@ocdandanxiety]

I love the yeahboiiii! I hope it goes well.

[@hazel8252]

i’m not sure if this is an OCD symptom but i’m always feeling extremely guilty. like not just a bit i mean A LOT. it’s like my brain just doesn’t like me being at peace 😔 like i’ll remember things that have happend in the past and boom there i am laying awake at night literally shaming myself. and the thing is this happens every month like i’ll be happy for a bit and then i’ll remember something. i really wish i wasn’t such an over thinker because it’s really killing me inside.

[@mayaf.1763]

Hey👋🏼 I used to have similar symptoms to you. I would be so consumed by guilt I could hardly enjoy anything cause by the time I was by myself thoughts of past mistakes would torture me (even though they were often times little incidents). Sometimes for hours at a time. So if its possible for you, therapy would be great to consider. I started therapy and taking antidepressants (careful which one you take) and it has helped me feel more at ease and find peace most of the time. It helped me to be more balanced and able to put stuff from the past behind me.

[@upscduniya3299]

@@mayaf.1763 it's very lame but i should spell it out. I gave a competitive exam from my undergrad course. I passed the exam attended admission process and got admission. The official result of the exam used to come by post, but i never got that due to some address issue.My college gave me admission with a undertaking to submit it later, but they never i asked again and i never bothered. I passed my undergrad in 2016 got degree and working now in a mnc, but suddenly i have fear that my college will ask about that document and i won't be able to produce it. I will loose everything my degree, my job is this ocd?

[@littlelammiecricketpastebo8563]

I have the exact same problem and I am just trying to deal with it, keep pushing and everyone yku live and care about will always be there for you! ❤️

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@pumpkinpepsi]

@@upscduniya3299 I have ocd and I do get fears like this, I have a similar one to yours actually. What you should remember though, is that in this case, it was recent enough for all the results to be electronically recorded and accessible somewhere (maybe where you took the test) and also that many people lose paperwork throughout life. I have next to none of my paperwork from school if anyone ever needed it. Things happen when people move. We're not expected to hold onto docs for years in physical copies; it's all backed up somewhere and I believe in the US if that's where you are, it's connected to your name and SSN.

[@Jillshinn]

I love this video. This excessive guilt is guilt for existing, isn’t it? It’s not even about what we think we did. (Which is usually nothing, because the guilt makes sure we never do anything wrong!) On another note, this guilt attracts abusers, because they LOVE a guilt-ridden person. Soooo easy to manipulate! As I’ve healed, I’ve been making a point to do things that used to be impossible because of fearing guilt, like giving someone honest/hard feedback). And then I refuse to feel guilty. Sure, if I were rude, that would be different, but I’m just talking about being honest and letting the other person deal with own emotions about it. So it’s been my own version of exposure therapy. I do the normal/appropriate thing and if there’s guilt I don’t freak out. Guilt doesn’t own me anymore.

[@danette26]

Yes I'm in that phase of OCD currently (already diagnosed and in therapy, one month in, two themes) the anxiety isn't as big as it was before but rn I'm struggling with the guilt, I feel like I don't deserve to be loved but I know I do. Thanks for the help, I'm going to start practicing these tips

[@jonathanmiller9235]

I also wanted to say that I'm also very touched and glad that you called me your friend and it means a lot! And I do go through and suffer so much guilt and feel really bad about so many things, but I think for me, I think it's really because I have Bipolar Disorder, not OCD.

[@hipolitosharon3229]

I found it easy to replay intrusive thoughts in a comical way and laughing at it helped a lot. Thanks for the video.

[@mariaadhiambo4738]

I have felt like this like the past 4 years. Thank you for sharing

[@jadedjimmy]

Thanks for the video! In a weird way, knowing that so many people struggle with all sorts of different types of sexual OCD makes it somehow feel more okay to me. It’s like, when your brain just goes to so many weird places so frequently, that’s almost more reassurance that you’re not actually interested in any of it and everything is fair game for your OCD to try and trick you with. Fixating on one taboo area is really rough, but then when you start to have OCD thoughts about all kinds of other things, it’s just a reminder that ALL of it is the same exact OCD shit.

[@jhondalebanogon4437]

I was just diagnosed by OCD right now and Oh My God I relate to this a bit too much.

[@xDEATHbySTEREOxX]

Man I needed to watch this today…you are awesome…thank you

[@Noorassi5]

You have changed my life, so glad I came across when I am really suffering and in my worst and alot of people are pushing me to take medicine and I refuse to. You make it sounds easy and that really helps since the ERP is REALLY HARD. One day it feels good and easy, the other day it feels like it is the end of the world. Greetings from Palestine, Shukran

[@Noorassi5]

Plus I would like to know how to book sessions with you?

[@missimanyhearts1614]

I've dealing with this also and it's a real event ocd wich makes it even worse

[@ocdandanxiety]

I see this guilt happen the most when it comes to real event OCD. I hope it feels better for you! 😃

[@zdru1939]

Real event ocd is difficult..especially if it did warrant guilt at the time... that's where im struggling

[@missimanyhearts1614]

@@ocdandanxiety thank you so much i'm trying

[@himynameiscarla1870]

I’ve been suffering so much with this. You’re not alone and I hope we get through this!

[@missimanyhearts1614]

@@himynameiscarla1870 we will 🌸🌸💖💖

[@isladay2993]

I keep thinking I have cheated on my boyfriend when I went out like 4-5 months ago but the thought has come to me now! I keep thinking back to the night and I’m sure it didn’t happen but my brain says “what if” constantly I feel so guilty every time I look at my boyfriend . The thoughts will not go away

[@DogMommy.]

How did u deal with it ? I'm going through the same thing smh. Uh

[@WillsM85]

Thank you and God bless you forever you absolute angel ❤ I wish I could tell you how much your videos have helped me

[@Chuch1to]

My issue was trying to figure it out, trying to fight it, and it kept beating me. This video has helped me realize how to go against it, and I wanna say thank you.

[@animeyukiomalayalam6882]

I hope yoi recover 😊

[@shawnleong3605]

False memory ocd that I’ve killed someone. How can I ever get over the guilt? It feels so sticky!

[@fionnsheehan1884]

same thing happens to me but i also think that things that happened in my dreams are real deep down i know they never happened but i just can't get over it.

[@G_xx_]

This page and these videos are some of the best i have seen on the topic of OCD. I subscribed for sure. 👍✌

[@Polpsyspi10]

Thank you Nathan for those excellent teachings 🙏💪

[@gina333]

I've never had to deal with guilt and shame because my ocd has always been just thoughts.. Until now :) All of a sudden the past two weeks ive developed something called "staring ocd" and its actually a living nightmare. People have also noticed and started covering up which only makes the tic worse. I cant stop staring wherever I dont want to. You only have one reputation and ocd is ruining mine. I have gone into complete isolation since. I cannot have people think im weird or be uncomfortable around me. This guilt and shame does actually match the situation. You cannot walk around staring at peoples privates and I know I have made people uncomfortable.

[@mindpower421]

Hey gina , I hope you are fine. That is a very common type of ocd and I have also experienced it. First of all if you will isolate yourself then it will be considered as a compulsion and it will only fuel your ocd. So try to live a normal life. Can you explain me in detail how you feel when you stare ? I think I can help you , I have also gone through same type of ocd and now I am living a great life.

[@user-hx7mi7ml8u]

True! I often feel I should punish myself because of my ocd thoughts. But, I feel badly about the thoughts. Which is different than people who have bad thoughts and follow through and don’t feel guilty at all.

[@garystarkey726]

its also not not important what other people do, so stop thinking about them.

[@owlsonly3021]

i've been dealing with guilt for months now. the guilt gets extremely strong to the point where i feel like killing myself. i don't know how much longer i can deal with this guilt until i end my life its just too much to deal with i cant take it anymore

[@clam3150]

It's just ocd makes u feel guilty ...the feeling of guilt can be relief ..trust me ..don't end ur life !!it can get better !!

[@cleopatra_probably_idk3376]

I felt the exact same. Please do not harm yourself! You are *not* who your mind says.

[@mayaf.1763]

Please consider getting therapy! I used to feel super guilty as well. Cognitive behavior therapy and medication have really helped a lot so far💛

[@maximillianglanzer9947]

Don't listen to that bro just taking one step at a time and God will take care of you during it.

[@TheWintergreenMan]

My OCD pushes me into numbing out or isolation because of my thoughts. I handle half of everything with hitting my cart or rolling up a joint. I don’t want to deal with it this anymore, but it’s so hard to stop my addictions for me. I’ve only been on meds for 8 days, and I’m back in the mindset of hopelessness. I felt so good for one week. It makes me believe I’m comorbid with other things. I didn’t tell my psychiatrist that my counselor believes I have bipolar because she’s only worked with me for two hours but my psychiatrist has only worked with me for one hour. I was in consistent therapy until he relocated. I’m currently waiting on my psychiatrist to assign me a therapist for me to get better treatment. Life is freaking rough man.

[@abdulamiri6625]

Yes I always feel guilty and I cannot talk to anyone thank you so much for your video

[@TarmahoGaming]

I feel this guilt of not loving my partner... and there is this constant thought in my head that tells me i need to break up with them or leave them. even though i love them very deeply. it's been plaguing me for months and i just am unsure where to go with it. i have tried not giving it power, but this shoot of anxiety just sits in my head and then i spiral... i want to conquer this because i have dreams of being with my partner for life! i don't want this to stick around!

[@Jayden-ne9mh]

A few months back when my ocd started acting up I did something to prove that I wasn't a bad person but now I am starting to convince myself that I actually harmed that person. Knowing myself I know that if i did harm that person i would have panicked right then and there but I didn't but now constantly reviewing the situation I feel as if my memory is being altered in some type of way.

[@patrickpatrick6330]

same thing with me... i keep thinking i did something bad to 2 people and my mind is keep telling me i did with these weird memories that are clearly not true because they don’t make sense at all deep down i know i didn’t do it but i always have these panic attacks where i tell myself i did and i’m a horrible horrible person it sucks so bad :( i want to stop thinking these things

[@mel-wz1wv]

@@patrickpatrick6330 TW!! same it makes me so scared because i know i did not do those things but then my mind is like “what if ur lying and you did” but don’t worry. we’re in this together and we aren’t bad people for our intrusive thoughts. even though it’s so hard for me to believe that i am not a bad person, i will get there and so will you :)

[@iriskastrati5507]

One of the worst things u can do is constant checking and testing ur feelings because u become dependent on that testing u literally are doin compulsion because ur Tryna to get rid of that feeling

[@harryogrady1716]

omg same

[@tinamcintyre6797]

There isn't a perfect person in the whole world ,if your checking yourself for things it means your a good person ...tell yourself every day I'm a god person and I deserve a great life .I used to say this every morning ,and my brain would say yeah right loser,until I said one day if I'm a loser then so are you and started laughing ..

[@hunnybee-v4y]

My problem is that I think that if i don't feel guilty and ashamed of the thoughts than it's real and I'm demented, because they feel so real it's like if the judgement isn't there then it's somehow true. Logically i know that's not right but i feel that strongly enough that it keeps me in this cycle.

[@debatexdebate]

Glad I met someone with the same trouble , I'm facing , it's too troublesome and gut quenching to just rub off those thoughts , it's feels like what if there is a slightlest chance that it may come true , so do some exhausting ritual of seeking forgiveness

[@anuragsharma9661]

you need more views for making this video really so well explained.........

[@Tmvxo]

You have such a beautiful aura 😊

[@chocolateguevos4459]

Been caring for a dog and id say he helps with my ocd! He likes to make a mess and i get ERP from it. Using doorknobs doesn't seem crazy any more. Folks don't see my progress, but i do. Cheers! :D

[@zstwfr]

Hey! What about guilt in the compulsions you’ve done in the past? For example, POCD, doing a compulsion of diving into the thought to see if you actually like it, and then feeling guilty because you’ve even imagined/played out the situation/thought? Thanks again

[@maegannope9140]

i tell it “this might mean something and it might not” “i don’t have to figure this out” “life is full of uncertainty and i accept that” the guilt is the same for the most part across all ocd themes..that ur a bad person. accept the guilt..accept that you might be or might now be bad. accept that you don’t know..have never and will never know. it’s trivial and does not control you.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years, I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which kept shifted, as soon as I apologized to a person for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized, the only person I really needed to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself the most. So every day, I apologize to myself, for what I did to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore, with the world. Therefore, if you carry guilt with you, apologize to yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow and apologizing takes away sorrow. "Anyway", is the word that enables me, to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses, to get back in the hamsterwheel of apologizing for certain things or tormenting myself. But I apologize to myself anyway.r

[@Musical.babexo]

it feels good to know that im not alone my thoughts never stop i always feel guilty and the thoughts occasionally come to mind and it kills me inside

[@viviane_casella]

Holy Mo! Yes!!! Guilt feels like a confirmation of my anxious thoughts and feelings! I'm not OCD, but I guess it's the same with CPTSD...

[@superbbcfan]

He is one of my favourites go to guide for treatment for ERP.

[@ocdandanxiety]

Ah! Thanks!

[@superbbcfan]

@@sns595 - Hi. No I have not enrolled in it. I have just seen his videos on KZbin. Also checkout Katie D'Ath and Mark Freeman's videos. They are also useful.

[@JenniferWendel-mw5lp]

This video made me cry for this is so me ❤️😢

[@Sigmaclockster]

THYSM I HAVE GUILT ABOUT EVERYTHING I THINK IT IS WORKING SO FAR THX

[@justmadeit2]

I’m 49 and finally opened up to things on my mind to people including my doctor and friend and others, it made me feel much much worse and I ended up spiralling with agitated depression and ended up on a psych ward for 3 weeks voluntarily. My advice is that with certain ocd things it can actually make you much worse depending on what it is, as you feel you have opened yourself too much and that people might doubt you and Psychologically it can really affect you negatively. I wish i could have dismissed it and moved on but I didn’t and ended up talking too much looking for reassurance. It’s made my my pre existing depression so much worse

[@flamzy4]

God bless you. ❤️

[@КамиллаАшурова-ы8и]

I love this positive way of doing this! Thank you a lot for making so informative and useful videos!

[@krystalwoodruff1897]

Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear this. It's helped me alot.

[@brandonvega9698]

I was a very social person as a kid, but this pst years I’ve found myself avoiding people, I knew I didint like it. So I started to ask myself why I did this. I figured out I feel guilty and feel like I don’t deserve someone to love me or care about me. And I think I might lose control one day and hurt them. Or I might say something to them that makes them sad and cause them to kill the selves. This terrifies me. I figured out that is why I distance myself. It mostly tends to happen in the morning though

[@lilly5204]

I have racism ocd because its something i value, its horrible because i grew up in a racist country, its specially hard when you start seeing truth in some of the things said, i’ve become so confused; its annoying knowing this is ocd yet still struggling… the guilt and shame ate me up this entire weekend.. i have confidence i will beat this just like ive gotten over most of my themes.. hope everyone heals..

[@Taqes]

just embrase it until it gets annoying

[@ezvlogs6744]

Hi Nathan I experience false memories and I do this mental checking of every past memory before this issue peaked first. My mind now convinced me that I knew about those things before

[@NoreenHoltzen]

I used to feel guilty less often but since turning to Christ and church groups I have started to feel guilty more often. When driving away from Jesus I feel more confident but when returning to church, the guilt comes back. At church we bring it up sometimes and our group agreed that part of faith is to celebrate our guilt, because it keeps us clean and beneath Him. Encouraging guilt is be part of our Christian culture that we inherited. I would not be ashamed of guilt as it is part of being a good Christian, and those that are not guilty might not be forgiven and thus might not reach heaven. I myself often have guilty feelings of not enough faith in God but I use this guilt to ask for forgiveness so I can be saved. I don’t think we should try to overcome our guilt but recognise it as part of being a Christian, even if it is difficult to live with. Even if we feel worse with this guilt, it I better to have it and know that we are true Christians. It brings us down, but it brings us together. Together, and down. Amen.

[@KathyBGood]

Well said, and LOL over the "together and down, Amen" part!!

[@natscheezeburgercat1]

How do you get through guilt of not telling others of your intrusive thoughts about them? I have this so much and it feels like I am lying to my loved ones, and I keep obsessing over the idea that maybe telling them will be getting it off my chest but I know that it would not be helpful because they wouldn’t understand and it would ruin a relationship. Should I just let this guilt go? I’m scared it will come back as it has before

[@sindeyaguilar1615]

I’ve been feeling the same way ur not alone

[@GreasyBaconMan]

I would not tell them those thoughts, after all, they just that thoughts nothing more nothing less. The premise alone should make you rethink that it's all a compulsion that needs to pass through one's system, similar to food being digested and then passed through.

[@ashnikfield4224]

I’ve been trying to find someone with my same issue for forever!!!!! I constantly deal with that every day cause I feel like if I don’t tell my boyfriend that I had this awful thought about finding someone else attractive then I’m lying and hiding stuff and that getting it off my chest will help. Then when I tell him it really hurts his feelings and I feel so terrible and wish I never said it in the first place 😭 it took him forever to understand but now he deals with me and still loves me more than ever 💕 You’re not alone!!!! You will make it! It’s so hard to deal with but one day we will recover!

[@quinnlawrence3042]

Could you please do a video on OCD where you scrutinize how you're behaving, what you're saying, and how others are reacting to you? I struggle with obsessing over how I'm acting and if I'm acting "normal" or "the way I used to/am supposed to act". It affects my relationships.

[@bonniegomez5333]

sometimes the visual images are so bad that i feel nauseous or even throw up. it's like my brain is constantly traumatizing itself.

[@honeylimelidia2503]

5:14 That's exactly what I've been experiencing for years. I thought I was crazy and nobody else in the world has it. Whenever I have those sacrilegious thoughts, I feel so guilty and I'm afraid that I will be punished by god for having those thoughts. It makes me feel very anxious.

[@cosmolosys]

I experience a lot of intrusive guilty thoughts. Also the part of my brain that tries to solve problems seems to be overactive and just doesn't stop. especially when in bed at night. This video has a really practical solution. It doesn't work immediately but I'm gonna try a catchphrase. I feel this strategy is really going to help. I know I made a mistake but I also know it wasn't on purpose and I'll never let it happen again :( so the guilt and overthinking just is really useless. I mean, it's great I Love it! :')

[@cosmolosys]

ah I can already feel my headache disappearing

[@zakirhusenraja8589]

Nice Solution love you bro❤

[@ocdandanxiety]

Thanks my friend!👍🏻

[@Jonesy_Bonesy]

I have Intrusive sexual thoughts and groinal responses and it makes me feel so guilty and I end up hating myself. I start avoiding people and punish and torture myself for it

[@owl4]

This needed more of the “look at the evidence” part. Also mantras or having a “saying” doesn’t work for a lot of ocd folks cause it’s always evolving and changing. Sometimes it takes a lot of the good sayings and switches up in you into something doom.

[@jadenkitchen8311]

Thank you for this video! Great strategies to apply here! My question: How can I tell the difference between useful guilt over something that actually happened and OCD guilt that is not useful? Any thoughts and suggestions appreciated! Thank you so much for your video!

[@ChrisKyle816]

The problem for me is if I try to expose myself to whatever makes me feel obsessively guilty then my scrupulous mind tells me I am being complicit in sin and ignoring God’s conviction. It’s an impossible scenario that makes me feel guilty no matter what

[@soblessedchelsea59]

Same

[@addaliepaskert4403]

Thank u so much Nathan! These videos make me feel so understood💞

[@jakearts7962]

Do you think Stress can really make OCD worse?

[@mileycyrusfan4ever21]

this was amazing and brought so much light to my situation thank you so much

[@mothra1189]

My guilt makes me afraid I'm gonna be a sociopath or something! I have harm ocd btw

[@Yomomma12345]

Same😭

[@tinamcintyre6797]

Just remember when your worrying about being sociopath ,it ain't gonna happen .a sociopath wouldn't care ...👍

[@sss-nc9vw]

@@tinamcintyre6797 true but sometimes my mind convinces me that I like the thought and I almost start crying sometimes but still my mind is like: nahh maybe you like it. Right now I think I'm writing this lying to myself...

[@darthkenobi6726]

I won't say that a sociopath wouldn't care because some Sociopaths do legitimately change and do better, however a sociopath wouldn't obsess over being one. A sociopath can understand they're wrong actions, however those actions don't effect them deeply. The fact that you came to comment section basically proves you are not a sociopath.

[@tinamcintyre6797]

@@sss-nc9vw With OCD there is no boundaries ,it attacks your loved ones ..for years I wrestled with my intruding thoughts ,I never knew if it was the real me thinking these absolutely terrifying thoughts ...until one day a thought came into my head ,and I said out loud I’m not entertaining that ,no way .and every time the thoughts came ,I said not for me thank you ...it took a long time to master it ,and ignore it .and sometimes say how boring these thoughts were ,when I was really on the edge ..fake it to you make it...I find that keeping yourself busy ,reading gardening,cleaning and socialising helps ..I know socialising with people is sometimes frightening because sometimes the thoughts are about the people you are with .tell the thoughts to behave ,you are the master not them ...

[@tavonwright8330]

This video came to me just in time. I have compulsive staring OCD and it’s been a nightmare after another for my mental health. I'm pretty sure that I'm not a lesbian, since the idea of having relationships and sex with women feels weird to me, but my mind will always, ALWAYS buy me into thinking I am one because I looked at their private areas even when I really didn't want to. It's gotten to the point where I feel like I'll never find love in my life 😕

[@saadfadel924]

Thank you very much I was having two OCDs at the same time the first one happens when I go to my university course And the second hits me harder when i think about God And it happens when I pray because I pray a lot

[@Ang36914]

Thank you for your videos! I've been welcoming in big feelings like shame, guilt, sadness, etc. just like you and my social worker in talk therapy suggest, and it really gets the emotions to pass a lot sooner. I notice the thoughts get really quiet, almost as if they don't know what to say anymore. 😂

[@migueltamayo9093]

Hello! Is it also possible to feel guilty about ... feeling okay? Like whenever I have a period where I’m feeling alright and not incredibly guilty and anxious, I start feeling guilty about not feeling the anxiety. As if I’m okay with the thoughts, as if I’ve accepted them as true. So much so that I almost bring on the anxiety and panic just to make sure that I’m not crazy, then I begin the cycle of panic and pain again.

[@Spicypapi333]

Same

[@amandabucci6162]

Me too it sucks

[@beautyfrompainxxx]

I do this too.

[@jaybirdcook]

Does anyone else feel guilt for things that OTHER people do that in no way involves you? Like, I will be watching tv and a character will do "something bad" and I will feel like I did it. My mind says something like "I don't know how, but it is your fault for what happen on the tv. Those fictional character's pain was caused by you " though it does not say it that clearly but you get the idea. Any ideas on how to fix this? thank you!