HOW TO SPOT A MAN ON THE DOWN-LOW : Relationship advice

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Rejecting a gay culture they perceive as white and effeminate, many black men have settled on a new identity, with its own vocabulary and customs and its own name: Down Low. There have always been men -- black and white -- who have had secret sexual lives with men. But the creation of an organized, underground subculture largely made up of black men who otherwise live straight lives is a phenomenon of the last decade.

[@AMERILOGIC]

Don't trust your eyes, trust your spirit and your gut.

[@carolynpeyton5286]

Agree

[@tasneemnance-zz5lh]

TRUST GOD FIRST! AMEN!

[@UNbowed62]

I’m just happy az hell I ENDED IT after the light💡shined brightly. At first I could not see. The nagging feeling in the gut should never be ignored. That’s God’s Warning to you. It was a WASTE of my precious time being with that Narcissist. No one who deceives & two-times another w/one or both sexes is NOT worth your time. Positive Self Esteem is underrated & find your INNER PEACE. Do not let anyone rent the space in your head. Make your life about you & enjoy it.

[@Clearbluesky771]

Your gut can tell you he’s ok

[@taramoonshadow7260]

Also, VIOLENCE towards women, from a man, can be a sign of a man on the DL, in my opinion.

[@pinkishdiamondz]

My belief, EXACTLY

[@pocketslife8963]

It’s true my ex abused me and I found out he liked men you’re absolutely correct 💯

[@rhazelanore6364]

@@pocketslife8963 I totally agree..

[@rhazelanore6364]

Agreed

[@charmedsqorpio]

Suppressed/repressed anger at not being able to live in their truths, but instead have to conform to social expectations. Also, possible early childhood sexual abuse and traumas that have not been acknowledged and healed.

[@adrilyn3013]

A true man doesn’t care about another man’s sexuality.

[@ErnestJ-xe2um]

I can agree with this 100%

[@dcruffryderz9869]

Exactly

[@swhite8303]

SODOM AND GOMORRAH and hell bound!

[@DebraGreen-iw7it]

Hello how are you doing today I wish I would have known this back when like you said Thank You for letting me know how to spot a down low man have a blessed Day 🙏🙏

[@shortcut2gamepart-timegame878]

but do God cares?

[@alvedaallen1581]

Hope people listen to this lady because she is speaking the TRUTH!

[@Vann20F]

@@alvedaallen1581 and you know this how?

[@gnettetwin439]

That’s why it’s so difficult to be open to a relationship or even be excited over any man. This is why I choose me and my health. Nothing is worth all of this evil!!

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@reneewilliams7425]

agreed with you

[@Yeah77]

Me too. I'm so over dating. No brother man, I'm good.

[@happyd1479]

Facts

[@ThomasSparrow1515]

Now I fully understand why I am always rejected. I see now.

[@fleekfitcaribbeanhip-hopda3197]

Using CELIBACY (at least initially) as part of the “weeding out process” is VERY effective! Not just for identifying the DL Man or the Narcissist, but for identifying selfish, unintentional men that mean you no good in general.

[@beverlyfrancis8433]

AND just there to waste your time.

[@sandracoleman1959]

I use it too. Celibacy

[@bluntweirdo]

I am celibate but considering dating. How long do you recommend?

[@fleekfitcaribbeanhip-hopda3197]

@@bluntweirdo a long time ago, as a teenager, a man told me not too many people can fake who they are for more than 90 days. He essentially said give a man at least 90 days to see his true character. If I would’ve listened to him, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache 😊… I think 90 days is a decent time to hold out… over that time, even If his initial intentions were mainly focused on sex and the physical, during that time, if you are dating, speaking, and interacting regularly, he will begin to get to know you as a person and hopefully begin to establish a relationship with you that is based on who you are within and not just the physical being that he may have initially been attracted to 💜… it is much more difficult to just be intimate and discard someone once you have established a real emotional and spiritual connection with a person….

[@nicollettenyob]

@@fleekfitcaribbeanhip-hopda3197 Very wise advice. I have been practicing this now that I’m dating again and it has been an eye opening method to learn a man’s intentions! Oddly, I get so much pushback from friends encouraging me to just “do it” since we’re all adults.

[@cathypurnell9331]

Just stop rushing into any relationship, take your time and get to know a person. Friendship first. Be quiet and listen and that person will tell all. Take your time.🌸

[@nickadams1519]

Sending Love ❤️...Cathy...Are you single? ❤️🌹🌹🌹

[@karlagarcia1851]

Even with that might not be sufficient

[@tyblack544]

Friendship first 😂 is myth love is love go ask friends who became lovers some got good stories some got horrible stories

[@JuicyDook]

Go slow and they'll still have a 20 inch down their deep throat

[@RS-ov2st]

Honey, it could literally take years. Some of these men are too cunning. Especially, if they are from the Bible Belt or come from church going families. Time does not reveal all, as many people believe.

[@kikicola78]

I eventually knew my ex narcissistic husband was DL-bi when he kept having trouble getting it up. At first, I felt so terrible and ashamed because I thought he was no longer attracted to me because of my weight gain. But no matter whether I was dressed to impress or just in lounge wear running an errand, I always got attention from other men! That is what had me so confused! I hated the attention because I WANTED MY HUSBAND TO WANT ME! I was so sad and frustrated. I became insecure and decided to be nosey and look through his phone. I could go on and on about what I found but the 2 most important disgusting things I discovered was 1) He had searches of gay por and pre-op tran por 2) There was a text to a man asking if he was a top or bottom. I didn't know what that lingo meant until I asked a gay co-worker. Eventually more was revealed when his side heaux sent me a video clip of her with a thing on doing him! I WAS DONE! I had to think of my health and peace of mind. He has tried coming back, telling me he no longer has sex/por addiction because he found God. I refuse to look backwards. He showed me who he is and I believe him! He will never get the chance to use me as a 'beard' again.

[@terjemarken2411]

I'm so sorry for what happened!! But it seems like your situation regarding your husband happens to more and more women. The men out there are bi and on the DL. The number is HIGH. Men like men!

[@MurphyColleen]

So was mine him getting his as betting up by another man that didn't look right

[@scarroll5934]

Don’t ever take him back. They don’t change and they don’t get better. They just go deeper underground.

[@westernsellers9148]

Damnn sorry darling

[@lifewithkevii_]

ik that’s right

[@merkabah8697]

Have a gay friend who shares with me about how many straight married men he’s dealt with and it’s staggering

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

Yes I hear stories all the time 😂..

[@terjemarken2411]

Seems like most guys are bi and hot for other men!

[@terjemarken2411]

@@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829 I've also heard tons of stories about this topic. I've even heard that about 50% of the men out there are willing to have sex with other men.

[@scarroll5934]

I feel bad for the straight women that these gay guys have abused. It’s horrible how they use women and then throw them away.

[@scarroll5934]

Seems like there’s an epidemic of this going on. I’m afraid to even date anyone because I don’t know if they are pretending to be straight or what! It’s rough out there for straight women today to meet a good straight man.

[@mjindraify]

Miss Faye Thank You. I dated a handsome man several years ago, after my husband passed away after 40 years of marriage, so the new modern dating world was new to me and I was lonely. Well that handsome guy turned out to be a Narcissist, Bi polar, polyamorous sex addict, mean drunk and I strongly suspected was bi sexual- camped out with a male friend and hung out a lot with him. All the ‘signs’ of a DL man you gave was spot on! Nice dresser, manicured, talked anti gay rhetoric (deflecting), never pleased me, and preferred oral. One sick cookie! Me in my mid 60’s, lonely grieving widow who thirsted for love, was taken on a long hard drive to hell. Did I learn the hard way? ABSOLUTELY! Your talk is great Miss Faye, you are educating women and are a blessing in this crazy world! I’ve noted a pulling away of men and women, even in the 20’s and 30’s age bracket now. Probably because Satan and his tribe are so successful in their plan to destroy the natural order of what our Creator designed. You are not a friend to Satan and his evil lust tribe of demons Miss Faye. You’re calling out TRUTH, and everyone that hears this podcast of yours LEARNS TRUTH! Much Love 😘

[@PettyIsMyMiddleName]

Can’t trust anyone these days, these are the end times. I am 39 and decided to remain single and child free, I refuse to put my health on the line for a DL man who isn’t living in his truth.

[@kinky_travels7545]

Going on 36 divorced child free I might adopt because u can't trust them

[@trillnyc5397]

If you need a good husband & child I’m here 38 no kids I’m decent

[@feliciakidd9358]

You know that's right. 👍

[@Selfmagnet]

It’s been the end of times since I was born

[@robinjames1822]

I learned the hard way. I keep std’s all the time. He refused to go to the Dr. for treatment. I thought something was wrong with me. Here’s the number one he always wanted sex from the back . I refused, it was not my taste. And it hurts. I’m 67 now have abstain for about 20 years. I’m not unhappy, or cranky, I would love to be in a decent caring relationship with a gentleman. And above all I’m not iching burning, smelling . I decided to wait for God , . and it’s been working for me. My one regret is I can’t talk with my grandchildren real life. They get embarrassed so I just pray for all the youth. This is life or death.

[@novakafele4031]

Once a woman develops her intuition all things become transparent.

[@maggiebrandford6232]

As a 50 year old woman, I dated a older man who was on the DL. EVERYONE knew but he somehow convinced himself that if he continued to lie about it to me, then it would be speculation. He would always want to turn me over during sex. I never let him even though he asked evey single time. He was a "Christan" into politics. He would take his lover to church. Once I caught him on the phone a 2am talking on the phone with his lover, saying he wanted to come over tonite. I heard a male voice thru the phone. When I confronted him right then and there, he denied it saying he was just joking. Would you believe 2 months after that, He had a massive heart attack and died. God will remove people out of your life that brings you no good!

[@maggiebrandford6232]

Oh and both parties, DEFINITELY take a HIV test BEFORE having sex with him!

[@victoriahardin1560]

You are blessed you weren't hurt or killed when you walked in on him. Seriously.

[@lyndapeoples8127]

@Maggie Brandford...just WOW!

[@maritzarodriguez3168]

Lol. Two months later he die

[@haleywilliams5839]

Thank God!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@angeliahudsonsmith6425]

Ladies, please go get tested for STDs and HIV before, during or after these relationships or have him wrap it up each and every time you have an encounter. Your mental and physical health is more important.

[@Price8903]

*and wrap up in addition to the testimg

[@seatruth5737]

How about stay celibate. These men are not your husbands but you are giving him your bodies.

[@Price8903]

@@seatruth5737 True, but some husbands ar DL as well.

[@seatruth5737]

Women should take their time. A lot of time.

[@StreetnastyEntertainment]

💯🙏

[@linaa2711]

My ex husband is on the DL. I was always suspicious. I asked the right questions and he denied. I wound up finding out in so many ways almost simultaneously. From him peeping at men in bathrooms to him having a full on affair with his “bestfriend” who was the best man in our wedding. I felt so betrayed and he continues to deny this. His dad exposed him as well as other family members. It’s disgusting!

[@ritadoran5039]

So sorry I was engaged to a man that was bisexual his boyfriend flipped out when he met me anyway I have many gay friends or bi and I love them I just don't want to be marrying a man that is not strictly heterosexual that's my hope and preference that he does not cheat with men or women

[@cccalll]

Chances are if you knew he was DL, you wouldn’t have married or dated him! You can’t spot a down-low man, just like you can’t tell if women are lesbian, child molester, killers,murderers or whatever! These are Demonic Satanic Deceptive Spirits just like the Bible talks about Wolves in Sheep clothing, it hides! That’s why you can’t spot DL men or women! Only If it were that easy! Gay men look just like real men,they have muscles,beards, women and children! You have to pray for God and the Holy Spirit to speak to you! CDC put out a report in 2020 that every 3 out of 4 women in Fulton county Georgia was HIV positive! Just like you can’t spot a down-low man,today pretty women are just as much Lesbian too. As a real man,the only way I’ll know if she likes men is to ask and hope she’s truthful! This old woman is trying to be God, only God is All Knowing! Instead of assuming a guy is down-low,just simply ask him to be honest and pray! This old woman has been taken by some down-low guy and thinks it’s that easy to spot. I’ve had women call me gay because I wouldn’t sleep with them but that’s because of my Christian belief! I’ve never had a desire to be with a man and never will! This old woman is ignorant. If you are a Christian woman,please pray, God will give you the answer!

[@linaa2711]

I don’t agree with the gay lifestyle but I don’t bash the gay community. I bash guys/ girls who do not disclose their preferences and enter into a marriage knowing that they like the same sex. I think it’s selfish and dangerous. There is no excuse for it especially in this day and age where anything goes. Why not just choose to be with someone that agrees with the lifestyle that you want to live. Why ruin someone’s life.

[@djwendy]

My story is very similar with the "best friend". They didn't exactly hide it.

[@shonsshenanigans]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💔

[@angelamwatts]

I'm 58 years old and I say with absolute certainty that Ms. Faye is speaking the truth!!!

[@jewelsafire6844]

I do appreciate the men who are out & proud. It's the dirty lowdown lying conniving mofos I can't stand. They're the ones that come find decent women to mess over.😒

[@Batest212]

✊🏽

[@GabbyNurse]

💯💯💯‼️

[@marquiswilliams485]

Preach!!!! And also they help cast an already bad light on the gay community! We already has been stigmatized by society as a whole but when DL men are confronted with this issue, they deny, lie, and deflect! Because of the fact they hide it so well, while those who are living their truth are ridiculed, disrespected, and victimized!

[@alisarumrum2062]

So true, a woman can have peace happiness a beautiful and blessed home life and a narc and DL will come in and destroy it all like a Demon in the night 👿

[@oliviakilgo3159]

Good news I will stay as I am IF THE LORD JESUS don't send him I can't be bother sin sin THE LORD WILL let you know this is Sodom and Gomorrah now d as ys I be scared to mess with anyone now adays

[@TT-nu4qk]

Once you completely overcome lust Celibacy does a lot for you. You are able to truly see people for who they are. It's like they can't hide who they are or your mind is so clear you see right through . Your energy level is out of this world too.

[@ethelbentancourt2233]

Teach

[@CL-es1nz]

So true!

[@sickathanyouraverage4404]

Fasting can curb lust

[@natashalampkin366]

Facts

[@Kishafamily]

Right been celibate for two years and I can see clear as daylight

[@cynthiawilliams1948]

Been going on for years......this whole society is either 98% on the down low or 98% lowdown....take your pick.

[@livefromtheground7274]

Ill definitely take low down for a 1000

[@laraoneal7284]

I agree. Down low are the epitome of LOWDOWN. They’re all into PORN also. There is no sexual integrity period anymore. God help them.

[@3rdeyekai133]

😂 well said

[@ValeneseB]

😂😂 damn it!

[@tinadavis2083]

Yes💔 it's scary out here, I Love Jesus for his light guiding me through this darkness in this wicked World, some people are so evil

[@swetldy99]

Monogamy doesn’t mean your partner won’t be bisexual. If your partner is never satisfied with sex and is frustrated all the time, he could be wanting to to sleep with men and frustrated that they can’t because they are in a monogamous relationship. This will leave you drained, hurt, and lonely. This is not a relationship you want to be in, trust me.

[@Flips44]

I hooked up with a trans in my past and tbh I regret it and I personally wouldn’t do it ever again. Does that make me DL

[@drdrv9856]

It depends in what way ? You say trans so most likely they could pass ? Women will respect a trans for keeping there weiner then to remove it & its about passing as woman thats the gist so if you were attracted to the feminine & was top id say no not gay but you are bi , straight men commit homicide over surprises & its actually a defense as well kinda like crime of passion ! If you didnt know & found out & freak thar can be a defense. ​@Flips44

[@bebeT2000]

​@Flips44 Hey hun, sexuality falls on a wide spectrum. Who you sleep with does not define your whole sexuality, it's only a fragment of it. In my opinion you should not be regretful of any pleasurable sexual experience. Just be safe, wear protection and if you suspect anything wrong relating to STIs, get STI/STD tests including herpes. Good day!

[@JINNAMONSTER12]

This suggest that bisexual men can never be faithful period, because how long before the bisexual man wants to have sex with a woman again?

[@m.danielmills7091]

​@@bebeT2000I don't think pleasure should be the barometer for if you have a regrettable encounter or not. I'm sure you are speaking in general terms, but I wanted to say this just in case.

[@roses4me451]

Ladies, this is how we "win"; by sharing our stories, experiences, etc. and helping to enlighten each other about these men. I talked to a nurse who told me she worked in a prison. She said the visitation line on Sundays was from here to Egypt. Women rushing to see these men. (Two showed up one day for the same man....A mess!!!) She said they put a "code" on their folders meaning "HIV/AIDS". She wished she could tell these women, but it would cost her job. SMH

[@earhustler2639]

So true. I dated a man in the 90s… Or whatever we were doing. He had been locked up. He had another woman coming to see him on other visitation days. I found out by reading his letters. You are correct… A mess!

[@lovewhitey2027]

Heartbreaking 💔

[@viperviper5]

You have no one to blame but yourself

[@earhustler2639]

@@viperviper5 👎🏾

[@viperviper5]

@@earhustler2639 I see you have a hard time with reality and truth

[@sparkle3000]

If a man likes that back door action, run don't walk. That's very unnatural for a woman.

[@hawamahdi3836]

That’s the ultimate taboo Disgusting 🤮 🤢

[@tessarae9127]

Yeah but what if he asks you about it and magically is okay with it when you tell him no? Lots of guys try to coerce after and now I’m feeling suspicious (there’s other signs)… Idk what I got myself into 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

[@librasRgreat]

This is one of the biggest myths ever 🙄...I'm not saying it can't apply to some men but not hardly a sign to "run" thinking ur man is gay

[@TheEnigmaticmuse]

​@@librasRgreatit's a paraphilia. If they like it, they'll probably feed their desires with porn and the fixation only grows. They will eventually lose interest in normal sex. Most women don't like it. Where do you think that fixation comes from?

[@deltv5937]

I agree it is a myth it doesn't mean that because a man would do that to a woman that he would do it to a man.

[@1Blackamerican]

I so APPRECIATE your priceless wisdom!! The Bible SAYS, the elderly women are supposed to TEACH the younger women!! That’s WHY this wicked society wants to oppress and shun the elderly. SOME have so much WISDOM and knowledge to share that is helpful to the younger gen. It WILL help them along their path! GOD bless you and yours!❤

[@rickybrown7687]

That’s not wisdom that she was teaching, it was fear. God wrote “do not fear” 365 times in the Bible. Because HE knew that everyday we would wake up scared. If you want to really know if your man is gay, then listen to him. That’s all you have to do. The majority of what Miss Faye said was bs and lies. Remember that old fools were once young fools. Ijs

[@cccalll]

You can’t spot a down-low man, just like you can’t tell if women are lesbian, child molester, killers,murderers or whatever! Only If it were that easy! Gay men look just like real men,they have muscles,beards, women and children! You have to pray for God and the Holy Spirit to speak to you! CDC put out a report in 2020 that every 3 out of 4 women in Fulton county Georgia was HIV positive! Just like you can’t spot a down-low man,today pretty women are just as much Lesbian too. As a real man,the only way I’ll know if she likes men is to ask and hope she’s truthful! This old woman is trying to be God, only God is All Knowing! Instead of assuming a guy is down-low,just simply ask him to be honest and pray! This old woman has been taken by some down-low guy and thinks it’s that easy to spot. I’ve had women call me gay because I wouldn’t sleep with them but that’s because of my Christian belief! I’ve never had a desire to be with a man and never will! This old woman is ignorant. If you are a Christian woman,please pray, God will give you the answer!

[@1Blackamerican]

@@cccalll that’s NOT TRUE! We r spirits living in physical bodies. Most ppl have discernment KNOWING that something isn’t right. Some women KNOW that something isn’t right with a man but she will lower her guards for whatever reason. Then you have GOD’s supernatural discernment. Those r evil spirits, homosexual spirits. Nine times out ten, women SEE and KNOW who these men are before they commit to them physically spiritually and mentally. I wouldn’t go as far as to call her ignorant. Be gentle with your words. Think about those who don’t have a relationship with GOD, the TRUE living GOD. And think about those who don’t listen or acknowledge GOD’ gift of discernment. She is speaking to them. Some women NEED all the help they can get!! If they don’t know HOW to rely on GOD and HIS directions and cautioning. There is nothing wrong listening to a wise woman who is sharing her experiences and helping someone as much as she can. I rather be ALONE than deal with a man who will destroy your hope and soul. If u are a Christian. U know the Bible says the elderly women are to TEACH THE YOUNG!

[@taramoonshadow7260]

AMEN!

[@rickybrown7687]

@@cccalll Amen… Keno… Bingo… You hit the nail on the head… You better tell ‘em what God love!!! Now that’s true wisdom!

[@fittestofthefittest]

As a father of 2 boys, I pray for their protection daily. The spiritual floodgates have been opened and there’s a tangible evil pouring into the world

[@JohnSmith-rv6nf]

Forcing gay men to marry women through shame is the pathetic.

[@definitelydoing]

When do you think the spiritual floidgates opened, 400 years ago when black people were enslaved or recently?

[@keishasmith325]

❤💯

[@m.danielmills7091]

​@@definitelydoingDo you think black history started 400 years ago with slavery?

[@definitelydoing]

@@m.danielmills7091 That's irrelevant to the question.

[@bridgetmcfadden-richardson8667]

I think I've given up on men. I've had so much hurt and disappointment. I was married to a man that took care of home but not my heart. Your channel is needed.

[@kenyabean7781]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I feel ya

[@CAJUNGUY-zc5rq]

The only person that can spot a DL man is a Gay man because a female doesn't have the correct point of view.

[@The_D_Man]

Didnt take care of my heart aounds like code for “he wasnt a mind reader”

[@dominiquepate292]

@@The_D_Man If you with a Black Woman, baby, you don't need to be no mind reader cause we gon tell you how we feel or what's on our minds...

[@ritabuggthomas2696]

I SUFFER THAT TO BE TRUE. GOING THROUGH THIS EXACT THING RIGHT NOW. AFTER 14 YEARS, I'VE NEVERRRR HAD TO DO ANYTHING WITH MY MONEY OR TIME CEPT WHAT I WANTED TO BUT MY HEART IS HURTING SO MUCH LATELY BECAUSE HE'S STARTED LACKING ON ME& ALWAYS AGGITATED BUT WANTS SEX JUST NOT MY TIME AND MY MOUTH RUNNING ABOUT IT. HE WORKS VERY HARD AND DESERVES A BREAK BUT DAAAAAMN.

[@Balert-z8w]

My gay brother who’s now deceased was sleeping with a married pastor after church (I didn’t attend that church) service on a regular. He would tell me and my sisters if a guy we were dating was on the DL and he was not ever wrong!

[@nickelscoolkid4441]

Peace. My condolences for the transition of your brother. It sounds like he saved you and your sisters from a lot of heartache. Ase'

[@NBnNC]

Wooow 😳

[@bfisherful]

Please share signs.

[@miaporche2256]

Wow!

[@peacefaith560]

wow

[@mc1618]

Auntie is spilling good tea! Listen up !!!! I dealt with a narcissistic that was dl +psychopath that tried take me out! Ladies protect your energy! Healing is a Journey but so worth it once you start loving yourself…..

[@Kitsunes_Life]

That b the craziest thing ever.. Like why u tryna take me out? U don't even gaf about me, just crazy as hell cause u can b. Real life psychopaths. Worse

[@dexterexpose2045]

Mrs. Faye, although I empathize with You, I disagree that a man who recieves facial.implies a down low behaviour. He could be exfoliating dead skin cells and acquiring a healthy skin glow. What is "gay" about that?

[@yvonneboughton5905]

Preach, Im glad somenody is speaking out on this subject. I also think it about 95% of our black men are pn the DL. Even if you suspect and ask the man is he DL he is going to LIE and take it to his grave. Thank you for your bravery for bring this topic to the forfront. We are dying out here with all these vaginal issues and terminal diseases.

[@pam8962]

Amen 🙏 sister

[@hobolove2468]

Proud of you💪🏼 Jesus loves you❤️‍🔥🙏🏼❤️‍🔥

[@atiiee7]

🎯I think that men that beat on woman are secretly on the DL.

[@freespiritpearl89]

True

[@Dana_inc]

Maybe that guy in school that was picking on me throwing spitballs…. Maybe he was gay ! I never bothered him! He was gay! It’s excepted now so no man should be on the low!

[@CleanWayRecordsTM]

They say 1 in 4 will loose their physical temper with a woman 😢 you have to question feeling normal these days unless you have strong faith ❤thank you 🙌🏽

[@nekiachambers5602]

True

[@TiffanyTurquoise]

I believe you are correct.

[@Mercedesthegift]

Another thing is “hypersexual” never trust an hypersexual man, and a man obsessed with porn, 3 sums etc. if they haven’t already they attract these lustful spirits and have them doing things they normally wouldn’t do. A lot of them get hooked into that fast life.

[@jamarvistarver4982]

That's is a true statement the more drug and porn you watch the more curious that's when I realized that I went from soft porn to watching nothing but hardcore it's like a gateway drug that leads to harder drugs I tell fellas to be careful it can change them not even on a gay note but feel that you can't even have regular sex . You are right it's start with hypersexual but mostly from porn

[@benijen]

What is hyper sexual

[@ce3254]

Men and or women who are addicted to sex, porn , threesomes and having sex with anyone anywhere.

[@jamarvistarver4982]

@@benijen basically its uncontrollable sex act

[@rebahill9120]

@@benijen A sex addict

[@anngore3842]

As a mature woman I have to say you are spot on regarding men on the " down low". They are usually VERY homophobic (to family, friends and associates), infact they are obsessively homophobic- it's a diversion tactic so you don't suspect them.

[@PriscillaD-ie2jq]

Whoa! Just learned something. Heard this but did not catch on to what it meant.

[@staywell7217]

🎯🎯🎯...spot on. I knew a guy like that, who was always angry about gay men. Now he's out of the closet!

[@helenmcclay2622]

Or opposite (& like to defend against it if its brought to their attention). I think its more covert from what I seen.

[@reneegardner2286]

Yup

[@Theintrovertednow]

But to me it makes it more obvious if it's obsessive cuz I mean why be obsessive if not try to hide something

[@sharongomes7219]

She is CORRECT! My x was a DL man. We had big plans on a certain day and at the LAST minute he told me his "friend" that he knew since childhood was flying in from Florida (a male) and had to cancel with me to chill with him. We know where that went..what man cancels with a woman for another man? Hhhmmm..

[@sashaclarke2749]

Exactly! Or spend’s his entire vacation (5 days), with a co-worker? He’s so patient with all his male friends and attentive, but with me,” it’s like performing a root canal!”

[@westrywayne]

You have to be careful with this one. Men have the same friends from boyhood pretty much. Women have more levels of friends. If a childhood friend flies in, or somebody he was deployed with…he may cancel one date with someone he sees every day for someone he hasn’t seen in 10 or 20 years. That’s a bit extreme. You should ask to join them or something before you assume that.

[@sandraholloway2989]

The Spirits of the Devil are real, but I know Jesus will Fix it. And I also believe that everything that happens are already written by God,so theses things are to come,it will get worse, nothing we can do, I am very happy you are telling your Testimonys. Ladies pray and get to know the man you love.

[@oradotson764]

Conversation needed

[@shellecapos8574]

Seen it and called it out. My guy wanted to go play pool with the boys, instead of spending a romantic night with me.

[@jackieraulerson2005]

My gay friends always show me their Grindr notifications with all the DL straight men including some of my married-with-kids neighbors. So many of them.

[@terjemarken2411]

The number must be crazy high. The % I mean. And married-with-kids men are also into other men, it's crazy.

[@dianajennings7767]

Ewwww

[@kerenpooh5314]

Men are scary

[@piglet7943]

And I bet the majority are black men too 😂😂

[@yowurl01]

This is the kind of advice every woman needs . Believe it or not some women are never taught anything and just don’t know. I married a DL I was just too young to know it. He definitely only wanted children and after that he said he didn’t want marriage so we divorced long ago. His family knew but and rushed us to wed. Looking back I realize that he didn’t like me he was jealous of my hair and clothes.and would fight me and mess my hair and clothes😢 He had that one best friend for life though 🧐 . He passed away a few years ago. After the funeral I had a chat with the best friend who was distraught 😫 I told him that I KNEW because we talked about it all before he passed. Best friend denied it but the truth made me free though ❤

[@missfayesworld303]

Thank you for sharing

[@nickey8755]

Wow…. So sorry to hear that… Shame on the friend and definitely the family as well… My story is worse, but luckily I dodged a huge bullet… he had a close best friend as well who came out years later 🤦🏽‍♀️…

[@yowurl01]

@@nickey8755 Wow Nickey! I’m sorry to hear that too but I’m glad you dodged a bullet 😩🙏🏾God bless you and your relationship

[@testtest2609]

@@missfayesworld303 Miss Faye, reminds of the caves the founding father George Washington went to called Hellfire Club which was a homoseggsual S&M club in England. That club had caves built inside. The patriarchy is gay...male exclusivity on all levels. Even the suburban developments built by men have only male trees which is why there is so much pollen. They are really crazy in their zeal fir male exclusivity.

[@testtest2609]

@@missfayesworld303 The military, navy is also built on gay turning out men to get a promotion including generals like Al Gray. Al Gray even did a 60 Minutes interview calling himself Papa Bear. Kay Griggs married into that group and she does a 7 hour interview with her pastor to expose them & protect herself. It's on KZbin...she's wearing a green check suit.

[@angelabaldwin9889]

The Bible says men will become lovers of themselves.

[@teegreen3909]

Yes it does say that

[@BirdSongofYAH]

And women will become Lez

[@healthywealthynwise5009]

LOOK AT WHO'S NAME IS ON THA BIBLE

[@jagthediva351]

The men in here disputing this bible passage is likely on the DL 😂 #truthhurts

[@NajeesVirtualRestaurantLounge]

Chileeee I dealt with this man who’ve I’ve known since high school…long story short he did 7 years at 20 and we linked back up.He always was Very handsome, chile one day I looked at his lock screen and it was a pic of himself biting his lips with his hair wet I was so distraught…mind you he has tats from the top of his head to his stomach

[@robbiecrump5626]

Having a lot of women is a sign too. That phone thing can mean many things.

[@rapcat1271]

DL men usually have a phone hiding somewhere that you will never see.

[@magicalmaattarotllc]

Indeed`! ¥

[@pinkishdiamondz]

Right, tryna over compensate

[@jason8445]

Can you explain that further? Are you saying that these guys may have a series of shallow relationships with women as a cover?

[@robbiecrump5626]

BINGO!!!!

[@lydsantanafamily4052]

This is scary man I'd rather be alone

[@sonyasmith1991]

Women need self-love and self-respect because no one should put up with this BS.

[@karenmay-clark4190]

You talk about straight to the point you hit the nail on the head Lord Jesus Christ protect us all the devil can not go back so he is here.

[@lanaofficiel4042]

Agree 💯 percent.

[@sonyasmith1991]

@@karenmay-clark4190 Well said!!

[@jnkdubya37]

👍🏽💯💯💯💯

[@dnice6120]

That's them Pookies yall be dealing with.

[@MySoberSchizophrenicLife]

Miss Faye, I am a survivor and I knew it to be him DL, I cried one night and he didn't even Console me, hold me, nor wipe my tears. Thank God for delivering me from his wickedness. Everyone knew but me. Thank God.

[@shenequakimbro5146]

I'm so sorry you went through that. God will continue to console, hold and wipe your tears. Went through something similar several times. I wonder if any man is straight and loving anymore. My gay hairdresser dumped me after I asked him to dye my hair red. He always limited my hairstyles like he did not want my feminism to come out. I'm a real woman you better ask somebody.

[@kadekeyz8431]

I never heard of you and I don't know how this channel ended up in my suggestions but I'm glad I found this channel.. I like the way you speak and represent yourself. You're beautiful inside and out.. your energy and soul is there! thank you 🤗

[@janellamurphy5665]

I just found your channel by accident sis, thank you for posting these valuable messages🙏🏾🙏🏾🫂🫂

[@LovieToYou]

Miss Faye popped up on my homepage a few days ago and I’m hooked! 🙏🏾

[@kadekeyz8431]

@@LovieToYou she's the truth 👏🏾

[@infinity_spirit]

Same

[@sandrajones-p465]

You won’t believe how accurate you have been in this video for me. Formerly married to a narcissist on the down low. I was emotionally tormented. Paid ALL the bills, mortgagee, automobiles, raised the kids, was neglected, manipulated, gaslighted and treated cruelly. Financially used and suffered from depression and anxiety. After kids went off to college cruelty escalated. I left to survive. Divorced…and finally discovered his secret through ALL the bank transactions over the years. I knew it was something, I just couldn’t put my finger on it. Thank you so much for sharing what I learned from your experience and your insight. Hugs

[@spiceoflife1242]

Older woman Wisdom is NECESSARY!!!!!!!❤

[@sheila5735]

I hope women are listening to you. We no longer have the luxury of " judging a book by its cover." And you said something very profound- "they Do Not like women."

[@ezzards3882]

It just dl men

[@Alex-no5eq]

They can love both.

[@Elaine8492]

@@Alex-no5eq and yet, they don't.

[@Alex-no5eq]

@@Elaine8492 if they love both they do.

[@NikkiaSings]

95% of #BlackMen OPENLY HATE or secretly hold DEEP MISOGYNISTIC, DEMONIC Mindsets towards Black Women! Just check the CRIME STATISTICS and ARGUE with TMH God ✨👑✨ NOT me! #Selah 💯🗣️🙏🏽 Hence WHY, I AM single, celibate, SAFE and at PEACE in this REPROBATE era!

[@lni5087]

Thank you for this. My ex thinks I don't know, but God awakened and delivered me. All the signs were there. DL + Narcissist. Always wore skinny jeans and tight clothing; Favored homeboys and men, Mother/Father issues, a womanizer but couldnt stand the thought of being monagomous, only putting the bare minimum into sexually satisfying, loved gay women, which explains orgy activities and initiations. I went through my period of disgust and have moved on. Thank the Lord!

[@tinadavis2083]

Amen 🙏🏽❤️

[@DAVIDWILLIAMS-qd9kn]

YES BECAUSE LUST HAS NO (( BOUNDARIES )) !

[@theadvocate3006]

Skinny jeans🤭🤭😂🤣

[@brittanyreneeheals]

This sounds like what I went through, his whole family (the females) were gay and he loved to hang with them and his boys and always rejected my offers to do something other than our daily routine. Always made comments about liking orgys or wanting to have party’s with all naked ppl. That was the moment I knew I needed to Run 🏃‍♀️ 💨 fast. I never got proof but my spirit don’t lie. There were many of cases where things were revealed and he was a covert narcissist

[@lisamichelle5238]

In my case I forgot about his love for gay or bisexual women. I think he was testing my boundaries but I told him although I don't judge them, I have no bisexual tendencies. I'm sure he was trying to see if I would participate in an orgy.

[@jonayjbr]

I love you Miss Faye! My name is Johnny and I’m a 43yo Gay Man from Lakewood, WA. This is the first time listening to your channel and I saw this video and I said to myself let me see if she got the tea and know what she is talking about…. I heard you say #1 He is extremely homophobic and child I was hooked. Yes ma’am. You are truly an asset to these woman out here that don’t know. I require monogamy myself and I don’t deal with the down low man. I believe if he is with a woman he need to be with that woman fully no exceptions, especially if he got a baby I ain’t no home wrecker that child needs a mommy and daddy and I ain’t with it. Sexually transmitted diseases are passed the quickest between Bi sexual men and woman. You are most insightful and ladies listen to Ms Faye she got the information. Tell it Ms Faye.

[@xeganxerxes4319]

Yes. I am a fellow gay guy and really don’t want anything to do with the dl men. They are manipulators, liars and don’t care for their wives truly. If they did they wouldn’t cheat on them. Not all dl men physically assault women but all DL men cheat, no doubt about it. The problem is that a lot of openly gay men will jump on anything that moves. And it is hard to use dating apps that let you avoid these guys and find other openly gay men. We need to say no to these people, even if they are attractive , as it isn’t good for us and is even worse for the wives. Let them have other dl men and gay men can date other gay men.

[@cebrinachandler1708]

Thanks for your honesty

[@scwiggie]

I'm really in the 10% of black men who would never be bisexual. I'm monogamous and have been since day one. My faith is also central to my life. Not homophobic but in my faith it's wrong morally. But never hated a gay person as hate is equally as wrong.

[@scwiggie]

@@marybell9358 I've never heard that stat. Especially not in middle class, conservative black America. But times have changed dramatically since I was in my 20s in the 1980s

[@kevinpettiford6950]

Affirmative

[@gigid4731]

👑 thank you.

[@EJ-zs8ll]

So why watch this sounds DL 😂

[@gwendolynallen3218]

🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@denisebrown3888]

You are spot on. I dated my ex in the 80's and he was kind, funny and loving. We dated briefly and I broke up with him because he wasn't ready for marriage. So fast forward to 2011. We got back in touch via facebook. My husband had passed and the ex and I reconnected. We slept together one time on New Year's Eve. And side note, he was a cheerleader in college..dead giveaway. Anyway, we remain friends and tried to "date" but it didn't work out. So for 7 years, no intimacy between us after that one time. He made up excuses and we traveled but we always had separate hotel rooms. He would tell me stories about gay men hitting on him and gay college professors but I didn't get it. So, later on, I found out that he was on the DL. He was dating a transgender woman who still had his penis and balls. This transgender woman is 27 and he is 63! He denied it and told me I was crazy and imagining things. Lol! He also hate gay people and is a narrcissit.

[@peppaminttea]

You were not imagining things. Hecwas gaslighting you.

[@lovewhitey2027]

Your story is more common than you think 💔👹

[@Tomorrison28]

He was a cheerleader in college and you still didn't get it?

[@peaceuponthesoul]

just shocking, god help us

[@thelovelycamille528]

@@Tomorrison28 There are males on cheer teams.

[@VanessaGray_KingswayGlobal]

I had never heard of down low or narcissism and ended up with someone who was a classic pervert. He deflected like you said and led me to believe he was straight. But he had strange relationships with men disguised as work buddies. I called them his "girlfriends" they were always on the phone. He would take me to bowling alley/movie theaters where gay men were everywhere. They would drop their business cards on the ground and look at each other the way men look at women. It was bizarre. He was a violet woman-hating narcissist - even threatened my life. Once I was awake to his shenanigans I WAS GONE for good. Thank you Jesus

[@jagthediva351]

Omg

[@cccalll]

Many women can’t realize that if you can spot a DL man,you wouldn’t have married or got in a relationship with them! The truth is You can’t spot a down-low man, just like you can’t tell if women are lesbian, child molester, killers,murderers or whatever! Only If it were that easy! Gay men look just like real men,they have muscles,beards, women and children! You have to pray for God and the Holy Spirit to speak to you! CDC put out a report in 2020 that every 3 out of 4 women in Fulton county Georgia was HIV positive! Just like you can’t spot a down-low man,today pretty women are just as much Lesbian too. As a real man,the only way I’ll know if she likes men is to ask and hope she’s truthful! This old woman is trying to be God, only God is All Knowing! Instead of assuming a guy is down-low,just simply ask him to be honest and pray! This old woman has been taken by some down-low guy and thinks it’s that easy to spot. I’ve had women call me gay because I wouldn’t sleep with them but that’s because of my Christian belief! I’ve never had a desire to be with a man and never will! This old woman is ignorant. If you are a Christian woman,please pray, God will give you the answer!

[@chandrareid8622]

This is why I say that a lot of black men are going to hell because they cannot control their sexual appetites in which they want sex all the time. Men who want sex all the time have a perverted spirit and are always on the move for the next sexual high even if they get Aids along other STDS.

[@cccalll]

@@chandrareid8622 to judge someone is to pronounce sentences on someone(judge not less ye be judged),So you’ll be there right with them! You’re stupid if you think DL and perverted spirit are limited to black men only! Remind yourself, Jada Smith slept with her sons sick friend!

[@chandrareid8622]

First of all the video was talking about down low black men not other ethnic group of men. I based my words on the experiences of black women who have been deceived by down low black men who have gotten Aids and HIV from those men. Last but not least I stand by what I said that if black men do not repent of their sinful ways many of will perish and before I made this comment you already see many of them dying do to black on black crime.

[@onedayatatime746]

I was married to a sadistic narcissist that did all that you described after a year and a half i escaped with my life... All i need is the good Lord.... i dont want anymore abuse or drama.... I like being single just being with my family and friends... a peaceful life is better than the drama and pain

[@huffizenough1296]

A lot of women of all races have dated DL, BI, and gay men. Please honor yourself and love on yourself. Most DL men go after women with low self-esteem pretty or not. Some women are so quick and eager to “start a family” that they miss and overlook signs. Your intuition will always let you know.

[@FloppityFlopFlop777]

True, and the worst part is that the guy often preys on the kids. I've seen this in conservative circles. I'm extremely suspicious of the adamant push to put "father figures" in every kid's life, even perfect strangers. Especially in churches that say members should hide dirty secrets to avoid "making the church look bad."

[@Sunny-sp6zt]

I love that you are helping open our eyes, it's important that black women stop being fooled by these men. However, I was waiting for you to mention how misogynistic most of them are. They are mean to women! You said they can be homophobic but they can seriously hate women too!

[@rheeryder2524]

Absolutely.

[@lovewhitey2027]

Agreed they hated there mother no matter what they say 🗣👹💥🔥🤬

[@shenequakimbro5146]

I had a male friend expose this to me before he passed away last year. He said he has never seen so many beautiful women killed by men.

[@GypsyWONdeRs]

ALSO THEY LIKE 2 HIT WOMEN BC THEIR DL

[@miaporche2256]

You are pretty!

[@janetwilson2926]

You're so right, mine always wanted to put his hands on me

[@marlobx7442]

@@miaporche2256 👀👀👀

[@angelpeace]

You are 100% correct on everything you are saying. This same exact thing happened to me with my ex. He was a down low narcissist who was secretly sleeping with his childhood best friends and they all were playing like they were straight.

[@sabrinaramsey5589]

Yes girl!!!

[@kenyabean7781]

😩😩😩 like could you give details of how he acted around his childhood best friend like what all did they do together like what are the clues that he did in front of you

[@SOPHIEMatuLA]

fucckkkkkk

[@queenbee4906]

My ex was very homophonic , then I started having dreams of him under the covers with a man . I had that dream like 3 times .

[@jessicaberry87]

Same here. I had a dream about my ex about to engage in oral with another man and I tried to stop him. Dreams give us warnings. Your intuition was alerting you about him.

[@marquiswilliams485]

That's a sign, sonething ain't right!

[@ceciliadavies2456]

When you are in a relationship with someone, it becomes spiritual. Even the sex act is spiritual. Therefore one partner cannot deceive the other for long because the Spirit will reveal it thru dreams. Our dreams are God's way of communicating with us. If you are in tune spiritually, you would have known long ago but chose to ignore the dream saying to yourself, it is only a dream....Your dreams do not lie.

[@ConstanceAllegraProductions]

I dated a guy who had a lot to say about gay men, but would wear questionable undergarments and wanted to try things I just am not into (use your imagination). I dreamt that he was a male prostitute!! I also had another awful, alarming dream that he was into underaged girls. I was so terrified, I ghosted him and totally cut him off.

[@daughterofthemosthigh9686]

I had a dream about my ex too. It was very detailed. In the dream I found out he had been sleeping with a man from Atlanta 2x a week. And the man had given him 2 types of syphilis. And the man gave it 2 him in January of 2022. I woke up and my mind was blown.😳That dream had to have come from God. Thank God I was done with him by that time!

[@lisamichelle5238]

The last guy I dated met ALL of this criteria but I didn't suspect it until after I broke it off. Then I started to replay certain scenarios and it slowly added up. He used "beautiful and fine" women as a cover, plus having multiple children by many different woman, all to make him appear to be an alpha, highly masculine man. He despised women and is a narcissist as well. He would sleep with his back toward me. It was the WORST relationship in my entire life!

[@cutelove99]

had a lot of guy Friends, had women on the side, guy Friends had orgys, very lazy at sex

[@cutelove99]

Was a mama's boy

[@benijen]

All the signs were right there.

[@lisamichelle5238]

@@cutelove99 in my case, he had this one guy friend who he labeled as a "mentor." He avoided having me meet him for a very long time but that guy gave me the cold shoulder when I finally met him is if I was in the way. I'm supposed to be his woman and his close "friend" acted like a b**** toward me? I'm in my 50s and I've never had a guy treat me like that before that was friends with my ex-husband or boyfriend.

[@alisarumrum2062]

@@lisamichelle5238 the guy I was suspicious of had several male friends but this one stood out from the rest, he would never speak to me even when he was in close range to me- you know how most boyfriends male friends are- they speak when they see you and say things like “Hey girl how’s it going, you tell such and such to give me a call- that’s how most guy friends of your boyfriend or husband etc would be- but not this ninja- he would turn away wouldn’t speak to me as if I was in the way, like some lil B- but the last straw that broke the camels back was one night I was picking up a fish fry dinner and turned around and saw this same ninja with my (so called) boyfriends leather jacket on- that was my light bulb 💡 moment and the rest is history that relationship broke me down bad health wise and I will not open myself up any of this immortal sexual non-sense, not now nor ever, I’m at peace now thank God

[@taymikataymika4962]

And she’s older so you know she has wisdom I’m here for it 🙌🏾

[@willie417]

She's older, But, her man was like that, so now she's casting that dark shadow on all Black men, there might be more than a few out there, but there's not as many as she's letting on, because that's a lot

[@VJ-zw7xz]

@@willie417 she said she hopes it not true too

[@willie417]

@@VJ-zw7xz "hopes it not true" meaning that she believe it is. Come on, why would she say it?

[@AbeJacoby]

This woman is making outlandish generalizations that have no foundation. She has described every kind of man on the planet as being on the downlow. She needs a caretaker.

[@willie417]

@@AbeJacoby 😁😂🤣😂 some man or men over the years, hurt her very bad, and she more likely had an certian type she went after and everytime it end up bad.

[@juliedaly2381]

I can't understand a man wanting another man over a woman

[@terjemarken2411]

It's very strange! I don't know why they'd rather have another man. Just seems like they're so hot for having 'man sex' together.... lol

[@bigfellamike1913]

It's just taboo for most men who try. It's the same as white girls love going for black men when their families tell them not to. Or why kids love doing things you tell them not to. Everyone says it's wrong so lots of men want to try just to push their limits and see what's up. Lots of fellas live by YOLO 😂

[@temirarountree4553]

its all about sex it seems. Sex above all. Also, the lack of normal affection between men. The long for connection but its not sexual. But because they don't know how to express themselves other than sex, this is the results. Most men just want to hook up. Sex with a woman takes too long to get and too much effort and we can get pregnant. Then you add the taboo part.

[@AyoBrown]

You won’t bc it’s a spirit. Lust have no boundaries

[@derrickgreen8877]

I cant either. But I respect those that arent DL with their life.

[@danny4515]

I realize a lot of down low guys that are actually black I realize that a lot of them are physically abusive where they would fight the women , put them down verbally emotionally etc and they’re very promiscuous meaning they’re always seen with a different women all the type . And let’s not forget the drama they try and stir up

[@elizabethgarraner4640]

Foreign men are definitely on the low. I dated a Mexican man who was on the down low.

[@parisvaughn5816]

Yes , all of this. They also compete with women but in a way that may go unnoticed

[@frostyshock]

Most DL men are white men

[@EaglesPerch-vd3jj]

White men, too.

[@susannafranklin5391]

Definitely white men too! Mine was DL. I never heard of DL before,but now l can't unlearn it!

[@rogerwinston1521]

I've learned that the most pleasant way of living in this world today is not have a partner at all

[@zengreen7]

Good point, marriage is OVERRATED and to a degree, relationships are too.

[@therealsouthernbelles]

I think men that go to gym all the time.

[@Estherbethe1...]

💯🎯

[@intentional-joy]

Yes, sis. Walter Lee Hampton here on KZbin talks a lot about the things he has seen DL Black men engage in, as a gay man himself living in Atlanta. I’m not sure if you’ve seen his content but I’ve been subscribed to him for years now, and he tells it like it is about these “boyfriends” and “husbands”. 😞

[@miaporche2256]

@@intentional-joy love him!❤️

[@miaporche2256]

Many but not all!

[@peacefaith560]

yup they be watching ea other like hawks

[@CleanPerseverance]

The more I listen to your wisdom, the more I’m drawn closer to indefinite abstinence. A lot of women willingly or unknowingly have been captured in the snares of the evil of such men and still carrying those soul-ties and “soul-tying diseases”(STDs). Being a host to the evil energies due to them being caught up in the webs of DL men. This message is VERY important and I thank you for this. Feeding my spirit man has never failed me, feeding my flesh will always lead to hell on earth. I cannot stress it enough how important your message is for both women and *actual* straight men.

[@francineharris9473]

The women are just as bad now sleeping together as well

[@pinkishdiamondz]

This is the one. People are always concerned about physical sickness, but soul sickness is way worse. I make it my duty to cleanse and heal after a relationship. I cut any cords and void any spiritual contracts I may have created.

[@Flips44]

I slept with trans and I regret it and would never do it again

[@virgosrule71]

This is so sad! My heart goes out to my Grandchildren because Sexual Immorality is off the Charts! If these younger generations don’t Love themselves and believe in God; they’re going to be Lost!

[@beverlyfrancis8433]

TOTALLY IN AGREEMENT

[@tylerwilson3978]

Sexual immorality has always been here even back in yo day just had no platform to be put out!!

[@she.dej9818]

Girl, these kids nowadays, are already lost!

[@margaretholman9515]

I totally agree these kids today will try anything sexual. They don’t know if they’re girl or boy and that goes for both sexes in this generation. Sad. In my day the guy would court us first and meet our families. I’m talking about 1985-1990. It was really covered up. Now it’s easy out in the open. Sad

[@sophiegoode8290]

They already are.

[@richardscott3215]

I LOVE HER DELIVERY! She telling the truth, the whole truth and NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!! Society has it backwards, true heterosexual men are rare. True heterosexual men are indifferent towards homosexuality. As long as they are not being approached with it, they really don't care......they are too busy trying to get intimate with a woman. She said it best, "Be wary".😉

[@africkinamerican]

rare my ass. We are the norm

[@CameraShii86]

Facts because my husband isn’t gay but he had zero problems with my homeboy who is. He treated him like a brother but never stayed around alone because my friend didn’t do that. My friend was always with me.

[@Jerry-vo3zc]

WRONG! True heterosexual men are SECURE in their sexual orientation as alpha men not to be indifferent towards their homosexual brother's. However black men who are on the DOWNLOW have to always keep saying that they are straight, straight, straight. It's like in their subconscious, they are doubting if they are straight or not. If I am a straight male, I know it. I don't have to keep saying and trying to convince myself!!!!!

[@stuntcellist3338]

I am so glad I found your channel! Great advice for women of all ages. Thank you!

[@pamallen6372]

Wow. First time clicking on Miss Faye. I'm not easily impressed by many people, but this lady blew me away. She's a gift from God with all this wisdom, knowledge and advice.

[@ladydayy66]

This happened to a close relative of mine. He gave her AIDS. They both died. They left two children.

[@biomedlib]

I'm sorry to become aware of this. May close relative SIP.

[@tekewinfield7739]

R I P to both individuals

[@borngreat-4-life930]

Father lord deliver the black community.

[@scovyaporsha]

@@borngreat-4-life930 My Ex Narc was Persian. Evil comes in all colours

[@karinazrzu]

@@scovyaporsha Was he on the DL?

[@dtpbach]

You came up on my feed and I instantly subscribed. You are a great story teller. Thank you for sharing your gift of wisdom. 🙏🏾

[@auntie9077]

I too!! 🙏🏾

[@marlobx7442]

👀👀👀

[@williamhargrove9713]

Because a man have a man cave don't mean he's gay

[@VJ-zw7xz]

@@williamhargrove9713 that’s true

[@lenapurvis6348]

Miss Faye. I have just discovered your channel. Your talks are straight to the point and very helpful to us mature women who are having to navigate life a little differently. You make a great deal of sense. Please keep your videos coming and keeping us up to the mark. Many thanks from London, England.

[@susanbobo5098]

I love this lady. I’ve never met her and don’t know her and this is my first time seeing her- but she has a very intelligent yet motherly voice and presence. I’m 53 but lost my mama young- maybe that’s why I’m drawn to this lady

[@GasMaskReacts]

She is absolutely correct when she says this activity is an abomination. It clearly states this in scripture. She's also correct when she speaks on the evil soul ties being brought back home.

[@sherrykeener2007]

If you suspect you are sleeping with a Dl man, go get tested. If you know he's on the Dl go get tested. Or if he's bisexual go get tested. Always use protection period. Your life depends on it.

[@tyronnerouege537]

If, a woman is sleeping with any of those personalities you just described...she should end that relationship, and move on. It almost sounds like you would be tolerant of a relationship like that, as long as the woman gets tested, and receives a healthy report; but, stay with the dl boyfriend or, husband. I say she needs to do like the movie and.."GET OUT"!!!

[@ErnestJ-xe2um]

What if you don't think he on the DL,homo,or bi do you not get tested? Your comment is very ignorant. Your acting like women not passing out STDs too. Heck if I was him I'd go get tested because he don't know who you screwing. You should go get tested. Not just because you think he on the DL but get tested just to get tested

[@aliciabennett8522]

I ran across your channel. I want to say thank you. Listening to you talk about these issues is a blessing coming from a seasoned woman. Women are so afraid to talk about this. Thank you

[@PamGrace444]

Thank you for being so bold to share this. It’s been in front of peoples face, but we missed it. Women needed to know how to spot it and you were spot on. these men also can be mean to their wives and not have any feelings of empathy towards her heavier, feelings hurt and if there’s an apology, it’s a pack apology. There’s no connection mad at you because of his choice and it’s also good excuse to have to leave the house sometimes because he’s angry

[@maddart4445]

1. Going on male trips.

[@miaporche2256]

Disgusting.....

[@kristenmarie9248]

🤔🤯😱🤮 omg.

[@bvf2787]

This! No plans with their women but will plan trips with a bunch of dudes.

[@livefromtheground7274]

Facts

[@realestatecoach8626]

@@bvf2787hmmm

[@intentional-joy]

I lived it, Ms. Faye. When you experience these things up close and personal, you can never unsee the signs in people. Thankfully I made it out alive, well, and healthy. I do my best to let Black women know what it is out here with these men that they think are solely attracted to them, as women.

[@borngreat-4-life930]

Another angry sister. 😂 😂

[@intentional-joy]

@@borngreat-4-life930 Black women should absolutely be angry. Just look at how the HIV rate in BW has risen to almost 60% within the past 5 years or so from them dealing with so-called “straight” Black men. You all are no one to trust. Seek help.

[@bfisherful]

Please share signs

[@intentional-joy]

@@bfisherful It took me a while to bring the puzzle pieces together when I was in the situation. I’ll try to give examples. Most of these signs happened over a span of time, not all at once. I noticed these things: being very secretive with his phone (tilting the screen away from me when I came too close), being out at random times during the night, spending long periods in the gym, always bringing up his male friend in conversation (just generally speaking on him, nothing negative), noticing feminine hand movements/gestures 💅🏼🤌🏼, finding random unopened condoms in different places (especially a brand of them that we didn’t use before), intimacy (holding, touching, embracing, etc) and sexual intimacy (kissing, penetrating, etc) decreased significantly; as in there was a lack of interest in these things on his end; also adding here that he would often promise sex just to “forget” about it later on, moving away from me while in public as if he was ashamed like going down aisles without me, walking quickly when around me, or scrolling through phone when walking close to me to avoid eye contact, making rude comments about my appearance sometimes, using products that would otherwise be seen as feminine, being self indulged and caring more about looking good than me as a woman, social media friends (followers etc) I noticed a pattern of the men he had as a friends; they all had that look if you know what I mean This all I can think of right now but these are the major things I noticed back then. Hope it helps.

[@lexxie225]

@@borngreat-4-life930 another DL brother? Why are you even here🫢👀 Unless I misinterpreted your comment

[@theresamurphy6554]

Men period tell on themselves . If they repeat themselves on stuff they don't do or don't like THEY DO IT & THEY LOVE IT

[@angeltexas3208]

Preach ✔️

[@angeltexas3208]

This particular person made a issue about gays negatively all the time. Of course we later found out he was into males. 😂😂

[@theresamurphy6554]

@@angeltexas3208 it be funny how everyone else would of accepted him for who he is than him own self so sad

[@keh-dalia809]

Dang, this is so true! It reminds me of the classic pick up line, "I'm not like other guys", and those are the ones who are EXACTLY those "other guys". Ooff... I hate that manipulative lying line. Actions speak louder than words, period.

[@TLynn816]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@reptilemetaljen]

Yes!!! My narcissistic abusive ex is definitely trapped in the closet and I think he’s bisexual and he’s mad that he feels he has to hide it so he would be hateful towards me. Actual sociopathic psycho and girl you’re hitting this on the head lol subscribed! 😂

[@terjemarken2411]

True! And to be honest I think the number of these men is HIGH!!

[@DJ_Dutchess]

Mine too. Found out 17 years into the marriage 😢 Cost me everything

[@ShizisTruth]

My ex was a sociopath abusive narc tbh Idk if he was dl bc he hide it well but everything that’s being said seems so familiar but I never seen it in his phone or nun but his bf gave me vibes fr. He hated me n supposedly they made some kind of pack about who they were dating anywho I always felt like buddy wanted to fuck my ole man

[@sheismonalisa3146]

People are so confused. One of my good friends is bi sexual. I don't know why they have such an issue with being out. He asked me why people want to know. I said "well, you know when someone is straight right? He said yes. Well; people want to know when someone is gay and or bi" if you know where I stand, why is it wrong for me to know where you stand. I think people would be happier if they lived their truth. It's only shameful if it's wrong. Stop deceiving innocent people. Are there any REAL MEN left? Stop letting Lucifer use you, stand up! Spiritual warfare, Satan can't have you if you know who you are. Just my opinion.

[@1Skorpia]

I tell them it's a health issue. Men are carriers of hpv. Gay men love raw dogging other men. So they might as well come out gay. That's what it really is. Bi is the same as "testing out the waters" .

[@pinkishdiamondz]

I had this same conversation with a family member. It's just not right to withhold that kind of information.

[@Kitsunes_Life]

You are so wise, this is the first time I've ever heard someone be so spiritually knowledgeable and in depth like this. Overall. Thank you.

[@cccalll]

Many women can’t realize that if you can spot a DL man,you wouldn’t have married or got in a relationship with them! The truth is You can’t spot a down-low man, just like you can’t tell if women are lesbian, child molester, killers,murderers or whatever! Only If it were that easy! Gay men look just like real men,they have muscles,beards, women and children! You have to pray for God and the Holy Spirit to speak to you! CDC put out a report in 2020 that every 3 out of 4 women in Fulton county Georgia was HIV positive! Just like you can’t spot a down-low man,today pretty women are just as much Lesbian too. As a real man,the only way I’ll know if she likes men is to ask and hope she’s truthful! This old woman is trying to be God, only God is All Knowing! Instead of assuming a guy is down-low,just simply ask him to be honest and pray! This old woman has been taken by some down-low guy and thinks it’s that easy to spot. I’ve had women call me gay because I wouldn’t sleep with them but that’s because of my Christian belief! I’ve never had a desire to be with a man and never will! This old woman is ignorant. If you are a Christian woman,please pray, God will give you the answer!

[@elizabethgarraner4640]

Thank you so much for this video. The Mexican man I dated was on the down low and everything that you said in this video he did. I mean EVERYTHING

[@dimplesp4046]

Yep I released a Mexican man he acted macho etc. He definitely gave me DL vibes

[@teehun1681]

That minister story you told at the beginning sounds like that part in that movie Honk for Jesus with Regina Hall.

[@ethelbentancourt2233]

It's covered all races men and women

[@1Skorpia]

I'm Mexican. The machismo culture is waNing out thank God and these men are irate that mexican woman are no longer "serving" them. Or falling for their bs. Especially if she has a job. The men straight from Mexico are the worst. American born are different they know women want a life outside of raising kids and staying at home. With machismo culture comes closeted gay men .

[@natashalampkin366]

She speaking about the signs of a a DL man has nothing to do with race these men come in all shades we just have to pay attention to the red flags

[@garylsimmons7255]

I like this lady. I like that she was open without being vulgar.

[@suzannerivera8940]

This scenario is also happening in the Latin community too ! Healthy boundaries ultra important. Of course we don’t learn this until it’s too late n we get burned by these Demons much ❤ too you for your courage and giving us heads up on these dirt bags who will definitely 💯 do major damage and reck your life up but we heal thanks to knowledge and love & time . Gracias for sharing your Wisdom ❤

[@spiceoflife1242]

It’s allllllllll men!!!!

[@jovial735]

WOW 😣

[@donnacarroll2218]

I met a DL man, he was an actor local theaters he just wanted a woman to be on his arm around his mixed friends he exaggerated his worth his education he always went out with the boys to the movies and dinner and over his house where a group of them gathered to discuss he cracked over the phone to go to a adult toy store together and pick up some things, I knew he was DL the minute I first met him, we went out and I gave him a hug when he brought me home I felt his vibe to get away and we were standing on my porch.i was just thanking him for a lovely evening. We went out to plays many times, I NEVER offered to hug him good nite, and finally we just drifted our separate ways I was never invited to his home and he would always pick me up at my house but never came inside, his was heavy set......

[@bobbywillingham973]

This shit is true thank you sister for exposing the real truth

[@penny4urthoughts106]

I've had at least 10 guy friends who were either gay or bi since I was a teenager & I'm over 50 now. Most of these guys are a whole trip- just wild! The stories they've shared & things I've seen over the yrs would make you clutch your pearls. The black gay & dl community is very small in most cities so if they know of your dude, they prob know if he's down for the shenanigans. I'll say this- it's all in the eye contact. It only takes a second - just a flicker during the intro or when talking in a group or walking through a space like church or a club. There's a saying "Gay knows Gay". They can spot it in another man in a half a second. If your man is over the top disliking your gay or effeminate friend or relative and making little comments, it's prob because they're either questioning or have been w a dude & they can't risk that gay dude 'recognizing' that in him, so he doesn't want him anywhere around! Most men dgaf about sharing a man w a woman- it comes w/ the territory in their eyes. You could be a sweet church-girl pregnant newlywed but trust & believe there's a dude right in your midst that would give him a BJ in the bathroom if they could get away w it. I could write a book because I have way more.

[@Sincere8250]

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[@augeniasestokaite4674]

Penny, I bet u have an ocean liner full of info to tell everyone.,,as I do 2.. Isn’t there an easier way to be in touch besides typing all these words?

[@chandrareid8622]

Write it

[@SM-tl9ls]

Please share

[@auroragold799]

@@augeniasestokaite4674😊😮😊

[@lizinawe]

Love love you. As a white therapist living in mexico the publc image of family togetherness and their love for their kids is everything. But can not even begin to tell you what percentage of men in those loving family pictures have their favorite men or women on the side. Their secret complicated routine is hysterical. Many wealthy women just look away or find their toy boys.

[@mosheobadiyahisrael6032]

I’ve learned a lot! Will be sharing this with my daughters. This world is turned up side down.Thanks Ema. Blessings to you.

[@yartadee50]

Miss Faye, the statistic you gave is unfortunately more true of a number than not in the black community; especially after the 80s. Thank you immensely for your time, care, and compassion. Peace 🕊️

[@tammyduncan2112]

At least 75 percent..💯💯💯

[@theywhoflyasacloud2961]

I believe it's at least nearly that high. You're right about the 80's. As a senior in high school in the mid 80's, it was a thing to ride through the gay neighborhood and see the flaming spectacles. One time, me and some other girls were driving through that neighborhood, and we saw a sea of black men in the parking lot of a gay club. That's all you could see, hundreds of black men. All the giggling and pointing In the car came to a stop. I think we all were shocked and saddened. I'm glad I saw that before I went off to college. Seeing that really put me on alert.

[@yartadee50]

@@theywhoflyasacloud2961 🥴mm mm mm !

[@eastafrika728]

The Narcissist is controlled by fear for his own life that triggers an obsessive compulsion to aggressively form his own reality where he is admired, hyper vigilant and gets the pleasure and sense of security that his mother would give him, by suppressing the free will of others by making them feel like social failures

[@breathnstop]

She's right about narcissist. They also need to be loved and need constant attention.

[@senecanicholson1090]

I always thought a narcissist had extreme love of self. So, there would be no need for validation or attention.

[@ShizisTruth]

I they love validation they are grandiose also but they need attention and validation bc they need the supply bc I’m reality the have low self esteem so they take their supply energy to boost themselves. They keep on on hand

[@rebahill9120]

My ex was and still is on the dl. I got real suspicious when I noticed. His so called boyz started wanting to argue with me over frivolous things. The ex never stood up for me when his boyz were disrespectful. He was definitely a narcissist. He started getting very emotionally abusive. He was always over jealous and seemed to have an attitude when we were out. Especially when I was the center of attention .He would make a whole scene. I caught him checking out other men. He had good taste too..😆 Sex was less and less important but then I kept finding hidden porn. The signs went on and on. After we broke up! Alot of his male friends then informed me that my suspicions were true but I already knew by then. Thank God. I'm healthy and healed. He has a gf now who's worried about me messing around with me. Lil does she know a female is the least of her problems.I hope she never comes my way. I'm going to tell her the truth.She looks very masculine also. He has been trying to get back together again . What he doesn't know is that I know his dirty Lil secret. If she pays attention she will find out too. I kept having dreams that he was cheating. I asked God to reveal it to me. To remove what is not for me. Long story short. Careful what you ask for. I was devastated!!

[@patriciagrant7055]

I appreciate your help. It is important to the signs. People never have conversation so you can learn all there is to it. THANKS A MILLION. GREAT JOB......

[@dorothyholmes5403]

Hi DivineGoddess. I went thru something very similar to what you said. I was so Nieve when I got married. He had a best friend that he was very close with. I got so many signs during our relationship. When I would mention it to my family members most of them did not see it. We had 2 children. However, one of my brothers said after our divorce that he seemed like he had a little sugar in his tank(smile). I said. I know but I thought I was the only one who saw it. All I can say is God saved me from a relationship that I did not have the courage to get myself out of. He was the one that wanted the divorce. He made my life a living hell for 20 years. I am still single today and don't know if I will ever get married again. I am 67 now I was 52 when we divorced. He eventually got sick and is in a nursing home now.

[@rebahill9120]

@@dorothyholmes5403 I feel you . I'm thinking about writing a book about my story was so devastating!! You know make lemons into lemonade and support healing for other women who have also gone through this tragedy. It actually took me through a downward spiral. Alot of yrs wasted . I never thought I would be this happy and whole again

[@hobolove2468]

Please follow through with telling her bc that shit is psyche splitting. Sorry you went through it:-( he just needs to be outed then

[@rebahill9120]

@@hobolove2468 I want to but she's not that type of woman . She's bitter towards me bc she found text messages he sent to me. Tho I never returned one. So I'm going to take care of me. Stay out of jail and keep my peace. The whole story gets a lot deeper and darker. It would blow some lids off for sure 🤯

[@ElisaForHealing]

Ms. Faye! It is too much work unless you would like to have children. All that checking and watching is crazy. Ladies get your own career and your own house. Don’t depend on a man for anything. They will walk on your neck if they can. Don’t put their name on anything you have and if they don’t treat you like the queen you are, get rid of them and don’t look back. And yes, I love men, but have had zero luck with them since the day I was born.

[@sweetcheeks6398]

Lol I love men too, can't live with em, can't live without em 😁

[@bernetajohnson3296]

Narcissim is nothing new. We use to call it arrogant and self centered or we would say they're stuck on themselves. They are simply mean spirited and evil. Period. Third world countries treat women awful and it's a cceptable. So the best thing we can do is learn how to take care of ourselves.

[@willisjohnson5102]

Because your using someone elses blueprints!

[@IbriyGad]

Don’t forget to get you a loyal dog or cat. At least you’ll have some type of warm body to grow old with.

[@borngreat-4-life930]

No wonder. 😂

[@Estherbethe1...]

Trust you instincts and intuition. If he's steppn out it's over! Doesn't matter if it's w males or females. Look when a man likes what a woman has it's never neglected and always appreciated and respected.

[@miaporche2256]

💜

[@ARareGEM2890]

... Truth to that.

[@ustand2186]

It does matter. Its fecal matter!!!

[@kevinpettiford6950]

Affirmative

[@37MEME]

THANK YOU MS.FAYE FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM.

[@ANDREA.363]

I'm 62 yr.old black woman,thank you for the information very informative.

[@MsMichelle1432]

Been single (celibate) for 15 years and will be single (celibate) until I press my dying pillow….and I am so glad and I just want the Lord to keep me, because I am good….this is an evil, evil world and I don’t want any part of it. Good googly moogly.

[@carolynlynch8297]

I don't know how this showed up on my utube but I'm glad I watched this because it's so accurate!!

[@sylviawilliams573]

It makes me feel like there’s no more men out there to date…so it’s best to stay by myself then go thru the hassle

[@terjemarken2411]

That's true!

[@ShizisTruth]

😤😤

[@1blkbeauty79]

Exactly

[@elizabethm193]

I love your channel. You are amongst the few addressing this issue. I wish that a large percentage of women would watch your channel, They would avoid the heartache that I went through in my 20s. I've been threatened with a bat when I found out his "little secret". A gay guy I knew once told me that I had no idea how many married men were intimate with him. I was shocked. I also believe in the negative energy possessing people. Thank you🙂🙂🙂

[@ms.suzylucy6868]

I’m so glad that I came across your channel. I really enjoyed watching, listening and learning from you. Yes, it’s definitely sad when some men use women as a beard to hide their true sexuality. All it does it hurt women in many ways. There’s so many horrific things going on in the word today that surely God is not pleased.

[@kevinpettiford6950]

Affirmative

[@wandae1854]

To all the DL men out there: Live in your truth it’s gotta be miserable being with somebody you just don’t want to be with. You can save you and your girlfriend a lot of heartbreak and std’s “AIDS / HIV

[@jmath1978]

Thats what happen when women cant accept the ok guy! Alot of women dont want to settle for ok they over value themselves and fall for Pretty Ricky!

[@719kai719]

@@jmath1978 Stop telling women what they should accept or be oky with. Women just like men date who they want to. Everyone isn't compatible with everyone and someone being interested in you isn't a guarantee that you'll be interested in them. Such is life. Everyone should be looking at the characters of the people they date anyway. Character will tell you what a person is really about. I see some of y'all are still stick on that Kevin Samuels rhetoric... Lol

[@cupofserenity7692]

@@jmath1978 lol pretty Ricky 😂😮

[@jmath1978]

@@719kai719 Azzhole face I was saying the samething you was talking about. And Im not a Kevin Samuels fan. Thats 1 of the problem is that most of these women dont give afucka bout character! Rhetoric who not me lol!

[@falanajerido875]

Not true not. 90%

[@loryjones7220]

You're amazing, Miss Faye. Keep speaking Truth.