How To Stand Up For Yourself If You Hate Conflict

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**Hello! Adding this in because some people missed the video on How To Stop People From Talking Over You. This is Ben! I'm the guy in this video. I founded Charisma On Command with Charlie four years ago. You can catch a bit of my story towards the end of this video when I introduce myself. Charlie is still creating videos! He's going to release his next one on Monday. Hope that clears things up a bit :-)
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Have you ever had a tough conversation in front of you and not known exactly how to handle it?
Maybe it was with your boyfriend or girlfriend, amongst friends or roommates, with your family, or at work.
Difficult conversations are stressful because if you handle them poorly, it can do irreparable damage to your relationship or your career. And we never get taught how to do it correctly!
So in this video I go over the principles you can apply to make almost any difficult conversation go well for you. You don’t need to use all of these in all situations. What I want to do is arm you with options so you can choose the right tool for whatever situation you're in.
00:36 3 things to consider BEFORE tough conversations and difficult conversations
00:42 Draw your line. Define what's acceptable and what's unacceptable.
02:20 Thinking things through as if you're the other person
03:38 Set the tone that YOU want the conversation to have
04:10 Things to consider DURING a tough conversation
04:30 State facts and feelings to prevent someone from being defensive
05:30 What to do when someone is making jokes at your expense that you don't like
06:48 Go on the record early so that a tough conversation isn't a surprise
08:11 Have mutual understanding and don't assume about what the other person is thinking
08:50 What to do when you're the one who made a mistake or how to receive feedback
12:05 How to handle emotionally charged conversations and have confidence
13:50 How to calm down a tough conversation that is getting heated
15:40 A more formal introduction!
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[@Azori10]

Now it's like I have 2 dads...

[@NjBou]

Kuandyk Karimov omg hahahaha that's how I felt hahahhahaha

[@blakejones9206]

thank you

[@selenawright1332]

Bob Duncan and Ben

[@alirezakh4730]

peopling is hard

[@nomadicstrength]

Yah dude.

[@JokerisWild4]

Yeah Joker, killing instead of peopling is easier

[@ms3446]

Alireza Kh Tell me about it!

[@darylartdigitaletsy9098]

Not sure I've ever read a truer statement than this one. You should get tee shirts made in this phrase... they'd sell like bottles of water in the desert.

[@Eillwinnas2]

I read 'pooping is hard'

[@quintenheijn2820]

"Now You've labeled and generalized - That's what EVERYONE does" lol.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Haha touché ;-)

[@hannanatalisa3282]

😂

[@Dr.physioAli]

Rule: don't generalize the blame. Be specific and factual while pointing to other's faults. That's so important 💯

[@hongweiteo]

Him: Don't generalize Also him: That's what most people do

[@ConfuzzledTomato]

Did Charlie get plastic surgery

[@gutar5675]

That's what the cut on the top of his head is from obviously

[@RockySmithsen]

That's literally what I was just about to comment! Nice job 😂👍

[@Prim3Pursuits]

I think his hair are different that's why you think that.

[@sherwinh1661]

he's just wearing makeup - i.e some concealer and foundation

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

Maybe... JUST maybe, the pod-people got confused. ;o)

[@ajaythomas3980]

Ben is a great person he's got a positive vibe to him , looking forward for more videos featuring him.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks so much! Charlie and I were concerned about how people would react to bringing me in front of the camera. I'm stoked to hear you're enjoying my videos too! Appreciate you commenting :-)

[@SOI-wl2lo]

therusted brace I agree, you're great Ben. Thanks so much for this clear & concise video, as well as your encouraging closing words!!

[@catief1031]

Thank you for the video. My father's always been the type to start yelling in arguments so I've just grown up trying to be non-confrontational. That mindset doesn't always work in the real world.

[@myflymkultra268]

same, its gonna feel so good fighting back in an argument when my cajones grow lol

[@valdesejer4385]

My dad always did the same when i was a kid and it has impacted my whole life

[@hafsaalkaa8453]

For those who don't know who that is his name is Ben, he's been working with Charlie since the beginning of their channel. You can find the moment where Charlie introduce him at the end of the video : " How to stop people from talking over you." Ben is now doing videos too so that we can have more content (twice a week if I remember well). ^^

[@mamaurax25]

This man is holding Charlie Captive

[@mamaurax25]

propagandadrunken wtf bro

[@sebastianloratv]

You are a natural, man!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Sebastián!

[@bojackthetrustworthy736]

Sebastián Lora with an unnatural skin!

[@christopherfrost]

Some good news for everyone is that actually he's /not/ a natural - as he says at the end, he learned all this stuff, and you can, too :-)

[@yasmiiineee]

Woah why all the negative comments? The content is great. And Ben is a great speaker. I loved your words at the end, Ben! Thank you!!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Min! Some people don't like change. It's all good. Appreciate the kind words!

[@naderqarini6300]

Benjamin Altman haha brou, you're actually really good! it's funny coz if you look at aaany KZbin video out there, they'll always have some people with negative comments or dislikes, even if that video is a world hit in music or something. you're actually really good man, I didn't know you just started, keep it up! 😃✌

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Nader!

[@cheeriosog4002]

Most people are fine with him just wondering where Charlie is

[@Charismaoncommand]

Haha we've been friends for 15 years. I guess our mannerisms have slowly morphed into each others' :-)

[@mathiaskinder5200]

Hmm... Charlie.. You seem different

[@LeJonathan]

Mathias Kinder think he did something to his hair

[@user-ez5vq9fd2t]

No, no. It's definitely the shirt. Charlie always wear a black V-neck, but I guess he decided to join the light side and go white from now on.

[@MsRuell]

I don't see the difference

[@nirash8018]

Dayum son these teeth are brighter than my future

[@siryoucantdothat9743]

Nirash lol aren't we all

[@albertptran]

lol

[@guydude9820]

That little bit at the end where he says he respects us for trying to improve as a person really made me feel better about my self I am trying to be better and I should be happy about that

[@noseefood1943]

My advice: 1. Don’t use the word “always” 2. Be direct and point to the problem not the person 3. Always give the person an out. Don’t give an ultimatum 4. Thank them if they correct the problem

[@shahidilhan3139]

Use Tiege Hanley.

[@GRRC21]

GENTLEMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@kr11y93]

Gentlemen here's the deal...

[@thazymbooka4776]

Bernie Sanders this is amazing

[@LuisSoto-fw3if]

Perfect.

[@Karentulla]

I'm used to seeing Charlie, but that doesn't mean, you're not doing a good job too! Thanks for this helpful video :)

[@bogdanpatru2742]

That comma between "mean" and "you're" really fucks things up :D

[@ohyeahyeahimasian392]

@@bogdanpatru2742 my brain grew a tumor reading that comment with the comma

[@JD-df3zl]

Both of you guys are so charismatic. Great job!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Vale Tudo!

[@Guy_LastName]

addressing something the first time it happens is a big thing for me. "you encourage what you tolerate"

[@StriderCX]

Be mature, take ownership, be respectful, be a gentleman. Thank you sir, you're teaching people manners.

[@emilyhedges3975]

I love you guys! I have been doing a lot of independent study in many of the areas that you guys have touched on for years now. More for my own enjoyment than anything else. But I wanted to point out how extremely well done your videos are. You both seem intelligent, well put together, clever and genuinely kind. I appreciate what you're doing for others and what you have done for me. Thank you both.

[@lumiscion]

I like this. Knowing what you want, being truthful, and conveying your feelings in a caring way would do wonders.

[@Notarealnamereally]

"[Labeling], that's what everyone does." DID YOU JUST LABEL ME AS A LABELER??? :)

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Touché!

[@landon6797]

Really like the addition of videos with you as the host! Definitely adds depth and diversity to the channel.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Landon!

[@Baboojohn]

What did you do to Charlie?!

[@alexkhassa]

He had a tough conversation with Charlie. edit: omg so many likes haha thanks guys. Ben is pretty cool too. I can see myself getting used to him with more videos.

[@mikecantreed]

Alaa Khassa Looks like Charlie didn't go down without a fight.

[@the_phoe]

Ben now makes content actively, as well as Charlie.

[@SiimLand]

Ben is now the man

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Hahaha he just did the Dany and Jon video! He's alive and well I promise ;-)

[@Bladeclaw00100]

Great job again Ben! Your example of what happened with the girlfriend is exactly what happened with me and my ex. I had to layout what is acceptable and what is not. I had to define my boundaries and what how much enough is enough. And the hardest part was I had to get the courage to stand up for myself to say how I was not fairly treated. After giving her some chances to work on herself I did not see any attempt and had to break apart with. I did not see it moving forward but actually pulling me back into a mindset I fought hard to get out of. Confronting a friend who tells jokes that go overboard is a great example of: 1. Believing that you are worth being respected 2. Setting boundaries and expectations of what is acceptable behavior to you 3. Taking action to demand (not command) respect when those boundaries are crossed. 4. Rewarding good behavior. What I also like is that you said, If and Then. You gave Tom a choice. If he will continue then their will be consequences (e.g. you won't be his friend) Tom needs to make sure that you are not bluffing and not just saying that. That you do as you say. If Tom continues and you don't warn him again or he steps over you again and again, it will become a habit for Tom to keep doing it. You mentioned it by catching it early. Tom needs to feel that respect means something to you and you will cut off ties to those who don't respect you. Also that you are not needy for friends, and will not put up with bad behavior just to keep friends. I see this a lot in guys who stay in groups and are disrespected but they still stay there because they have nobody else to hang with. I this really sad. When they stand up and demand respect. The group tells him to relax and not worry about it since he will come back to them anyway. They are walking on top of him and he is not leaving them. The worst part is if he keeps doing this it starts to become a habit and belief that he does not deserve to be treated well or respect. You can use this information for ideas for your next video such as: How to set standards and expectations How to demand for respect How to get the courage to stand up for yourself Once again great job Ben. You are Charlie 2.0 :) You guys both do an amazing job. I would love to help you guys out and be a part of your team, someday. All your videos are amazing from breaking down conversations in videos, to predictions based on charisma, and really helpful actionable tips.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Wow thanks Vitaly! Super appreciate this comment!

[@theaahello2134]

I JUST LOVE that when you guys are making videos you’re not cutting parts of videos and putting it together you’re just filming the whole video in one time couse you’re the first channel that i see doing this. you don’t cut yourselves in the middle of sentence and that’s great! THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR VIDEOS they’re really helpfull ;DD. LOVE YOUR SELF IMPROVEMENT CHANNEL😄♥️😉

[@marcelopita4538]

This is comes at a very convenient time, thanks!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Glad to hear it Marcelo!

[@yasminal9438]

This video gave me a lot to think about

[@KenMKenMKenM]

This dudes teeth are brighter than my future wtf

[@ddocj07]

Thank you for putting this together, changing isn’t easy, but the rewards are pure bliss.

[@TheSpoegefugl]

It hasn't even been 24 hours since I last watched this to get the pointers I felt I needed. It has already helped me multiple times in more ways than I had thought

[@Marta-dj8yj]

Decent video: great content and well delivered. There is something about you that makes one wanna listen to what you've got to say. Well done.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Marta! Happy to hear it :-)

[@Cliohna]

1. Draw your line. What's acceptable and what's unacceptable? 0:35 2. Brainstorm: What's good for them? 2:12 3. Set the tone you want 3:37 4. To prevent someone from becoming defensive, stick to statements that are irrefutable. (facts and feelings) 4:08 5. Go on the record about it early 6:38 6. Don't assume something was malicious w/o talking to the person first 8:00 7. Make the other person feel understood,... 8:45 8. then take ownership of your mistake 10:20 9. What to do during emotionally charged conversations? 11:55 The Socratic method 12:36 De-escalate physicality, body language and tone 13:39 Call a timeout 14:31

[@badboysandhu]

This guy speaks so well...im impressed..i can tell hes a nice guy

[@TwentySeventhLetter]

I have to say, this has been one of the most helpful videos posted on this channel recently, at least for me specifically. I've noticed that I've let a relatively mundane conversation escalate far more than it should've, and I now feel equipped to prevent such escalation in the future. So thanks, to both of you. Cheers.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

That's fantastic! Thank you for letting me know :-)

[@Ie-ikrame]

Thanks Ben! Good luck

[@modge472]

5:45 lmaaoo "Tom was soo *war flash back* ... Bad."

[@Jef_w1f]

Absolutely!!!

[@EdisonDudoit]

Charlie set the bar so high! I was pleasantly surprised to find that your content is of the same quality. Ben, you are the man, I'm looking forward to seeing more content from you.

[@suzywilson]

Thank you, Ben! I found this extremely valuable!

[@valerievaysman3993]

You did amazing job Ben! Can't wait to see you again)

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks so much! I'll definitely keep creating :-) Also if you have any video ideas you'd like to see, feel free to toss them into the comments. I try to let upvoted topic requests guide my thinking on what to create. Cheers!

[@abbysaxon8439]

This was super helpful. Great job, Ben!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Abby!

[@ZhakyDK]

I'm so grateful that you actually put in effort to give advice on what to do "on the flipside". So many books and videos just paint the picture of you (the reader/audience) being a saint who doesn't do mistakes or at least does not give you advice on what to do, when you're on the other side of the fence e.g. there's a lot of advice on how to deal with customer support, when you aren't satisfied with their service, and only little advice on what to do, when you have a customer who isn't satisfied with your service, and you're pulling all strings you have at your disposal to satisfy them (I know now that giving workable compromises (when possible) and giving the customer options, works in most cases).

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Mikkel! I wish I could say I've never been "on the flipside" but I have - I think we all have. I'm glad you enjoyed it!

[@dinaeriverwood9223]

Ben, this is my favorite video of your entire channel, I'm very glad you finally introduced yourself. I'm looking forward to more videos from you!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Wow! Thank you so much for letting me know Dinae, that's awesome!

[@46angelgonzalez]

This channel has gotten me to do so much and contribute to so many things/people.! Itd worked at Work, on friends and especially women! Thank you!

[@dinokmon6576]

It was a great help for Mike Hawk!

[@willyounger9772]

Mike Hawk Yeah, this is a great channel. What I like most is, often times, messages like these seem like they came just in time for something going on in my life.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

That's awesome Mike! Hearing that we're making a difference in people's lives is the best part of making these videos so thank you for commenting :-)

[@urbanizedpizza]

@@dinokmon6576 haha! It was also a great help for Mike Hawk!

[@MinaMileeva]

Loved it a lot. Thank you, Ben, for so informative and meaningful video! Nice to see you here too) I'm one of those people who's going crazy because of "dirty dishes" at the very next moment, so it was really useful information and I've made a lot of conclusions. with the best greetings from Ukraine

[@benjaminaltman4895]

My pleasure! Happy to be here :-) I know the feeling, I had a roommate who did it constantly when we first moved in together. Hopefully this video helps the situation.

[@dcoci]

Thanks ben, you and charlie are great. Watching these videos helps me to better pin point how i can improve my communication with people. I appreciate the time you borh put into this channel

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks very much Danielle I'm glad you find them so helpful!

[@AlikVan]

My most favorite channel! You guys changing my life. This channel is soo good that I don't want to share it with anybody and keep it as my secret weapon.

[@collinwagenmakers]

Loved the video guys! Actually have a really tough conversation coming up tomorrow, so you have no idea how valuable this video is for me.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

That's great Collin I'm glad the timing lined up with your situation. Don't feel like you have to do every single thing I talked about here either, it's more like a toolkit you can pick and choose from depending on the situation you're in. Good luck with the conversation tomorrow!

[@BrightStar717]

I wish I had seen this video months ago! I had a good friend (I had known for two years) who was getting into a toxic relationship. He asked me what I thought about the girl he was dating. So I was honest with him. But I should have taken the approach of asking questions, like you said, instead of TELLING him she was bad news and pointing out all the red flags (she cheated on her bf with him, she said horrible things about her ex of 3 years, was extremely possessive and overreactive before they were even dating, he said he would never get involved with a girl like her, she told him she was in love with him after knowing him for a couple weeks, etc etc etc!). The discussion didn't get heated, but he was kind of upset by what I said and didn't want to listen. He hasn't spoken to me since. :( now I know. Thank you for the amazing advice and tips, always.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Rough :-( The silver lining is, it does't sound like they're in for a very long relationship soooo you'll probably have your friend back soon!

[@dominiquedoeslife]

I love what you’ve said and I think the major issue in relationships is unspoken expectations. What a great way to avoid just that.

[@SkrletSoul]

You are a great addition ti the channel Ben! Thanks for the topic discussed, really appreciate it!

[@SJNaka101]

Hey don't worry about the haters, you're doing a good job and I'm sure you'll just keep getting better and better with practice! Keep em coming!

[@nyyfandan]

How about an analysis of Frank Underwood?

[@ashutoshsharma0018]

OH YEAH!!! Do That.

[@AlienRockPictures]

I'd rather not have analysis videos on fictional characters and scenes that are meticulously scripted. Real life isn't according to a script/directed.

[@GorillazMon1313]

This is something I've needed to hear a long time ago for sure, thank you

[@Teskar30]

It's impressive that you can bring so much content every week (and do 16 minutes without cutting! Amazing)! Thanks for doing it!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Filipe! It took a few tries haha

[@marijkatilton3054]

Super useful, practical tips Ben! Thanks and great vid!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Marijka!

[@MusicWithBob]

Is this Fernardo Torres?:)

[@neilx7971]

Music With Bob that'd be great

[@martinriley8449]

WHOA! I didn't notice it at first but there's a really strong resemblance!

[@thinkingphoenix297]

At last we found the long lost twin

[@chukita374]

I've been watching for months and never left a comment before, but I wanted to let you guys know I really appreciated how thorough this video was. I enjoy the longer format

[@ElineMannMusic]

Dudes, great content! I need this in my life!

[@Diam0ndt]

Really like this Ben guy, I'm excited for this channel's future! :)

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thank you!

[@NjBou]

Ben is great as well! He's just like Charlie haha best of luck moving forward, and thank you for the helpful content!!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Thanks! Glad you're finding the content helpful :-)

[@adultsinthemaking]

This is super helpful. I've had a lot of debates in the past that have gotten heated and put a toll on the relationship between myself and the person I was debating with. Through experimentation, I found myself leading people through questions like you recommended, and it really does work!

[@hombretropical3028]

This is one of the best videos in a while. I feel like it was way more practical than most and I can definitely think of situations in which I can use this.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

That's fantastic! Glad you think so :-)

[@tiagovlogandmusic]

So nice Ben! Keep up! You and Charlie are awesome!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Tiago! Integrating as a new speaker on a channel where subscribers are used to only Charlie has been an interesting experience. I appreciate your comment :-)

[@tiagovlogandmusic]

Benjamin Altman subscribers might be used to Charlie, but in the end is quality that matters, and you are safe with that! Hope to see you more around by yourself, and you and Charlie could do some videos together as well, would be cool to see how it would work out!

[@aurorap.7578]

Great video, good job Ben 👍🏼

[@pattonjeffrey6]

Thanks for the kind words at the end, your videos are excellent!

[@maxbehunin891]

Watching again two years later! Always appreciate this kind of insight

[@teresasilva9424]

Loved the video! A+

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Teresa!

[@teresasilva9424]

Benjamin Altman 💯💯!

[@trceb]

Great video. Love the new guy.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Cebby!

[@Allison_B.]

Thank you Ben, keep up the good work, and I'm glad you're finally showing your face on this channel !

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Allison! Me too :-)

[@irmansiddiq9698]

I can tell that Ben is much energetic when it comes to deliver the point and I think when it comes to give example Charlie win the challenge because the example is a lot and it is easier for me to understand.

[@stefan9227]

*in conor mcgregor's voice* "WHO THE FOOK IS THIS GUY?"

[@combatxhoop7069]

Stefan Jovićević Man Conor really rose to FAME, he is everywhere

[@user-tm6ic1yw4h]

He says at the did who he is

[@user-tm6ic1yw4h]

At the end *

[@szymon.kazmierczak]

Perfect

[@willyounger9772]

Honestly, I think I like Ben better.

[@Beaver314]

a lot more smiles in this video, great improvement!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Beaver!

[@rogue]

This comment comes off pretty patronising to me lol. Ben can smile as much as he wants. He's a pro and takes the criticism well though. HEALTHY BEN

[@nicholas1254]

Not being an American their teeth freak me out, the whiteness... its inhuman.

[@wanderingintime]

Oh my god a flipside! Yay! Thank you so much for being well rounded and sharing!

[@giuliodigiacomo]

This is again a great video! And Ben is also great, very smart and competent! The thing I like is that he doesn't stay just at the surface but tries to go deeper and expand. Charlie and Ben are surely great guys and very good speakers. Keep up!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Giulio!

[@neilx7971]

Ben you are doing great 🔥

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Neil! Appreciate you commenting, reading the encouragement in the comments has made my day

[@fannybrasse]

Make a video about Marlon Brando...... or 10 videos about Marlon Brando!! He knew every type of bodylanguage and knew how to hook everyone, a pure genius! You can make a or more videos about HIM, the person, and you can make videos of his bodylanguage, influense, confidence etc from the characters he was and himself. Marlon Brando is the best actor ever, no doubts, and how he excpressed his characters is amazing. If there is someone you should multiple videos about is it Marlon Brando! Watch his movies and you will understand(If you already have not).

[@CliffordStarks1]

Well done Ben great tips that definitely work, best part is the more you practice them the easier they become 👍

[@rimihaeg]

Hey Ben, you look a lot more relaxed than in the last video! Keep it up! About the length of the video: I noticed my attention dropped around the 12 minute mark. So if you guys are experimenting with different video lengths, I prefer the video's to be a little shorter. Have a good one!

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Great feedback Rick! Appreciate the compliment and appreciate the suggestion. I agree. I just couldn't figure out how to cut this video down without losing something I felt was important. That said, on the whole I will definitely keep that in mind and consider choosing smaller chunked topics.

[@CheeseLuver]

This new guy is pretty cool

[@lucasuniga1]

This is one of the best videos I've ever seen on how to deal with other people and how to improve your communication to get the right message across the table. Thank you guys so much!

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ That's awesome! Thanks so much. :-)

[@timothydeterman6706]

I really enjoyed this video! I know that Charisma on Command has been helping me a lot to become a better person, a more well rounded person in various atmospheres and in wearing different "hats" in life and I appreciate you Ben in your conveying of information. Well done! I will utilize recalibrating/exiting the conversation heartily when/if it ever gets too chaotic. Great seg-way presented there.

[@maniclikemike4858]

can you guys make a video on Billie Joe Armstrong's Charisma?

[@utopiannamjoon169]

Ohh yes

[@bushyzeeg]

Djeez these comments, GUYS THIS IS BEN, HE HAS WORKED ON CHARISMA ON COMMAND FOR A GOOD MINUTE AND HE IS JUST NOW ON CAMERA. The stuff he talks about is still the same quality as Charlies he just has a smaller mouth. Don't be dicks.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Haha thanks Zeger. It's hard NOT to have a smaller mouth than Charlie! Appreciate the comment and I'm glad you're enjoying the videos :-)

[@madsras42]

Great to see more of you, Ben. I guess this means we'll get twice as many videos from now on, now that you both are doing videos ;) Keep up the good work.

[@luiza-mariyababadjanova9095]

Thank you, Ben! It was very helpful :)

[@raziskavacp6499]

very helpful 😄👍

[@Charismaoncommand]

~ Glad you're finding it helpful Ula!

[@ronallan8680]

I like the Structure of your talk! Mr...?

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Rhonnie!

[@furanopowdertours]

Thanks for the video new guy, that was awesome. I have a pattern of escalating tough conversations, going forward I'll plan it better and change my approach to the conversation. Thanks!

[@DanielVB04]

Thank god for you guys to actually be a thing on KZbin. Jeez one of the longer vids, DEFINITELY worth listening to though and writing notes to make these tips a habit. Amazing video thanks guys.

[@kostikoskinen7434]

your a genius

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Haha thanks Fish Freak!

[@sebastianlarsson6053]

And *you're* not... Haha

[@cooledcannon]

>very average person >left a job on Wall Street What?

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Ahhhh my bad! I meant average in terms of charisma. Scholastically I did very, very well. With people, it was much more of a mixed bag early on haha

[@vyhilary]

This is by far one of the best videos I've seen in this channel and it's only my first video seeing this guy.

[@benjaminaltman4895]

Thanks Vy that's super nice of you to say! I'm glad you enjoyed it :-)

[@84ladyd]

Aww you're so sweet, thank you for making this video! This is very helpful💖

[@julioandresmedinacastillo7351]

Talk about Harvey Specter's confidence from Suits

[@benjaminaltman4895]

I was thinking of doing this! Do you have any particular scenes that you think highlight it? I haven't watched the show so I'm going to have to binge watch it.

[@haraldgitar]

I think the first episode does a great character introduction of Harvey, with his overly confident attitude. I do think he got slightly more down to earth in the later season though. He is certainly an interesting character, in aspects of integrity, dicipline, self-esteem etc.

[@julioandresmedinacastillo7351]

Benjamin Altman you can look for some scenes about him being a badass in kzbin.info/aero/PLAprAVqOwNwaxcjTaJnkJ-3OOdVYj_Acd

[@nathanmorales9864]

Binge it!

[@PatrickWaddingham]

Quick comment -- I was interested in the content, but I almost bailed 1/2 way through, probably because Ben got a conclusion and was changing ideas within the same topic. Not sure if spliting the video or adding some sort of transition is the answer, bbut it's a thing.

[@TwentySeventhLetter]

I noticed that too. I wasn't about to leave, but it did seem like the tone of the video was coming to a close a bit prematurely. Perhaps having a visual or audio cue when the end *does* come around would help? I know a lot of KZbinrs have outro sequences, but even something small added in post could be useful.

[@maxwellrajasa6106]

yo, thanks for sharing this, im grateful that i watched this, got a lot of points noted to improve myself.

[@GinBuchanan]

Loved your introduction to charisma on comand Ben, you and Charlie are inspiring people, i wish i were like you guys.

[@alejandroquesada]

Peanut butter and jelly Macaroni and cheese Bacon and eggs Bread and butter Charlie and Ben