How To STOP Impulse Buying & Retail Therapy | 7 Rules For Intentional Buying

Today, we’re talking about how to stop impulse buying and retail therapy (for good!) Plus, I’m sharing 7 rules for intentional buying that have helped me make better purchasing decisions + save money! 🤍
► HOW TO STOP IMPULSE BUYING & RETAIL THERAPY
» My Story [0:20]
» Spending Freeze [3:33]
» Avoid problem spots [5:53]
» Consider your headspace [7:26]
» Make a list [8:29]
» Find healthy alternatives [10:03]
» Think long term [11:33]
» Return liberally [13:04]
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[@jordankate4848]

I deleted my Instagram account as I felt that every time I’d scroll on there an add would come up and I would go to the online store. I wouldn’t necessarily purchase but I was always window shopping. Now I’ll make a list of things I would like to buy and only purchase when I have the money. I currently have only 3 “unnecessary” things I’d like to buy and for me that’s progress 😊

[@itsjustmel1217]

I like... don't even go shopping anymore... this video probably be good for all my relatives... lol. But they won't watch it. I ask myself these questions so often I can't even go shopping anymore. On the other hand I really appreciate the gifts my family gets me because I don't buy myself things anymore lol.

[@claireenjones9573]

I can totally relate! I've come to the point that I hate shopping. The things I'm gifted from family are very small items like a bracelet or a pair of earrings, and I'm glad things like that aren't bulky or take up space. I've been a minimalist for a year now.

[@therobotdevil2284]

We really do need to give ourselves grace, stores like Target and all online shops are strategically arranged based on data driven algorithms and floor plans to attack our human weaknesses - but we can fight back! Thanks for these super helpful tips!

[@kathyk4901]

Being a new mama who breastfeeds at all hours of the night, impulse shopping has definitely increased. I'm going to try a 7 day shopping freeze! Thanks for the inspiration.

[@nicoleziegler1486]

I found I did that too!

[@MrsCourt]

Oh my gosh good luck!! I liked watching short KZbin documentaries while BF, or anything Ashlynne puts out honestly

[@GenuineLaughter]

I enjoyed playing Stardew Valley on my Nintendo Switch. My husband also binged shows suth me. Couldn't do anything else but sit for hours lol

[@MandalaBunnyhome]

@@GenuineLaughter my SO bought me a Switch to use during breastfeeding also lol

[@pooja2079]

@@nicoleziegler1486 😝

[@florentinabinning5743]

Wow.. for the first time in my life I read the comments on KZbin channel and I am very impressed how supportive and nice are all the messages. North America has a educated population, unfortunately in Romania and other countries from Europe, people are very rude and critisezing everything that an youtuber will say, even the ideas are really good and useful. I am so happy that I moved to Canada and enjoy polite people. That's really a great quality of a developed society and I wish to become a legal citizen. From inside I already feel true Canadian and I am really grateful for everything that North America is offering me. I support minimalism, sustainability/ zero waste, self growth, multiculturalism, diversity, food from all over the world, exposure to so many cultures... the list is long.

[@luckypenny4263]

Yes this is me ! Costco is my weakness ! Great video thank you

[@avoccrs8367]

I HONESTLY NEEDED THIS

[@AshlynneEaton]

Oh I’m so glad to hear that!! 🤍

[@sacdaabdurhman]

Feeling like you're constantly overlooked can make us question our worthiness Your worth can never be determined by someone else, People not giving you the credit that deserve is always their loss. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone.

[@bex438]

These are some great tips Ashlynne 👍 I love an acronym that Lydia Senn spoke about on one of her videos, it's the HALT method, don't buy anything when you're Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired, it's so true across all the shopping categories, especially not buying groceries when you're hungry, I've learnt that lesson the hard way 😉

[@pezgurl09]

I loved this video! I’m definitely an emotional shopper. I’m going to try to implement other things like going outside…etc instead. Thanks!!

[@ColleenJoudrey]

Great tips. One thing I do to help prevent me from overspending is to shop at our local stripped down grocery store. It only carries the essentials so it really limits our ability to buy the things we dont need. Bonus is that it's only 2kms away so we can bike or walk which also limits how much we drag home.

[@chillibird2511]

When I buy clothes I pick 3 stores to go to. I try on what I'm thinking of, carry the item whilst checking in the store. I have a budget and pick the number of say tops I planned to buy from what I tried on in those stores. I also write a list of what I'm intending to buy and think about it for say a month or so - avoids impulse buys.

[@maelstrommel]

After 20 years of basically just staying home, or within 4 hours of home, I have decided it’s time for me to start visiting the places on my bucket list (I will NEVER consider travel a waste of money). I have been out of control on Amazon and at TJMaxx buying travel and capsule wardrobe “essentials”. I really needed to see this and will definitely be implementing some of these tips. Thanks so much!!

[@NineTailedFate]

Hearing someone say 'within 4 hours of home' as if that's not massively far away from home is insane to me. I'm in the UK away 20 minutes is far away from the house. 4 hours is a once a year holiday destination, and most people will opt for something closer.

[@maelstrommel]

@@NineTailedFate The UK is on my travel bucket list, as well!! With my work, I can travel up to two hours, one way, if I'm visiting one of the offices I manage, so I guess four hours doesn't seem that much to me.

[@Shiryone]

All great tips. Lately Etsy has been my nemesis. In the name of supporting the little businesses it's become too easy to order things. Some were replacements, others were unnecessary. I recently repainted some frames and put new photos in them. I already had the paint, it was therapeutic, and gave a couple of spots an updated look. Yes, boredom can be costly.

[@cassandramarie97]

I love the idea of doing a no spend month! It would be really interesting to see how many times I have to avoid going to places like the dollar store where I tend to overspend often. I also never thought about thinking more long term about certain items, so I'm definitely gonna try doing that more. :)

[@SuzyYen82]

I love watching your videos. They have taught me a lot and helped me stopped my impulse buying and my other bad habits. I have been going on walks more often now when I feel down or stress or just feel like doom scrolling on a shopping website. It has changed how I look at shopping. And I am a much happier person now. Thank you ❤️

[@lehuamk]

I realized that I shop online for clothes that I barely wear now because I don't find it valuable to me, so why I even bought it? The honest truth, I didn't see my body fitting in with the clothes I see, only on the model and I was thinking it will make me look like that way, but I knew that every woman has a different shape of body so it wouldn't look the same on me, which it is sad to views on clothes like that. Waste of money can also be caused by being manipulated by sellers or companies that makes us think or catches our attention to buy it.

[@CrownedLadyoftheSea]

Great tips Ashlynne! I also use a few of these strategies and questions. In addition to shopping with a list, I try to force myself to physically carry all items I'm considering purchasing around the store (whether in my arms or a tote bag). This strategy helps me to literally lighten the load as I get tired as a final criteria/question to determine if I will buy it. I have to follow this strategy in particular at secondhand shops & thrift stores but also use it when shopping for necessities or a couple grocery items at retail stores.

[@sarahsmom1002]

I do something related. There's a mall within reasonable walking distance from my home. When I need something, I try to walk there whenever possible (unless I need to do a sizable haul of groceries, for example). That limits what I can buy since I have to be able to comfortably carry it home.

[@breec3346]

Yay!! Glad I get to be here for another week of your videos!!

[@elisabeththomas2633]

Thank you for the tips 😊❤️

[@sandrar4589]

My weaknesses are sales (when I see that I can get something much much cheaper than it originally was) and different Facebook kids' second hand clothing groups.. My daughter has so many clothes, but still when I see something nice that someone sells for a good price, I just buy it. Im now considering leaving from those groups for a while.. But this whole year I have been writing down all the things I buy. That gives me a good overview of my spending habits every month. I also have a wishlist and "things I need to buy" list. A lot of times when I want something, instead of going out and buying it, I just, wrote it to my wishlist.. And after a while I realize I don't want it to bad anymore.. And I have been able to delete quite many things from my wishlist over time 😊😉

[@amandahagen1907]

Ashlynne! This is a huge problem for me! One baby step- I recently gathered all of my MANY candles into a basket and made a pact with myself (and told my family for accountability) that I will not purchase any new candles until that entire basket is burned through. Then, I will buy several higher quality non toxic candles and enjoy those. Thank you for this video!

[@khroniclesofkoko]

So helpful and though provoking 🌻

[@taylor_falepapalangi]

i've been looking for this video and you did the best job out of all of them !!!

[@kaitlynjohnson4508]

Perfect timing I’ve been struggling with this lately!!! Such amazing tips and tricks thank you!! ❤️❤️

[@Klara_is_finding_herself]

This video couldn't come in a better time. Thank you 💚

[@avigailsumaylo6253]

I love your vlogs about stuff in our daily life. Just recently I started doing all of these things in your list. When I make a list I know it's something I have to get. And I go down my list if I need it right away or if it can wait. I totally have done the recheck my cart before I checkout all the time. Great tips!!

[@haniapuk522]

This list with 3 questions- really helpful 🥰

[@BSmeansBlueSalad]

Thanks. Needing this. Also love your hair and feel you could rock a pixie as well

[@joannafoster3423]

Great video! Tips like these were the beginning of how we became debt free.

[@boubakar5168]

Une vidéo bien faite une nouvelle fois bravo ashlynne 😊😊

[@alyssaking3663]

In big moments in your life, (going to college, getting an apartment, etc) I look book and see all the stuff I bought. Justifying extra items, but then memories connected to those. Now, while trying to budget watching your video was actually really informative and non-judgmental about how impulse spending can be limited. Thank you!

[@sonialariviere4700]

This is sooo helping me!! i needed these rules in my lifes. Thank you so much ..

[@clev409]

Her videos are so valuable 🙏🏼🤓

[@AshlynneEaton]

Oh thank you so much!

[@donnawiseman9311]

GREAT TIPS!

[@ankitadobhal119]

Loved it ☺️

[@usernamenotfound2898]

That’s how I feel with coffee and thrifting 😩.

[@chillibird2511]

Love the idea of rechecking your purchases before getting to the checkout - I do that with grocery shopping; I should with other shopping

[@samudrikamajumdar]

Thanks a lottt..really needed something like this...my online shopping time has increased a lott in last few mnths..time to go on spending freeze now!! Much thanks to you for the inspirationnnn❤️

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Happy Saturday night and I just wanted to say that your vlogs is amazing and I loved your reset vlogs because you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you

[@karenh4058]

I work in a grocery store so I hear so many people say “I only came in for one thing!” Yes, impulse shopping is something so many people do. Lol

[@kristen2646]

I'm a softie for thrifting. In my head, I justify purchasing things I dont need just because it is cheaper than full price. What has helped is to set a larger, aspirational goal. Trying to pay off our house is a much better decision than a excessive piece of clothing or trinket.

[@kitw76]

I’ve been working on doing more intentional shopping… it’s not easy but it can be done!

[@angiemettler8770]

Thanks for the tips! A spending freeze sounds like a good idea.

[@AshlynneEaton]

They’re so helpful!!

[@florentinabinning5743]

Thank you for this great videos that are changing me in a way my husband becomes very happy :)))

[@ervinsmoviecorner8748]

An inspired video that touches your heart! Keep up the good work, Ashlynne!❤️❤️🌻🌻

[@AshlynneEaton]

Thank you so much!!

[@ervinsmoviecorner8748]

You’re welcome, Ashlynne!

[@lynby2108]

So much good advice. Just today I went shopping for summer clothes, spent too much, feel exhausted and regret spending all that money. All I needed was a new pair of shorts. I’ll try a 7 day essentials buy challenge😀

[@AshlynneEaton]

That’s so awesome!! Love it 🤍🤍🤍

[@jordankate4848]

One thing I am making a conscious effort to do now is to return items that were impulse buys that I don’t need. You could rerun the items you didn’t need to purchase and keep the things you need and love 😊

[@miliseoanemuniz917]

My father is gone. Last midnight. I needed t d something, so I check my KZbin videos. I saw y video, and I felt a tiny bit better. Thank y so much.♥️♥️

[@RyanPerryRealtor]

excellent tips and a very timely video for me as i’m trying my hand at a no spend month! thank you as always for the great content!

[@AshlynneEaton]

Oh that’s awesome!! Love it!! 🤍

[@inkie18]

Great tips. I'm sure to try them. Take a walk in nature will be the first thing when I'm feeling not well. Thank you.

[@AshlynneEaton]

Oh that’s so awesome!!

[@lauramathews3151]

I really think that groceries are a trouble spot for me. As a toddler mom it seems most of the time I am eating 1 or 2 meals a day. Therefore when I do our bi-monthly grocery haul I am usually running on fumes or between the 2nd and 4th store, bc I am price shopping in these crazy inflation times. So even if I start off well, I may be starving by the end... or at the walmart or target superstores when you get distracted when you go from the foods toward checkout. Not the like magazines gum or candy, but the sections on the way out of the stores.

[@sharonshmuel3386]

Really good content lol ❤️✅💖

[@ktrudy1]

At the intro of the video, I feel like you know me all the way through. Lol.❤

[@kristismyk1930]

Very fitting timing of this video with Prime day 😂🥰

[@CitrouilleCitron]

I've frozen my purchases for years. I dont feel the need to go for shopping because I refocused my life on what really count. My bank account and the planet thank's me 😉

[@An_imaginary_friend]

I needed that. It’s a topic that people don’t talk about often. My problem is not the impulse buying of unnecessary things, but that it’s chaotic. I want to save money and plan expenses. And a no-buy-week or month might help to restart. And often there are deeper issues behind impulse buying. So ask yourself: why do I want to buy all this? How do I hope it will make me feel? And how do I feel before I do impulse shopping? What feelings are there?

[@micheleohmer4117]

When we make the decision that we have enough, more things become a waste and a burden.

[@asaloliyaee9457]

Perfect😍💖

[@cwunsche]

I like the idea of doing a no spend month! I’ve done it a few times successfully, and avoided many impulse purchases or even suspended regular household purchases for a month, but then the next month I treat myself to a few things and/or need to restock household items. Then it just feels like I’m back where I started! I guess the more times I do a no spend month I’ll see the benefits.

[@AshlynneEaton]

For sure! And finding consistency in your every day life takes time. Keep it up!!

[@heavenhall3512]

I remember when I started retail therapy from my anxious feelings of work the next day and I would buy the night before to feel better. I always wonder where my money goes because I have literally no idea and I wanna do better

[@florentinabinning5743]

You fully described me :)))

[@hnskinner]

I got so anti-impulse buying that I would never buy anything even if I loved it. These days I will pick up a decor or item that I really really like in store, it's pretty rare for me to find things I'm really interested in so it doesn't happen often. :)

[@renitatellis7772]

I go shopping whn am in a rush 😅 I hardly find time to wander around . Jus buy whts in my list ad rush home 😊

[@sbug4]

Alright..listen..counterproductive but where do you get your jeans and plain white tees. I love them

[@ladylin3026]

I'd love to know the answer to this. When you ask yourself the 3 questions before checkout, do you put it back if the answer is No to any of the 3 questions? Or only if No to all? Lol not me looking for a loophole.. "Do i need this" is a loaded question! 😆 loved the video

[@kadrikiis8654]

In my opinion, watching videos abroad, there are many stores where things are super cheap, and that's why people buy things they don't really need. In our country (Estonia), things are not cheap at all, and that's why there is no temptation to buy things just for the sake of beauty.

[@israa02]

i love it

[@AshlynneEaton]

🤍🤍🤍

[@pamelajohnson4989]

I've started asking.myself a question when i go to a specific store for a specific item and find myself distracted: Did you come here for this? This stops me from picking up the item for a closer look. They say once you touch an item, it os harder to say no. Of I find myself still thinking about the item a couple of days later and have evaluated my need of it, I may go back. I have noticed that this has helped at least some of my impulse spending.

[@eabaggins]

Month was too long so I did it in halves: Jan 1st to 15th, little spending on books and then 15th to 31st maybe a meal out

[@elisamartinez381]

Lisa Gomez

[@robinmp8300]

I love sweedish fish LOL! :) I do that all the time, put all kinds of cool stuff in my cart and before I check out 99 percent goes back out of the cart LOL! :P

[@annlavine3576]

i return things

[@SanctifiedLady]

Pinterest gets me inspired to spend money!!

[@Planting_daisy]

I just love all of your videos! But this…. This one spoke to me. Oops! Thank you for the tips!

[@AshlynneEaton]

Aww so glad to hear that!!

[@noriz04liz]

Absolutely right ..l love window shopping and end up spend my money.. but now I try my level best to save money instead

[@edithviolette]

This is great! Target is my downfall

[@AshlynneEaton]

Haha I get that 😅

[@wckdcrazycool]

Totally in sync with the vibe and messaging of this video. Buuutttt…where did you get those bar stools in your video thumbnail 😅

[@AshlynneEaton]

They’re from Target 😅

[@sarahtorres8421]

The tips of “avoiding stores, deleting apps” and “trying a no-spend challenge” seems a bit like the dieting mentality that can end up causing feelings of deprivation and then bingeing. I wonder if those methods have long term success? From my experience, they didn’t help me for very long until I fell back into my spending habits. I think the other advice of bringing your attention to why you’re buying it, what is your mood, and do you need it is a more effective way to impact spending habits. Ive also fallen victim to returning impulse buys but then doing “girl math” and buying other items because i feel like i got my money back from the return. 🤦‍♀️

[@raheelazam6385]

Hi beautiful awesome work I like it thanks for sharing 💖💟💖💟💖💟❤💟💖💟💗💞💖💞💖💞👍👍👍👍👍

[@koko137591]

🖐🏼🙂

[@elisamartinez381]

I think that she could do a video about cleaning

[@badcuzimpeachey]

I'm a amazon and temu shopper when I get sad I just buy. I'm trying my hardest not to shop cause I need a car 😩

[@Cat-ik1wo]

Stuff is no different from food or anything else. You see it, you desire it, you buy it, you have it then either you did not like it or you did, but you get too much of it. After a while, you get your use out of it then you have to eliminate it. Trash or toilet, its all the same. Everything changes and everything passes.

[@ginadignadice6086]

Giiiirl online shopping is my weakness 😭😭😭

[@ryanpegoraro2697]

Hi Ashlynne i just absolutely love all of your beautiful videos and your channel that i absolutely love so very much you are such the greatest most sweet beautiful gorgeous woman ever in the whole wide world i love you Ashlynne Hugs xo.

[@AshlynneEaton]

Thank you!!

[@ryanpegoraro2697]

Why your so very welcome Ashlynne xx.

[@squisitissima2810]

One of the things I do Is factor in a category in my budget for treats. Right now I allot $25/month. I use the money any way I choose and since I've budgeted for it, I feel zero guilt about using it. I take out the $25 in cash. I can use it for a latte once a week or spend it all at once on a manicure. Knowing that I have money I can spend on little things to make me happy limits my desire to impulse buy. If I blow through the $25 in the first week of the month, I am mentally trained to know that little treats are not in the table until the next month. It's become a habit.

[@giainto5564]

Intro is too long. Almost 4 minutes.

[@leahgillette7508]

Excited to watch! Definitely came at a much needed time🤍

[@AshlynneEaton]

So glad to hear that!!