how to stop overcomplicating life - practical stoicism 101

[@oamahana]

"Take things as they are, and not what they could be” wow, it really reasonated with me in some ways

[@rascal_lipton_tea]

When I entered my mid twenties I took on stoicism naturally, I didn't realize it was an entire concept/philosophy.

[@oamahana]

@@rascal_lipton_tea Stoicism is really calling me right now, I want to learn more and it !!

[@Bbbuuusssttterrr]

Bruh women always say men are insensitive and theyre actually "emotionslly intelligent" u poison boys minds early to think the way you do it leads to the same rise in femenine mental health issues in boys and then some ho makes a video saying thinking like a man changed her life and u act like its a miracle😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@a.oxo.a]

Fr, I FELT that, like rlly *felt* that

[@veronikaljungberg7149]

Yeah, i’ve wasted years of my life trying to understand why people behave badly instead of letting them go and focusing on what makes me happy and calm.

[@rachelr22]

Its especially hard when we don’t understand how they can he that way when we can never be so and treat others that way

[@veronikaljungberg7149]

@@rachelr22 yes! The ”good projection” is real.

[@TheCosmicCinem4]

Me too. Best decision ever

[@Zero-cw4qj]

Yes me too.

[@Girlwithapurse03]

Your comment is for me! I swear that is what I’m realizing right now in my life

[@PPSSss777]

Be strict with yourself and tolerant of others, the only person you should compare yourself to is you but from yesterday. I love this so so much!

[@bloom9586]

What if i was much better in the past and now im like shit

[@nadierko5285]

@@bloom9586change your mindset

[@thebawseladykc]

4:55

[@Honeydoyou]

Be ruthless to systems, be kind to people

[@radishdocx]

@@bloom9586 same

[@clairewulf]

the best advice any therapist ever gave me was that when I'm feeling a strong emotion that scares me, I should lean into it and let my body feel it. whenever I'm anxious I let my body feel the physical feeling of anxiety and it poses within seconds. running from our emotions makes them stronger, but feeling them for even one or two seconds will stop them having power over you. it works literally every time.

[@KZesty]

Can confirm, I've been doing trauma therapy and EMDR. I realized I had been intellectualizing my feelings and not REALLY feeling them. I work hard to give myself space to feel like shit when my body needs it. I feel lighter afterwards and happier the next day.

[@ilagreen67]

This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you!💕

[@rivkat801]

"you shouldn't deny yourself humanity" really stuck with me

[@dustinmiller2775]

"Seek nothing outside of yourself." ~Miyamoto Musashi

[@sergiosuarez5510]

Except jesus

[@opellahleu906]

​@@sergiosuarez5510 seeking God rather than Jesus is more fun in my opinion, but the God is in each one of us so let's just discover ourselves

[@wachol3]

"Our minds are our prisons but they also hold the keys to our freedom." That is powerful, thank you for sharing.

[@ams13934]

This was like therapy, I’m addicted to video games, depressed and overweight plus I have adhd and I’m suffering immensely. I find it hard to get out of bed every single day. I’m listening to KZbin videos as a way to help shift my mindset and something really struck a chord with me in the last minute of this, I started crying all of a sudden. I feel like something has shifted so thank you. 😊

[@Gemagomezvlogs]

I got chills when you said “you are divinely protected “ omg

[@Rainamoon]

I don’t think you understand the weight of this video and how much I needed this. Thank you so much for putting this out there. I don’t know if I would have seen another day had I not found this.

[@nouranarnar]

i hope you're doing okey

[@Rated-aria]

Sending you so much love 🫂💞❤️‍🩹

[@matmatymat]

same here, there's always paths to know that may let us want to keep going, hope you're doing okay

[@mamaknow8056]

I felt that too 🤗

[@KZesty]

Much love 💖 keep going

[@gaiatriaglaia]

When you mentioned that spirits miss feeling heartache, joy, even the taste of strawberries... I think you summed up everything perfectly. Such an amazing video, thanks!

[@rascal_lipton_tea]

I didn't realize that this was an entire philosophy/concept until recently. For me, this felt like a natural progression to adapting to life as I grow older and enter different life stages, granted my base personality lends itself to this disposisiton.

[@Laf631]

"When there's a problem in your life, it either has a solution or it doesn't; you can either do something about it or you can't" was perception shifting for me. There's things I wish went differently, but I can't make other people behave the way I wish they would. And meanwhile, there are things within my control that I'm not doing anything about... Definitely something to work on.

[@cheebiumi8715]

It’s hard when your surrounded by so much negativity in others that strive so vastly to bring you down with them

[@malshiluv2352]

this exactly!!

[@24hourdog]

THISSSS

[@essieboo9974]

As someone who is currently afraid of their own thoughts this video has been very opening thank you

[@valerierose817]

“If these people don’t bring me peace. They are out of my life.”Love that!

[@idfchae8412]

one thing that i saw on a tiktok MONTHS ago, with the caption "how are you always so calm" was the affirmation: "everything works out for me in any given point of time, even if i don't feel it or don't believe it, it's true, and it's happening right now."

[@transsexual_computer_faery]

so getting a terminal disease is a good hting?

[@khanyisatv]

@@transsexual_computer_faeryNo one ever said that everything that happens in life is good, but everything creates some kind of change or shift in your world view. An illness of that nature is objectively tragic yes, but no one who has ever experienced that could say they went unchanged by it. It’s not about good or bad, it’s about purely accepting the things that we cannot change in life.

[@aadyaarora211]

she has what it takes to be a youtuber with 1M subscribers real quick

[@LosAngelesLaura]

Absolutely!!!!

[@msplayer08]

Never understood why she hasn't got them yet!

[@georgie5870]

Let's just be glad the video reached us.

[@biancavillarreal2562]

@@msplayer08because most people don’t want to hear this

[@bigtrubs6173]

Yes 100% she's going to be super successful in whatever she does , she's amazing

[@aliciakayartsandcrafts]

This solidifies my reasons to stop drinking. All it did was lead to trying to numb my emotions. Love this video.

[@davelevesque9077]

Thanks!

[@MaeAliceSuzuki]

thank you for the support ☺️🙏

[@lus_kai]

i didnt know i was practising stoicism without knowing that its a whole another topic . I've always found it sm easier to live life with this mindset . definitely agree a whole lot with this .

[@dwlas]

Great video. Speaking of being comfortable being alone, that does not mean spending your evenings scrolling on your phone by yourself. It means actually sitting in reflection with your own thoughts.

[@scentsoftravelmeditation]

Your the 1st female KZbinr I’ve seen to speak about stoicism It’s refreshing tbh

[@yeonjunhour3733]

It’s because the extreme stoic people are against feminine and the féminin energy. It’s very very male centric and all the philosophy have to regards of the female perspective. If you are a girl, when it comes to stoicism, take what resonate with you and LEAVE what does not. Being soft and allowin ppl in your heart won’t kill you, isolating every emotion you deep negative and not understand the root cause of your triggers will

[@LeahIsHereNow]

Really? There are a whole bunch of women who talk about it on KZbin.

[@scentsoftravelmeditation]

@@LeahIsHereNow i think they’ve been increasing recently This world would be a lot better if women learned stoicism tbh

[@nexithedestroyer]

@@scentsoftravelmeditationwhy do you say that?

[@scentsoftravelmeditation]

@@nexithedestroyer why not?

[@Lottiya]

I’m sorry it’s off topic but your room is so beautiful 😭 The walls, plants, chair… the chair is so pretty ahh Perfect vibe. Love your aesthetic

[@ceevision4764]

"... Baby you need to think that you are incredible". Yess thank you, you are a wonderful and beautiful soul.

[@katrinamartinn]

You have no idea the impact this video has made for me. Simply hearing these words can change a mindset. Thank you for sharing ur wisdom girl

[@Bffgfcsrjbdknvct]

Came off antidepressants after 5 long numb years. The loud thoughts brought me here today. Keep sharing. It means more than you know.

[@heyyy1325]

thank you so much for this. honestly I've been feeling so, so, so much anxiety for so long and it feels like actual torture but I'm realizing I'm the one torturing myself. so much of what you said resonated so much with me, so from the bottom of my heart I want to thank you for this. know that your videos are really helping people out- at least 1 person, you are really helping. and to whoever's reading this: if you spend your life running away from yourself, not facing yourself, you will spend it in a perpetual state of anxiety, even when there is a clear solution to your problem. even if it's really, really hard, do not escape your problems. face them. I believe you can. I promise the perpetual pain of running away feels worse than the temporary pain of facing it. there's always a solution, you just gotta find it and allow yourself to take it, even if it's scary. the best thing you could ever do for yourself is to choose to get better. and remember- it always ends. nothing is ever forever- so long as you choose to get better. so choose that. deal with your sh*t. keep it simple, don't overcomplicate things. simplicity is really the key to life.

[@AmbersDaintyThrowBlanket]

Thank you ❤

[@unclevalerie3587]

one time this family i was living with, the son asked me for some advice so I said it like this “every emotion we experience, we are so lucky to be able to feel so it’s best not to take your feelings for granted, happiness, anger, grief, we are so lucky to be able to experience these feelings. Being human is an a amazing once in a lifetime experience ” so I loved hearing you say this it makes me realize that no matter what, my emotions are normal and I’m not craaaazy cause after I moved in with my family after this, I am experiencing so many emotions and now I realize I’m just getting a different human experience and it won’t last forever , hopefully

[@MokaandChai]

I had a huge successful biz and when Covid hit I lost everything practically overnight. It took be awhile to recover but you are right it works. I am doing back the same things and principals I took to build before. Now I’m rebuilding and even started this small new channel at 53. I’m so impressed with you girl. You are doing great sharing this with everyone. Thank you

[@DaysOfFunder]

I came in with a shite mindset And left with a smile and a little hope.

[@lucyLu932]

This gave me so much comfort in my heart. I’ve been. Trying to move forward in my life this way and this was even more confirmation for me to keep on the path. Thank you and I love you for sharing this message and how you feel.

[@spunkiQT]

Omg I did NOT expect this video to make me cry 😂😭😭😭 thank you you beautiful soul! 🙏🙌 I think I need that book you mentioned

[@sammcarr1423]

ate a strawberry today literally started crying after you said that.Realizing I've been creating so many limiting problems and believes that have been stopping me from where I need to be. I am limitless!!

[@rain2568]

“Those who can’t be alone, can’t be anything.” - Miyamoto I cannot stress enough how important individuality is. Being alone may be scary at first, because it gives you time to face your thoughts and emotions. But once you liberate from these, you’ll gain a different perspective in life. And how important the present moment is. It’s the only thing that is real.

[@polegoddessjourney]

Thank you so much for creating this video. I genuinely started crying when you were talking about the spirits and what they miss about being human. I just let the tears fall. It really hit my heart and that message I needed dearly. I ready to truly change my life again. I did it many times before and I can do it again! 💕💕💕 sending you so much love

[@angelinadamiano8924]

As someone who is finishing an outpatient program right now, these concepts are referred to as Mindfulness and cognitive skills. I love what you are talking about!! Your have referred to thought distortions, thought reframing, self-awareness, thought stopping, and radical acceptance. this is truly a magical concept that can really help people heal! :) The only issue I have is that humans feel and it should be seen as natural and valid. Feeling leads to processing and then to healing.

[@imseahorse27]

Hi, fellow anxious alone fearer here. I’m speaking on my own experience as I address (9:38-9:53). I never really grew up with the idea of being alone demonstrated. I grew up where things were constantly buzzing and my activities, actions, and tasks moved from topic to topic with no alone time being incorporated, so I never developed the idea of alone time having a priority. Recently, I’ve been doing some soul searching in a quest for emotional stability and understanding

[@carrie-kari]

Your tips are practical and easy to follow, and your positive energy makes it all so inspiring. Thank you for helping us simplify our lives and find more joy in the process!

[@24hourdog]

This video alone changed my life. I come back to it every few days to remind myself these important lessons❤ thank you so much

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

I've been preaching contemporary stoicism since the latter half of 2019, and I'm glad to see a youtuber I genuinely respect and admire bring more attention to it, since more than ever when most people are more reactive than proactive a la most people who're online as of late, contemporary stoicism(or what you call practical stoicism) is needed more than ever

[@MaeAliceSuzuki]

thank you for the support 💜 glad to hear you’re spreading the word, it’s so needed

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

@@MaeAliceSuzuki why anytime

[@tammysueher7533]

I feel that when one has passed on, there's no more feelings. When I see my loved ones that passed on in my dreams, I see there are no emotions in their faces.😢 The presence is a present 🎁

[@goldocotillo]

Love that you have easy to read captions throughout the video! So so helpful to watch it anywhere, whether on the metro or elsewhere

[@mysti_calmagicnyy29246]

This is actually so comforting to hear summarized and have a name/more better philosophy put to it. Literally my inner monologues and observations over the past few weeks months -> about a year now even. yeah idk , always been a deep thinker kid hence my quietness.

[@lilyworfolk4395]

I do agree with what you are saying to a certain extent and can really see how having a stoic mindset can improve people’s sense of autonomy and choice which can be very empowering. The one thing that I think is too brushed over is that for people who have experienced serious and ongoing trauma is that it can become very entrenched within their behaviours and effects how they physically feel and respond too. If somebody has C-PTSD or PTSD, it can take a long time to develop strategies for managing this and often specialist support is required. It’s not as simple as thinking, well I just don’t think about it that way and then the next minute they’re suddenly carefree and looking at the flowers. And like I said above, I do agree that having a stoic mindset is important and helpful, however there are situations where that alone is not enough.

[@melramos3234]

Shoutout to the universe for putting this video on my path! ❤ thank you for this info! I will change me

[@monicaestrada4889]

A problem isn't a problem if it has a solution. This may sound so stupid to other people but as simply as she said it, I needed it. This was processed in the mind of an anxious overanalizer and it really soothed me. Wow. It's insane what you see as a huge ass problem can actually have very simple solutions. Bless uuuu queeeeeen 💚💚🙏🏼

[@nikitadeshwal2869]

I love your videos , I have been having a lot of confidence issues and your videos really helped me stop being a people pleaser and I am workingonyour advice to make myself better. You are like an elder sister to me.❤

[@serpentesignis]

Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law! Silence the mind and the Will springs forth as a Lion! Great video

[@Comingintoglory]

Ur so amazing and sweet! Your words of affirmation throughout the video made me cry. You have such a beautiful soul

[@kirbfx]

Marcus Aurelius is my favorite stoic and former Roman King. His words always deeply resonated with me, so much so that I would listen to audio version of 'The Mediations' (his life's work) he wrote every night. So many times, I would think to myself, it's like I'm listening to my grandfather sharing his wisdom with me. Well, I had my ancestry DNA test and it turns out, he is my ancestor. I had never been so shocked yet not surprised at the same time 😄 I highly recommend listening to the audio version of 'The Mediations' by Marcus Aurelius read by Duncan Steen as he reads it properly

[@lakshmireddy2237]

Girl, thankyou so much for being you ! I had been having a rough day and felt very lonely cause i grew as a person but my friends didn't and honestly everything that you've talked about, i relate to it so much. I'm so glad there's a person out there who thinks like me yk , all the spiritual stuff and self improvement. I'm so thankful for you for uploading this video.

[@EcomCarl]

Beautifully put-stoicism's focus on personal growth and mastering oneself is timeless wisdom. Embracing virtues like courage and kindness brings clarity, even in challenging times. 🌿

[@hallienewell5505]

The last two minutes of this video made me cry. Thank you :)

[@claudiacaro624]

The algorithm recommended this for some reason and its all i needed rn. Thank you so much for this. New sub!

[@Elaine_kpopcovers]

Hii, just wanted to say that I rlly appreciate your perspective, it's such a unique idea that I haven't seen been talked about so far. Being a stressed student who always subconsciously compares themselves to others and someone who's relatively sensitive and emotional, you don't understand how comforting it is to hear this! Ty and keep up the quality videos girll❤

[@alaskawolves]

I resonate a lot with u. It's like looking at the mirror. Thank you for embodying these concepts and way of being and sharing it with the world.

[@evanauli8092]

Ur energy is so healing gah dayum

[@PhoenixStar1111]

i'm so grateful to have come across your channel

[@camilaGomez-be4ij]

I’m so greatful I came across this video and your page. I’m a mess and have tears in my eyes but I feel joy and bliss. Such a simple message, but so powerful. Thank you ❤

[@scifiwasabii]

7:43 im eating a strawberry while watching this 🥹 ive been so lost, depressed, anxious and numb. ill appreciate this strawberry for those beautiful lost souls 🤍🪽

[@enbyeatsfoodie]

Why was this video the EASIEST to comprehend out of the thousands of self-help videos ive ever watched!!! Love this content, thank you!

[@IntrovertedAlice]

I believe my spirit guides are watching, I’ve been seeing a lot of angel numbers, and also I really needed to hear this, as someone who sometimes acts out of impulsively, and overthinks staying calm ofc was the best decision, I’ve been on my self healing journey.thanks for this helpful video

[@summerbreezeeee-h2u]

this helped so much, thank you for all these videos!! never stop! ❤❤🎉🎉

[@min3Allmin3]

Stoicism really has been one of the greatest keys in transforming my life!! And guided me into practicing detachment 😌Also you're so CUTE🩷

[@maryarmy4525]

I love this video, literally is so healty and lovely, thank you so much 💗✨️

[@JayMitchell-gc3nt]

Mae Alice Suzuki: Very profound in her own genuine way.

[@Moonn_spell]

When I clicked on the video and you started talking, I immediately felt peace and calmness, you gained a new sub thank you for the lovely advice ❤

[@emilysarah.5509]

thank you for making this video, it came into my life in divine timing. every word resonated with me. i appreciate you making this

[@_dani.torres]

I feel the same :)

[@Conhecimentoparaempreendedores]

That was beautiful. I am grateful for your life and for what you just taught me!

[@BakercalledGhost]

I love the concept of stoicism. To me, contrary to popular interpretations, it allows you to feel life and emotions deeper. It allows you to realize you can control these things, and take in the fact that you are experiencing life. The good and the bad. It lets you pause, and feel. Rationalize, and see things from an overhead perspective

[@BakercalledGhost]

That being said. Not blocking out emotions. But feeling them on a more personal and deeper understanding type level. But not letting them control you as a person. Separation of self and thoughts / emotions

[@SabakuNoDesserts]

I would recommend everyone to read this book "the courage to be disliked". It really changed my life and mindset

[@Sweptbythesea]

I love the way you speak when you say these things. It feels really genuine and a lot of the things I needed to hear to bring me back to this place. I come and go in and out of it but for the past decade I have spent more time out whereas before that, more time in. I adore you. Thank you, Mae. Subscribed

[@sara_36511]

Just learned about stoicism rn but this is how i naturally try to live my life and im known as sweet. I do appreciate the extra guidance i am about to learn as i watch the video.

[@AwwesomeVal]

I dont really know what stoicism is, but I do what you said to in this video already. These are all amazing things to do and are greatly helpful. I never actually realized when I changed into adopting these practices, but I definutely think this way now, and I know i didnt use to.

[@Hailey-ot8oo]

Thank you. You made me feel more accepting of myself.

[@cellardoor1626]

Thank you I needed to hear this, it made me feel so much better. I listen to your videos when I feel alone becos it feels like a friend is talking to me

[@theunknown7894]

the last few words really meant alot to me. thank you. it made me cry

[@harleelroyalqueenzel3451]

I appreciate ur existence

[@gracemarzo]

thank you for reminding me of these values I discovered thru Ryan Holiday and practiced years ago at a depressing time in my life and stopped practicing them as life got "better". if I stuck to this mindset I would've picked myself up sooner. either way I'm glad I came across your video. it spoke life back into me! subbed

[@lxvenderbxe9171]

This video actually brought me comfort that I haven’t had all this year. I understand this more that you explained it, your energy and vibe is so calming🤍🤍

[@Rosemary-1996]

Love love your videos Mae so young and so wise

[@marsszzyy]

this might be one of my fave videos all time

[@sleepynonbinarygirlboyfriend]

off topic but i love how ur place is decorated! and the shibari frame in the back 😭 i love it

[@jamieelleix]

Wow you're amazing. This is lowkey how I think. I want to embody it though. Thank you so much I'm so glad I found you.

[@dottieverse]

7:06 i am a psychic medium as well, however, i dont channel what most would call ‘spirits’ but i do channel higher frequencies and messages; i have the gift of claircognizance. i was drawing something earlier in my notebook because i am doing this thing recently where i really listen to my emotions and.. ‘accept my humanity.’ i drew a strawberry on the page i was writing, but it was not just a strawberry. i drew a strawberry with a skull’s face on it. death/ transformation represented on a strawberry. this page i was writing on was expressing my limerance for someone and some things and how i was ready to accept it and release it, knowing i can feel it without guilt or shame, and i can release it all the same. it doesn’t mean i care not or love not the person or thing, just that its all okay and meant to be as it is, as it will be in the end. but right now is right now, and right now i’m human. this is humanity, right ? allowing myself to be here and not fear that any more. allowing my self to see who i am and remember that deep part of my self even if i was afraid to meet them before, its divine knowing that i have no choice but to go further or to remain in the past, the same as i always was. today i’m different. right now i am new. it was so interesting to me that your video showed up randomly. i’ve never seen you before but somehow you looked familiar so i clicked your video. i almost felt pushback from the very beginning, my ego was immediately calling you a liar and saying you don’t know what you’re saying; but you do know, and so do i. i know it and that why i clicked this video without reason. just with familiarity because this knowledge, this wisdom; its familiar. its true. its me, and its you. thank you for mentioning specifically the strawberry story about your psychic friend. that was confirmation for me through my own psychic ability. i love this video. thank you for being here and making it. your purpose rings loud and true in this video: your purpose isnt what you do, but the way you made me feel when you did what you did. thank you. i feel hope, i feel like i can remember peace.

[@AoiMusou]

I love your perspective on things Mae! I agree that we can only control what we actually have control over, which are our thoughts, feelings and actions. When I learned about the things that I’m not in control of, like other people’s thoughts and feelings, it was strangely freeing in its own way, helping me worry less about those kinds of things. And learning how to be grateful and learning how to accept things as they are also goes a long way

[@norwegianlass]

*Adds "The Daily Stoic" to my reading list* Thanks for this video, I found it really valuable to myself and my own journey.

[@meepmeep1341]

maaan it’s so hard to be kind in my environment when they’re always taking advantage when it comes to someone showing kindness. I’m hoping i’ll get out of this environment i’m currently in

[@iridescentmelody2179]

I was having a bad day and needed to hear this message. Thank you :)

[@artfromalthea]

Can't believe you have less than 10k subs - I was expecting to find 100,000!!! So glad I found your channel - badass vibes and great messages. I subscribed!

[@RicoMoneybags]

new sub here... if not for stoicism would not be where i am today... helped me grow my channel to where its now... rain or shine i always keep pulling up...

[@teeaymusik9811]

14.200 subs but barely views on new videos.. Purchased subs.

[@RicoMoneybags]

@@teeaymusik9811 yawn 🥱

[@RicoMoneybags]

@@teeaymusik9811 I’m not your enemy… the man you are afraid to look at in the mirror is…

[@teeaymusik9811]

@@RicoMoneybags Well that's even true lol. Yeah dont get it wrong, i didnt mean to offend you.

[@HaydeeSophia]

I believe on some instinctual level most of us want others to care about us because it is literally dependent upon our survival as well as the connection we have with others. We want to feel loved and know that we are important to others however we shouldn't have to compromise our integrity with those that truly care about us. Someone who truly cares about you wouldn't put you in a position that is detrimental to your well-being.

[@akyo47]

This video changed my life

[@TurtleDy-e4x]

i love your style , i love your tips!

[@buffcups]

This was refreshing to watch. Thank you so much for making this video.

[@ash139nit]

This is basically speed running DBT I love it. I wish everyone would internalize what she says in this

[@kay3-q8d]

All these things God/Jesus taught me through wisdom! Not perfect-I still fall back into the bad cycles of distraction…But drawing near to the Lord again brings me back to this level of peace that you speak of🤍 I enjoy this for those who don’t yet know God. Yet doing this with God himself will take you places you’d never imagined

[@peachy_lili]

I'm going on a camping trip today, and it's making me anxious because I'm an "inside girl". Just bought "the Daily Stoic" on your recommendation, on the spot, to take with me. ♡ thank you so much for the good advice, from a people pleaser.

[@nublackpope]

I found this very helpful. Thanks for posting this video!