How to Talk Minnesotan - The Minnesota Long Goodbye

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[@pwbmd]

You missed the end, where they’re like “God, they finally f*cking left!”

[@nolanmartin4813]

As a kid my mom would pick me up from friends houses and play dates. And we always knew you had another 45 minutes to a good hour or so of extra gaming time. The Minnesota goodbye is real people!

[@rockstarn77]

Lmao! That's exactly what my kids say about me now!!

[@Randomnescz]

Minnesotan: "Well .. I s'pose .." (translation: Time to leave.) This phrase is intended to expedite your exit. However, be prepared to stay another 15-45 minutes.

[@lillyannek2577]

@T Tribby.... Hahahahahah, SO very true!!!!!!! 😂😂🤣😂😂

[@cherie7725]

In Southern, it's "I better let you go"

[@Nictator42]

As a Minnesotan, this is painfully accurate.

[@veryaveragegamingstud274]

Nictator as a swede this is painfully accurate

[@MalawisLilleKanal]

Nictator - As a Norwegian, this is painfully accurate

[@pringelsthegamefreak]

Nictator that's crazy!

[@michaeljelena4566]

As a Serb, this is painfully accurate

[@cowboy5105]

Definitely makes me miss home but I don't miss the cold that's for sure.

[@pccajun5836]

Notice at 0:56 that the guest eats crumbs, rather than taking the last bar. Completely accurate Midwestern behavior.

[@jeanetteeastman1638]

lol

[@ruth_gordon]

Ahahaaaa! Good eye! 🤣🤣🤣

[@ze_rubenator]

As a Norwegian, this hits frighteningly close to home.

[@erich9177]

Yes, this is exactly like visiting the family in Vestlandet.

[@TheArrowedKnee]

@@erich9177 Fuck, as someone from Vestlandet, this is EXACTLY what happens every single time

[@mindhackz]

There’s a reason they’re called the Minnesota Vikings. It’s all norwegian lineage

[@Mackenzie_neu]

I wish I could say this was a lie but my family will say they want to leave at 7 and don't actually get into their car till 10

[@AnnikaLeigh]

SAMMEEEEEEE

[@gritchesthemonster4396]

To be clear, this is quite accurate of older Minnesotans, though it does appear in a milder form among younger people where leaving might take 15 minutes-1 hour

[@moongirl1361]

Gritches the Monster my husband is 31... it takes 5 hours most the time. Lmao

[@deawinter]

yeah I’m friends with a bunch of 20-30 Minnesotans and it’s still AT LEAST a 45 minute - 2 hour process even for the Youths. We are trying to make it shorter but it’s against our nature

[@inuchan74]

If someone leaves within 15 minutes it's weird and feels abrupt lol

[@soojmathur8160]

I always come back and watch this once in awhile. I think the funniest thing is that it's not just Native Minnesotans. My Parents moved here from India in the 70' and adopted doing this in that time.

[@jacobbrownrigg6074]

I am a Minnesotan and this kills me because of how this always happens.

[@nohillforahighstepper]

And in the winter, you knew you were about a 1/2 hour from leaving when the guys went out to warm up the cars.

[@smeltedcheese]

Norwegian taco salad lol

[@pjchmiel]

"Glorified Rice" :D

[@juliebetzel4528]

and glorified rice!!

[@SarahFanSocks]

In Michigan: Slap both knees, prepare to stand up, and say, "Whelp..." Exhale sharply. "I guess it's about that time."

[@MatthewThomasLange]

Growing up in Wisconsin in a largely German-American family was much like this as well! I lost it when the departing guests were given a huge grocery bag full of various foods. So true. Rarely was a "visit" concluded without some insistence by the host that the guests take some sort of food with them.

[@IrisAsuras]

Yep, we do that in Minnesota. "Care packages" especially if you didn't eat enough while visiting.

[@wolfen26]

Yep, this is accurate. Walked away from my folks house with 3 big bowls of frozen home made chili the other day. The long goodbye started a couple hours earlier.

[@Randomnescz]

Don't leave yet! You gotta take some frozen venison & walleye, and let me get a jar of homemade maple syrup from the basement..

[@nsxdarin]

in MN you aren't truly leaving until you stand up. you must stand up or you'll be stuck for hours.

[@tf2whackyengineer]

I'm a southerner, but this makes me wish I knew somebody in Minnesota who I could visit. Although we don't perform the ritual the same way, I like ot think that we are kindred spirits.

[@GameyRaccoon]

Need a dispenser here

[@Daveyjdigital]

It’s not ritual it’s just how it is somehow

[@JackFlakne]

I will always recall how in the mid-70s in Minnesota, a cup of coffee was a unit of time. As I was climbing into the rear-facing seat in the back of the station wagon, my dad would say, "I'm just gonna stay for another cup of coffee." I'd sit there for what seemed like hours, waiting for him to come out. The opposite of the long goodbye is the line leaving church, where everybody tries to hurriedly get out of there without being impolite, while at the same time not miss the start of the Vikings.

[@Feelersfeels]

wow, Minnesotans seem like the sweetest people.

[@yognut72]

the canadians of the US

[@IsaacCoverstone]

Ensec which makes sense, considering they share a border. Probably could be considered the same ethnic group.

[@nathanbuerkle6719]

Ariel Sanchez Ha! That's funny

[@nathanbuerkle6719]

Ensec correct

[@BKSF1]

it's nice the first couple of times but when you're on visit 500 it gets old. you still have to do it though even though the guests don't want to be there and the hosts aren't happy either, because that's the way she goes and you better not miss one of the steps or you will *never* be invited again

[@fredrichl]

It's a scandinavian thing. And the it's even lengthier far up north. When i was a kid my parents and grandparents used to take on a roadtrip to meet distant relatives up north. And they basically had to start warming up to leave days before doing so, doing round after round being persuaded to eat more, sleep over, check out something in the house or on the property, or being told old rehashed tales about who, why anad when someone, or their grandparents did something stupid or unacceptable, and why it just cant be forgiven three generations later. You get so marinated in coffee, cookies, food, buns, subtle gossip "Oh you know, they just did x, it really doesn't seem sensible you know" (Which equals they done fucked up, and should be shunned for a couple of generations) till you actually feel like going into the woods just to be alone. That seems strangely socially acceptable; Fishing and hunting is always a good excuse. That and servicing the chainsaw.

[@fredrichl]

And i'm a Swede, and live in Sweden, and this is soooo familiar.

[@generationallyadjacent4283]

lol my family is pretty much 100% German and the family feuds are ridiculous. I have a few aunts and uncles that won’t talk to us because we didn’t ask them to put in new windows when we remodeled 🙄

[@kewkabe]

The best bars I knew from growing up in Minnesota were the Mississippi mud bars -- chocolate fudge on top of a peanut-butter fudge. When you had to bring a dish to some event you'd either bring bars, or if you had to bring a hot dish you'd bring a casserole.

[@marcschultz9997]

Did they leave out the part where they take a picture together? Preferably making everyone get out of the car.

[@MattB619]

I wouldn't trade our culture for the world.

[@grineedahobob]

Omigosh... I was born in California but my family is from Minnesota and this was just like every visit I've had with them! Not that I'd want you to think I didn't enjoy it.

[@happydays3678]

This is old fashioned country style behaviour, all over the world I expect. Love your humour, makes me want to visit you from across the pond in England. It was always like this when I was growing up, and still is with close friends and family...right down to waving and tooting when finally parting. 🤗❤

[@lineaalba4035]

"The long goodbyes" of my younger years, oh what wonderful memories from Minneapolis.

[@flipngrip]

I am almost 40 and now realize why I usually honk the horn when I leave anyone’s house and I know live in Missouri- no one gets it

[@ahtech1990]

The way this is shot is brilliant, and adds to the humor. I fucking love this.

[@Thuase]

Makes me thankful that the Michigan goodbye is only half as long as the Minnesota one

[@ruth_gordon]

Your loss!

[@oliversoderberg299]

We ALWAYS tooted on the horn from a long goodbye in mahtowa mn at my grandmas farm !

[@IrisAsuras]

This is so real. I am a Minnesotan and yes I sound like it too often enough.

[@FreckleFoxShow]

Who else likes the long goodbye? Maybe I just love hanging with my family and going home with Tupperware and canned vegetables. Also it always seems the conversation gets better later at night round a bon fire or on a midnight walk.

[@wolfen26]

Especially if family makes sweet treats like cookies or pies.

[@dootqoot7485]

Michigander checking in to say traditions remain! I wave to my mimi about 7 times as im backing out and driving away.

[@alexlemke1209]

the guy in the black shirt is my English teacher hahah

[@ZachVanHarrisJR]

This is fantastic!! I'm in South Dakota and visit Minnesota a lot, this is spot on how it is out here lmao!!

[@TheMetalComedianene]

I was born a South Dakotan raised a Minnesotan.

[@kmj2000]

At 0:57 he doesn't take the last bar, just a small piece of it. SO MINNESOTAN.

[@koselig402]

every family get together is like this, ugh painfully true

[@RSRemington]

This is so accurate when we have family come over... hahaha

[@embe1]

Kenyan here. Its exactly the same here with the older generation. Drives me insane.

[@keithterrill2303]

My daughter wondered if we too are from Minnesota. Well, we do have a bit of Swedish blood in our genes, so maybe this is more of a Swede Long Goodbye.

[@zenfan1098]

Always happens to me when I visit friends and fam. Annoying, for me I have to tell people I'm exhausted to get them to leave my house, sometimes I've actually went to bed and they still stick around 😰

[@kyrashrake5656]

Only ok if they lock your door on the way out. I've even had a friend take my dog out/bring her back in before leaving when I'd fallen asleep.

[@NoraS-K]

As a kid, and even now, I wave goodbye until they are out of my sight. I didn't know that was a minnesotan thing. But makes sense since I live here.

[@emmaarts6596]

why is this so accurate lol

[@lavenderdryad2443]

this is exactly how my family is. i and my friends are even like this but to a much smaller extent that feels more natural to me but that im sure would still be obnoxious to non-minnesotans..

[@annepanetti353]

This is super funny and true 😂☃ it takes my brother an hour to leave any place he visits.

[@RogueAgent007]

I need more of this in my life. I need the other Lessons.

[@AlienWebguy]

"Did we do something wrong?"

[@AshleyLebedev]

Beyond accurate, painfully so. 🙏🏻

[@FlavorLab]

hahahaha Norwegian Taco salad

[@stephsviolin]

Minnesotan Norwegian taco salad has French dressing on it, for reasons no one quite understands.

[@richardanae8117]

Lol as a Samoan, this is painfully accurate.

[@TheVailTribe]

some times i like to give this video series to new friends that are not minnesotan.... so they can understand me LOL

[@wayne909]

This naturally happens. I didn't learn it from anyone. I didn't even know this a thing until I made friends from other states that moved to Minnesota and complained about me doing this when leaving places

[@jeanetteeastman1638]

Cracks me up every time - so true!

[@sogood4u489]

I'd hate to see it go to waste.

[@sogood4u489]

You know he never gave my tupperware back.

[@KurdishHeritage]

It's the same with Kurds! How funny.

[@azelo00]

is the two toots of the horn a minnesota thing, I thought everyone did that O.O

[@dereksmith6318]

MN thing I think that it's 1 is an accidental toot and 3 is obnoxious. It's MN for Bye-Bye

[@FennecTECH]

My family always did the Doot do do doot doot. Without the doot doot on the end and it always got me so flustered.

[@Cheezdealer]

@@dereksmith6318 And not too quickly in succession either, the video got it perfect. About a half a second in between

[@generationallyadjacent4283]

We watched this in my Minnesota heritage class lol

[@Jack_______oh]

2:59 is always my favorite moment

[@nickbachman663]

0:55 is mine. There is just one bar left and nobody wants to be the person to take the last one so they break off a little piece. 😂

[@JasonSetley]

Yep Minnesotan right here this is pretty accurate

[@Sunnytales]

as somone who lived in minnesota all my life this is accurate for older minnesotans

[@johnbates1694]

The guy in the green jacket was my Contemporary English teacher in highschool.

[@johnskogman5623]

I always stayed the night. slept with the host. Ahhh, memories.

[@TheLordGrundy]

Norwegian Taco Salad

[@TheWonderfulWino]

Are those rice crispy treats?? I like rice crispy treats.

[@thereseklopfenstein3398]

Scotcheroos, I think!

[@leahrnovak]

More accurate than you know. I've had all of these happen to me. Even spending the night. A hack is to have a dog at home so you can claim that you need to get going to take care of them. Or make sure people know that you aren't comfortable driving at night so you have to leave well before dark.

[@TheTishy44]

OMG this is so true. I learned not to say goodbye, I would just sneak out.

[@Mark-sy2bx]

Instead of the Minnesota Long Goodbye my family jokes about the (family name) Long Goodbye.

[@TheFly212]

For all you people born after say... 1985. Johnny Carson is like Markiplier+Jake Paul but talented and funny.

[@cowboy5105]

After years of MN family get together's I learned its just better to ghost.

[@annepanetti353]

Wildman Vagabond this is what I do too.. everyone thinks I am so rude

[@terrycordingley321]

The Irish Exit!

[@spicytunaman3172]

Haha, ouch😝 this is so so soooo accurate it hurts😴

[@sogood4u489]

Well I'll need my tupperware back.

[@cowboy5105]

1:16 best part LOL

[@sogood4u489]

If you don't take it it's going to waste

[@JackpineGandy]

ja, well...dis iss perfect, den

[@onlymans165]

Ah yes, my uncle had the vhs with this on it

[@SteveEdward_]

ND is like this too, lol.

[@onee]

The British Long Goodbye (Brexit).

[@TCord1964]

It's funny because it's TRUE!

[@thevikingwarrior11]

What year did this come out?

[@debsweeney9249]

Book came out in 1987, not sure about the video.

[@h8potus972]

Came out in Feb. 2023.

[@mattegeniet]

I think the video is from 1993

[@h8potus972]

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[@sogood4u489]

Well you got to take the left overs in a baggy.

[@omarsanchez9885]

Lol I'm Mexican and I always have this experience with white folks from Minnesota 😆

[@Bob-jm8kl]

I'm not like this. Once I have my shoes, hoodie, hat, coat, and gloves on...and know where my keys and phone are...and given a round of hugs...I'm right out the door. I have a friend where goodbye lasts many hours.

[@adm2204]

"That old green Merc" BUT ITS A LINCOLN Or am I missing something?

[@lamesauce3472]

Lincoln and Mercury are the same.

[@ibcbasketball6606]

Really old comment, but just thought I'd throw my 2 cents in. The car is a 1980 Mercury Marquis. Here's a link to a picture: i.pinimg.com/originals/50/6b/99/506b996f5055a095d8cd07f3e1dce32c.jpg The Marquis was Mercury's entry-level full-size car, a step below the Gran Marquis. If you were buying the car new, you had two engines to choose from: the ubiquitous "5-OH" 302 V8, or the 351. The base transmission option was a C4 3-speed auto. For a little more money, the buyer could opt for the new AOD automatic transmission, which was a 3-speed with automatic overdrive. As to why some Mercury's have the Lincoln hood ornament, I have no clue.

[@Glopdemon]

brutal

[@UniteForgetLeftRight]

My native Minnesota wife does this and it's probably the only characteristic I genuinely hate about her.

[@Son1UPTu]

I’m from MN. Lol

[@Lucas_Simoni]

I felt a strange mix of uncomfortable and welcomed.

[@patriot1294]

No it goes like this. Minnesota Nice= be nice to your face, then talk shit behind your back later. Passive aggressive.

[@theresam567]

It's not just a Minnesota thing. Lol.

[@bradr1913]

Because of these long goodbyes. We just throw you out now. Its get out time for you to go.

[@TimRobertsen]

This is so norwegian!

[@fatemeh.beauty]

It's exactly like Iranian people cultural

[@ashxylioset5447]

Thiiiiiis.

[@pattimcloughlin724]

norwegian taco salad : )

[@bruh7369]

NORWEGIAN TACO SALAD SANTA MARIA TEX MEX JAJAJAJAJA

[@recepgur5006]

Türk kültürü bu

[@sogood4u489]

How about my tupperware I gave you?

[@KRwegasira]

This is so much like how it is in Africa. 😂🤣

[@SLAGLE9]

Anyone else annoyed how Charlie Berens takes Minnesotan' stereotypes and spins it off as "Midwest"? I'm a northern Minnesotan currently living in southeastern Wisconsin (where Berens is from) and the culture couldn't be more different. Just a food for thought...

[@misslizzie8480]

Ohio has a version of this as well!