How To Talk To Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere

[@Denmosocial]

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[@Bismarck-S]

Step 1: Get Drunk

[@Display_name107]

😂

[@HalffillednotMT]

Step 2: Repeat step 1

[@WendyFag]

I got drunk and now I even more depressed and alone in a bar

[@PlumJessie]

I couldn't agree more 😐

[@Lukas-mi5nk]

As a man I really agree with the compliment topic. Someone complimented my jacket. Not only did it brighten up my day, I also still think about it to this day!

[@Denmosocial]

well said brother

[@Mikke-G]

I think that's just us men because we rarely ever get complimented

[@michaelralston3369]

Dude, I'm 57 and getting divorced 33 yrs. 40 yrs. together. A life time. The emotional low is unbelievable. You vids are an inspiration. your "Fuck it and just do it" attitude moves me. Yesterday I was a 17 Year old bad ass US soldier, Reagan years. Today, I have no idea. Haven't thought about my self in 33 years. Once the house is gone, I what to get your program. I never was much of a conversationalist. Need the help. Motivation right now is hard, to do ANYTHING. You talk to us like we have been best friends forever and, kick us in the ass when we need it. You have a special gift brother. I am grateful that I found you channel. Your the friend that will give a pep talk any time I need it just by a click. Thank you Denmo.

[@leld211]

Good Luck on your new journey. It must be hard, i cant even start to think how It is to divorce after so many years together...

[@vlazarus124]

Wow man Keep Your Head Up! 🔥 You are strong indeed , Life's crazy aswell Keep moving Forward Soldier.

[@MrDanthemanlyman]

I just got divorced after 7 years and it has left me a shell of my former self. I can’t even begin to imagine what it must be like after 33 years. I’m so sorry Michael. I wish you the best. I hope you come through this alright.

[@Bosstybrothers]

God bless you sir

[@mylesmiller5371]

Smoke a joint

[@vabriga1]

I went into language class (first hour) and asked "Is this AA meeting?". The best ice breaker ever.

[@benzaryaputra395]

For real though, my social skills have gotten better ever since watching Denmo. Thanks mann

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu brother

[@nbayern7000]

Thanks Denmo, couple days ago I went into a coffee shop, worked up the courage to chat to these 2 blondes from Ukraine, end up sitting with them for a couple hours. Feels good to not give a damn

[@crazetadpole8350]

My problem is that I am extremely socially awkward, especially with girls who are attractive and in groups with several people. Every single time I have this uptight, insecure feeling in my chest and stomach, where your breath suddenly stops and you can't think straight. That's why I now avoid the things mentioned above so that I don't get into this predicament. Even though I would like to be able to do it again, I don't feel comfortable in these situations and unfortunately I can't hide it. I pray every day that the people I don't want to talk to, or rather that the people I'm "afraid" to talk to will just leave me alone. As a child or young teenager, I was exactly the opposite. I always wanted to be the center of attention, make people laugh and generally just be seen. Nowadays I hate it when people only even look at me and I mostly want to be alone.

[@austindeklein5941]

Same exact thing with me man and I’m not sure why I pray you can find ways through it

[@Enviz00]

How to Talk with anyone (be in a good mood) 1. Observe something in the environment 2. Point it out to others 3. Talk about it

[@asheriko26]

One of my new favorite channels

[@Denmosocial]

welcome my brother

[@stewbeats3171]

My issue isn’t starting conversation it’s trying to keep engaging conversations with people who are naturally awkward 😂, I’ve always been social but non social people really be giving the most dry responses all the time

[@FernandoHermosa-i4o]

This is how i wish our dad act like this our brotherhood. this guy gives me comfort of everything.

[@CameronAlford]

I loved this video, sometimes the basics take you the furthest in life and you speak to them well

[@outhouse.wholesaler]

*goes to starbucks* "Hey pumpkin spice latte, i wonder how much sugar it has. has anyone had it?" *crickets* *everyone avoiding eye contact* *girls in the distance say something to themselves and laugh*

[@TheStevenSinger]

Lmfao

[@AB-ru5ux]

It says a lot about others than yourself. You did a great thing

[@devinhefner1991]

Story of my life

[@panzonecadutodifaccia]

What he’s saying is true, if your energy sucks (no matter what you say) people won’t engage!

[@apt9238]

Yeah there needs to be a video on how to deal with those scenarios. Like if you’re met with animosity what is the best way to deal with that?

[@cyberhonk-x4t]

this guy needs to get more noticed

[@Johnnyboybravo]

I have no problem breaking the tension. My problem is that after I get people talking, I go silent and I can't hold the conversation. I find myself wanting to leave it. It's as my mind goes completely blank and I can't gather things. Yes, I can say something like "oh look at you being all pretty and what not, when did you color your hair" she will answer with a big smile and after she talked for a minute or two, I will say that's cool and then it goes silent hoping she will continue the conversation. Sometimes I can repeat things she said to make her feel heard, but that's all I can do because my mind does so well in conversation. Is this adhd? People say I'm extroverted and cocky type, but I feel as if I'm introverted.

[@stekasenpai651]

Im the same man,i really dont know how to fix it

[@namek7981]

I feel like I have a mental issue feeling like this, this is a issue I have as well. Hope someone can properly explain why 😭😭

[@Lozzymee]

That's exactly my prob

[@Laughnow3]

Look it up dawg

[@rik9833]

I think you just have to listen more and see what's similar about you guys, maybe try to lead the conversation in a way. My 1 cent.

[@jamesadams6360]

I actually /don't/ enjoy being complimented. My instinct is that that kind of interest and positivity is deceptive. Feeling like someone just approached me concealing an ulterior motive puts me at unease.

[@jrm8206]

The phone pull is something I see so many times in public when the setting/ context gets a little uncomfortabele. Its very sad. How can we stop people looking at phones the entire day. It makes me hate my own phone more and more.

[@henry30000]

whenever my friends and i go out and sit down at a bar, we make it a point to not use our phones and converse w eachother or other people in the bar, i know this is rare and i’m grateful for my brothers

[@BigBellyBrookes]

I got pretty good at this, including a following step of active listening. Going the extra mile and picking up on something someone says and bringing the convo to their knowledge base and interests relieves all the tension on you to even bring up a topic. You can just ask them questions and be more knowledgeable about a topic that you would have never taken the time to involve yourself with in the first place, and that's what life is all about! That all being said, however, after 3-4 years of being thrown around by some corporate overlords, the public's response to COVID, Election Politics, and just generally living in a city, I've grown tired of having a conversation with anyone, anywhere, at any time. it's the opposite issue, I don't want to talk to most people because they either seem to have an ulterior motive, aside from getting to know a person, or they don't care at all what you have to say. I also have grown distasteful of whiney work talk or conversations about progress at a job the person obviously doesn't care about. I'm only in my 20s. If I had two things to add to this it's, one, learn to actively listen, two, trust in your interests, loved ones, and hobbies to lead a conversation and successes should typically be an end point, not the whole conversation. People hate gloating, but they like hearing you've succeeded at something you've worked hard for.

[@tmac326]

More often than not, when I have a random person compliment me or strike up a conversation with me, I immediately resort in my mind to thinking either, “Why is this person talking to me?” or “That was weird/awkward”. Usually, it’s only in the moment it happens though and later on I realize they were just trying to be polite, make new friends or make me feel included or appreciated. Wish I didn’t think this way and could just easily strike up chats with people wherever I go because I WANT to do that but I find that like Denmo says, there is a tension in the air in most places and it’s almost like people are waiting for someone to talk or that no one wants to or they are afraid to. My Gym is bad for that.

[@Monkofthecaribbean]

U must be gen Z 😂

[@Eduardo45]

​@@Monkofthecaribbeanmost of Denmo videos are for Gen Z...

[@tmac326]

@@Monkofthecaribbean Millennial actually. Nice generalization though.

[@Monkofthecaribbean]

@@tmac326 I was going to say millennial too, but as a millennial, thats not any better so thats why I lumped you into Gen Z lol. Same game different player

[@outhouse.wholesaler]

Yeah lol, "which pyramid scheme or religion are they about to pitch to me?"

[@cashpay50]

Before learning these, make sure youre comfortable with pause and silent first. Talk because you internally want to, not because youre tryin to fill in the blanks

[@DontBeATree]

Denmo you do a great job of modeling behavior for less confident guys. It is the best way for people to learn

[@Denmosocial]

cheers mate glad it helped

[@zachdevalk914]

This might be the best vid I’ve seen on the channel

[@abstract-thoughts]

All your content is fire 🔥

[@leodekleijn7712]

one of you best videos so far Denmo

[@daliso7665]

look up Newel of Knowledge video with the same title xd

[@nickrise6958]

This guy is an introverts worst nightmare haha

[@BobbyDavic]

this format really suits me

[@contentprince]

this video need to be a master class or a series on your channel

[@Sunwu-h9m]

Wow 11:00 truth

[@KieranRogers1]

Wish I'd seen this 10 years ago, a lot of this I think is quite obvious but I wish I'd had it pointed out to me as an awkward teenager. A video like this can easily become pseudo pickup style advice and that literally never works. I'd seriously advise people listen to this if they struggle, it's bang on.

[@TKPVisuals]

Learnt a lot from this video, thanks a lot for sharing

[@Denmosocial]

cheers mate

[@FrancescoRinaldini]

Nice video man

[@Denmosocial]

gotchu brother

[@JonasBestClips]

Whenever i speak about something, no matter how entertained i am, i always run out of things to say, and its frustrating

[@kabewar77]

When you run out of things to say, let there be silence. Let it marinate and stay relaxed. If u don’t think of something the other person probably will

[@Booper1211]

They don't​@@kabewar77

[@Booper1211]

Atleast in my experience

[@treeoflife162]

Also I find this is dependant on whether you are spending too much time with the girl. Sometimes it helps to invite others into the conversation. Changing locations or even where you are standing gives you time.

[@SAGGYASSASSIN]

I like the silence it doesn't faze me at all, I'm pretty introverted tho

[@MicahPotts]

He's right y'know.

[@mes04d]

Where’d you get that turtleneck? I like it.

[@iamjason1279]

I see what you’re doing there, I like that…

[@_abhishekpal]

Bro chill ​@@iamjason1279

[@taaha4532]

Hey Jack, I really love the content please keep at it. Can you just give a first step to start from and then we can build our way up from there? I have tried to start getting used to talking to girls by literally just asking them for directions. But I don't feel like it's a pretty good start. Some help would be deeply appreciated it.

[@HellMetal5]

Sos grande, Denmo!

[@Bangtang_Aje]

I am a korean man from S.Korea. I always greet people like "herrow" with thick asian accent, and people crack up. That's how I break the ice. And it is getting gooder and gooder 😅

[@MrJoeFuego]

Good thing you clarified, I thought u were from the North

[@mikeloatk-wo5mc]

@@MrJoeFuego😂😂😂

I will practice today at my aunt's funeral

[@ALIVE-Company]

Hey Denmo, no paragraph from me today. Thanks for the tips in the video!

[@Denmosocial]

glad to hear that!! my man

[@grinder3389]

might be the only video a person ever need right here, reached high enough level to try that

[@birke0416]

“I haven’t seen chairs like this since taco night at James Earl Jones house.”

[@opencurtin]

My problem is I can’t sustain the high positive out going energy socially once I break the ice I tend to have low gears

[@computerguymiguel]

Man, the words of encouragement at the end really do it for me, thanks for the great advice!

[@vicrattlehead8665]

It is weird being the only quiet person in the group. I don’t even know how I scored the friend group I did but it’s weird. All of them are friends with all these girls. I sorta just stand there…

[@krakqs5385]

I miss watching your videos where you just aproach People

[@jakemacisaac7899]

Wow I haven’t seen chairs like this since I was in middle school!

[@Casper-_-543]

I know everything about everything and I always find something to talk about. At worst I make things up.

[@Malice_Knight]

"And then you frantically pull out your phone like nah! Guugnnhhh!" Please never change your attitude Jack😂

[@omri10011]

So much fucking value. Really thankful i stumbled into your channel at my young age of 20.

[@Neoma1999]

Tip: dont care about the outcome. Practice makes perfect (with feedback of course)

[@rasleena2259]

Thanks nice video

[@BenitaTinae]

really liked this video

[@money0-neki9999]

30% people skip this video for just a comment called (step no1 Get a Drunk)😂

[@gfkust]

So. Go first. Go positive. And be constant in doing it. Newel of knowledge quote

[@bastlwastl761]

I am to scared even to talk to normal people and i have no idea how i can change this, even looking at people or girls makes me nervous

[@PaulYuNow]

I watch all the time but don't always comment. Just had to come back here after watching this yesterday to let you know that this is an absolute gold of a video Jack. Thanks for making this. I've heard this before from dating coaches like David Wygant (Hitch) and I've tried it in the past and it really works. Thank you for this important reminder with real life examples. This video is special to me, just like your video about how you just have to smile at everyone and talk to enough people to become magnetic.

[@klue8578]

I just ignore everyone and have my own bunch of fun

[@Masculinechivalry]

After watching your videos denmo i have make friends in gym now i can socialize in my gym it feels good .but i am still not able to talk to girls my oroblem is only girls i am not abke to approach and talk to girls. I dont know where i should start in my gym i can talk to people even now i had friends which i see daily but in case of girls i not able to talk to them 😭

[@icebreaker7738]

Just ask them how many Sets they have. Or if they have sometimes backpain from Training

[@Agge1914]

genius

[@katsuk4044]

bro you had(still have) such a great potential in the entertainment industry, some of the most original and fun content i had ever watched. Cant believe you are stuck doing repetitive self improvement vids. clearly you are making good money out of it thx to the high rpm of self improvement and your private community but still.. It makes me say FAWK to see my favorite youtuber like this..

[@ryebre4d230]

What about when they just dont talk to you? Especially here in finland people are very introverted and if you go talk to someone in public you will 80% just get weird stares and maybe a couple words

[@kamilszajabusa815]

In POLAND ITS SO HAARD CAUSE PEOPLE ARE SHY AND NOT OPEN FOR CONVERSATION WITH STRANGERS :/

[@trozner]

I was born in Poland and came to us at 3 years old. I feel I don't belong here due to everyone being so talkative and me being opposite.

[@SimonB.]

6:37 Hell no!

[@rafk2277]

If you are in the Balkans or eastern europe don't do anything this guy says, people will think you are a weirdo some may even become hostile

[@ReapingTheHarvest]

Lol

[@wagner9527]

Im going to Bulgaria next week, I am thinking about doing exactly what Demno says

[@Lord_AB]

What thing he said they'd consider weird ?

[@gorza014]

Mislis da smo tolko drustveni?

[@jbluis2k]

Good Video

[@JeomeGera]

best!!!

[@vlazarus124]

W Jack.

[@freezinghome8937]

Would be very nice to give credit to the guy you took inspiration from. For anyone asking, he took (big) inspirations from Newel of Knowledge for this video. Even taking the entire title.

[@redblacktichy7713]

Denmo, was your relationship good with your father? That is very important regarding confident. You seem like that

[@Damascux_107_]

Big 🧠

[@dronepro7316]

I attend a small junior college. During the day there are people by the basketball courts where they’re practicing and the music rehearsal rooms. What’s something unique to observe there?

[@LongJourneys]

Anytime? As in 30 years ago?

[@knockknock4475]

Hey bro. Is there anything specific i need to do to join the skool group besides answering the 3 questions? I'm still pending.

[@definitelynottigerwhitten5865]

Free denmo!

[@LeaGwyneth]

awesome

[@RosalieEmpay]

W bro

[@severynlevchenko14]

Denmo as always thank u for the great videos, looking for the audience advice here, not sure if some of you may identify with me. Its very easy for me to get dates either real life, social media or dating apps, a lot of the times even the girls invite me to dates. But after some dates it feels like emptyness, its very hard to find real connections apart from being just fuck buddies or whatever, sometimes im more interested in a girl but she is not and sometimes the girl it is but i am not. It feels like an endless loop tbh and it affects a lot sometimes my mental health.

[@hpfusion8842]

Do you have any advice for a 5ft4 man? Im good at talking and making friends but no women wants to be romantic with me and ive just passed my mid 20s. Its painful.

[@konsent]

Just maintain good hygiene and take care of yourself and continue to be confident as things like this usually take time. You just got to keep being yourself and eventually the right one will be romantically involved with you. Remember time is key!

[@hpfusion8842]

@@konsent thanks. I do all those things already. I guess time will tell. It just worries me because i have seen stories of people in 30s or 40s who havent found anyone. Its rare but it does happen. There are winners and losers in life. Some people end up being losers.

[@TheKizzian]

Not everyone reciprocates

[@andreab04]

ANNOTATIONS/NOTES FOR ME: 5:16 people want to be talked to, thinking your perspective, wouldn't you want someone to say something to you? What you want people to tell me? Then you tell them, 6:35 think about what you want others to say to you, and tell it to them 9:32 observe the environment, point it out verbally (to someone or yourself), and then talk about it

[@BernardoCreator]

Man, I love this types of videos! Simple and straight to the point. Thanks Denmo

[@zachdevalk914]

🔥

[@JohnM...]

How can I have a good or reasonable conversation with a women (say on a date or a one to one conversation) when I’ve always found what people in general say is a bunch of pointless cra*? I’m not even a mediocre conversationalist - women tend to make me shit myself in case I look idiotic or they don’t like me. Are there any videos on this topic apart from this one?

[@rayzenyoutube_]

Maybe Newel of knowledge i really like him he talks about psychology and everything u should check him out

[@surajrout2482]

❤

[@spirinotox3728]

Resume of tips 1 _ Adressing the elephant 2 _ Enter action with boldness - Just speaking first - Be positive 3 _ Ask what yourself what you want? 4 _ Break the ice chalenge * Observe something in the enviroment *Point out the other *Talk about it

[@gxlxn]

But why ? If you don't have any interesting topic. For introverts, small talk is like a painfull torture. We have totaly different aproach and perspective for socialising. Just don't pretend interest in weather, be yourself.

[@costo34ify]

What you said about you would rather talk to someone all day than be alone ..that is a introvert’s nightmare you are a raging extrovert obvs

[@kyler7305]

If anyone wants an accountability buddy hit me up

[@christianmartinez76845]

I'm retired at 27, went from Grass to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife, $35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤️

[@TiphanyMarry]

I'm highly inspired. Please spill some sugar about the bi-weekly stuff you mentioned.

[@christianmartinez76845]

I raised 75k and Christina Ann Tucker is to be thanked. I got my self my dream car 🚗 just last weekend, My journey with her started after my best friend came back from New York and saw me suffering in dept then told me about her and how to change my life through her. Christina A. Tucker is the kind of person one needs in his or her life! I got a home, a good wife, and a beautiful daughter. Note!:: this is not a promotion but me trying to make a point that no matter what happens, always have faith and keep living!!

[@AnastasiaMarris]

Wow 😱 I know her too Miss Christina Ann Tucker is a remarkable individual whom has brought immense positivity and inspiration into my life.

[@AnastasiaMarris]

I started with a miserly $1500. The results have been mind blowing I must say TBH!

[@MikeGodfrey-ri3nm]

< I know that woman(Christina Ann Tucker) If you were born and raised in new York you'd know too, No doubt she is the one that helped you get where you are!!

[@chadvagbuster6580]

But what if I don't want to talk to anyone want if I just want to pay 40$ for😺 in Thailand and inject heroln

[@PSPFlash96]

😂

[@ReapingTheHarvest]

Still have to interact with humans unfortunately.

[@jessemunnings]

Do you teach people about consent?

[@danielnunes511]

"compliment people to get complimented… " quite selfish and manipulative tip 🧐

[@PersonManManManMan]

291#

[@Si_xnine]

That sounds to me like doing Stand comedy or acting like a clown in return for people to like you more . In my perspective "f" peaple and thier conversations back the "f" off 15 yards these rhymes needs a face mask 😷

[@Divyv520]

Hey Denmo , really nice video ! I was wondering if I could help you with more Quality Editing in your videos and also make a highly engaging Thumbnail and also help you with the overall youtube strategy and growth ! Pls let me know what do you think ?

[@iregretmylifedecisionsiw]

Thanks dude

[@eatonbeaver69]

The problem I have is that I'm visually impaired so it's not easy to reciprocate a compliment or make the first one because I don't have the level of detail. Also I suffer from severe brain fog.

[@doobieholdin]

You could say something along the lines of “I’d say something about how you look but I’m visually impaired” and just chuckle. Use your wits. Just be you. What’s the parts of you that you can express loudly? Don’t focus on what you don’t have, focus on what you’re working with.

[@surajrout2482]

Nice