How to Teach Children with Autism to Respond to Their Names

Today I’d like to talk about overusing your client’s or child’s name and especially: Don’t overuse a child͛’s name, especially when placing a demand or saying no.
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[@timah9091]

Hi...I came here to thank you for the tips...I have a 2.7years old boy who is just diagnose with severe autism and one of the things that he cant do is responding to his name when called...so i followed your tips and it work...i start implementing it yesterday afternoon and after a few attempts he start to look at my face when I called him and I'm still doing it and hopefully he can respond when his name is called in future without the rewards...thank you so much

[@marybarbera]

that is great. thanks for sharing. I hope you will check out a free workshop here so you can learn more techniques www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@RavenLynn.007]

My grandson is 1 year and two months old. He does not give eye contact at all, he doesn't respond to his name at all and he stopped speaking words he used to say like mama, dada and baba. It is really sad to see and I told my daughter she needs to get early intervention now to get him on track. I have a daughter who is autistic and she had the same issues when she was little. She didn't learn to walk until she was three because she had such bad issues. I don't want him to struggle like she did because I didn't know what to do. Back then things were different, but now there are loads of resources available and doctors are realizing earlier the signs.

[@marybarbera]

Your grandson is lucky to have a grandparent like you! Feel free to visit my resources page and send it to your daughter, too: MaryBarbera.com/resources.

[@vprovenzale]

I wrote her on her drawing tablet and underlined it and scrolled her finger through her name as I read it to her slowly until she said it, I did it until she learned to answer her name.. I will work on responding to her name next thank you ❤

[@denni8884]

Thank you so much for posting this. My beautiful goddaughter is 2 years old and doesn’t not speak, respond to name, simple instruction or greetings. She does not use creative play as of yet, not due to a lack of trying I can assure you. Limited eye contact with family , Non with strangers. It looks as though autism might be the reason. I am going to try these techniques regularly. Her name is Marlie-Rae. 💜

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching! Try checking out my free toddler workshop. It is great for helping get you started regardless of diagnosis bit.ly/2ErJ7Za

[@lisskron]

Denni do you have an update on your goddaughter? Was she diagnosed with autism?

[@Brit943]

This video is very helpful. My 17 month old is not autistic but him not responding to his name is really concerning me so I will be trying this for the next week and see if I can get some results

[@haido1000]

Did it work ?

[@ellenmarie9512]

Thank you for posting this. My 3 year old son will turn and look when I say his name but will not answer to it. At daycare when they do attendance they call out his name.. and he doesn’t respond out loud. If we ask him his name, he won’t respond. If he sees a pic or video of himself and we ask who that is, he will say his name. I will try this technique and see if it works well. I also have the bad habit of calling him buddy or sweetie etc when talking to him positively. I bet you that is why he does not know his name or respond to it properly. It makes sense.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for watching I hope it works once you start trying. Have you watched my free workshops?? bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@mohammadimran5138]

Thanks to share this information my daughter have autism disorder today doctor confirm my daughter age 3 years 3 month

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching! I do have online courses that can help you. cCheck out www.marybarbera.com/workshops to learn more.

[@andreavilleza5531]

Thank you so much ma'am sobrang helpful po ng mga vlogs mo...I'm from Philippines.....

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for watching!

[@cassandrabuckley2960]

Thank you so much !I am an RBT . This is so helpful

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching! Did you know I have free workshops for parents and professionals? Check it out here bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@shaliniandram5858]

How do you fade out the reinforcements? Has a child ever had tantrums/meltdowns associating the reinforcement with his/her name?

[@marybarbera]

Fading reinforcement is a plan that must be individualized per child. Unfortunately I cannot provide individual support. Many families have found my free workshops helpful! Marybarbera.com/workshops

[@Mongegirls]

How can one teach one's child to say his name when using Sd 'whats your name'?

[@marybarbera]

This is a very important skill! I talk about this in my courses . First off you always want to start off with assessments to make sure it is important to teach that skill at this time in your childs development. Teaching things at the wrong time can shape up weird language. Check out my free workshops here; bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@maggieaguero6571]

I'm a SLP, thank you for posting this, helpful information !

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for being here ! I am happy you found it helpful. I also have free workshops that you could attend. Many SLP have been through my online courses and found it helpful! Sign up today! bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@sanatankachhap811]

Hello maam. My 22 month old doesnt reply to name when playing in the house....but looks towards the voice when called from 1st floor appartment. He started walking by 10 months...but has never said any words or and has poor eye contact and none wid strangers. But he doesnt cry in malls new surroundings, rather enjoys the running around. Just recently he repeats after us, one or two words, that too not so clearly. What can we do to make him talk. Another thing....he remembers the sequence of tye rhymes exactly....and says few words of the rhymes at the exact moment....pls help

[@marybarbera]

It sounds like he has some good skills and some delays. It is hard to tell if it is autism or not without knowing him. Luckily there is lots you can do, whether it is autism or not. Check out my free workshops to get started bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@jujuel.978]

Thank you for your help! But my daughter is very hyperactive and she doesn't give me any opportunity to do that could you please help me how can I deal with her?

[@marybarbera]

Yes! I have workshops that can help get you started . www.marybarbera.com/quiz

[@noodleskittybun9758]

Can you make a video demonstrating it please???

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for the suggestion! I do have some examples of different techniques in my free workshop ; bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@pinaynorwegianlivinginthep941]

Thank you so much this is very helpful blog

[@marybarbera]

You're so welcome!

[@shanukhanna1935]

Maam I have been following ur videos . Sometimes he doesn't want to leave my lap and play freely..how to calm down him

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching my videos! I cannot give individual advice on a child I do not know. Many families in your situation have found my free workshop and my courses helpful. Sign up for a free workshop here: marybarbera.com/workshops

[@shanukhanna1935]

@@marybarbera thank u ma'am

[@sabinamarcus4956]

An actually demonstration would be great in your video .Thank you

[@marybarbera]

I have a lot of demonstration videos to techniques in my online courses. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@dayanag.m5773]

He doesn’t even respond to me when I tap on his shoulder. What should I do???

[@marybarbera]

That is very difficult. I cannot give individualized advice however I did create free workshops for parents who are in your position. marybarbera.com/workshops

[@jonathanr7906]

You should help him do it. He's not responding because he don't know what is expected. You should turn him around with your own hands or with the assistance of someone else, then reward the action just like Mary is talking about in the video. You repeat this in different situations over and over. Take notes and evaluate everything. My son is extremely interested in trains, cars, busses etc. He also loves riding in these things. Whenever we're out driving and I see a train or buss (something more rare than a car) I'll call his name + "watch, there's a train". Because he loves these things it serves as a reward in itself just seeing it. He's now paying much more attention to his name when I come into the room. He used to be totally oblivious and still is at times. Sometimes it's just comical how far off he is when he's in his hyper focus zone. For example, I can try to scare him if I'm on the other side of a window and he won't even take note, just goes about with his own stuff. He's fantastic.

[@dragosbogoi]

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[@BhaktaChand1]

Do reciting alphabets, singing songs and rhymes count as speaking?

[@marybarbera]

These are great skills to have but no they may not be functional skills. Check out my free workshop . bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@shahriqtaheer5355]

My son is 10 months old he doesnt respond to name..is it too early im accepting him to respond or its autism, im too much worried plz suggest..

[@marybarbera]

Good for you for being on top of things! I would check out the CDC website for developmental milestones for his age and follow up with your doctor.

[@lakshmifashion6246]

Hi mam this is laxmi from. India.... my son nadhish 3 years old... he says daddy mummy but i called his name, still now he doesn't consider... but in tv any ad play he has heared come and saw that.... plz give some tips ma.... plz post how i train my baby.... plz post some trial videos

[@marybarbera]

I have a lot of videos and help in my free video workshops bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@andyfenning1]

@@marybarbera Hi Mary, I can't see the Free workshops you keep mentioning in the comments, are they now removed? Also is this an approach to try for a child who wanders in the park for example and doesn't look when you call them? Ordo you have another video for something like that? My almost 2 year old does this. Thanks for all the helpful videos.

[@zayaamad3080]

thanks. I will do this and keep you posted on the results. this is awesome advice and piece of ABA

[@natalieisaac1459]

Thx for info.

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching.

[@dhanashrikhalipe8265]

Thanks for sharing

[@marybarbera]

You're welcome! I'm happy to hear that it resonated with you. If you're looking for more resources, visit MaryBarbera.com/links-yt

[@divyavardhani2553]

My child is 19mon old he didn’t respond for his name but he imitating us...is he suffers with autism

[@bihpamela6887]

Thank you Doctor. I am a mom of a 2 years 9 months old girl diagnosed with autism .we live in China. The environment is a little challenging to her because of lack of interaction and communication with her peer group. She doesn’t respond to her name but looks at my direction when I call . I am really interested in your free online course.

[@marybarbera]

Great ! My free workshops can be found here marybarbera.com/workshops

[@MrShru]

Hi..my child is 9 month old and dont respond to his name..Is it sign of Autism?

[@marybarbera]

9 months is still quite young! you can check out cdc.org for a great list of developmental milestones.

[@thisblessedlife9296]

Do you start this process when they are already engaged in something, like watching TV? (TV really distracts my son).

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for watching ! Every child is different. You may start with that or you may start when they are doing something less preferred. I cannot individually program for each child but many families have found my free workshops helpful in turning autism around. Check one out here marybarbera.com/workshops

[@justnashpa]

@Mary Barbera my little one is 18 months at the moment and most of the times he is not responding when we calling him by his name, also is not pointing out things and walking sometimes on the toes (not very often), when running he keeps his right hand up and sometimes when he is angry he tries to pull his hair out and all he can say at the moment is "mama, nana, tata, papapa, baba, lalala and some other sounds,but he is smiling a lot back to us, he is laughing, he is making a lot of eyes contact, he likes to play with children, he likes to give us lots of hugs and asking for it; we realize it couple of days ago abd we start thinking that maybe, because he spend between 1- 2 hours and up to 3 -4 hours per day in front of Tv, tablet or phone (we both went to work and our mother in law was looking after him ) from the age 8-9 moths is the reason why he is having this symptoms. 2 days ago we decide to stop him from watching any gadgets or Tv and we can tell that is different, believe or not he start playing more with the football, pushing one of the cars on the floor and not playing with the wheels like he used to do and he started looking to us when we calling him by name from very close distance twice a day; from our point of view there is a small difference in a pozitive way...My question is if there is any chance that this more a virtual "autism" and not a classic one?

[@marybarbera]

Autism can present in many different ways. Try listening to my podcast on early intervention marybarbera.com/2 as it may help point you to some screening resources. I also have free toddler workshops bit.ly/2ELvSnM

[@MamaAbbyB]

How’s your child now? I am having the same case

[@Kajhdh402]

Exacte same thing we did with my daughter , now she s can say few words and we r still working , i bought marry s courses and im leaning how to apply ABA with my daughter at home

[@Sarahbananna2]

Where is that video you mentioned about 1 -3 year olds?

[@marybarbera]

Not sure which video you are referring too, can you paste a time stamp in this video where I talk about 1-3 year olds?

[@naganaga3579]

I have 17 months baby he is not responding to his name from 12th month ...what to do

[@naganaga3579]

Even he is not giving eye contact at all ....not listens to us

[@marybarbera]

I would recommend joining a free workshop today: marybarbera.com/workshops/

[@everlynejebet8154]

Am scared,my son is 2.3 he doesn't respond to his name,but he can hear thats through cartoon,is pronounced Baa three days ago n from ther he hasn't pronounced anything.he uses gestures

[@marybarbera]

Starting early can help. Check out our courses: marybarbera.com/courses/

[@MANMATHAN571]

Am a father of autism child, in my case my psychiatrist said that you have to call ur childs with name all time. Whats ur opinion mam

[@marybarbera]

I would call your child's name only when you are going to give them something good or provide tickles or something. You want them to learn their name is a positive thing.

[@MANMATHAN571]

@@marybarbera thanks alot mam...i ll do this...

[@tazammelhaq4802]

Nice!

[@marybarbera]

I appreciate you watching !

[@ymelfilm]

isnt it like training a dog? I m just worrying

[@kimmleach]

Think of it differently. We use short sentences and cues with our pet because we are keeping our language simple and using all our resources (gestures, facial expression, body language) to help them understand the task. It is the same with young children. If I want to learn a skill, let's say how to repair an engine, I hope the person teaching me with use simplified language and visual supports to help me. Otherwise, I won't be very successful at it! Same here! ;)

[@nachiketarout3720]

behaviour modifcation techniques were developed on animals.

[@Kajhdh402]

U can see it however u want but it helps , better then looking at your kid confused bot able to communicate , u have to be parent if an autistic child to know how painful is to not be able to talk with your child or ur child bot being able to tell u what wrong and you are just guessing while the kid is in pain or anything else