HOW TO VERBALLY CONQUER OTHER MEN | EGO DEFENSE

[@Patrick-zr8tv]

Him: "you can't even lift that chair" Me: "your mom gay"

[@flamen3158]

Him: "You can't even lift a chair" Me: "At least I know how to use a chair properly"

[@rah4254]

L0L

[@erenja3ger871]

whiterun city guard LMAO😂😂😂

[@GyorBox]

Thomas Nado --- That's sounds good in theory, but now he can attack you for being gay or something.

[@HolyStarXL]

Lift the chair with one arm like a man

[@caperjim]

I never argue with other men. I just challenge them to a dance off.

[@icata12345]

thats the spirit

[@godfreytomanan3583]

gayyyy

[@workz780]

Bryan Simon Stiffmeister XD

[@qonf]

Then they get served!

[@monstermushroomcloud]

caperjim Responsible decision.

[@pieterlindeque7798]

Too much overthinking. The most painful insult anyone who tries to engage you in a verbal battle can suffer is to be completely disregarded. I was wearing a tight t-shirt once and some dude said I had manboobs. What did I respond with? I looked down at my chest, shrugged at him while looking him in the eyes and then kept talking to the two people standing next to me. That was just a natural response. The other dude then came toward us getting more loud and bothered to the extent that both the people I was talking with told him to chill and leave. One of them was a girl. I didn't even have to do anything. The mere fact that I treated him with zero regard set him off in a way that made him look like a fool. I then hit him with two words that made him walk away like a dog that has just been scolded; "cheers dude." You don't have to do anything.

[@Morenosementalfolla]

This is basically what he said about it haha. I had the same kind of situation with a large group of chicks and a dude came by to me and told me "hey you got manboobs" and I just replied, " you know where to look at on an attractive man." winked, smiled and moved on. He was struggling to understand what I meant with that and I was clearly a winner.

[@Paul-os1uh]

Gay

[@phillyfan3942]

Exactly bro, this guy in the video is trying to hard and oberthinking. The universe straightens things out half the time so I just let it do its thing

[@ohyeahyeah5038]

I partially agree with your statement but when someone who instigates personal conflict like that must be responded to in the same manner or even worse manner, unless you have an extremely self deprecatory sense of humour. In other scenarios, a comment much lighter and non-logical than that can be disregarded. But saying absolutely nothing is probably the worst thing you can do during an altercation. Trust me.

[@strikeninja2741]

You're absolutely right man. In fact, I handled a similar situation like that before and a female bystander all of a sudden started wanting to talk to me a lot. She was attractive, but married so I didn't make a move on her.

[@JohnDoe-jt9oq]

Bully: "Hahaha you're so weak you can't even pick up that chair!" Me: "You pick it up then if you're so strong..." Bully: *Heves the chair above his head with a smirk on his face* Me: "That's right, bitches always do what I say."

[@malachi9821]

John Doe I actually like this advice.

[@bebesy1695]

John Doe oooo

[@phillipeiskalt8800]

Wrong! The Bully would probably breake the chair on your head.

[@exstee]

"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer."

[@jessealvarez779]

Clever...

[@shiningstars27]

ATTACKING is the best defence

[@hermestrismegistus8154]

Defence indictates weakness. When weak, appear strong. Attacking shows an abundance of strength. Sun tzu

[@SirTea]

That’s something I would rather do but when it comes to really winning they do because we don’t have good comebacks lol mentally defeated but physically hurt the other guy at least he won’t say anything provoking anymore lmao

[@Dman9fp]

Or they'll just attack back and everything goes to s***. The best defense is actually to have the ego on the floor, Let Go, not having any expectations or worries-- in one ear out the other if they're trying to provoke you. Because really this whole language thing is just a bunch of sounds that stand for something, which sure, can emotionally trigger our inner minds and have natural reactions that can be nasty, or we can just realize that life is just a game and it's meant to just be enjoyed and enjoy the journey. We don't have to give idiots power if we slow down and realize how ridiculous the whole ordeal might be (don't have to play their game, and if you must to have respect, maybe the whole social order you're involved in is crap... (Then again I've been in a few too many messes for my liking)

[@MM-yh9ix]

@@Dman9fp I feel the same way and wholeheartedly agree. I’ve been in a whole lot of danger growing up and now choose to look at the bigger picture and simply do not get into fights. I also give off a strong appearance but most importantly don’t get triggered or get tricked out your position and life is beautiful

[@manel2825]

Pearl Harbor smh

[@KS-mk8gf]

1) Never bring the oppositions ego into battle 2) Never get defensive (don't justify your actions to your opposition) 3) Respond with a counter attack e.g. a sarcastic comment which prompts humour or confuses your opponent 4) Walk away before your opponent can respond - this will kill your opposition mentally

[@Gloriankithsanus]

Just straight out forget 4. because it'l never be applyable. Other than that, I feel like you're the only person that understood how this video is meant to be used

[@chenugent]

But it's the statement "I guess it's true what they say about strong guys.." bringing his ego into battle?

[@Megumin_2_Kawaii]

- And this will kill you physically XD

[@dorianwynn98]

Never trust in your physical strength. Use your verbal ability instead.

[@greg_4201]

If you're smart you expose and defeat the ego in the first instance, because if someone is ruled by their ego, your actions/words are pretty much irrelevant to it, aren't they? They're gonna perceive ANYTHING as a challenge to their ego. The best course is to disect it clearly in front of them so that they can see it, witch requires an initial challenge directly to it. What you suggested only works on people who don't have an inflated ego, which is a tiny minority in the western world.

[@TheHellBoy05]

I have been in many confrontations and one thing I know is this. The less you say or assert, the more in control you are. Win with your actions, not argument. SHOW what you mean, dont say. React, and you make them feel won. But ignore them, answer sweetly, and they will hate you. Disdain and contempt are the most dangerous weapons.

[@Rock-iw7ov]

Oh crap I just realize why I've been so bad at verbal conflict. I get defensive, and it makes me look weak. Thank you so much

[@Souljainbattle]

I hate verbal conflict. People kust Lie through there teeth

[@eroticallyf.a.t.78]

How it's supposed to be said, "Well I guess what they say about guys with big muscles is true after all..." My attempt , " I guess about muscles with guys is true, ya know..." Both of us: Wtf...

[@kb-kg4sd]

lmfaooo omg i died

[@Loltroll8]

Erotically F.A.T. this is me attempting this on the people I want to control

[@Bebopt]

Not if you're up againts a smart mouth and he said: I didnt know you're into guys with muscles. Attacking your sexuality using a mix of your same words. Most guys end up saying"what?"

[@essentiallifter]

Erotically F.A.T. oh christ the cringe

[@mikechow6887]

XD

[@AbrahamMelanubis]

You have to learn how to use SARCASM.

[@kb-kg4sd]

precisely

[@kingjewelz9948]

Sarcasm is an art

[@nma2786]

Yeah cuz that is sooo important...

[@kingjewelz9948]

N M A it it when you want to make your enemies look like morons it helps

[@nma2786]

XJDLX umm lol try reading my previous comment out loud...

[@DreamScorcher]

That subtle shot you took at Eminem..

[@RPGyourLIFE]

Dream Scorcher lol we all thought it

[@mayowaade879]

Yeah, man! I thought so as well...what a shame

[@simonnavon806]

Lol

[@Bob_Brown]

Revival was trash

[@DECYYK]

Yes, only "In your head" was good but it's more due to the fact that I do like "Zombie" and I'm not good at understanding that american rap crap.

[@stupidscruff]

This is bad advice lol The only reason a guy will challenge you randomly is if he sees you as some form of competition or is showing off. That means there would be others there. Saying "you know what they say about guys with big muscles" then walking off is sure to get you in trouble hahaha I've dealt with some serious guys before when they've started with me and having a sense of humour is always the way forward. If you make the audience laugh, you win and he won't start again unless you rub it in and/or challenge him. The joke reply can be taking the mickey out of yourself too which means you've no need to worry about repercussions. Quite often the guy who challenged you will respect you and you could potentially make a new friend if the joke is very funny. Win the group is the answer. I'm really surprised that you've so much conviction this advice is good, I advise anyone watching to ignore it.

[@sciencepro7551]

yup just knock him the fuck out

[@Ajakz100]

Stupid Scruff this sounds gay as fuck, keep it simple... he attacks u just punch the fucker

[@gregorygimigliano]

Why you gotta over think this shit human interaction should just be natural. You click with someone? Cool. You don’t click with someone just ignore them. Simple.

[@stupidscruff]

Ajakz Terner so if I guy mouths off at you for banter outside a bar you'll just punch him, possibly get beaten or jumped and potentially end up in a cell for a night? You thick fuck lol

[@stupidscruff]

G_Reg17 😂 that's the irony, doesn't matter how alpha you think you are when it's narrowed down to who has the itchiest trigger finger

[@alexcherepnin20]

I've never seen someone just stand there taking shots while reloading.

[@Loltroll8]

Jebonski yeah they either switch weapons or make a run for cover

[@alainc2992]

My gf

[@Loltroll8]

Josip Čondić Jurkić we're talking about a game that involves automatic rifles not battle axes

[@brettwilliams1543]

Josip Čondić Jurkić yeah what??

[@BuddaG438]

Jebonski Lol

[@TheEarlybirddan]

How to get jumped by guys that workout 101

[@wishmeluck4933]

Daniel Clifford that's why you should always be able to back up your words with combat, even if you never use or plan to use combat skills learn some form of martial art or boxing at least. Better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.

[@konsyjes]

word, the best way to deal with strong dudes is to be open and level with them. In other words, the best way to defend your ego is to pack it away and act like a civilized human.

[@alexrangel490]

Lol the number of likes to this comment

[@strikeninja2741]

This is for a scenario when they aren't really trying to physically fight you. Defending yourself in hand to hand combat is outside the scope of this video.

[@loganmartin8107]

And then they're shot.

[@JohnDoe-on6ru]

How to verbally conquer other men: "Your mom gay."

[@nadippiee]

yes

[@DrMixelpixel]

Was bullied a lot when I was kid (was fat). Learned to destroy mentaly anyone that pick on me. Never walk away. If they pick on me, I simply start talking and make fun of them. Destroy their ego and bring them to the point where they either have to walk away in shame or try to fight me... Either way I win :D

[@windowswastaken]

until they fuck you up and the whole class watches you getting beaten up

[@psycod2548]

Some guy: you're so weak dude. Me: yOu'Re So WeAk DuDe.

[@thizzkid1715]

Does it work?

[@chinmayz6000]

Same

[@blackhudini2312]

@@thizzkid1715 no

[@jasonsmith9467]

THANK YOU the world needs more people like YOU please never stop helping others. Your videos are greatly appreciated.

[@S4SuperStarSteveSavage]

How you respond while being "tested" should ALWAYS be situational. It may be necessary to come across weak in order to DECEIVE your target. You NEVER want to out shine the boss before its time.

[@NOMADNEWSTV]

This is stuff I've done all my life...but never really knew it until watching this. Being witty comes in very handy in these situations. Great video as usual

[@matthewdellavedova1940]

If someone insults you just say “it really be like that sometimes”. Now youre unbeatable

[@thegrowthhub17]

Verbally Dominante: 1. Never bring theie Ego..By Directly and harshly attacking them personally 2. Never get defensive...If someone say something to you... Don't take too much time to explain, Instead 3. Respond with a counter attack... 4. Now, you need to walk away..

[@romeo4rmza381]

Never get defensive, I learnt that from playing chess.

[@masterm95]

Only weak men think like this and try to use these rules as a justification for their weakness. No one is above you No one is below you Just don't play the game, simple.

[@MOON-zo3ik]

masterm95 people don’t navigate through life with the lenses you use. What you ar me saying is to expect someone to do you a favor just because you did them a favor. Some people are gonna take a whole mile when you only gave them a notch. You get what I’m saying? Some of these games people are playing are not the same games you and I are playing. Different mindsets/Different games means different rules

[@thatdudeoncommentsection4167]

@@MOON-zo3ik true 👏👏👏

[@greengarden7557]

No, its about mindset man. You gotta learn to attack when someone cross the line. I have been there bro trust me

[@desertsane]

When two huge ego’s fight each other, death can follow. This is solid advice.

[@savvcesx]

Just like a boxing match when people use different styles to duke it out. Same thing can go when we’re interacting with other dogs.

[@Cheyne666Stoking]

the fact people make these kind of videos and the fact people actually need it and watch them... GG society

[@AdrianWhyte]

Another great technique I think is to ask questions, or even just agree non chalantly. The whole point of such a statement by someone is to upset you. Eg. “why does that bother you?” -> now you’ve put the ball in their court, you’ve implied they have a problem. Or “yeah I totally couldn’t”.. now you’ve taken away the conflict. It’s egoless, you’re not concerned about anyone’s perception of the situation. That’s my thoughts :) good video

[@ajarofpickles2826]

This is a skill I have already mastered but the advice did help me out a bit. I don't let words affect me, I am a Christian and I am not shy about my faith I have been verbally attacked and called names I don't even know what they mean. But I never let it get to me and I always just let it wash right off of my back, I actually find it funny when guys get triggered that their words aren't working against me. Because of this, I can stay happy and not worry about what others think of me, hopfully all you lovely ladies out there will notice that to

[@Souljainbattle]

Snadals of the gospel of peace

[@Souljainbattle]

Sheild of faith from there fiery arrows

[@Souljainbattle]

Satan knows all the deceitful tricks. An he knows our weak points. We can only be safe in GOD no were else

[@DonRamiro1]

This video and the one related to it could have come in handy a few years ago but I have to say, I have grown quite a bit from the teachings of these videos. they have been integral to my personal development. I can't go back in time but I know how to handle things going forward.

[@damianmichaeljoseph8634]

I love how you draw 3 lines and they morph into a masterpiece 😂

[@JordiCR91]

I love how this guy just straight up shares knowledge for the greater good, instead of most “coaches” and “self improvement” channels that 98% of the video is just a fuckin’ sales speech

[@ILovePhysics04]

I would call this strategy "confuse the enemy , then walk away."

[@therebelartisteofficial]

Where are the damn subscribers 🤦‍♂️ these videos are really helpful. Thanks man 🙏

[@Alempij]

The last time I was this early you were only a little far from Average :D

[@MrBojax]

This is what banter is for, it's verbal sparring with your mates to sharpen yourselves up. And yeah, it is hard wired into us, ever have those imaginary arguments in your head for the sake of it? You know you have :P

[@MrBojax]

lol. I never said those arguments would be great help I was simply agreeing that they are hard wired into us to the point we even imagine ourselves arguing. Everyone has their own individual style so saying something like being un-enthused really has nothing to do with it. Just git gud :P

[@MrBojax]

Fair enough, no probs :) Yeah when folks become defensive you notice there is something about that that can be exploited.

[@sergioviana84]

Haha verbal sparring. Never thought about this point

[@Souljainbattle]

I have imaginary combat situations

[@unlimited613]

This is dumb and extremely situational

[@Gloriankithsanus]

I don't know man. I thought this was really educational and a universal life saver advice. It was a really entertaining video and I had to grin for quite some time!

[@rav6274]

bkesling10 it seems legit tho (the video)

[@mikkelhansen3810]

Agree. and it's funny how he explains how to defeat a guy with muscles, but not the other way around

[@Tstyle16]

Egypt PHA you're a fucking lunatic

[@strongarm8937]

Egypt PHA wow you're like on another level, you're on the top of the food chain or something like that ?

[@jamalabdi5404]

The best way to always react in any situation is to be yourself...

[@mhix65]

Never allow yourself to upset over somebody else's misfortune. Just agree and ask them how you can help their situation. When you start battling with someone you are then putting yourself on their level. You are better than that know this.... "He who angers you can control you" Never allow anybody else to control you...

[@tomahawk6887]

Remember: You need these skills Block lvl 100 Speech lvl 100 Destruction lvl 100 Two handed lvl 100

[@goofy3421]

Ak47 100

[@pauljuan7634]

Man your contents really helps me alot

[@heathcliffe8446]

Paul Juan Exceps when for duh...speach?

[@jackkrieger9150]

Paul Juan really.How did it help you?

[@henryrodriguez7844]

I Have Autism Lol u can see that your profile name holds true.

[@goldenshot7093]

Paul Juan a lot*

[@jelly1652]

Paul Juan this is gay

[@547ak6]

When it comes to testing other men its not about what you say its about who you are and how you say it

[@wildside316]

Know your enemy. Know how/where/when to engage them. Know when to walk away(aka know when you've won).

[@averyripetomato9016]

Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will leave psychological wounds that will never heal....

[@Master_Arthius]

I need MORE information on what to actually say in order to disarm my opponents (because those I have trouble with are just plain evil). Please do a follow-up video on that.

[@Souljainbattle]

They have no problem lieing through there teeth. There actually dishonorable Cowards. They cannot be real. There like shady snakes

[@bradleywalker7615]

"If you're in high school, college, or you work a job" really hitting every corner aren't we?

[@Bleek17Six]

Becareful with your words because once they're said, they can only be forgiven but never forgetten

[@LHCalistenia]

''never get defensive'': seriously, I think this is the most important thing went it comes to verbal communication..

[@manav8094]

Him : " you can't even lift that chair " Me : " hey you need not stay in the gym all day , chair is for sitting not for lifting them up "

[@spenny9274]

Great advice, if you’re on a playground…. Less words, more facial expressions and body language. Be 100% ready for physical altercation. That’s how you show dominance, not going back and forth in verbal chess.

[@elk9414]

A guy once got butthurt because I wouldn't "get out of his way" in the parking lot. He was hot rodding around in the parking lot and ended up in a position where if he pulled forward he would run into my front bumper with his driver's door - just as proof of the predicament he had put himself into. So he had done the hand waving, yelling and flipped me off in order to get me to move and I just sat there and waited for him to put it in reverse and go around me. Apparently, that bruised his ego so as I was walking into the building, he confronted me and told me he was going to kick my ass. Now, I had already signed my contract to go into the military but I was just a skinny wire of a frame and he was not only a lot bigger but had a lot more muscle. Most guys would have backed down after he stated that he was going to kick my ass as a way of introducing himself standing right in front of my face. But I stood there and responded with "well, if you're going to kick my ass the least you could do is introduce yourself so I know who kicked my ass." This was partly meant as a joke to disarm and partly meant as a way to buy myself some time as I didn't, at the time, have a general plan for dealing with knuckleheads. I didn't smile so he fell for it and he began giving me pretty much a formal introduction including name and his credentials which I will spare you. After introducing himself, he seemed to ask me my name and, instead of responding with a simple yes, I offered this as a response "that's what people call me but I think I was adopted and if you will help me prove that I was adopted we can be best friends." This seemed to irritate him just slightly but it also threw him off because he stood there and stared at me for a few seconds before responding which I found funny because, at this point, I was just fucking with his feeble mind. Then, he sort of shook his head, and asked me again if my name was Eric Kirkland and I said "yes, that's what people call me. But again, I think I was adopted and you should help me prove it so we can find out who I really am." Again, not smiling even a little bit. And again, more silent staring and mind fucking. After he came out of his verbal coma, he again stated "I'm going to kick your ass" and that's when I laid this one on him "well, you might get lucky and you might kick my ass today. But barring that I'm going to bite your fucking ear off and then I'm going to be wearing your ear on a fucking necklace and every time I see you I'm going to pull that necklace out and dangle your fucking ear at you just as a reminder to you of who owns your fucking ear." He had also introduced himself as "the middle linebacker of the (high school) varsity football team" so I pointed out that "every time you walk into the locker room you're going to have to explain to everyone why you only have one fucking ear and you probably won't be able to play anymore because when shit is happening on the football field you're going to be like 'what? I can't hear wtf is going on!" He never took one swing at me. But we did wind up doing damage to each other's vehicle. Mine was a used Ford Escort that ran on 3 cylinders and his was a shiny new Pontiac Trans Am that never ran again after I got done with it. Last I knew of him, he was living with his parent's in the same house they lived in when we were in high school. Most bullies are fucking stupid. They only bully people because no one has stood toe to toe with them and told them they're going to bite their fucking ear off. And then be willing to do it. It's okay to try to talk yourself out of a physical confrontation. But it's also okay to stand toe to toe with a fucking imbecile and threaten to bite his fucking ear off. But you have to be willing to go through with your promises in life. Otherwise, people will think you're a pansy and no one respects a pansy because a pansy is someone you can fuck with every step of the way because they're a fucking pansy. Stand and deliver.

[@MrCoolSmurf]

Eric Kirkland cool story bro

[@MCilja]

This was fun to read

[@lc5513]

Damn lucky.I knew a guy like him except he would have just beaten you up instead of listening to your squabble.You were lucky that this guy wasnt overly aggressive,otherwise he would have just punched you instead of saying "I'm going to kick your ass",indirectly starting a conversation

[@elk9414]

Luck has nothing to do with it. Most bullies only bully people because no one has stood toe to toe with them and been willing to fight until one is a bloody pulp. When it comes down to it, bullies are pussies because they nearly always back down once someone is willing to fight them into a bloody pulp.

[@elk9414]

Thank you Magic Man!

[@saveusDDP]

This is one of the most important aspects of many societies . Survival of the wittiest

[@samyichiro4567]

Loving this manly videos brah.

[@samyichiro4567]

I love the garbage then.

[@TavaresTheGuru]

+I Have Autism your username fits so well.

[@juliussd2026]

I Have Autism wow lol

[@GageMason]

Monti The Guru That's exactly what I was gonna say.

[@GageMason]

I Have Autism But you didn't leave him on read....you responded.....

[@RainAdasi]

Just wanna say, this channel is helping me a lot!

[@redfolgers2233]

hurt ppl hurt ppl. The better solution is to ignore the comment, reframe the conversation if youd like to continue talking to him or wish them a good day, walk away and hope that person finds love and fulfillment one day. People who love themselves and have engaging lives dont ever feel the need to "test" other people to determine where they are in society

[@d3struction61]

I agree with you.

[@themindscape5467]

I usually just stand there and laugh to myself while someone tries to figure out if I'm crying or crazy.

[@clearmist7170]

There are some things I like about some of the things said in the videos of this channel, but there are other things I disagree with or I should say a lot of things. I don't really think the world is divided so neatly between alpha and beta, I think everyone has a bit of both and different personalities can succeed in their own way, just as herbivores and carnivores both succeed in different ways. When it comes to people making some quick comment about you, context is very important. If it's your family member or a group of friends that are actually friends (not just acquaintances) then you can get away with verbal sparrings. However, if you're talking about a stranger in the street or in public or even in a school setting, there is absolutely no way that getting into a verbal spat over a quick comment is worth it. At best you could get yourself into a highly aroused state for no reason and at worse you could get yourself killed. The real world is not pretty. "Pride" and "not backing down" is really just nonsense talk that is meant to fool people into doing decisions that are almost always detrimental. We always talk about not "white knightning" for women, which means defending a woman, if it means you get hurt. However, this is actually a case of white knighting for yourself. Don't be a white knight. Don't be a hero. You're not a hero. You're made of flesh and bones and sensitive ones at that. There are crazy and insane people out there. They don't care about alpha, beta or anything. Is it really worth getting hurt by getting yourself involved with someone you don't care about? Don't let anyone into your life that you don't want into your life. Women seem to understand this very well. Women are much more protective of themselves and much more intelligent than most young men (particularly the adventure-seeking men). Women know if they give anyone attention, that person is suddenly a part of your life. Don't give them the attention. Even if they hurt your pride, ignore and walk away. There's no such thing as honor. You're not getting anything out of word altercations so don't waste your time. The more you ignor it, the sooner you'll forget about it. Your mind will easily forget about something that you just ignored. Then, it's like it never happened. By giving it attention, you make it a part of your life.

[@dandre3K]

clear mist Alpha and beta are relative terms pertaining to hierarchy. Hierarchy is based on perception. To test someone is to imply doubt in their ability. Therefore only betas have to deal with these shit tests. Engaging in the test is an attempt to change the perception of the people in the given hierarchy. Therefore, according to the video, to be alpha is to not only care enough about the words of a stranger that you feel beta, you also must care about how other strangers perceive the words of the before mentioned stranger. I don't follow. A verbal battle is an oxymoron to me, either hands are being thrown or they're not. How do you train yourself come up with witty comebacks to other men's tests when you don't care about the game being played? What if your extremely witty comeback is perceived to be lame? What if it's a girl giving the "test". I'm too secure in myself to take this shit seriously, or too autistic.

[@clearmist7170]

dandre3, you do bring up some good points. I feel like maybe this topic is too broad. I was more focusing on a complete stranger trying to test you, or someone that is just wanting to start trouble. However, you also talk about social situations with friends or family members or as you stated girls. Girls are constantly testing men and you're right that this is something that not all women do, but a lot of personality types do this. However, in order to really respond to sarcasm or some other put-down, it really relies more on having the social skills more than anything else and the style you respond with will be based on the type of personality you have where you could respond in a way that is crude, funny, etc. Wit and put-downs can be a powerful psychological tool, and it's important to not allow your confidence to go down, if you happen to be in front of a person that has a higher wit skill than you. I don't even think wit is related to being alpha or beta or being tough or being nice. In fact, often times, if a "nice person" is wittier than a tough person, it's common for the wittier nice person person to hold back and not attack verbally, since it could escalate tensions. Also, you don't even have to be witty or smart to be powerful anyway. A whiny, girlfriend can still have her way and "win an argument" even if what she says is not funny, witty or even sensical. Likewise, the people doing the testing, don't have to actually have good social skills at all. That's the reason why I said that you shouldn't engage in it when you are dealing with complete strangers in public, because the truth is, if someone is attacking you, they don't care if you're smarter, better or otherwise, they could have something up their sleeves or just want to start a fight with you, anyway, but actually backing away or ignoring it, is an effective way to diffuse and take the target away from you.

[@Gloriankithsanus]

You both are collecting arguments for the same side. The only real answer to this fiesta is, to simply dismiss it, because it's fuckin BS. No one, seriously no one ever did anything like this intentionally. I've got a good friend that would be perceived as ""alpha"" by many of those ppl here, and he's kinda smart. Still, he doesn't intentionally test ppl, or some crap like that. Everything he does, is not giving a fuck about the opinion of ppl he doesn't give a shit about. And thats the lesson to learn. You won't ever be friends with everyone on the planet, so just search for the ppl you do actually like and hang out with em. The rest can piss off. The moment you start believing, there's a social hierarchy somewhere, and you're not on top of it, you're limiting your life and mind by it. Just like coming to this site and watching these vids. You only watch them cuz you feel inferior, and as long as you watch them, it won't get better, cuz it will repeteadly tell you subconciously that you're piece of dogshit in social hierarchy. So just quit it and do and enjoy what you want, cuz life is too short to worry about impressing stupid people.

[@clearmist7170]

@Dregorin, the way I deal with it, is that I don't hang out with people that play mind games like that. I agree. Some people do it out of habit or just because they unconsciously do it. Other people like the banter and the put-downs and the going back and forth with comebacks. It's a personality style that suits some people, but I personally don't enjoy it, so none of my friends do it. I guess I'm just selective about who I surround myself with. I agree that thinking and worrying about social hierarchy is something that really doesn't exist when it comes to an actual official standing. It's a mental construct, that doesn't actually have any actual measures in real life. Nobody is keeping track of how many arguments you win. Obviously there are differences between people, but the actual process of "testing" each other usually is just done for fun or for spite and usually by people who enjoy messing with your head, but none of it matters in the end.

[@Gloriankithsanus]

clear mist There's nothing wrong in being selective. It's the most mature thing you can do in that situation. People usually don't really hate each other, unless they shot someone of their family n shit. But those are exceptions. People that I thought would think im kinda low on everything, disgusting or anything else, ended up conversing with me completly fine and as long as you keep yourself together and maintain a chilled attitude, no one can really activly "hate" you. I never experienced real hate. Most of what you think it be, is a temporary bad attitude or straight up your imagination. Life is meant to be lived und social hierarchy is such a stupid system, you should never ever invest time into it. That hierarchy is unstable and will break apart constantly, with people changing their social sorroundings through jobs and other stuff. You will lose everything you've built up by climbing a social hierarchy ladder in exactly that moment. Most people watching that shitshow over there, will never achieve their goal, because they're simply not even able to understand what it is about, or not able to use the techniques effectivly. There are so many logic flaws in between the sessions and videos, that it all comes down to "believing". And if you can do that, you might just wanna start believing in yourself amd forgetting this shitshow.

[@anasss1180]

i love my life but there are things that are in me i am a guy who throw himself completely to a person and believe him and share everything cause i think i am right but that is most brutal thing i am doing cause when i throw myself they kick me and everything is gone they didn't respect me they didn't want to hangout with me and lie to me they are busy and i try not to be like this but this is from god and second thing i don't have expressing power like i can't Express myself to someone like Take an example that someone is singing and everybody praises him i know i have beautiful voice than him but i don't have the confidence to do that and can't even tell to my best friend about my voice i can't even express myself to my best friends and cause of this i am living my life sooo much in pain i am 19 years old and i am hoping I'll get better but my mind doesn't accept it Sometimes i think why i am raised like this i cant talk i cant praise i not lovable everyone ignores me and some people respects me cause of my father he is a great man but he didn't teach how to be like him...

[@angelmiller912]

holy shit walking and running away is the best option I did it last night

[@finalkingdom]

A couple days ago some guys were yelling at me in what sounded like an arrogant tone, like they were trying to provoke me. I raised my hand in what (from the distance between us) could have been perceived as a simple wave hello, me giving them the finger, or me accepting the challenge. They kept shouting at me. I turned and walked away as they shouted. As I turned the corner and escaped their line of sight I booked it out of there. I reached my home and heard them still yelling in the distance.

[@حضرمون]

Just don't turn your attention towards anyone who is trying to verbally insult or bully you... When you don't mind them, they will feel like they got deserted and feel like a loser.

[@Bazinga416]

Im the most handsome and muscular dude in my circle. "Friends" idolized me. Then I realised, I didn't win anything by constantly acting like im the best. I became humble and lowered myself for them, then they showed me their nature. I wasn't wrong, we have been playing these games when I thought I was the only one playing it. As soon as I stopped, they bit me hard. I seek no vengeance, I allowed them to disrespect me for the time and I have made my leave. I'm sick of that same cycle, it's a waste of time and there is no point in it. You only get a sense of winning and not actually winning. My advice would be to lower yourself only if needed and if that person is of benefit to you. If not, leave

[@ebolarat]

As Soldier from TF2 said, “there is no defense, only attack and attack some more.”

[@choppergoro]

One of the few you tube videos with real value

[@foreverseethe]

This one is hard to master. You need to be quick witted and insightful. I have the hardest time with emasculating attacks. One time a guy who saw me as a threat insinuated a doubt about my sexuality by using slang that I didn-t understand. I responded by trying to be in the present and saying I don-t know what he means (but not in an angry or threatening way) In the end I didn-t get the chance to rebut. Lost that one. and probably looked gay....ahahaha

[@juniorthabang2440]

Now this is what people should use KZbin for😎yo bro your channel helps me alot in my everyday life and the stuff u say are true

[@gregorygimigliano]

I let my actions speak for me. I make it my goal to outwork and outperform everyone in the Work place. Seems to do the trick.

[@vinaykanth4672]

Dude i should have watched your videos when iam 5 yrs old.but it is not too late now. I’m 20 and i will, u are the best bro.

[@DigitalFire5000]

Lmfao mans is really out here teaching us how to check/roast people 😂😭😂😭

[@Son_of_aesthetics]

This channel is pure gold,thanks for the information my good brother

[@tylxx1754]

NEVER GET DEFENSIVE... BE RUTHLESS , BE DOMINANT , BE A BADASS👊😬💥

[@ASJacob]

I agree, always go for the jugular when they ask for it!

[@Guy-tq1wr]

I honestly think I agree. I am getting a little tired of acting like a pussy with these bullies. I will try verbally going for the juggler , and then walking away. Also if the situation deserves when it comes to women always tell them they are fat and UUUUGLEEEE!!! And make a face, it will rip them to shreds!! I only used it once because a gal I didn't know treated me with GREAT contempt, it leveled her! I am a VERY NICE guy but was provoked. Use with caution!

[@ekayy.8]

“You can’t even lift that chair” Me: nobody asked

[@pr3tty0bnoxious35]

3:38 is where the video starts

[@Ivan-fn7vv]

Thanks

[@luwado]

lmao so true amirite

[@Nastgardaren]

If you have the physical strength, then you can simply make them look small and weak by keeping calm and saying only a few words. And if you fail, then it's great motivation in the gym!

[@kingkongstrong3633]

Confidence is not something you learn. It is something you are. Just do it!

[@investfoxy]

Making your attack and walking away is the best winning rule.

[@markscott5935]

"Your so weak you cant even lift that chair" Me: Smile and chuckle, "haha, ya i'm struggling a bit you mind lending a hand?" This shows you didn't take what he said personally, and traps him into doing as you suggest, because if he doesn't he will look selfish in front of others. By him doing as you suggest, it shows you as the leader and him as your helping hand aka "bitch boy" but the cooperation between you will also bond you and befriend each other because now you are a team (but you are the leader)

[@Dtonationify]

That response makes you a Mr. Nice Guy, and far not an alpha

[@Unicysis]

“I’m so strong inside I could probably lift your girlfriend’s spirit.”

[@scramblendan]

Very good topic for discussion. I’m pretty sure your just scratching the surface but you make a good point bringing it up. We could all benefit from practicing the art of defusing a potential ticking bomb.

[@hecticbjorn]

i insult myself more than anyone else

[@bulbasaurpokemon3573]

Stop critisizing yourself too much

[@Ben-ox6sk]

Bro, it feels great. I'm usually auto-ironic and when someone insults me it doesn't hurt because I do love to make myself look stupid or idiot and then, after the person gets to know me, it realises that I'm actually smart and a cool guy. I love to surprise them bastards.

[@hecticbjorn]

yep!!! that's the best description ever

[@malachi9821]

Be ready to square up when your shadow side takes over. Knock your ass out fam.

[@G_Jeprody]

2Hectic bruh, I'm dying😂😂😂😂

[@ryanholmes8587]

A lot of babble just to say have more confidence, but then again, here we are.

[@Hasan-uh8zj]

If a guys ego speaks My attitude talks

[@briangatiu8662]

Boss a true alpha male doesn't get defensive.... He just counters verbally, ensures that the exchange is short... usually not more than 2 from both sides but if the assilant continues abusing him he uses his fist 👊 to end the engagement.

[@arynnritter4293]

How to Actually Handle that Scenario: I would either continue doing what I was doing because I don't have time for people who just want to start fights over nothing and I would know that I didn't do anything to provoke him because I'm not a douche so he is likely just having a bad day or something. If he persisted I would say "I'm sorry you feel that way man. I didn't intend to offend you." If he persisted still I'd wonder why I'm still around that person, but I likely would not at any point insult him, hope he's too stupid understand the very obviously derogatory comment and then turn my back or someone larger than me who was already angry with me before I insulted his stature.

[@orducksrosebowl09]

How to win these fights don't play treat it all as a joke. Your untouchable remember that if your not mad and he starts throwing punches you win. Look how weak you are you can't even lift that chair... then you ask "are you having a bad day?" Dude will almost always get FUCKING PISSED. When he yells just stand there looking shocked then say to someone around you (not the anger guy) "I think that was a yes?" Then that person will say something then just talk to them. angry man will throw punches or walk away pissed you won either way

[@jayshadex]

Soo beating them mentally is confusing then and walking away?

[@yeabuddy9365]

subbed, second video in a row. This channel oozes value from every angle.

[@themoderncaveman9586]

I like what you've said here, but when I've tried stuff like this in the past it has quickly unraveled on me because I've either gotten too intellectual/complex and not been understood, or they immediately respond by asking me about what I said. For example: "well I guess what they say about guys with big muscles is true," other guy: " ...and what's that?" me: "....." or "I'm just messing with you/joking " on my better days because I either didn't have a response ready or the punch line was too insulting or intense for the circumstances. The other problem that's occurred is even if the my opponent doesn't ask right away, a bystander usually either asks or is waiting for the punch line and I look like an idiot if I don't say anything and let the silence stretch on. Should my punchlines be surprising, friendly, sharp, non-existent? What should I aim for? Would a better punch line be: "They know heavy shit when they see it" or something equally flat and passive.

[@gratificationgaming4314]

I believe this is displayed in “baki” during the rai tai tournament. When the Japanese jiu jitsu guy on the American team announced he had won way too early and it really looked that way but this drove his opponent, the other alpha, to charge him head on foolishly with anger, but this was exactly what the Japanese American jiujitsu fighter wanted. I remember this guys character so well because I do jiujitsu too, although I can’t remember the name of this guy.. he’s bald.. (not dopo) and has a beard and gi pants and glasses

[@user-op9hq5qs6u]

Bro please do a video on voice tonality. On how to keep your voice deep when you get excited or nervous

[@jamessutton3572]

Smoothie to add to this can you do a video about releasing throat tension to help ?

[@Sammy_X7]

Smoothie The Charisma Matrix has several videos on voice tonality.

[@readurmom717]

What?

[@jiil9862]

Read Urmom what what?

[@philipalzate691]

Smoothie look up Jason Capital vocal tonality

[@donksx]

Until now. I always though videos like this had the hardest working hand in show business lol. Guess it's like a script or something. Great video essay on the topic. Lots of situation can be disarmed/diffused. Thanx

[@Gloriankithsanus]

I'm gonna blow your mind. People you care about, shouldn't be argueing with you, and the rest shouldn't be of your concern. Where does this come in use for you? lol.

[@88hyperman]

I heard that our egos are our own worst enemy!

[@terhb342]

*how to verbally conquer other men* "compliment them and walk away" Wow you sure showed them champ!

[@thibu100]

What if you cant walk away after your counterattack? Youre in a class room or something

[@emreyuksel2203]

thibu100 then just move your head away and pay attention to something else and ignore his/her attemptions to regain your interest. You're welcome ☺️

[@kaelanhutcherson]

There’s no running bro. Whoop that ass

[@Gloriankithsanus]

Stop giving a fuck.

[@kaelanhutcherson]

Dregorin then get bullied

[@Gloriankithsanus]

kaelan hutcherson Who the actual fuck really gets bullied today lol. What are people gonna do, if you take nothing personal, hm? He said, don't get defensive, but reacting intentionally to a provocation is getting defensive after all. You aknowledged, it's an attack, you get emotional over it, and you take your revenge by kicking back. How is this the more mature way of doing it? If you wouldn't have done it without corrupting yourself to deal with your own insecuritys, instead of facing them, then don't waste your time on pretending, cuz you will fall back into old habits, if you only do this, cuz someone said it'll do well. The message you should get in this, is to do whatever the fuck you want and being proud of it, not hiding it, cuz you're afraid of something. Thats the healthy mindset ppl should teach you here, not the alpha bullshit you are wasting your time on.

[@stuff3862]

I just realized my dad is my biggest bully. Not sure how to feel about it but at least I can stop feeling like I need to explain myself to everyone all the time.

[@gustavolealgomes5448]

You say to not attack the ego of the opponent but in 4:02 your example direct offended the muscle dude, what's the difference ?

[@essencehd]

I will be on top mark my words the grind will not 🛑 never I will be confidence’s right hand man.

[@StylesxYT]

Remember this comment before the wave of cancer comes

[@Maffu79]

*C A N C E R*

[@interestingcommentbut....7378]

Already forgot about you

[@1zbossz]

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[@brettwilliams1543]

You'll be with me forever and always.

[@hypermangi8265]

THE WHITE BLOOD CELLS MUST REPENT! OR ELSE IT'LL FEAR IT'S cOnSeQuEnCeS!

[@arnavrawat9864]

I came to here to find people making fun of the video, and found none.

[@phar4oh]

So, avoid an ad hominem attack; respond with something cryptic, walk away and consider yourself the victor? Mmmm.... not convinced.

[@shr00mhead]

When someone tests me I ask them to clarify their position. This makes them think and also gives me time to think. Then if were lucky, theres no battle after all, but a dialogue.

[@badnewstalkstech6900]

Haha reminds me of my younger days when I was cocky af and I used to pick a fight with whoever tf messed with me.. heck beat up my boss and got fired and beat up a 40 year old man in a bus who was a politician and got into trouble.. I didn't knew how to deal with a fight except for saying something that would pierce the other guys ego and then use my fists.. I still haven't changed that much but i guess i better use the advice in this video to stop falling into trouble

[@kizo7401]

Go mma for a week and you'll realise not to look down on someone that looks weak

[@_--Reaper--_]

dunce

[@masonrawls6436]

Still cocky I see lol

[@jaybharat1237]

Loved the knowledge