How to visit a Japanese house PROPERLY!!

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[@mthemodulator]

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[@Gobliness_]

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[@scotpagan]

I really enjoy how you turn the videos into lessons and show both the Japanese and English. as well the videos are entertaining

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[@chargerfryar]

At 5:29, Little Godzilla has Elvis' smile!

[@quintrankid8045]

It looks like LG might be ready for one of those yoga videos. Thanks for taking us along for the visit.

[@tomokotomoko]

Quint Rankid I'll do push-ups with him in the future! :)

[@Luomocolcappello]

このチャンネルが大好き!!最近, 日本語の勉強は大変過ぎてしまったが、ともこさんのビデオを見るうちに、ちょっと楽しくなる。(sorry for my poor Japanese)

[@tomokotomoko]

Hat Man わかります！ありがとう！ うれしいです！

[@gaijinhakase1575]

Excellent video, Tomoko-san! Very informative and helpful, thank you. And you look cheerful and radiant as always! :-)

[@steves5346]

the babys getting bigger. nice smile on him now too. good video tomoko thanks!

[@rachelhinkley5595]

Great timing with this video Tomoko! We just practiced a dialogue like this one (visiting someone's house) in my Japanese class today. It was a good reinforcer to watch your video afterwards! Thank you!

[@tomokotomoko]

Rachel H Wow! Great timing!! :)

[@RenManinJapan]

Nice! I actually know where that store is! I have been there! I always bring my Okaasan something from the U.S. When I come and visit from my area as a gift! 👍😁

[@Flastew]

Thank you Tomoko for an always informative and fun video. I always learn something from your videos.

[@tomokotomoko]

Flastew I'm glad to hear that, Flastew!

[@bbang63]

Tomoko, that was a fun and informative video. It shows some interesting cultural differences that our 2 countries have. And Victor's son is so cute. The two of you look so cute together! Love that you taught him pushups, lol. Anyway thanks for sharing, I always look forward to your posts, Dave.

[@tomokotomoko]

bbang63 Thanks, Dave!

[@bannerline]

Great video Mr. Happy and Little Miss Sunshine! Yes, when I was growing up in the USA we never knew when someone would just come and knock on our door unannounced! Since we never locked our door during the daytime sometimes people would just come in and yell, "Hello!?" Good information for Japan here! Thanks!

[@tomokotomoko]

Thanks, Steve!! never locked?? haha ^^;

[@bannerline]

Only at night... But that was many years ago!

[@Rosak]

Hah, over 10 years of my life I've spent in Japan or somehow dealing with Japan (2 stretches in Japan with years in between away from there), and only now I suddenly realised what "ojama shimasu" means, until now I've just repeated it because.. you do. :D Learnt a new thing today!! :D

[@tomokotomoko]

Rosak Thanks for watching!

[@luqmanshah7942]

yayy new video!!!!! Love the gang!!

[@ballouksalim9384]

I really enjoy these walk and talk videos Tomoko san ! More of these please ! Now, I know what to say when I'm invited to someone's house ! Can I invite myself to your house ? 😅😊

[@tomokotomoko]

Ballouk Salim Salim! Walk and talk videoね！:)

[@Gogooyago]

I love your sunglasses! 😎 Great video and information. 💕

[@tomokotomoko]

Gogooyago Gayla! Thank you〜♪

[@DanHarayda]

I am going to disagree with Victor a tad. Maybe for brothers/sisters we don't, but I would say typically the trend in America is when visiting, we also bring a gift. It might even be just a six pack of beer when we visit, but I would say we usually do bring something.

[@BettyBird]

Dan Harayda I think it really depends on the circle the only person who brings gifts to my house is an older sister and it's because she visits so infrequently it's usually on a holiday. I never take anything anywhere either,not saying I wouldn't it's just so highly informal in the family/friends circle I'm in I've always thought it quaint watching shows seeing gifts of wine and flowers when visiting.

[@Celamux]

Thank you, very useful. I will visit my Japanese colleague soon!

[@BettyBird]

Thanks for sharing!

[@tomokotomoko]

Betty Bird Thank you for watching!!

[@robertryan3571]

Thanks, Tomoko, for this very useful advice. (As a bonus, 'Little Godzilla' seemed to be even cuter than usual in this video, for some reason--so thanks for showing this, too!) :)

[@tomokotomoko]

Robert Ryan Thanks, Robert!

[@musashimarc7536]

very usefull! domo arigatou gozaimasu

[@VampyrMygg]

Might be different in the US, but here in Norway, we usually call beforehand, and check if they are home, and actually want a visit. As for gifts, only really brought when invited for a meal or a special occation, if just a social visit, not as much.... though last time i was at a friends house, i did buy him a wall clock... As for in comparison to Japan, we're still not as polite, even if we make sure to call first. On the shoes pointing towards the door, i seem to remember hearing sometime, when you take off the shoes, there's a social norm of sorts of what not to do? like... do you take both off then put on the indoor shoes? i seem to recall something about not stepping on the floor with socks?

[@cyclone8974]

VampyrMygg We call before we show up in the US too.

[@tomokotomoko]

VampyrMygg With socks, it's OK. But Most of houses have indoor scuffs( I think it is called 'scuffs' ), so we put on them.

[@VampyrMygg]

***** Thank you for responding. :) So it's fairly normal, just take shoes off, pointed towards the door, and put on the scruffs.... is that like slippers?

[@tomokotomoko]

VampyrMygg Yes,yes,slippers. We call it 'surippa'.

[@LittleLulubee]

Aaaw, the baby is so cute!! And sorry if this is a dumb question, but is Victor holding a mini camera at the table in the shop? That's super cute, too.

[@tomokotomoko]

LittleLulubee That is GoPro camera.

[@Hadw1n]

well made video!

[@SilverMiraii]

you guys are so chill ^^

[@tomokotomoko]

Silver Mirai (^_^)

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[@MaikiChen]

☺️nice video Tomoko. 👍

[@tomokotomoko]

Maiki Chen Thanks! Laura! :)

[@lydialilly3747]

I absolutely LOVE your sunglasses Tomoko!! 💕 Where did you get them?!

[@tomokotomoko]

Lydia Lilly 3 coins shop! 300 yen shop.

[@lydialilly3747]

Wow! Awesome!!

[@MANNY100123]

Ah! I didn't know you're suppose to point your shoes towards the door when your enter someones house! Thanks a lot, Tomoko! That's a good thing to keep in mind! ^^

[@tomokotomoko]

MANNY~EmberDim Thanks, Manny!

[@LuchiaxXx]

Great!

[@sweetmatcha]

It seems like you and Victor are very good friends 😊

[@tomokotomoko]

+godinajersey Yes! We have been friends for 19 years?!

[@sweetmatcha]

That's great! You don't always hear of friendships that have lasted that long these days..

[@trc0o0az]

Thank you! This video is so reassuring! So I am watching this cuz today... I went to my Japanese’s friends house and I was super awkward cuz I didn’t want to mess any thing up. I brought a box of chocolates, box of tea, and coffee...They seemed so overwhelmed with the gift I felt like maybe I over did it!? Maybe they do not have this costume in Japan?!! I felt as if I gave them gold bars or something!

[@tomokotomoko]

Chocolates, tea & coffee. If I were your friend, I would be sooooo happy! ^^ Was the chocolates expensive?

[@trc0o0az]

tomoko tomoko the chocolates were worth 30 GB 🇬🇧 (british pound) but I certainly removed the price label and they have no way of knowing how much it was but they could tell it was not some chocolate I brought from the supermarket.

[@tomokotomoko]

trc0o0az Recently it is good for a present. I think. 👍😊

[@trc0o0az]

tomoko tomoko Thank you very much dear Tomoko for helping me with my confusion ☺️👍🏻.

[@aaron2709]

Wow, cute baby!

[@VOIDTheft1]

It's odd if you think of that that nowadays lots of children will see their whole life on film later on.

[@メキシコ人-k2v]

I liked the intro, thought it was funny. Do you live very far from where Victor lives?

[@tomokotomoko]

メキシコ人 Hi! not far. 45 minutes by subway and walk.

[@Athlynne]

Kawaii akachan!

[@tractorsold1]

Doughnuts! But no, we don't do this in the U.S., folks who do here are "strange".

[@RodrigoGRiveros]

Hi Tomoko, that practice of bringing stuff over sounds very similar to what my parents used to do in Chile. Maybe it's something only south pacific countries do. Is it also rude to turn down a coffee or dinner invitation in Japan?

[@tomokotomoko]

Rodrigo Riveros It's not rude, I think. We do it occasionally.

[@ozelot250]

Hi tomoko from America

[@tomokotomoko]

ozelot250 Hi!

[@UFOBobTV]

ビデオは楽しかった。ありがとう。

[@tomokotomoko]

UFO Bob よかった！ Thanks as always, Bob!

[@robberblood]

Depending on the nature of the visit, does it matter what kind of gift you bring?

[@tomokotomoko]

robberblood It doesn't matter. It's ’気持ち’.

[@robberblood]

Once again thank you for your insight. :)

[@KandyCosplay]

lol I dont relly like when people just show up to my house (mainly because I'm usually messy so I'd have to clean first and actually have to wear clothes appropriate for company and I cant do that if I don't have any warning >.

[@tomokotomoko]

Kandy Cos I prefer 'calling', too. :)

[@KandyCosplay]

lol well I'll make sure to call first when I visit and I'll have lots of presents :D

[@tomokotomoko]

Kandy Cos I'll bring lots of presents, too!! :)

[@ozelot250]

I were comfortable clothes at home. My home is my refuge, if guest come unannounced so be it. I do not need to look posh & regal if they just show up. I usually keep my home neat & clean btw.

[@KandyCosplay]

lol I do a lot of cooking and crafting so there's usually something somewhere or some kind of chaos and it would just feel crowded if more people were added into the mix if things aren't put away haha my hubby and I like to be comfortable so our "appropriate" company attire would be actually wearing clothes lol >.

[@TheoCynical]

Victor Jr. will be a bodybuilder one day with those push-ups. lol!

[@tomokotomoko]

donnell outlaw Yay! and teach Yoga next time!

[@TheoCynical]

Yep. :) It'll be a tradition.Haha! I'm kidding!

[@ohsnapsitzcarel]

赤ちゃんが可愛いです！僕はいつも「お邪魔します」と言うのを忘れてしまいます。（笑）

[@tomokotomoko]

Carl O こんにちは！は、言いますか？

[@ohsnapsitzcarel]

*****　ともこさん、こんにちは。 まぁ、うちで僕だけ日本語を勉強しているので、家に入って「お邪魔します」と言ったら、ちょっと変ですね。あまり言っていないので、いつも忘れます！(ｰ ｰ;)

[@robxsiq7744]

when you said Arigatō, is that due to it being a informal meeting of friends? I am finding it difficult to know when to use that verses the more formal Arigatōgozaimashita (or is it more polite?)

[@tomokotomoko]

+Rob Xsiq Arigatou is not informal in any situations. If you want it more polite, use 'Arigatou gozaimashita'.

[@robxsiq7744]

***** ありがとうございました

[@HoshiLove]

question about visiting: If I am new to the neighbourhood, and want to get to know the neighbour. Can I get a box of sweets and ring their bell randomly, just to say: "hi, I'm OOO I'm new to the neighbourhood, nice to meet you" or would it be a bother? And if that's not the way, then how is the proper way to meet the neighbours ? :D

[@tomokotomoko]

+Hoshi Love We do what you said. When I moved here, I rang the bell and gave a box of sweets to the neighborhood. a box of sweets or towels or soaps.

[@HoshiLove]

+tomoko tomoko ともこさんありがとうございます

[@VOIDTheft1]

Looks like an expensive shop.

[@SierenH]

iv tried mochi, i dont like it :/ I LOVE ANKO THOUGH thank you for this video

[@tomokotomoko]

Sieren Tokiio Anko! Oishii yo〜♪

[@thecjmodule]

hi

[@tomokotomoko]

CJ Abbott Hi!

[@Erin-bc8ic]

You didn't bring a gift in the video! :(

[@tomokotomoko]

Eric M I bought some sweets at the fancy shop...

[@loopyfrog]

what does "ojama shimashita" mean?

[@NathanRichan]

Loopy Land It literally means "I've been in the way," or "I've intruded." But it's just a set-phrase now, just like konnichiwa.

[@loopyfrog]

ah great, thankyou Eylon and Nathan :)

[@tomokotomoko]

Nathan Richan Thank you for answering! Nathan!

[@tomokotomoko]

Loopy Land Sorry for my late reply! Nathan is correct!

[@tomokotomoko]

***** Yes, just past tense, and just like bye bye. Thank you for answering!

[@eggsack]

Immunization? Jw...

[@tomokotomoko]

eggsack Every baby does it.

[@eggsack]

***** Same here... Well for the most part...

[@AlphaWolfMusica]

Tomoko I know that are maybe to famous to write me back but I think you are most beautiful and I like you facial expressions I am american but would like to further communicate with you if that is great

[@tomokotomoko]

Alpha Wolf Thanks for your comment! :)

[@AlphaWolfMusica]

***** your welcome so can i email you?> you never answered haha

[@AlphaWolfMusica]

***** 私はあなたに電子メールを送ることができます

[@tomokotomoko]

Alpha Wolf I answer as much as I can! I will!! :)

[@AlphaWolfMusica]

***** ok then you email me ok [e-mail] please tomoko and thank you i will be awaiting youre email