How To Win An Argument

Do you find yourself always losing arguments? Check out this video to find the best way to persuade your opponent.
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[@KuronoXD]

I did this with my girlfriend. We are not together anymore.

[@467sprite]

you cut your hand off?

[@KuronoXD]

YoshiPeach Mario Just until she realised what I was doing and accused me of being too logical and manipulating our fights.

[@KuronoXD]

467sprite Much original, so intelligence, many joke, wow.

[@467sprite]

such response much original "XD" in your username very wow

[@KuronoXD]

467sprite Well, I made the account 10 years ago when it wasn't an outdated fad and I never felt like changing it. Still, funny that was your best shot.

[@harper6032]

How to win an argument against your mom: You don't

[@Mrwiseguy101690]

Knew that was coming

[@johnnybernard]

figured

[@warwolf6862]

I once did and she turned into cthulhu. sht was scary.

[@200odd300]

_slap her_

[@200odd300]

Kitty Kat YOU WANT A PIECE OF ME?!!

[@XBoY4869]

In other words, make sure you tip-toe around your opponent's ego

[@mohammedammar8636]

Excellent observation. Humans have a varying degrees of ego, whether they are conscious about it or not. Its so hard to even try to end an argument lol. Of course the other person will think you are shutting him/her up....

[@vincentalexander5242]

@Vincent Ikanova - I don't like feminists or SJW's, but everything you said can also be applied just the same to the far right position. The ideal ground is somewhere in the middle, between the two positions.

[@MaggaraMarine]

+Vincent Ikanova If that is your mentality, then you are part of the problem. Using generalizations like "leftists" is simplifying things and is just an attempt of making your side look like the right side (no pun intended). (Also, "leftism" doesn't equal "feminism" or "SJW". There are plenty of people on the left who despise SJWs and are "anti-feminists". Some good examples are Sargon of Akkad and The Amazing Atheist.) One can find a lot of examples where the left has the rational position and the right wing position is based on feelings. For example abortion, LGBT rights, stuff like that (not saying that people on the left don't use feeling based arguments to argue their positions either - even if you are right, it doesn't mean you should just disregard the other side by calling them "bigots" or whatever). And again, that's a stupid generalization. I know there are plenty of people on the right who support LGBT rights and all that. Also, "female mentality"... What does that even mean? Are you implying that women can't debate rationally? Are you using "woman" as an insult? (And these are just questions, not accusations, because I really don't understand what you mean by that.) +Vincent T. _"The ideal ground is somewhere in the middle, between the two positions."_ Usually yeah, but not always. Sometimes one side is totally right and the other side is totally wrong. One thing that comes to my mind is gay marriage. But again, it is also about the way you argue. If you disregard all of the points the other side makes because they are "bigots" or "just wrong", that's really not a good way of arguing. Even if the other side is completely wrong, it's important to understand where they are coming from. People will not listen to you if you don't listen to them first.

[@DanMan5000]

Which is why I define arguing as "spewing out words until your opponent rage quits"

[@eddstactitudcaribe8046]

True

[@FearDBro]

Daniel McDonough until you get a black eye

[@DanMan5000]

Can't punch me over the Internet

[@FearDBro]

Daniel McDonough unless your a loser in real life

[@williampatterson9715]

Daniel McDonough I so that too

[@brisk4t]

69% of all marriage arguments. Really ;)

[@EvilNeonETC]

I like this argument in specific

[@Exachad]

I Was gonna right that! FUK YOU!!!!

[@Reddyed]

write- ;D

[@Reddyed]

WRITE- ;d

[@Lexyvil]

Marriage arguments are more often just bickering.

[@dawnwayfinder]

Easy! *Let them talk first to show that you're willing to cooperate. *Don't break eye contact from your opponent. *Tilt your head slightly. *Don't forget to smile.

[@yankangqi]

lol

[@shadowmonkeyking5278]

isn't smiling showing weakness? that's the empathetic step

[@swiftripper7557]

+Div Omni nope

[@shadowmonkeyking5278]

swiftripper 747 yeah it is... o-o

[@swiftripper7557]

Div Omni nope

[@ajithlalkk]

Behavior Change Stairway Model: 1. Actively listen 2. Empathize 3. Build a rapport 4. Influence 5. Change

[@megawattapps]

"You're wrong. You are incorrect. Prove me wrong" 1) Actively Listen Okay, I am listening 2) Empathize I know how you feel about me being wrong, and I feel the same way. We both feel the same. 3) Build a Rapport I feel like I'm not wrong though... Are my feelings wrong? 4) Influence Maybe I am right, have we thought about that? 5) They change "Yeah you are right"

[@Beastinvader]

People undervalue the importance of emotion.

[@DjGamerHv]

Megawatt Apps I

[@user-ve2oz2qq4l]

No. Way too long. Easier: "Racist". There, argument won.

[@itzdaoneandonly3258]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 indubitably

[@universalalgorithm3263]

@@user-ve2oz2qq4l No U.

[@Adam-wm2ys]

Master debators... heheh

[@DGKChoice]

lel.

[@Patadude100]

Congrats. You got the joke.

[@catburt8685]

thought I was the only one

[@fundemort]

ie: Stubborn people... heheh

[@elissamahoney6719]

Adam lol

[@kaungmthu]

Tell that to Trump

[@siked-nc6hh]

Well 60% of people think Trump won imgur.com/a/SQmfN Collection of all the polls

[@rockydo2307]

to be fair he does need to know if he's going to win in November

[@joelmunoz8571]

1. play the victim 2. have evidence 3. if that mufo keeps on talking, say "blah blah blah bitch" and walk away works everytime

[@hycron1234]

People get sick of it, and eventually feel less empathy towards you; like crying wolf. Evidence does not always mean you are right or wrong, or they are right or wrong, it just means you have a perspective of truth (like sunrise/sunset seen from the ground, but from space the planet actually orbits the sun). If you don't listen to people, why should they listen to you?

[@joelmunoz8571]

blah blah blah bitch 😂

[@hycron1234]

Cute, but at least it may dispel the bad advice of the first two. Nothing I can do for ignorance.

[@joelmunoz8571]

damn dude its just a fucking joke chill man dont need to get mad😂

[@kingkeeper99]

hahaha do that if you want to get punched in the face as hard as possible...

[@vallano8970]

I've always gone into arguments when I see necessary and I know that I have all my facts ready so I usually never "lose". I also admit when I'm wrong and can change my thoughts on something without whining about it. I've been like this for as long as I can remember because I hate when people talk about something likes its a fact or act like they are right about something without any thing to back it. In other words I hate ignorance

[@darknecropsy]

Southpark showed me to destroy their credibility, it works

[@Beastinvader]

Do you have a link? Sounds interesting.

[@AleksandrKramarenko]

It doesn't work if your goal is to change the mind of the person you are debating with. There are different tactics for different goals.

[@tonymin2183]

pls

[@Beastinvader]

***** Ikr

[@Graham-in4hw]

stfu

[@alieninthecaribbean]

So basically have a civil and honest conversation with people. Do not argue with them. I agree.

[@capnam_12]

I agree completely as well.

[@blammmed]

i also agree

[@fanjerry8100]

Use violence, if you're the stronger guy it works for you every time.

[@engineergaming5478]

Then you must lose every arguement lol.

[@engineergaming5478]

mongoloid u must lose every fight.

[@charlotteclaire5332]

I use this every day and I didn't know.

[@cyclops9202]

Same

[@kear]

Bunch of people who secretely are FBI hostage negotiators ;)

[@TheLinposterIsSus]

Good for you

[@TheLinposterIsSus]

Anime pfp 👎😩

[@luvheart5258]

0:40 ITS THE PEOPLE FROM THAT MEME IM WHEEZING

[@end8316]

Hahaha omg

[@HyenaHouseENT]

funniest intro ever

[@Zspec1988]

The first dnews upload I've awarded with a like! Congrats

[@redacted_re]

Thanks for all the infos, oh and by the way your shirt is really nice, man! I like it

[@TheRMartz12]

Thats a nice comment

[@r0n1n-]

+TheRMartz12 Such a rarity these days

[@thefarterman1522]

Rōnïn 浪人 yeah right

[@thefarterman1522]

Rōnïn 浪人 people are so mean now

[@r0n1n-]

Nigel Luke Yeah, keyboard warriors

[@alexandert696]

Well arguing often turns into a monologue. There are countless people out there that dont know how to express themselves,how to communicate and how to have a debate of any sorts. Many go: Im right you are wrong end of story, so why bother to listen to their bs?

[@eddstactitudcaribe8046]

Or the I am better than you move!

[@EpitomeLocke]

I used to want to understand where other people are coming from but when i came to the realization that most people want you to understand them without trying to understand you, i gave up. now i find peace in knowing people are different and i dont have to care what you think and what you wanna do unless if affects me physically or personally. i still think thats the easiest way to live so far.

[@eddstactitudcaribe8046]

Not Aaron True that!

[@AdityaParabDC]

69% of all marriages... yeah right. huehuehuehue

[@mygodsbleed]

I can't lie, I love listening to Jules talk, both here and on Seeker daily.

[@Toastmaster_5000]

Interesting - I've come up with the FBI's method on my own. I just picture the events that occur when I argue with someone and it pretty much lined up the same way. Basically, the best way to win an argument is to let people know it's ok to be wrong. Be polite in your disagreements and it doesn't have to get that heated.

[@trollstheking2636]

Step 6: Belittle them. Step 7: Convince them they feel bad as a result of their own actions. Step 8: Convince them that they will never stop feeling horrible. Step 9: Explain how much of a failure they are. Step 10: Suggest Suicide as a answer to their problems.

[@thijsjong]

WRONG!

[@JennaKayce]

can't argue with that logic

[@anthonymacleod8829]

best saying that I've heard was(I'm not arguing with you, I'm only explaining to you why I'm right.) thanks for the video.

[@nickrichardson2077]

This is the key to peace on all levels.

[@piplupsuper0]

master...debaters that had to be a pun

[@filipivan5125]

if u can win an argument in league of legends then u have respect !

[@samimas4343]

i am happy when i am watching dnews. you guys are too bad that you are the last of the few videos that don't start with an ad.

[@porshejenkins5780]

Needed to learn this thank you

[@WendyPadillaa]

Am I the only one bothered by the fact that in the thumbnail it's the same guy? lol

[@Alexthegod19]

its not

[@goose4781]

Yeah you are, because they're completely different people.

[@garychandler4296]

I was bothered because when he said "married couples", it showed two DUDES on a couch. Scroo dat!

[@MCOD1999UK]

Just say lies that appeal to loads of people, it works

[@JennaKayce]

i'm guessing you're talking about Donald Trump and Hilary Clinton.

[@MCOD1999UK]

That would count, but I was just talking about politics in general. *Nearly all* politicians speak many lies to win votes

[@JennaKayce]

MCOD1999 that's true, but the candidates are good examples.

[@Dayz3O6]

Heard about this on "Philosophize This!" podcast.

[@sakshimalik7410]

he just pulls out the speaker at the end like I was waiting for this

[@mriiztea9416]

Can you tell us why people easily dislike videos like these?:0

[@irek1394]

Probably beacouse they realized it is about them :P

[@oskarjanlucky]

maybe because of the advertising

[@pandaman2234]

I disliked because a real argument is won by being most logical. There is nor reason to argue with people who are unwilling to admit they are wrong, so this video is pointless. Also it says that know one is willing to admit they are wrong when in reality only worthless people are unwilling to admit that they are wrong.

[@oskarjanlucky]

Ok first of all: its to make arguments better in your future, second: calling people who cant argue worthless is very judging

[@irek1394]

pandaman i can bet you are not looking only at logical arguments when arguing.. and even if you are 99% of people dont do that so calling them all worthless is an exaggeration still i must admit its anoying

[@SauceGodQua]

EVERY ONE JUST USE THE TRUMP TACTIC

[@jimigarbage0206]

Trump tactic was not use full for me....

[@Kavriel]

WRROONG. NOT TRUE. WRONG , I DO NOT, I DIDN'T .

[@acarne4736]

Thank You!

[@killxhristos7539]

I have learned from the master hova beans that the key of winning an argument is being "louder" then the other person

[@hex8787]

What's up with the gay background music.

[@ventroid4473]

Hector Diaz ...

[@Miimu5210]

How can music be homosexual? Unless you mean a happy, upbeat music, in which case is not surprising for D-News.

[@KarmaSwiss]

Scream liberal and communist at the top of your lungs

[@TheInfiniteSheldon]

"Socialist", "Marxist" and "SJW" works, too!

[@KarmaSwiss]

Infinite Sheldon true!

[@user-ve2oz2qq4l]

Nah, say racist a lot. That's way more common. Trust me, you immediately win.

[@TheDegbring]

THANK YOU. Now I finally learned how to WIN an argument, because thats what everyone wants to do and so does your OPPONENT, who LOSES

[@jeprillindain3150]

Just use my line: oh! I never thought of it that way, thanks for your side of this argument.

[@geriott609]

It's fun being an atheist. You never loose

[@seameus91]

Yeah, I'm always tight

[@fernadot.baltazar4486]

you're dumb

[@LightningIgnitor]

You lose at using the right words in the right situations.

[@exoshock4865]

Geri Ott are you purposely trying to start a comment war?

[@TheSkullcrusher73]

poijm0o

[@paratek_io]

0:48 is how religious people read their scripture, without logic.

[@fzrrahman4202]

I understand my friend, I know where this is coming from, maybe u dint start on the right foot with people who follow the path of God, I believe u should research more in this topic and open ur eyes to light of islam, read the quran for yourself, dont listen to some immoral arrogant guy, be the smarter person and read the quran and shut them up if u think they are wrong,... let's see if this convinces u

[@juice4989]

Fzr Rahman I see what you did there... Very well done. Maybe they'll fall for it 😂

[@fzrrahman4202]

+JeeTheBee 😂😂😂😂

[@opreaiulian4865]

+Fzr Rahman France, Germany,Switzerland if you guys know what I'm talking about ;)

[@paratek_io]

Fzr Rahman I have a background in religious studies and philosophy, I did look into it. Its bull shit.

[@roush26]

You've won an argument when your opponent breaks into anger and/or resorts to personnel insults. I have won one where opp. changed his mind, but it was ugly, looked like he had a nervous breakdown, and collapsed in repenting fashion. Another thing is when arguing for awhile, you drop an excellent point and walk away from it. Your opp will naturally drop his/her own last word. You ignore/dismiss it, if your opp continues, you know you've won because he/she doesn't feel satisfied with the end result. When I lose arguments I just shut up.

[@biscoito1r]

I usually consider myself a winner when the other person begins to play dumb.

[@Blessbybeer]

Great video.. Thank you

[@SocialistSkeptic]

When I'm wrong I just modify my arguments around the new information and stop abandon whatever I was wrong about. In this way my arguments become stronger and more persuasive. Granted, it's impossible to persuade some people, but then you don't argue with them to persuade them, you argue to either strengthen your own arguments or persuade spectators, or possibly out of some sadistic or masochistic impulse.

[@FunnyGuy117156565]

This felt like learning how to write a persuasive essay again

[@underground6116]

Wonderfull and applicable. I've personally tried this with a student in my class and it worked like magic

[@247th]

I'm a social worker. We call this "motivational interviewing". : )

[@jdnandi6617]

Great Transition from videos.

[@Solisium-Channel]

My mother always thought me that he that gets angry first loses. I tell you that she’s absolutely right!

[@jacobstaten2366]

I have done this frequently with my wife about firearms and she seems to reset after a brief period of time. She knows her fears and arguments are irrational, and has changed her opinion, but for some reason resets.

[@sirplz1]

I love how at 1:56-1:58 he was referring to couples and showed pictures of 2 people; a straight interracial relationship and a gay interracial relationship. DNews keeps dropping subtle everyday issue and is normal here. Glad I subbed :)

[@antwainclarke3406]

I'm discovering more and more that emotions are more accessible than logic, in fact logic works within the boundaries that our emotions define. By removing the stigma of the dissenting opinion, making the other/outsider seem less unpleasant, logic becames unencumbered to reach new conclusions. With that said, emotions are still such a messy, chaotic variable though that just complicates everything unnecessarily. I wish they never existed.

[@AbeldeBetancourt]

Nice one!

[@jaysonvillanueva6318]

thank you it really works

[@eddstactitudcaribe8046]

Taking tips here!

[@alvenhchanne]

Easier said than done. The problem with the 5 step process is that it sometimes feel awkward with some individuals.

[@veroosh]

Your advice : way to win an argument = lie + manipulate - good job!

[@Gawillamon]

This goes to show that because we can also control how we react to things, we can control our brain chemistry and therefore our emotions as well.

[@user-mn6li2yv4d]

listen > empathize > build a rapport > influence > change :)

[@whaledunk7520]

Wish I watched this video before my conference

[@MateoLiveBett]

I was arguing about arguing to my sister so now I gotta show her this video

[@jet5995]

Suppose if we're in argument an someone says “your small i dont want to argue with you” what greatest reply we can give to shut him/she off

[@AngusMurray]

thanks

[@nemagala5772]

I always lost an argument but now no one can talk with me

[@thegreenman1287]

The moment you are arguementing, and the one you are arguementing whit spells something wrong.

[@rcnal22]

Feel felt found technique. I understand how you feel (empathy), in fact I know most people probably felt the same way given your situation, however, what I've found to be a good solution is if we just breathe for a moment, and just try again, this time knowing we are at least listening to each other. What do you say?

[@theory8sf]

I know a lot of people argue by yelling at each other and who ever is the loudest wins!

[@donniemontoya9300]

Taking English 1010 Composing Arguments as a college general study right now. The secret to an argument is Rhetoric, ethos, pathos, logos, and avoiding logical fallacies. Though I'm only about a month in so I'll keep you guys posted. ;)

[@MaggaraMarine]

Yeah. I think this is a problem, especially online. People argue, they don't discuss. If you argue, it will never change anybody's mind, it will just strengthen your own views. But if your goal is to understand each other and find some common ground, then it will work much better. Both sides will most likely learn something new from the discussion.

[@robertvalcin]

I fail to see any success after empathizing. The "influence" stage sounds so simple. I'd like to hear more about specific things I could do to influence my counterpart

[@seanthomasmusic]

Got a minute in and it told me what I already know... appeal to emoion beats appeal to reason everytime.

[@VEVOJavier]

i was like 'oh shit' when the big ass speaker came out of nowhere

[@CookingLessonsforDad]

I wish I knew this when my kids were young!

[@Plethy]

God damn, that was some sly add placement. Caught me off guard while I was thinking about the video. I guess I cant argue with that! ᵇᵘᵗ ᵈᵃᵐᶰ, ᴵ ʷᵃᶰᵗ ᵃ ᵇᵒᵒᵐ ᵇᵒˣ ᶰᵒʷ⋅

[@jasonhaven7170]

It's $25 a month! I ain't paying that. I either own it or don't. The only thing I will ever rent is a home.

[@Plethy]

wasn't necessarily talking about that one. I didn't click on it, but yeah I totally get why its over priced. I don't need one that bad, but if I had the money for it or just shopped around for a different brand, I would be giving some one business.

[@freddygordon8527]

got into a big argument with my dad who refuses to ever admit hes wrong. about to confront him after watching this video. Wish me luck!

[@YZ450f24]

People who care more about bettering themself will actually enjoy when people let them know that they are wrong so long as what the person is saying is true and criticism can be welcomed if the person cares more about making progress and showing gratitude to the person for letting them know something that they didn't realize before. Those people can easily admit when they did something wrong or if the way they are going about doing something is far from optimal.

[@owencampbell4947]

You need a portion of convincing truth, and that is a portion of experienced knowledge. You destroy any lie with experienced knowledge.

[@Masochist4Melons]

How to win an argument: WAR Sorry but that is the only way. This has been know for a long time.

[@marsmarz]

HEY MASTER DEBATERS IM CRYING

[@pastelab]

The intro is my life 😭

[@andrewevenson7798]

This technique in arguing realistically won't work in any typical arguments I have. In fact, this is usually the technique I try and use, but maybe slightly different. Also, arguments do not have to be wars. There does not have to be a winner or loser. The problem is so many people treat arguments as wars, even really smart people. In opinionated arguments, there can't be a winner because it's an opinion. In a factual argument, there is a correct answer, but people will still deny it, sometimes even when provided direct evidence.

[@cvs8104]

when trum says "because you'd be in jail" = potential land slide

[@spycozelot]

well that's not me. when someone argue with me I think about if they're right if not I try to see their perspective on the matter if that still doesn't work (meaning they are still wrong but arguing or if they might be right) I will think of a logical way to see it or think of a logical way to tell them how wrong they are.

[@smoshfanhere1]

Hey, DNews! Could you please do a video about RSI? (repetitive strain injury)

[@edi9892]

There are two more ways to win: 1) agree with them on a point, then expand on it showing that A=>B=>C and they don't like C; now it's their turn to find a way to avoid C or find the flaw in the logic you presented , which could actually result in finding a flaw in their own logic... 2) the game of frames: hard to explain but it describes how everyone processes data differently. Step 1 is to be aware how you and your opponent see the world differently; 2 find a possible overlapping frame to your advantage. Examples: see the YT video _Game of Thrones: How Power Really Works_

[@squirrelforhisacorn]

Depending on how much you really care about the subject just ignore them and continue what your doing, however if otherwise only use things that they can relate to in hope that they have the same feeling as you currently do. Hope this helps

[@HeyZReD]

Winning an argument with a smart person is hard, but winning an argument with a stupid person is literraly impossible.

[@retrosking]

Sometimes I'm to nonchalant so I don't care about actually winning an argument. But I actually want to change that.

[@gayrice3160]

My friend always thinks he wins an argument because i become silent after a short time. But really i havent changed my mind.

[@Kruckshanks]

Me and my friends got in a fight. One of them is a jerk and at the end of it they moved on from me thinking I'm the bad one so I lost 2 good friends :(

[@barslund_3417]

what if the guy you wanna win an argument against doesn't get arguments

[@Shafliez]

Don't argue. Have a conversation.

[@jp4yu]

you are right

[@InevitableTruth247]

First person to leave a hopeless argument is a winner