How to write a eulogy | Bret Simner | TEDxBasel

[@JohnJones-gu3rs]

i’m 20 years old and writing a eulogy for my sister, I can’t stress enough how much this video helped me. thank you

[@bretsimner754]

I’m so glad it helped and so so sorry for what you’re going through. ❤️

[@dirkhaesevoets]

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[@ninagracie7771]

I I wish you lots of love and healing ❤️

[@siriuslysims]

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm writing my Dad's. So I'm here too. Glad it's useful.

[@bretsimner754]

@@siriuslysims Hang in there. You've got this.

[@abrahamifroze8775]

I'm 17, preparing a Eulogy for my Father. Wish me luck everybody.

[@bretsimner754]

That's way too young to have to do that. So sorry for your loss. Hang in there.

[@marydavis3764]

How did it go?

[@carlymonster9]

Sending love

[@mary251986]

How did you do i have to do one for my mother tomorrow 😢

[@johnlocke4715]

Incredible. Thank you so much Mr. Simner for your help. My Grandmother passed away and I’m still in shock, as she meant so much to me, but I wanted to say something at her funeral tomorrow. This was incredible helpful.

[@bretsimner754]

Dear John, It's really humbling to hear that this was helpful to you. I'm really sorry for the loss of your grandmother.

[@Burritosarebetterthantacos]

Im reading my Fathers eulogy tomorrow. Im a nervous wreck but it must be done. My dad deserves it. Its a tight 10 minute tribute.

[@bretsimner754]

10 minutes is plenty. I'm sure it was amazing.

[@claudiah.2935]

Gave my first eulogy at my grandpa’s funeral a few hours ago and I can say with 1000% certainty that it would not have been as powerful had I not watched this video a few times before I wrote it. I can’t thank you enough for your help, Bret. Your wisdom has impacted so many people! ❤️❤️❤️

[@bretsimner754]

Dear Claudia, I'm so very glad that this was helpful to you. 😍It is so hard to put something together and deliver it while going through the first stages of mourning. Cheers to you for managing. Wishing you all the best for all the firsts of that year after losing a loved one. Sincerely, B

[@momzilla9491]

@claudiah.2935 Thank you for sharing. My husband's funeral is this Friday. Right now I am so traumatized that all I can see/feel/hear was that awful moment that feels like it will never end. Like you, I'm going to watch and rewatch this lesson so my eulogy isn't about my grief, it's about the greatest man I have ever know.

[@claudiah.2935]

@@momzilla9491 I am so sorry for your loss and can’t imagine what you must be going through right now. Tell everyone about the wonderful man who you had (have) the privilege of loving. Share the sweet things that no one else got to see; your best memories together, the silly little things he did. It may be one of the most heart-wrenchingly difficult things you’ll ever do, but you only have to speak your eulogy one time. Just once. And you will feel some weight lifted off of you when you’re up there smiling and speaking so adoringly of him. You are going to do great. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. So many hugs to you and your loved ones during this devastating time. ❤️

[@bretsimner754]

@@momzilla9491 I'm just seeing this now. So sorry and I am sure it was from the heart.

[@JensTVMusic-lvo7u]

I literally watched this video more than once when I read your comment! I'm now so glad I watched this video more than once and I see what you mean! Thank you for saying that!

[@evastood4539]

3:27 1. Bring them back to life 2. Tell a story 3. Say what they meant to you

[@bretsimner754]

Thanks for this!

[@terrinicolee8969]

Ouuu thank you so much I needed this I’m taking public speaking and I have to write a eulogy and 4 other types of speeches

[@drshaw5562]

...Or just sit still and watch a four-minute video.

[@Deaky13]

I'm 26 years old preparing to write my husband's eulogy, and this was so helpful. Thank you.

[@bretsimner754]

Wow, I'm so so sorry. I'm glad that this was helpful and wish you strength and warmth in this difficult time.

[@finshady227]

I’m so sorry

[@bighairswagg]

Sorry for the lost of your husband may you continue to heal

[@DavidBrown-xo3ql]

Bret, Thank you for posting such a positive and inspiring video. It was an enormous help. For a short moment, you helped me to bring my father-in-law back to life. I shared a few great stories of him with a room full of family and friends, and then I said my final goodbye. For me, it was an emotional roller coaster, a mixture of happiness and joy, and then finishing with the last paragraph, a barely controlled sensation of grief and loss. It was hard but worth every second, and which I am proud to have been able to say that day. You sir, helped to get me through it, and I cannot thank you enough, you too should be proud. Thank you.😊

[@bretsimner754]

Hello David, I am proud indeed to cone into contact with such amazing people like you!

[@Berriesinthewoods]

These comments are heart wrenching - we are here together, thank you for sharing your love and sincerity.

[@bretsimner754]

Agreed!

[@ParadoxBoxx]

I never thought I would be giving a eulogy for my my mom at 21 but I'm here nonetheless. Thank you so much Bret for this easy to digest and concise video. Hoping for the best.

[@bretsimner754]

You'll be great. This is way too early for you to have to do this. Get through the day. The real mourning starts in the year of firsts afterwards. You've got this.

[@Mptappin12]

I’m writing one for my dad I’m 16

[@ParadoxBoxx]

@@Mptappin12 I’m sorry for your loss

[@salvatorecreative2902]

I delivered a Eulogy for my mother's funeral. It was the proudest moment of my life

[@bretsimner754]

So proud of you for doing it!

[@salvatorecreative2902]

@bretsimner754 if you have the chance please consider. It's an honour

[@DonzellLampkins]

I am giving a eulogy for my mother today at 11 am cst. I am honored, yet still in disbelief. Thank you for this video.

[@bretsimner754]

You're welcome. I'm so glad that this was helpful. I trust that you did an amazing job.

[@jonestraloma]

Thank you for this. I’ve told dozens of speeches. Won awards and contests. But this has been the hardest one I ever had to write.

[@bretsimner754]

That's the thing: It doesn't actually get any more difficult than this. Hang in there, B

[@ryanmarksfishlord654]

17 years old had to give a eulogy for my father thanks for the tips, had to write a quick one but it was simple and powerful, especially since I was the only one whose gave a speech it was pretty awesome 😊

[@bretsimner754]

17. Wow, that's early to have to do this. Glad the video was helpful. Hang in there and all the best to you for getting through the first year.

[@doug3512]

In the last 4 years, I have been tasked with eulogizing my father and my mother. I think one important piece that is missing is that it's completely normal and ok to have some moments where your emotions are overwhelming. With that said, it's also important to know your limits. If you can't get through it, please ask someone else to do it. There's no shame in saying, "I don't think I can do this at this time." If you're reading these comments because you're sitting down writing the eulogy for a loved one, I am sorry for your loss and wish you peace.

[@bretsimner754]

Dear Doug, thanks so much for adding this thought and for being part of the conversation. I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this. B

[@normabridges1724]

Thank you

[@We_play_PoGo]

My teacher is goated I love that he’s helping people

[@JensTVMusic-lvo7u]

I needed to learn this. This video took the impossible brutally painful challenges away to make it definitely possible to be done properly. An example here would be my Nanny, who was too important not to. I'm sure we all know someone exactly like that, before we take a real look around and realize how many people there are just like this, including you and me! I want/wanted to get the things out that she deserves to be said about her. So many people did a great job when they were alive and are truly invaluable, and irreplaceable. They deserve to have something said about them and all they've done. So many people are completely worth this and more.

[@bretsimner754]

So glad this helped. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

[@JensTVMusic-lvo7u]

@@bretsimner754 Everything went perfectly, and the service was beautiful. A large amount of people went to dinner at a nice restaurant afterwards, and then even more people stood up and spoke as well. We all also went home immediately afterwards, especially while everything was going so well. It's because of you. You're cherished and precious. You are loved, appreciated, cherished, and incredible Mr. Brett Simmer. Thank you with all my heart! 💯%

[@bretsimner754]

@@JensTVMusic-lvo7u I'm so glad that it went well. Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words as well.

[@albertlopez4307]

Bret, I watched your video the day before I had to give my dad's Eulogy. I had already my thoughts on paper, but "bringing them back to life" was what I was missing. Thank you and I am sorry for your loss as well.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad that this was helpful. So sorry for the loss of your father.

[@Glaucomacarecenter]

Bret you are amazing. Such clarity and wisdom in just a few short minutes. Thank you!!

[@bretsimner754]

Thanks so much! II wanted this to be short since those who might be looking for the info shouldn't have to sit through anything long.

[@shahzadperez942]

THIS HAS SO MUCH VALUE!!! Thank you for sharing this slice of such experienced wisdom for a difficult moment!

[@bretsimner754]

Thank you so much, Shahzad. I'm so glad that this was a help to you.

[@kellogs342]

ever played football ?

[@rsanchezfin]

I just did my First Eulogy for my Dad. Could not have done it any better without seeing the video a couple of times. Ty!

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. So glad that this was helpful. I intentionally made the video as short as possible seeing as people would want something compact when dealing with the circumstances. Hang in there. B

[@theresemcnerney7961]

My husband passed away October 3rd of 2020..I did my Eulogy quite honestly on FB while he was still alive.. My children all spoke so eloquently at His funeral and I was so impressed with their strength to do such and yes some tears were shed but lots of laughter too. My heart goes out to us all at such times of enormous sadness but may the Lord bless us all as we give honor to our loved ones as I will now have to at one of my best friends’ funeral. I have know her for 56 years and it is going to be so difficult but this summary is helping me to structure a meaningful tribute to a truly great friend/sister..Thanks

[@bretsimner754]

@@theresemcnerney7961 My gosh, what a story. I'm really humbled to be able to help in any way. Hang in there. Sincerely, Bret

[@swankehlou]

Thank you so much for this, Bret. My grandfather passed away yesterday, and we cremated him and deposited him into his crypt today. My emotions and thoughts are all over the place, but after watching this, it has helped me cope and write a great eulogy to honor him.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so so glad that this was a help for you. Those first days are w whirlwind where it's difficult to think straight. Bravo to you for finding the energy and clarity of mind to honor your grandfather one last time.

[@joareboo6253]

bret is my school music teacher lol

[@OrlandoMGarcia]

My Grandfather died yesterday, what a great advice to make honor to his memory

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad. That's why this talk is here--for those who need it.

[@OrlandoMGarcia]

@@bretsimner754 Thank you Brent!!

[@noahnavarrete3412]

Sorry for your loss

[@deesabee]

Me too. Grandpa died yesterday. Loved hearing these words.

[@rickd4900]

@@deesabee my grandfather passed a week ago so I’m in the same position 😓

[@georginaohanlon1259]

I'm writing my beloved Mother's eulogy at this moment, very nervous of the delivery - thank you for the advice Bret. I hope I do her proud.

[@bretsimner754]

Dear Georgina, I'm sure you will!❤

[@georginaohanlon1259]

@@bretsimner754 I did it! Thank you so much for your inspirational words.

[@itsgeorgeoliver]

Damn I have no idea how you ended up making a ted talk on this subject, but this was great. Very helpful and cleary for a lot of other people. Thank you Bret

[@bretsimner754]

I only did this because there was so little information out there on the topic and I wanted people to have it. :)

[@tj921able]

Thank you for sharing this. I am preparing to write ✍️ a eulogy for my brother. This was very informative and helpful. God Bless You and stay safe 🙏 ❤️

[@bretsimner754]

Blessings to you as well. I'm so very glad that this was helpful to you. The loss of a sibling is a particularly difficult one to take.

[@courtney3974]

I have watched many videos about this topic, and this was the most helpful. Thank you for this. Incredibly grateful.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad. I have to deliver my mother's eulogy today, so I get to put this into practice again. 🤞

[@courtney3974]

@@bretsimner754 I'm so sorry about your mother. May her memory be a blessing.

[@bretsimner754]

@@courtney3974 Thanks so much!

[@billwright5347]

Hi Bret, Thank you so much for such amazing advice. Had to write my mom's eulogy and deliver it today. Your thought process was incredibly helpful. Kindest regards!

[@bretsimner754]

So glad this helped. Losing a mother is really rough. Warmest thoughts to you. B

[@misterhot9163]

I’m struggling with writing my dad’s eulogy, this video with special insights are very helpful. Thank you.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad that this was helpful. Hang in there.

[@eyeamking3333]

I'm Writing my Mother's Eulogy Today and Needed this Pep Talk and Direction. Thanks 🙏🏿

[@bretsimner754]

So sorry. I'm really glad that this helped. Hang in there.

[@chriscollins48]

I've given eulogies for both parents and high school buddy and now I'm giving one for my brother in two days. (6/17/24). I'm most anxious about the microphone quality in the facility and whether people will be able to hear me ok. It's hard to do but my brother deserves it. He was so courageous battling a brain tumor for 15 months.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I'm equally sorry that you've had to do this so many times. Nonetheless, bravo to you for honoring your loved ones so nobly. Sincerely, Bret

[@chriscollins48]

@@bretsimner754 Thanks Bret. I thought I might get emotional towards the end of my talk but the emotion came much quicker. Ended up using a hand held mic which turned out well. I received a lot of nice compliments and one guy even told me he wants me to give his eulogy. So glad I did it even though the anxiety leading up to it was significant.

[@bretsimner754]

@@chriscollins48 So proud of you for pulling it off!

[@Aris-Darling]

Writing a eulogy for my mom who suddenly passed. I am honored to be the one to give the speech

[@bretsimner754]

Hang in there and good luck!

[@shekharmoona544]

I'm literally writing my grandmother's eulogy right now. I probably only spent 5 weeks of my entire life with her that I recall. At first I felt that I couldn't encapsulate her legacy accurately. Here I am persevering the same way she did.

[@bretsimner754]

Every situation is different. There is no "right" experience and no "correct" way to deal with this time. Hang in there; you've got this.

[@interdimensionalentity2134]

I’m in a very similar situation right now. If you’ve held it already can you maybe give me some tips?

[@bretsimner754]

@@interdimensionalentity2134 Wait--isn't that what the talk was about? :) Seriously though, just be sure to leave anything emotional until the very end., That way, you can be sure that you have the capacities to deliver the whole thing. Hang in there. B

[@interdimensionalentity2134]

@@bretsimner754 yeah haha thanks

[@DK-rk8ie]

Thank you for this talk. It helped a ton when I was trying to write my brother's eulogy. I appreciate you for what you do.

[@bretsimner754]

Your brother? That's a difficult one. So glad that this was helpful.

[@DK-rk8ie]

@@bretsimner754 he was also 32 years older than me, so he was both a father figure and a brother.

[@DK-rk8ie]

@@bretsimner754 you do a wonderful service with this talk.

[@bretsimner754]

@@DK-rk8ie Thanks so much for your supportive feedback. This talk was supposed to be just that--support for those who need it when they don't know where to start.

[@iemandanders6471]

Im 34 years old writing the eulogy for my mother, my only family member. I will do everytthing in my power to make it work

[@bretsimner754]

I'm sure you will be amazing. Good luck and hang in there! B

[@walker675]

Thank you so much for this. I have to give the eulogy at my grandmother's funeral. Im so scared of breaking down. Ill practice and practice to try and keep the emotions buried until im finished.

[@bretsimner754]

This is a tricky one: On the one hand you don't want to totally keep the emotions buried, however, on the other, you want to be able to physically make it through the moment. In the past, I chose to stay humorous and warm until the final thoughts. However, after presenting this talk, I had to give the eulogy for my mother. There, I let the emotional material come earlier, not following my own advice. That is a mistake that almost cost me....I had to take a break, then a deep breath---only then I was able to get back on track. Sorry that you're going through this; I'm sure you were great.

[@JohnJApanovitch]

My great grandfather passed away literally just recently, and I wanted to write and deliver a eulogy in his memory and honor. As a writer, I know I didn't have to, but he was so close to me, so I felt obligated to.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm sure you did a great job. So glad you went for it. So sorry for the loss of your great grandfather.

[@kk-zb6ue]

I’m reading a eulogy for my wife tomorrow, wish me luck !!

[@bretsimner754]

Good luck. That's a tough one. Hugs to you. You've got this.

[@balboa4092]

This is awesome. My dad is dying and asked me to talk in front of hundreds about him I'm so scared to do this, and hope I wont cry and ruin it.

[@bretsimner754]

You've got this. So sorry for what you're going through.

[@sashamarie266]

You will prepare yourself so you don't have anxiety...eat something and breath..I'm preparing myself to write my aunts

[@bretsimner754]

@@sashamarie266 So sorry.

[@lxdeuropeanlifebydesign1616]

this video really helped me write my eulogy for my dad i cant thank you enough

[@bretsimner754]

I’m so glad this helped. Hang in there-one day at a time….

[@taylorschaefer8927]

Hey, this was a great video. I am preparing to give my first eulogy tomorrow, and this video was super helpful. Thank you.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad that this was helpful to you.. Cheers to you for sharing with those close to you. You've got this! :)

[@sebastiansmith52]

My best friend has just passed away today(he was 17). I couldn't talk to him for a few months. My school is in another state. And when her mom said to me he died. I felt broken. I wanna say something at his funeral. And your video helped me a lot. Thank you.

[@bretsimner754]

I‘m so sorry for what you’re going through. I’m glad this helped a bit. This is an immense amount to go through at any age, not even to mention 17. Hang in there and give yourself time to process and heal.

[@Juilan8]

Writing a Eulogy for my little cousin. Our first loss in the family since our Uncle in 95 (I was 3). I appreciate this video.

[@brendonwertz7257]

I’m 21 years old. One of my childhood best friends passed away when we were both 17 from Covid in 2020. I never got to attend her funeral because I moved 3 hours away. I never got to say goodbye. So this is more than a grade to me. It’s me getting to say goodbye to my best friend. To a room full of people who never had the honor of knowing her is a little weird but I guess it’ll do. Update: I asked her for a sign the day I delivered my speech. She sent me the most beautiful rainbow and sunset I’ve ever seen

[@bretsimner754]

Do it! You'll be great!

[@brendonwertz7257]

@@bretsimner754 I did it and I got an 89 and it was one of the hardest college classes I’ve taken so far. I thought I was gonna fail 😭

[@bretsimner754]

@@brendonwertz7257 To be fair, that would be pretty heartless for a teacher to not recognize your bravery. Hats off to you for both doing this and for taking such an important step in the mourning process.

[@vamgreen]

Thanks for this. I have to record my eulogy for my father and send it a week early because weirdly in 2024 the funeral home can only live stream and project, but not allow me to speak live.

[@bretsimner754]

That's a bit odd. No worries though, that was the same situation with this talk as it was during COVID. You've got this,

[@projectstoicism]

Giving the Eulogy at the funeral for my childhood best friend in two days. This gave me some things to think about.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad this helped. So so sorry that you have to go through this.

[@projectstoicism]

@@bretsimner754 We all have to go through these things multiple times. All that we can hope to be is useful for those in need.

[@AlvinBattle33]

This really helped. Thank You!

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad.

[@caleb-zq2jy]

Im 18 preparing an eulogy for my best mate whos just passed this has helped so much

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so so sorry that you have to go through that. Hang in there.

[@donnamj69]

My Dad just asked me to do his eulogy. It is a strained relationship and I am not sure why he picked me. Other that to remember that he was a good guy in the end. Thank you for your help with the cadence of how it should be done.

[@bretsimner754]

I hear you. This is particularly difficult when there are unresolved issues. I was going to mention this but wanted to keep the talk compact. The actual mourning process, in my opinion, starts after the funeral and the eulogy. This talk was intended to be a tool to get through the funeral. After that comes the year of "first times" without the person you lost. This is the most challenging part. Hang in there and take it one day at a time. 🙂

[@JP-qk7tr]

Currently writing a eulogy. This video doesn't do the job for you, but it shows you how to go about it. I am not done writing, but I am well along my way and I can tell I am on the right path. My advice to anyone writing one is that there isn't one way to do it, and you may need to start and restart a few times, but you'll know when you have it right. It will feel good. Good luck to all.

[@bretsimner754]

You're absolutely right. Only you can write this. Only the one close to the departed can do this. Great advice; thanks for watching and for your support of this conversation.

[@JP-qk7tr]

@@bretsimner754 fyi i delivered the eulogy and it went really well. thanks again for the video.

[@bretsimner754]

@@JP-qk7tr I'm so glad. Hang in there.

[@justicebuster9871]

Thank you, preparing to write my fathers .. still very much stuck. This helps.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad. That's why I wanted to put this out there. Remember: Leave the emotional material for the end... That will make it easier to pace yourself on an extremely emotional day. You've got this. B

[@Rebecca-jm4cs]

This is the most heartbreaking comment section I've ever stumbled across

[@bretsimner754]

Though it's true, this is part of the human existence.

[@kartinirahmatillah5668]

This is great. Thank you for the chance to subtitle your talk in Bahasa Indonesia.

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad that this was helpful to you. Were you able to watch the talk with subtitles?

[@KayMonetLife]

This was beautiful. Thank you.

[@bretsimner754]

Thank YOU for watching!

[@unclemikey808]

Mahalo for the great tips on how to properly eulogize a loved one!

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad it was helpful.

[@maxbryk6948]

Almost finished the eulogy now and I kinda hit all the points. I have some zingers in there and my catholic grandpa may get mad at me but she was my mom and I know how she would have wanted everything

[@bretsimner754]

You know her better than anyone! You've got this!

[@alexfreeman5293]

Beautiful, Bret. Thanks for this gift.

[@bretsimner754]

Thanks for watching and for your support!

[@nancyxiong8282]

Thanks so much for this. 😭 thanks for direction and yes.

[@bretsimner754]

So glad you said yes. Well done.

[@tinag4200]

Thank you for this Bret. Currently writing my brothers eulogy. It's hard to find the words.. Sound advice here

[@bretsimner754]

Dear Tina, I'm so glad that this was a help. So sorry to you for the loss of your brother. That's a rough one for sure.

[@peterkenneth6178]

I miss my grandmother so much

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so sorry. 😒

[@lisaz6832]

Thank you so much ❤

[@bretsimner754]

You're welcome. I'm so glad that this was helpful.

[@christinereese7187]

Bret! This is great thank you so much!

[@bretsimner754]

So glad you liked it!

[@PaulKenny-ir4gh]

My mumzy has gracefully gone to God this video has helped me

[@amygarza6265]

I’m 24 and I’m writing a eulogy for my grandmother who died two days ago.

[@bretsimner754]

So sorry. Please let us knw how it goes.

[@Ozzedwall]

I have to write a eulogy for my public speaking class. using this to figure it out, wish me luck.

[@bretsimner754]

Good luck. That is a rather unusual assignment. I'd love to hear how the journey unfolds for you.

[@imcoolness.]

i have to write one for my school on the outsiders about johhny and dallas

[@gititgiitit5450]

When I die I'm going to give me the best eulogy and in closing I'm going to say "I only wish I had enough time to erase my search history."

[@elysiadesire]

So sorry for everyone’s loss here in the comments. My 2yr old cousin just passed away from brain cancer and I’m trying to right something really special..

[@bretsimner754]

My gosh, that is a horribly profound lost. Here's wishing you strength in this difficult stretch.

[@MontyRaeSp8]

My mother passed away from brain cancer as well. I hope that you're able to help and find peace.

[@bretsimner754]

@@MontyRaeSp8 So sorry.

[@justinneilsonn2665]

Was she vaxxed? It's crazy what they do to newborns.

[@joannemcnamara4272]

@@justinneilsonn2665wtf is wrong with you.

[@TheLeihulu808]

Thank you so much for this❤

[@bretsimner754]

Thank YOU for watching. I hope it helped.

[@yougottateachyoself]

Last line got me

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad it was meaningful for you.

[@EpicHashTime]

He lived. He died. We cried.

[@brycepeddicord6763]

My best friend died at 27. I think I wrote a better eulogy than this. It's light then gets dark then stays dark but I learn and we learn from the darkness and get a little light

[@bretsimner754]

That's a great thought, Bryce. Thanks for sharing.

[@MyraAnn23]

My father passed last year.. and my mom's funeral is tomorrow. I'm 29.

[@bretsimner754]

That's a lot, Myra. So sorry.

[@Patatashh]

What about writing a eulogy for your self?

[@tarrandouglas7190]

I’m 36 and writing about my dad funeral I’ve no clue we’re to start 😢xxxx

[@bretsimner754]

You've got this. Pace yourself so that you make it through it!

[@monaiannucci9434]

Amen thank you

[@bretsimner754]

Thanks to you for watching and for your support.

[@chenaraseepersad3482]

Well here I am at 11:43 the night before my husbands funeral trying to figure out the words to say

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so so sorry that you're going through this. I hope and trust it went well. Feel free to share with others here how it went. Hang in there.

[@darrenabel4613]

Mu eulogy "well he was a good man" that's if friends show up😊

[@rronanmac]

What was the quote for your fathere?

[@bretsimner754]

Thanks for asking. This is my point--that we only need to be able to say (or write! 🙂) a eulogy one time!

[@kecogroup3253]

My mum passed on at the age of 39 and I'm preparing to write an eulogy for her burial coming up in 2days time. Thanks for this video. It has helped me greatly!

[@bretsimner754]

I'm so glad this was helpful. 39 is way too early. I'm so so sorry.

[@davecoug2000]

I let others do a eulogy for my father because it was too overwhelming. I'm doing one this weekend for my best friend who passed. Your video has helped me immensely. I wish I had seen it upon my dads passing because I would have done it.

[@bretsimner754]

It's all a process---we're evolving along with our capabilities. Glad this helped and even more glad that you went for it!

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[@arazimargas9045]

Just lost three of my friends in one fail swoop. I cant attend their funerals, actually they were all estranged from their families so I’m not sure they’re gonna have any other than the one I write for them

[@bretsimner754]

So, sorry. That is a huge amount to deal with.

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[@jonahonyeuko9250]

Writing one for my father at 21. This is my first step in becoming a man.

[@bretsimner754]

Though that's what they say, it still doesn't male it any easier. So sorry you have to do this so young.

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