How to recognize a master manipulator | Dan Jones | TEDxReno

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Some researchers have found Machiavellian personality traits are not fixed across lifespan and may decrease over time. For more information see here: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32145...
Critiques around Machiavellianism and dark triad personality traits in business settings can be found here: www.science.org/content/artic...
Have you ever been the victim of manipulation? Do you need to know how to deal with toxic people? This talk explains dark triad traits, helps you recognize different types of manipulative people, and provides a way of dealing with manipulators by using their strategic thinking against them.
Daniel N. Jones, an Associate Professor at the University of Nevada Reno, is renowned for his research on dark personalities, with over 100 peer-reviewed publications. He's received accolades like the Early Career Award from the Western Psychological Association and grants from entities like the National Science Foundation. Jones delves into the Dark Triad and Tetrad, exploring traits like Machiavellianism and sadism, with a focus on their implications in areas like cyber-security. He's also authored a forthcoming book on "Emophilia: The Science of Serial Romance." Passionate about interdisciplinary solutions, he aims to establish consulting services to implement his evidence-based interventions. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@saicharanjogu]

🎯 Key points for quick navigation: 00:03 *🗣️ Manipulation is common, and many people don't realize they're being manipulated.* 01:07 *🧠 Understanding manipulation is crucial for protection.* 02:02 *📚 The study of manipulative traits like psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism has a fragmented history.* 02:30 *📖 Machiavellianism involves strategic and cautious manipulation for power.* 03:24 *🌟 The "dark triad" refers to psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism.* 04:05 *👿 Psychopathy is considered dangerous but lacks long-term strategic planning.* 04:46 *🦁 Machiavellianism is like a lion planning its attack; it's strategic and long-term.* 06:09 *🕵️‍♂️ Machiavellians act strategically, unlike impulsive psychopaths or ego-driven narcissists.* 06:36 *📈 Individuals high in Machiavellianism cope better under destructive leadership and get promoted more often.* 07:31 *🛡️ It's important to defend against manipulation without becoming manipulative.* 08:10 *♟️ Treat interactions with manipulative people like a chess match, focusing on external gains.* 08:36 *❄️ "CBR" method: Cold (emotionally guarded), Bottom line (focus on goals), Rational (outcome-oriented).* 09:22 *💸 Treat manipulative people based on their utility, not as friends.* 10:20 *👫 These tactics are for dealing with manipulative individuals, not for healthy relationships.* 11:14 *🛠️ Recognizing and dealing with manipulation is crucial; future research should focus on practical solutions.* 12:06 *🧩 Using the CBR method helps manage manipulation until one can escape the situation.*

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Thank you.

[@nachocheeba]

Doing the Lord's work 😂❤ thank you for this

[@nellie...]

This information should be taught in high schools.

[@DoyConocimiento-zq4kr]

How to protect yourself from manipulators? Trust your intuition. Set clear boundaries. Don't give in to pressure. Seek support. Walk away if necessary...

[@JudyHoPhD]

Great to meet with you at TEDx and so glad I got to see this talk in person. Many people feel like it’s their fault when they engage with a manipulator and begin to question their own self-worth. These tips help to put them back on the track to empowerment and trusting themselves again. What a unique way to take back control especially in situations when you can’t immediately get out of interacting with them (like if they’re a co-worker). Thanks so much Dr. Jones for your unique perspective!

[@KayaStanley]

Outstanding talk, Dan! I have thought about this often while dealing with difficult personalities. Thank you for sharing your work in this area!

[@alexandrabcarter]

This talk captivated both me and my teenager! A topic people of all ages need and can relate to, supported by research that will help many. Congrats Dan!

[@Ariela-ApostolicA238]

My experience: I was married to a covert NARCISSIST, with a child!! This is a great perspective, actually! Thanks for sharing!!

[@AliceHeiman]

Such important information here. Dan explains how people use manipulation and what those being manipulated can do about it in a simple way that everyone can understand and use.

[@BretSimmons]

Great job, Dan! I learned things from this talk that I am already putting to use.

[@PaulMawdsley68]

Thank-you, thank-you, THANK-YOU!

[@SOSSTSE]

It's sad that we have these people to deal with. Helping the mental health is serious responsibility. Everyone needs help. SOSSTSE VOICES OF HOPE.❤❤❤

[@zapbutton8553]

it is a good outlook, but the title is promising a bit more than it is, but that just shows we need more common knowledge about these characters.

[@jodycasey6936]

GREAT subject!! Thank you!

[@itzhexen0]

There seems to be a lot of master manipulators down here in the comment section.

[@hamzahalmajtoomi]

Ur one of them 😊

[@NickArcade]

You manipulated me to reply

[@itzhexen0]

@@hamzahalmajtoomi Found one.

[@NA-tr9yn]

@@itzhexen0 fortnite

[@istiakopu8521]

😂😂😂

[@kakarot_gaming662]

This should be taught in schools …

[@lorrieannesilvey474]

So sad that the world is like this.

[@htetkaungkyaw8127]

This "CBR" is eye-opening. Thank you...

[@MoSadik-pj5yw]

I think I am in danger now😢

[@memig9984]

This is soo needed

[@Raymond-l4w]

I prefer to play along and when they least expect it, flip the scrip completely

[@danielapedroso3817]

Donde puedo verlo subtitulado

[@syedimranullah]

Let's manipulate the manipulator strategically.... brilliant 👍

[@Rod_madk]

Literally just ignored someone like this away today Cold Bottom line Rational

[@faithkoebert406]

You are doing the Lords work my man!!!! This is so good!!!!!!

[@mariehughey5390]

I see knowledge as good and helpful especially when needed to understand a n unhealthy relationship. I still mourn the loss of innocence that comes with it.

[@alenaadamkova5322]

Maybe they should create "nice weekend syndrome" The nice man syndrome is on point, Its about men who are not honest about their feelings or actions. but "nice weeked syndrome" can be actually about being honest to yourself and to feelings to others. Make idea once a week going to a nature, camping or hiking with a family, play silly games, with some ball, or do tenis, husband will bond more with wife, wife will bond more with husband, thanks to innocent silly games. I mean games like "who will" make the tent first etc or who will prepare food, or something little just for fun, bringing some mushroom, in such innocent moment wife and husband enjoy the moments of silence, and gentle loving touch, holding hands while walking in nature, or he helps making a camp fire, she will hand him the stuff from bag, without any silly analytical "thoughts" in head looking into each others eyes, without words, Actions speak louder than constantly anlyzing, In silence they actually create "bonding loving" atmposphere in their marriage. People dont practice this silent approach, just sitting looking in camp fire and enjoy family time, or riding a horse together, walking a dog silently, and enjoying the other person´s presence, they are taught by media, to just talk all the time, so they dont have time to fall in love over and over again. But usually you fall in love especially when your mouth are shut, when your mind isnt too rational in prefrontal cortex, and eyes open, not in times of constant analyzis. so ypou let your heart speak sometimes too. Its called brain heart coherence, in state of alpha, theta. Laughter is healling and laughter makes people bond together. Children may learn new hobbies. It is better than being constantly attacked by news and silly topics on social media, or being brainwashed to eat some pills to feel happier. Hobbies and laughter is good stimulation for brain, also it increases immunity of the body, so people feel healthier, happier.

[@nannybannany]

I appreciate this talk but I also don't understand the extreme solution still. I'll watch again.

[@katywallis5016]

Agreed…. I think the entire first half of the video was telling us that there’s a problem….

[@tracykennedy4589]

CBR Cold, Bottom Line & Rational tools

[@davidl9232]

Hmm. Question then.? How are you going to prove in a court who the manipulator is and who( at least in the start) who was victimized( targeted)?

[@FealingFealing]

Please do Arabic translation for all videos♥️

[@fillyscandy2734]

Il fine giustifica i mezzi!!

[@cfleagle1]

Is Machiavellianism a learned trait, from a person's upbringing, or genetic? What causes so many people to be like this?

[@leo_gamer9]

I think I am not in danger I am the danger💀😈

[@SWonYT]

Kendrick could have presented a case study.

[@HertzMiao]

Llegué a 200k hoy. Estoy realmente agradecido por todo el conocimiento y las pepitas que me habéis brindado durante los últimos meses. Comenzó con 14k en junio de 2022, gracias Sra. Stacey Meredith

[@Girz0r]

Machiavellianism of the Occupying Nation State

[@HardcoreRecovery]

The first thing I would ask myself; are they on drugs? Most people in the rooms during their addiction were master manipulators.

[@Amadioh]

Ask drake on how to become a master manipulator

[@toneswing6]

I was looking for this😂

[@namanarora3607]

And a habitual liar too

[@phired6207]

​@@namanarora3607but don't tell no lie about me, and I won't tell truths like you 😂

[@tradermunky1998]

So two evils make a right.

[@zeinmushref2753]

برأي صبروا شوي كل فترة بصير هيك هوجة وموجة مشانا نحنا السوريين تقولوا بالدور تكاتروا علينا بس النا الله مارح ينسانا ..سلموا أمركم لله عز وجل

[@dottyp137]

How to recognise a master manipulator…. I thought I was going to get some clues on how to spot a master manipulator. 🤷‍♀️🥴. Maybe I missed something 🤷‍♀️

[@nachocheeba]

He put it right up on the board...

[@dottyp137]

@@nachocheeba oh I missed it then 🙈🥴, it was very late I probably zoned out and had a little micro sleep. I will have another watch now I know 😝 thank you 🤩

[@Blastin7411]

@@dottyp137?

[@rikachiu]

Half of america is about to vote for a machiavellian.

[@KwadDamyj]

Do you have any idea how little that narrows it down?!

[@ericalbright7210]

Christine Albright "Brilliant vidio"!... "Thank you"!... "+"!..."❤"!...

[@righteousbyfaithinChrist]

Human nature is fully described and explored but then the pages of the Bible... I know that you think that all the science knowledge in the world will help you to understand why... Maybe. And nothing has prepared me more for this broken system been my relationship with God and my knowledge of what's contained within the Bible.... And if you consider me a manipulator to be saying all these things... So be it

[@fireflymary9269]

Ha! The entire Republican Party

[@Beedee664]

Ok get to the point

[@vladtheimpaler7869]

I’m beginning to think anyone can book a Ted Talk speaking engagement now a days.

[@jeandicarlo-wagner]

Spoken like a narcissist

[@fireflymary9269]

Donald Trump?

[@fireflymary9269]

Ha! The entire Republican party

[@elidragom]

did a whole lot of talking & nothing to give lmao

[@loveyourketo1433]

Exactly

[@jeandicarlo-wagner]

Went over your head

[@elidragom]

@@jeandicarlo-wagner break it down in a sentence or two then. you can’t do it😂

[@NA-tr9yn]

Fortnite

[@andrewkline]

Extremely misleading title. This presentation is a vague introduction to machiavellianism, and practically nothing more. Getting tired of being clickbaited by mouth breathing ted talks...

[@jeandicarlo-wagner]

Did you stop listening at 6:44?

[@andrewkline]

@@jeandicarlo-wagner no actually I listened though 2x to make sure I didn't miss something

[@raviguptaboards]

Get to the point ffs

[@JenJayBanks]

Ok, but how?

[@travellingtom6091]

Donald Trump

[@KwadDamyj]

Unoriginal. Get a job.

[@travellingtom6091]

@@KwadDamyj ...and saying get a job is original? 🥱

[@loveyourketo1433]

Would be helpful to get more info how to identify them. Useless

[@jeandicarlo-wagner]

Extremely well differentiated in the first six minute. Turn the closed captions on and read them.

[@map.1870]

Is anyone else getting annoyed with his mouth noises

[@jeandicarlo-wagner]

Got lost in your ADHD?

[@barbaramuriithi2622]

You mean his words?!😂

[@TaufiqueJoarder]

No

[@Blastin7411]

No

[@harrypearle9781]

DUMP === TRUMP ?

[@KwadDamyj]

Try something original.

[@randomgayguyman]

This is how Kendrick spotted Drake