How to Write Less Awkward Sex Scenes (Advice for Uncomfortable Writers)

Sex scenes aren’t always the easiest to write. They can be uncomfortable for both authors and readers, especially if they’re not used to erotic fiction. But there are times when a sex scene is just what your novel needs, and that’s when you’ll have to work through your discomfort. Here are 5 ways to write a (less awkward) sex scene.
0:00 Intro
0:36 Tip 1: Don’t write porn
2:42 Tip 2: Don’t write stage directions
4:55 Tip 3: Focus on sensations
6:50 Tip 4: Describe thoughts and emotions
8:48 Tip 5: Keep the scene relevant
10:32 My take
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[@FlidaisPeridotEyes]

This is the best advice I've seen so far. No mockery, making it clear in the description it's for those who feel awkward about writing sex scenes, and not putting in a bunch of very personal preferences and state them as facts or like an absolute truth and ridicule anything else. I'm also glad to hear about the part of it being okay to create characters you find sexy. Last time I watched a video they referred to big boobs as giant circus tits and it was just very insulting since big boobs exist and is mocked enough irl already. I wish your video had more views and likes so more people would find it. There's so many videos on youtube which just are so unmotivating and focus on the hating part.

[@jojogodtier]

I wish wattpad saw this video

[@roughwriter]

Haha imagine that!!

[@IndianOutlaw1870]

Good writing doesn't need sex or profanity to be good.

[@roughwriter]

Never said it does, but some people do write it.

[@ryanhowell4492]

Sex scene is not going to be easy on my project

[@roughwriter]

Just remember that if it doesn’t add anything to the plot, you should probably just leave it out. No sense in writing a difficult scene if it’s not necessary. Best of luck to you in your writing journey!